SLEEP TRAIN WITH US 😴 | Co-Sleeping To Sleeping Through The Night

@KaylaBuell 5 жыл бұрын

If you have questions as to why we decided to sleep train, check out our explanation here 👉🏼 kzbin.info/www/bejne/oYrNZoR8Z6dlf7s

@katiemarino633 5 жыл бұрын

can u do this method when they are wearing a sleep suit like the magic Merlin

@CopelandDecorandmomof4 5 жыл бұрын

Kayla Buell Thank you so much. We are on Day 3 and my baby girl slept for 10 hours last night! It’s like a whole new life. I’m a stay at home and I finally get time for myself. 🤩

@nancysfo5 5 жыл бұрын

Obviously I am thinking of doing this with my baby although it worked for my son, he was a calmer baby. I just wanted to let you know to be careful with the monitor right by her crib. They somehow get to the cord and pull the loose cord and can get it wrapped around their neck or arm. My son’s actually got pulled off the wall even though it was what i thought of as just out of reach. Luckily he was a toddler but still got a bump. It was the same monitor you have. Anyways I hope sleeping is great now!

@fabnat1387 4 жыл бұрын

Calm your child be there when they sleep let them feel comfortable n they feel secure when they see their parents around plz stop leaving your children alone this is so not right

@roksanaimran8824 3 жыл бұрын

Hi, Do you wake your baby up for feed like at least once during this sleep training? I started follow your sleep technique for my baby boy ( will be 6months old in 10 days) but started with Nap time first ( as I wasn't sure can do this for night) it took him 20 to 25mins to settle down each time, few wimp during night sleep, he slept from 7.30pm and around 1.45am I picked him up to change his nappy & nurse him & put him back to sleep. He was bit fussy while changing the nappy because he was so sleepy didn't even open his eye. After I fed him, put him back to his crib, he was bit fussy for 2 mins so I console him, soon he calm down & fall asleep. I am not sure should I or shouldn't I feed the baby if he doesn't wakes up in 6 hours, he was hungry when I wake him up for feed, shall I continue it until he is 9months old?

@ErikaRamadan 3 жыл бұрын

This video was life-changing! Our 7-month-old was doing a night feed and waking up several times a night. We finally reached our breaking point after not sleeping for hours one night. I searched for “my 7-month-old isn’t sleeping” and this video came up. I loved the simplicity of it and the step-by-step guidance. As a new parent, I didn’t feel comfortable just letting him cry it out, so this method was the perfect in-between. We had a very similar experience to you and by night 4, he was sleeping through the night (which has NEVER happened). His daytime naps are also long and beautiful as well now. Mistakes observed: #1: bottle-feeding to sleep; when he would wake up at night, he would look for the bottle to go back to sleep. We hadn’t given him the tools to learn how to fall asleep on his own. It’s so obvious now, I want to slap myself! #2: not having him on a regimented nap schedule #3: not waking him up consistently at the same time in the mornings. Now he’s in bed by 8 pm and up at 7 am. That allows him to nap from 9:30-11:30am and from 2:30-4 PM. Daytime sleep is highly correlated to nighttime sleep!! Anyways, I can’t thank you enough. And if you’re a sleep deprived parent, watch this video and follow it exactly. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain 😴😖

@stephjose9401 3 жыл бұрын

I need this! But he has been screaming 1 hour now and I am about to break... going from CO sleeping to crib in own room.

@lauravaughan8828 3 жыл бұрын

Same here!! Our 7 month old was waking up at least 4 times a night while co-sleeping, and I am SO GLAD I found this video. I had heard of sleep training but was afraid of it, I didn't want to do anything strict or put my baby in a lonely sad situation, but Oh My GOSH this has totally helped our entire family. We are on day 4 of our sleep training and I would recommend it to any parent struggling. Kayla, thank you for being brave and sharing your experience, it really inspires me to keep going.

@kaylahudson1284 2 жыл бұрын

How did you wean from feeding to sleep?

@emilyk.w3593 2 жыл бұрын

@@kaylahudson1284 I'm there too

@shemikagreen2657 Жыл бұрын

My LO in now 10 months. He was sleeping through the nights for most night from 6-7 MTHS. At 8 months he kept waking up most nights, 9 out of 10, he just turn 10 MTHS and I have had enough of it. He eats 3 meals for the day. Have at least 3 bottles during the day, but every night about 3 he wakes up crying down the place and is hungry. He sleeps well throughout the day too, so not sure why he wakes at night. He doesnt sleep in our bed but he's in the same room. So I don't think it's separation anxiety. Someone please tell me if you have had this experience and what you did to remedy it.

