Should Men Get MARRIED In Today's Society?

[@Rodd707]

Saying that 40-50% of marriages end in divorce isn’t red pill, that’s a fact.. I’ve had divorce lawyers tell me this

[@CGAPU]

Religious people (practicing religious people) get divorced at much lower rates. And the divorce rate, in general, is around 40%.

[@Rodd707]

@@CGAPU agreed, but none of what we are saying should be considered “red pill” it’s just an objective fact

[@daivahataka]

Also saying "oh it's not 50% it's about 35-40%" is not really the counter argument. Being told you only have a 35% chance of something really bad happening is not much more comforting than 50%, it's still pretty high especially for a circumstance you can avoid entirely simply by not marrying.

[@aaronwylie6928]

It is indeed statistics, but that also means 50-60% of marriages don't end in divorce

[@CGAPU]

@@daivahataka You're assuming staying unmarried doesn't have any consequences for most people.

[@Gebri3l]

The laws need to change.

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

Do you mean no fault divorce laws? Or laws around financial division on divorce?

[@camfreed9829]

Right instead of talking about that. They went on a long rant saying “divorce rates are make believe”……

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

@@MarkLeel if someone wants divorce e.g. they are being treated badly, why chain them to their spouse and prevent them from divorcing? I think no fault divorce is good. It just shows everyone how ridiculous marriage is.

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

@@MarkLeel at fault divorce just results in people making false allegations, or just ticking the irreconcible differences box. So, either way, even without no fault divorce, it would still be pretty easy to get out of a marriage. I think your view that unhappy people should stay in a marriage is very extreme. Those days are long gone now women are educated, have high paying jobs and the backing of female judges in the divorce courts.

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

@@MarkLeel if no fault divorce was cancelled, people would just tick the "irreconcilable differences" box and just make a bunch of false allegations. judges in family court don't have the time to waste on this BS. People just need to tick "no fault" and be done with it. Your suggestion of no no-fault divorce is not workable and practical. It would have people drowning in legal fees and false allegations. Divorce is bad enough without false allegations. Particularly if the false allegations relate to the kids, which would make it a million times worse for the men. If men are too scared (or smart) to take the gamble and risk of marriage, just don't get married. Simple.

[@jillianshene9887]

there is no need for marriage if you don't want kids.

[@hazelholmshaw9415]

I was married for over 50 years,and we were not church goers,so that didn't make any difference to the two of us,we just worked at it ,they have no staying power today.

[@MrsKartier]

I agree

[@paintingvalues]

The thing about a shared religion is that it almost guarantees that you will both share the same values. Not only that but it surrounds you with a community where the members have similar successful circumstances reinforcing your relationship as a result. Even as an atheist I see the value in it.

[@Justlooking0018]

Never get married. It's absolutely the worst contract ever

[@Fife_knight]

The answer is no

[@MexicanNerd10]

The answer is… Under God: Yes With the state: No

[@TheConsideredMan]

@@MexicanNerd10 Don't be ridiculous...under god...what the f*ck does that even mean? Get real, will you!!

[@rugdnit911]

Hell to the NO

[@DTreatz]

@@MexicanNerd10 and if you don't believe in religion? 🤔

[@MexicanNerd10]

@@DTreatz Then I’d say you haven’t studied apologetics/philosophy…

[@laststop3h]

So there's only a 35% chance of losing half or more of everything I have ever worked for? Shit, sign me up!

[@fmagalhaes1521]

If I were in my 20’s or 30’s in the West today, I would not get married. The risk to reward is too great for a male in the West.

[@alterbridgegod]

Thanks for the advice

[@DTreatz]

For the male _anywhere_ * ftfy.

[@fmagalhaes1521]

@Sam97-oi4vc I married a long time ago to a non Western woman before all this feminist insanity really kicked. In.

[@tcgtpl]

Saying the divorce rate is 35-40% being so much less than the oft-touted 50% is ridiculous. That’s like saying playing Russian Roulette is so much safer because with an eight-barrel revolver there’s three bullets in the barrel instead of four.

[@sjappiyah4071]

In America, a 10% difference is equivalent to around 10 MILLION people when talking about marriage aged individuals, that’s significant

[@aminahmad2595]

In western culture most people are not marriage material. So yes, you are very likely to get divorced. Makes sense why you all are so hesitant. One more thing any culture that has lost the institution of marriage has ended up like the west. Broken home after broken home. It’s too late for you guys. What will happen now is more conservative cultures will take over with their strong family structure. Nature weeds out the weak.

[@chuck1052]

It's higher or lower depending on where you live. Orange county has a 72% Divorce rate.

[@hamidousy5460]

Should men marry? Short answer : no Longer answer: laws and culture much change significantly first and foremost

[@DTreatz]

Men must have power or society will fall, never in history has a female egalitarian society worked and lasted.

