SHE IS FUMING because she found out her ex-husband is doing well.

[@AbaNPreach]

Before any of you say it in the comments. I just hate women, it oozes out of me in every video. I apologize. Just kidding, new video coming tomorrow.

[@salamandersaas]

😂😂😂

[@RedAndTheCompany567]

A lot of women break down when they discover that all they have done to hurt you has failed. Simply b/c a lot of women put a lot of energy in revenge b/c they get *temporary* validation from it.

[@GodYourHighnessYourMajesty]

😂😂😂

[@DasJaegar]

HE got better as soon as she left..... I wonder why 🤔

[@ohshc2007]

Woman here. Your comment made me lol. Guys and girls need a platform like yours so we are able to see things from both perspectives. Women (not all but many) can be hypocrites and we should be called out on it.

[@vagabond8460]

You’d be surprised what a man could become when everything’s stripped away from him. This man lost his father, money, dignity, and happiness. Dude rose like a damn phoenix from the ashes.

[@romariomejia5396]

Once you reach the bottom, the only way out is up

[@mraksoveech]

thats an empty shell that can be filled in with whatever stuffings u can find and that ......... is scary.

[@stefonrandle9107]

When you've hit rock bottom, that can sometimes be the kick in the ass someone needs to make them reach out and grasp their full potential.

[@HeadHigh407]

😂😂😂 mans said a fucking Phoenix

[@likasombodie]

That phoenix is a damn good anology gave me goosebumps. Had lot of sets back recently but now I'm bigger stronger angrier

[@DonVigaDeFierro]

"When we divorced, I started from square one." So did he.

[@DanyaalShaozab]

Exactly. What's her excuse?

[@gt123indefatiguability]

Yeah but they both started from square one because of him

[@bigmike908]

@@gt123indefatiguability did she say he got a job with a big Tech firm

[@gt123indefatiguability]

This is an echo chamber right here

[@viennasavage9110]

@@gt123indefatiguability How? How did she start from square 1 because of him? She broke up with HIM. These things are common sense, there is no echo chamber involved.

[@wearewe4640]

He lost his dad, his job and fall down into depression. - She is the most affected. He got a better job, a new suit and now he is successful. - She is the most affected.

[@ashyroachking3211]

Perpetual Victim but hey toddlers gonna toddle smh

[@duckface8425]

What exactly has she done wrong here?

[@tadiwadzino8225]

@@duckface8425 be furious at a man for turning his life around. Her entitlement is disgusting and she's the one who left him.

[@tadiwadzino8225]

@Daij kiss my ass😂 caring too much about whatever I have to say, get a life. Edit: Wait... Are we talking about you? Well boo fucking hoo, you're a shitty person. Stew in it.

[@deboriginal220]

She sees him struggling, depressed wallowing in grief. This causes her so much unhappiness she wants a divorce. She now sees him successful and she's still unhappy because she cannot benefit from HIS new found success. One would think if she ever truly loved the guy she would be happy that he turned his life around and is no longer the depressed guy wallowing in grief. But that's obviously not the case because she appears to be selfish. Honestly it seems like she was looking for a meal ticket. After a while saw no decent meals coming and left the restaurant. Now when she looks back there's a damn Michelin star establishment.

[@ccdev]

Yes, I was in a relationship with a good woman for 13 years. I was lost and toxic, angry and hating my job. My life was a drag, I hated myself and one day after another big argument, she left. It took her leaving for me to see myself for who I was. I lifted myself after that, started learning, saving n investing, and am now in a much better place. I regret the pain I caused, and wished she could have been both the catalyst and the benefactor for my change. There are good women out there but if she had stayed, I would have took us both down a hell hole. Just because she left doesn't mean she wasn't a good woman.

[@headshot21000]

I would say by definition she isnt a good women by leaving. Imagine if your wife was going trough some shit and you left lol.

[@miyangtangwan7046]

@@headshot21000 So a good woman is one that stays in a toxic situation rooting for a relationship that is going nowhere? Yeah that's why women are choosing to be single.

[@miyangtangwan7046]

Your honesty is refreshing. I know for sure this woman's husband would not have picked himself up if she hadn't left.

[@headshot21000]

@@miyangtangwan7046 oh yeah its toxic when a man is suffering. She said nothing about abuse. Just the man was suffering and wasn’t proving to her needs because of that. But yeah definitely toxic. Next time my wife cant cook meals for a bit or isn’t able to take care of my kids i will be sure to leave because its toxic. 😂

[@headshot21000]

@@miyangtangwan7046 this is where the term till death while getting married only applies to the man i guess.

[@apocalypsed8]

"Because I matured and he didn't" "I am mad that he is doing well" - 2 sentences by the same person

[@alirezamodares3463]

@samy701 big ouch.

[@alirezamodares3463]

@Noah Eden big oooofffff

[@chrismaunder8679]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@dominicabollig1918]

I like that she gave him the "10 best years of her life", girl- you only had 10 good years?! She needs to get it together!

[@sweettea3879]

@@alirezamodares3463 outrageous oof

[@cobras35]

She wanted him to grow FOR HER, he needed to want to grow FOR HIMSELF.

[@ao6677]

bang, well said.. the difference between them.. Thats why every women i've dated always tell them i don't need anything from them and vice versa.. but they find it difficult to accept.

[@katherinedavis1463]

This is one of life's great truths

[@CuulG]

fucking facts

[@woodah33]

That's a great point

[@nerdstorma8427]

A man’s loyalty is tested when he has everything. A woman’s loyalty is tested when her man has nothing. I don’t wanna put the blame all on one person HOWEVER Judging by the quotes explicit off the article, I wouldn’t be surprised is she was the reason he was so miserable in the first place. Good people can preform poorly without the proper foundation. Every vibe I get from this chick screams bad foundation.

[@OokamiDaBoi1da]

"A man's loyalty to his woman is tested when he has everything, A woman's loyalty to her man is tested when he has nothing"

[@TheActualKingSmith]

That's a pimp statement

[@ahmedwanjugi109]

This is true👏👏👏

[@MadTimmy]

That’s beautiful in its simplicity and truth

[@nathanjoseph5449]

King Smith *PIMP SLAP*

[@mrhowell6842]

King Smith that’s an old statement.

[@AmyJ81]

"You're not angry at him, you're angry at yourself." Spot on. I just got out of a toxic relationship after "wasting" 3 years. Yes, he was/is a p.o.s. and treated me horribly, but I am angry at myself for staying and letting it go on. I did that. I left myself in the position for him to treat me as he did. It's me that has to now work on me, move forward, and learn from past mistakes so I don't repeat them.

[@mwfmtnman]

Good on you

[@mrstealyoblocks4473]

Define "toxic" 9 times out of 10 when a woman says a relationship was "toxic" it was really just him holding her accountable. Women's kryptonite.

[@chinnareid3254]

@@mrstealyoblocks4473 👆👆👆 Narc alert...🙄

[@rebellestone3899]

@@mrstealyoblocks4473 A toxic man would say that

[@mrstealyoblocks4473]

@@rebellestone3899 ....and there's the shaming language, right on cue.

[@stutterdoll4210]

News flash : Someone's progress and achievements dont revolve around you He bettered himself, for HIMSELF

[@quinnbat]

And he did this alone without you see the pattern

[@geekprotagonist1139]

Yes stutterdoll

@@quinnbat exactly

[@markslaughter9497]

Say it again Mama

[@innerpowerup]

Real talk!

[@parcerstol4140]

aba and preach has been one of the best quarantine discoveries i’ve made

[@tiltedhalo9888]

Same

[@naomik3726]

Same.

[@hrdstrange3322]

Same

[@Iserlohn.Republican.Government]

Same

[@TheRancidPotato]

Same

[@benjaminnaidoo9776]

I'm a tech guy and this just stood out to me. First he was "dixking around on the computer", and then it's a problem that he gets a good job at a tech firm 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 who would have thought

[@9xrumi362]

Probably was working the whole time. Smh

[@abhiklovesbadbitches]

@@9xrumi362 probably not

[@9xrumi362]

@@abhiklovesbadbitches what was the point of @'n me? must be a women

[@s619baby2]

@@abhiklovesbadbitches woman

[@abhiklovesbadbitches]

@@9xrumi362 what

[@nosc_c]

This exact situation happened to me. My ex left me because I've quit everything and the emotional impact that created made me recreate myself: Went to the gym, started a new degree and working a high pay job, etc. When we met again, she talked about the same exact thing "why weren't you able to do this when we were together", etc. She wasn't the problem in my life, she was working and trying to motivate me to do the same but I wasn't able to at the time. I can't blame her for leaving me when she did, I didn't like the person that I was either. Not sure how I feel about this, but I think I understand why she could be a bit bitter about my success somehow.

[@Chvyce]

Very Noble standpoint. I understand to attest how you feel...When I lost weight and elevate...People ask me this all the time...

[@jiggeys20]

Super mature way to look at it like this mate. And yes like most things in life this situation doesnt have a black or white answer. Neither person deserves to be resented though. Maybe he should have communicated with her better and not taken her needs for granted, and maybe she shouldnt have acted in such a transactional manner. Maybe she should have threatened to leave him earlier as a way to give him a wakeup call to do better, rather than treating their relationship in such a transactional manner.

[@GiannakisMetalo]

Someone's reaction being understandable doesn't make them righteous. I understand this doesn't feel fair for her but life was never fair to begin with. It is a rare situation where you can't blame either of them.

[@xxxuzi43]

your success is none of her business the moment she left

[@andrewevans6826]

Nah she just wanted to push you to come successful so she could take it from you cause the government will take all your resources

[@alostlandroid]

I like how she was like "I started from nothing after the divorce." Meanwhile he was literally; overweight, unemployed, had lost his dad and he was the one being left in the marriage. He started at zero after they broke up...he improved after and she didn't so she is feeling entitled & mad.

[@jarvisaddison8560]

Yep I seen that too, she glossed over that part

[@godwinyo5206]

He even started lower than her, hes literally rock bottom after the divorce

[@ao6677]

that word "entitlement" is the downfall of majority of most women. It got worse with SM and the stupid meme they share among each other

[@christianastrophobe]

Bro he started from the negatives

[@siouxsieslime2985]

@@ao6677 whats sm

[@stacyparadise6947]

His father died and he was obviously depressed. Her leaving forced him to re-evaluate and get himself together.