@mariek2661 5 жыл бұрын

All these negative comments.. try running on 2 hours of sleep a night for 6 months and then we can talk again!

@shazanakhan9807 5 жыл бұрын

Marie K well u get the hours during the day!

@dorotejamauko6227 5 жыл бұрын

Shazana Khan obviously you are not a mother..

@w.n.1518 5 жыл бұрын

When u cant deal with it, dont go pragnent. The Babys are number one and not the parents!

@joys9029 5 жыл бұрын

100% agree !!!

@resolute1922 5 жыл бұрын

I don't have any kids, but I was one who was 5 or 6 when I got out of my parents' bed. When I have my daughter in a couple of weeks, lets say I'm going to try this method so we can sleep on her own. Lol

@sunshineferreira671 Жыл бұрын

About to start sleep training with my almost 5 month old. I struggle with migraines and they get triggered from lack of sleep. And I also have been neglecting my physical and mental health because I literally am too tired so thank you for this video. It gives me strength

@pianogirl9676 5 жыл бұрын

There are “scientific” studies that argue both sides of this. How on earth would parents decide??? I have read studies about the harm of not sleeping and how crying is perfectly fine, and other studies about the harm of letting your child cry by him/herself. It means no matter what you decide there’s still a 50% chance you made the wrong call. I chose not to sleep train, I don’t judge people who do or don’t. In my case I am thankful that I followed my instincts, my son was diagnosed with mild sleep apnea around the time he turned 1. so I am so grateful that I was there right next to him every time he stopped breathing for a few seconds. Sleep training him could have gone just fine, but it could just as equally have had catastrophic consequences. I am glad I didn’t take any chances. Again, if you learn anything as a parent, it’s to never judge the choices of other parents, we all just trying to do our best, parenthood is fucking hard!

@joshkateevans8087 4 жыл бұрын

Amen.

@BrendaRodriguez-lv7li 3 жыл бұрын

Theres only one study that says it temporarily raises cortisol, which happens everytime a baby cries. That's about it.

@BrendaRodriguez-lv7li 3 жыл бұрын

@@evalemur my mom sleep trained my brother and he would sleep 8 hours at 4 months. My mom never sleep trained me until 2 years old when my brother was born and they were forced to put me in my own room. I cried. Banged parents bedroom door. My mom only slept in intervals for those 2 years and was a stay at home mom and didnt have much pressure to train me for sleep. Eventually the time still had to come for her to let me cry it out. She had to be firm because she often would relent so the weeks would drag on. I even grew jealous of my baby brother. The time is going to come eventually where they are too afraid or cant handle being away from you or not having a bottle to sleep or not being soothed back to sleep by you.(I still slept with a bottle at night tho until I was 9 years old and a pacifier until I was 6. had tooth decay problems because of it) Best thing you can do for you baby is develop a healthy sleep habit. A few days of sleep training isnt going to harm your baby. the best thing you can do for both you and your baby is to teach them to self soothe before the cognitive and physical wheels start rolling, and you get a "mommy please!!!!!! I dont want to sleep alone!!! I love you mommy. Please!!!" It happened anyway for me, and it happened at the worst possible time. I still remember that place and when I transitioned. My brother on the other hand, of course doesnt remember, but never had abandonment issues and had a healthy relationship with family.

@eminemilly 3 жыл бұрын

@@BrendaRodriguez-lv7li babies can't self soothe though

@BrendaRodriguez-lv7li 3 жыл бұрын

@@eminemilly my brother did. He only cried the first 2 days. And even when he woke up in the middle of the night he went back to sleep. When he was hungry at night hed cry and be fed, but he generally slept very well. Idk about self soothe, but theres a time where babies neurologically can handle sleeping through the night. I on the other hand, cried every 2 hours until I was 2 years old to be fed milk or for my mom to calm me down. Do you think my brother felt more stress in two days than I did in 2 years when i felt uncomfortable and couldnt handle being hungry for more than 2 hours? Where my sleep was constantly disrupted. Where my mothers sleep was also always disrupted, and found it hard to attain a job sleep deprived? Oh and look at that, even when my mother jumped to my every whim and spoiled me, I still have an extreme fear and anxiety of being rejected and neglected :/. Not my brother tho.

