Single at 60? NO PROBLEM! Live Your Best Life

[@john-griffin]

Let me know what topics you want me to cover in an upcoming video. Thanks!

[@strangerdanger8462]

How about a video addressing the fear of ageing and/ or dying alone. This fear makes a lot of men remain in bad marriages. Thanks for the video.

[@strangerdanger8462]

How about a video addressing the fear of ageing and/ or dying alone. This fear makes a lot of men remain in bad marriages. Thanks for the video.

[@jonbuehler2429]

@@john-griffin John, thanks for even READING my comment! From everything I have digested of your content, I see clear thinking, and solid advice. Now, at 68 years old, and seldom looking back at a past relationship (which was very painful), I do what I want to do (as long as it is legal). I almost immediately say “yes” to travel with my circle of accomplished friends, and realize health and fitness are not “forever”! Being willing to help good people, saying “no” to those who want to use me, and being thankful for each day makes for low stress. I have believed contentment is underrated for about 30 years, and this have kept me from over spending and trying to impress folks who don’t care. A friend told me two things which resonated: “No is a complete sentence,” and “possessions cause suffering”. If there is anything in my rambling which you can use for more content, go for it! Enjoy the Day, Brother.

[@john-griffin]

@@jonbuehler2429 yes, there are some very good pieces of wisdom in your comment. No is a complete sentence is perfect and possessions cause pain is an ancient wisdom. Thanks for your comment. Yours and many others have been very enlightening and have provided me with even more ideas for new content. So thanks I really appreciate your feedback.

[@dennishaas4745]

Cover this topic SEX and the single man over 60 !

[@jans724]

I'm 55 and single since 6 years. It is such freedom. I discovered how frugal I can actually live without really missing anything. I mainly want to hike in nature, do excercises in nature + home gym, and read. I spend money on my daughter but rarely on myself except for new running shoes when needed. I see friends sometimes on private dinners but am mostly alone. I can save and invest and also keep physically in shape much better as single. But the biggest gain is the peace! Oh lord what a bliss, just nature and peace!! Keep up your videos and nature walks!

[@john-griffin]

Peace is the best part. I will never take it for granted again!

[@john-griffin]

Sounds like you’ve found the secret to happiness: nature, fitness, and frugal living! Who needs a partner when you have the great outdoors? Just remember to invite the squirrels to your private dinners!

[@catguy64]

@@john-griffin🐿️❤️

[@jans724]

@@john-griffin Ha, yes!

[@jans724]

@@john-griffin True, it's only when you take the deliberate decision to skip women that you begin to realise how peaceful and liberating it can be.

[@TheRockasaki]

I'm 53. Divorced since 2017 - best thing that ever happened to me. Freedom... Peace... Marriage is a scam for men. Take the Red Pill!

[@seaotter72]

I'm 52 and been divorced 10 years and my life is nice and quiet!

[@nikhil8892]

Nice ❤

[@hilarygibson3150]

It is for women. Fortunately I never married, if I had my partner of 19 years would have had half of my house and half my business

[@SuperDurv]

Red pill is just filled with hate. Just like "female dating strategy" is hateful to men

[@JaySmith-pv2mw]

I'm 58 and haven't been married in twenty years. Not even dating anymore. Peace > piece

[@jacqdanieles]

That last bit should be on a t-shirt or bumper sticker 🤣

[@brianbee]

I'm the same age and life is awesome single. I live my life on my terms.

[@MyFirstHandle]

This guy isn't single-friendly.

[@Trendle222]

i dont date anymore either, am 53, modern women are horrible, its not freaking worth it. I love my Peace too much to give it up

[@michaelt3308]

Just turned 60 ( divorced ,no kids ) and just inherited $250,000. Life begins now...

[@john-griffin]

Sounds like the world is your oyster

[@alopez9149]

I’m glad for you bro. Enjoy your life stress free and w/o someone telling you how to spend your $$

[@waterbug1135]

Glad for you, but also a little sad hearing life is just starting. Never understood that concept. What were you waiting for? The money? You're likely to be a little disappointed. Money not buying happiness is not just a saying.

[@gavinwilliams1687]

@@alopez9149 or taking it from you.

