I online shop when I am upset or lonely 😢 it is all too easy....
@SugarMamma7 жыл бұрын
_imum_ maybe try calling a friend instead? Or reading a good book? Or going for a walk? Maybe just try sitting through those feelings of loneliness or sadness so that you can process them and let them pass. Feeling are like clouds, they do pass xCC
@sajidaraja90587 жыл бұрын
_imum_ Try journaling why you feel this way. Instead of clicking "buy" put the item in the basket and then force yourself to wait 24 hrs - often you will have forgotten the item by the next day and you will have got the buzz of buying the item without ever going through with the purchase.
@SugarMamma7 жыл бұрын
Sajida Raja great advice!!!! xCC
@silkbuttons6 жыл бұрын
And thats all too normal, it doesnt mean you have a "clinical addiction". Dont let this shame you.
@KipperBlueMushroom6 жыл бұрын
Delete that app
@miadaniels23735 жыл бұрын
I am two days into a no spending month, I didn’t realize how much I use online shopping as a form of escapism and self soothing. I was feeling anxious about not opening the amazon app. I feel some shame in how much I’ve struggled I just two days! Thank you for this video it gave me some perspective and hope that I am going to make it.
@SugarMamma5 жыл бұрын
My pleasure! Hang in there and look for the lesson! Sounds like you are healing already! xCC
@ayodari_style2 жыл бұрын
How are you doing now? I need to do the same thing.
@P.IreneSilva5 ай бұрын
I deleted amazon app so its a detour cuz i have problem...
@TrenaeTree6 жыл бұрын
Its gotten so bad. I have nothing to show for myself. This really spoke to me
@vanimaduray54736 жыл бұрын
Trenae DaVinci I feel much the same, but her advice is so good and non-judgmental I'm hoping I can improve myself and you can too. Sending lots of good vibes your way =)
@tiffanysmith06074 жыл бұрын
I know exactly how u feel sis
@joycea32904 жыл бұрын
Vani I know how you feel I want to improve on myself too.
@LittleMissDeeDee7 жыл бұрын
I always feel like I need every item I buy.... but to stop me being reckless with online shopping, I put each item in my favourites, and if I don't think about them after a week or so, I delete them from the folder 😀
@SangoNanami4 жыл бұрын
As soon as I get money into my bank account, I get this anxious feeling. Almost like a little voice saying "Okay. I have money. Now how am I going to get rid of it?". It's really frustrating because I desperately try to save but then some scenario comes up like a mall trip or a convention where I just can't stop myself from spending and then I overspend. I haven't gotten a credit card because I have enough student debt to worry about. It's income based so right now it's based on my tax return from when I was unemployed. When my new job's tax return kicks in, I don't know what I'm going to do.
@sjade88107 жыл бұрын
There's nothing funny about shopping addiction, specially when it effects your mental wellbeing, you feel down so you buy and your happy for a day then the same feelings will come back.
@SugarMamma7 жыл бұрын
Sjmillerxo X exactly! I just wish everyone saw it this way...xCC
@sjade88107 жыл бұрын
Sugar Mamma Exactly. I find the media glorify endless spendless specially with instagram, what those photos or background story of it all is those people could be struggling finically and even emotionally, they can have a closet full of clothing and products but a fridge that's empty and barely making it to their next payday.
@JUJU-._.-4 жыл бұрын
100% this is me my depression makes me shop because it's one of the only things i can do to feel genuinely excited I'm so tired of faking my joy to seem normal i fake laugh and smile all day when I'm out in the world my husband knows me like the palm of his hand and he's realized i do this with him at times too it's just because i have no more genuine happiness within myself and i don't want him to get sad so i laugh if he laugh at something funny on tv etc
@scottkinderdine33174 жыл бұрын
@@SugarMamma For me it's instant gratification. I absolutely get a rush when I buy something for my Sports Cars or Jeep.
@theonlycozyjozy5 жыл бұрын
I just spent maybe $800 on online shopping in the course of just three days. I always knew I had an addiction. But I’m having a child soon and so I know/need to stop. So hearing this was good for me. Thank your for making this video.
@AnaBeeMusic6 жыл бұрын
I shop whenever I get sad or feel self conscious. I have so many clothes that Ive bought and after a few days I hate them and I feel like I need new clothes.
@samanthabrigida24993 жыл бұрын
Same I always feel like I need new clothes and hate the ones I bought
@lunamethyst77 жыл бұрын
I love that this video isn't a put-down. It feels informative and helpful. My mom suffered from this for a long time and it really affected the family. She is fully recovered now but it was a hard process. This is a real issue and the effects on people are real. Thank you again for treating it with such respect.
@SugarMamma7 жыл бұрын
Katie P thank you, I really want to help people and make them realise what they are capable of achieving. Glad to hear that your mother has overcome this, it must have been hard for you to experience watching this xCC
@kindregardskatie7 жыл бұрын
People don't like bad news about their bad habits. Love that you're sticking to your beliefs...that is brave & really helpful 👊👏👏👏
@auvyx7 жыл бұрын
I noticed my shopping addiction about 2 years ago. Since then I had worked super hard to stop it. I discovered minimalism, and have been trying to put my money to good use. When I feel a little sad, I tend to look at clothes online - mainly the ethical brands (Everlane). I place things into my shopping cart, but close the tab. I still have one issue, when I really feel like spending money, it goes to food. When I do buy something for myself, my hands get so sweaty! Not from the rush anymore, but because I'm realising it's my money I'm spending.