[@leeroyhustle]

And once a man wakes up and decides to bulldoze all adversities, he is unstoppable 🔥

[@bambihall169]

Or she might have been keeping him down, she spins the story as she was innocent, doesn't mean she didn't cause more problems for him

[@greaterbaatezu]

Getting dumped and being homeless was my catalyst. I went from a $15,000 a year shitt job numbnuts to being a trucker. I can't say that every trucking job I have had has been great but I've got a good one now. My ex-wife and I had a conversation very similar to this. It's not all her fault. I was a no effort loser back then.

[@lucasrhys0363]

He was one if those who beat it and moved on. Some people would just sink into a deeper, endless depression.

[@m.a.156]

She could have been in his way and hindering him ... by complaining too much that he gets even more depressed because of her. She didn't have to leave him if she truly loved him, the right action would have been to give him some space and alone time to heal and not pestering him about what is wrong with him

[@ethan-se6yq]

“My ex said she gave me the best years of her life, I saw a recent picture of her I guess she was right.” -Kanye

[@camquest6108]

Legendary

[@Ghragle-]

I wake up assessing the damages....

[@LeslyC25]

ethan ....30 hours....😂

[@TheRixtah1]

Mega oof

[@justelber]

Doing media stakeouts

[@mackterri6165]

Shout out to my wife for sticking with me through the tough times. She didn’t have to and could of left at anytime. Now I got my life in order and we’re both reaping the benefits.

[@SilentHotdog28]

Teamwork makes the dream work.

[@xsj_anonymous17domain-styd12]

@@SilentHotdog28 my my that high ... Read more

[@tox8036]

@@xsj_anonymous17domain-styd12 There is a place in hell for people like you.

[@Dragonpro0424]

@@xsj_anonymous17domain-styd12 you got my ass, I clicked “read more” 5 times

[@rogueknight5984]

@@Dragonpro0424 Same

[@eusebiomontejo9990]

Sometimes a woman leaving is the kick in the ass a man needs to better himself.

[@xelloskaczor5051]

Sometimes getting free of whiny bitter selfish person and meeting someone worth changing for is what it takes too

[@CStrik3r]

Boy is this true. Sometimes the only wake up call that will set you straight is to hit rock bottom

[@nogoodhandlesavailable]

Sometimes it isnt a kick in the ass so much as its a weight off his shoulders

[@justyouraveragepharmd4283]

Hypnotica love your profile pic 😂💯

[@donthetroof3958]

Oh that's why they call them tricks 😂💀

[@hipsternihilist3928]

"Women don't want to win. They want to be with a winner." - Patrice O'Neal Her digestion issues stem from her inability to stomach reality.

[@MegaOhhboy]

BINGOOOOOOO I LOVE THE BIG GUY

[@MidTierVillain]

RIP Patrice O’Neal.. truly the greatest; he has quotes that fit every situation. Never can go wrong with Dr. P.

[@firmbodyval4536]

Yeah. In other words, don't get fooled into thinking the broad is actually gonna build anything with h you. You have to build it yourself. If she's a good woman, she'll help you maintain it.

[@Walking-MY-Path]

LMFAO

[@xolisamfobo2934]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@coldliferp7250]

So the dude's dad passed away, he was depressed, sold his car to pay bills and she left in the worst time... then complaint that she starts from 0 and then blame the dude for her situation which he has no control over. Guess what btch he was worse morally, physically, and financially. He got better when he was free from the burden "She". Some women drag men down.

[@Acid_Ink]

Full Tilt Boogie I’m single right now and it’s absolutely AMAZING! Yes there are times where I wish I had someone, but then I remember what it was like before this, and I realize that the choice to leave was the best thing that ever happened to me. I’m happier, healthier, more mentally and financially stable. I don’t have to live with anyone’s expectations but mine, and I don’t have the Sword of Damocles hanging over my head, waiting to drop and take it all away.

[@trublacking8572]

@Full Tilt Boogie you said most but you can't say every woman is like that we don't really know the full context of the whole story it's a lot of s*** that's missing out of it she told her story but she didn't give any details in it so there is no either or

[@anniemiller3280]

The bitch kicked him when he was down and out and now he up she's hurting big time

[@AndrewKidd14145]

LuciLFeR Tw straight up.

[@carbon273]

Good point

[@Nameandaddresswithheld]

She didn’t just turn around and find him doing well. It was 4 years later. Likely 4 of the most difficult years of his life that she abandoned him through

[@andrewevans6826]

They cant understand mens struggle.. they always leave when it’s convenient for them. They only care about themselves. Then they complain the man did better. Like bitch if you was there with him youd be happy you didn’t leave him.

[@2gunzfilms425]

Bingo

[@360.Tapestry]

nah, he needed the wakeup call. he needed to do it himself

[@iloveme2324]

Abandoned is a strong word. She was struggling through the marriage and sometimes you gotta let someone go if they’re dragging u down mentally physically whatever

[@Nameandaddresswithheld]

@@iloveme2324 allow me to read off some wedding vows: “till death, do you part, in health and in sickness, for better or worse?” She left him at the worse and was mad she didn’t get the better

[@ok-wv4og]

She left him at his absolute worst point in his life, dad passed away, put on weight, and she up and leaves him in the dirt and has the AUDACITY to be upset he got his life back together afterwards. Jeez

[@FredericFreedom]

Female logic

[@uncleiroh4650]

Tbf, she said that she tried to support him but he just wasn’t responsive. That’s what happens sometimes. When you are in comfort you don’t feel any pressure to change. She was probably trying her best, but at some point, if your significant other isn’t putting in any effort to the relationship you gotta cut if off. We’re not gonna be young forever, and sometimes you just won’t be enough to make someone change. Sometimes, people need to be left alone to realize what their life has become. Having a nice wife isn’t gonna cure your depression. Her leaving was the wake up call, he needed, but since she still feels some resentment for the way he treated her, she hasn’t been able to move on. Shit takes time. I personally wish both of them the best

[@Hethalean]

@@uncleiroh4650 I don't want to assume all that. She's probably leaving out a ton of HER input too. My guess the type of person who tries to support you for you to get better and innocently, won't be the type to get pissed that they did not. Someone who was wanting the better for you, will be happy you got better. Not ruminate that you are pissed at how they got better without you. That you had to start square one financially (She mentions his finances).

[@pepperidgefarms6539]

@@Hethalean Sometimes people heal and move on at a slower pace Tortoise and Hare syndrome. She move frenetically while he was super slow and eventually got his act together. Like they said. It's a marathon and not a sprint.

[@doingstuffinpublic]

On god

[@XxGunsling3rMODExX]

“He was dicking around on his computer...” “He got a job with a big tech firm...” Yeah he wasn’t dicking around. Odds are he was in a slump but at the same time he was pursuing something he knew would bear fruit for the both of you. But she didn’t support his dream

[@stabber65]

Wow I didnt even realize that until you said it, he planted seeds and she left just before the tree bore fruit

[@michellemcgill9328]

stabber65 I guess she was unwilling to wait for it.

[@XxGunsling3rMODExX]

heehee mefunny obviously there was a change. He’s looks better healthier wealthy... they changed happened. It just didn’t happened “fast enough” selfish bitch

[@XxGunsling3rMODExX]

heehee mefunny he was already working on a change by how she commented “he was ducking around on his computer “ and later got a job at a big tech firm. The change was already happening dummy. Didn’t you read my original comment

[@leviwatson8926]

Clearly there are three possible stories here. Everyone is reacfing to how they think the event happened. I would like to hear the guys side. Wether or not he was changing before or she was the catalyst is not know and purely projection

[@juggercrawler]

Kanye said it best “My ex said she gave me the best years of her life... I saw a recent picture of her I guess she was right”

[@slothenthusiast49]

Probably the most based thing Kanye has ever said

[@AnnoyedSquid]

And I still drove 30 hours

[@505Goat]

Lol

[@shuajoblake1166]

@@AnnoyedSquid TLOP..🤲😂Nice

[@oz_jones]

Holy hell

[@malikevans634]

I think the number one issue is the sense of wasted time. It's always worse when you feel that someone else wasted your time, as opposed to wasting your own by yourself. I'd feel the exact same. The fact things got better after she left not only makes it sting, but it invites the idea that she was the problem.

[@rodsaunders8832]

The “thinning hair part is a tell”. He likely has a full head of hair now, because he isn’t stressed anymore. The fact that she is attacking him now, is an indication that she did the same during the marriage. If you can’t tell I’m projecting lol. My ex had a similar experience after she left.

[@VenomKpp]

You can tell now SHE'S stressed. The whole "I'm having digestive issues that no doctor can diagnose." That's street fucking with her body.

[@TomAndersonDH]

@@VenomKpp ironic because she belongs to the streets now.

[@dre8463]

Ibmiti Bmiti I doubt you’re travelling the world at this point in time 😂 but congrats all the same

[@mrkatse]

@@dre8463 😂

[@47Str8]

After I remarried, my ex (who divorced me) called and ask how I could love anyone else but her!

[@Aqwtiny]

She 100% spinned the story. His father passed, he lost his job, he gained weight and had no money coming and a lot money going out . This man was in the valley of depression and she spinned it to make him seem like a lazy fuck and she was carrying him and the household.

[@eg4514]

Ok but she said the last 2-3 YEARS were horrible. Now obviously i have no idea how the story went, but the thing is you're not required to stay with someone who doesn't do shit and doesn't even try to get better (what i'm saying is only valid if he didn't try). Maybe if she stayed with him, he still wouldn't have changed, and yeah she would have just wasted her time then. We will never know. If she tried for years and he didn't do anything, i don't think she's done anything wrong leaving him. But yeah, anyone being angry over other people's success is super petty, and it won't solve their own problems. The only option is moving on.

[@watertribelife1280]

Blessed! I was about to say that, drowning in depression and she was the only thing that held him together. Once she left he had to put himself together

[@jamnorge]

@@eg4514 till death do we part.

