Man Has Breakdown And Cries After Contestants Bully Him - Love Is Blind

[@britsaunders2151]

I have this really close friend. He was in a really abusive relationship. Came to me crying one day and showed me some texts, feeling like he was delusional and horrible. He was trying to talk out trust issues, and complimenting her between every line. It seemed reading like he was so nervous to say anything. Meanwhile, she was insulting him nonstop. Mocked his SA out of nowhere. Accused him of cheating for not unfollowing his ex on insta. Kept calling him toxic and manipulative. Then I saw he tried to message another of our friends asking for help. Because he said he felt she was being cruel, the person went off on him cuz "no woman ever deserves to be called cruel." No. If you're abusive, you are cruel. Mocking someone's SA is cruel. He had clearly been gaslit for months into thinking he couldn't communicate properly. It was a big eye opener to what our circle was and we both left the friend group. A couple weeks later we found out that they were exchanging his nudes, mocking his body, laughing at his deepest secrets, and her bragging about cheating multiple times... what this whole situation with Cole makes me think of is that situation. Most people don't think like those people I hope. But if you're a man in an emotionally abusive relationship and your friends are shaming you for being hurt or for trying your best- you can find friends who love and support you. Nobody deserves to be treated like that. Side note: I got his permission to share.

[@Luvandrockettes]

Please hug your friend for me ❤️ hope he heals and feels better soon. Make him know he is supported and loved

[@britsaunders2151]

@@Luvandrockettes of course! He is doing really well now and is engaged to the sweetest girl ever so happy endings 😊

[@sourgreendolly7685]

You're the exact kind of friend I strive to be. 💕

[@petrify4814]

As someone who was born female, I genuinely have trouble believing a human being actually believes that no woman ever deserves to be called cruel, especially since your friend didn't call her cruel, he said he felt like she was being cruel. His feelings would have been valid even if she hadn't just straight up been cruel. I hope your friend is okay.

[@britsaunders2151]

@@sourgreendolly7685 you're a doll. I'm very flawed but I do my best.

[@tristysstuff6664]

The fact that Zenab still kept going after Cole when he started crying shows how awful she is imo. From my experience, when someone starts the cry a blare goes off in your head that's says: "hey maybe dial it back a bit," yet Zenab just ignores that and continues to flame Cole. What's worse was the whole "mean girl clique" forming during the discussion that was full of like 30 yr old women that acted like children. The who "getting a number from another girl" scene absolutely destroyed my respect for some of the people there, how the hell could no one amongst the clique be like "hey maybe we shouldnt blindly believe Zenab in a situation with no evidence?" How could they all just accept the story without restraint? And the whole "things go on behind the scenes" bit is literally the most cop out thing you could possibly say. It's such a spineless thing to say, you get to imply that you have evidence and that the person you're attacking is a lot more awful than they seem, whilst simultaneously being able to avoid confronting the matter head on since the person being attacked has no idea whatever vague things you may be referencing.

[@asarishepard8171]

And then at the end she tried to say " id do it over again with him" which to me screams she knew she did so much wrong and was trying to gain brownie points before the end.

[@Mama_Bear524]

You said everything I wanted to say. She’s cruel. There was no emotion coming from her when he started to cry. That’s not normal. And she’s condescending AF. “I forgive you” 🙄

[@KoreaMojo]

I'm not going to comment on the whole situation but the crying part. It's not equal for all people you meet. It's reasonable to understand while some people take a lot to cry and it's a sign of pain that your behavior is involved in, that's not across the board. There are experiences people have had with an individual or in their past where tears are used to manipulate. It's a real thing. Like throwing rocks and hiding your hands but behind tears. You can see people do really horrible things and when confronted they cry and while they can feel intimidated, scared, frustrated it doesn't mean they also don't expect the other person to stop. Like a distraction has been laid with an anticipated outcome. Then you can see the same person go on to continue very damaging and hurtful behavior although they cry when confronted. I'm not a person that sees most reactions or behaviors as intentional although patterns that exist take away intentions as a consolation. But, when we look at situations like they are one dimensional or onesize fits all, it's going to give lousy results. Now, again this isn't being said because of Cole and Zeinab but more so your initial conclusion because it's something people may feel as a knee jerk reaction. Just because someone cries doesn't mean the external situation needs to change. Cole definitely looks like he was down bad from seeing this elsewhere.

[@Pejora]

They even showed some ‘behind the scenes’ at the end of the episode (cuties tangerines bit) and it didn’t fit her inflated version of events at all IMO. So it makes me doubt that general statement about behind the scenes stuff even more.

[@thehillisalive]

Her source: "trust me bro"

[@teamaang7915]

It's such a shame to see the light go out of Cole's eyes as the show progresses, he was such a happy guy but understandably he becomes a shell of the person he once was and it's heartbreaking.

[@WoeisBriee]

I’m so glad he’s in a much better and happier place now!

[@teamaang7915]

@@WoeisBriee 🙌🙌🙌😇 luckily ppl are much smarter and took his side in the end, it gives me faith in humanity when that happens

[@BerryPicker101]

You must be such an empathetic person to notice that. Bless your heart. ❤

[@teamaang7915]

@@BerryPicker101 😇it's a blessing and a curse💕💜💖

[@annamariamazzola7486]

He aged so much cause the stress

[@simranlehal4170]

Zanab is proof of how someone can turn out when someone isn’t told of their issues and problems. She has a huge victim complex

[@anubisthacutest4752]

That's the majority of females in the west.

[@minaisfab17]

@@anubisthacutest4752 😐😐😐😐

[@Snarl_Marx]

@@anubisthacutest4752 you mean all 1 of the women who have *ever* talked to you? Kind of a rude thing to say about your mother.

[@anubisthacutest4752]

@@Snarl_Marx lol I am a woman. And I said majority.

[@Louiexiii_]

@@anubisthacutest4752 strongly agree.

[@anthrohuman8272]

Dude I didn’t like Cole at first cause I’m so anti-Frat bro personality, but he soooo grew on me! He seems so sweet and I really wish him the best. I watched the cuties story and Zenab was soo manipulative during the reunion if THATS him trying to control her eating. He was asking why she ate so little, in a way that showed he cared, then tried to make sense of her small meal with the “wedding dress” comment probs because he knows that some women go super insane restricting their calories for their dress…she was so unjustified in saying that was him trying to control her

[@Kaeldra3]

Mood

[@AnuHerself]

Saaaame!! He really wouldn‘t be my kind of guy but if you choose him for him, don‘t passive aggressive him into depression. The cuties story was so helpful in seeing how imo her perception is biased due to her past experiences and is far from reality.

[@Apples765]

Cole: *Making sure she actually eats food* Zea: HE TRIED TO CONTROL MY EATING!!

[@gilly_axolotl]

Cole is definitely peak himbo

[@LewChain]

I like the fact that frat-bro personalities exist. I like most things manly, and it makes me feel that I genuinely know what’s up, and that I can read the room very easily. People don’t seem to be reticent about expressing their disapproval of male stuff. At the same time I am tired of the yassqueen-ification of the modern western woman. It makes me feel everything is a lie, and it is hard to trust anything, i.e. red flags when praise is thrown so easily. Moreover, people tend to refrain from showing disapproval of this.