@SugarMamma7 жыл бұрын
Auvro it is so good that you are aware of this, and that you are consciously doing clever things that work for you. I too sometimes add things to the basket and then get a reality kick and shut it down. I also love saving up and waiting to buy things...layby is also a great strategy. Thank you for sharing xCC
@heathermedema23455 жыл бұрын
I will buy clothes before I buy gas. It's like i purposely blind fold myself. This is a problem and it does need to stop. There was a sale today with a sweatshirt i have been looking for for almost a year brand new and a great price. I almost had an anxiety attack telling myself that i wasnt going to buy it. I got through it and i didnt get it but I should definitely not feel that strongly about a sweatshirt
@nickicaps7 жыл бұрын
This was so painfully accurate for me. THANK YOU for opening my eyes. I'm incredibly overwhelmed at the thought of digging my way out of this mess and the debt but you inspired me to at least try.xoxoxox
@angelaesperanzajr.padilla20256 жыл бұрын
I definitely grew up in a low-income household and a shopaholic mother who shopped to make herself feel better. I am trying to kick those habits that I picked up on living at home, and now that I am out as a full-time college student I know that finances are important as ever. I do find myself shopping when stressed/bored/depressed and I find that when I'm not shopping for beauty/clothes it's on food. Thank you for being so upfront and honest and I'm going to try to adopt a healthier lifestyle of switching habits and small changes. Like now I recently got a library card instead of buying at the large chain bookstore.
@SugarMamma6 жыл бұрын
It is great that you are so motivated to do things differently ! Spending in a healthy way is fine but making sure you are in control at all times is essential xCC
@thebohobabe2817 жыл бұрын
If I try to shop shopping for clothes, I've noticed I tend to overspend on other things such as groceries or home goods... 🤦🏻♀️. I'm working on it though 🤞
@thebohobabe2817 жыл бұрын
Also, I've been limiting shopping to convenience. I think it helps in some ways- like if I have to go to the mall for makeup, I might only buy a piece of clothing in that particular department store or store next to it. Otherwise, I try to only stick to the makeup item I need and not shop around the whole mall. Same thing with Target- if I need toilet paper, but also a new top, I try to just get it there and not spend the day shopping around town.
@abraster775 Жыл бұрын
I am 20. I make the most money compared to my friends, I spend the most, but have somehow saved the most. However I get so many packages, want to go shopping all the time, and am running out of space in my room and closet. My sister and father are concerned with my spending but it feels so good. I used to have a stealing problem, and it seems spending has become my new habit. It's an overconsumption problem, and I know I need to address it. Thank you for posting this.
@belharper18476 жыл бұрын
This was like a kick in the guts. I have a serious problem with shopping. The rush i get from thinking about going to get me clothes... homewares everything. I have a lump some of money from a divorce settlement which is just getting spent. I am feeling sick. But i will stop it. Thank you for your advice and plain common sense. Tomorrow is a new day.
@justinewhite-hadley31386 жыл бұрын
Thank you hun. I'm coming to terms that I have a shopping issue. My home is literally busting at the seems and my poor man is so upset. Piles everywhere. Under things, on every surface, drawers, on too of drawers, a book shelf in the bathroom to hold allllll my make up.....I'm going to start writing things down to see how much I really blow every week. Good luck to you all!
@Acosya27 жыл бұрын
Cana, this video has spoken to my soul! This is an on-going addiction for me. It boils down to self sabotage! I can seem to shake the habit. I'm fine for a bit but whenever things are going well. There I am back to the on-line, mall, anything. It's crazy. When I'm depressed its out of control. I have tried everything! But I've learned don't give up! No matter what! I want to buy a home, this is a goal that I really need to obtain. I will be 40 soon. I'm going to try your techniques! THANK YOU....PLEASE DO A SERIES!!!!
@laurykristensen62395 жыл бұрын
Acosya2 update?
@zaheerahshareef81314 жыл бұрын
Same I just fell off the wagon after month of sobriety....it’s quarantine during the pandemic
@AG-jf8hn5 жыл бұрын
Of course companies would like to have everyone be addicted to shopping
@tastytulip7 жыл бұрын
FANTASTIC Canna! I've just spent the last hour unsubscribing to the majority of email 'newsletters' and 'updates' that I get from stores. That's a huge precursor for my shopping :/
@isabelapre22897 жыл бұрын
tastytulip I have done that too in the last weeks and I can say has helped me resist that temptation! Hopefully we can come out recovered shopping addicts 😂 Good luck x
@livkind35225 жыл бұрын
Yes did that today👍
@berrieshunter85924 жыл бұрын
I'm really trying to save money but there comes a point when I feel like being a spendthrift.. sometimes if I see money on my credit card I just can't stop wasting it online. I enjoy buying stuff but at the end of the day I always think about the amount spent. Then I get too excited when I get my orders & then realize I dont really need them.
@victoriamather22677 жыл бұрын
I think I have a food addiction and these tips still helped.
@sm11237 жыл бұрын
really helpful - I recognised a number of signs. I shop as a reaction to loneliness and stress and have little or no savings because that new top / skirt always make me feel a bit better. I think keeping diary of how much you spend and when is a really good tip! I will adopt it and monitor for 1 month what I have spent and why I haven't spent money on said item!
@serendipitylove39302 жыл бұрын
Yeah I spend when I am depressed... it gives a temporary happiness boost...
@changeforsafety51787 жыл бұрын
It's like any other addiction like gambling. But people laugh about it because you have to shop or you have to for another example eat anyway. So you try to convince yourself it's ok.