[@eg4514]

@@jamnorge Even if they treat you like shit, cheat on you, give you nothing in return for all the things you do and basically stop caring about you? People change and even if everything is perfect at the moment, life happens. Based on this you should never marry because it's hard work and the thing is nobody can guarantee that input forever because nobody is a fortune teller. But you do you, guess what, everybody is free to do whatever they want. :)

[@eg4514]

@@larrybargon5018 Lol you seem a liiittle bit naive and idealistic. :) Well go ahead and give everything to your significant other, truly expecting nothing in return, noone's stopping you. That's a dream world you're living in, but i mean there's still a tiny little chance that you find and get together with someone who thinks the same, and somehow this view won't change through the decades & also a chance that you won't experience new things that would challenge these ideas. I wish you the best! :)

[@ajay762]

"A woman's loyalty is tested when her man has nothing, a man's loyalty is tested when he has everything"

[@alkebulanawah4242]

Wise Words

[@jonpaul3868]

Preach!

[@exoticsargent8066]

Stolen comment

[@cheesemaster2742]

@@exoticsargent8066 there are quotes around it. Both took it purposely

[@tankbeast8480]

Indeed and my girl been supporting me .....ever sense I lost my job and went 11 hours to see her

[@Joshpower57]

I had a 3yr long relationship with a girl where I liked to go out and meet people an party an she never wanted to and everytime she had a drink she complained she was tired an wanted to go to bed. After a bit we both decided it wasn't working out. She invited me over 4 months later for a party she was hosting with the new guy she was dating. Literally flipped, girl wasn't complaining at all, was drinking an having fun and was talking with new friends she met. At the time I was pissed, but later I realized "good for her". I wasn't the right person for her, and she wasn't the right person for me. My current wife has helped me become the best version of myself an I'm far happier in my life and happy for my ex as well. It's better to not be petty.

[@theskyizblue2day431]

Hopefully you grew up and stopped partying

[@salineaddict9850]

@@theskyizblue2day431 you must be special, or never got invited to parties😂

[@Player-kq6fd]

​@salineaddict9850 i think he means sometimes parties can go wrong with anything, especially with drunk people. Anything can happen

[@dapper4061]

@@Player-kq6fd thats life in general tho

[@drix556]

I’m a infantry veteran who served in Iraq diagnosed with ptsd, it took me 8 years to get to a good place with my then girlfriend put her through a lot over issues neither of us understood.Her patients and perseverance is why now after 11 years she’s my wife and I’ve never been closer to anyone. Communication has been key to my recovery, her selflessness was key to our success. She gave me the time and support I needed to look inside and correct myself. Through that adversity we built something you can’t achieve any other way. A connection some might describe as TRUE love.

[@alltheworldsastage4785]

Nice.

[@shres1567]

u lucky

[@Amdecreations.]

Wow, you got a good woman, very rear nowadays, many don't have the patience.

[@diligentone-six2688]

Your Service and your Sacrifices will be remembered. 👊

[@JJ-ts3jq]

Beautiful!

[@giodif]

This is a living example of the meme: "If you don't love me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best."

[@natsudragneel-ir7sr]

I've seen so many women preach that shit to justify their trashy behavior. This time it got flipped the other way and she is pissed. Imagine if the story is flipped, the man left the woman and they meet a few years later and the woman become very successful and rich. Everyone would be trashing the guy if he even dare to complain about it.

[@ericyuan9718]

That meme is very popular on women's Tinder profiles.

[@zeekeLT]

@@natsudragneel-ir7sr well, everybody's trashing the woman that's complaining about it. equality achieved.

[@LovenEverythingNails]

Ya but when your worst lasts over 10 years come one now. If a woman was doing what this man did she would've been a gold digger - and that's facts. If he than left her and she got an job than ya hed have a right to be annoyed - why couldn't u work when we were together type thing. Anyway I get it to an extent. I dont agree with blaming your current and unfortunate situation on your ex. That's unfair!

[@Chrisxulo]

@wings of a butterfly My worst was to have financial problems and fail my last year of college having to do another year in College. She left me because she wanted me to do alot of things that she wasn't doing. I finished my studies, having a good income working for a prestigious company, taking care of my self and having alot of pussy's not moving a finger. 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@punishedspaggers168]

"If you cant handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best." -Gandhi.. Probably

[@g.g.adelso1510]

my guy you're funny it was marilyn monroe

[@MrSFblack]

Women love to throw out that quote until THEY find themselves with someone who's at their worst

[@elton9721]

Nah, guys. This is from Confucius

[@codeninja100]

I think that was Socrates bro

[@petermoore3042]

I can resist everything but temptation - Jesus. Probably.

[@edusan94]

"You cant hope to be the catalyst and the beneficiary" Aba. That shit hit

[@deboriginal220]

Her: get your shit together Him: It's been hard for me, my dad died I don't know what to do. Her: I'm not happy any more I want a divorce Sometime later..... Him: hey how are you doing, long time no see. BTW I just wanna apologize for our marriage I was a wreck. Luckily with some hard work I was able to turn it around. Again sorry you had to put up with my shit, and could not be the husband you deserved. Her: wait what. I find your personal growth to be triggering. When we divorced, I didn't give you consent to be successful in life without me.

[@sokoyaadedolapo5321]

In the last few days have been thinking so many things lately since I lost my uncle to cancer last week, I thought of deleting all social media app on my phone, I started avoiding too much sugar and have been surfing the internet for causes and treatment of cancer

[@jasperanusiem1743]

Dee Best hahahahhaha 🤣😂🤣

[@thebotfather9508]

@@sokoyaadedolapo5321 eat healthy, exercise & keep your pH as alkaline as possible.

[@whm_w8833]

My main man, run away from her ASAP

[@gargoyliangaming6556]

@IceMan24 Sounds like the trail of woman who is a Narcissis. Plenty of them outhere you would think it's a plague or something.

[@crackazack510]

My woman of 4 years broke up with me while I was in the hospital with liver failure, I lost my house and my job and was more or less bed ridden for 2 months..the doctors weren't sure if I was going to make it and she said she "couldn't see me like that". 6 months later she ended up getting engaged to a man who (according to mutual friends) treats her like crap and they're struggling financially. This was 3 years ago...Im now in the best shape of life at 39, have 6 figures in my savings, and happier than I been in a decade...I relish the day we run into eachother.

[@Mvenven]

You're an asshole, lol. I love it!!!!! WINNING!

[@whokitkat]

you gotta keep us updated on when you do see her again and let us know how things are! big kudos to you for picking yourself up out of the hole and make something outta yourself!

[@crackazack510]

@@Mvenven Thanks! Lol I don't even remember writing this but the video must have inspired me that day! Yeah, life's never over when you think it's going to be, sometimes we just need to be humbled! 🙏

[@crackazack510]

@@whokitkat I don't think I frequent bars often enough to run into her! 😆 Nah, but like I tell those who hear my whole story (it's alot crazier than I wrote)...I might not be a role-model, but I can definitely be an example. Thanks for the kind words! 🙏

[@whokitkat]

@@crackazack510 It's guys like you that make me feel really good for all the guys who got rid of that ticking time bomb and got away to enjoy the rest of their lives and not feeding a mouch/blood sucker their whole life. Spread the word and preach this to younger guys so that they don't fcuken trapped with a useless girl looking to rob them of their house and money and career! Big Kudos to you!

[@Dos9727]

"When we hit our lowest point, we are open to the greatest change"- Avatar Aang

[@Forit26]

DAMN BOY I JUST SAW THIS VID

[@user-ur7km9fx2c]

I was rewatching avatar and I heard him say this... Hits different

[@cherrycola542]

Korra definitely kicked MAD ass after that. She was out for BLOOD in almost every fight 💪

[@owenb8636]

She's hurt because she feels like he didn't care about her enough to better himself. I get that. But sometimes people need a break up or a divorce to motivate themselves to do better. She needs someone to tell her that it's not anyone's fault

[@Tyler_W]

Well, it is her fault for leaving. I get it, but she shouldn't have made that decision, and now she's not gonna be around for the "better" because she couldn't be there for the "worse." To be fair, maybe things never would've gotten better without the wakeup call of her leaving, but divorce didn't have to be the permanent solution to a potentially temporary problem.

[@IzabellaRequiem]

@@Tyler_W He wouldnt be better without her leaving, she needed to live for him to pull his stuff together

[@4m4n40]

@@Tyler_W She was there for the whole ‘worse’ part though, how are you dismissing 10 years of her efforts? I can’t imagine 10 years of a being the breadwinner in a thankless marriage. Hey at least she got a ‘hi, thx, bye!’ when she was trying to climb out of the hole he dug her.

[@DomSte128]

In fact, her ex-husband cared about her a lot to the point he change himself after she left him. The problem is he didn't care about himself at the time they were married, he self improved because he started to care about himself.

[@donsudan]

Keywords: ‘he was messing around with his computer’ And then ‘got a good job at a good tech firm’ She didn’t support him

[@TomikaKelly]

Saying "she didn't support him" doesnt make any sense without further nuance. My friend "messed around with flowers" for years. It wasnt until she was evicted and jobless that she got serious about starting her floral business and flourished years later. "Messing around with something" is NOT the same as putting an actionable plan into motion so it can yield results.

[@dominikt.6009]

@@TomikaKelly Sorry but your comment is the one that doesn't make sense. "Your friend"? Let's assume you talk about you girlfriend (but it would be the same for bffs too except it's much more expected from partners) you'd be the one not encouraging her to become professional. If you say your friend was messing around with flowers you didn't value it, if you also told her, it is also YOU who didn't support her and it is her that even against your disencouragement fought her way to professioanlity. But then again your comparison iis weak. You compare a guy being jobless "messing around" with stuff to get professional and out of unemployment with someone that is "messing around" with flowers as a hobby while being employed and than switching to professionality as she becomes unemployed. These are totally different situations. Your friend didn't need your support because she was employed, this man on the other hand needed support from his wife when he was unemployed and she failed him and the promise towards god. I can understand her leaving after 10 years he doesn't move his ass. But if he gets up his ass right after she's gone, it's very likely that she and her devaluation of him is the reason he didn't get his ass up. The pure fact that she is outraged he is doing good shows how much she puts status over love. She deserves it.

[@dawc01]

Aka he was making moves that she didn’t understand

[@TomikaKelly]

@@dawc01 No. 🙄 He was bullshitting and her absence is what caused him to hit rock bottom and materialize that "tinkering with computers" into something tangible. Had she not left he'd still be tinkering with computers and not paying any Bill's.