[@buttermotth]

Honestly I cried watching Cole’s situation. I can imagine how incredibly frustrating it can be when someone is twisting your words and no one believes you. The constant gaslighting and passive aggressiveness. It’s just so sad. Cole is so patient with everyone in that room because he has to be because if he raised his voice even a little he would be villainised also because he’s just a kind hearted person. It’s pretty telling of his character that he’s selfless because I would’ve not even showed up. He did make mistakes but he apologised for them and shown he’s grown and zea didn’t she just “forgave him”

[@PinkPanther45518]

Watching how Zanab and everyone treated him made my blood boil, my blood is still freshly boiling right now. I do agree he made mistakes, his mistakes in my honest opinion are small potatoes compared to Zanab's. Her's were purposeful, full of vitriol, and malice. She meant the things she did and said. Her mistakes are actual mountains, not mole hills as some may try to say. She knew very well what she was doing and took joy in it. She makes my blood especially boil because I know how it feels to be "Cole", to make mistakes, not like his mistakes mind you, however nonetheless to make mistakes and feel genuinely bad about them. Cole may have a frat boy personality, he however realized his mistakes, the parts of him that were not the best, and genuinely tried to do better. He worked on his faults and failures. While Zanab figured she was good enough as is and didn't even bother trying. She thinks she can do no wrong. Okay, maybe she did try, maybe she did try to work on herself. I believe she could have actually tried to take a go at her faults and failures. Whatever is up with her is deep rooted, something that can't be fixed in a week or two. I really hope she realizes just how hurt and broken she is on the inside before she ever tries to date, I don't want another hurt Cole because of her deep seated issues and traumas. It doesn't matter what mistakes people do they don't deserve you dumping all your vitriol and trauma on someone who didn't even cause it in the first place. Even if they do, it's still not okay, nor is it an actually mentally healthy thing to do. You need to sort this out, you can do that even while dating someone, you definitely can. However if you are a type of person who can't date someone without damaging them badly in the process because of said deeply seated trauma, you shouldn't date anyone. Not until you figure out how to either deal or heal from your trauma. After you've get it manageable or dealt with, than maybe date. Because your potential partner doesn't deserve being blamed for Your baggage. Nobody deserves being trauma dumped on.

[@asarishepard8171]

in that kind of lose -lose situation, he should just go. dont participate. its obvious they want him for a scape goat. dont give it to them!

[@asarishepard8171]

i cried and cursed and kept fast forwarding. i hate the lacheys for letting them do that to him!

[@tarvitsenapua]

Especially when the whole friend group gets in on it to placate their wives & gfs. A lot of those people were complete cowards & gaslighters. I hope Cole doesn’t take their words to heart.

[@bexproctor360]

​@mckeni completely agree with everything you've said ! nawentzel6866

[@britsaunders2151]

There is definitely a lot of sexism in the world. People shame showing your emotions in a healthy way, especially if you're a man. It breaks my heart. I wish as a society we practiced compassion and understanding a lot more so we could all grow. We are taught bullying is wrong in elementary school, but everywhere you look adults are bullying each other- it's something you can even witness in commercials surrounding politics. We are unnecessarily cruel often times. We really should be setting a better example. To any men who read this, it's perfectly fine to cry your heart out. It also means you're less likely to die of a brain aneurysm and we would like you around as long as possible. Much love all. You're beauts.

[@Baldjotarokujo]

You deserve an award

[@britsaunders2151]

@@Baldjotarokujo naw you!

[@sourgreendolly7685]

Well said! And a lot of people want partners that are emotionally healthy so don't think you guys need to bottle things up to not be alone. I've been with my bf for 6.5 years (my longest relationship) because he's actively working on understanding himself in that way. It's hot, I'm not even joking. Like Leo said, about perfect relationships is two imperfect people trying. I've never felt this secure in a relationship before because most don't do the emotional work. But the right person will want that from you - we should all want our partners healthy and happy anyways!

[@britsaunders2151]

@@sourgreendolly7685 I second this. Men who can express their emotions are so hot. Thank you for sharing.

[@mattwayne9128]

@@maxwellflitton3973 9 out of 10 times seems like a wild number. Doesn't really match up with what I've seen, too. How did you get to that ratio?

[@Lenci_of_Hazelnut]

I'm a woman. People talk a lot about toxic masculinity, and they should. I think that a lot of the behavior displayed by Zanab should be considered toxic femininity.

[@Lee-fw9mr]

Yes. Thank you.

[@Baldjotarokujo]

Yes

[@dancerarinz556]

I wouldn’t call it that. The reason why women get away with what Zanab did is still due to the patriarchy. The shaming of men who are abused and the idea that a woman can’t be abusive or manipulative stem from the same issue as toxic masculinity. Same disease, different symptoms.

[@Carolinefdq]

​@@dancerarinz556 oh lord please shut up 🙄

[@melitajay]

@@dancerarinz556 loool, women do something wrong and somehow it's still men's fault? Stop patronising women and saying that everything they do is because "patriarchy"

[@R83145]

Watching Cole crying like that breaks my heart. I just want to give that poor boy a hug. And all they do is keep piling onto him. They're not relenting even one second to give him a break.

[@britt3795]

Right I think she went and got them all on her side and lied about so much b4 hand. And idky he didn't have more ppl on his side like wat is going on with that.

[@lalosalamanca8574]

He is a man and a DISGRACE of a man. He is grown man but he demonstrates that's he is just a boy

[@thegraymouser12]

@Britt Maybe he's paying for the sins of every douchebag guy he's used to symbolize. Like a scapegoat or a totemic sacrifice. Perhaps animosity comes from previous interactions or relationships where potentially sociopathic behavior never gained redress. Guessing then when a genuinely flawed individual shows a willingness towards vulnerability and apologizes consequences are meted out. A strike at others untouchable. It's sad understanding relational trauma but leveraging a rare advantage against an authentic attempt at making amends furthers punishment more as target of opportunity less as truly warranted recompense. Hurt people hurting people. Not right but every action comes reaction, misplaced or not. Trauma is difficult. Triggers are difficult. Human psychology is complex. Doesn't have to be zero sum where a binary awards a winner takes all mentality. Can just be a sad reflection of the human condition where resilience and growth occurs. Judged by the fruit it's up to each individual post experience to reflect and path onward. Don't let others unworthy actions cause chains of connection to be held in hands uncaring and unaware. Easier said then done, of course, but letting go of spite frees space for better, more worthy opportunities. Said as much for myself as for others.

[@bexproctor360]

​@@thegraymouser12your very articulate, I'll give you thatb😊

[@ClownCourt]

it's honestly so heartbreaking watching Cole basically get told that he's a horrible person and him genuinely trying to explain his perspective without anyone backing him up :(, She definitely needs to work on herself before she dates another person because she took way too much pleasure in tearing him down in front of everyone...

[@heezypeasy8611]

I still feel bad for Cole. He looked so broken during the reunion. She destroyed him and thought she did something empowering. No ma'am, you're an embarrassment to women.*Also Leo, my Alexa keeps answering your questions to the other Alexa 😂

[@Somebody9666]

Abuser are one of the nick names she got 100%

[@myaduval8596]

She really is embarrassing, I’m like are these real people…

[@heezypeasy8611]

@@myaduval8596 I know right?! 😬

[@britt3795]

Mine too🤣

[@heezypeasy8611]

@@britt3795 😆😆😆

[@coffeesmokeable]

What bugs me the most is her holding him accountable without taking any accountability herself. All she does is portraying herself as the oh so forgiving person. All the while no one bats an eye how one sided and unfairly Cole was presented. It broke my heart to see him break down like that.