@arundhatidevi1207 жыл бұрын
My oh my!! I just realised I have all the 7 signs! Now I better work on the solutions!😧😧😧
@sophiehoney7 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video Cana! I've always been a shopping addict especially more because of instagram and seeing all fashion bloggers posting photos of their new clothes but I've got to put a stop to it now to try save up for a deposit for a house for me and my family. So I'm going to try limit my time on instagram and online shopping and replace it with reading and looking at houses to keep me motivated ☺ xx
@Amanda117627 жыл бұрын
Sophie Honey 💜 I fall into that but via youtube. Remember a lot of them get vouchers or free clothes or may not even actually own those items. Good luck saving for your deposit. A past video Canna's guest said she would look at her dream houses to avoid shopping. Try that instead :)
@Anna-er8qe7 жыл бұрын
Love this! Definitely need to do the same, you see all these things on instagram and just end up wanting instant gratification to have the same things/lifestyle! Best to stay off it and focus on basic necessities whilst saving!
@rachelmartinez81815 жыл бұрын
Omg were in it together sister !!! We can do this.! Lol I know this is a yr ago but I am totally in this situation right now. 😞
@AmandaAguilar25 жыл бұрын
Sophie Honey I’m also a shopaholic because of the vloggers and instagram models I see
@mr.muscle13745 жыл бұрын
STFU
@chantellia.56125 жыл бұрын
I need to delete my shopping apps... I take one weekly trip to town and blow my paycheck but when I get home I’ll spend my savings online shopping at least two items a day...
@jenniferschiavone43587 жыл бұрын
Thank you Canna, I really enjoy your videos! I loved the act of shopping and the rush it gave me, but would often feel buyers remorse and later return the item or keep it and never wear it. A major waste of money! One of the most helpful things I've done is unfollow bloggers exclusively sponsored by my favorite clothing stores as well as unsubscribe from all shopping sale emails. I feel so much better and not inclined to shop for things I wasn't even looking for. I've already noticed a difference this month and my closet and state of mind feel clutter-free!
@SugarMamma7 жыл бұрын
Jennifer Schiavone great advice! It kind of feels refreshing not feeling the desire to buy things and simply enjoying what you already have. Thank you for sharing these great tips! xCC
@alagorical80012 жыл бұрын
I shop because I'm a recovering alcoholic (3 years sober woop!), but i replaced the alcohol for overeating and buying home decor and clothes mainly. I also have cptsd and borderline personality disorder, so I know I'm just trying to fill the empty void and loneliness I feel most of the time , despite having an amazing network of friends. I've decluttered Alot over the past 2 years but have only just decided to start saving up for driving lessons and either a campervan to travel the world in. Or to invest to start myown business one day...its hard to plan when you're struggling to find your way in life but I'm just trying to find enjoyment out of the little things in life (knitting and my cats) and I understand now that shopping just makes me feel crap. I know I used to buy so many clothes because I was desperate to feel like I 'passed ' as pretty but deep down never felt good enough nomatter what I bought. So I'm working on understanding my self worth just as I am. It's really hard,its like a foreign language but I'm working really hard on it and ultimately, that's all we can do xxxxx
@doesnotFempute Жыл бұрын
congratulations on your sobriety! Have you heard of Cr'appy Childhood Fairy? She's a therapist named Anna who makes content about c-ptsd coping. Her videos help me a lot 🥰
@Anna-er8qe7 жыл бұрын
I definitely need to stop shopping, over the course of a few months I went from excellent finances to very poor finances through frivolous spending on credit cards of food and things I don't even need/justified I needed! I want a minimalist lifestyle and yet buy stuff constantly. Credit cards are now cut up until all paid off and cash only! Friends make funny comments such as "you love to buy stuff/you've bought more stuff!?" I always laughed it off but now facing the cold hard truth after watching this video that I have a spending problem that needs to be sorted now! Thanks for this video xxx
@heathermelancon60457 жыл бұрын
Thank you! I needed this today! I have been a stay at home mom for the last year and have been online shopping a lot! It's way too easy to shop online and it's exciting when the packages get delivered. You are completely overwhelmed by social media and especially bloggers on Instagram to shop ☹️
@mamarenewed6 жыл бұрын
Heather Melancon this is so me! I wasn’t a huge shopper before I was a SAHM but now it’s like an escape. I spend so much time online shopping. I definitely needed this wake up call today!
@florenceburwell67465 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. I really needed this. I am a single mother of 2 girls. I cant afford to let this shopping addiction anymore. I can see that this has been happening and everything you said was true. I think I will watch this video several times to help me. Thank you again.