[@BronzedBeast]

@@TomikaKelly were you there though? You don't know the relationship. For all we know it could of been way worse. We are seeing this from just her point of view. Maybe she was abusive to him and was attacking him daily for not doing stuff. For all we know he could of been working on his talents the entire time learning but she just viewed it as oh he's on the computer maybe he is just bullshitting. Maybe he was but you don't know that.

[@kirkmaberry799]

His dad died. She dropped him after his dad died. She has to know that is going to leave a mark.

[@joethesheep4675]

and he was nice to her, anyways. Speaking of one growing up while the other stays a child well into his 30s, right?

[@ninjaturtlefan2003]

Holy crap, you are right. That didn't even register to me because she treated it like a footnote! WOW, she really didn't value him. Of course, he got horrible for a while! He lost his father! Unbelievable.

[@nia-qx2dc]

yeah as soon as she did that, i knew she was an entitled bitch that had probably never experienced a serious loss. i lost my father when i was 9 and it was the most detrimental experience ive ever been through. i didnt fully grieve until 10 years later when i finally had a mental breakdown where i realized that i had been suppressing a lot of feelings i had about it. shes a POS.

[@ninjaturtlefan2003]

@@gt123indefatiguability that's the funny thing. They were together for ten years. He only got worse the last 2-3 years according to her story. She didn't wait ten years, she waited 2 maybe 3. According to what she said at least, I could be incorrect.

[@THELIONGUY1981]

This tells us the real reason of all what happened really! Losing a loved one especially a father or mother changes you forever! It did for me when i lost my father 3yrs ago!

[@MrColdwilliam]

This man is SO LUCKY he didn't have kids with her. Imagine how she'd be trying to use them to hurt him?

[@solomon4332]

Damn! Scary thought

[@benchandblunts9229]

Never marry never have kids if you do you'll be financially destroyed

[@a-terrible-fate532]

@chico as a white guy I partially agree. It's a selfish mindset of today's generations, thinking only about "my finance" etc.

[@GodActio]

@chico imagine the day the last white person passes away, and the rest of the world goes to work for their chinese overlords, who start genociding other races.

[@sosmooth13]

That AND they didn’t have much while they were together too, so it wasn’t much of a financial blowback to him as well. This probably helped aid the bounce back progress of the bf because he doesn’t have to worry about kids, money, or hefty assets acquired through divorce. Just himself, and that’s most likely what upset her. Both sides handled themselves pretty well here imo. The gf couldn’t take another 10 years with is pretty fair, and the bf got his shit together and recognized his shortcomings. They also have their toxic traits as well. The bf has shown that he can become a bit unreliable when things are bad, and the gf has shown that she isn’t concerned about his personal growth, but more concerned about why he couldn’t grow as a person for her now that she’s struggling.

[@thottitim3108]

I understand her disappointment with "I just want to know why he couldnt have been better to me, why I was never worth the effort." But oftentimes those are questions the source can't even answer themselves and better yet is a question you can also ask to yourself. It sucks but some people only "mature" from time, not experience or even both. All you can do is stop looking for closure from them and reinvent yourself to attain those desires you wished from them, don't bother yourself with problems from other people because you're never equipped to solve them.

[@27qwljrob2]

Lets also not forget the elephant in the room, that his dad passed away during the last years of their marriage. I was 34 years old when my mom died from stage 4 liver cancer. If you're close with your parents and have a great relationship with them, losing them is absolutely traumatic. I loved and adored my mom. She was my world, and losing her damn near broke me. People who have never lost a parent don't understand this. They have no fucking clue. Everyone deals with the loss of a parent differently. Everyone heals in their own way, and in their own time. You can't rush it. Her divorcing him during that time was the equivalent of kicking a man while he's down. Now she's mad that he finally healed and improved his quality of life? Yeah, she gives zero fucks about this guy. It's all about her.

[@squali1930]

She bailed on him and wasn't there for him.

[@johnlessar9428]

My mom died of liver cancer last year. I was 54. I was very close to my mom. I took care of her round the clock for what turned to be the last six weeks of her life. I love her, I miss her, and I also focus on these things: 1. Nobody lives forever. 2. Children are supposed to bury their parents. 3. I had a good mom for 54 years. There comes a time when you have to stop grieving and get moving. That's what I did and I am better person because of it. My mom would be upset if I let her death tear my life to nothing. That's my two cents. I respect your point of view and I agree with many points you bring up. All I am saying is things have limits and rather fair limits too. Maybe this guy took the loss of his father way too far.

[@27qwljrob2]

@@johnlessar9428 Could be. I have two sisters, and we dealt with this in our own way. I suspect that the way in which we deal with things makes a big difference in how quickly we heal. I just gave in to the grief and just really let myself feel it all. I was an absolute mess for about a week, and then things started to get easier. My sisters distracted themselves in their own ways, and I noticed that it took them both significantly longer to heal. The woman mentioned that he started smoking a lot of weed. In the long run, I don't think smoking weed at that time did the man any favors. That can easily be a distraction, and probably dragged the grieving and healing process out. Thank you for sharing your experience and perspective. I am sorry for your loss.

[@ayemjake]

@@johnlessar9428 you were 54 though, the guy was just in his young 30s.. you're at the point where you're much wiser, much successful, and had a very long, fruitful and loving relationship with your mother.. maybe he still had some regrets like giving something to his father in return, cause I sure am... and I am just about his age (just a few years younger). My mom died 2 and a half years ago and I'm telling you I've had regrets where I wished I could've done something for her... and that I wish I had done better as her son... it's been 2 and a half a years now and I'm still coping with it everyday

[@eyesofitachi55]

My father was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer some three years ago, I've been in turmoil ever since. Around February the 22nd of this year (2020) I got into a car accident which was later classified as an insurance fraud case. My girlfriend who I had been nurturing, sneaking in my window for 6 weeks straight, waking up 4 hours before my time to get up and work to take her to her job even though she had a car though was too lazy to go to the DMV to get her parking tickets sorted out broke up with me the day after I got into the accident. Driving her home from work. She didn't even wait a week to save face to make herself look better. She left, saying I was too depressed, playing video games too much. My father who I had called asking for help disowned me over god. I called beginning with the situation and eventually said, why are you bringing god into this? It's because of god that I'm in this situation. He said that he was offended on behalf of his god and hung up on me. I've been conflicted hiding in my room ever since.

[@morbid1.]

"“Only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally whereas men are loved conditionally (, - and that's not right.)” - Chris Rock

[@Cj-xt6tv]

The truth

[@EliteSniper-zp9hq]

That's deep

[@qotsajr]

Truth!

[@funsize69]

I don't think anyone should be love unconditionally

[@camh1809]

@@funsize69 not even ur kids?

[@sylviaklassen2138]

Yes I agree!! The first year of our marriage my husband was hit by a car and suffered severe brain damage. We were together for 30 years. This situation is totally different but our commitment to our marriage was first and foremost. I was thankful and grateful for him and yes we grew at different times but we held each other up no matter what came our way. He passed away and I have remarried for 18 years now. I feel lucky as my new husband is wonderful as well !!

[@slardebard]

That's great and most young women say they can't even find one good man. I think they are looking in the wrong places. Good for you.

[@Malkav]

I think the one fact that she's ignoring was that when they divorced, BOTH of them started at square one. Actually he was less than square one. What they individually did afterwards is their own responsibility.

[@blinkingintensifies8212]

Similar to how she ignored his depression about losing his father and made herself the victim of that situation. My man is depressed therefore he can’t serve me therefore women most effected wah wah give me money or jewelry.

[@HIM.9]

Great point.

[@timmoneilson5687]

@@blinkingintensifies8212that's why it's so relaxing to be a sociopath. The women in my life have slowly conditioned me to not feel anything starting with my five older sisters. It sounds twisted, but I say this as a positive.

[@timmoneilson5687]

@fly crap I've lost count.

[@c1o2o3l4z5b6o7y8z9]

@@timmoneilson5687 i mean sure. To each their own. Sounds like shit bit hey silver lining

[@vikingmama93]

My husband was my caregiver during brutal cancer treatments and when I got well, his body just decided to give out. (I believe it was adrenal failure.) He was down physically and emotionally for a good two years and was unable to work. One day I begged him to fight the depression and come back to me, which he did. (With counseling and medical help along with family support.) It took time, but he is much better now. He didn't leave me during my worst days, and I would never have left him during his. ❤

[@eddiecsp9155]

I aspire to have a relationship as strong as yours

[@MyGreenNest]

That’s amazing!

[@JR_ST]

God bless you and your husband

[@inflatablepenguin]

Inspirational love story. Thankyou.

[@TheSavageThanos]

You both are awesome. I wish you many years of happiness and prosperity.

[@theonlykog]

Even though he's doing better than her, she is still putting him down.

[@jodjadien]

Raider Zacc she probably caused the depression by putting him down in their relationship.

[@DucksUpDogsDownCatsSlide]

Imagine the jokes that would be made at the guy, if he was the bitter one about her doing well. A lot of people (mostly women) would be making jokes at his expense.

[@gramcliches1980]

A woman brought down the empire of Troy. It's in these girls nature's. It's crazy

[@christopherbrown2706]

@@gramcliches1980 that wasn't Helen's fault

[@deaththekid9208]

@@christopherbrown2706 it was her fault don't be a simp

[@KindredEmotions]

You’d be surprised how much more you can accomplish without a relationship to be concerned about.

[@Braylon1997]

Women love it when a man is miserable but they’re absolutely pissed and furious when they see we’re doing better in life than they are

[@traeclark5860]

B N F I truly came to realized most women don’t truly care about their significant other feelings most women just care if you treat them the way they want to be treated, do what they want you to do and make sure you aren’t cheating most women truly could careless and confuse “love” with being comfortable most women don’t even love who their with its about what the man can do or is doing currently

[@Xeranx]

Patrice O'Neal: "A happy man is a happy relationship. A happy woman is a miserable man."

[@codeninja100]

Trae Clark facts bro. And to be honest men want thing from women to but what we value is vastly different. We’ll settle for a cute face with a nice attitude and homemaker skills being a bonus. A woman wants a LIFETIME of financial security, social status, and pampering

[@yeahmhmmrightokaymhmmyeahsure]

Exactly, that’s why when a woman sees a successful man that’s not interested in her she can’t handle it

[@hazzastyles6315]

Woah, Women don’t want miserable men, vice versa

[@jasongraham8250]

She was holding him back. Remember we only have her side to this story. As soon as she was gone his life improved. Kinda speaks for itself.

