Should You Give Up or Fight For Your Marriage? (5 Key Questions)

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

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[@RobertoGonzalez-xh7jl]

What do I do if I’m doing all of the right things, but my wife can’t get over an affair that happened 3 years ago?

[@blakelewis8435]

Hi Geoffrey my wife and I just separated after 10 years non stop together. She said she needed space and kicked me out on the street with basically nothing to my name. Iv been away for 3 weeks now and she wants me to get a place of my own and be stable by myself for awhile. Divorce papers have not been talked about but she said she wants to be her and do her own thing for awhile. I have two young children I went from seeing everyday to now 3 days a week. She still sends me snap chats and tictok videos but doesn't kiss me or say I love you much anymore, I'm kinda lost in my situation trying to put my life back together I'm in need of serious help would you mind talking with me

[@ruthhase-gutierrez9830]

I am listening to your videos, even though I am a woman. I feel all the things you are describing. My husband only makes changes dependent on the outcome he wants (so the changes are always external, never internal, and never last), and I never feel safe talking with him. I am at the point where I'm ready to move on, but with children it is hard. So I've stopped focusing on wishing he would do the internal work, and am trying to just work on myself, my own issues, and my own healing. I wish there was someone like you for the wives in these situations. Yours are the best videos I've found so far, but they are obviously geared toward the husband. Still, I find your videos helpful as far as identifying exactly why I feel the way I do in our bad marriage, and the video on listening is great for anyone (both men and women). If you know of any resources or videos for women to benefit from that you would recommend, please do share them.

[@xav5005]

Praying it gets better 🙏🏾

[@jaraf107]

Im sad to learn this. I am in this boat now. I’ve driven my wife away with my reactive crazy mindset. I haven’t been supportive or loving. I’ve been reactive and resentful. I allow her feelings to dictate mine and that’s unfair. I am working in this. I hope she sees the changes at some point. I understand that this will take time. Months, maybe years but I’m not giving up. Check out Esther Perel. She has some really great content on KZbin. Hope you look into her. God bless you. I’ll be praying for you and your husband. 🙏🏼

[@rens7997]

Geoffrey talks in he and she, but it works both ways. Your man's changes are most likely temporary because he feels he MUST do it for several reasons (i.e. not to lose you, to prevent arguements, keep the peace, etc.). None of which is really voluntary if you think about it. People will only make lasting changes when they CHOOSE to do it, not when they feel FORCED to do it. Now if what I assumed is the case (fear of losing you is making him agree to change forcefully and therefore through willpower which is always temporary) he could be experiencing a lack of psychological or even emotional safety. Once you clear that up, he'll be able to make the VOLUNTARY choice to listen to your point of view, understand it and through that CHOOSE to change for himself. The problem you had with your man, was my girls issue with me. Every relationship breaking issue is a matter of safety like Geoffrey claims. He really knows his stuff and it doesn't take two to tango. How do I know so sure? I am currently doing really well at fixing my relationship after a year long break up. We went on a vacation together lasy week and are spending more and more time together. All it takes is real effort to learn Geoffreys stuff. Most importantly the mindset shifts(for me personally: not feeling like a victim) and identity shifting.

[@datyellaman447]

It's so good to hear a wife's perspective, I am working to become the man I've always wanted to be and these videos are so helpful, I'm never gonna give up on her, and I'll make the changes that make me happy with myself when I look in the mirror, hopefully she'll see it too if not its her loss because I'll be an even better man!

[@kimberlybrower925]