[@MGTOWTheRationalMensClub]

Beware of hyenas😃

[@blueboy77]

I got released from marriage 4 years ago at 61. After a few months of adjustment I can honestly say I’m happier and more content than I have been for years. I know how a prisoner must feel on day one of their release. The whole world is waiting for you even if you have nothing but yourself. Don’t look for another relationship, focus on yourself and your wellbeing. Pandora’s box has truly been opened for you! Since I was a teenager I have been in relationships off and one and married. Not many years have I enjoyed complete autonomy. We’re conditioned to be in a relationship and a lot of men are scared to be single. I have always enjoyed my own company and tried to avoid drama! With women there is always drama! Glad I found this channel and community !

[@richardrolson2713]

Divorcing in your late 50s, how long did it take you to get over it.?

[@929cbr_rr]

Twice divorced by age 35. Dated a couple different women for the following several years. Before 40 years old, figured out single is best for me. I'm 72 now, retired at 57. The last 33 years have been happy, content and the absolute best years of my life.

[@ivanwalker6459]

"You're going to be able to hear yourself think for the first time in decades". Yes!!

[@john-griffin]

It’s truly wonderful

[@JeepWrangler1957]

You’ve given me hope. 67 and single 2 years.

[@ArsenalAK47AZ]

59 going through divorce now and never felt so beat down and used in my life! Enjoyed your message of hope…I needed it!

[@john-griffin]

@@ArsenalAK47AZ I know exactly how you feel about being beaten down. When I first started making videos about divorce, it was because I knew that my natural market was guys my age. As it turns out a lot of guys in their 50s are divorced. In fact, the divorce rate for guys over 50 has doubled over the last 20 years. If you read through the comments, you’ll see that there are a lot of guys who have gone through what you’re going through and who are feeling great on the other side. Learning the lessons of a marriage that failed is painful. Hopefully you will only have to learn those lessons once. Going forward you’ll be much wiser and much more capable of making better decisions when it comes to, romantic relationships. I wish you the best of luck.

[@martysykes3221]

Trust me, you will be much better off!!!

[@alopez9149]

I did a tough divorce too. Very stressful. But now I’m stress free and enjoying life on my terms. Don’t let it get you down. Become better than you are now. Remember, being successful and happy after a divorce is the ultimate revenge.

[@worthmor]

@ArsenalAK47AZ I'm going through a divorce right now, too. I'm 61 and looking forward to the next chapter of my life. It's very hard to go through, but hopefully will be better once the process is done. Hang it there. It can only go uphill from here.

[@spindelnett6315]

67yo here. After years of heartache caused by relationships and a marriage, I'm resigned to, and enjoying the monk life on my small rural idyll. I do believe there's a perfect match out there, but at my age I no longer see the point in looking for her. Peace reigns....

[@john-griffin]

Take care of yourself. You deserve it!

[@Goriller]

Engaged at 23, saw the light, got out and never looked back. That was 42 years ago.

[@alansapilipinas]

Wow, amazing that you escaped so young.

[@jason7810]

I divorced when I was 53 I am turning 60 this fall and I am the happiest I have ever been. I can actually live my life on my terms.

[@HaroldLeeDye]

Ha ! ReSingled at 53 and now 70 years of age, Life is much better and free from a that evil craziness. My son got me a good dog and we are happy, healthy, and working on our Remodeling Co. / my 50th year as a carpenter. Praise God

[@davida138]

I am 59. Been divorced for 9 years. It was rough at first, but now life couldn't be better. I am seeing two beautiful, fit 40 year old women who only want some company from me. The sex is the best I have ever had. And these beautiful ladies are so very appreciative. I do work hard to stay in shape. Eat healthy. I recommend power yoga as the best exercise for maintaining youthfulness. I have dated girls in their twenties who were surprisingly attracted. I enjoy my hobbies. I enjoy my money. I enjoy my time. Women don't handle power very well. When they get power, they abuse it. Marriage gives them the power.

[@john-griffin]

No wife = Great Life!

[@MVProfits]

True that they don't handle power well. A really big part of the overall issue very few talk about.

[@tomlewitt]

Your last 3 sentences are superb. Fully accurate. Basically the crux of the marriage curse , for men.

[@rocking1313]

Thanks John - get back in shape physically, psychologically mentally and enjoy life!

[@tom09981]

Thanks for all the great comments. I’m 69 been divorced for 29 years. I was married once at age 40 for a year it was the worst year of my life. I never went back. I have a great life.

[@ephremwbrable]

Im in my 40s and single. I have been single all my life and i never approach women. Im doing very well in life very happy and financially very stable.

[@john-griffin]

It sounds like you’ve made a lot of good decisions for yourself.

[@musterseeds1778]

Me too, worry free...