[@lucretiasaywat9397]

I truly hope Cole seeks out therapy after enduring Zenab's blatant emotional abuse, and I hope Zenab seeks out therapy for her extreme insecure narcissism that has lead her to not only treat people this way but simultaneously give herself a pass. Every word he said was taken in the worst faith and turned into something it wasn't, and in turn he was made to feel for weeks as though he were delusional. As though HE were the abuser. Christ, she found a way to beat the man down for trying to make her dinner. Ma'am, NOTHING about what you have done is empowering, you have a victim complex to the extreme and I truly hope you remain alone until you work on resolving your issues because no one deserves what you did to him. And I 100% believe she just fabricated that bachelor party story, and the fact that the other women gassed her up about it when they only have her word is sick.

[@ayajade6683]

Therapy makes narcissists better manipulators and they now have terms to weaponize. I seriously hope she can never have kids they'd be abused so quick

[@PinkPanther45518]

Say it out louder for the people in the back!!!📢📢 She needs to either get help or stay alone. No one deserves to be treated that way. Cole made mistakes, for sure, however he was nowhere as bad as she claimed he was. She needs to stop dumping her trauma on others. She needs to seriously get help and I hope she does. I don't want her to get hurt, more importantly I don't want her to hurt anyone else, like she did Cole. Her getting some help and bettering herself is a bonus, her not inflicting her trauma and issues on others who do not deserve it one bit is her duty as a fellow human being. No One Deserves To Be Trauma Dumped On!!! She has some personal issues that she needs to take accountability for and work on to better her mental health. The whole story she made up about Cole trying to kiss someone is either her trying to make herself feel better for going and seeing male S-trippers or because she has been hurt in that way before by someone she genuinely loved at one point. Either way, still not okay to put that on someone else. If it actually happened you just know TLC would have showed it for the drama, you best believe it!

[@bexproctor360]

​@@PinkPanther45518completely agree! 😊

[@lenkajf7816]

I’m so thankful to see common sense in the comment section! All the best to Zae. We will know she is recovering the moment she drops a HUGE apology to Cole!

[@orangeninja8022]

I love that Netflix came out with the receipts!!!!! Zenab is actually the biggest bully and I can't stand it. Hope that Cole can move on and find the true queen he deserves

[@asarishepard8171]

Shouldn't have thrown Netflix under the bus, zanab. They found the damn clip and aired it. It was such a nothing burger I dont believe anything she said.

[@ayajade6683]

They did more the exposed their entire policy of DV occuring they will separate them and kick the abuser off if it's frequent

[@phothl]

Idk if love is blind, but it sure is cruel

[@julsweaver]

Oof

[@heezypeasy8611]

Word

[@IamjustBruh]

Bars

[@okoala62]

💯

[@larajayne4934]

Yep so true

[@ashleyawol8529]

Seeing Cole throughout season 3 actively putting in effort, thought towards Z's family, and letting her snarky comments roll off his back.. I know I'd kill for that kind of golden retriever of a partner. Tons of girls would. Here's in hopes of him finding who HE deserves 🍹

[@asarishepard8171]

She was always looking at him like she was two seconds away from stabbing him. That everyone is trying to pass this off as normal is the terrifying thing.

[@Lee-fw9mr]

When she was critiquing every single thing he did in the kitchen... that night before the wedding.... it gave me Darcy and Jesse vibes. I mean, I don't like Darcy or Jesse (from 90 day fiance)... but that ONE time I was on Jesse's side because it SUCKS when you're doing something and someone is just hovering over your shoulder nit-picking every 2 minutes about this and that. It throws off your focus, shakes your confidence, sucks the fun out of the thing you're doing, and just ruffles your feathers. If I was in the room, I would have told Zay.. "Hey girl, he's making you dinner, just let him do his thing, and thank him for dinner when you guys sit down to eat. Period." Jesus Christ.

[@asarishepard8171]

@@Lee-fw9mr no one likes being shitpicked to death like this. no one.

[@snics0619]

As a woman, this whole situation with Zanab is disgusting. Cole deserves so much better. She deserves someone putting her in her place. Not beating her ass but treating her how she thinks she was treated for real.

[@britt3795]

👍👍👍yep it really grossed me out how she treated him and how she had all the others on her side gaslighting him that part just ewww.

[@jelica84]

And the wedding day she plans that you don't just came up with that kind of speech. I believe she wanted to have that girls from previous season Deepty(I probably misspelled her name)moment

[@lulococo9700]

As a feminine person who went through some pretty extremely messed up stuff in a relationship with a man, I find her behavior to be incredible insulting. If he really was hurting her in the ways she claims, the studio would have absolutely been blasting the footage of that everywhere, and attacking him as a person well before she acted out at the altar. This poor man has been through so much and deserves all the compassion, kindness, and validation in the world. I hope he and his dog take the time to relax, rebuild, and take care of each other.

[@ayajade6683]

Even the producers have stated if it was they way she claimed they would have separated them completely

[@witchypeoniflorallungs3044]

I like your hair and makeup!

[@jarsofpaperstars]

@@ayajade6683 honestly they should have separated them as is. This is straight up abuse, point blank period, but they sat back and did nothing as this harpy destroyed a man who was genuinely trying to better himself and showed growth.

[@bexproctor360]

​@@ayajade6683ooh is there a link I can look at please? I'm fully invested in this now so I'm looking at everything i can find ! 😊

[@erincogan1]

The way everyone clapped and walked out while giving Cole dirty looks makes me wonder if Zaenab had a rehearsal dinner with them to practice saying, "I don't."

[@ariellelillian8644]

The craziest part about this is how she showed up dressed to the nines, flawless and full of vigor. She was nothing but pleased to tear him down. Such a psycho narcissist

[@yvechapman9342]

But he "destroyed her self confidence" 🙄

[@msdouglas12100]

She's dressed up because she has such low self esteem, she has to always look her best.

[@elsiem7295]

Shes full of herself seriously

[@sylverscale]

I sincerely hope that every possible love interest she ever has sees all the footage and comes to the right conclusion. I'm not saying never give her a chance ever again. She may change in the future, who knows? People like her rarely do but it's not impossible. I just hope that every man is careful and will ditch her if she shows the same signs again.

[@kavyaviju3025]

She is. Even while crying she's like I don't regret being with you, I don't this I dint that. Stfu let the man atleast vent out my god...

[@stoic_sidequests]

This entire episode was “insane” only big ed deserves to be treated like this in a Tell-All 😂

[@sourgreendolly7685]

lmao we should make a saying like "don't be so harsh! you're em like Big Ed"

[@shelby6]

Zae and small Ed would be a good match

[@Baldjotarokujo]

YES

[@analog_wav]

This goes to show that men suffer from sexism and it's not a women's only thing. It just happens in different ways, and it's often overlooked for men unfortunately.

[@sourgreendolly7685]

It's the same way in this case. If the roles were reversed they'd still be taking her side. People just don't take abuse towards men seriously, like you're saying, so it feels different. I was with a guy just like her myself, he'd feel victimized by me breathing the wrong way - not an exaggeration. It's the same emotional abuse. We agree on the main point here of course, just thought it was worth pointing this out.

[@analog_wav]

@@sourgreendolly7685 oh wow, you're so right. Looking back on my comment i did word it a little poorly, so thank you for your insight and for correcting me, excuse my bad articulation. Also, I'm sorry for what you had to go through in that relationship, i hope you're out of it and living well, and have the genuine healthy love that you so deserve. 🖤🖤🖤

[@GetSoupedSoHard]

Preach it. Sexism always goes both ways and men's mental health needs to be addressed way more.

[@deadpoolnerd]

I guess it all relates to perception. Like the wedding scene is really messed up to Cole yet it's shown as this ending to a movie strong empowered woman moment for Zanab. So in situations like this Cole trying to defend himself or share how he's feeling it's just shown like he's the bad guy because he's the guy where as Zanab is just the victim.