[@MattyBoom]

I’m from the U.K. and just got back off my holidays in Spain 🇪🇸 It was full of traditional families walking on the promenade late at night, eating out at good food and good value restaurants with their family and so much more family oriented activities. It was a joy being out there again. On being married - I actually love it. I love being a dad. I love being a husband. It does take work at times like anything that is worth it. It is very worth it in more ways than one. I feel like I’m a much better person for being a traditional family man. Believe me I did not think I would ever become who I am now, but I did. For that I’m forever grateful 🙏❤️ I know not everyone wants to get married and I have many friends who lead fantastic lives and are still very traditional in their values without being married or a parent. It fills me with joy that we have so much good in humanity. Thank you for this clip guys. Matty 💯

[@rzn2258]

Its better to stay committed as a couple without getting married.

[@theaniebeanie123]

On the point of divorcing over wanting or not wanting children. That should be a conversation that EVERYONE should have before they tie the knot. Other problem is, the people who do and one says they don't want children, and the one who DOES thinks that eventually the other will change their mind after they marry. I've seen that happen more than once unfortunately. And they NEVER change their mind about having children. Great discussion guys.

[@cg-1973]

I've seen the opposite. People dead set on wanting children, and not being changed by their spouse, but changed by circumstances and wanting them.

[@crispyc2335]

Marriage is still needed to keep the family unit committed beyond the temptations that exist but these laws suck ass

[@JeffCaplan313]

💯

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

Marriage is not commitment. It is just a piece of paper. The piece of paper doesn't mean anything because you can get divorced. What laws are you talking about? No fault divorce? Financial divorce laws? Child custody?

[@crispyc2335]

@@marriagecausesdivorce7540 let’s be honest . It’s a piece of paper that people take more serious than anything else. If we convince the world that than humans are just going to separate even faster .

[@JeffCaplan313]

@marriagecausesdivorce7540 Is life meaningless because we can die?

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

@@JeffCaplan313 depends on whose life you are talking about. some people are unable to consider the meaning of life and fulfil their potential because they are slaves, being trafficked, living on less than a dollar/day, etc. I don't understand why you asked such a vague question.

[@magicbuns4868]

Conservatives, particularly of the American variation, tend to completely ignore that marriage isn't a religious institution but a legal one...and that it's not a Bible that matters but legal text... Which is dominated by feminist,not Christian, perspectives. Annoys me how tradcons act more like feminist lapdogs over marriage rather than admit that marriage, legally speaking, is broken and needs fixing.

[@DTreatz]

I've said this before, Trad*Cons* don't _actually_ care about men, they care about their _stable_ society for them and their kids. Those aren't the same thing. They want slaves back on the plantation so the plantation doesn't fail. They don't give two shits about men any more than females: as ATM machines. They're clowns, the only group that makes the best sense for men now are the MGTOWs, it has their best interest in mind.

[@cg-1973]

My parents are divorced. My grandparents are divorced. On paper, my brother and I would be a horrible candidate for marriage and more likely to divorce. We've both been married, and I don't see either of us divorcing. Both of us looked for role models. He joined the Greek Orthodox church. I read a lot of Gottman. We also both married "late" (but, maybe not coincidentally, in the "Goldilocks zone" of 28-32.)

[@cyber6sapien]

NOT getting divorced is not an indicator that people are in a happy LTR.

[@DTreatz]

Yep, "cheaper to keep her" is a thing they seem to gloss over.

[@Kenny-Ross]

@@cyber6sapien Absolutely 💯

[@n3bmusic]

What percentage of those folks in church and still married are actually mutually happy and not cheating?

[@LMWast1]

Great discussion, highlights the fundamentals well - poor life decisions lead to poor life outcomes. It's a shame we are shifting our focus as a society to identity politics these days instead of valuing character development and personal integrity .

[@1murkeybadmayn]

I get that red pillers overexaggerate some statistics but one thing that was ignored in this video is that our generation is different from your parents' generation. Do you actually think millennial and gen z marriages will last as long as that of your parents? Exactly. No one cares if the divorce stat is exaggerated; the issue is not the percentage itself but the percentage change.

[@DTreatz]

like "oh no, it's not 50% its 35%!" ok so instead of 1/2 it's 1/3, I'm still not jumping out the fkin plane with a parachute that has a 1/3 chance of failing. ruslan is a clown.

[@lameishawest2461]

"Look at the statistics for your demographics." and "Know when you are the norm and when you are the exception. " Love these two statements.

[@TruthWarriorB88]

Marriage? At this point?? No way.

[@DWEthiopia]

I don't believe most men can't do at least 1 pull up. I would believe 5 pull ups. But 1 pull up, that's crazy.

[@chalimutangama5840]

Initially my married friends told me dont do a wedding, its xpensive for nothing. A few years later, they say dont get married. I realized the costly wedding was the womans, idea, the women stresses the dude, and then comes the divorce.