I feel the same way! Another wife.... There is lots of advice for us women out there. But there's not a lot of advice for women in committed relationships to help us figure out how to cope in the meantime. It seems like geoffery always assumed the woman has left or given up. I want to help and support my man through this process... I WANT to meet his needs. But I am afraid if I do he will be content with the relationship that way and I still won't be....all the videos on KZbin make me feel like I am the rare woman who is willing to stay and keep engaging... The journey Geoffrey is describing is one I have been figuring our myself before I found these videos. And not he is describing the process I have been going through of shifting my mindset from outcome to process.... I am figuring out who I am.... But the person I am is someone who likes to serve and go out of my way for others and do special things for them. Whether it's my kids or friends or husband. How do I be true to who I am and do the things I want for to do for him and not resent that he does give me what I need even when I very clearly communicate it... And he doesn't even seem that sorry that I am hurting so much. I'm not attracted to him anymore because he doesn't care about or support me enough (don't have the psychological and emotional safety). So we can't get to the sexual passion part.... But I am still willing... And sometimes even eager to please him. It brings me joy to make him happy... But he doesn't reciprocate and it hurts so bad. So I don't know what to do. Do I need to withhold? It's not really me to do so... But if I don't, how will he ever be motivated to prioritize my needs. We have kids. If we didn't, I'd probably leave. But I'm stuck with him, so I want to make the best of it.... And I'm fine being patient if I thought we were moving forward... But it doesn't feel like we are...I don't want to leave him with no sex.... But I also don't want to stay in a situation where my needs are never a priority and I get hurt a lot...yeah I wish there were a companion channel for wives... But I bet if there was it wouldn't address my situation...

[@vincentcaudo-engelmann9057]

You seriously became a genius on this topic. I had a deep and quiet sense that these actual dynamics were at play; what you describe has real grace and effort in it. Thank you.

[@durge2514]

Thank you brother, was losing hope, felt my own growth but not getting positive feedback I am looking for. Back to the three P's, Persistence, Patience and Personal growth, time will tell.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Let's go! Hard work + the right approach always yields results!

[@rebekah1836]

How are things now??

[@durge2514]

@@rebekah1836 Getting better each day, had a breakthrough just today, and thanks for asking. The advice and insight Geoffrey offers is meaningful and real, he has helped me deal with some very complex inner turmoil and am grateful for the resource. Cheers

[@jeffreycooper6789]

Good stuff my man 👨🏾 Love the feedback loop and creating a supporting environment 😊

[@edmaison3489]

You know, having watched several of your other videos and being in the process of joining your program, I was hesitant to watch this video because I I had already decided that I won’t quit on this process or my marriage. I’m glad that I watched it.

[@chadderbocks]

Good content. All the videos are great, and they make sense. I cannot stop my divorce so I'm letting her have it. We still care and have love for each other, so at least I have hope. I attended the master class and it was awesome! I applied for the program and hope to get accepted. What I realize is "It is the end of the marriage. I don't want it to be the end of us."

[@juliovazquez9056]

Where do you get this info

[@chadderbocks]

@@juliovazquez9056 the link to the master class are in his description

[@chadderbocks]

@@scottverge938 I couldn’t reconcile. Still going through the program! I’m in a new relationship now and it is amazing! My conversations are night and day! We have long deep talks. I can now understand people’s feelings. Now I can thrive in this new one.

[@wadeoh6370]

I needed this today. I'm saving up to work with you. Your videos have given me hope. Thank you.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

I would be honored to helping you rise my man!

[@rebekah1836]

Oof...is it pricey??

[@eyezwideopen]

I have been on a few marriage coaching pages and this is the only one with something I found to be helpful.

[@aaronvandenbosch7845]

My partner said there is no hope of us being together because all she can see is what I did. But I'm not giving up, it's only been a week but I'm doing everything to change.

[@xav5005]

Thank you Geoffrey. I've been watching for two years everytime I watch a video it chisels at my stubborn controlling ways and emotions that I have been ignorant to for so long your break downs and processes give me hope where my wife says there is non. I won't give up. I'm definitely saving up for your master class regardless of the out come until then I have some real inner work to focus on. Thank you many blessings to you and yours 🙏🏾

[@we_thrive]

At level 2 right now. No giving up! Thanks for sharing this. Clear as day. I am not looking for a new relationship because I have much work to do on myself. As I see, my world is a reflection of whats on the inside. Perception and interpretation......

[@desmondbaxter2449]

I am hooked listening to you Geoffrey, I havent given up, I am just getting started, its really hard because I have been with her for over 13 years

[@taragilbert5864]

This was so insightful and extremely helpful. I'm so grateful that I found this channel

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Love it! I will be sure to keep providing you with more videos.