[@BabyRooth]

My exact thought. We only have a few paragraphs from her side of the story. For all we know she was toxic and kept him down. Not saying that's the case, but ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[@sunjewel9064]

I was also thinking that she’s probably so negative that she was keeping him depressed. Perhaps she’s one of those women where nothing is good enough.

[@sunjewel9064]

Undefined guess what...everything on this feed is speculation. If you don’t like that, don’t read it.

[@joerapo]

@@undefined69 All we're doing is assuming here.

[@sunjewel9064]

joerapo thank you for being the voice of reason

[@Breevis29]

Life is funny that way. I left my ex fiancé of almost 5 years because of the similar situation. We met when we were 20 and 21. Everything was perfect and we loved each other. But after awhile he became unmotivated, couldn't keep a job, addicted to drugs, and he started cheating and lying to me. I tried helping him, but how can you help someone that doesn't want it? The last straw was the fact that he took my card and nearly cleaned my account. I left him and had to build my life back up. It was hard, but I managed. A few years later he's doing better. He's sober and he has a steady job. At first I was pissed, but then I realized that maybe it needed to be done. We're both doing better separately.

[@Breevis29]

@@shawnlee220 I feel that same way with her too. it's a difference when you're with someone and being married to them for 10 years vs being engaged for 5 years. She had more to lose and invested way more time and energy. I didn't lose much as we didn't share a house, no kids, still in my 20's, and lived with my parents. But her time will come where she'll wake up, feel better and do better. First step is to stop dwelling on the past.

[@Breevis29]

@Thelondonbadger I wasn't letting him get away with it. There were consequences to his actions. But at the same time, I still wanted to be there to help fight his addiction with an ultimatum attached to the help. That moment when he stole from me, I went full no contact, let his mom know about the situation, wished him well and, moved on with my life.

[@joannasaadati8810]

@Thelondonbadger So she didn't parent him properly ? That's her fault?

[@killxen9748]

Make him pay you back.

[@Breevis29]

@@killxen9748 oh I did. I took him to small claims.

[@BlissfulMartini]

She said they were together for 10 years total, they were married for 6 of those 10 years and the last 2-3 of those years are where things got squirrelly. So things weren’t bad the whole 10 years. With that being said I agree with the rest of your points. She left him when he was going through it. Recovering from something like the loss of a parent takes time and everyone copes with heavy things like that differently. She chose to walk away. He wasn’t going to be in that slump forever. She chose to leave instead of helping him get through it, however long it took. She can’t be upset with him for getting things together without her when she called it quits.

[@odogtheownerofthelot]

Facts I got no sympathy for someone leaving because the other one is down bad

[@danielbasey-link5178]

How can u say that when he built his legacy off of her best years of life and emotionally left her stranded for 4 years of the marriage, he only has success because of the sacrifice she made of her younger self

[@Dxntoo]

@@danielbasey-link5178 "built his legacy off of her best years" are you serious?

[@danielbasey-link5178]

@@Dxntoo basicalllyyy he owes her 30% of his net pay

[@Dxntoo]

@@danielbasey-link5178 ???? for what?

[@kelvera88chief67]

So he lost his dad, fell into depression, gained weight and his wife left him. He stood, lost weight, invested in himself and rebuilt his life. Good for him you both had to start from square one.

[@MissEasyPeasySleasy]

nah.... She started from square 1. HE started from the lower than that!

[@BXBeastBoy]

Sound like he got rid of his negative energy and started to shine!!!

[@BXBeastBoy]

@Que_Rico facts of life. And now she maaaadddd!!! Lmfao

[@BXBeastBoy]

@Marco C damn right

[@MrMissingnin44]

We call him our son cause he shine like one.

[@467076]

Maybe, or maybe they got divorced and he said to himself, "oh shit, I am a piece of shit, I need to get my act together". That's what most men do, she shouldn't be hateful for it though, I get she's frustrated but she should still be happy for him and move on.

[@BXBeastBoy]

@Emmerich August yep

[@writeherstory11]

“You can’t be both the catalyst and the beneficiary”. A word.

[@harlequin2614]

Tone D that hit me hard

[@luciq1007]

Apparently Vanessa Bryant is and was, both

[@keionchase2144]

Mic Dropeth

[@ReyaadGafur]

Unless u are a neutron.

[@josephhogan7280]

I’m not sure I 100% agree though. I’d say you can’t be the “negative” catalyst and the beneficiary. But a good strong woman or man can be an uplifting catalyst in their spouse’s life, instead of having selfish perspectives, and be the beneficiary of something far stronger and more profound in their lives.

[@lexlex44]

3:55 I agree with that ! Basically what happens in such relationships is that one person doesn't know how to handle the other person and you end up with a stressful/toxic relationship that simply consumes you and doesn't leave enough energy for your own self-development, to care care of your health, financials, job social life and so on ! When you stay too much with people you can't handle and/or are toxic, you literally loose a lot of energy and feel like doing nothing all the time, most of your time is wasted trying to "relax" yourself due to all that stress by doing nothing, so it's probably the reason as to why the guy is doing BETTER know, it was a toxic relationship and he couldn't handle it anymore, it was draining him ! And, from the looks of it, he is doing better than she is and she is angry cuz of that ! So she was obviously dragging him down in some manner, especially sice she is the one struggling ! Thing is that when you live with a certain person, and that person doesn't have the right mentality, she/he will influence you in a non-beneficial manner ! Because "becoming" like the person you are with is a way your mind/brain tries to relate and synch with that person ! Your normally remain the same person, but the 2 opposing gears/poles stay near each other you will see tensions, and those tensions will start to tire you down, and you will end up to NOT have the energy to do anything right !

[@Mrrizzzzin-vc6np]

She acts like his fathers death was no big deal. Maybe after she divorced him he was able to grieve and process everything with friends/family. He probably realized the truth about himself and knew he had to change and turn things around. Maybe she needs to do the same, take an honest look at herself and make a change.

[@purpleprinc3]

gonna make a change (uh) once in my lifeeeeeeee (uh) gonna feel real good, gonna make a difference, gonna make it riiii-aaaaaaaaa-iiiiiiight (tuh-uh) Sorry love me a bit of MJ.

[@ThatGuy-en2nn]

I highly doubt she will do an honest self reflection. "I gave the best years of my life and got nothing ". Hell people in the comments have been backing her up without analyzing as you have. I don't believe society nor her herself believes she has any flaws to change

[@markx7139]

Take an honest look at herself? Most women can't even grasp the basics of self reflection. They prefer to live in this fantasy inside their heads.

[@Mrrizzzzin-vc6np]

@@markx7139 Absolutely. No matter what, they never do anything wrong. Everything is always someone else's fault.

[@Mrrizzzzin-vc6np]

@@oRuTRa45 Exactly "wallowed in self-pity". His fucking father died and she didnt give a fuck. All she cared about was whatever she wanted/felt. His feelings/mental state meant absolutely nothing to her.

[@tylerbritton1710]

Women: "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best!" Also women: "How DARE YOU do better after I left you in your darkest time?!?"

[@ExaltedRivr]

Fucking perfect comment 👌

[@walkergirl2498]

Men: "Woman has to show loyalty at my worse. Thank, I love you so much" Also men: When I am successful all I want to do is cheat and have fun. She knew it wasn't so serious." Things can be turned around, remember that.

[@Morbutt]

and why do you suppose she brought up that she is making less money than she was 5 years ago? What the fuck does that have to do with her ex-husband?

[@jasonkenny9559]

@@walkergirl2498 there goes another woman that confuses top tier celebrities with average to above-average men.

[@walkergirl2498]

@@jasonkenny9559 blah blah blah. So when a woman calls You average. Don't be mad and call her names for calling you what you call yourselves. You guys are so butt hurt it's hilarious.

[@timberwolfcontracting7430]

His father passed away. He found himself depressed.. So she left him when he was at his lowest... Thats brutal. And now the guy on his own lifts himself up makes things work and now she is mad?? Maybe she should have stuck it and HELP him through his pain... You made ur bed. You lay in it

[@cw3598]

He was still paying his Bill's because he sold his car too. So I'm curious.

[@cw3598]

No she was with him for 10nyears he was depressed the last year

[@cubie30dimh]

@wings of a butterfly I think you need to go back and do a better job of listening yourself. They were married 10 years. He was deeply depressed the last few years. Everything about this, to me, sounds like she's petty and angry with herself.

[@sandninjakage]

I wonder why they didn't talk about this part. I believe this was the biggest problem. He was depressed and suffering that his dad died. And things like that takes alot of time to get out of. And this is why he didn't want her back. She left him when he needed her the most.

[@TheCarpenterUnion]

The bitch is depressed now. That's why she has digestive issues, just saying.

[@leaguemastergg3647]

1:27 I understand being upset about that. It’s like he didn’t care enough about her to do that while they were still together but now that they are separated he finally decides to work on himself so that he is attractive

[@lam768]

I think her frustration is more about her not having the life she imagined she was entitled to vs. the reality of what her life is. The fact that her ex apologized to her and was nice to her when they ran into each other demonstrates to me that he has grown since their relationship ended. Her reaction to their interaction also indicates to me that maybe she isn’t as grown as she claimed to be. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@cedricdellafaille1361]

there should be more women on earth like you Lam. a high quality women that is objective

[@garysmith9015]

Is it also so possible that he killed her with kindness? She divorced him and he was possibly depressed. Yet he didn't blame her or throw his success in her face. He was just nice and wished her the best, then walked away. No exchange of numbers or contact, just walked away.

[@cedricdellafaille1361]

@@garysmith9015 thats make the women even more crazy! because they hope you crawl towards them and beg to be in a relationship again while she wipes off you from her shoe and say NO. you doing the exact opposite makes her furious

[@sosmooth13]

cedric dellafaille I’d agree if it’s all women but, it’s really just people like her in this case. I get why she’s upset because that’s 10 whole years of putting up with that. I get if you were going through it for maybe a year out of the 10, but 10 is a while. However, it was pretty selfish of her as well to start ranting about her current struggles now that he’s successful and apart. Like what does his money and new life have to do with your current failures and shortcomings? What if they got back together now that he’s good and he slips again? She gonna break up with him again? It goes both ways when you’re in a relationship, but everyone also has their bad qualities. She’s shown her’s in her response.

