Should I Sue My Daughters School WHO LIED When They Said They Can't Help Her? r/Relationships

[@j_hi]

Story 2: genuinely a feminist, but uses language like simp 😂😂😂 op is delusional.

[@BunkoValentine]

OP is high on copium lmao

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

Like, I would’ve questioned crap at him getting annoyed at bringing OP water. This does not feel healthy.

[@bug-in-a-rug]

Uses the word “simp” in response to…getting his partner something he was already getting for himself…

[@k70freeman]

Op is clearly lying. Op "it's not water so that means it's different". How the hell do you compromise with this situation? Oh wait. you don't. Op really mean is " you can't say no to me". People are crazy she was painting her nails. They're mad he said no. If op was a man. They would be calling Op a lazy man child.

[@HeiwaTori]

& uses it unironically, like i say simp jokingly all the time, but never like that lmao

[@champslim]

A deaf school banning sign language??? WTF

[@aAlyssN]

My thoughts exactly

[@wildfyah]

That has me perplexed

[@moonyollie6977]

Sadly this does not surprise me

[@mariah4531]

It used to be common, maybe still is in some countries. The idea is to prepare deaf children to function in a hearing society. So they focus on teaching lip-reading and speech and consider sign language to be a hindrance.

[@arithefierysecretary6411]

They're trying to "teach" them to hear, to isolate themselves from the deaf community, and "be normal". It's awful. I taught deaf students, and I had one student whose mother wouldn't speak to him/communicate with him unless he used his CI, which hurt him. It's barbaric.

[@zachf748]

Getting your partner a drink, while you are already getting up to get yourself a drink is the most basic way of showing you care about them, at all. Not being willing to do that is mind boggling.

[@KateBrod]

I know, right? Sometimes, my fiancé gets up while we're watching TV just to get me my water bottle and fill it up for me because he simply knows I'll get up to fill it up myself. And during the weekend, I get up from the couch to get myself a glass of wine and will bring one back for him. Sometimes, he'll come back from his grocery run with pomegranate or gingerbread cookies during winter because he knows I love them and during my grocery run, if I happen to see truffle flavored chips, I'll get a bag for him because I know he's obsessed with black truffle. That's just how our relationship works and we're both really happy with it.

[@kateworkman921]

Gotta love how OP is all, "I'm not hiding some huge age gap," and then tells us there's almost a decade between them. There's a HUGE difference in mentality between early/mid twenties and early/mid thirties. And all the update proves is that she's willing to give all the ground to make him comfortable when he was the one being unreasonable in the first place.

[@mrsister032]

That last story has to be a joke. A simple request for a glass due to her nails not being dry turned into a fight involving reddit. WTF.

[@trparnell87]

Abuse rarely starts out big. Like the story about the frog in the pot of water.

[@Iflie]

it;s easy to ignore red flags when you're in love but ignoring the small things leads to big issues. Freaking out over a glass of wine because "mommy never made me do that" makes him a manbaby who will not support her later in case he's a simp for his wife and maybe kids.

[@nyxspiritsong5557]

And notice how she went and REMOVED HER NAIL POLISH?? Like, this whole past is like, ummmm wtf are you guys doing?!

[@Iflie]

@@nyxspiritsong5557 Yeah that was so bizar, like was she trying to erase the memory for him and her? And acting like she was laughing at the silly people pointing out that their abusive partners did the same? But well, she will learn it's not just words.

[@cuculain78]

​@nyxspiritsong5557 I thought that was so weird that she removed the nail polish. And it really bothered me that she made fun of the people who were trying to help her. She posted because she knew that there was something wrong. Then when people said "Yes you're right. He shouldn't treat you that way" she got mad at them for telling her the truth. She would rather ignore the red flags and bury her head in the sand. But I don't get why she asked for opinions if she wanted to pretend everything is OK.

[@Iflie]

@@cuculain78 She wasn't ready for the consequences, there she is reading it together with him and she didn't want to make a choice. So she made it about his "language" accepted at least half the blame herself (for what?) and tried to scrub the incident making redditors out to be weird.

[@raz7573]

She’ll be back next year complaining he won’t help with the baby or do anything around the house because “it’s woman’s work”.

[@cindykq8086]

The last story: it will be interesting to see how long their marriage lasts. If kindness to each other is perceived as being toxic, what's the alternative?

[@robertx8020]

I bet it will last If you break up over ONE small misunderstanding then you will stay single for life

[@cuculain78]

​@robertx8020 It's not about one small misunderstanding. It's about what it represents. Why would he go off the rails like that when she just asked for help? That doesn't necessarily mean that the relationship is doomed but it is certainly a red flag.