[@hypergraphic]

As someone going through divorce after 15 years of marriage, it would take a lot for me to get married again. Things can go well for a decade, and then bam something happens, a black swan event, that triggers a cascade of discontent in the marriage. Add on the well know problem that exists in the court system, and there is no way to know for sure that your marriage won't end, unless you are prepared to be in a bad marriage for the rest of your life, should things go south. And as for the divorce rate among Christians, I see what you did with the language there citing divorce among "committed Christians". Yeah, that's like saying that Christians who leave the faith (such as myself) were never true Christians. It's so easy to exclude people who mess up your stats.

[@MrsKartier]

So you left the faith and got worldly/secular results,Is that what you’re saying? If so that’s not surprising. I haven’t really met a man in my age group that worships God(prayer, Bible study,etc). I’ve had men I’ve dated tell me I won’t find such a man. God said if the Israel/Christian nations disobey His commands, women and children will rule over men(Isaiah 3:12). If men would return back to the faith, then maybe society would be better since Men and Women make up society. There were more Men that believed in God in the days where family structure was a little more in order. Muslim nations don’t have this problem because Muslim nations actually fear their God. Christians do not fear our God because all the lies that these preachers speak saying that God Will allow you to do whatever your heart desires and you still can get into the Kingdom of God.

[@wilts8965]

Maybe marriage is just not for everyone.

[@hypergraphic]

@@MrsKartier You know nothing about my marriage. There was a lot going on and my leaving the faith was simply the catalyst that brought it all out.

[@MrsKartier]

@@hypergraphic Well I Never said I did, I’m simply going off your statement that you left God and the moment you did, your marriage fell apart which you just admitted in your latest post. My point is ….The Bible made it very clear what happens when a Jewish/Christian nation turns their back on Him. The gender war(Relationships,LGBT) that we are going through right now is a result of us completely and I mean completely removing God out of our society.

[@MrsKartier]

@@wilts8965 🤔 hmmm. I honestly think a successful Marriage is tied to character. It’s not for the selfish, self-centered, non discipline, lazy, greedy, deaf,weak and Godless. It requires you to share , be selfless ,compromise, self evaluate, be accountable, work hard, listen ,be resilient , which are all possible with God.

[@MarcusGreen-y7g]

I’ve known a lot of bad things to happen from people having the “well I’m the 1%” or “that won’t happen to me” mindset. This doesn’t seem like good advice Zuby. The main question regarding marriage remains unanswered: why should you sign a contract with someone who is incentivized to break it? Why does there have to be a contract at all? Why can’t I just have a woman, have kids, and have a loving family? Why do we have to sign a government contract? Make it make sense

[@shawn4110]

80% of businesses fail, but the 20% of successful business starters will still insist that having a 'success mindset' is important to successful business. When you only look at the small pool of successful people and ignore that almost everyone fails, it gives people like Zuby comfort in their delusion. He isn't giving advice, he is voicing a mantra to comfort him and reaffirm his delusion.

[@TheConsideredMan]

The chances of me ever marrying again are slim to anorexic; I was doing all of the heavy lifting from day one, and I put the f*cking flags out when it ended!! Women are still stuck in the dark ages when it comes to fairness and an egalitarian approach to partnership...

[@AlternateCurrent.]

Damn it. what’s your ranking? What’s your net worth?? What’s your skill set, who are your investors/friends? Where did you find that girl and why??

[@Gebri3l]

Women have been in the dark ages since we were apes, since Adam and Eve, We are responsible for bringing the light

[@TheConsideredMan]

@@AlternateCurrent. As a Sigma male, I am happy in my own company and if I am to share it with someone else, then they have to bring something to the table that interests me and will engage me...if that isn't there, then neither will she be! I don't need a woman to 'complete' me as I was born 'whole' and the last thing I need is someone doing their best to empty the bucket I am filling; whether it is being filled with wealth, knowledge / wisdom, intelligence or intellect!

[@laraking804]

Most of women I know do all the cooking, cleaning and raise the kids AND have a full time job. So yeah men are equally in the dark ages. Here is Ireland average home is close to 1 million euros. Average salary 40K. Most can’t get a mortgage on a single salary. So when both are working full time both should share thee household chores equally and that isn’t happening for many.

[@laraking804]

We can argue on which side isn’t pulling their weight forever but the reality is that the majority of humans regardless of gender or race are simply garbage. Self serving, navel gazing only serving their own little bubble.

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

Best people to interview on the topic of marriage are Dr David Buss (scientist), Dr Orion Taraban (clinical psychologist), and The Lead Attorney (divorce attorney). They all say exactly the same thing. Humans are a serially monogamous species (not lifelong pair bonding). And the best wives are mentally and emotionally stable, stress resistant, calm, patience, tolerant and agreeable.