[@robertlewis3116]

They’re not looking for physical contact, they’re looking for a walking ATM and a handy man. Don’t believe them. I’m 60, been divorced for 30 years and no children. Retired a year and a half ago and life is great. Do what I want, when I want. Zero desire for a woman to screw up my life.

[@john-griffin]

@@robertlewis3116 you’re probably right about the atm and handyman. Thanks

[@glorgau]

Women are useful as contract workers, don't need to hire them on full time and give them equity.

[@JoeM-f1g]

My experience is similar to yours. They play along to get access to money, then later once the money runs out they monkey branch to another man who has resources. It hurts to realize we are just an ATM. After my final long term, I did some research and discovered that the problems I kept running into weren't my fault, and that a lot of other men were experiencing the same thing with modern western Women. I don't know if trying to go overseas would help much. I think Feminist dogma is everywhere. I have heard that if you marry a girl from a less western nation and bring her to a Western Country she will eventually learn about her Rights and powers given by the laws here. Maybe moving to the philipines might be a solution because I hear divorce there is illegal, or very difficult to get without good reason. There are just too many advantages and almost no consequences for women who decide to abandon a good husband. It is too easy for them, so they don't value what they have. It is much better to remain single.

[@greggill7066]

So true! This ATM is closed after 18 mo of marriage. At 61, it may never open again. I am free in all areas of my life.

[@nomad6086]

Exactly, many are looking for a "beta-simp" & someone with big $$$. And the more better looking the woman is, the more simps she'll have after her (especially if she's on a dating app or Instagram. Lol). Case in point: I'm a 63 widowed man. I met an attractive, very fit 53yr old at my gym (divorced x2 - no kids). I asked her out but she rejected me, but instead wanted to just be friends. I accepted (btw, she said she didn't want a relationship further stating that she felt no "chemistry" toward me). Anyway, after about a year of the friendship, she met rich dude (CEO of a tech business) at the gym who was just coming out of a divorce. They hit it off & she demanded that he sell his house & move in with her. And like a fool he did. Now she runs the show & this guy is nothing but a simp. 😆

[@GSFlood]

Show this video to young men before it’s too late !!! All true

[@nikhil8892]

Right

[@Musrusticus-]

I’ve been single for 13 years now, so peaceful, I love it. I don’t even bother with the sex bit!!

[@MegaMickin]

Agree completely, the juice just ain't worth the squeeze.

[@alopez9149]

Agree. Most women been around the carousel a few times. Not even worth it

[@saxonpete5131]

That's how they draw you in and get you hooked, if you resist the sex you won't get hooked.

[@billbrock8740]

Hello, John. New here. Just subscribed. Age 61. Retired at 59. Married for 4 years. Divorced in 2002. No kids. No debt. Was awarded the house (and everything in it) in the settlement. Sold the house located in a DC suburb in 5 days during the housing market boom. Dated somewhat afterwards, but have remained single. Life is GREAT. Have always been active in the gym, live within my means, and fall asleep each night within 20 seconds. I enjoy making my own decisions and continue to love the peace and quiet. : ) PRICELESS.

[@Onnitfan1]

I could have written this. This is me!

[@billbrock8740]

@@Onnitfan1Dude! Separated at birth!

[@richardturner7664]

Freedom. Nothing like it.

[@Stu-ky5ut]

The peace and quiet 😊 is so wonderful. I have a girlfriend that I see once or twice a week which is perfect for us both.

[@john-griffin]

That sounds perfect. Thanks

[@alopez9149]

Agree. I have a friends w/benefits arrangements with a couple ladies in my townhome complex. Much better than having a full time GF.

[@nikomak1813]

Thank you for making these. I've been separated 6 years now. Dated for a couple after but fell into the same mistakes again. It's good to hear this from someone who also went through it. One of the biggest realization I had also was that that all the women I've been with were always looking for somone or something to make them happy and that will never happen. Happiness is from within and is something you make for yourself and no one else can do that for you.

[@john-griffin]

You know, I think your observation about happiness is more cultural than it is just women. It seems like as a culture We are just all looking for something outside of us to make us happy. Maybe that’s because we are all consumers and we live in a consumer driven culture? I’m not sure, but it does seem to be a really big problem. I will never have a relationship with another woman who needs me to behave in certain ways for her to be happy. I dated a woman about six months ago and it was very clear that I needed to jump through hoops in order to for her to be happy. It was also clear that if I was going to have any sex with her, I needed to make sure that she was happy. No sex is good enough to justify that.