@rishabgaba85865 жыл бұрын
I had seen my Amazon shopping history I was shocked to see I'm buying a lot 36 items in just last two and half months We get attracted to heavy discount and specially in India where Amazon and Flipkart are fight with each other to gain the market Share They are selling goods much much cheaper
@SugarMamma5 жыл бұрын
Oh wow! Does that exclude food? My theme for 2019 is “Less But Better” this video may help you cut down on your shopping? xCC kzbin.info/www/bejne/q6bLn4ieaNl7j9E
@noelsmaison6854 жыл бұрын
Omg same! I'm from India and all these discounts along with lockdown boredom have made me a serious shopaholic. I've been lying to my parents and I feel so guilty. I have gotten a wake up call
@lindahabibi62285 жыл бұрын
I only turned shopaholic when I was depressed. I’m thankful to God For Breaking that Habit. I av got God now so I don’t need the shopping 🛍 Therapy. Sis if I av listened to any feeds by mistake,pls forgive me coz It’s difficult to tell the difference pls. I will always support u no matter what Sis,I want u to be Happy & I know God will Honour His Promises to us🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@FiftyPlusBeauty Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this excellent video. This is my line in the sand. Today I start spending in my life for things that really matter. I am a KZbinr and unfortunately this does fuel a lot of intense shopping. Lately, I have been buying lots and lots of clothes that I really don’t need as I just retired. I am looking forward to working with you and your channel and learning more about this process. I did just unsubscribe to all of the emails I get from the stores I frequent. I am really looking forward to starting to emphasize real meaning in my life instead of just endless buying. I want what you have for sure. Fortunately I have no debt, but I am spending my available money too much. I am wasting funds. I have really done this all my life. When I was a child, I lived in a substandard house, and I was always embarrassed by how we lived. Now, I live in a beautiful home, and I keep redecorating to make it even better spending thousands of dollars each year. I also like to look good and of course this feeds into make up and clothing purchases I don’t need. Thank you so much for being who you are and for sharing so honestly about your life. It is time for me to change and today is day one.
@kirakjear98127 жыл бұрын
I will go out and buy a bunch of stuff and then go through it carefully when I get home to ensure I will use the items. I used to be embarrassed when I returned things, but I have gotten a lot more comfortable with it. When I buy luxury, I plan out my purchase for months and ensure it is something I will use. I have a monthly budget and I have to pace myself throughout the month. My husband thinks I am a shopaholic, but I think I have pretty good restraint. I may have an out of control moment, but I end up returning a lot when this happens.
@SugarMamma7 жыл бұрын
I am so simular! And I am now really comfortable with returning things. Once I make that decision to return something I cannot wait to head to the store and get a refund. And planning luxury purchases is something that I ike to take slowly and build up on the excitement so that I truely appreciate the experience of buying and enjoy my purchase...this has saved me making a lot of bad decisions....thank you for sharing! xCC
@tylerfox72696 жыл бұрын
Thank you Cana, such helpful ideas & suggestions.For those who don't understand shopping addiction, they won't understand but this was heartbreaking for me to watch. I could answer YES to all the symptoms. I even stole money from my work to fund my addiction. After recently falling seriously ill, it made me take a long hard look at myself & I hated what I saw. I've stopped the shopping, am selling some items to pay off debt & have started saving, which I love & am so proud of. It took me years & nearly dying before I could finally face my problem. These posts have helped so much thank you & made me feel not so alone. The guilt & shame is overwhelming and it is a real addiction just like drugs or alcohol.i wish I had done something sooner but I can only look forward to future.
@SugarMamma6 жыл бұрын
My pleasure! Take care of yourself and focus on small baby steps and constant awareness xCC
@Apluschic4 жыл бұрын
This is just what I needed to hear. I’ve been on my debt free journey and have been making big strides. Looking at you tubers a nd Instagram posts I have fallen in love with a handbag and have been obsessing over it for the past few days. After listening to this, I know I need to stay on course and pay off my debt instead of buying a new luxury handbag. Maybe I will reward myself with the handbag after I am debt free! Thanks sugar momma. The addiction is real!
@kimberlyperrotis89622 жыл бұрын
Shopping addiction is widespread and serious. Recently, the pressure for everyone, regardless of resources, to buy luxury items like designer handbags has only exacerbated the problem. We should remember that while the problem and cure come from within us, there is a lot of social pressure to buy things we just can’t afford, also. I see a lot of young women who are still living at home with their parents, and without any financial responsibilities, who spend all their pay on their wardrobes and going out for meals and drinks with friends. This is not the real adult world.
@abigailsian59333 жыл бұрын
I started taking action recently and I am so glad I found your channel. I finally accepted I had a problem a while ago now and I've been taking small steps to recover from it. I had all 7 signs, thankyou💜
@trunktreasures5735 жыл бұрын
This is going to sound so silly 😂 but I have a pandora charm addiction. I've spent thousands. The thing is I only have 2 wrists and tons of completed bracelets. I need to stop! This video helped, thanks 👍
@GiannaChristine7 жыл бұрын
Lol I really need to stop shopping I'm obsessed😂😂
@ginamiller67546 жыл бұрын
I was hooked on the shopping network & ended up with stuff that I didn’t like & spent way too much! I won’t turn those channels on anymore!
@SugarMamma6 жыл бұрын
Oh gosh those shopping channels are dangerous! They should come with warnings! Switch off and unsubscribe! xCC
@jholmie60167 жыл бұрын
glad you made this video! i feel like this issue isn't taken nearly seriously enough by many people. i put myself on a "no-buy" this summer for clothes & cosmetics (for financial reasons, not because i was addicted...though looking back i probably was a little addicted) and found that it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be..especially the more that time passed. It doesn't take long to regain a sense of control and empowerment. Thanks for these wonderful tips
@Joyinthemorn3 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Hearing 10 mins of this video, I requested cancellation of 2 unnecessary purchases.
@rachelematthews6 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I am very very close to having a internet shopping addiction. I don’t have many of those signs. But I am getting delivery’s nearly every day. And my husband wants me to stop. I am living with in our means and Don’t shop on credit. But I buy “bargains” that I don’t need and don’t last. I have banned my self for at least a month.