[@AsuraTheBass]

Honestly as I grow older I've started to realize love is a story book thing because it doesn't typically work out in any good or healthy way nowadays with the way the world has become. No more working on things together, no more trying to grow and evolve together as a relationship; it's just.. survival of the fittest, if it's a chance to open and be vulnerable they withdraw, male or female. It makes me sad, love is a wonderful thing but it's become such a hard thing to succeed at now

[@zenithamurrie1830]

Cole seems like a very sweet person. I hope he finds time to heal from this. It’s hard finding someone who is willing to change in the way that he did for her. It was sad that throughout all of it it just wasn’t enough for her and made him look like the villain.

[@justsayin1786]

Coke is a MASSIVE a-hole. Disloyal, insensitive overall jerk

[@AnnaVictrix]

It was really sad to see the light go out of Cole’s eyes through the season and to the reunion. Zenab’s behavior was so toxic and tantamount to reactive abuse.

[@issa2110]

It’s crazy as well to see brennon try to attack cole when brennon has charges for domestic violence and assault charges against a women

[@mikeyexplainseverything5482]

I would've beat Brennon's ass on sight right on that stage.

[@ayajade6683]

Abusers defend other abusers for a reason

[@jarsofpaperstars]

That’s so stupidly hypocritical it’s almost laughable, pure projection from him and Zanad

[@bskinner22rianna]

I grew up in a house where I was constantly criticized and was never good enough no matter how hard I tried. It turned me into this hyper-critical, perfectionist with crippling self esteem issues. I get what it's like to be her, but I also know what it's like to be on the receiving end of that constant criticism. It's exhausting and not something I want to subject anyone else to, so her lack of compassion and patience is just absolutely baffling to me. She has absolutely zero self awareness in how she treats others and it's disgusting that she expects to be put on this pedestal while simultaneously putting others down. She will be the victim all her life if she doesn't take a long look at how ugly she is to people.

[@mahogara]

That's the thing. We can't change or help the environments and people we grow up with. It's not our faults that our upbringings shape us into certain types of people. But once we've become adult or are old enough to be conscious of our actions, we can choose to improve ourselves. Sure, we have to live with the trauma we have growing up but we also have the choices to not put another human through that. I am tired of hearing people using their upbringings or the neighbourhoods they grow up to justify some really horrible behaviours.

[@bskinner22rianna]

@@mahogara 1000% agreed. I couldn't tell you how many times I've dealt with abuse from people that refuse to claim responsibility for their behavior due to their past abuse or upbringing. That's why I think compassion is so important for us in recovery, both to ourselves but especially to innocent people that had nothing to do with our trauma.

[@PinkPanther45518]

@@mahogara I agree 10000000%!!! You are dead right on this. It's something I struggle with, I'm trying to work on my issues and take accountability when I screw up. I don't always try the best that I can to do better, I'll admit it. I could do so much more than I do sometimes. As long as we try and take a long good look at ourselves and realize that there are issues that needed work on and that work will be hard, not quick little fixes. As long as we realize that. I'm sure anyone can fix their issues, it may not be perfect, they may not fully go away, it will be a constant struggle, but boy is it worth it. It's worth knowing you're feeling better mentally, emotionally, and physically even if you don't 100% feel that way all the time. It's also an amazing feeling knowing you are doing your best not to do what was done to you to someone else. I know I don't want anyone to have felt or dealt with what I did. I don't want anyone to be in pain. That helps push me to get better. I love the people around me, I want to give them the best version of myself, not the broken battered brittle part of me. They deserve so much more than that. 💖💖 I'm not always good at that, at least I'm trying, and working on it the best I can.

[@dalevandebeek2041]

As far as I'm concerned Cole dodged a BULLET PERIOD. The girl needs help!!!!

[@bexproctor360]

​@@mahogarai agree, totally, I had a terrible childhood, but I don't blame others, when I recognise negative behaviours in myself, iv learned to track back to where it may have come from and learn how to work with it and try to be a better person for it, I don't just behave like a ...well most of the women on this show !

[@s0nnasauras630]

My boyfriend finally felt comfortable to open up to me a bit after being together for a year. It made me so honored that he felt he could share those things with me. I hope more men can also feel more comfortable to do the same.

[@sourgreendolly7685]

I'm so happy for both of you! I know exactly what you mean, my bf is the first person that I've been with that is actually sharing like that. I'm an over-sharer, so the imbalance when someone doesn't share confuses me completely. When he asked me out ~6.5 years ago, I told him that was a need. We had been friends for years so I knew it was something he wasn't the best at; he really wanted to show me he could get better and everything he shares feels like the best kind of compliment - when someone who doesn't trust in that way trusts you. He made the effort and the second I got overwhelmed from *him misplacing emotions, he sought out therapy. The therapy where the person actually wants to get better, it shows. *Just want to be clear how benign it was- He got upset with how down I was because I kept responding to everything negatively. He just was upset and asking why everyone is so negative and such - no name calling or anything, he was overwhelmed and it happens. But we had a great conversation on how we can both be more aware of that stuff sooner and he realized that I was pretty much the only person he could get advice from, which puts a lot on me. It's sad I feel the need to clarify that, but that kind of healthy response and wanting help before it got worse isn't something I'd ever had in a partner before. tldr; I hope you both have that kind of love where you're each that important to each other.

[@ronaldanderson2970]

That great! I wish my generation could stop begin insensitive to people with insecurities like the girls in my school who keep calling me a pedo for my looks since I don't look or act like a 16-year-old.

[@losr98]

This is just confirming everything I was thinking when the show aired. I thought Cole was a douche at first but I definitely saw him make the effort to change and be a better person for the sake of their relationship and I could tell very early on that she had checked out if she had ever even been invested in the first place. The episode where they did the dance rehearsal I could tell she was setting him up. He seemed to genuinely care about getting married and she did not at all. So why string him along? She just wanted make a big production out of saying no and make it look like she was standing up for herself when really she was just making an ass of her self. It was so transparent what she was doing. I can see how Cole could have been too close to see it but she really gave no effort whatsoever. I was truly disgusted when she said no and gave that big bullshit speech and everyone clapped.

[@asarishepard8171]

Kudos to whoever axed the applause cause it ended in two seconds

[@SJNS3823]

Having watched the whole season, I feel sure that the reason that Colleen’s feet were not held to the fire over the pool party comments, was because the producers must have noticed that Matt had demonstrated his tendency to fly off the handle, blame Colleen and overall be quite an intimidating and unpredictable person when angry. As a result I think they must have wanted to not “poke the bear”, so to speak in the interest of Colleen’s welfare. However, as a result Cole was an easy scapegoat in the situation, to protect Colleen. Even looking at Colleen’s body language in this it makes me feel really concerned for her well-being.

[@TummySticks0110]

She looks like she's being held hostage

[@ariellelillian8644]

Matt is a truly frightening character. I hope Colleen gets away from him

[@australianrussianspy9431]

no bc the way she says "I love you so much" to Zanab and then feels like she has to say it to Matt too even when it has like nothing to do with him and theyre married?? she looks like scared it feels like she knows he would go off on her if she didnt say it to him too. hes scary as

[@WyaldTalk]

You women live in a fantasy. Where you make baseless accusations openly without any evidence about abuse of all things? Grow tf already

[@SJNS3823]

@@WyaldTalk some people do indeed live in a baseless fantasy… to lambast that as all women is a massive generalisation.

[@ChronicllyHigh]

The part where you said “people shouldn’t be chastised we’re doing what you want after the relationship and that it’s no one else’s business” as a widow this did hit hard. Fuggin love you, Leo.