[@geminiblue]

Story 2 - That chick in a few yrs & few kids later when she's going thru a divorce, will remember this moment as the red flag she choose to ignore & be one of those bitters whining about her ex being a narcissist "dropping the mask after the married"😂😂

[@Bala_Niranna]

​@@robertx8020 this isn't one small misunderstanding. It still sounds like he fundamentally thinks doing things for your partner if they're healthy is a bad thing. He needs to work that out with a professional or something, that ain't healthy or normal

[@calebmatthews7268]

@@Bala_Niranna Yeah but she didnt say that was happening and put the blame on herself with that whole "princess behavior"

[@zachf748]

Wow it must be miserable to be in a relationship with OP’s BF from story #2. Getting your partner a drink while you get up to get yourself one is the most basic (and low effort) Way of showing you care about them at all. Being unwilling to get your partner glass while you get yourself a glass is absolutely asinine.

[@kyriacarica5862]

Imagine making a big deal about asking your spouse to go get something for you and calling it “princess behavior” because mommy never made you “do anything like it”. I hear divorce bells. OP 2, wait till you have kids and he calls you a “princess” for asking him to hold his child so you can take a 2 minute shower. Because that’s where this is headed.

[@jay2thaudy]

I don't see divorce happening. She's going to get stuck because shes in denial

[@JaneDoe1812]

Yeah that kind of weirded me out. The way she says 'I abused a privilege' type thing is crappy as Hell. :l Asking for water a lot isn't the worst thing ever. Asking for anything isn't terrible. The fact he made her believe that makes me so uncomfortable and I wish she'd dump his ass.

[@raz7573]

I guess she used up all her “privileges” during one of her illnesses.

[@awseven1144]

Story 1: I am a speech therapist and this is one of like a million reasons I will never work for a school. My friends work for schools and have heard so many stories about overloaded case loads, trying to slyly remove certain children who ‘aren’t that bad’, unnecessary gatekeeping etc. If a school thinks they can get away with it, they will try. They rely on people’s ignorance to do so, so please research the laws and rights in your area and look into trained disability advocates who can help you.

[@Davtwan]

It’s really sad to see how easily a school’s administration can be filled with vile people especially in public schools. Government jobs having such poor screening for the sake of filling a slot is a practice that needs to come to an end.

[@josettee4416]

Genuinely a feminist but also uses words like simp.... thats not how that works

[@zachf748]

Not being willing to get your partner a drink, while you are already up getting yourself a drink, is absolutely mind boggling.

[@cuculain78]

It definitely is. I wouldn't have had to ask my husband for the drink. He just would have brought it to me. I feel sad for this woman because she doesn't understand how weird her fiance's behavior is.

[@MisaoMeowchan]

He wasn't already up tho was he? She offered him a glass of wine than pulled the old " ah cool while you're getting yourself one get me one to" bullshit

[@Kris-wo4pj]

@@MisaoMeowchan considering she waits on him hand and foot and he doesnt thank her for it. he be an adult and get over it.

[@MisaoMeowchan]

@@Kris-wo4pj where in the story does it say she "waits on him hand and foot" she mentions making him coffee from time to time that he doesn't want her too do anyway

[@poetryqn]

Story 2: I think the fiance's language (simp, etc.) is extreme. I also think he is projecting when he terms OP's requests as 'princess behavior' when HIS mother appears to have catered to him as an only child. Age differences aside, I think their attitudes and backgrounds need more exploration and communication before they tie the knot, particularly if he views simple kindnesses as 'toxic' demands.

[@cuculain78]

She can't be the princess because mommy said he's the little prince

[@Mia-dt3gl]

Sounds like OP’s BIL sent the school a link to the ADA website, which is why they flipped so quickly. The ACLU would have had a field day with this case.

[@ajjean2720]

Honestly the switch from “Sorry we can’t/won’t accommodate for your child” to “OMG which ASL teacher do you want for your daughter also do you want a full scholarship? Here’s a scholarship” after one phone call with a lawyer is completely insulting. Like they had the resources all along, they knew what they were doing is wrong and now are using a full scholarship as a form of hush money so the parents won’t expose the school’s tendency to pull a fast one on parents.

[@sfsin3380]

A link to the website wouldn't do it (unfortunate personal experience my parents had to fight to get me my legally mandated help for dragonized dyslexia) but seeing a e-mail from a specialized ADA lawyer with the same last name that would do it.

[@wolfwise1135]

What’s so bizarre about that private school thing is that they have more of an infrastructure to help a deaf kid then most schools, most schools don’t have ASL classes for hearing kids.