[@anthonymiller8365]

Never Give up! Thank you for your wisdom and motivation Geoffrey 🙏

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Thanks buddy! Keep it going!

[@tristanbethune1254]

hay my man I am here in New Zealand I have been having the same problems that you are saying . and today I kind of had a moment were I got what you were saying it was very profound I was thinking the same way expecting the same results. I changed my mind shift and it all started making sense. keep up the good work ,once I get enough money I will be signing up for your full class

[@AjmalKhan-ws1bq]

Your channel was introduced to me by a colleague of yours in NY. A lot of your videos' content click with me. My wife (who has recently filed for a divorce) and I (not my choice) after waiting for 3yrs feels she has no hope for things to change. I have felt frustrated in the past as I tried to convince her to let's have couple's therapy as well as I do individual therapy. While I still haven't given up, it seems too late to wait for things to turn around when one party doesn't want to and with divorce filed. Your videos are great. They hit the nail in many cases. I have now finally moved on to focus on my own health than to try ways to make her believe and build her trust.😢🤢

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Ajmal Khan, Did your colleague tell you that I have a free 90 min master class where you can learn even more? relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass

[@taragilbert5864]

How long did it take you to get there? To the point that moving on is best

[@MariaFernanda-hc3to]

Thank you so much for doing these videos. I cant even say more , JUST THANK YOU

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Marie Fernanda, Thank you, I am honored to play a role in helping others to wake up and to start to implement the right changes to begin to turn their relationships around.

[@gtpro700]

My wife is saying she is done and divorce is inevitable. I know your answer would be that this is the key time to fix myself and show her I’m irreplaceable but the issue I am having is we have two children and she wants me to move out. I don’t want to move out because I know the damage it will have on my kids as well as the potential damage it can do if she follows through with divorce if I leave before it’s filed. With me staying it seems she is getting more agitated but I don’t know what I should do at this point to try and fix it.

[@pedromvgomes]

I really almost never post public comments on KZbin, but i couldn't prevent me from doing it at this occasion... It's been long since i came across such an helpful set of videos... Hopefully am still in time to change things

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Pedro Gomes, I am honored you feel this way and I too did the same regarding commenting in the past. Feel free to learn even more and join me for my free 90 min master class. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass

[@JokinJoe]

I’m starting to get confused. I’m accepting her wishes but she is starting to show signs that she still loves me. Last night she sent a message to me asking how I was and how was work. We work at the same place right now and I’ve seen her look around for me. This morning we were slightly playful in text but she told me she wants the divorce filed soon. So I’m really just confused. She told me last week she loves me but not in love.

[@MistaMagee]

How’d this work out?

[@geraldwardlow8645]

Great video and 90% of the contact I believe is really truly on point and helpful, I totally disagree in the context of marriage allowing your partner to step out of that covenant in commitment, it wouldn’t be acceptable for you either. Now with that said there could be all kinds of layers of damage that would come from this and I know people personally that have done this and it destroyed their marriage. You have to be very careful there, I do believe in the context of the confidence and sincerity of your heart with the confidence of your value. Making yourself irreplaceable is 100% correct more than low level action, but all of it is relative important. Great content in this video I just advise being very careful on the very end where you give permission of freedom to step out of your marriage Vals.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Always give your partner enough freedom and empowerment to leave, but treat her well enough so she won't want to. We enroll 1,500+ clients every single year, and many of them grow themselves to become truly irreplaceable. And allowing their partner this freedom has never led to anything "bad". Not once. In fact, it allows their partner to be able to truly surrender and be 100% to whatever decision they choose to make. If you try to keep controlling and preventing her from doing this, sure, she might stay, but she's going to spend every single waking moment asking "what-if". The only reason you should fear this is if you have not become truly irreplaceable. (You can't just SAY it, you have to BECOME it). I personally did this myself, and our relationship could not be better. And all my clients do this, and when they reconcile, they reconcile for good :)

[@proffrank8385]