[@justposi]

Its INSANE and CRAZY how they ganked up on Cole for saying those words and then at 20:39 they just let it slide when they are talking about a man who's not even there to defend himself!

[@AskMeABee]

She LITERALLY gaslit him while saying she didn't. I'm glad she chose her words so carefully and still sticks by them.

[@chthonicstar]

zanab is an abusive person, from my own experience with abuse, and cole gets unfairly blamed for shit when he was making efforts to be better ok this reunion and i cried for him. i hope he can genuinely heal from this. zanab is a coward for turning off comments and it says a lot about her and the kind of person she is.

[@gianellatan]

Seeing Cole cry like that was so heartbreaking and too familiar to my liking. My father broke down like that some years ago. After my mother announced to me and my father that she was filing for divorce, we didn’t talk out of denial of the reality. It broke my heart to see him cry like that when we finally talked. We both cried that day over the fact that we didn’t know why she was doing this and it hurt so bad. To put it into quick words, my mother is at fault and the feeling of betrayal is there. We’re strong together along with my little brother thankfully. I can only hope that Cole has the support system and can move on smoothly.

[@evilkillerpoptarts]

Granted, my experience with this show was solely through your lens, but damn did Cole break my heart. He's just a golden retriever kind of guy- happy, friendly, and willing to learn anything to make his person happy. Watching him cry made me cry. I hope he finds his happiness again and that he finds a lovely other person to spend his life with and not another gaslighting narcissist.

[@alexkenchel]

I feel you man. I’ve seen these “Love” centered reality shows where men were emotionally and even physically abused right on camera. No outrage, it was hardly even mentioned in the reunion. I’d only ever seen it glossed over and then the finger pointed back at the man and whatever he did wrong. It’s so jacked up.

[@ihavemadeamisnake]

that poor man. nobody deserves to be broken like that.

[@hali_55]

It’s been a while since this reunion aired and I still feel so bad for Cole and how he was treated by everyone there. It was so undeserved and I’m glad he felt the love of the viewers at least. I don’t like Bartise that much, but I like that he was the only guy there who stuck up for him at one point.

[@Quantumfishsticks]

I don't comment much, but I'm female and have some strong-ass oppinions, so here you go! First, Leo, you are one the best commentators, particularly on men's issues, that I've seen on the internet. The active effort you make to account for your bias, lack of experiences, and understanding wherever possible. You are the hero we all need. From an empathetic perspective I found watching her gaslighting and lack of self-awareness extremely painful to watch. Psychologically, I'd say she likely believes the bulk of what she's saying about him. She's either consciously or subconsciously created a narrative that has been reheards enough to blue her reality. Seeing herself as flawed in any way it too hard for her. It's very sad. You absolutely hit the nail on the head, good friends will call out your bullshit. On the positive side of this, Cole against all odds has given us a fantastic role model for young men, on reality TV no less! Demonstrating taking accountability, commitment to personal development, empathy and also your right to feel and express your own emotions.

[@Quantumfishsticks]

My version of 'feminism' is best summarised as "if I want to be heard I have the responsibility to listen." My friends are predominantly men, as the designated gal you have the privilege of seeing a lot that the girlfriends and family don't get to see, emotionally speaking.

[@moxiemaxie3543]

You should comment more instead of doing that female thing of letting it pile up then dumping it all onto the person 😂(im female too). Comment more, it'll make commenting and reading easier

[@bexproctor360]

Well speaking as someone who can cope with reading more than a few words at a time , which apparently others on here can't 😮, I totally agree with your comment !

[@Somebody9666]

I absolutly LOVE that more and more people are calling out abusers when they see them. Cole did not deserve how he was treated by that woman...

[@christop3]

This boils my blood because as a Man thats been in this EXACT situation. Where my ex just literally wouldnt give an inch and I tried EVERYTHING even falling into heavy drug addiction due to being so on the verge of ending everything in my existence over a woman I couldnt sleep a single night without. I was so madly in love with as she just bullied me and never trusted me and treated me like absolute crap. I never even GAVE her a reason not to trust me, her own brain decided magical things happened while I was literally with an alibi every single time. School, Work, Taking care of my parents, and she just beat me down so badly. When the breakup happened EVERYONE turned on me because of her and gaslighted the hell out of me and SHE CHEATED on me. Not until after the NEXT TWO GUYS she cheated on did anyone give a crap and by that point I was already without friends and shunned away from people I cared about. It's 'crazy' in Coles words. That dude would have made ONE mistake in the relationship and 3 years from now would have still dealt with it on the regular because thats how those type of women are. They present themselves as innocent, harmless, angelic people, but they're actual demons. They suck the life out of you, destroy you from the inside out and stomp all over you. I was with that girl since highschool, we had a great relationship for the first year, but then something in her just snapped and if I even breathed the wrong way she would chastise me for it. It made me into a better stronger person today, but I will forever fear that I will end up with another woman that I fall in love with and she completely destroys my life a second time. Taking the little bit I have left and shattering it. People say its so easy to be a guy, this is one of those instances where you have no idea. When women are empowered so heavily and they start to believe that all men are evil, and villainous from fear due to social media tales, what can you do? I would have snapped on everyone in the room. One last thing how they say "WE know you went out afterwards, WE KNOW. We dont have proof but WE KNOW" My ex did it ALL THE TIME. I would take a picture in my room with a timestamp and she would still believe I was out doing lines of coke off a strippers cheeks. I would be in college and she'd be thinking I'm hiding in a closet screwing a classmate. Theres nothing you can do, they are so mentally unwell that you cant fight back against it. And its so frustrating and boiling to the point you just want to blow up because no one wants to hear you, but will believe in mental fairy tales that someone else imagines up. If you have such deep rooted insecurity that you cannot trust another person because of your own delusions. Please seek help, you're destroying people over your own issues. I know I'm guilty of things, I've probably gotten way too mad sometimes, or said some mean things but its only after being beaten down so hard by someone I was doing everything to give a better life to. Please, if you're that badly broken, you will break others. Trust me on this if nothing else

[@Layla.H.79]

The ex of my fiancé now (and they had two beautiful daughters together...) was almost exactly like your ex. My man fall into deep drug addiction and was so depressed when I found him... I gave him some advices, to stop believing all the terrible things she said to him, I told him how much he was an amazing man, a great dad and that she was the evil one... And I know because he shows me a lot of texts from her (from the past) and other "receipts" and my God... it's was awful. He was really in dark places and I'm just happy that I help him to understand his value and his tons of beautiful qualities. /// Thanks for sharing your story. I hope you're in a better place now. Take care & be well. 🙏

[@salehaxox7381]

im currently with a man who is similar to the woman u have described, he has the worst trust issues I've ever seen and he constantly accuses me of things that are not happening. He even thought I messed around with his close friend and created a fake number acting like that friend and flirting, and I obviously thought it was the friend for real and told him to back off and that I am loyal. I am always told how he can not trust me no matter how much he tries and i am so tired of convincing him of my good intentions for a year now. I have gotten so suicidal because of all of this chaos he brings and I cant let him go either cuz I love him so much. Idk what to do honestly..