@Natalia-up7fk 4 жыл бұрын

I’m watching this with tears in my eyes because my baby is crying at the moment as well. Sleep training is so heartbreaking for me and watching your video is reassuring me that everything will be ok. 🤍

@BooksToAshes 4 жыл бұрын

Good for you for staying so strong

@Papayaguave 4 жыл бұрын

Then just go and comfort her. No need to torture her and yourself.

@catholicwife 2 жыл бұрын

@@Papayaguave as a mom of two expecting my third your advice is extremely harmful and rude, what you are advocating for is unsustainable for some families, so we have to do different methods for everyone in the families wellbeing, it’s a lie to tell people that it is “torturing “ your child if you let them cry. I would argue the opposite , it’s actually damaging to your child to make them dependent on you for longer than they need to be. Guess what I used to think like you and I breastfed my first for 3 1/2 years co slept until 4 and a half, he had a harder time transitioning to sleeping in his own bed , that I would argue as traumatic. Had I helped him do this when he was younger he would not have had all of the separation issues he had. I made my child DEPENDENT on me to where he couldn’t function on his own!!! That is NOT our job as parents, we need to help our children to stand on their own two feet. There is a balance to everything, but guilting someone by saying what their doing is “traumatic” is plain wrong and you need to get off the high horse!!

@BozaSusana Жыл бұрын

@@catholicwife children aren't mini adults and they depend on us because they need us, these needs can't be reduced to "milk/food and clean diaper" babies are human beings and they also need human contact, emotional conecction and the only way they can express their needs is through crying if you decide to ignore their crying you're literally ignoring their needs. Also there's plenty of scientific evidence about the negative impact on the baby's brain when you practice the cry it out method or interval crying, etc. I'm a mom too, I know how it feels being sleep deprived and I've thinked about CIO a looot of times, but honestly when I remember the negative impact on the baby I just can't do it. Babies only will be babies once, we should stop trying make them independant since birth, we have to accept that they need us and treat them with respect and that means hearing and attending their needs. Here's an article you can read about the negative impact on the brain www.sciencetimes.com/articles/24246/20191112/babies.htm

@STYLESBYLIFEBEAUTYNMORE 5 жыл бұрын

I’ve never had kids but I was sleep trained in a very purposeful way as a baby Why ? Because my mom believed that if she wasn’t rested she would be NO good for me or anyone else all these naysayers need to fall back Do what you want with YOUR child Sincerely A sleep trained fully functional certified in two professions salaried taking care of myself adult 💁🏽‍♀️

@philmurphy8890 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks so nuch for that. I'm feel so bad about trying this with my baby. But things have gotten so bad I recently had a car accident due to sleep deprivation

@crazed35 4 жыл бұрын

Your video changed my life!! My LO was exactly like yours and constantly kept waking during the night. We were also co sleeping so if he went to sleep, that meant I had to be in bed and I wouldn’t have an evening. After watching your video, you have me so much confidence to be able to do this and on day two he was sleeping through the night! I still can’t believe it! I’m on day 7 now and it’s been a life changer! Thank you from the bottom of my heart. God bless you xx

@tiffanyld7772 4 жыл бұрын

How old is your baby? I'm about to start with my 5 month old

@crazed35 4 жыл бұрын

Tiffany LD My LO was 8 months old when I started the sleep training with him x

@mssimmons4739 3 жыл бұрын

I really want to do the same with my little one who is going to be 2. I feel a bit hopeless and don't know if I should even try. I am having a second child on the way so I want to get his sleep schedule down.

@crazed35 3 жыл бұрын

@@mssimmons4739 I’m not sure what it would be like with a nearly 2 year old. My LO is now 15 months and if I left him to cry he would scream the house down. It’s very different to when I sleep trained him but saying that when he would go through phases of waking up every night again I would reintroduce the sleep training pattern and it would work wonders. It may be worth a try if you really want to and just see how it goes. All the best of luck and I really hope it works for you! Let me know how you get on xx

@stephjose9401 3 жыл бұрын

My son won't calm down if I go in unless I pick him him up. We are at 30 minutes of non stop scream/crying and it's so sad. Last time we tried he was this over an hour before I finally just brought him back to bed with us. Help!

@tenialynnsloan4249 5 жыл бұрын

omg from a mom who is going through the struggle of day one. Is so proud of you babygirl for sleeping through the night!

