Six Steps for Better Boundaries

[@ailafaithporlas2803]

Understanding and setting boundaries is crucial. Resisting small things you can say 'no' to prevents boundary crossing and overwhelm. Michael, you've tackled this topic admirably.

[@romnickmepico4882]

Definitely! Michael nailed the importance of boundaries, right? His perspective is spot on. By saying 'no' to the small stuff, we protect our peace. Ever heard of the Six Steps for Better Boundaries? It's a game-changer! I'd love to hear your thoughts on it.

[@SaraAndreaSayon]

One thing that consistently appeals to me about your podcasts and videos is how you cite pertinent biblical passages to back up each point. Setting boundaries requires, in my opinion, that we first recognize our own values and principles. By setting better boundaries, we lessen our susceptibility to the schemes of harmful individuals. This is a blessing, Michael.

[@ricardofrancis5814]

Setting boundaries for ourselves is essential. Learning to understand what we want and maintaing our self worth is crucial. Have you ever applied any of the six steps for better boundaries?

[@Fidel-b6t]

@@ricardofrancis5814 For me, the best way to establish better boundaries in relationships is to first identify and understand your own needs and limits. Communicate these boundaries clearly and assertively to your partner, fostering mutual respect and understanding. Consistently uphold these boundaries while also being open to discussing and adjusting them as needed to maintain a healthy and balanced relationship dynamic.

[@kabiratjaze4060]

It will be very important for you to check to see what is pushing you to let people cross your boundaries all the time. Most times, it is always triggered by past events. Identifying them is necessary. Michael has really done a good job here!

[@barricksaw7946]

Healthy boundaries are something I totally need to work on myself. Heck, even Christ knew when to stop and when to agree to some things thrown at him.

[@claudzillaaa]

Yeah you're totally right there. Just keep on praying to Christ, he gonna help you.

[@nikthomas8755]

For me, I grew up saying no to almost everything. Even to things that would have been of benefit. But just because I wasn't flexible enough, I kept saying no and running away from doing things. People complained about the attitude and now I am actually trying to work on it. Thanks for this, as I now understand that I'll be needing boundaries in order for this to not blow in my face.

[@alfiechess2130]

Healthy boundaries. Got it. I am definitely going to take this more serious so i can do things for myself and not be bothering about pleasing others always.

[@claudzillaaa]

Just keep on praying to God, ask for his provision, and guidance, and he definitely help you in everything.

[@JohnSmith-sh4be]

Yeah, we put up with things without counting the costs. It's time we begin to consider ourselves too when we try to make others feel good.

[@julieferdelacruzzzzzz]

Great! This video is a helpful visual representation of the six steps outlined in the guide for establishing healthy personal boundaries. I appreciate the offers of additional tips and examples to help us put these steps into practice. This can improve our ability to set clear and effective boundaries, ultimately leading to healthier relationships and greater personal well being.

[@romnickmepico4882]

Totally agree, the video simplifies the Six Steps for Better Boundaries. What step stood out to you? Setting clear boundaries is vital for healthier relationships. Let's chat more about this and explore how it can benefit our lives!

[@dammyajas4813]

Setting boundaries matter a lot and if you don't learn to understand what you want and you’re always succumbing to little things you could just say no to, you will always see yourself crossing boundaries and overwhelming yourself. You have done great justice to this topic, Michael. More grace to you!

[@charlieleo9759]

I think I just need to start counting the consequences of my actions before taking any step. This video is a loaded bunch of info. Thumbs up

[@travorharrison2172]

"Discipline yourself so you don't burn out yourself". I like this, and I am definitely going to make it a motto for myself from now on. Especially in this new year.

[@joyceagness9794]

It actually took me a while before I was able to finally start creating boundaries and not allowing others walk all over me. At first, it felt strange, but when I realized that I was actually being more productive and having more time for myself, I knew I was doing the right thing. This is indeed a great reminder for many people out there trying to please others at their own expense.

[@Angela-en5zs]

I got the wakeup call when I realized that allowing people to cross boundaries I had set was actually costing me a lot and draining me emotionally. I had to start saying no to people especially when it's about things that won't be of benefit to me. I wish more people could see this video

[@christi3439]

I love the illustration about Christ. It sent a heavy message down my heart.