[@christop3]

​@@salehaxox7381 to be honest my ex was so crazy she actually believed I was cheating on her with my best friend because we used to joke around and touch each others thighs and raise our eyebrows being suggestive but it was always in good fun. His girlfriend also made jokes about us "being together" at the time but never once actually believed we were like that. A bit of a long winded paragraph but I want to say this from the heart to try and help you understand what I should have done, and what I felt at the time. Maybe you can find some comfort or reason in it, idk. You gotta let go. I know its fking outrageously hard, I know it hurts, I know you probably really truly care for him and would never even think of another person while with him. Sadly, people refuse to change, whatever he's dealing with is so much greater than you and like I said Hurt people, Hurt people. You may end up in a similar situation as I have where the "belief" of you being unloyal gets so massive they go out and cheat on you, or do far worse things to you (become physically/verbally abusive as one example) I say this with the experience and damage of losing years of my life dating and having a constant reminder of the past. I hate ultimatums but seriously probably for the best you sit, talk about it and tell them "Look, I love you to pieces, you have my heart, I would do anything for you and I've been so damn loyal but I just cant keep going through this. It's hurting my mental, and starting to make me go down a dark path. You need to work out what you're going through and trust me, or we need to separate because I cant keep going through the pain of a one sided fight. I'm giving you all I have, you need to give just a little bit back" A relationship isn't 50/50 its 100/100, right now you're between 50-100 and it sounds like he's probably around 10-30. It's just not gonna work. I'd hate to see a loyal woman be off broken because they tried too hard. I never asked to see my ex's phone, I never questioned things she did, I let her have her friends even though she fought like hell to get rid of mine, I always told her where I was, what I was doing, I've left college early to sit with the girl because she was locked out of her house for 45 minutes because she forgot her key. I gave her everything, she couldnt even give me the slightest bit of affection, let alone her trust that I had never broken. She went through my stuff all the time. She secretly watched me enter my phone code. She went through my private messages and texts with other people, seeing what I would say after an argument and chastising me for it, seeing secrets my friends told me and using them as leverage. In the end though, when I broke up with her after the dude that I also knew, and one day after the 10000th cheating accusation I said to her "You know, I'm actually concerned how much you're getting close to that guy, should I be worried about something myself?" and she got immediately defensive. The dudes BEST FRIEND ran to me and told me the truth, gave me every single detail and thats what inevitably broke us up for good. In the end she cried, begged, pleaded, to no avail then, went on endlessly smearing my name and turning everyone against me. But I knew deep down it was coming and it did really bad things to me, I should have listened to myself, my family, my friends, anyone, but I had more faith in a person that never gave me a drop of faith herself. I even gave her a final chance face to face to let me see her phone that day when I got that phone call with her close by. I said "Okay, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt, let me see your phone, like you always look at mine. Let me see the texts" she declined.

[@jarsofpaperstars]

I hope everyone who believed her bullshit feels ashamed of themselves for what they did to you, and that it took her cheating on multiple people to realise it. She’s a hypocrite who projected her own faults on you, and you deserve better

[@kittieevee]

i absolutely love your channel, and i adore your very measured and respectful way of discussing all the crazy content out there. thank you so much, you are so entertaining, intelligent, and i always can’t wait for next vid. this video was especially good. thanks 16L! ❤️ you are also hilarious - thanks for the laughs as well!

[@Watchamakallett321]

what gets me is they all stand around and judge and belittle andrew & the worst thing he did was be a drama queen WHILE they all are collectively really terrible people 😭😭

[@jclyntoledo]

The eye drops bashing session was so dumb... like what tf 😂😂 if I was Andrew I would have nothing to do with anyone from the show.

[@LoganDX1990]

Why I am happy he didn't come to the reunion

[@jarsofpaperstars]

@@LoganDX1990cause the dude may be kinda weird but we all know he’s too good for this lot of snakes

[@LoganDX1990]

@@jarsofpaperstars exactly these people are the worst. And the after the alter episode proved that. These people have some serious growing up to do

[@ashb9312]

Yikes. They say the one thing that truly kills relationships is resentment - not anger, sadness, or any other primary emotion. But rather, that lingering contempt. It's clear Zenab never forgave the guy for what he did, so it became a long, drawn-out revenge tale. Totally valid if she could never overcome what he did or trust in him again, but then why continue on under the guise of a workable relationship for weeks/months?!

[@CodeeXD]

Because she was hurt by it so she wanted to hurt him in turn

[@Moi_81]

I completely agree with this comment. Her feelings were justified, but the revenge was absolutely wrong and evil.

[@isitoveryet9525]

@@CodeeXDlying in order to hurt him is just unhinged though

[@luminescent_tides]

She’s gonna DRAG his ass for everything he’s worth through the ENTIRE show, along with her friends. THENNNNN, at the end of the show, when she gets him to FINALLY f’ing break, she tells him how “appreciative” she is of him, how he’s “taught” her so much and repeatedly tells him she “forgives” him in this sickeningly sweet voice???!?!?! She’s got some severe, deep rooted trauma that needs to be worked out by a therapist until she’s able to watch these scenes and realize where she’s wrong. I can’t fathom anyone watching these scenes and not immediately, CLEARLY see how she’s actually been very much so in the wrong and how she’s CONSISTENTLY lied or manipulated situations to make him look bad and put others against him too? Trying to be with someone like that must make you feel like you’re literally losing your mind. That’s nauseating to watch. Especially how nobody really even attempted to take up for Cole or point out any of her errors. He was basically there for everyones entertainment.

[@Carbsaremylifeforce]

Honestly Cole was very sweet. I think he took things serious and her saying “I’m a HUGE CATCH, I’m so worth it” after she tore him up about his cooking showed me everything I needed to know about her. She’s a narcissist.

[@andrewdozier3920]

Love how they didn’t show the girls gawking at dudes and getting lap dances before the weddings but they show Cold simply saying that he’s attracted to Zhanab. Why can’t the women take accountability in this show?

[@MsElizaRae]

Female accountability doesn't sell. If it did the fat acceptence 'movement' wouldn't exist

[@oren1305]

When you have a show entirely centered around shallow relationships and money and fame, very few people will be stable and emotionally mature human beings.

[@M33PSTER]

On the topic of Andrew, I personally felt like the tone of the eye drops thing seemed like he was making a joke and they took it out of context. So I looked it up shortly after that season ended out of curiosity and Andrew said that he could not confirm or deny whether or not that scene was staged because of his contract. So I personally think they just made him look bad in the cut. Also: I don’t blame him for not coming back because this was the FAKEST season of Love is Blind yet. Edit: I don’t mean fake as in the emotion because Cole genuinely seemed really broken and exhausted. I mean a lot of the contestants were super fake this season.

[@sourgreendolly7685]

That's a good point. I do think the rest of his behavior makes me question that, but it's quite possible that they did that to make him look even worse.

[@M33PSTER]

@@sourgreendolly7685 I understand what you mean cuz a lot of what he said did come off super pretentious, but I wonder if he would’ve opened up if he had gotten together with Nancy and gotten more screen time. Cuz he gave her some really great advice and was really kind to her when she went to him about Bartise.

[@chaoqueen666]

I wish more people were like Cole. If ny past partners had been as willing to change and listen as he was things would have gone so much better. I really hope he finds someone that is willing to do the same for him.

[@hanzobonaza]

It's so upsetting to see how distressed Cole is. He's young and like most humans, is on the constant journey of growing and getting better at communicating with each other. He's not perfect but he's trying. It shows how kind he really is that he cares enough to reflect and make changes to grow. I just hope this doesn't end up being his villain origin story because damn I would not be shocked if it did.

[@amieaiello3456]

Zanab will continue to have the same problems in future relationships. Cole has grown so much that he will have more success. The mean girls club won’t do well either. You absolutely nailed this entire season as usual! Thank you for all the hard work you put into these videos! You make these series tolerable!