@SugarMamma6 жыл бұрын
It is hard but you will find that you do not miss it after a while. Good luck xCC
@lovelifementoring53997 жыл бұрын
When i shop online you are sitting on my shoulder talking to me...i now take my time choose style and quality over impulse quantity. I don't go to the shops often but now put a lot of thought into what i truly want and how it makes my existing wardrobe work. (If I'm impulse buying or over spending i bust for the toilet and get out!!!) I haven't purchased the beautiful handbag yet as that is something I'm going to work towards (my vegan one is good for now) Now to my budget and savings plan. Can't thank you enough Canna ⚘💜
@wendyespinosa88723 жыл бұрын
I am currently on a downward spiral, but I’m ready to change. I’m going to succeed. It starts here and now. Thanks, I do needed to hear this.
@scaryclarey6545 жыл бұрын
I am a recovering shopping addict. You nailed it with this video. I still feel all these emotions and own all 7 signs but have at least gotten out of debt. I think it will be a long-term temptation but your solutions are sound.
@screamobaby5 жыл бұрын
I have 4 out of the 7 signs - thank you for this rude awakening
@saranox73193 жыл бұрын
I went a little overboard the past months/weeks (splurged my tax money guiltfree. But now I find myself constantly browsing and searching for more stuff, first I was onto rediscovering my style and now I'm onto home decor. I feel I already spent most of my budget and am slowing down, I convinced myself buying at max. one inexpensive thing per day isn't that bad, and I do stretch it out and delay the purchases... but I will somehow feel almost immidiate regret after buying something. Lockdown etc. has me lacking routine and feeling lonely. And being extremely stressed over my brothers mental health led me down teh path of retail theraphy to take my mind of. I do feel somehow guilty.
@MrFrostpower3 жыл бұрын
1 sign number one is 02:04 you never have enough money you're 02:07 always borrowing money you're always 02:08 reaching for a credit card to pay for 02:10 things you never have any money in 02:12 savings and you certainly don't have any 02:13 money set aside for an emergency 2 you are lying or hiding purchases now this may mean you may downplay how much something really cost or can lie about how often you shop or simply hiding those items 3 you buy new things before you even used or worn the previously purchased items 4 you've had friends and family confronts you and share with you their concerns about your shopping habits and what the way that you are managing your personal finances now this may make you angry or ashamed or a whole range of uncomfortable emotional feeling 5 you have a sense of anxiety when you don't shop almost like that feeling of going out for the day leaving your mobile phone or water at home almost like a you feel miss naked without it and when you do put yourself on a shopping ban you quickly find that you *relapse and spend even more 6 you find yourself shopping purely out of a reaction to an uncommon or situation or feeling (e.g. depression e.t.c) 7 you tend to experience a euphoric high or rush or even a form of anxiety when you are actually shopping or you know you're about to go shopping is this an intense explosion and excitement running through almost like a high and you know that you're gonna have a great experience but it's very short-lived and you do come crashing back downyou tend to experience a euphoric high or rush or even a form of anxiety when you are actually shopping or you know you're about to go shopping is this an intense explosion and excitement running through almost like a high and you know that you're gonna have a great experience but it's very short-lived and you do come crashing back down
@redfireflyncg3 жыл бұрын
I know this video was posted awhile ago but I appreciate finding it now. :) Thank you
@judejones61717 жыл бұрын
I'm always so impressed with your videos, I think you've given really great actionable solutions. I read a comment below saying that you seem nervous in the video, that's not the impression I got at all, in fact I think your delivery execution has become much more relaxed and natural as time has passed. I thought it was a bit mean especially as you were so vulnerable sharing your personal story of postnatal depression. Would you ever share how you got started on you tube, how you plan what you're going to do and how you make time for it? Also how do you deal with mean comments!? That would put me off, I'm a bit sensitive to things to things like that! I know a few full time bloggers in the UK that are managed, have videographers for their KZbin and teams of people running their social media and you have more followers than they do! I think that's testament to the quality of your content, it's actually coming from a genuine place and helpful for your subscribers.
@OTMaraH4 жыл бұрын
Just casually really scrolling through Amazon looking at what I'm going to buy next as I listen to her tell me I need to do better. No biggie😭🤦🏽😞🤷🏽
@Keyshaa093 жыл бұрын
I struggle with a spending addiction...it’s really bad and sometimes I do it unconsciously. I have great job that I love, and I’ve been trying to save money for the last 6 months...but I just keep spending. I am trying to follow Dave Ramsey and The Budget Mom but I just keep failing. It is a literal addition and I have end up in tears multiple times over this. And people always just say, well just stop. Don’t you think I would if I could?? 😞😞
@NightOrchids5 жыл бұрын
Brilliant video... Thanks for this... Iam currently on a DMP (debt management plan) through my addiction of buying and selling mobile phones and contracts... What helped me was stop watching KZbin videos on mobile phone reviews and visiting 2nd hand stores like CEX and Game and the Mobile phone outlets (EE, O2, Carphone warehouse...etc), also asking myself "is it a need or a want".... Its hard and i have tripped a few times (sold a phone) but quickly got back up again because i bought a cheaper one... So didnt spend more... Its strange,, i believed a phone would change my life or do different things to the last one, instead of it just being a functional item... but its my fault, Iam responsible for the this, not KZbin, Cex or Carphone...Me, i did this to myself and i own it.... I just have to get through it... Thanks for this video
@catashtrophe03 жыл бұрын
i became chronically ill and disabled 2 years ago and lost my career, social life, independence, unable to walk for >1 minute and and have been housebound at 27. i started online shopping because i thought i deserved a bit of happiness and to treat myself because of this crappy situation. but now i need to stop, i realise it's not giving me long term happiness, wealth or health. friends always encourage you to buy things and shop because that's what we do! stop asking your friends if you need something if you are trying to justify your spend.