[@TheConsideredMan]

The other matter to consider here, is neither the man nor woman involved in the divorce or marital breakdown. The society we live in must be considered as a significant factor, and certainly here in the UK, it does not lend itself to stability of any sort, or in it's wider sense, and I believe that to be purposeful of Government. Governments are completely corrupt and cannot be trusted, central banks and the wider financial system bail themselves out with OUR money and with the aid of those same corrupt Governments, who in the same breath are chronically indebted to and by extension controlled by the powers that be. We, the plebeians, are told that we live in a Democracy but fail to understand the etymology of the word, versus it's common but incorrectly held meaning. We believe have to work until we die, because a completely flawed education system that only educates us to the point where we can work and pay tax, but fails to educate us well enough to question the status quo! The average man / woman on the street is a wage slave, and juggling all of these 'pestilences' leaves little or no room for 'relationship maintenance', which only adds to the further and continued atomisation of society...very simply put...Divided THEY rule, and the average reader here will just be another economic unit, that believe themselves to be free. You're NOT free at all and have little or no freedom of choice or thought! For the avoidance of doubt, 'there are none so hopelessly enslaved, as those that believe themselves to be free'... Please read 'On the Importance of Civil Disobedience' by Thoreau...there is a need for civil disobedience for evolution to continue, people; learning to say NO, starts the ball rolling and is key to survival...

[@ghost_illmatic]

Remember when TLA talked to Ruslan. It didn't go to well for Ruslan 😂

[@marriagecausesdivorce7540]

@@ghost_illmatic Ruslan got son'ed. That was the difference between man vs boy, or expert vs amateur. That was a great teaching moment. Most guys don't wanna debate TLA for that reason. It is easy to talk about marriage until you come up against TLA.

[@ghost_illmatic]

@@marriagecausesdivorce7540 facts. 💯

[@obviouslyasockpuppet]

There is plenty the man sacrifices and little he gains which the narcissistic women all don't get. It's not men getting back at you by rejecting marriage, ladies. It's just a rational decision based on a cost to benefit analysis. If you want a husband, make yourself the kind of woman that a man is happy to be around and no, none of you are perfect just the way you are.

[@Anna_78953]

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[@DennisGregory355]

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[@BennyBunnyy]

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[@Anna_78953]

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[@yamahayua4802]

My first investment with Mrs.Mary Margaret Schimweg gave $50k and she made me invest without fear of losing, I have four of my friends that I refer to her and they are making profits just like me. God bless Mrs Mary Margaret Schimweg.

[@gabriellemetott1887]

Who is this Mrs Mary Margaret Schimweg!!?

[@Kaous10]

Even if we were to take the 35% divorce rate as fact, it really doesn't matter much to me because the legal layout in the west isn't conducive to it. Also basic cost benefit analysis, is marriage worth it for me? What do you get out of marriage? Do you value the things you are getting out of marriage more than what you would stand to lose? For me personally, marriage isn't really worth it when crunching these factors through cost benefit analysis.

[@magicbuns4868]

There's been a coordinated effort from the traditional right wing against men's right activism, and I feel like it's because the tradcon argument of "Get married, and if you get divorced, it's the man's fault and he deserves what he gets" isn't really resonating with men in this increasingly sexist society. They should argue to fix the legality of marriage instead of banging on about the Bible blah blah blah

[@CGAPU]

Religious people (practicing religious people) get divorced at much lower rates. And the divorce rate, in general (including non religious people), is around 40%.

[@impudentdomain]

What information are you using ? What I have seen is that the lower rate is not very much lower. Especially if you count out the really old people from a different generation.

[@CGAPU]

@@impudentdomain Search the Harvard study: Religious Service Attendance, Divorce, and Remarriage Among U.S. Nurses in Mid- and Late-Life.

[@CGAPU]

@@impudentdomain Read this article, too: Regular Church Attenders Marry More and Divorce Less Than Their Less Devout Peers by the IFS.

[@CGAPU]

@@impudentdomain This is the relevant factor to take into account: regular mass attendance.

[@CGAPU]

@@impudentdomain Education levels, especially in relation to wives, is another protective factor against divorce.

[@ryanm9628]

Divorce rate is 50% or higher. The climate in todays society is not set up for marriage, unless you are religious. If I can give you any advice, get a prenup.

[@impudentdomain]

I do not agree with you Zuby. Your way of thinking will leave a lot of men destroyed. Thinking that you will somehow escape unscathed, hhhmmm famous last words.

[@DTreatz]

Reminds me of Thor quote: Thor: _"I have no plans to die today."_ Heimdall: _"None do."_ Zuby is a Trad*CON* and I've said this before but TradCons _need_ slaves back on the plantation, they don't actually give a shit about _men_ they give a shit about their precious society being stable for them and their kids. Those are not the same thing.