[@randyneal5294]

One annoying thing is that the people I allow to cross my boundaries will never allow me to do same when it comes to them. They will say no to my face and I will wonder if I have not actually sacrificed enough. I just have to start setting things right now. I'm glad I found this piece!

[@christi3439]

This is one thing I always like about your videos and podcasts -- Always supporting every point with relevant biblical references. I'm blessed by this, Michael.

[@towerrose2056]

You did justice to this Michael. I love how the steps can lead to one another just so you are sure that you will get result at the end.

[@ricardofrancis5814]

I enjoy this topic: " Six Steps For Better Boundaries".Thanks for showing us the importance for having proper boundaries in place in our lives, to avoid burnout. This podcast has been very informative and beneficial to my spiritual, physical and emotional well-being.

[@viviansharks7414]

Very interesting. I agree that I suffer from a lack of boundaries. I always want to be of service, helping people and giving myself out too many times and I always end up exhausting myself. Thanks for this. And the biblical references have sparked a huge fire inside of me.

[@philbertaleo5900]

This is quite enlightening, Michael. I just know that I need to work on some of these, especially step 2, 4, 5 and 6. The 6th one is something I need to take very seriously indeed because it's from there I can easily let others know that this is something I don't want and I truly don't want to get involved in it.

[@isabellaclint7796]

This is just what I need right now. I have suffered a lot in relationships. Always trying to please the other so I don't look like I am not interested in the progress of the whole thing. But most times I end up been the only one who is giving and getting nothing in return. I always leave such relationships very bitter. I think what matters right now is just ‘ME’.

[@ajas6445]

These six steps are realistic and that's why I love them. The first one is spot on. I mean, why not just document how your boundaries are been crossed? I did that and when I got a clear picture that people were always eating into my time even when I have no more to offer, I had to make adjustments in proper places.

[@liliansnow7155]

Identify the root cause and from there you will know how to manage those reflexes that are pushing you to do things that are normally not rational. This is what I have learned here tonight and I am super grateful I came across this amazing piece.

[@amirmehmoodkhan1670]

I have gained so much understanding about boundaries from this podcast and the steps explained in this are very effective. In the last 2 months, I have learned more about the importance of boundaries than I have in my entire adult life. I used to keep adjusting my boundaries to fit each relationship. Now I understand that boundaries are about your relationship with yourself and your own values and that they shouldn't be so fluid.

[@mariathompson5975]

Thanks a lot for this Michael Hart. I am sure going to learn how to stand up for myself, say no when I should, and not give myself over and over until I am totally drained and can't do anything beneficial for myself.

[@bramniheril7553]

I think it's really important to identify first our own values and principles in setting boundaries. By knowing these, we could easily identify what we should do in certain situations and in dealing with other people. With improved boundaries, we make ourselves less vulnerable to the plots of toxic people.

[@ladygrasha8219]

Practicing assertiveness will help you go a long way in not overwhelming yourself because of others. What I do is to calmly say no to things I know aren't necessary for me to do. I give reasons when the person try to be hard and just take my time doing my own things so I don't lose both ends

[@pamelalaze3605]

What has worked for me is, taking out time to think over an answer I want to give to any question or request presented to me. I'll check what is in it for me, if the whole thing is worth it even if I have nothing in it, and also if I will not regret my actions later. When I do all these, I always see myself not having regrets whenever I say yes to people.

[@janenicholas6376]

Boundaries are good. Your mental health, your physical and even psychological health would thank you for not stretching yourself out too much because of others.

[@larrycole2342]

All these steps works together and I believe that one who takes them all one at a time is sure to build and manage their boundaries better. I am adopting a couple of them already and they have been working great. I just have to add the few things I have likely missed out.

[@seadalsinitiative9298]

Another wonderful piece here, Michael 👍

[@danton5151]

I think it's just the right time I set some boundries!

[@barclaybob1212]

Count the costs of what those crossed boundaries can do to you. Whether mentally, emotionally, physically or whichever way. This should spur you to get serious about setting clear boundaries with people.

[@davidmike8173]

These steps are quite simple and I am going to write them down in my 2020 goal board just to be sure I take them seriously. I need to do something about this habit of mine before it gets out of hand for me. I'm sure God wants me to do something about it that's why He is reminding me again with this video.