I gave up in several crutial moments, and now we live separated. I go only to see my kids to her place. I listened to you, and I noticed all the mistakes I made, how coward I was, and how I was motivated by results. Do I still have any hope? She distrust me, and barely wants to talk to me

[@timbrim01]

I'm in this space with my wife. She wants a divorce for a few reasons. 1-I work too much. 2-My empathy towards her is terrible and I'm so resistant to anything she ask me to do for our marriage to grow. Its never been a case of infidelity, it was my lack of those things I said. We still are married and she hasn't filed for divorce but we are sleeping in separate rooms. We are cordial but I want to fix this. In my heart of hearts I know we can do it. She told me that I'm only trying cause she is done trying. But she still gives me hope through things she say and do. Just not literally and it's so hot and cold and confusing. I drive over the road and I've completely divulge myself into your information. It has been alot of eye opening things that only through accountability I believe I would be able to fix this.

[@GovKidMethod]

Hey bud, I’m in AA. Been following your success and the great impact you’re having. Great work! Also, am I the first to point out the new background? Looks great 😆!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hey bud! Good to meet you as well. Authority Accelerator changed my life! How are you finding it so far?

[@GovKidMethod]

​@@GeoffreySetiawan That's awesome! AA is exactly what I needed to take things to the next level. Having an awesome POP enrollment this month so far!

[@laurencrawford3005]

He now wants to do whatever it takes to make it work after telling him I want a divorce. I tried to end it by saying we did the best we knew how to do for 18years but it’s just not working. He now sees his own faults and has apologized expressed them to me on how he will do better. But I feel like I need space and time to even consider it. He immediately says I need to figure out where I’m going to live because why is it fair to him that he should have to leave our home when I’m the one that wants out of our marriage. I’d also like to add I’m a SAHM with 4 kids. So his immediate response of “kicking me to the curb” just made me feel even more done. But I feel stuck because I have no where to go with 4 kids. I just cannot see me being able to work on things with him right now just by the flick of a switch. Or rather him saying he cannot lose me and will do anything.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Lauren Crawford, Yes, many of my clients started out in dire situations just like yours. I know right now you are feeling hopeless. But just know you are not alone and many have made the decision to take things into their own hands and start to turn things around. See for yourself below. kzbin.info/aero/PLQ8tvyhQlPzsNm-vC_g_8SWGcJRngefgU

[@sandiebeach0926]

If I am the one who had a physical affair, after finding out of his emotional affair. I don’t know what to do? He said he wanted to work it out in March, I agreed and was trying, but I knew something was not right, so I did some research and found out he was hiding having a physical affair with another women. He justifies it as, well you did it first. I am in pain, so I keep going. He picks fights with me to not talk for the week or weekend. He recently said I need space.

[@gorgeouswales9635]

I’m new to your video it popped up today, Thank you!🔥🔥🔥

[@stevo0311]

Never give up! Never surrender! Lol. But in all seriousness, great video and advice. Thank you.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Love it!

[@samhedditch1060]

My wife has left because of years of verbal abuse that she is claiming. She claims I was manipulative and controlling although I have realised she was also to me. This culminated in me blowing up and yelling and she no longer feels safe around me. Is this a situation to give up she says she will never want a romantic relationship with me again.

[@coupdegrace7176]

Never quit.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Never quit until you have achieved successful success!

[@Mr.Langley]

What if we were both in survival mode for a lot of our relationship because of our kids yelling and fighting all the time so we was angry and resentful maybe not towards each other but because we couldn't connect and chill out because of the kids being the way they were? And both of our communication skills wasn't the best because we were so focused on just surviving and not each other?

[@flash12319]

Weird situation here with my relationship She did feel safe enough to tell me she was struggling in the relationship. she’s bisexual and having a hard time not being with a woman and feels like she’s losing the other side of her. We discussed it Then a few months later she got drunk and cheated on me with another woman I’m struggling to see how this is my fault and what I could’ve done to improve safety and communication. Because she’s been pretty open about her sexuality struggles but I don’t know how I could do anything better to prevent this situation.