[@charlottewagstaff3107]

I’m that woman. Divorced for 6 years, after a year have had a string of relationships- none of which worked out. Same mistakes. I’ve now been single for 18mths and no intention of dating. I’ve realised that no one can make me happy. I’m doing the work and enjoying my life - at last! X

[@rayrwyr]

​@@charlottewagstaff3107 --- In a relationship it is important for women to feel happy. In a relationship, it is important for men to be in an acceptable level of misery. When the threshold of acceptable level of misery is reached, men simply increase the threshold. This goes on until men reach their breaking point. But 90+% of the time before men reach their breaking point, the women stop feeling happy and leave the relationship.

[@direwolf6234]

in 80% of 1st marriages it's the woman who initiates the divorce ...

[@vincenttorre4066]

I'm 59 retired USAF divorced 15 years. I love my privacy and freedom. No LTR only FWB.

[@olivergo7598]

True! Two divorces never again to get married. At 50’s there’s no point and no value to remarry again. Most important for men is to get active and stay healthy. Just stay BF and GF relationship. Have your own space and enjoy being single.

[@rayrwyr]

These days, marriage is a bad deal for men of any age. Have babies with GF after signing agreements on paternity, custody and cohabitation.

[@davidsmith7587]

60 now. Retired 6 months ago. Not in a bf/gf relationship. So all of a sudden a lot of free time. But the peace is really helpful. Walking 🚶‍♂️ an hour a day

[@alopez9149]

Walking is really good for your health. It’s recommended 30 mins a day but like you I also do an hour. Keep trekking my bro

[@Fred-gi4uz]

@@davidsmith7587 pick up an instrument and start learning, the time flies by

[@stevewhite791]

Most of us live quiet lives of desperation. Sprinkled with some blessings. Relationships force us to view life thru our partners eyes as well as our own. It slowly erodes our true selves if we aren't compatible. We do it first for sex and companionship, then for compassion, then to maintain, then eventually out of fear. Getting ownership of yourself back is one of the greatest gifts. ...Repeat.

[@daveo9844]

Spot on 🍻

[@john-griffin]

That was really insightful.

[@jsb9317]

@@stevewhite791 Well said.

[@gailflora1835]

Always wise words! I am divorced 7 years and I soooo enjoy the peace I feel. Even better than that is NO compromise. Feels great not to be questioned, or worse yet, be put down for my choices. I can be me 100%.

[@john-griffin]

No compromise? Sounds like you're living life on your own terms-like a boss! Keep shining!

[@gailflora1835]

@@john-griffin Thanks!

[@plasmaarmelund]

Great video - love the calm and thoughtful delivery. I'm 49, got divorced 3 years ago. My ex had mental health issues and had lost all interest in intimacy. I finally decided to exit, although I wish I'd pulled the plug earlier. It took a couple of years to rebuild financially and emotionally, but now I'm free, living my life on my own terms, enjoying relationships without any strings attached, traveling, and just enjoying my new path. I find joy in helping other men who're going through a divorce. Many men go through it alone and feel completely isolated. Just having someone to confide in and someone who's just there to listen can make a massive difference.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks for your input. It’s great to hear from someone who knows the topic as well as you.

[@dennishaas4745]

Absolutely, turn 62, retire and live your best life !

[@chriswhite318]

This resonates with me. I'm 50, but was informed that my services were no longer needed at 42 after 17 years of marriage and 3 kids. After rebuilding myself emotionally and financially, I remarried to an amazing woman a few years later, only to be confronted with a diagnosis of terminal state 4 metastatic breast cancer for her only a year later. Once the cancer runs its course (probably within the next 18 months), I'll have no urge to date or remarry. I'll be retiring at 54 with plenty of money and absolute freedom and autonomy to go where I want, when I want, with who I want.

[@john-griffin]

I’m sorry to hear that you’re losing your wife. Being single and independent has a lot of unique benefits. Thanks for your support and good luck!

[@paulgodden4974]

You don't have to believe everything the for-profit medical system has to say on this matter! Ketogenic Diet. Fenbendazole. etc etc.

[@BifMagilicutti]

You found a "gem" of a woman the second time around. Most do not. I am sorry for the situation you both find yourselves. Life owes us nothing....we each have to do the best with the opportunities given. Be good to her and yourself as best you can. I imagine your marriage is very real and alive right now - unlike so many marriages which are simply on life support.

[@kennethschauer1801]

It's better being single at any age

[@marygoodsell3602]

I don't know how this popped up, i think i am invading your space, guys! I am alone now, too, but for different reasons, my wonderful husband passed away, and as devastated as i was... a year down this road, i can say i am totally good on being alone, and i agree with much of what he is saying. I love my independence! Same as you guys!