[@rubymeaddle]

They don't want a disabled kid

[@aubreymorgan9763]

story 2 is so weird to me. are we sure shes 26 and not 16? her update was basically, 'haha screw you reddit (mom & dad) i still love him. i will never leave him, i was just being a toxic princess. we're getting married!' it got a screw you i'll do what i want. then in 10 years and 2 kids she'll have a misrable existence.

[@cuculain78]

I feel sorry for her. If they have kids he is going to be a terrible partner when the children are little. You're right that she did respond like a rebellious teenager who thinks mom and dad don't understand. The age difference in their relationship made me wonder if he picked a younger woman hoping that she would be easier to control and if he picked OP in particular because she is especially naive and easy to manipulate.

[@bug-in-a-rug]

I still have no idea how asking him to get her a cup of something he was already getting is “toxic princess behavior”…

[@kp2223]

This was my thought exactly. She thinks it's all good and she sorted it out now. Until it's something serious and she realizes she screwed up.

[@mrdaymr]

She asked him if he wanted a drink as if she was asking him if he wanted drink and then said get me one too.

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

S2: the update doesn’t sound happy at all. Good luck OP. That princess and simp BS is such a red flag. OP overused all her partner privileges?! TF _is_ that?! It feels like OP got manipulated.

[@jay2thaudy]

Story 2 is hilarious she thinks she's owning the commenters but really dude just gaslighted the shyt outta her 🤣 gonna end terribly.

[@E7XEE]

Yeahhh it’s hard to take off those rose colored glasses

[@carolsimpson4422]

Noone who uses the word simp is a feminist. Op is so defensive she'd rather be treated badly then admit she made an error in judgment.

[@cuculain78]

Sunk cost fallacy unfortunately. She would rather pretend everything is OK than risk turning her life upside down.

[@carolsimpson4422]

@@cuculain78yup! poor thing has a real awakening looming ahead. Hopefully it's before she has his kids. I can't imagine the nightmare of co parenting with this loser.

[@asherikamichaela8425]

Eh, I dunno. The language is worrying, but it seems (thus far) to be a case of miscommunication and general lack of actual communication. A friend of mine even used "simp" earlier today, but only as a joke about how gaga a couple characters we like are for each other. With regard to OP's guy, it sounds like this is largely a product of their very different upbringings. I myself will help people all the live long day, but I struggle with people doing things for me due to my (tbh, not so good) childhood. If this attitude/behavior pattern worsens, however, that's definitely a major cause for concern.

[@carolsimpson4422]

@@asherikamichaela8425 then your friend isn't a feminist either. The word is derragotory to women in any context, joke or serious. Like b#@$/ or c@#&. It's never cool. The idea that accusing a man of deferring to a woman is an insult, is inherently misogynistic. Anyway, op wasn't joking. He used the word completely unironcally. As though op were in the wrong for having an opinion.

[@asherikamichaela8425]

@@carolsimpson4422 First, I didn't say whether my friend is or isn't a feminist. She is, for the record- in fact, she's very progressive and passionate about social justice in all it's forms (her current thing is the ongoing genocide in Gaza- she's Muslim and living in the UAE, so this hits particularly close to home). It's one of many reasons why we're friends and have been for years. Kindly don't assume you know her like that. Also, the joke didn't even involve women. It was two dudes we were talking about and we were grinning over how in "everyone can see it" love they are but haven't admitted it yet (ie. the "simping" goes equally in both directions). Context matters, as does the audience. What you find offensive isn't always necessarily the case for someone else. Please don't assume you can police language and behavior based on limited information. You're bound to jump to conclusions and get things wrong, as you did here. As for the guy in question here, I'm well aware that he wasn't joking. But I'm also not reactionary and assuming that this is some giant red flag the size of China. She said he picked this stuff up from somewhere on Reddit. You know, where the story itself and every single one of those comments were from. We don't know the specifics past that. Sure, Reddit can be a cesspit of toxicity, but like any other social media platform, there are good places and people on there too. No need to jump on the "dump him immediately" bandwagon just yet. They seem fine now. Maybe that'll continue, maybe it won't. We don't know.

[@wildfyah]

All the people who fought hard af to get those laws in place, thank you

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

Just cuz dude doesn’t listen to Tate doesn’t mean he’s not being misogynistic af. He is _not_ genuinely a feminist. Idc how nice he seems, he’s TA.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

Andrew Tate is a KING OF MEN. The only people who don't like him are simps and women who live to take advantage of men. It's kind of funny how toxic feminism is and we are all supposed to accept it, even when biological males pretend they are women but if a Man points out the absurdity of some women as King Andrew does, then he is a misogynist. Men are waking up to how toxic and horrible many women have become. That's why so many men are finding their women from overseas. Men simply don't want to be married to toxic misandrists.