[@Xplorer-yi5os]

You did nothing wrong. There’s two separate issues. One is her fidelity, regardless of the partner. The second is her chemistry towards which gender. Neither of these are your concern. It’s your choice whether to accept her behaviour. Woman or man, she made a conscious choice to put her sexual desires first and be unfaithful to you and the partnership you two created together.

[@flash12319]

@@Xplorer-yi5os thank you for your words. I’m just in a space right now of uncertainty. Idk what my next move should be

[@Xplorer-yi5os]

@@flash12319 How is it going?

[@flash12319]

@@Xplorer-yi5os we’re starting therapy right now so we’ll see how it goes. I don’t fully trust her. But I at least want to try to see if we can work things out. I guess time will tell Feel free to leave suggestions for me. I’m open to anything

[@Xplorer-yi5os]

@@flash12319 Merry Christmas brother. Hope everything’s going OK. Keep strong in yourself.

[@mickey7664696]

I have given up but at this point I'm afraid to contact her. I'm worried that I'll say the wrong things

[@leroymthulisindlovu]

Hi Geoff. Did you take the facebook page down? I have failed to access the link from several of your videos.

[@desmondbaxter2449]

Her sister says that we must move to the city, then it will be better, because she says that its the worst thing that I could have done

[@StephGoKrazy]

I agree with you on most things but you should give up if someone has cheated on you. That is not okay and should never be accepted .. that is exactly the point when someone should leave the relationship. But other than that I think you’re spot on

[@grildcheez1504]

This seems really useful but in using the emotional and psychological safety methods most guys have tried at some point to build "emotional safety" with a women only to realized that they have been friendzoned and reduced to an emotional tampon(for lack of a better word) while being emotionally vested for months on end. How would one reduce the likelihood of that happening and address the probabilities. The other school of thought to play the antithesis of this is - If there is no genuine burning desire it cannot be coaxed, manipulated or manifested, better yourself and move on until she is willing to re-enter your frame. (I do not personally think relationships ought to be disposable like this so there ought to be middle ground too especially if there are children involved). What do you think about how those two different schools of thought that conflict with each other and how they can be reconciled? I'm pretty sure you can make an entire video on this like the No Contact, Smart contact method which broke it out pretty well.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Watch my videos on power in relationships or my client stories. The answer never lies in extremes - the answer always lies in the balance. (e.g. If your idea of building emotional safety is to be a doormat, then that's not building emotional safety. It's tough to build emotional safety with a doormat). It's not black or white, it is balanced.

[@grildcheez1504]

@@GeoffreySetiawan Thank you. You are so correct (yet again) about extremes. So much of the content online although some lessons can be gleaned of them seems to be about blame, manipulation or extremes none of which are enduring or viable outcomes for humanity. This separation primarily seems to benefit(or is an unintended consequence of) big tech that is always on a quest to advance more engagement into their platforms (winning the competition for attention is one of their primary objectives) at the expense of people who are physically present in our lives. I also want to express how enlightening your constructs are. Your content is the only one I've found that seems to present it holistically and contextualize it in a win - win structure for both sides. The way your frameworks are expressed is a paradigm shift from the general narrative I have experienced prior to that. Please don't underestimate the amount of impact and change you are bringing to people's lives. It's priceless and the mental shift extends to all relationships, helps people understand themselves better, helps re-examine past failed interactions and if embraced not only advances our own capacities but our ability to lead others into positive interactions and dissipate much of the conflict. This also has second order benefits to their children and the trajectory of their lives. You are really making a meaningful impact.

[@joseescobar24]

I don't know what to do she won't answer my calls or calls

[@karolkozak64]

How do I get over the pain caused by her emotional affair? I know our relationship had not been ideal but it's so hard to stay focused with the amount of pain that I feel at the moment.

[@theaveragefishguy6055]

Hello, I was wondering if there is a video of yours that I could share with my wife that might make her see a little bit of light at the end of the tunnel

[@marshallwhite2619]

I will say there's no excuse for affairs or cheating but other than that this was a great video

[@irongloves89]

After a decade of trying I've given up. Holding out till the kid turns 18... Only thing keeping me here...