[@amandaadams3938]

I hate how the narrative is like “Cole, when you change and stop being so awful, you’ll find your forever person.” In reality, he doesn’t have to change at all. There’s a lot of people who love him as he is, and just because some uptight chick didn’t react well to his personality doesn’t mean he’s unlovable.

[@dariusthedropout2299]

I love this youtuber

[@boots1622fan]

i'm not into men, but cole has such cute puppy dog energy, i really hope he finds someone who respects that. the way she would just micromanage him and tell him to always tone down his personality for her was actually disgusting. finding a man willing to do that for you in the first place... i mean number one, it shouldnt have to happen, but number two that loyalty is so incredibly rare that to not cherish it is actually awful.

[@suitdoggy4707]

I was thinking this! When he was hopping around and talking made me think of a puppy trying to get your attention!

[@kathleenrivas6257]

I'll definitely date someone like him. Dude did everything to make that woman happy, and she does not reciprocate it since she is a psycho narcissist.

[@AsuraTheBass]

It's honestly... really painful and like reality shifting, and I know that sounds hyperbolic but it's true. Being told.. to tone down who you are, your very being and soul and way of existing, just because you might be a little loud or laugh too much or too affectionate in public, it ruins you and makes you feel like... "what's wrong with ME? I'm just showing my joy and love and happiness, and that's.. too much?" It shut me down, I stopped asking to do things, stopped trying to explain things, defend myself; because no matter what I said or how I expressed my feelings or what was going on, it was "just an excuse because you don't want to spend time with me" or "you just can't see it from my side, you only care your feelings" after months of only asking about her feelings or consoling her through her things, but when my family disowned me and I lost everything and everyone in my life but her she just told me "you should talk to your friends about that, I don't do negative stuff" I was the one who was going to therapy 3 times a week, I was the one trying dozens of new meds to get my mental health under control; I was the one who would force myself to go anywhere and do anything, even to the point of throwing up and blacking out from pain; only to be told I "didn't want to spend time" when I had to lay in bed for weeks just for spending time

[@hellohellokitty]

As someone who was assigned female at birth + have an eating disorder, Cole is actually somewhat??? respectful when they speaks about the food. "Don't eat too much, we're eating soon!" is something my parents and friends say. "You've only had that much to eat today? Why?" is also something people say. "Getting your body reading for the wedding"? super common to do. doesn't have to mean anything. Could it be triggering? Absolutely, but if he DOESN'T KNOW that she's struggling with food issues.... it's not his fault? I really don't think he's in the wrong here.

[@samanthaclaremejia7975]

Right? Zanab said he was starving her but Cole even offered her food 😭

[@hellohellokitty]

@@samanthaclaremejia7975 fr!!! and if she knew that it would be that big of an issue, she should've said or communicated that very clearly. when i'm not doing my best, i'll say "i don't want to talk about this" or "can we switch to another topis for now?", literally the only thing needed. people are usually very kind when you tell them it's making you uncomfortable and/or self conscious.

[@sarahm8695]

I don't know why but your Alexa interrupting was the funniest thing I've seen all week, I genuinely can't breathe

[@moxiemaxie3543]

Zen was spiteful. She waited to deny him at the Alter because she wanted to hurt him in the worst way possible after hearing he found someone else attractive. Gross

[@lizthedisjointedzebra692]

I have GAD, PD, clinical depression, CPTSD, and possible ASD and I think it's absolutely RIDICULOUS how damn touchy people get over the words "insane" and "crazy". Sure, if he were actually saying "you ARE insane/crazy" to someone, that's shitty. But just saying that a situation is crazy isn't remotely offensive, Jesus Christ... Huge pet peeve of me. I am also disabled, and can't have kids, and I cannot even count as high as the number of times people and political parties have used me and people like me as a weapon against their opponents.

[@sourgreendolly7685]

Honestly I was thinking the same- GAD, CPTSD, major depression (recurring and treatment resistant), and ADHD (only found that out a year ago when I was 32!) in addition to a heap of medical issues I'm still trying to figure out. And honestly idgaf even if on calls someone crazy. People are crazy to put him in this crazy situation! I always say I'm not certifiable, I'm certified and yet people are out here acting crazy and pretending it's wrong to point that out. Go to therapy y'all - leave the insanity to the experts 😂

[@jarsofpaperstars]

Agreed, it’s downright patronising to be honest. Like yes be empathetic about how I struggle but don’t treat me like fragile glass either, there’s a perfectly reasonable middle ground between those two ends of the scale

[@asarishepard8171]

Even during the beg of this reunion Cole was laughing at the clips willing to laugh at himself. Then everyone dog piled on him. This made me sick to my stomach. Eff you zanab and alexa.

[@solorasolis1392]

I feel like as soon as Cole told Zainab she was a 9 and not a 10 she immediately began planning how she could completely destroy his psyche.

[@JudasMaccabeus1]

These people throw around the word Love waaay to easily. Love is a verb. You love someone by loving them, by being loving, by manifesting that love through actions. Too many people nowadays are mistaken in believing love is merely a feeling. You can tell someone you love them a million times, and “feel” like you’re in love, but, if the word isnt reinforced with actions it’s meaningless and empty. We don’t love someone by telling them “I love you.” We love someone by showing, through actions, that we love them. It’s so frustrating seeing soooo many people unable and to grasp this concept.

[@jaxj968]

YES

[@pokachu7860]

47:34 Wow I came here for a random Love is Blind vid and stumbled upon a pretty great life lesson. It resounded with me in this moment of my life, thanks man!

[@Trash_Cat21]

That's why as men we don't openly show hurt or pain unless we are behind closed doors with very close friends.

[@jasminesmith6452]

Just wanna say I feel like a wedding isn't just for the bride but the husband also! We got married at a place called Canterbury Castle. My wonderful husband walked down the aisle dressed up as Dunban from a videogame called Xenoblade. Long hair, red vest, boots. I had a gorgeous ivory dress, with a veil so long it trailed. He looked so handsome, I was so nervous and shaking as I walked to him - not because I didn't want to marry him, I just was so anxious about the future (and very pregnant). But it all melted when he started crying at the alter, shaking as well. We were right back to being two teenagers, head over heels and excited for the future. We still watch our DVD of our wedding every anniversary, now with our sweet little boy. We've been together nearly 15 years, he is my everything and I sincerely hope Cole finds someone who cries and shakes down the aisle because she's looking forward to the future with him, whatever ups and downs it might bring. You too, Leo.

[@aristobrat4987]

he pulls off the velvet suit so well too , ive actually never seen it worn well. hes so soft looking and it matches his hair. fluffy like a chubby red rabbit

[@rubberparrot1]

If Chris Hemsworth and James Deen had a baby that baby would look like Cole. Great take on it Leo

[@ellephoriaa]

the show honestly portrays the difference between people who are willing and accept growth and change, and those who are entitled to thinking everyone around them has to fit their every unrealistic need

[@marygray7422]

If you ever wanted to watch how an abusive relationship begins, here you go

[@tottallyok]

I cannot believe how much the ‘tangerine story’ was misrepresented. Funny how the story didn’t even matter once it came to light and actually showed Cole as a caring guy.

[@myadahmer9900]

my alexa went off when you said “alexa do you know that you’re wrong” and she said “thanks for telling me”

[@Sammy102093]

Man I wanna give Cole a hug. He really did his best to change himself and really cared.

[@minu.h]

Cole just sits on the couch like a kicked puppy. Why the heck did they feel the need to stomp on him even more?

[@PrincessBunhead]

My ex was like Zanab. A horrible situation to be in, a request could turn into a string of accusations followed by a victim act in less than ten seconds.