[@littlecatfeet9064]

The paradox of living in the developed West (and parts of Asia and South America) is that individuals are given education and freedom and when they get those things they’re less likely to choose early marriage and many children. This is as relevant to the US as it is to Italy, Iran and Japan. Lawmakers could use social engineering laws to try to change that like American lawmakers repealed Roe v Wade to force more women to give birth, but it will mostly affect the young women that conservatives disapprove of for being single mothers anyway. Family tax benefits and generous maternity/paternity leave, for example in Scandinavia and Australia, does help in getting a slightly higher birthrate but it doesn’t prevent divorce among financially secure people with options. You could legislate to make divorce harder and to base more laws on Judeo-Christian values, but in doing so you lose the libertarian principles that guarantee freedom of speech and movement. I have no idea what the solution is to people not wanting marriage and children but I suspect it will be more of a social “carrot” like family tax benefits than a legal stick.

[@Kreymore]

Incentives will always be how society mobilizes toward a general outcome. When you analyze the landscape of relationships, marriage is a greater detriment than benefit to most men, especially if you can not afford it.

[@rangerwhite7091]

Christian s still lose half their stuff in divorce. Don’t t do it.

[@hurdyb1]

This was a great video and message rhat needs to be spread. So positively counter to what is honestly on the internet nowadays.

[@shawn4110]

What was positive about it? 44% is the current divorce rate, which while lower than 50%, it is still abysmal. The best divorce rate is 30-35% for practicing Catholics, and that same low divorce rate is shared by another group, atheists. Clearly religion does not improve your results, and a divorce rate of even 1% is a bad statistic. More than a third is still absolutely abyssmal. Would you ever get into an airplane again if you had a 1/3 chance of crashing in a fiery death every time you flew from one city to the other? Zuby brought nothing positive either. His entire argument hinges on being in the top 25% of men. That means that for the vast majority of men, they should all avoid marriage. Mathematically, it is impossible for most men to ever be above average, thus the majority of people who watch this video do not meet the criteria for a successful marriage, and can never meet that criteria. Far from being positive, Zuby's argument is closer to the black pill view of marriage - ie even less positive than even the red pill viewpoint.

[@hurdyb1]

@shawn4110 - Strong feelings you have? Still bitter over something my guy?

[@shawn4110]

@@hurdyb1Those are numbers, not feelings. Feelings are irrelevant.

[@FemKan]

Wise words again.. Thank you Zuby!

[@WDMtea]

Marriage is a bad financial decision.

[@yomi3099]

I say this all the time and being a christian. Christians I knew growing up I saw a lot of cheating and abuse but sometimes they did not divorce due to image. You also do not have to christian for the same deal. Fam of mine has been divorced 3 times. Her longest relationship that just ended was not in marriage.

[@AG-io5wr]

No.

[@karld6309]

This is conservative cope. Even if the divorce rate is only 35%, it's because so many are avoiding marriages these days.

[@arroyhondo]

Only!? 1 in 3 is still astronomical

[@DTreatz]

went from 1/2 to 1/3 lmfao IF it was a parachute I *STILL* would not jump out the fkin plane my guy lmao. They're clowns for this. 😂

[@midasthestallion4105]

I hear people talking about the RP/Manosphere a lot. You can have your opinions, but try actually talking to some mainstream RP people. Bring all your stats and info, and do what it do. That's one of thr reasons why I have a lot of respect for people like Destiny. They do their research and bring their info on the panel and have a debate.

[@JMBBrasil]

Where was this during your conversation with Lila Rose..?

[@artgarfunkelsgingerfro2886]

If you find the right woman. But with a prenup. Married now. If this one ends I would never get married again.

[@daivahataka]

Many countries do not accept prenups and even those that do you find the courts are really eager to set them aside on the most ridiculous claims from the woman, e.g. you refused to get married without a prenup thus she was "coerced" into signing it and it should be invalidated. 🙄

[@DTreatz]

Just don't get married to begin with. Problem solved before it starts.

[@artgarfunkelsgingerfro2886]

@@DTreatz Married is the best way to raise kids. If you find the right person it's amazing.... but people get married far too quickly now. My parents were married 50 years before my father passed away. They were an incredible couple and it was something I aspired too.

[@BQ900]

I got married at 17 and my husband is 10 years older. We’ve been married 5 years but we’ve come close to getting divorced. Aren’t Xtians getting divorced at the same rate as non religious types?

[@journeytrials]

Not the ones who practice their faith. What’s your point??

[@nathanieljordan6144]

I like the content but these guys that are too scarred and talk shit when someone can't respond aren't men and don't belond in the space. At least Zuby can support his views with love unlike this other boy he has on.

[@wmd13194]

He's so level headed and isn't out here pointing the finger here and there. Respect to that dude

[@ShannonReneeStories]

can they just answer the question?

[@rncgsu]

Why is the one guy not married?

[@direwolf1977]

If you a man who loves making and keeping money and sanity then no don't do it!