[@tanka93]

My wife and I are separated. She recently started seeing another guy. What should I do because I still love her and want our marriage to be good again.

[@imcalebfr]

aye man that just happened with me and my gf i feel u

[@trinitarianchampion]

Don't do anything you'll regret it later when the chemicals in your brain subside. Let her go. You are rowing the canoe alone. She is poking holes in it.

[@shawncourtney7998]

So what if she is moving out and she says she is done..?? Do I give up?? 🤷‍♂️

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Shawn Courtney, Watch this great video and learn why I always say "it never take two to tango". kzbin.info/www/bejne/m6Snf2WBacqZnrs

[@lindamolyneux3536]

Can this work for the woman to do and in a relationship that is not committed/ consistent dating yet...or should it really be the man? Ty

[@sora90901]

Hello Geoffrey my wife asked for space and it doesn't seem like there is any hope I truly need help because u don't wanna lose my wife

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi sora90901, I would love to help but before you consider that. First be sure to sign up for my free 90 min master to class to learn more on what I do and if you feel like working with me would be a good fit you can submit your application to join my program. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass

[@sora90901]

@@GeoffreySetiawan I already signed up im at the end of my rope sir your videos are the only no bs videos i watch I really want to bring trust back to my marriage as well as emotional safety

[@timealchemist7508]

Nailed it.

[@gregalstrom]

Great advice thank you

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Greg Alstrom, Thank you for the advice and support.

[@gregalstrom]

Your welcome I am in a terrible situation myself she's hopeless and moved out and in with a guy she's known 3 weeks and also took my son with her, we were together almost 8 years. She said she's emotionally and mentally broken from me. I am almost hopeless myself at this point I can get her back.

[@Bri91310]

Great video

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Right on Scott!

[@TheMcC07]

I may be misunderstanding, but are you saying that one party is responsible for the other party making the choice to have an affair? This seems like an oversimplification of not letting the party who had an affair take personal accountability and responsibility for their choices and actions.

[@andreasharris4166]

How do i restore trust

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Andreas Harris, In order to know how to restore it, you must first learn how it is destroyed. You can learn both here in my free 90 min class. relationshipsmastered.com/masterclass

[@littlebrunk]

What if she's filed for divorce?

[@wjy83]

Hi. Was trying to join the FB group but the link don't seems to be working

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi casey wong, Check out this video below on why having the free community after many years is not a good representation on our brand and why I choose to disable it for the time being. kzbin.info/www/bejne/g4Gtknlmdr-Yodk

[@TheDepiano]

Hey Geoffrey, how can I rebuild trust with my ex girlfriend that I lied to and cheated on? She said that I needed to change for myself and that she didn't want to give me false hope when she broke up. I'm bettering myself by going to therapy, going to the gym, seeing my friends more and watching tons of content on the subject, and wrote her a long message after a month of no contact describing what I understood of my shortcomings and why I was doing the things I was doing. It's been 3 days and no answer... ugh, so frustrating, it's like talking to a wall!

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Luigi De Piano, Watch this video and you tell me if going to the gym, therapy, and seeing friends are the changes that she is looking to see within you. kzbin.info/www/bejne/jGbTo3Z3gNSbjsU

[@JustMiguel14]

Can i stillfight for my marriage if my husband is in love with a gay? I only found out weeks ago, and saw them on cctv when i cant help my self but to grab his phone and check on the cctv access from our studio. And then, after showing him what i got, he was sorry about it and i found out, they have been in the relationship for 3 years now. He apologized, but he told me it was because he dont love me anymore, even before (we were always having fights) and he cant bring back the love he had for me. But he dont want us to separate, he still wants me here in the house for our 2 kids. He still comes home. And we still have the same routine. For 3 years i was treated like a stranger, and i was clueless that he has a relationship with that person whom i thought was only concern for our family. He was there in our studio since day 1. Every other night he is here, and those nights in between, he sleeps in the studio. But he cant leave the gay guy (also not publicly gay), still he is the keyman in the studio accdg to my husband, gay guy was doing mostly all the tasks in the studio

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Watch this to see how you alone can save your relationship. kzbin.info/www/bejne/m6Snf2WBacqZnrs

[@JustMiguel14]

@@GeoffreySetiawan Hi Geoff, i appreciate your response on my question. A million thanks to you. God bless you. I will watch and learn.