[@john-griffin]

I’m sorry you lost your husband. I’m glad you’re doing well now and that something I said resonates with you. I’d love it if you could continue to give me feedback. I want to be helpful to men but I’m not misogynistic or anti- woman. Your thoughts are welcome!

[@johnmccool6875]

Sorry for your loss Mary…

[@olivieraleman]

64 and single and loving it. I owe nothing and own what I have, most especially my time❤

[@djgrant8761]

So glad I didn’t go down the marriage route. Singleness is the best life.

[@john-griffin]

Well, you probably saved between 1,000,00 and $1.5 million over the course of your life. So you’re probably doing quite well for yourself.

[@stewed63]

60 now, single since 51. First few years were rough mentally and financially. Now life is amazing.

[@john-griffin]

Freedom ain’t free! Thanks

[@vnewman536]

Excellent video! Thank you for sharing your Truth. I am 56 separated for 10 months now and my life has never been better the freedom and peace I feel brings me inner joy

[@appygolucky1]

Spot on. Ive never been single and i must say if I was I would have been quite well off financially and mentally by now, so there is something good about being single. I think this is something most men should think about when you’re young.

[@Ahmedabad-Single-Souls]

👍 Stay single stay happy. Ours is a singles group for 40+, all never married and we all are very happy.

[@john-griffin]

Nice channel. Funny shorts!

[@Zoet50]

68 and divorced . I love my current freedom.

[@andrewbowers6278]

I saw the BS of Life 1.0 early on and have been going my own way ever since.

[@OziBlokeTimG]

Your fantastic, great conversation. I'm 63 divorced 3 years now. Still some bad thoughts but the haze is clearing. Keep it rolling.... stay well. ❤

[@john-griffin]

@@OziBlokeTimG thanks for the feedback! I appreciate it.

[@davyhaynes6716]

Outstanding content. This is almost exactly what I've experienced following my divorce. LOVE the peace in my head. LOVE not have to negotiate anything with anybody.

[@john-griffin]

Me too! Thanks

[@tbobtbob330]

What I enjoy most about being single is to not have a woman criticize every single thing I do. Anything a man does that isn't how his wife would do it is stupid and wrong. When women get out on their own they always find some man to do all the things for her that she can't.

[@superalain1961]

Separated since 2016; 63 yrs old today, the freedom , no justifications to give for all my decision, I do what I want…man that is freedom, so funny I golf with my buddies and they talk macho but if wifey calls, they change and lose that smile and have their tail between their legs….pity…. Did I mention freedom 💪👍🏻😁. Great video

[@busgreaser]

I agree with everything John says in this video. Single life for us older men is pretty ok all the time. Some of the time it is pure bliss.

[@john-griffin]

Sometimes I wonder if we men aren’t cursed with sex drive especially when we’re young. It definitely blinds us from good judgment.

[@WildB06]

When the big head finally out-thinks the little head then everything becomes plain sailing

[@Intheworld-q3z]

I have been a widower for almost 3 years. I’ve been dating a woman close to my age for two years. I’m loving it. I recently retired from my day job and I am doing quite well as musician playing cover tunes. Life is pretty simple. And I sure don’t miss my in-laws.

[@john-griffin]

Excellent

[@robertchavez5647]

So true! I have been f**king everything in my area code after 60! Especially on my bucket list solo travels to Asia, Europe, Panama and almost every state now! I’ll never get put back on “The Plantation” through marriage again! 🇺🇸

[@dbsteely]

I totally get it. I go where I want to go, when I want to go and stay as long as I want to stay. In other words FREEDOM!

[@john-griffin]

Freedom isn’t always free so always appreciate it!

[@rogersimmons8788]

I couldn't agree more. Well said, Sir! I'm divorced (twice because I'm a slow learner), and even after 17 years, I still find it refreshing not to have to phone to say I've arrived somewhere, I'm going to be late etc.

[@john-griffin]

Just one of the myriad reasons for being single! Thanks

[@jonbuehler2429]

Life is imperfect; contentment is underrated; living below one’s means is essential to reducing stress; holding to one’s limits/borders, not committing nor giving a f#@$ has been working for me for 4 years now…no reason to change. Best of luck on your journey! 10:14

[@ktsenya2]

OMG, the quiet in your head… what a serendipitous feeling

[@john-griffin]

I don’t think most people realize how much time and energy it takes mentally to focus on your marriage and your wife. It’s exhausting.