[@garysmith9015]

@@cedricdellafaille1361 if she gets upset , just like anyone else who's life has improved, that is her/his problem. That is called haten, and people shouldn't invest any time into that negativity.

[@nathanm.8823]

Her leaving is the best thing that ever happened to him... and she knows it.

[@Mariet31]

I think he would have been expecting his wife to financially support him. The divorce was the wakeup call and he only needed to move his ass. Sometimes people do better when they help themselves.

[@nathanm.8823]

@@Mariet31 That's possible. Honestly though we're just speculating here. We don't know what was really going on in their relationship. I hope they both end up happy.

[@sosmooth13]

Nathan M. This story feels kinda personal too, because I feel like I wasn’t shit in my last relationship. Just lazy, and didn’t really give it my all. I had to work on myself and my effort because I knew we wouldn’t be happy if we got really serious and had kids/got married(something she wanted and I wasn’t sure of at a young age) later down the line. I thought that we’d both be settling if we did. Just like the guy in this story, I apologized to my ex for not having it together but I stayed separated.

Yeah I mean what's changed to make him a better man? The answer is obvious.

[@deanwhaley1466]

If a man left his wife because she was in deep depression this conversation would be soooooo fucking different.

[@deanwhaley1466]

@Observe self yeah I bet everyone hates him for what he did, no? I know if I knew you or him I’d hate him because that’s a pretty fucking shitty thing to do with your significant other.

[@deanwhaley1466]

@Observe self see… and it’s well deserved but a woman doing that to a man… nobody bats an eye. No hatred or Ill will.

[@sheepdog5799]

@@deanwhaley1466 my brothers first wife left him and left him to take care of their four kids. Before she left she sold as much as she could including their beds..

[@deanwhaley1466]

@Observe self which is proper human behavior but society today has made it okay for women to seek their happiness and their truth and left men with responsibility. Men are only loved for what we can provide. Women, children, and pets are loved unconditionally. If I'm unable to provide for a woman or my family how many would turn their back on me simply because I'm a man who isnt providing? and thats why when women leave their men it's celebrated. When men leave their girls its frowned upon. There's an understanding that "oh girl it's so hard to keep a man up when he's depressed he should seek therapy and not burden you with his trauma" Ive heard this from grown women. You point this out though you're not masculine you like men and you hate women. I don't think I'm cut out for this human interaction shit bro lol

[@deanwhaley1466]

@@sheepdog5799 I bet she plays the victim a lot doesn't she? Still have people on her side rooting her on because of the victimization.

[@nyxxiah2116]

My girl at the time had dumped me after 4 years. We had our issues and I had my bad habits. RIGHT (literally days) after the relationship I scored well on my ASVAB and now I'm on my way to a solid career. The best way I can describe my reasoning for not trying harder to kick bad habits when I was with her was I could recognize she didn't want to be in a team with me. She claimed that I had wanted to control her. Why should I have committed my future to her if she just wanted to reap the rewards? She didn't authentically want to see me grow. It took "my wakeup call" for me to say fuck everyone I'm in it for me. I tried for a long time to work on OUR shortcomings, her pride and ego just got in the way. Classic case of women trying to be men.

[@LowercaseKev]

Sounds like his playing around on the computer was him learning a new skill and she didn't pay attention to what he was actually doing

[@TheDweeb002]

Same!

[@firmbodyval4536]

That's a good observation. That seems plausible.

[@regismarkv3208]

That seems very likely.

[@Zero11s]

"his new job - a well known tech firm in our town"

[@deviantanomaly]

That man could have been learning how to code for all we know.

[@Amesang]

_"Living well is the best revenge."_

[@xXSpaceMexicanXx]

Amen

[@matthewvoiland1076]

Truth

[@codeninja100]

Facts.

[@biggsydaboss3410]

George Herbert, English poet.

[@zam50]

It is true

[@GodTierGamerYT]

Imagine husband is leaving his wife when her father died, she gained lot of weight and when she is going through tough life. Whole women kind will go crazy on him.

[@MissLolo9324]

Sadly true.

[@gerardoesquivel9919]

Agree

[@bvishal2kn]

bro this is a 10 year-long story, didn't happen over a weekend.

[@rkidd3485]

@@bvishal2kn she said the last 2-3 years were horrible. Did not say 10.

[@rkidd3485]

@@saverio_6990 Vows indicate for better or worse. Not when I get tired and feel like you aren’t doing what I want you to do. Clearly there isn’t a time frame for mourning or grieving, but the wife put a limit on it and left. He figured it out and got it together. People don’t have patience anymore when it doesn’t benefit them at that time and she showed that.

[@nodata5933]

"I left the marriage and got nothing to show for it." Sooo, the divorce was planned and she's mad because she didn't get to take him to the cleaners and get cash and prizes from divorce court? Correct me somebody, please.

[@mrstealyoblocks4473]

Can't correct the truth.

[@candymr2]

They are always looking how they can get something.

[@idkman09]

That literally what marriage is. It’s for in the event that it doesn’t work out the women can still get something to show for it… when you make it 30+ years do you get a prize?

[@nodata5933]

@@idkman09 I've been observing my father and I don't see that but at least he's not getting taken for everything he's got.

[@michaeltalpas]

So, didn’t he also give her 10 years of his life? And, when they separated, didn’t he also start over from nothing?

[@michaeltalpas]

@Gerry C Right? I sense it's just envy on her part.

[@cold_Lightning9]

@@michaeltalpas Women have all the excuses in the world for why they're the victims man. Good on him from moving on.

[@michaeltalpas]

@@cold_Lightning9 The question you have to ask yourself is, if you're so miserable with a person, and you leave them, and you're still miserable years later... maybe it was you?

[@charliewesson2565]

right, worse than nothing too, he restarted in a bad place to say the least

[@lightningbug3189]

I think the biggest reason she feels that way is because she also give away her 10 best child-bearing years. Starting up another relationship and getting to the point if being ready to have children could end up taking time she may not have actually left.

[@ShamankingXYZ]

Woman: Leaves man at the lowest point in his life. Man: Pulls himself together and turns his life around. Woman: Wait, that's illegal- Joking aside did she consider the possibility that she was the one holding him back? I think she understands that on some level and is bitter because of it. Yes their relationship was transactional and that's why she feels cheated. That's what marriages are: transactional.

[@chaseo4557]

Tatea looks like her absence created his success

[@yeahmhmmrightokaymhmmyeahsure]

Tatea im sure she would’ve mentioned that if it were true

[@MrAws0m3Gaming]

@Tatea she contributed zero to his success tho

[@coelecanth13]

It's not a possibility... this chick was definitely holding him back. Hard to make your way in the world when you're in an LTR with an insecure, petty, angry bitch.

[@WLOfails]

Maybe it took the loss of his marriage to be a wake up call to him. Some people realize how deep in shit they were after the consequences hit hard.

[@mdogzino]

She's mad they don't have a kid cause now she can't go after him financially.

[@brownamerican5786]

100%

[@makbadgam]

BRUH!!

[@paulmorissette5863]

100%

[@ragnarok7976]

Glad I'm not the only one who read between those lines.

[@seattlewashington8998]

Real talk... Typical Bytch shyt

[@a.s.a.p3383]

Had a similar issue of growth with my last ex she was starting to really let herself go physically and mentally she never told me what she was feeling so really closed off and as much as I loved her and wanted to help her and see it through I couldn’t just sit there and watch her destroy herself it was really damaging me aswell I felt that as a man I was failing her not being able to help so I just had to leave I saw her again bout 2 years later and she’s doing great she’s in great shape and has her personality and confidence I feel in love with part of me is sad that it wouldn’t work with us but I’m also so proud of her for making it through the rough patch it just is what it is

[@natemarx4999]

Imagine being so petty that you still think about an ex.

[@HomeVidEdd]

I still think about my ex. Plus, they were married for 10 years, it'd be weird not to.

[@MrYugideck]

Who doesnt think about their ex once in a while (hopefuly not it a toxic way like the women in this vid)? Thats just normal human behavior.

[@babygirl2cute12]

I wouldn't say thinking about an ex equates to being petty. Things sometimes go unresolved and that just leaves feelings and emotions there to fester. It's common for people to reach out to their exes to get understanding and peace from something that was just never settled. It's healthy to do that.

[@biggsydaboss3410]

@@babygirl2cute12 Sometimes you have kids, thus you can't escape the harridan. Not fully anyway.

[@danneltheflannel]

You sound like someone who never has dated anyone, lmao.

[@EnclaveColonel]

If my mother passed away, I don't know what I'd do. The man being depressed for years over his dad's death is not something abnormal or to be made light of

[@felixoupopote]

Well, you had better figure it out, cause it happens to everyone. Unless you die first.

[@sheepdog5799]

@@felixoupopote context matters. Dying from cancer that you have been battling for years is one thing, random accident like a car crash is another

[@shadmanhasan4205]

@@felixoupopote A truly detestable thing u said. My Maternal GrandDad's passing was no joke. Neither was my Paternal GrandDad's. Nor my Paternal GrandMa's. I was there, seeing them both alive and lifeless. If u have *even a shroud of dignity as a person, you'd never speak like this again* .

[@moonknight4053]

@@sheepdog5799 You’re not alone brotha, when my grandpa died and grandma before him I was doing not well in high school. Mental illnesses started to arise, I left school due to my family leaving this earth

[@GM-wu7cn]

@Ann I watched my dad suffer, collapse and take his last breaths 3 days later, was there for all of it to help him, this was a few months back... He was 56, not everybodies dad lives til they're 80 not everybodies dad makes proper grandparents age, I listened to all my dad's regrets and all the things he wished he would get to do but now wouldn't, his worries my kids wouldn't remember him as they're young... If you've ever watched or heard someone take their last breaths believe me it sticks with you for days. Listen you've clearly never lost your parents, I wish them a long happy life but you need to sort your head out and stop speaking on things you haven't experienced because it's blatantly obvious you haven't. When someone dies far younger than the norm and misses so much that and you miss out on that time with them it's not easy, my dad was the best and it doesn't get easier for years, it also sounds like this guy was in his 20's too when he lost his dad which would probably make his dads death too early. I hope you never experience what I did or you'd crumble.

[@seattlewashington8998]

she's having stomach problems because she can't digest all of his success lol. That's what happens when your stomach turns from hate and anger all day, it eventually turns on you... It's simply cause and effect.