@intrepid13575 жыл бұрын
Thank you much for that. Someone I deeply care about has a serious shopping addiction, much worse than I thought, AND I just realized (after watching your vid) that I have been only supporting it, and it is driving me and this person into completely unnecessary debt. We’ll see how this story unfolds. Your vid gives me hope. So so sad.
@lolakathol86495 жыл бұрын
I’ve realize I have a shopping addiction! I know what triggers me to shop more! When I get calls from my favorite boutiques shops, letting me know they have the cuties tops in and how wonderful they would look on me! They just realed me in!! Other times depression. It is a high, but the high doesnt last long. I now use cash only. It is so much harder! To let go of that cash! For sure!! I have a ways to go but, have come to the realization that I do have a problem! Taking baby steps , to be happier without the need to shop all the time! Thank you for this video🙂
@armedvsokord7 жыл бұрын
I would suggest that you take this checklist to see if you have an addiction and apply it to other things in your life as well. Food, Gambling, Alcohol, Social Media, Family Drama etc. A lot of things can become the way we ESCAPE our problems and they can also lead to financial stress.
@maddieburton82863 жыл бұрын
I online shop because I’ve got depression and undiagnosed ADHD... I spend all of my money on food and clothes and have little to nothing to show for it. I get excited about new drinks and candles. Thank you for this video, I start getting help today.
@Ollie-19955 жыл бұрын
I clothes shop when I feel down, and I think that clothes shopping will make me feel better buying new material items but that rush doesn’t last me for very long, and what has it brought me... okay lovely items but on the other hand not very much! but also it has brought me into debt with my credit cards which is stressful and makes me feel anxious but enough is enough now I need to take control of my life! 😊 and stop! this easily led habit! 👍, this video has really helped me thank you! 😊, I’m now going to start saving my money rather then wasting it on clothes 😊
@Nina-mt5ui3 жыл бұрын
I have struggled with shopping addiction for as long as I can remember. I live with Type 2 Bi-Polar and ADHD. I was diagnosed this year and have suddenly started to gain a little bit of impulse control after beginning medication. It's still a problem but now I have hope. Thank you so much for sharing this video with us. 💗
@ProLife4Me26 жыл бұрын
I know this is an older video so I’m not sure if anyone will ever see this, but I need help with a shopping addiction. I want to cry because I just can’t stop, I’m just so convinced that I truly need these things and it just never ends. My husband has asked me so many times to get this under control and I promise him that I will, just to go right back out and spend more and more. My heart breaks inside.
@RebelWildflower6 жыл бұрын
Sherri Hunt Start watching videos on minimalism. It will change your shopping habits as well as your entire life.
@maryloukhan57357 жыл бұрын
I really enjoyed this thank you so much. I'm a lot better this year than I have been in the previous years. I was definitely a shop acholic . It really started when my youngest was born and my husband worked away and we moved to s town where I knew no one. I used to go into this shop because the ladies were so motherly and shop. I sometimes went in everyday. Out of loneliness. Hate to think how much I spent. I now spend time walking , reading and doing things I love. I give myself a bit of money to shop. It's such a learning curve but I'm learning all the time. I had to realise I was filling a void in me with shopping . Had to face my hard facts which isn't always easy.
@cutebunny98002 жыл бұрын
I’ve always loved shopping ever since I was a kid, but as I grew older and had the chance to go shopping by myself, I ended up feeding into my shopping addiction. When I’m not shopping, I feel anxious. It’s hard for me to stay home because I always want to go out and shop. I’ve lost a lot of money and want to change. I’m only a teenager right now but I don’t want to take the bad habits of shopping too much into my future. Thank you for your video it’s very helpful and informative 💕
@lindacubitoso91843 жыл бұрын
This was an excellent video. I"m 70 years old and coming to terms with the fact that I've developed a serious shopping addiction in retirement. I watch alot of the homeshopping networks like QVC and HSN.. There are so many reasons for it. Its mostly clothes. I believe the clothes thing is because as a young person, I had so many body image issues that I didn't want to shop for clothes and didn't get them. I was a large size but still very pretty. I can see that now. I just couldn't face dressing room mirrors but you don't have to with home shopping. It comes to your door. Besides making up for clothes that I didn't buy when I was young, watching these channels and connecting to these hosts which are quite entertaining fills a void. Sometimes I just want escapism. Reading a book, watching a great series on Netflix, studying on Creative Live are all good things I do but sometimes I just want to watch something that I really don't have to concentrate on. One thing I've found that does help that and takes me away from the television is getting a big cup of coffee and going to the park. I sit on a bench and sip. Being in nature helps me think straight and I get some Vit D too. I just recently told my daughter about the addiction. Of course she already knew and she was the one who suggested I watch this video. It was really helpful to tell her. I also think she likes knowing I'm not perfect and I need her sometimes. We decided that she would come to my house, block the channels and not tell me the code for starters. I did the budget thing but budgets on paper don't mean anything if you don't follow them. I need to follow it. This video was very helpful. I identified with all 7 signs. I need a community. Sorry I rambled on. Thanks so much. Do more. I need it.
@vanessastuller81217 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I am a shopping addict. I love shopping. I love finding deals. I can't pass up a sale. My house is full of things I do not need. I end up giving away things which only proves I'm actually wasting money. I'm trying to be honest about my addiction.