[@samariam3043]

I’m so glad the internet formed a big hug around Cole. 💕

[@astrocat4602]

I have a ton to say… but all im gonna say is, Zenab and my mom share the same traits, and i definitely emphasize and resonate very hard with how this affected Cole. He learned a lot. It makes me proud to see. I really believe this experience will help him grow and recognize more in the future.

[@sarahhenriques948]

😂 alexa answering u every time u say alexa has me rolling

[@coralee1577]

Zae is one of the most infuriating people I've seen in a long time. She is cold and cruel. She has no remorse and the fact she sees the situation the way she does is the most frustrating thing. My fiance and I honestly almost had to just stop watching. I'm so glad they showed the cuties scene because it was validation for Cole. He's going to grow so much from this experience and become a better man for it eventually. I think when he finds his forever person he'll have the tools and emotional maturity to make it work. She put him down so much, I'm surprised he didn't just completely give up trying. I hope he sees how beneficial it will be for him to be with someone who's very playful, but also can go deep within themselves to have good conversation. Their personalities did not mesh and would never mesh. Zae on the other hand, and I say this with the best intentions possible, needs therapy because I don't know how she'll ever be happy with an attitude and mindset like that. I think she enjoys being miserable and wants others around her miserable as well.

[@drgamenstein3032]

I have to say how much it urks me when they go on the rant about him saying crazy, because ironically crazy is the exact right word to describe a person who tries to gaslight and suppress another's emotions in order to prop themselves up as though their emotions are more valuable.

[@DigiCoonz]

thank you Leo for calling these women out, I'm a woman and I don't think their behavior is right or mature. Also yes yes yes men should be able to express themselves without bullying. yes Cole messed up a bit but he freaking tried. id die for a dude that was that willing to work on things and grow with me as a person.

[@Anonymous_Ki]

Cole irritated me at first but honestly I do feel bad for him. He seems so sweet and to me it rubs off like he’s the type to fall fast and hard. Like he seems like he has a genuine and good heart and to hv her stamp on that is insane

[@flatfacedcat]

I feel insane watching everyone side with Zanab despite her obvious abuse toward Cole, and Cole's visible trauma.

[@MoriMinsi]

47:14 Cole did his best he tried to keep the fire burning but zanab just blew it like because she's just so focused on victimizing herself that she's blind to the change Cole has made to himself to satisfy her sick desires just for her to kick him when he's at his lowest then coming back just to humiliate him even more then having her friends attack Cole is just so disgusting they shouldn't have invited her back for the reunion show at all

[@sentientplant9658]

my friend is similar to Zanab, but she lies by omission instead of making up serious accusations. she tried so hard to make her ex look bad to the point where he had to come to me and spent 3 DAYS explaining where everything went wrong. when she tried to come back to me about the issue, I gave her my 2 cents and all I can say is that people like this are gonna learn the hard way and their support systems may or may not be there when it finally happens. surrounding yourself with people who encourage your bad behavior and flying off the handle when one of your friends isn't like the rest of them is not any way to make yourself look better (you look psychotic when you do that). Cole deserves better and he WILL find better; hell, it may come to him and he won't have to go searching. and because all of this is on TV everyone now has a perfect "how NOT to treat Cole" video collection to learn from (more like "how not to treat a living human being" but point still there). Zanab is vile and it will come back to bite her in the ass no matter how long she keeps her comments disabled.

[@jarsofpaperstars]

It’s literally that meme of “Well if it isn’t the consequences of my actions!” Either you grow some self awareness and change for the better, or get burned hard with only yourself to blame.

[@Wezza182]

47:00 talking about double standards anyone catch that Zanab just used the word crazy but Brennan didn’t call her out the way he did Cole earlier 🧐

[@skittles3310]

Cole is amazing, and I really wish that he could see all of the people who aren't completely evil, bc they will absolutely let him know that there's nothing wrong with HIM. SHE is the problem! So he shouldn't allow her to destroy him. You cannot give your feelings to a narcissist. You can't be human, and open yourself up, or give your heart to a narcissist, they will absolutely destroy you. Every. Damn. Time. Their feelings, their goals, and their loyalty will always be focused completely on themselves. They couldn't put you above their own selfish feelings if they could want to, but they don't even want to. That's exactly why they have no problem whatsoever with utterly devastating your mental well-being, and then making you take the blame for all of it.

[@SodiumFilledPondue]

I thought it was very telling when Zenab’s mother figure went to check on Cole after the stunt she pulled at the wedding. She seemed to know what kind of person Zenab is.

[@bunnyakyui]

Ngl it's been a struggle to get out of bed lately. I'm sure heaps of people relate to that. I like putting your videos on TV while I try get up and do some basic chores 😅 it really helped this morning. Lots of love 🥰

[@jane352]

What breaks me about the Cole Zaneb situation is that I used to be like her and I can assure you, if the woman doesn't look within to deal with whatever is rotting her soul then every single man who'll ever enter her life will be treated the same way. I cannot speak for her but that toxicity, for me, came from spite. I was hurt early on in my life and I started punishing my partners for the mistakes that someone else made. I abused someone very dear to me verbally and have worked for years trying to make up for it and I thank the universe every single day that my person had enough grace to forgive me for it. Point is, go to a therapist.

[@ziziflor9019]

Wow it takes courage to admit your faults. I also, need to work on taking accountability for my faults or I'll never learn. Jeez I hope I never hurt anyone like this. I had to fast forward a lot because i felt so bad for him

[@TheFrylockOG]

Honestly this is probably one of the channels that I click the fastest on, all of your videos are bangers leo

[@coelacanthfan]

normally i couldnt care less about people on reality tv but i cant help but feel bad for cole he honestly seems like a sweetheart and i hope he has people in his life that are supporting him

[@BROLY93]

Seeing everybody dog pile, Cole at the reunion pissed me the fuck off and really open my eyes to the cruelty of others despite them all being in their mid 20s to early 30s is still out here acting like highschoolers and it’s pathetic. Cole deserved so much better fr.

[@rabbit.of.the.moon_]

What happened to Cole is a textbook example of narcissistic abuse

[@moxiemaxie3543]

Person: This situation is crazy. People: You calling me crazy? Person: I never called you crazy People: You did!

[@sourgreendolly7685]

The people calling themselves crazy by acting like it 😂

[@jarsofpaperstars]

Maybe they should stop being crazy then, because that’s literally what they are

[@snap2itkara]

Being a woman who has been emotionally abused its so heartbreaking and upsetting to see what happened to Cole. It's easy to forget this happens to men as well. I don't know how everyone can sit there and not take up for him.

[@AlexandraUtschig]

My ex actually tried to control my eating. He forced me to try diets, he would berate and put me down for not eating "the right things", he'd even get on my case for eating big salads. He made me feel bad every day about what I ate. Cole is not trying to control her eating here.

[@shantina7439]

I find it hard to believe that if Cole was doing so much shit the producers would have no problem showing it. I mean we had Shake last season and he was horrible but it was entertaining so I am POSITIVE they would air it

[@shyvegan2168]

I appreciate your videos and your personality is so refreshing! Sometimes it’s just background noise while I do housework, but your videos feel like a friend coming over with some recent crazy stuff, or reality shows that I’d never been remotely interested in… but through your point of view they are actually interesting and honestly a little self-reflective and I appreciate what your channel is, if nothing more than a calm place to self-reflect by viewing other people.

[@CorpsDiplomatique22]

Thank you for this video, I agree. Hope Cole is better now and happy.

[@CyanideAlert_]

Her ego really shows in this episode. The fact that she kept saying "i forgive you" when it wasn't even his fault completely just makes her look more like a clown than a grown mature person