[@MaryTheresa1986]

Exactly. He thinks OP is a princess because she needed help while she was sick? Being nice is simping? I hope OP sees the light and dumps him before the wedding.

[@t1czer]

OP made it all up.

[@petervanettinger2566]

back in the 80s my parents had to sue our school district to get them to teach my blind sister. The state school for the Deaf and blind was in our town and the local school system refused to have my sister as a student because the state school was so close. I am pretty sure my sister's case would have been sighted if the parents had been forced to take the school to court....

[@cuculain78]

Your parents are amazing for fighting the system for your sister. They made life better for your sister and for many other kids after her.

[@AnneKirk453]

Same here, I am not blind nor deaf though…I’m autistic and have other mental disabilities. Sadly many people thought 💭 I wasn’t going to graduate 👩‍🎓 because of me having problems…Spoiler alert 🚨- I won…(I graduated in May of 2023-many folks were the grade school 🏫 was learned about my story…I wasn’t forgotten but I am not telling my story here) Me- 1 People who doubt me - 0 My parents and sister stood by my side and helped me…

[@littlegreycat]

12:57 simping? Simping??? WTH. Wait until they have a kid and he wont help because she's simping?

[@cuculain78]

Right? Changing diapers will be simping to him. I bet he's going to one of those guys who calls it "babysitting" when he takes care of his own child. This poor woman isn't going to be able to even take a shower when she has little kids without this guy guilt tripping her about it.

[@katphish30]

Don't marry anyone who says "simping" unironically. They're not grown up enough to marry yet.

[@Riomy13]

What kind of school for deaf children bans one of the most widely used ways to communicate for hearing impaired people? I get that they probably want to encourage children to read lips and still use speech to communicate better with others that aren't hearing impaired and cannot use ASL but completely banning it? What about deaf-mutes? Way to have an "inclusive" school that actively discriminates against their own.

[@zellagrace445]

I think sign language should be taught in ALL schools-not just schools for deaf students.

[@thatonearoace]

Yeah, the first time I had the chance to learn sign was in high school, and even then it was through an afterschool program that was only payed for by the school (How many people do you really think are going to go with after school sign rather than at school French/Spanish? That’s not even mentioning the fact that there is a lot of stuff to do to even use the program)

[@AngelaVEdwards]

I agree. I think that would have been fantastic when I was in school.

[@Nielak-dg8nj]

I think we need to work on making sure every kid can read at grade level first!

[@justine8387]

I am in Australia and my youngest child is currently learning Auslan as their language other than English. So rather than learning Japanese or Italian or something. Learning any language other than English has a great benefit to both the brain and children's ability to speak English.

[@janedoe885]

Story 2: I thought simping was supposed to mean being willing to jump through insane hoops for a person who does not give a shit about you or reciprocate in any way? Like I think the whole word and its connotation are dumb tbh but like. Even within what simping is supposed to be I don't think the fiancé is using the word correctly. OP should stop doing any nice things for him, sex included, and see how that goes. By his definition it would be simping after all, and clearly the fiancé doesn't have any respect for simps. So if OP wants his respect she needs to stop simping for him already. He can do that shit himself.

[@catsncrows]

S2 you can have secondary tateness that has filtered all throughout current culture

[@tesla4608]

Sounds like the asking him to fetch things is toxic guy might have pathological demand avoidance.

[@tamarasmith9060]

Story 1: While I haven't directly had to deal with such things, I have heard from others in my area dealing with disability rights. My 1st thought hearing the story was that since the public deaf school "nearby" (an hour away is nearby?) does not provide what this particular child needs, then the public school system would definitely be responsible for covering the cost of the ASL helper in the private school. The parents still would be responsible for the standard tuition at the private school, but their finances would not need to cover what legally the disability funding is set aside for. It would only take getting the right forms filled out along with statements from the child's doctors showing that her needs were different from the kids getting by with "integration to the hearing public" style services. It was so very wrong for the private school to just blatantly deny they could provide an ASL interpreter. Whether they were really ignorant that they could be reimbursed by tax dollars or they simply didn't want to do their part of the research & paperwork to help the parents, that was so wrong. Surely they knew there was a system where kids who had special needs like wheelchairs or such could still get public assistance while in a private school. That school had never once had a child that needed temporary physical help due to an injury, or never once had a young child getting speech therapy for a lisp, or some other special need? I HIGHLY doubt it. Since they are already taking OP & husband's money for their other kids, you'd think they'd be happy to do what research they needed to help the parents willing to pay them another tuition fee at least. I'm glad the other students there seem happy & are getting a good education from caring teachers, but it seems like the principal & other administration staff don't actually care about the kids & only care about the school as a business. ☹️

[@Andbit365]

That last story, op must be desperate or something. I won’t even be shock if her marriage failed or she’s unhappy in the long run. Yikes

[@ladyv5655]

Some people need to be shamed into doing the right thing. Go get 'em, Lioness!