[@SaltyRat05]

Facts

[@josadehaplas9391]

This hit me hard... thank you. I was an angry teenager, suppressed it, and afraid to show what I felt. I did notice that my bottled up emotions would manifest by my stomach problems. And I do have digestive issuess since late 20s and it's not cool at all 😬

[@alpatr0s596]

Lol damn you just made me rethink my whole damn life cause I been having stomach problems since a kid and the few times I felt happy in life those stomach problems weren't present

[@lauaartworld]

looool

[@mysterymaverick1982]

@@alpatr0s596 it's a well known fact that stress messes up your microbiome and basically every other function in your body. Prolonged stress causes all the functions in your body to basically shut down as it diverts energy away from normal function. Fight or flight it's why zebras dont get ulcers Dr Robert Sapolsky.

[@damianc3501]

I've been in a similar situation, it was not a marriage but relationship for couple of years. She was simply holding me back with constant problems that she was creating. I couldn't even focus on my job, all the energy that I had was being put to solving her made up problems to the point where I was afraid of loosing my job. I started forgetting about everything, my head was overloaded with her problems, which also drove her mad. So after we broke up suddenly I had energy and room in my head to think about everyday struggles and improve myself. I even applied to work at better company and my salary doubled. So ladies, please support your man. Try to solve your problems together and avoid to create new ones, then you will be happy and your man will be happy too.

[@BigAlCapwn]

The way she casually describe his dad dying and how that affected him is like she's describing him getting depression over a parking ticket

[@jessedunn254]

you make it sound like his dad's death would affect her at all. what was she to him a loved one? gosh get real... lol

[@akhilsharma2712]

@@jessedunn254 lmaooo stay mad

[@spinaltapit]

@@jessedunn254 would affect her at all? That was her significant others father, the man who raised the person she married. He was a loved ones, loved one, and to just pass off his grievance like she did showed (at least to me) that she may have been distant at a time where he needed support.

[@rordongamsey3057]

@@jessedunn254 perhaps they were not close but him and his dad had been. It must’ve been a huge loss to him and she played it around as if his feelings weren’t valid and he was using it as an excuse to waste time. She was apathetic about his situation and is now bitching he’s come far now he lost his bitchy wife. Jesus can u women not logically think?

[@flamenmartialis6839]

He also lost his job at the same time, the job often is a big part of a mans identity.

[@hiroooooooo4656]

Sounds like she was holding him back tbh. She's bitter about his success, imagine what she was like when she was with him.

[@TheMistyBlueLounge]

@Unpopular Truth Eh, I'd argue that bad relationships kill success while good relationships make it easier, or even make life so enjoyable you don't even care about "success" in the traditional sense (aka. money). Don't let some bad experiences turn you off potentially good and healthy relationships.

[@basilbaby7678]

Yeah, she was holding that weed to his lips.

[@aguynamedatidade]

What's that phrase women use? "If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best." I get why she'd feel that way, though. I know most people would be pissed in that situation, but the reality is, life doesn't always play out the way you want it to. It's nobody's fault, really.

[@TheFlyingClutchman]

@NXVI she left him. The funny thing is she clearly said his dad died after which he put on weight and became a bum. So he was depressed after his dad died and she left lmao. Ofc once he got out of the depression he got his shit together. That would have happened whether she stayed or not.

[@georgebell9634]

@NXVI "she taught him"?

[@georgebell9634]

@NXVI bitches love gaslighting

[@CommentEnthusiast]

My son brought the receipts

[@TheFlyingClutchman]

@NXVI wtf? Did you even watch the video cos she clearly stated herself that he gained weight and just smoked weed all day AFTER his dad died. And she got fed up and left him. And then had the audacity to be mad that he's doing well. Clearly he finished grieving for his dad and improved his life. But she left him when he was at his worse. There is nothing to indicate he's a cheating heffer. She even said he sold his car to try to help make ends meet when he was depressed. You need to go back and rewatch the whole video. And listen carefully to what they read out from the article

[@dylanmorgan5589]

It's interesting when these two actually don't agree right away. Truly objective commentary. In a world of one sided hive minds this is a breath of fresh air.

[@sikguitarist]

Preach: "That was not love, that was a transaction." Bang on. That's what marriage is.

[@qarahiyo]

there is even a contract to illustrate that.

[@coelecanth13]

To any bro reading this: all your exes want you to fail. Prove them wrong.

[@DeerayYoDaddy]

Yea stop acting like men dont want their exes to fail as well. gfto...

[@keionchase2144]

@@DeerayYoDaddy That wouldn't be a "MAN".... What you're claiming...

[@saucegodnas7318]

@@DeerayYoDaddy I didn't want my ex to fail but she did anyways. I would say 6 times out of 10 Women want you to fail more though just so you can come back and beg for pussy like a loser. It's just more common.

[@HexCypherr]

@@DeerayYoDaddy we dont. or at least I dont. why would I? we didnt work out thats awful but i still hope she has a great life after me.

[@spazz-ok9nr]

@@DeerayYoDaddy we don't if we walk away we want our peace back

[@ibn_adham]

Correction: They were not married for 10 years. They were dating for 4 years, married for 6.

[@oRuTRa45]

And only the last 2-3 years were "horrible".

[@nelbelmont]

i think is the same thing. i got married last year, but i have been with my wife for 11 years. I got to know her during this time and i said "ok i can live with her... i can handle her customs and stuff"... i guess some people while dating are different than when married... i can't understand that, but seems it is common... because i have heard it before "i didn't know she/he dis this or that...in 8 years"... and i'm like "well then what did you do when you saw each other? talk about the weather?... you both should have spent time knowing each other"

[@NaeNae23]

But together for 10 years.

[@MultiJayjack]

Neema An the last 2 to 3 years was the worst... right after his Dad’s death.

[@NaeNae23]

@@MultiJayjack Do you know this couple personally?

[@laurell678]

After the divorce HE FINALLY HAD TIME TO DEVOTE TO HIMSELF!! instead of her. Congratulations to him for driving forward positively instead of pyning over her.

[@kngowo9541]

Bruh, ex gets act together, WOMEN most affected. I swear, a mans balls could be sweaty and some woman somewhere would find a way to spin it into "this is bad for women/me"

[@RJ-dw4jw]

They already have with "manspreading". At this point the only solution is a giant asteroid.

[@linux750]

@@RJ-dw4jw That "giant asteroid" is called "fucking another woman who DOES NOT sympathize with your ex-woman" Works. EVERY. time. 😄

[@genzillennial]

I am pretty sure this issue is not gender-specific. My ex-husband literally was caught in an online forum trying to put a hit out on me because I became successful and started doing really well after we split. Imagine being contacted by police about someone you had not spoken to in a year. has nothing to do with gender.

[@grumpycat6429]

KNG OWO meow meow bish

[@kngowo9541]

@@genzillennial except this is reflective of todays society and media that spins everything into "women are victims" anytime a man suffers or succeeds in any way. This is the time we're living in, i havent heard anyone say "men are victims because women are doing good" but i HAVE heard "women are victims because women are doing good"

[@taliesinhalliday2483]

I think she is leaving a lot out. His dad died, he lost his job and i am guessing she nagged him. He sounds like he had depression and she left him. Still always the mans fault.

[@TILLEYJS]

Always. Women rarely take accountability.

[@AllHope23]

Props to her... she has a small measure of sense

[@ranielvincecabarrubias6118]

@Garrett Friday You need to choose carefully then. Remember, you are the common denominator.

[@kly826]

@@TILLEYJS They NEVER take accountability....

[@sdmurphy20]

That's how I understood this story, and I agree with this 💯

[@brendan8108]

Maybe she was toxic. Perhaps she added to his misery.

[@Pumpkin3.14pi]

That's what I was thinking. My ex-fiance was a really negative person. When I was with her, I became toxic. Since we have broken up, I have been doing so much better. I didn't even realize that I had started to become negative until I got away from her.

[@danielseraphim9962]

I'm like 99.9999% sure.

[@kylee7973]

At first I thought your profile pic was a shirtless dude in a really weird pose.....but it’s Sid😂

[@giorgiogazzola5972]

I seriously doubt she was the loving supporting wife she claimed to be. It's very common for people to rewrite history after a relationship ends to make themselves look like the victim.

[@Blazemoth]

I guess, if He - she = success, then, well...

[@dalell3808]

I agree with the fact that its a "what ever happened , happened situation". but also people can't blame her for feeling bitter . 10 years is a long time , that's a relationship that consumed a lot of emotions ,time and feelings . And the longer the relationship is ,the harder it is to move on . When you are married you do take vows for worse and better , And when shit hits the fan , you do find yourself conflicted whether to take a gamble and stay and possibly waste years and time you can't get back or leave and be untrue to what you vowed for . And honestly i think 10 years is more than enough time fighting for something so she did whatever she can do and now there's no point in blaming her for not staying cuz most people won't ...however her life afterwards is her fault not his , and as hard as it is to do it , she needs to get her shit together on her own and move on .

[@alicegarvey7682]

She resented him when they were married. She thought/felt he was the anchor preventing her from achieving greatness. She figured by dumping him, she would rise and be successful. Only after she bumped into him years later did she realize (subconsciously) that the anchor wasn't him - it was her. Once she got out of his way, was we he able to truly flourish and grow.

[@jerometruitt2731]

I would REALLY love to know what her spending habits were like both during and after the relationship

[@vondahe]

Maybe he *was* an anchor then. A grown man who lives like an irresponsible teenager and smokes a lot of weed is not what any sane woman wants. Fortunately, he broke out of that situation and bettered himself. He even had the class to apologise for how it ended and wish the woman who dumped him good luck.

[@Derploop]

Maybe her breaking up with him gave him the kick in the ass he actually needed to get his shit together? Seems more likely than that she alone was holding him down. Otherwise, you'd expect he'd break up with her?

[@sinkerdas]

@@vondahe he can still smoke weed in the present* but be successful, that's not a decisive factor. "Irresponsible teenager" is just the way she looked at his demeanor, doesn't mean he was actually like that, as she was most likely biased and resentful even back when they were together

[@patriotenfield3276]

@@sinkerdas well some men are. one of my cousin was a druggie womaniser and a non stop gamer who went a total 180 after getting a job, even for a part time . because of this , now's he's enjoying a better permanent job with a Decent salary.