@shelbyjene332 5 жыл бұрын

I am so blessed my son learned how to do this all by himself. I couldn’t do this. You are strong mama! Good for you for doing the best thing for your baby. Sleep is so important!

@The5streetThe 3 жыл бұрын

I have a 3 month old sleeping in his crib, but I cried for you when I heard the cries 🥺

@jodilynnakanevadasmith6230 Жыл бұрын

this was so helpful to me! I cried a couple times with you, because I understand exactly how you feel about crying and what it does to your heart! I don’t know what negative comments people could make because this is real life situations with exhausted parents, and I totally support you and thank you for this very very helpful video! I am actually going to try this with my 10 month old granddaughter, Paislee, whom I am raising by myself I don’t have a partner to help me get through this but the way that you handled this , really inspired me and although I’m not looking forward to the process, I am looking forward to getting some sleep in the near future! So again, thank you so much for this video❤

@lovealways_alexa 5 жыл бұрын

“Joe is making her a cake.” You and your husband are honestly goals. The teamwork in sleep training and him doin the kitchen work now after getting home from work... 👏👏👏

@shintymc1491 5 жыл бұрын

I need to thank you so much for making this video! Last week my partner and I were at breaking point with broken sleep every night. Watching your video gave me the courage to begin sleep training, and after night 1, our little cherub has been sleeping from 7pm until 6.30am every night.. And in his own room!!! You've helped a family all the way from Scotland 💜

@sharavisuals6292 5 жыл бұрын

shinty mc what’s your baby’s age?

@shintymc1491 5 жыл бұрын

@@sharavisuals6292 he was 8 months when we sleep trained.

@yingkidsartchannel8052 5 жыл бұрын

@@shintymc1491 7pm- 6.30am!!! that's amazing...My son is 8 months old now...he still wakes up 3 times/ night...

@bridloh117 2 жыл бұрын

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@cecilialimones9758 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you sooooo much! This came as a life saver!! Thank you for being so in-depth with your times and for helping me see that this is for his best! Tonight is the first night!

@user-gn1mf6pz6q 3 жыл бұрын

How’d it go??

@tunes4kids 3 жыл бұрын

My first born was easy peasy. My second, was hard to get to sleep. That separation anxiety is not fun. It was a phase but what helped ease it was music. Lullabies, nursery rhymes and ambient music.

@kitty09090 3 жыл бұрын

I don't know why I'm crying😭 the moment u said u r gonna cry... I felt it😩

@jenzb468 Жыл бұрын

I hate that anyone would post a negative comment. I have 2 wonderful children and both were so completely different as babies. In my opinion/experience, its like being a new parent each time. As we all know, every human has their own preferences… I think healthy habits are great for everyone but some stick with one and not with another… this video just shows parents that care so deeply for their baby that they are willing to dig in and figure out what works best for their little love and that is the best thing a baby could ask for. Kudos to you for being such loving parents! And that is all that should matter to anyone watching this. That baby is loved and cared for. No matter what method is used/WORKS. Just my opinion…

@kw2473 4 жыл бұрын

I cannot stand fricken negative comments about CIO. There is literally NO EVIDENCE that it affects kids whatsoever in the rest of their lives. Yes it temporarily raises cortisol in their brains - which is also what happens when they’re crying in the car seat. Crying at the doctors office. Crying whenever they disagree with what you’re doing. Sleep deprivation is a huge contributor to PPD. I sleep trained bc after months of not sleeping, I was in an insanely dark place. I’m a SAHM and I can not afford to dread spending the days and nights with my child. Children don’t need “perfect” moms. They need HAPPY ones. My kid CIO’d and we have an amazing relationship. She has AMAZING sleep habits. If you’re not comfortable with it, don’t do it. But don’t intentionally watch a CIO video and shame moms. Fricken a-holes.

@traybaybay2904 4 жыл бұрын

Damn right! Agree

@kw2473 4 жыл бұрын

@TheInkinJapan right ... when you have no escape at all - you take care of your (multiple) kids all day long with no days off - SAHMs are the only moms I know who have gotten PPD, it’s an all consuming life with no breaks from your kids. Most moms I know look at me and say “kudos to you but I could never do that.” Why would we need to sleep any less than a working mom? Like what the actual fuck? The SAHM vs working mom debate is worn out - were all moms. But thanks for completely belittling a whole set of extremely hard working and exhausted people. I love how running an in home daycare is considered a career but being a SAHM is “not working”. Baffling. Kindly fuck off 👍🏼

@theneed2comment 3 жыл бұрын

@TheInkinJapan so sahms don't need to sleep? Your comment is ridiculously stupid.