[@kiaswan4306]

At my old school, I'm almost deaf, asl was not allowed. I can hear and speak, but some of my classmates couldn't... It sucked

[@bunbun20203]

Story 2 is the epitome of the orange peel theory. Good luck in the marriage OP

[@hotjanuary]

Story 2: some people need to learn the hard way. They can’t learn from other people sharing their experiences. We’ll see OP again in a few years. Hopefully she’ll listen next time. I can’t imagine how screwed up you have to be to refuse to get something for your partner of all people.

[@roelthas]

Poor last OP, still in denial, trying to switch things so they doesn't sound as bad as they really are.

[@ajb7530]

Even private schools have to obey "The People with disabilities Act". It's a major law.

[@kixi8033]

Story 2: If a guy I was about to marry said that asking him to get me anything was "simping" and "toxic", that relationship would be over in a heartbeat.

[@agentscuzz7637]

If there's 1 thing a school fears above all else, it's bad publicity

[@kp2223]

S2. " I was an only child and my mom never asked me to do this. So now that i'm a husband you shouldn't ask me to do this either" Yeah that's real good husband material

[@Buff_Helpy]

Story 2: she wants to defend this dude so bad.

[@rubymeaddle]

OP the fact your fiancé used the word "simping" to describe normal relationship stuff is a sign he's not mature to get married

[@SunnyD74]

“They provided a scholarship and idk why”…because they don’t want a MAJOR lawsuit for violating human rights.

[@justine8387]

"Genuinely a feminist" until he is asked for something he doesnt understand, then the little woman is being irrational.

[@thekawaiiseeall]

That comment section really took the love languages seriously. Didn't realize people hated it that much. You're allowed to have all of them as a love language.

[@owl7072]

They're out there judging people for taking it seriously while taking how much they hate it equally as seriously 💀 It's not really a matter of picking only one and sticking to it, it's just... which do you prefer more?

[@ndawn90]

Totally agree. It's just a framework to help people contextualize how they best feel love, how their partner best feels love, and how you and your partner best express love. You can have one or two or five, there are no rules stating that you have to pick one and stick with it. Just because something came from a homophobic person, that doesn't automatically mean that all of their ideas are wrong or invalid. I found the love languages to be really helpful as a neurodivergent person, as it helped me contextualize how I best feel love and how I best express love. And not just romantic love, it's even been helpful with my relationships with my siblings. For example, I'm big on physical affection, as is one of my siblings. The other two hate physical affection and are more about acts of service/gifts. They give me hugs because they know it's important to me, and I express my love to them with gifts. It means more to me because I know they don't like giving hugs, but they do it because they know it matters to me, and that's how I know that they really love me. It's just not that deep.

[@opalglass8101]

When it comes to love language, I show my love through saying I love you, making things for others, and helping. I remember hearing of a story where a kid was quite sad because he was quite touch-starved and his parents were stupidly busy. His love language was touch and he hadn't had a hug in a while (like his parents were so busy they wouldn't come home until his was already in bed). I think there's some truth to love languages, especially when it comes to the autisim spectrum (some with autisim can't stand touch but show their love in other ways).

[@tipr.999]

I'm trying to figure out what country this person is in because in the Deep South US public school in which I used to work kids were being taught to read in kindergarten.

[@azadalamiq]

ya.. plus parents should be teaching kids basic skills as well... like kinda got ew vibes from "i had to teach my kid to read." like... in my time most parents are the ones who taught their kids to read.. x.x

[@thebigmystery7841]

This stuff really depends on state stuff and the school themselves...Ive seen differences in all kinds of things from disability to reading. Some schools prioritize certain stuff over others. I went to a school that only had one health class which is different in other places. I will also say as someone whos worked in daycare the last several years with the pendemic and other things and a lot of stuff either is on the school or on the parents. I remember when my little brother was in school he also had to read at home more compared to what I did. It really just depends as districts and whats required is sketchy all over.

[@carachoplin6952]

My advice for story 1 is to not make a fuss, get her in, then schedule a meeting to discuss her accommodations and bring a lawyer to that meetings. Schools will typically cave when a lawyer makes their presence known and suing is no longer necessary.