[@anthonycarlisle6184]

...@48, Rounding up, it's 32 female and 33 male. Just clarifying.

[@leoniebachmann2677]

Marriage? No way!

[@KangTheDigitalNomad]

They talked about this coming WHEN THE REDPILL GETS CHRISTIANIZED......IT WAS PREDICTED SINCE FOREVER. Shout-out to SandMan and #MGTOW

[@DTreatz]

Religion is a tool to maintain cohesion, that's all.

[@richardy2071]

It's a completely ridiculous point to compare the Christian divorce rate to the divorce rate at large. Majority of people are not Christian and those who are aren't devout. We have to look at the majority which is either going to be secular or non-devout Christians

[@legendarydavo]

If you can get married without signing a government document... sure. Unfortunately youre getting married to the state nowadays.

[@Mark-l6s3g]

Typo in my last post. Flights of stairs not 30 to 5 flights a day, should read 30 to 50 flights a day.

[@hla0roo]

Totally agree with the point about statistics. However, while overuse of the nadir fallacy is a serious problem, so is the apex. It doesn't make sense to judge marriage according to the margins when most people are average. I would bet money that the success stories are increasingly about OLDER couples. Look at the average 20-30 some American, and the sad truth is that the bar for standard maturity and values is in free-fall. While many millennials and zoomers will achieve healthy, lifelong marriages, I doubt very much that number will be much more than 40%.

[@MrStreetninja007]

I guess me being an atheist who has never wanted kids Does not Bode well for me finding a partner lol and also a conservative

[@magicfox_1759]

I see no convincing argument/solution to get married in 2023+ here.

[@manuelranara2185]

Have you heard about bait and switch?

[@timizo691]

If you take the number of first time marriages over a 40 period and look at how many ended in divorce the divorce rate is around 67%. This guy doesn’t know what he is talking about.

[@JB-kx9bx]

The divorce rate for two college educated people is like 25%.

[@cheepchicken]

People lack integrity

[@yonayehezkel3150]

We are controlled by laws of nature. There is a general force of nature, and two opposite forces-bestowal and reception-extend from it. We exist between these forces, and both of these qualities affect us. Then, the question arises: How do we develop under the influence of these forces? Where do we act? Where are we free? How do we accumulate and correlate these two forces within ourselves? How can we build ourselves out of them? These are the questions that the wisdom of Kabbalah engages in: how we receive these two forces in an optimal balance, and with their help, shape ourselves so as to resemble the very laws of nature, to arise and reach equivalence of form with the force of bestowal in nature. These very laws gave us the opportunity to control the pace of our progress in accepting them upon ourselves. That is the point of our freewill. How could we act if we do not have freewill? Who would we be? Would we just be like robots, always under control? Until now, we have always been under control. What does it mean? Nature as if injects a drop of egoism-the desire to enjoy at others’ expense-into us, and then it does so a little more, and a little more again, and we then get the impetus to move toward all kinds of egoistic goals. The more our egoism inflates, the more we become willing to move to increasingly gain at the expense of others. Nature constantly squeezes the syringe into us until it eventually infuses us with the full amount of egoism. Our era is characterized by the syringe of egoism having become completely injected into us, with no more egoism left to inject. That is why we have nowhere left to run. Where do we head from here? What do we do? Moreover, egoism has become global and integral. In the beginning, we felt good because we reached egoistic global connections in the world and thought that everything would be fine. However, when such connections started depending on everyone, we turned out to be nature’s opposite. At this juncture, we find ourselves with a major dilemma, and we need to work out what we do about it. Where our fully-inflated egoism coupled with our tightening global connections brings us to increasing problems around the world, today we require a new form of connection-enriching education that would have the ability to guide us on how to change our egoistic connections to altruistic ones. That is the key to a shift to a harmonious and peaceful world.

[@RPMentorTokyoChannel]

I highly suggest James Sexton's recent interview on Soft White Underbelly regarding marriage.

[@Patrick-l6p]

People just don't want to live by the word anymore

[@stevetimms1219]

Men and women should fall in love , get married, build a life and have kids for stable societies to prosper.

[@Serge-cm5my]

I agree with you. But, family laws need to be reformed and fair to both men and women.

[@iamandraelove]

Please interview Yahki Awakened 😊🙏🏾🌿

[@joelt1002]

Why not just have a wedding and not get a marriage license (somewhere where common law marriage isn’t a thing). You think the lack of that legal document somehow makes your marriage illegitimate?