[@JustMiguel14]

@@GeoffreySetiawan i just wanna add, he didnt make love to me for 3 years, i tried 3x, and i got rejected

[@MelissaMisinco]

Take his money and kids and get out. Unless you want to stay. If you want to stay have a side dude.

[@jameilsanders1492]

So basically let her hurt you and still create a forgiving space with no consequence?

[@cocoacastsdjgod]

Im level two right now

[@kellyjordan6953]

He seems to takes affairs too lightly. It should be hard to tell your mate that you cheated and not be surprised at an angry response.

[@Pinga3]

Man your the best

[@itzhephaestusx1513]

Hey Geoffrey I would like some help So this person she asked me for a break. I gave her the space, while she’s having her space, thanks to your videos I became better myself. There is one thing and I want help How can I open to her about how I’m sorry I am of the way I acted towards her and on my way of bettering myself I would like to her feel.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

I see you my man, I respond to every comment on my channel. No need to spam your questions lol. See the advice I gave you on your previous comment, then be sure to follow that up with any further questions.

[@patrickwaiganjo9732]

2.5 years separated with three kids no contact.Taking it day at a time.Ready to call it quits.

[@desmondbaxter2449]

she says that she will never come back to me, and that she wants to leave, but she will let me give her massage at nights which I do

[@ninjaopisyalopisyal2862]

Hi coach. I have a fiance, she asked for space/separation. So I gave her what she asked. But then I saw her i.g post partying, and kissed someone. It hurts me so much. What should I do coach?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Ninja, Start with this video below and let me know what you think. kzbin.info/www/bejne/goPUfIZji9CgZ5o

[@Porschefar]

Hi Geoffrey my fiance of 6½ years just dropped the bomb and wants to move out due to "more like best friends i dont feel the same love anymore" i know we aint done yet i just know, what would you reccomend ?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Only one thing you can do. Become irreplaceable and become freaking amazing! Watch this video below. kzbin.info/www/bejne/opyUloilpt-tapY

[@blakelewis8435]

Geoffrey I'd really love to ask you a few questions about my marriage.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Blake, Feel free to ask me any questions regarding the video you just watched. I would love to help.

[@blakelewis8435]

How much are your programs

[@Hhbdr]

I get it now. Better to just give up. Life won't get any better if I'm that person that doesn't deserve love or respect. Thanks.

[@richardbourget1170]

My wife has started the initial paperwork for a joint divorce. Obviously I am watching these videos because divorce is not what I want. If I sign them it gives her the idea that I am giving up right? I obviously don't want to make her angry. What's your thoughts?

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Richard, I am not going to answer this, because this to me is answered in so many videos. I will challenge you here. If divorce is not what you want, I will advise you to keep watching and feel free to answer your own question once you have watched more than just a couple of videos.

[@waggoneer]

If you love something, set it free. You have to realize that you cant force her to remain in the marriage, by obstructing the divorce process. She has to want to remain in the marriage, for the right reasons, in order to reconcile. Just tell her, I don't want divorce, but I also want you to be happy. Then work the program, and have faith in the process.

[@jameilsanders1492]

So what I am getting here is she can do anything and it actually the man’s fault. So then what responsibility does she have to the relationship?

[@michaelcraig6408]

And guys, Never forget this point. You are not robots. What do these females love? You or the Idea of you? Ive been there and done that. And this is another one. What are they changing for you? Ask yourself these questions.

[@GeoffreySetiawan]

Hi Michael Craig, I find that the vast majority of the people that view my content are the ones who realize that they fell short and have areas they must work on. They also to realize that their partner's have tried many times in the past and they were oblivious to this. Now they are seeking the right skills and knowledge to assure themselves that this situation will never happen again. But hey, seems like you have it all figured out and don't need to make any changes so you just keep doing you.

[@tommyang1634]

Your children will answer your questions