[@myeternalteardrop]

I'm pretty sure that the school offering what they did was less about maintaining their image and more about them violating federal law and being threatened with a lawsuit that they would most likely not win and what they were offering was basically an off-the-books settlement to avoid that.

[@littlegreycat]

23:37 Holy crap roomie hit him in the face! Good job.

[@cuculain78]

That guy was awesome

[@littlegreycat]

@@cuculain78 punch first! Ask questions later lol

[@mikehilbert9349]

Story 1: That is not a deaf school, it is a hard of hearing school.

[@DragonflyandTheWolf]

"This is going to shock a few people, but he's genuinely a feminist." Girl, so was Joss Whedon and look how that turned out.

[@livewellwitheds6885]

story 1- op is a good dad. he really cares about his daughter & knows what is best for her. also to me his fight is important because it may impact other people in similar situations!

[@80soa]

Story 2: this is the married switch up. OP needs to get the fuck away from this man.

[@brittalex42]

He started an argument over him getting her a drink, while he was already in the kitchen. Let's say that this isn't toxic for a second. He still was unwilling to help you in such a small way that he chose to start an argument about it rather than help his fiance. Also, they didn't actually communicate in a way that resolves anything. Yeah, this fight finished after she took her nail polish off and did it herself but what is the plan next time that she needs help?

[@sharyebethancourt3660]

Story 2: sounds like dude went down the wrong lane on KZbin.

[@drakesnake330]

did anyone else see the guys tag line about the " jar" or is that just me that saw that and had horror flashbacks?

[@LisaApril]

Story one: brother-in-law deserves a very special gift.

[@FanFicnic]

Story 2: I have to actively tell my husband he is allowed to say no when I ask for something bcuz he’s too generous and will go way out of his way to bring it to me. He’s gotten a lot better about saying no or not right now the longer we live together

[@Divcia86]

At first i was amazed at how do she has a BIL specializing in disability laws and still went to reddit for advice first? How was she HOH and had a deaf kid and didn't reserch those laws herself? Clues: fact that she didn't know about deaf culture and her idiot brothers advice. OP's family was either ableist or idiots, there is not thord choice about it.

[@myrabeth77]

Story two: I am so confused by this couple and those like them. They think they're in love, but they don't like or respect each other. They think they should get married, but the basic kindnesses of cohabitation are issues of contention. Doing little stuff for each other comes with the territory, and shouldn't feel like a chore or be an invitation to a debate. People, this is not complicated. Your romantic life partner should also be among your dearest friends and be a compatible roommate. If they can't be an easy and comfortable part of your life as friend and roommate, they are not spouse material for you.

[@maurer3d]

Story 2: NTA, run.... He is a misogynist, and if you marry this man you will be his slave. In a healthy relationship both partners (married or not) are willing to get things for the other. Story 2 (update): OMG.... Your fiance just gaslit you and you fell for it.

[@kanelovec4315]

S2. What a hypocrite. It simping if a man get a women something but it's normal if a women does it. Then that toxic line about her asking. My dude she isn't holding a gun and making you do it or making you do a crime, she asking you to grab her a drink because she busy or cant at the moment. I hope op fix his head straight or leave him

[@afrogwitch]

The brother (uncle to the little deaf girl) is so spineless lol

[@Nevertoleave]

I’m glad the school my kids are/will be going to isn’t insane. My youngest is disabled and I feel fairly okay with him being able to get what he needs there. There are kids there who are autistic, need mobility aids, and I see a deaf boy with hearing aids when I’m there. They have like 6 teachers and each class has one or more education assistants. It’s not a big school only about one class per grade as it’s one of the first schools built in the city and made for a much smaller population. The kindergarten class was split into two after about a month because they had so many kids at once this year, about 26

[@LaviniaKing-hz9ue]

--- The Disability Act is a Federal Law and they must provide accommodation. Your lawyer BIL scared the sh*t out of the school. They knew they were in the wrong. --- Your nails were wet, he thinks that getting her a drink is beneath him. Who raised this man, who doesn't understand getting a drink for someone is a common good manner?

[@mandykawaii1646]

Story 2 Girl….. you had to take off your nail polish to get yourself a glass of wine… It was a simple request!! “Since you are going there; get me one too, please” like….. you really want to cosplay a doormat so bad. Your updates clearly show how immature he is ( tho he is older than you by almost A DECADE) and how unhinge your “argument” was to begin with. “Truly a feminist” ? B where? A person who is “truly a feminist” would not talk to their partner like that. If doing acts of kindness for your significant other is TOXIC; what the f is the alternative?