[@gerry742]

So glad I found this channel! 65 years old, and doing what I want to do for the first time in my adult life!

[@john-griffin]

I’m glad you’re here and like the content. Thanks!

[@stephenjohnson7157]

I really appreciate your candor .. you're definitely on point .. keep up the good work my friend

[@wildbill562]

I love your videos. So upbeat and encouraging. I am 69, been happily divorced since 2000. Like you said in another video, men fall in love with a projection in their own mind, not the woman in front of them. I assumed my Filipina wife would be kind and supportive like my mother was. WRONG! She was a cunning, manipulative user and taker. However, I learned that hard lesson and now life is awesome. I am grateful for every little blessing in my life - like electrical power. Hurricane Milton hit 20 miles south of me last week and i was without power for 3 days. It was boring, but VERY quiet. When the sun went down, i went to bed.

[@john-griffin]

It’s amazing how clear you’re thinking can become when you’re not distracted by a whiny woman or sometimes even the television. Having quiet time to work things out in your own mind is the key to a happy life. Thanks for your comment.

[@God.Almighty]

blown away by all the comments here and what a large company i'm in. i pretty much have the same story as everyone else here. the only downside is i thought i was unique and special for loving and enjoying single life, illusion shattered.

[@skatedd2451]

Find your space get into it and get comfortable once you realise that you won't need anybody remember smart people don't get bored

[@john-griffin]

Great advice and an insightful observation. Its amazing what you can accomplish when you don't have to deal with someone else's needs!

[@drecula25]

I'm 41 years old and reading these comments give me life.. I got out of a 6 year relationship and I couldn't be happier.. I live in a beautiful high-rise downtown Phoenix and great income and just all the way around thriving.. I love it!

[@searchersearcher8286]

Most can't handle the responsibilities of self reliance.

[@musterseeds1778]

When I first saw my brother get married, I could tell the lack of freedom and boredom...I like my freedom.... never look back..

[@brianbee]

I'm 58, been single most of my life because I didn't like the odds. I will be retiring in 2 years and living my best life.

[@john-griffin]

It sounds like you learned early, but most of us learned the hard way. Congratulations!

[@brianbee]

@@john-griffin Little bit of luck to, lets says I dodged a few bullets.

[@xrayandy4770]

Im am 61 ,married 31 years and divorced 9 years now- I was in a relationship for 4 years and have dated many. But I really had to look at myself in the mirror and realised that I now am my best part of my life living alone ! I have friends and belong to club to socialize but Can come and go on my own desire ! Many of my married friends are envious of me and my life style. Alone but not lonely , I am at peace !

[@orenloosemore6339]

Mate that was awesome, how good is 2.0! Almost screwed me financially but I got the dog, happy days! Well done mate. Looking forward to more of this 👍

[@john-griffin]

Thanks! I also got the dogs.

[@Last_one_before_I_go]

I also got her dogs (2). And her cats (2) and her ginuea pigs (3). I wasn't as happy, I didn't ask for them.

[@charlesterrell2507]

You share all the same values that I do good job. I enjoy your videos just subscribed. Keep them coming.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks!

[@Oldeagle66]

I'm 67 and have been living alone for decades. Even with the minor health problems, my life is actually getting better. I'm more peaceful and relaxed.

[@Fegga1955]

It does get difficult sharing just with myself 😢😢😢but better than having toxics

[@Nova2Yung]

your videos heal me, its like i am reading marcus aurelius meditations

[@bjorntorsten8241]

Great Video! 🎉 52 and starting over !

[@john-griffin]

Thanks, good luck!

[@36handy]

Great topics. Ive been in 2 long term relationships over the last 20 years. And currently in no 2. We live separately. And it makes ALL the difference in the world. However she still is trying to move it forward to the ‘moving in ‘ stage. Cheers. DD

[@john-griffin]

Thanks for sharing!! Just keep the government out of your relationship!

[@daveo9844]

Do not move in together. If she complains about that, it wasn’t meant to be 🍻

[@36handy]

@@daveo9844 - most women complain about it. The need for ‘safety’ is over whelming. However, I don’t buy into it.

[@rayrwyr]

@@36handy -- Intimacy and safety are mutually exclusive. But she will never agree.

[@juliustabert5613]

Tremendous wisdom. Everything he says is true!!

[@john-griffin]

Thanks 👍

[@robertbush8327]

Best video explaining the way I'm living, I'm 59, been single 18 mths after a 7 year common law marriage. I'm definitely not having a live in/ marriage situation again. I am so free and happy it's unbelievable. I'm considering moving to southeast Asia and living the life....