[@bigbrutal_0179]

@@joelt1002 Exactly! When i ask people their motivation/reason for getting married, it never maps on top of how the laws define marriage, which in a nutshell is an economic commitment…which makes sense as no laws regulate feelings. So, when you ask yourself, what can a married person do that a non-married person cant, the list is extremely short and silly reason to get married (IMO). So, are ppl marrying to carry a title? Seems like you can achieve the same thing without the economics. I think they should issue a financial and non-financial license. I know ppl are going to say prenup already exist for nom-financial, but from what i understand it is limited. When i say non-financial, i mean, you take the risk entering the marriage in the event it ends, you cant go weaponize laws to take someone else’s money. If you co-signed with someone, its between you and the lender…not divorce court. I think the young couple that planned on having kids and one stays home would likely opt for the financial license. Older and “been there / done that” may want the non-financial marriage. You can still make medical decisions and other state granted rights…just not entitled to half their paycheck and retirement. Prob not going to happen. Besides, why in the hell is anybody promoting a social contract that has a 35-40% failure rate? That is HORRIBLE. Give me 3% and i’ll think it’s worth selling. is just my 2 cents 🤔

[@stevetimms1219]

This bloke Zuby blocked me on Twitter which is stupefying to me...because I really like this kid !

[@rumblerightdad]

Marriage amplified my earnings, my integrity, my resilience, and my possessions. And it gave me a purpose via my 3 children.

[@BING9957]

Most men regret getting married only after they get a divorce, lose their house, money and full custody of their children. I wish you well and hope you never get divorced.

[@pablotzuarbenisrael9916]

Still not getting married in countries like the USA Also, when you say for people to study Christian marriages and those who are successful in order to have a successful marriage. One thing you're not asking yourself, is this? Do they even want a marriage like that as a man? I mean, just because you are married for a long time. And you call that a successful marridoesn't mean that is a dream marriage. Because what if what is required to have a successful Western marriage as a Christian? What if that marriage looks miserable to the Western guy? What if that Western guy's standard for what he is looking for and a marriage is different from yours. Also, when you say that you are the top 1% of N shape people. That's fine so that when you pick a spouse, you shouldn't worry about divorce and stuff like that. And that's cool, but when you got the top best professional athletes on the planet. Whose wives are divorcing them and things of that, it still shows you that I'll call you like the USA. Is no place for a Western man to look for a wife? Even a top 1% and fitness guy. Also, you happen to talk about how people who make over $200000 a year. And more, it brings the divorce down to 15 %, but still, if you look at pro athletes millionaires billiothere's You could still see them get divorced, and when they get divorced a Whole Lot is taken from these men. The court laws is still unfair to men. So I'm not wound to trust any of that at all.

[@facedown36]

This seems to be a West issue. Is this the same for places like Africa for example. There is still a lot of issues to be investigated...wider family context, support available, values, how divorce is viewed, etc.

[@aanchaallllllll]

0:23: 📊 The average age of marriage in the US is 27 for women and 29 for men, while in the UK it is 31 for both genders. 2:34: 💡 The speaker discusses the importance of contextualizing statistics and highlights the average man's lack of physical fitness. 5:29: 📊 Contextualize statistics and data to understand their relevance. 8:25: ✅ The speaker discusses the importance of considering personal circumstances and experiences when evaluating the divorce rate. 10:14: 💍 The speaker discusses the importance of seeing happy marriages and families as inspiration for wanting to get married and have children. Recap by Tammy AI

[@MrJThomps22]

So basically if you make more money you can't have a wife and kids. If your a bum with no money, enjoy consequence free children and wife. So backwards today

[@drestrick3899]

Lol well let’s compartmentalize this so we can cherry pick for my personal opinion lmao

[@BrittanyL-z2l]

Zuby, I love your content so much. As a woman, you give me hope for humanity--and for men in particular. I have seen so much doom and gloom surrounding marriage now, and while I understand the fear (for both men and for women), I wish people would assess THEIR situations rather than assuming the worst-case scenario for themselves. It's a self-fulfilling prophecy in most cases. You anticipate failure, you prepare for failure, you create your own failure. If you go into a marriage with the door open for your escape, you aren't fully invested, and it's probably not going to work. Half-hearted marriages will not work. I don't believe in divorce, except in cases of marital unfaithfulness or actual literal abuse. Thus I will never date a man who puts me at risk of those things. There are red flags everywhere. I call out red flags for my friends all the time, they ignore me, and then wonder why their spouse ends up cheating or abusive. Pay attention. Stop falling head-over-heels for the first person who pays attention to you, sleeps with you, praises you. This is one of the biggest decisions of your life, so make it count. And if you go in with the mindset that this is a forever, life-altering decision, you're bound to make smarter choices--at the start, and ongoing. Marriage is work, not a once-and-one deal. 40-50% of marriages end in divorce. Guys, that means 50-60% of women are A-OK to marry. And for the 80% of women who initiate divorce, you can't assume that the 80% is just divorcing for fun. 20-25% of husbands admit to cheating on their wives. Domestic abuse cases are 95% men against women, and when you see marital murders, it's almost always husbands killing their wives. 80% of divorcing women are not divorcing on a whim. Some women are divorcing because men can be buttmunches, too. So 50-60% of women are already A-OK, and let's add another 20% to that, AT LEAST, to account for the divorces initiated by woman because men are cheating/abusive. That puts you at 70-80% of women being A-OK to marry. Moral of the story: don't cheat on or beat your wife, and you probably won't have trouble. Yeah, there are some awful women. Thus I reiterate: watch for red flags, make good choices from the start, and you'll be fine. The odds ARE IN YOUR FAVOR if you are a good man who seeks out a good wife. Stop chasing skirts, because the women who sleep with you on date one are probably not winners. Same can be said of men. Look for women of character. Look for women who volunteer, who love others, who don't gossip, who encourage. I know tons of single, conservative women who would love a genuine, forever man. I know 0 single conservative men. Again, the odds are literally in your favor if you're looking in the right place.