[@MissPumpkin91]

“Princes behavior” is asking to bring you things? Wtf?

[@Bala_Niranna]

"hes not a tate fan, he only knows the reddit usage of simp!" Boo...reddit is also misogynistic with that word

[@Nerdbookworm]

I hope for the second op when she inevitably gets cheated on she gets clowned on by Reddit for it

[@jennstewart3003]

The thing about sign language can helps EVERYONE! Think about how many people go deaf for other reasons than birth

[@EvilTwin559]

I once got out of bed at 3am to get my very pregnant wife egg rolls from JITB. I guess I'm a simp.

[@justine8387]

Yes, apparently behaving like a human and being kind to others is a terrible quality in a (check notes) ummm human.

[@littlegreycat]

Love languages was a huge tool in Christian marriage counseling for a long time. I think it's a bit less in use now but still common.

[@owl7072]

^^^^ I use the terms because it's an easier/faster way of explaining how I like to show affection without diving into much detail

[@morgaincrochettiger]

My love language is shitposting. My wife's is "I saw this and thought of you" I see no reason to be trapped by the five invented by a homophobic Christian minister!

[@summerdais325]

I feel sick hearing of these disability protections. I'm 49, and I have had a court refuse accommodation. Schoolls? A note-taker. Carbon copies. All the opportunities and culture I have missed out on. I want to learn ASL, but that service isn't provided to Deaf adults. Or, is it? I feel like I have been gaslit my whole life. Genuinely, truly. Not everyone. But, have had more than my fair share of gaslighting..

[@rclark8688]

The last one doesn't feel like a clean resolution to me. Hopefully there was more to the conversation. Like is this a one time incident, or a pattern of behavior? Does he still see her as entitled and spoiled, is he going to do better at acknowledging and appreciating the changes she makes for him?

[@nukerwolf7788]

Simping for who you are dating umm that doesn't sound so bad if both people are "simping" for each other

[@EndThisNow13]

Story 1. Thats really weird. When youre in a relationship you do things for eachother.

[@wmdkitty]

S1: OP is an a-hole. Daughter is ENTITLED TO ACCOMMODATIONS. The private "school" won't provide them. The public school is REQUIRED TO PROVIDE ACCOMMODATIONS. OP needs to stop with the private school, because that is a non-starter.

[@MomoYomyi]

I don’t understand your comment, but I assume you want op to put the daughter in public school? That doesn’t even make sense, public school is horrible and the daughter probably wouldn’t have even learned basic math before she learned ASL. And the private school was required to provide accommodations, which is why they flipped there script so quickly when a lawyer was involved

[@wmdkitty]

@@MomoYomyi Public schools are the only real schools left. "Charter" schools and private "schools" don't educate properly, neither does home "schooling". Public school, where the daughter will be GUARANTEED accommodations is the best placement.

[@DaniS398]

So not surprised that private school is in SC. Southern states are a joke when it comes to their education, as someone who went to school in the FL and watched my lil sis go to school in SC.

[@abiv4469]

19 years between my hubby and i, when hes in the kitchen he will happily make me a cold diet coke or water, if im in the kitxhen i will happily make him a coffee. Some times age gaps are fine, depends on the people in them.

[@bridgetdebourgh5698]

Hey Markee Have a good night 👍 Have a great day/night everyone 👋🤗 From Louisiana 🐊

[@wildfyah]

OP 3 took the gloves off 😂😂😂😂 people were saying what the gf said didn't make sense. But damn let's hope those 2 stay off the market for a long time

[@RobertCampsall]

"Deaf culture", I'm sorry to say, is an example of trying to make a virtue out of a restriction. Since it is so fantastic and superior, any reasonable parent should render their child deaf so they can participate in this paradise. Obviously, I'm being hyperbolic, but the stance of some deaf people is so ridiculous it deserves pointing out. Despite handicaps, we should strive for everyone to live as a fulfilling life as possible. Making the best of a situation does not mean insisting that situation is the "best".

[@dragonrider1549]

Story 2 - the only thing I think OP did wrong in this how she went about it. Personally I don’t mind doing favors for people, but people who pull that turnabout crap annoy me. Don’t ask people if they want to do or get anything, then expect them to do all the work. Granted it’s a little thing, but I’m a firm believer that these little things start adding until it becomes a major problem.

[@daniellebenfield95]

Personally, I would either homeschool, or use a cyber school option. You can find things for your daughter to participate in so she can be social.