[@john-griffin]

I’ve had similar thoughts about moving to Southeast Asia. Maybe the Philippines. I like the tropics and I like pretty Polynesian girls.

[@richardmonk9845]

Thanks mate. I'm an Aussie, divorced in 2010, then got caught in 2019. That ended in February this year. Still reeling. At 64 I have learnt my lesson. Not sure what's next, but thinking time has never been better. My problem is that I actually like people, but this last relationship cut me in two. I'll watch more of your videos... you seem like a bloke who has found some answers. Thanks.

[@richardvargas6219]

Everything you are saying is true!! Divorced for 6 years, retired now and traveling the world...

[@john-griffin]

I’m right behind you!

[@Scottyboy59]

Amen to all of that, brother!

[@brucehelppie6119]

i've been both divorced and recently lost my second wife to cancer. i miss the companionship of having a wife, but i now have all the freedoms you mentioned. i miss the sexual part, but i don't want to forfeit my autonomy again. i have an exercise channel here on youtube under my name. i appreciate the encouraging message of your video, john.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks for sharing your experience. I’ll definitely check out your channel

[@E408David]

You're speaking right to me, brother💪🏼

[@john-griffin]

I’m glad you like the video!

[@lordbyron3603]

68 and single ! Love it ! The best years of my life.

[@john-griffin]

I’m glad to hear you’re still having fun

[@WeeklyHealthShow]

Great video!

[@john-griffin]

Thanks!

[@theguy4615]

57 here, finances are in order, healthy, and have a gf for occasional fun and doing things with. Seems to be a good balance of independence and companionship.

[@DiegoB0525]

I'm 47, but it's good to watch this video and get some pointers ahead!

[@billmcclarnon1806]

Rock on John, your stuff is spot on.....

[@john-griffin]

Thanks!

[@user499x]

Watching this at 39 and learning so much..

[@johnschulz7209]

I’m 80. Very active…..senior track meets, great guy friends, great kids and grandkids. No drama in my life. Single for 7 years. Couldn’t be better. At peace!

[@john-griffin]

I love hearing that! I want to be just like you! I’m pushing for 100 and healthy.

[@grandpasutubechannel]

I don't know man. Being married for 50 + years and getting married at 18 years old, we had our best life post kids , married, house, all the stuff of expectation. We had our best years in the 50s and 60s of age. And now my wife is in hospice, and I, my kids and grandkids have the pleasure of helping her in her latter days. I know she is going to heaven soon and when death happens she will be in a much better place. What will I do at 70 years of age? Have a new adventure and think about the time when I will join my one true love. And I mean think, not dwell or obsess about it as I'll seek new adventures until I quit sucking air. And by the way, don't forget that your time of no longer sucking air will arrive some day too. Sincerely The old Northwoods RN/GPBS

[@john-griffin]

It sounds like you had a really great marriage and you all shared a wonderful life together. I think at the end of the day that’s what we all really want. When I got married, I had that dream in my mind. I have no idea why my wife decided to leave. I still talk to her about once a week and she is miserable and she regrets her decision. I just can’t find it in my heart to take her back because how can I ever trust her again? So I look at this as an opportunity to experience an unexpected gift of freedom in my life, thanks for your comment. Really appreciate the feedback.

[@robertchapman6795]

Finally. Someone who sees the truth! What a great life story. I’m 53, My wife is divorcing me currently. I was raised Catholic, but turned my back on Christ early 20’s. Married in 2011 in a Catholic Church, but once the plannedemic hit, I returned to Christ. My wife refused. If we lived God’s will, then we’d have made it. Long story. I will always love her. But my country has “no fault” divorce. So off she went. I will honour the covenant (not contract) of our marriage, til death do us part. She’s welcome back at anytime. In the meantime I will enjoy life, attend Traditional Latin Mass each weekend and pray the Rosary Daily and ask for Christ’s intervention. So until she passes, or returns; “No soup for me!” We never achieved the marriage you were so blessed to have!

[@TimmyCramer]

Subscribed! 59 and the forever bachelor. Life is kickass! Timmy C Arizona

[@john-griffin]

Thanks Timmy! I really appreciate the feedback man. I hope I can provide some constructive conversation without turning into a misogynist. I don’t hate women, I just think they need to change their behaviors if they want long-term relationships with men.

[@TimmyCramer]

@@john-griffin You're completely correct! I enjoy women but never take them serious.......good way to lose your wallet! Beachside La Jolla now! T.C.