@zuzanacoynehanakova2511 3 жыл бұрын

I so agree with you, im trying to sleep train too. Me and my husband are worn out, we try thr cio meth...couldnt stand it tho as he was crying 2h solid roaring so ill try this method today :D

@whitney3258 3 жыл бұрын

@@TheStigmawarriors I didn't click through all the links bc the first one is misleading. It's talking about babies under 3 months that cry excessively (concluding there are probably some other type of issues involved, numerological ect). Not a child crying for 20 to 30 minutes for 4 or 5 days. STOP spreading bs information.

@e.m.lumesound1070 Жыл бұрын

I've just started doing our own version of sleep training. I don't feel comfortable leaving him for more than 5mins but so far I haven't had to leave him more than 3 anyway. Before he was exactly the same as your girl - cosleeping and waking every 1-2hrs and wanting to nurse. We definitely made the mistake of giving him milk to soothe him off to sleep. First night without doing that and we did still cosleep but I perservered and didn't feed him until about 3.30am when he woke again. So I got about 3.5hrs straight which was big progress! Today I have focussed on giving him bigger feeds and making sure he isn't using the nursing to go to sleep. I've also been putting him in his cot to sleep by himself for the first time. He's used to being in there as we have used it as a safe play space to familiarise him, but I was SO sure he would take ages to go to sleep. Both naps he has only taken 3 mins and one settling. First nap was 30mins and he's currently on his second which has been 20mins so far. Prior to this he would usually have 2 x 30min naps and one 1-2hr nap every day, so the short naps are not a worry for me. Tonight will be interesting to see how he copes with sleeping in his cot for the first time. I'm definitely anticipating some difficulty but I'm going to try. He's surprised me so far, so we'll see!

@natalyramirez7641 3 жыл бұрын

My baby was a bad sleeper since she was born and the only way she would sleep was right next to me, In my arms or on top of me. Yes, It was hard not being able to sleep through the night. But i got used to it, But now she is 6 months and she sleeps better she usually goes to bed at 8pm she only wakes up at 2am she eats and goes back to sleep until 7:30am. I never sleep trained her because I didn’t have the heart to let her cry for so long.! She just learned on her own And now i sleep better as well, I think babies are not robots that HAVE to sleep 10+ hours straight at night, they are just tiny humans that need to learn so many things. Im so glad that my baby felt comforted by mommy all this time. I mean, Thats why i chose to be a mom, even if i had to sacrifice my sleep only for few months ,eventually she will grow up and she will not need me anymore so now i take advantage of that. 😀 thats only my opinion not judging anyone. (Excuse my broken English but Is not my first language) 😘

@Surprisebaby Жыл бұрын

i agree. i have a 2 month old and idk if i can do any of the sleep training methods honestly. ferber method is only an inch better than cry it out.

@tawneydacko592 9 ай бұрын

❤ exactly. We force independence onto our children and create trauma for them. I have no bond with my Mom because she did this to me and we never really got close. I'm doing the opposite with my baby girl now and taking all the advantage of her want and love for me because one day she wont need it.❤

@natalyramirez7641 9 ай бұрын

@@tawneydacko592 is so great that you are not repeating your mom's way. You are amazing woman and mother to your baby girl! She is so lucky to have you!! 💗

@deareeed05 5 жыл бұрын

I just have to say thank you for this video. My son is 5 months and we’re moving, and for the past couple nights I just rewatched your video over and over to remind me that it’s needed, and gave me the strength to not give up!!!! It’s so hard! So thank you from the bottom of my heart!

@Elizabeth-yv6bn 3 жыл бұрын

This is very encouraging. I am currently all alone with my 6 month old, overseas and have no family or friends what so ever and stuck due to COVID. I have not slept in months. I am currently co-sleeping with my baby, I wouldn't mind it if she actually slept! She wakes up nearly every hour, not crying or anything, but just to look around, but she pulls my hair, tries to roll on to me and starts whining because she is bored. I am so sleep deprived that its causing health issues. I have very bad stomach issues, vomiting, pain and I am losing weight. I am also starting to suffer from memory loss due to sleep deprivation and I was nearly in a car accident 3 times so far. I had extensive medical tests from different doctors and they all pointed to sleep deprivation. I feel like my sleep deprivation is either going to get my baby hurt or killed or both of us. I need to try this method. And to anyone who says its damaging for a baby to cry for a bit; if its damaging, then EVERY single baby is damaged. There is ALWAYS going to be times when a parent cannot respond to a baby crying, whether its because baby is in a car seat and mother cannot pull over, or parents are dead asleep and woke up to baby crying for a while or parents showering.