[@perrycoffey5410]

Marriage is fucking stupid for men nowadays it's a death sentence

[@eunicebediako4986]

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[@shawn4110]

The odds are not in a guys favor at all. Only 5% of women are virgins on their wedding night in the west. That means that 95% of women are not Christian nor conservative. If these Christian women are willing to compromise their moral obligation to chastity, why should any man assume they will honor their moral obligation to the vows of marriage? While you might say 70-80% of women are okay to marry, you have not considered what men want in a marriage. 1) Loyalty. How many of your 'conservative female' friends would agree that there is no grounds for divorce acceptable, and agree that marriage is a vow unto death? Of the ones that agree, how many are intentionally dating solely for marriage? Not serial monogamy, but intentional dating for marriage and marriage alone. 2) Sexual exclusivity. How many are virgins? If you answered yes to number one, but no to number two, then the answer to both is no. Loyalty to your husband starts before you meet him. 3) Agreeable and submissive. How many of those women think that their man is the head of the household and that ALL decisions are made by him? The vast majority of women in general are not agreeable, much less submissive. 4) Maternal. How many of those women would say that raising children takes precedence over every other pursuit they may have? Not career, and not even personal happiness matter more than having and raising children. Again the vast majority of modern women see their own personal fulfillment as their chief pursuit, not raising children in the home as their primary and sole duty above all else. 5) Physical attraction. How many of the one's left from that pool are fit and attractive pillars of femininity? 70% of women are overweight or obese, so that takes out almost all women from the 'okay to marry' group alone. The risk is only one side of the equation here. The other side is the reward. In the west in 2023, there are almost no women that can get even one yes from the above list, therefore, the reward for men in marriage is zero, but the risk is very high. You say the odds are in a man's favor if he looks in the right place, but if that is true, please inform me of the place that has all of the super hot, fit, virgins who want to submit to their husband until they die so that they can raise children as their sole duty above all else other than God.

[@cg-1973]

6:49 - People change their minds about wanting kids.

[@jlg993m]

The person who was responsible for the majority of the New Testament wasn’t married. Stop listening to people who don’t know what they’re talking about.

[@TheAnzo26]

Not Worth Getting Married.

[@Patrick-l6p]

We can only get married by gods word and the biblical way, he made marriage by the fsthers word and its the only beautiful way that works

[@ssekyewacharles7313]

I don't understand why for some reason being in shape or making 20 push ups is the thing to brag about and celebrate in the west . Is it the biggest problem you guys have over there😏😅😅. In some areas people are hungry and die every day

[@sirg-had8821]

Noooooooooope. Save yours and the divorce attorney's time by not getting married ever.

[@blaisexrusso]

Lol what about random shooters in safe areas

[@alittlegoesalongway1242]

35-40 a lot closer to 50 than 0 tho !

[@meshugganator08]

No the laws need to change

[@richardy2071]

35-40 is still way too high

[@sjcobra84]

HELL NO

[@impudentdomain]

Not in the west, no way

[@cosmicfxx]

Can’t trust google

[@drestrick3899]

So you have to be a Christian and fit to have a successful marriage got it lol

[@shawn4110]

He actually said Christian, fit, and wealthy actually. So basically no men in the west should get married since almost none qualify, nor can they qualify. Average is the average for a reason. It is not mathematically possible to have more people be above average than average or below.

[@RC-ko6tg]

Love you Zuby

[@thewayhome6980]

who is this guy? lol

[@DTreatz]

an idiot named ruslan, he got sht on trying to cope on The Lead Attorney's channel when Attorney was giving nothing but decades of professional experience and facts on family courts and divorce. This man is a clown.

[@simonmcintosh6565]

First 💪

[@TheConsideredMan]

To say what?

[@JeffCaplan313]

​@@TheConsideredMan💪

[@aeroflopp]

Second

[@TheConsideredMan]

Second to say what...are people stupid? If you are first or second please let it be either the first or second to cure cancer or coronary heart disease or perhaps send Fauci to prison; but NOT just to build up your non-existent self-esteem...I mean come on...can we PLEASE raise the bar...

[@lonewolf18650]

No

[@greatjob7113]

Hell no