@kattenbecka65606 жыл бұрын
I get anxiety when I DO shop, because I used to spend money blindly for a long time. Nowadays I think LONG AND HARD before spending money on ANYTHING. I have never been in debt, but I have definitely spent more money than I feel comfortable with in the past. I only buy something if I absolutely have to, and even then I try to find the cheapest alternative possible.
@truerawsol3 жыл бұрын
Wow. This hit home. I also have a new baby. But this behaviour is not new to me. I had a plan, but something comes over me when I'm in a store. It's a feeling of satisfaction until I get to the till, pay, then leave. Then guilt and shame rush in. I have a spending addiction. I'm on maternity leave and have a small income. My husband is concerned, as am I. I'm ready to change. To become excited for the future, not just the pleasure of right now. Thank you for this video.
@johnlaw87187 жыл бұрын
This video came at a very appropriate time as I've just recently blown through my savings and I literally can't get money out at the ATM. I'm also unemployed at the moment which is not good news. I'm not an extravagant shopper per se, but I do splurge on certain nice things without crunching the numbers and thinking twice and that really needs to change. Love these super practical tips. Thanks mum!!!!
@SugarMamma7 жыл бұрын
John Law you are welcome John. Maybe having a think about your goals, values and dreams could be worth while so that you can set yourself a good game plan ? Time to ignite your inner motivation!!! xCC
@sarahh16567 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video, I've been struggling with this ever since I lost my entire wardrobe to a water damaged home. I got sort of obsessed with replacing my wardrobe and it became a habit to go to discount stores where I'd occasionally find a "treasure" for a bargain. The rush I get is addicting. It's amazing how these smaller purchases add up and half the stuff I end up not liking later on because it was bought impulsively. I have a pit of anxiety in my stomach all the time because of it and I know it's not good but I do it anyway. All of your suggestions sound helpful and realistic and I'm making a commitment right here and now to change my habits and set some goals for myself. I'm thinking about all the time I could use for developing my talents, exercise, reading, etc instead of shopping, and how great it would feel to be debt free and have more savings.
@GMHKLR7 жыл бұрын
this is one of the best channels for finance none of this motivational talks that lead you no where just straight facts and good advice.
@lo53384 жыл бұрын
This just came up in my feed, I know it's an old video but thank you, this was helpful! I guess some people don't take shopping addiction seriously because it's not seen as a very serious addiction compared to drug or alcohol addiction which directly affects one's health to a high degree. However, the massive financial problems that can come from having a shopping addiction are real and it's a stressful issue for many people, western women in particular, and it can of course, affect one's health. We're exposed to targeted advertising constantly, every day, and are pressured to look a certain way to be accepted in society. This is unhelpful - but we can overcome that. I do have a shopping problem and I'll be doing a 'low-buy' year in 2021 to try to change this. I've set shopping rules for myself, but basically there will be no purchasing fashion or beauty products (excluding hygiene products). I have enough clothes and shoes for 3 people, maybe more! I shop out of boredom (usually at work).
@elyzawakefield95893 жыл бұрын
Wow i never felt ashamed or guilty until viewing this video. I love shopping so much. I crave it. It doesn't matter what im buying i feel good when im doing it. But usua8 after i start to feel that emptiness again. Im always broke, and always have family advising me against buying new things. I feel the need to buy at least one new thing a day. If i don't im often sad or lonely inside. 😥 idk how im gonna stop.
@SurrenderedByGraceMinistry4 жыл бұрын
Thank you. If you are reading this comment. Just know you are taking the right steps. Keep binging saving videos, make it a habit. I fell to this spending trap too. We will get out of this negative habit.
@alicesfckrlnd4 жыл бұрын
Oh my god. I felt 5/7 of the signs in my soul. My mother calls me out all the time. It’s gotten to the point where I sneak packages into the house now. My addiction has especially manifested now during quarantine where I’ve spent SO MUCH online shopping. And then I feel so sad afterwards. Hopefully this helps. Thank you (:
@wendyraye7 жыл бұрын
6 out of 7. Can't deny it anymore. Thank you.
@wendyraye7 жыл бұрын
Another sign is hiding receipts and not being able to find one you need in order to return something (constant returns is another sign). I shop when depressed for a high and escape. Clothes, makeup and shoes. Got a handle on the shoes by not going on websites that made me drool, mainly marked down sites of designers - my mentality wasn't how much I was spending, but how much I was SAVING. What?? After all, what's $50 here and there? Actually it added up to $1000 in ONE year. I decided enough was enough. What made me the most upset is I gave away most of the shoes because I didn't really like or want them after all. Just looking at the summary of my orders in a one year span was shocking. I have to see the numerical damage to "get" what's going on and it can be hard to admit there's a problem. Please talk about how to not beat yourself up from throwing away money because that's living in the past and holds me back. Thanks.
@shennarice57495 жыл бұрын
I'm a EBay, Amazon, Ali express junkie...I get super excited when the mail and delivery men deliver my packages... I order multiple items on my debit card then impatiently await for my packages... constantly checking to see if I got a notification even when I already know when my packages are due to arrive... it's crazy ... I order it all ... home decorating items, make up, clothes, books, dvd's, shoes, furniture, I enjoyed this video and I am working on my shopping addiction... wish me luck 😫😫😫😔😔😔😔
@Francelmo237 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this. I know that negative emotions make me want to acquire new things. I’m about to embark on a moderately stressful work day and I was getting the urge to buy something but I watched this instead. You’re so right about it being self-sabotage. It also wouldn’t solve anything, the problem would still be there but I would be further away from my goals than before. Keep doing what you’re doing, you’re doing an excellent job
@rubycordero15003 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your experience with shopping addiction. I find myself disciplining myself and then going bad to my old habits. These were some really coping tips and one thing I will do is invest in things that can help me grow as person or talents rather than just make me look good.