@mrsturmel5244 2 жыл бұрын

Am so sorry you are going through this..am in the exact same situation..doing it on my own..may I ask you how it went ? And which method u have used?

@adaokeke8705 2 жыл бұрын

Stay strong 😘

@patalm7548 4 жыл бұрын

Watching this video while I'm waiting for my LO to fall asleep has helped me cope with the crying, thanks

@TheStigmawarriors 4 жыл бұрын

Here are the links, figure I'll post anyway so you or someone else may be able to benefit from them! Why not to sleep train/CIO Links on crying Long term cognitive development in children with prolonged crying adc.bmj.com/content/89/11/989 Effects of crying on cerebral blood volume and cytochrome aa3. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2831328 Infant crying: nature, physiologic consequences, and select interventions. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11923998 Maternal behavior as a regulator of polyamine biosynthesis in brain and heart of the developing rat pup science.sciencemag.org/content/199/4327/445 The Neurodevelopmental Impact of Violence in Childhood childtrauma.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/Neurodevel_Impact_Perry.pdf The experience-dependent maturation of a regulatory system in the orbital prefrontal cortex and the origin of developmental psychopathology journals.cambridge.org/action/displayAbstract?fromPage=online&aid=4495696&fileId=S0954579400006970 Selective depression of serum growth hormone during maternal deprivation in rat pups science.sciencemag.org/content/201/4360/1034.short THE EFFECTS OF EARLY RELATIONAL TRAUMA ON RIGHT BRAIN DEVELOPMENT, AFFECT REGULATION, AND INFANT MENTAL HEALTH citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/download?doi=10.1.1.130.917&rep=rep1&type=pdf Children with serious illness: Behavioral correlates of separation and isolation link.springer.com/article/10.1007/BF00705865 The Mother-Infant Interaction as a Regulator of Infant Physiology and Behavior link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-1-4684-4565-7_4 Control of sleep-wake states in the infant rat by features of the mother-infant relationship onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/dev.420150307/abstract Persistent Infant Crying and Hyperactivity Problems in Middle Childhood pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/109/6/1054.short The Effect of Excessive Crying on the Development of Emotion Regulation onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1207/S15327078IN0302_2/abstract Transition to Child Care: Associations With Infant-Mother Attachment, Infant Negative Emotion, and Cortisol Elevations onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1467-8624.2004.00698.x/abstract Effects of early stress on brain structure and function: Implications for understanding the relationship between child maltreatment and depression journals.cambridge.org/action/displayAbstract?fromPage=online&aid=82068&fileId=S0954579401003030 The neurobiological consequences of early stress and childhood maltreatment www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0149763403000071_ Disorders of attachment in infancy psycnet.apa.org/psycinfo/1997-07339-004 Asynchrony of mother-infant hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis activity following extinction of infant crying responses induced during the transition to sleep www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21945361 Nighttime maternal responsiveness and infant attachment at one year www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3422632/ www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/blog/moral-landscapes/201407/parents-misled-cry-it-out-sleep-training-reports%3Famp grubbymummyblog.wordpress.com/2017/07/13/accepting-the-reality-of-infant-and-toddler-sleep/ www.drmomma.org/2010/09/why-african-babies-dont-cry.html?m=1 www.gentleparenting.co.uk/kc/controlled-crying-history-evidence/ m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1252517954880460&id=693504594115135&ref=m_notif&notif_t=group_comment_mention&_rdr www.phillyvoice.com/screaming-sleep/ evolutionaryparenting.com/its-just-a-little-cortisol-why-rises-in-cortisol-matter-to-infant-development/ evolutionaryparenting.com/controlled-crying-cortisol-and-attachment-a-critical-look/ evolutionaryparenting.com/a-not-so-blind-review-of-the-recent-cio-research/ nymag.com/scienceofus/2017/06/microbiome-trauma-gut-bacteria.html? vimeo.com/88343229 www.google.co.uk/amp/s/neuroanthropology.net/2008/12/21/cosleeping-and-biological-imperatives-why-human-babies-do-not-and-should-not-sleep-alone/amp/

@jennacravens3385 5 жыл бұрын

For naps, try blacking out her room! Redi Shades are a GREAT, CHEAP, EASY option for blacking out her room that will actually work! Good luck mama!