[@billyjames5116]

I totally agree with these steps. I have already started out on some of them, especially the step where it involves identifying the root cause of why my reflexes are going ahead of me and taking decisions I will definitely not like. This single act will put you halfway through and you'll be glad you did.

[@samanthajames3719]

I think I can relate to that workplace example you illustrated. I am scared to say no because I totally don't want people to see me as that bad person, but someone they can lean on even when I am breaking already.

[@sarascott8404]

Learned a couple of wonderful secrets from this video. I think I just need to add this to my new year resolution. Doing that right away!

[@susanmang2589]

That means setting boundaries with some people does not really means cutting such people out form one’s life. It could simply means discussing what you don’t want. Hmmm. You did well with this topic.

[@claudzillaaa]

Depending on your upbringing and past experience, setting boundaries in relationships may be easier or more difficult for you. Often if we have had a parent, guardian or other person in our life during childhood who didn't know how to set boundaries with us then we have to learn how to set boundaries in relationships. We have to learn when it is the proper time to set a boundary and how to find a balance in setting boundaries so they are not too weak or too strong.

[@elenajones7933]

This got me on the high side. Good topic you have got here

[@ello1021]

I've learned a lot of wonderful secrets in this video, And I think i will put this on my new year's resolution, thank you for sharing this kind of great podcast Michaeal!

[@Sara-vc6rv]

Setting boundaries is indeed vital for me. If ever I want to express the real response I need to say to people- I do not apologise my choice. But am I doing it right? I mean I want to help others also but what if they are doing it again and again?😢

[@monroedan4683]

Rightly said!!

[@franciscamathew2773]

Hmmm.. emotional reflex? Interesting point. I think my emotional reflexes are driving me to make crazy decisions in most situations. I need to start working on this.

[@Chris-uj9ob]

Hmmm... Interesting piece of advice. I think it's time I get serious with people and start looking out for myself too. I am just too soft and when people request something from me, I already see myself agreeing even when I am in the middle of something else. It always leaves me with more things to do for because I would have already exhausted myself pleasing others.

[@julietemmanuel7507]

I’m very much guilty of this. People take advantage of me and most times, I just look tongue-tied and can't really stop it. I have resolved countless times to break off this habit but no much luck.

[@jefferywill5840]

Woww! This is so right on time!

[@peacechika8263]

Yes. If Jesus himself could understand what he wants and set boundaries, why can't we do the same? Why do we always want to throw ourselves into everything at once and end up not even achieving much at the end? I have indeed learned a lot from this video!

[@jimmyjohn8398]

I love this ... I really do!

[@blackpearl9348]

I am done with pleasing people right now. The thing is, no matter how much time, energy and even effort you put in trying to please them, it will still not get to that point they want. So why break your head over them!

[@vanessarichard1526]

I say yes too many times and in the end I end up losing time, money and even lots of effort.

[@ElimCounsellingServices]

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[@johnsonjason7549]

I always find myself overextending myself in most relationships I find myself... I think I will just agree that I am scared of been abandoned and not liked by others. I think I need to work on this soonest. But how do I get started with this?

[@amirmehmoodkhan1670]

Instead of creating your boundaries around a difficult relationship in your life, you must make your boundaries about you. For example, my boundaries with my limited phone time is about honoring the fact that I tend to get overstimulated due to a busy writing schedule. This boundary is to decrease my stress level and not about avoiding others' phone calls or distancing myself from loved ones.

[@claudzillaaa]

I guess it is best for you to start loving yourself first. That way you will a better understanding to approach the people around you without getting too attached when needed.

[@alexanderorah2097]

I can't be in a relationship and you are making demands on my time. I always let people know how much I can be of help or be present for certain things. I do not buy the idea of giving always and overworking myself for someone who most times can't do same. I put nothing before myself!

[@ellaoscar1189]

I can relate with all you have said here. But does it mean one has to be selfish? What then is the place of we sacrificing ourselves for the sake of others as Paul said in Philippians 2 vs4?

[@nikthomas8755]

You seem not to be getting the message here, Ella. I think you should watch the video again!

[@ello1021]

I've learned a lot of wonderful secrets in this video, And I think i will put this on my new year's resolution, thank you for sharing this kind of great podcast Michaeal!