[@nightdweller6446]

S2. Ummm...nta but BF is a bit of ah. Does he not get that its just polite or being helpful and an adult? I'd rethink this, he's going to be obnoxious to live with

[@TessuDraws]

The conclusion to story 2 left a really bad taste in my mouth...

[@alexisgrunden1556]

Last story: Some of those commenters? If they don't feel comfortable with firearms or stuff like that, I would _REALLY_ recommend they look into larger dog breeds; Malinois and Dutch Shepherds, anything in the personal/property guarding section of the working classes and at least 70 lbs. Actually, they might wanna get one anyways, regardless of their feelings on personal weaponry; having a big dog is like having a gun and a security system all in one, that you can snuggle with!

[@drawingdame7718]

What do you mean? That story isn’t in this video.

[@cuculain78]

​​@@drawingdame7718I think they are talking about the commenters talking about their abusive exes

[@alexisgrunden1556]

@@cuculain78 Yes, this; commenters on the last story, not the story itself. Sorry for the confusion, @drawingdame7718

[@drawingdame7718]

@@alexisgrunden1556 I see. I’m sorry! Thank you for clearing that up!

[@madcatlady]

second one only child syndrome in my family everyone gender irrelevant offered to get others beverages or asked for beverages, Aussies in general do

[@reneenoriega4524]

S2 girl be for real, he's not a "hardcore feminist" if calling himself a simp for (checks notes) giving you a glass of something he was already going to get Second comments: it's not even an act of kindness, it's basic courtesy for god's sake

[@littlegreycat]

This post pisses me off again. I forgot how good the ending was.

[@stuffedninja1337]

You’re not single, what happened to you being all of our Aussie Hubbies?

[@starlaaster523]

Love languages should just be a starting point to help discuss needs. Everybody has a certain amount of the languages but you lean more towards one or two. So its a short hand to say of all the ways i receive love i value this type more. When your parent says his is one completely opposite from yours it can bring to light why yall aren't connecting or getting annoyed. For example my ex wanted to do activities together to feel love but i value quality time so i felt unloved sense he always needed an activity when spending time together. So when you understand why theres a disconnect you can then work on it.

[@julias2855]

I do tons of stuff for husband. He does tons for me. We text eachother if in a different room 🤣🤣 But both our cultures are very polite Edit: husband is 20 years older. Edit: he tells me I’m his princess. He’s my baby and we spoil eachother. Lol.

[@Zaners82123]

I agree with how ridiculous love language sounds. You make love to your partner everyday bythe little things you do for them and they do for you. Nothing should be mandatory. If youre irritating your partner its because you either went above and beyond taking their generosity for granted or they arent really that greatcof a human.

[@sciguy98]

Story 2, I actually kinda understand the husband, lol. My mom would do this thing I hate all the time: "Hey, you know what would be goid right now? Ice cream! You want some ice cream? Ok, then go het it yourself and bring me some." Like, she'd work me up like she was going to get us ice cream, then reverse it to get me to serve her instead. And she admitted that was 100% what she was doing. The OP did exactly the same thing and it would rub me the wrong way, too. But, that's incredibly specific to me

[@hellbent1234]

Please forgive my ignorance, I have absolutely no knowledge of sign language and how it works, I hear ASL (I assume American sign language). So on to my question, (please dont lol at me), would it be possible to have an international sigh language, so everyone using it could communicate.

[@drewthistlethwaite8909]

S1: sue. Sue

[@linola644]

For the first story, am I the only one thinking that expecting a kindergarden to teach the kids to read is insane lol ? We learn that when we start primary school in France, and the kids are 6-7

[@smapa1185]

No? The earlier a child learns to read, the better it is for their development. Babies can learn to read. I learned to read the alphabet before I spoke. As a result, I have no issues with reading, spelling, etc, and other languages are easier to learn. It's insane to me that global education doesn't start teaching reading and writing at an age of 2-3 years old.

[@paytynbutler2007]

No we Taught my younger cousins to start reading before sending them to preschool and actually here in the U.S kindergarten is usually about 5-6 years old at least in my state. I know I started kindergarten when I was 5 right about to turn 6.

[@cuculain78]

My kids could read before kindergarten. We read to them a lot and they started picking up on what the words were on their own.

[@Nevertoleave]

I knew how to read before kindergarten (turned five in school). My daughter is learning in kindergarten though. She can write her own name and recognized most letters and numbers now. It’s pretty normal in North America for them to start the very basics in pre-school or kindergarten

[@wmdkitty]

Yeah, you're the only one. Parents are supposed to teach kids to AT LEAST recognize letters and small words on sight BEFORE Kindergarten.

[@wut37inarow]

Second story, she had wet polish on her nails just do it