[@devincognito8932]

One just has to wonder if she was holding him back.

[@mechtech220]

exactly

[@MelaninGold]

That's a good question.

[@jimjoe4309]

slick pockets you realize you’ve only been giving the woman’s perspective? So how is it most likely.

[@lauryn5701]

The only person that can hold you back is yourself. Maybe she was babying him and he got too comfortable. But if you’re an adult and you WANT to change then you can change. It sounds like he didn’t want to change during the relationship. But when he HAD to change, he changed. You, as a grown man, can’t blame your own laziness on someone else. And if she, in some way, was holding him back then he should have been the one to leave. Just like if you still live with your parents in your 30’s and are a bum. There should be some point where you need to stop blaming the hand that feeds you and make success for yourself.

[@raykings5244]

@@lauryn5701 I agree with you to an extent. If someone is going through some shit like depression that takes time to heal and deal with especially being a dude. You can't really blame that listless attitude when that happens. When she left he probably still felt the same but had to move to survive.

[@BigBeerus]

"Messing around on his computer" Then he gets a job at a tech firm... Apparently making big bank. Reality is she didn't understand what he was doing. At all. He probably tried to explain many times. Shes just a petty terrible person. He was apparently learning a new skill that ended up paying off. She's entitled and due to ignorance lost out on what she now sees as a free ticket.

[@Yshral]

Brah was on the computer putting that work in for that tech job but her being her probably wanted him up her ass 24/7... he was trying to get right. And now he’s right you left. Married for better or worse, ya going through the rough. Listen when you go through fire you come out golden. When the burger is on the grill it comes out golden. He went through what he had to (fire) and he came out successful (golden). Period you had a chance to support your man and from saying always doing things on the computer shows you wasn’t trying to communicate with your husband at that time to see hat he was doing probably to busy yelling get off the computer idk just my two cents.

[@larrybargon5018]

@Future Pants one side of a story makes up a part of the truth. Regardless how long the story is has no baring on truth. Most people are able to take one side of a story, look at it from the opposite perspective and then formulate a reasonable opinion about it. Others who also do so then know that is all it is....a reasonable opinion. The fact you think men just want men to be right because they're men has a whole lot of projection to it. You act as though men have no compassion for females when nothing could be further from truth. How that is provable is women tell other women they need to be strong independent woman without a man where as men tell other men they need to have a good woman who they are providing for in order to understand being a complete man. Women ain't out here snatching up dudes saying "come. I'll give you your hearts desires and support you while you do whatever you want" but men do that by the millions each day. Not only do they do it, but they do so by choice. You couldn't even begin such a conversation with 95% of women.

[@rokaine7334]

@@larrybargon5018 MAAAAAAAAAAH NIGGA!!!!😎😎😎😎😎

[@titsbitchmcgee7502]

@Future Pants "we have one paragraph from one side of the story" The wife's side of the story. No other version is going to paint her in a better light. I can't say I blame her for leaving, but the fact that she's seething over him finding success in his life, and the ignorant "dicking around on his computer" comment leads me to believe she's leaving a lot of her less flattering moments out of the story.

[@farambodj9471]

@@championboy4782 hahaha absolutely brother...this dude be simpin' all day

[@TeamJesusGo]

He sounds like a lovely person. Times where tough... too bad life is bad for you, but its so sweet of iom to be kind, wish you well and even apologize for the bad things. Yea, sometimes you need to grow on your own. Too sad, but thats life.

[@tobigforyou]

“Till death do us part.” - none of them died. She quit. She lost.

[@vondahe]

Precious few people mean that seriously and even fewer live by it. Marriage is a different kettle of fish today from when the sentence was formed. Sadly.

[@T..C..M]

I think it's a ridiculous phrase, many people marry in their 20's after knowing someone else in the prime of life (not many real problems) for a year or 2, and they're gonna commit to a possible 90 years together?!? Crazy..

[@denverjohnson5640]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@dennymambo]

@@T..C..M Yeah agreed, in 2021 it is outdated at best. It makes a lot more sense when placed in the historical context that it came from. Not only do we live a hell of a lot longer, but we actually have leisure time. And the whole world either an internet search or a plane ticket away. We also have the separation of church and state, no fault divorce, welfare, adequate medical care, and so much else that makes marriage more of a fashionable convenience than a lifelong commitment.

[@kathryn-anon]

"10 years and I never got anything from him." You never got anything from him??? If that's the approach she has, it makes me wonder if she's not the reason he was doing so poorly. It sounds like her getting out of his life was something he needed to improve.

[@Legitkilla6969]

She was talking about money prolly he prolly put more love in than she did he needed her support I'm sure but she prolly just needed more money but from him smh

[@Kvitravn.]

Ive been with mi gal for 5 years now, since i was 16, now, i aint got a Job, lost that when Corona hitt, i aint got a house, i aint got particularly much money, What money i got, i put in the relationship, Other than that the only things i bring to the table are relatively good food, cause im an Alright Chef, and all the love i got in that dark broken heart of mine, and she seems happy. I consider myself very fortunate to have her in my life cause she stuck with me when i was struggeling. And No matter how low i got, how Little money i had, she stuck with me. So i feel bad for all the folks out there in bad relationships, either obsessed with money, abusive, unhealthy, whatever, and i wish everyone good fortune... Now, ima fuck off for a while since ive forgotten the point i had in mind when starting to write This comment. So hey! Cheer Up folks! Even if ya hitt rock bottom it can only go Up from there!

[@inflatablepenguin]

100% she sounds like a taker, also her situation later in life kind of proved the same, she had a low paying job and wasnt able to get enough work to live, yet he was successful without her, honestly it sounds like she was the dead weight and she just got sick of him not being able to provide for her while he went through a depressive stage after his dads death and worked on his tech skills (a.k.a. messing around on computers) for the job he wanted at the tech company she mentioned. It sounds like he never stopped trying and she just couldnt see past her own wants. No sympathy.

[@PyrokineticFire1]

after 4 years of "getting nothing" why'd she marry him? he obviously had some value that she blocked out once she divorced and convinced herself that he was always terrible

[@arbiter11171]

If she couldn’t handle him at his worst, she doesn’t deserve him at his best.

[@svpjef]

spot on.

[@sa1lor_jarry139]

Nah, that concept is just completely wrong.

[@jodjadien]

Some it’s best to leave for the other heal and get better.

[@svpjef]

Sa1loR_JaRRy explain how it’s wrong?

[@sa1lor_jarry139]

@@svpjef I agree with the concept when "worst" applies to things outside of a person's control (lost job, cancer etc). Absolutely stick with them. But when "worst" is solely because of the individual's choices, then no. Absolutely not.

[@nm-je7sm]

I'm a dude and can empathize with her. She's upset because she feels like she did everything right and everything she was supposed to, but now she's worse off because of it. Meanwhile, made mistake after mistake, leeched off of her for years, and is doing terrific. I'll admit that it's not fair, but it is what it is.

[@hueyfreeman6262]

Simp

[@SonOfABitch777]

@Viser I disagree with the second half. I think the only reason he improved so much was because she left. Reality slapped him in the face and lit a fire under his ass. That would've probably never happened without her leaving.

[@ape37]

​@@SonOfABitch777 No one knows his reason because we only got her side of the story. I was in a similar spot and my ex leaving only made me worse. But that's just my experience. Someone else's experience may be different.

[@4m4n40]

I’d feel betrayed and traumatised if I put all my effort into dragging this sack of shit around only for him to get a job as soon as he felt uncomfortable, instead of considering thinking about his mother, at this point to do all of his work. That guy is terrible, his apology was piss on a fire too. Absolutely no respect for someone who was there even during the worst parts of your life. 10 years is a long time. She’s got single mother vibes here, unconditionally loved him till he dragged her down to his levels and she got apathetic and lost hope. I hope she climbs out of the hole that the guy sank her into.

[@bardahl7404]

@@4m4n40 except she didn't stay through the worst part of his life lmao

[@nicholask7347]

He was smoking weed and on the computer all the time. Sounds more like he was studying something.

[@deafconmediaZA]

Yip,

[@marcusmay5461]

Like he was learning to code or something

[@tl1405]

@@marcusmay5461 did get a good tech job

[@supernardfuldx]

Many good tech jobs have these infamous coding interviews that can take months to study effectively for. She didn’t trust the process.

[@TatisRingwormCreme]

To the lady #LearnToCode

[@RedAndTheCompany567]

I agree with Preach. Things take time. A 20 year old cannot be the same when they are 30, 40 or 50 yrs old. Also, some ppl bring out the worst in others and it's best to break up. That's just honesty.

[@BraceInc]

April Harmony 10 years tho

[@knightheaven8992]

@@BraceInc They were married for 6 being together for 10 as a couple. It was only the last 2, to 3 years that he was depressed, and had issues. For me it says a lot about her supposed maturity as well.

[@DizzNutt93]

When you guys said, "sometimes you gotta hit the bottom, rock bottom" is something I completely understand. I was a major alcoholic for years, and one day I was driving drunk off my ass and totalled my car. Nobody was hurt but me, but haven't had a drop of alcohol since that day. Crawling out of that wreck, still breathing, was my bottom. It has been about a year and a half since that day, and I'm not doing perfect but much better than what I was. I have a job now, I have a relationship with my son now, I lost 80 pounds and started taking better care of myself, and most importantly, I'm happy.

[@-rr-4172]

Good on you brother! Keep pushing! Even when you fall, get back up and keep pushing!! And all the best for the future! 🙌🏾

[@Argos-xb8ek]

Keep it up man I'm proud of you

[@Gingersnaps_the_pumpkin_kitty]

I like this post, it's ACTUALLY positive and NOT assuming the chick was heartless when we don't know what happened. And really inspiring tbh. Hope your sobriety lasts my dude.

[@Me7onCook13]

Proud of you man keep up the good work 💪👏

[@DizzNutt93]

Thank you everyone for the kind words and support. It goes a long way and is really appreciated

[@DeathsRHM]

I'll say I thought I was happy with my life until a girl left me, then I realised I was happy with her and everything else going on was just some shit I had to deal with in the mean time. Sometimes it takes something shit happening to you to make you realise that shit's happening to you everywhere and something needs to change. Maybe this dude was just happy being with her and accepted the things that weren't going well as a consequence