[@NELSON3947]

Some men struggle with the 'burden' of freedom.... I wouldn't have it any other way!

[@elvisguerra]

I think that the key is to be healty and fit. The more sick you are, the more bad apparience you have, the more needed you will be.

[@john-griffin]

You’re exactly right. I think because of the stress that most guys feel in their day-to-day lives, they allow their physical health to suffer.

[@CTX50]

The more access someone has to health care the sicker they usually are

[@JohnSmith-ks5xw]

Absolutely fantastic video. Best video on life, relationships, and dating I have seen in a long time.

[@john-griffin]

Wow, thank you! I appreciate the feedback!

[@JohnSmith-ks5xw]

@@john-griffin The info is good, you come across as authentic, straight forward, you don't use emotions or music to manipulate the audience, calm delivery, and wisdom.

[@TheMiraleah]

Great channel, learned a lot from you, im 62 still fit og strong, been single now nearly 2 years, I Love it, what can I say, ive fond a new lease of LIFE, thanks for all the good advice, regards joe

[@john-griffin]

Thanks, life 2.0 is great!

[@chilloften]

Happy, happy doing what? Being.

[@kahvac]

Excellent video ...TRUTH !

[@john-griffin]

Much appreciated

[@JABINVA]

I’m 56 and been single, if you include the separation period, for about 6 years. I dated a little after separation and just didn’t enjoy it. Things have changed. I stopped dating about 3 years ago. I started dating my first wife when I was 17 and second right after so I have never really been single much. Everything I own is paid for, I have an RV and even bought a McLaren. I am now considering buying a boat and doing the great loop. I have some health issues that I need to get settled but otherwise enjoying the peaceful solitude. Every time I start talking more with a woman I just feel stressed and stop.

[@john-griffin]

I understand that stress.

[@martysykes3221]

Bingo! Thank you. They make me feel pressure and I hate that feeling.

[@Knightswhosaynee]

Yes, next time you sit down, you will not be seen by your partner/owner as a man awaiting his next assignment. You will actually get to decide for yourself . no guilt trips , silient treatment, or nagging. 😮

[@stormchaser419]

As a lifelong bachelor, I'm glad I never did that thing called marriage.

[@timothyhayes2935]

68 and no marriage,I concur totally.Financial independence and unbridled freedom is priceless.

[@johnpreskar9006]

You are a very smart man, well done!!!

[@alejandrobustamante7964]

66 and a lifelong bachelor here🫵🎉

[@Keyer-bn3dp]

Being a spinster can be a great thing…peace of mind!!!

[@donpeace894]

Beautiful camera work and scenery. I agree with some points disagree with others.

[@john-griffin]

I’m glad you enjoyed the video at least for the aesthetics. I’m always interested to hear what people think even when they disagree with me. If we all agreed with each other all the time nobody would ever learn anything. So let me know your thoughts. Thanks again again.

[@younehippoman6042]

Just my 2 cents. It's ok to be in a relationship as long as you are respected and you get what you want. But, don't get married. Stay in a non-legal relationship. I got divorced at 35 with 2 kids. I don't regret being married as I love my kids, and they bring me happiness. After my divorce, I had 2 long-term non-legal relationships that ended without lawyers involved. Then, I had a 10-year non-legal relationship but made a big mistake by marrying her after 10 years. My mother on her death bed asked me to marry her because she quit her job to take care of my mother with palliative care. After only 2 years, we got separated. Now, I am stuck with some legal procedures to get a divorce. It is now 2 years after my separation, and I am enjoying all the things that you mentioned in your video. The only drawback is that I don't have clean and safe sex with casual relationships. Multiple partners mean a high risk of STD and even throat cancer.

[@joeont]

I was in a committed relationship and needed a vehicle on short notice. I bought an economical used vehicle and when she found out she went ballistic.

[@john-griffin]

That’s weird. Why?

[@joeont]

@@john-griffin i didn’t consult

[@angelarita7183]

My Wife keeps me in check I don't mind she is good to me ,it works both ways .don't lie to your self out there alone

[@mateor7302]

Sad

[@WildB06]

You are codependent not independent... independence brings a freedom you could not dream of

[@PeterCallinicos-t8z]

I turned this off after 5 minutes. I'm 76 and have been with two women total. My first wife died after 37 years of marriage. I guess I'm just lucky because I've never experienced any of the "negatives" that you describe.

[@john-griffin]

You are a very lucky man. I envy you.