@sunilcmarar4 жыл бұрын
It is a perfect video for me and am trying to get out from my impulsive shopping
@achuletafan123 жыл бұрын
It’s taken me years to admit to myself that I have a problem. I am always finding ways to justify my purchases. I’m ready now to make better choices. I want to have savings and prepare for my future.
@janetleslie16126 жыл бұрын
Thank you i am a total shopoholic but i now know this its took along time ,i have had a great time being carefree and never taking responsibility for my actions,it took until i was 40 i decided to learn to drive it was the first time i had to keep cash in envelopes ready to pay and could not believe how much money i was getting through ,also i could not go out with friends as i had no money because it all went on the three lessons sometimes five a week ,my interests changed i bought a dog i walk i don,t shop all day or lunch out with friends i'm calmer and happier,loved your honesty i just subscribed
@katinacombs96787 жыл бұрын
Yes, I'm coming clean I have a shopping addiction, for sometime now, every sign you mentioned I raised my hand to. I plan to break this habit by being honest with myself and focus on solutions. I'm in credit card debt and it doesn't feel good at all. I have plenty of material things but no money saved at all because i have none to save because of my shopping. I keep shopping knowing that I need to payoff bills. To be honest I'm stressed and want to be free. I appreciate your videos, so helpful. I'm going to watch this video again.
@KittyPop777 жыл бұрын
I pay my bills on time, don't have debts, and save a little bit of money at the beginning of the month, but I still hate that I have to count every coin to make it to the end of the month. Sometimes if I'm not mindful for a week my money would go I don't know where! maybe I'm just poor, maybe I do shop more than I should, but I feel like I don't spend money on useless things, I use everything I buy/have. I don't know, any tips on organization? an average percentage number to save and spend from my salary? thanks in advance! loved the video
@KipperBlueMushroom6 жыл бұрын
KittyPop you don’t have a problem you are all good
@jackskeletonsqueen3 жыл бұрын
I go to therapy and I can't even bring myself to tell her what's going on. I never was like this with my money and since I had my daughter I've just had so many issues I got a job in retail and I had a substantial amount of savings and it was gone in a month of me working there. I can't do it anymore
@danam84507 жыл бұрын
I really needed this! I only work part time because I am a college student but I see that I spend money on little things because it's fun or some items are just cute. I am going to try to be stricter with myself because I find it so hard to be strict with myself. I feel inspired to plan out where my money goes and have a budget. I hope Ill be able to keep my budget and really buy things that I totally love and know are worth the money I have available in my budget. Thanks Canna! X
@Bluemoonjellyfishh4 жыл бұрын
I tick the boxes for all the symptoms, I’m 19 and have been trying VERY hard the past 2 years to change my habits!
@isabelapre22897 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video, Canna!! I recently came out to my partner about my hidden purchases & addiction. I also came face to face how much I'd spent which would've covered my costs for a holiday I have planned in Feb. so goals are in placed to put what would be my shopping money to an account for that holiday and hopefully can finally afford that bag I want for my birthday next year too!
@VeganBunny8165 жыл бұрын
Great video! Thank you! But think it's odd/contradicting to include links on where to buy what you're wearing and the makeup in the description
@VEGANzUmebies4 жыл бұрын
Shopping to fill a empty void.
@thenappyewe4 ай бұрын
I shop to feel important. To feel like I am part of the in crowd. To have things that will make others see me. When I was little, I was not very seen by family or even other kids at school. I was quiet, and didn't really fit in. I always felt different. I was never the cool kid. Now, buying the things I want gives me that feeling of "look at me; look at how cool and important I am." All this has done is covered up my true issue of not feeling worthy or enough. I have been working on this and have started a debt snowball plan to pay off my debt. I am also trying to get a consolidation loan. I WANT TO CLEAN UP AND START OVER!!!! I deserve better, and so do my loved ones! I AM SEEN ALL THE TIME....BY GOD and those who LOVE ME! This is enough! I am enough, and this shopping and spending money un-necessarily......I HAVE HAD ENOUGH! Thank you for this video. It has really be helpful and an eye opener! Blessings to you!
@sam0394114 жыл бұрын
Really needed to watch this. I have some new strategies to try out because of this video, thank you so much. It’s been dark times. 🙏🏽
@cherieroe28782 жыл бұрын
You were not being mean. You gave good advice. Thank you. I'm trying to get over a shopping addiction and I am considering becoming a minimalist.
@susanaduarteraposo3 жыл бұрын
This was a very helpful video. Thank you so much... I’m dealing with the problem for more than 30 years... It’s gotten worst but now I am aware and I WILL do something about it. Thank you so much for your help
@treqjosh7 жыл бұрын
I like the diary idea about the outgoings - I think that would be a great wake up call. When shopping, I often look for exactly what I am after, I become very disappointed if I purchase something and it's not what I was really after (impulse for instance), sometimes I take it back and other times I get a bit embarrassed to do that (judgement). I've now found myself feeling guilty if I spend more than $100 on an item even if it is in cash and is not damaging to my budget. I also try to stay away from shopping centres and unsubscribe from newsletters. I really appreciated your advice regarding credit card debt and the best strategy, I feel focused and excited to eliminate by focusing on one card at a time. I was previously trying to do all at once and feeling frustrated at not getting somewhere.