@amberpennington6010 2 жыл бұрын

Blackout curtains are an absolute game changer when it comes to sleep!

@livingwithrawithar9658 5 жыл бұрын

You give me hope ! My daughter will be 6 months next week 😭 I am currently watching this at 4am

@cristyaa1018 5 жыл бұрын

Lol same !

@beezee7002 4 жыл бұрын

me too

@pashminaiftikhar7317 3 жыл бұрын

Me three haha

@maggiemagoo5638 2 жыл бұрын

Awww, if only all babies could have such attentive, loving parents. My daughter sent this link to me because her and her husband are trying this. Good job young parents!!

@sarahjamieson5552 9 ай бұрын

I want to thank you and commend you for putting up this video. I didn't sleep train my first child (he's now 3.5) and hadn't planned to with our little girl who is now actually 7 months. However she continues to wake a few times at night and we can't get her over again sometimes for 2 hours. My husband is an even lighter sleeper than me and once he's properly up struggles to get back to sleep as well. He has a very physically active job sometimes starting early on the day and depending on shifts he might be driving home at 11pm in the dark along country roads and several times now has been so exhausted he's caught himself nearly falling asleep at the wheel. We're also realising the affect the months of no sleep has had on our temper/mood which is not good when trying to deal with our 3 year old's tantrums. We don't want to be having a short fuse and losing our temper with him (we've both noticed it happening). So think we going to do this. Only thing is my husband won't be able to tolerate the length of crying...he's not as good and trying to emotionally harden himself and would intervene too soon. He has a training course in England for 4 days in a couple of weeks so I think I'm going to try tackling it then. Hopefully get the worst of it over while he's away. Your video has given me more confidence and help for getting started. ❤

@fig_and_peaches_fitness 5 жыл бұрын

This was such a great video. I have always been absolutely against leaving your baby to cry, however, it’s clear to see that you are such a gentle soul who adores her baby and there’s no way you would do anything to harm her. Also, this is not a lock in a room and ignore technique, but reassuring baby every so often. It’s also so so so important for your mental health to get sleep, so to me this seems worth it and no harm done to baby. Well done you mumma 💕

@TheStigmawarriors 4 жыл бұрын

Here are the links, figure I'll post anyway so you or someone else may be able to benefit from them! Why not to sleep train/CIO Links on crying Long term cognitive development in children with prolonged crying adc.bmj.com/content/89/11/989 Effects of crying on cerebral blood volume and cytochrome aa3. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2831328 Infant crying: nature, physiologic consequences, and select interventions. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11923998 Maternal behavior as a regulator of polyamine biosynthesis in brain and heart of the developing rat pup science.sciencemag.org/content/199/4327/445 The Neurodevelopmental Impact of Violence in Childhood childtrauma.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/Neurodevel_Impact_Perry.pdf The experience-dependent maturation of a regulatory system in the orbital prefrontal cortex and the origin of developmental psychopathology journals.cambridge.org/action/displayAbstract?fromPage=online&aid=4495696&fileId=S0954579400006970 Selective depression of serum growth hormone during maternal deprivation in rat pups science.sciencemag.org/content/201/4360/1034.short THE EFFECTS OF EARLY RELATIONAL TRAUMA ON RIGHT BRAIN DEVELOPMENT, AFFECT REGULATION, AND INFANT MENTAL HEALTH citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/download?doi=10.1.1.130.917&rep=rep1&type=pdf Children with serious illness: Behavioral correlates of separation and isolation link.springer.com/article/10.1007/BF00705865 The Mother-Infant Interaction as a Regulator of Infant Physiology and Behavior link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-1-4684-4565-7_4 Control of sleep-wake states in the infant rat by features of the mother-infant relationship onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/dev.420150307/abstract Persistent Infant Crying and Hyperactivity Problems in Middle Childhood pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/109/6/1054.short The Effect of Excessive Crying on the Development of Emotion Regulation onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1207/S15327078IN0302_2/abstract Transition to Child Care: Associations With Infant-Mother Attachment, Infant Negative Emotion, and Cortisol Elevations onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1467-8624.2004.00698.x/abstract Effects of early stress on brain structure and function: Implications for understanding the relationship between child maltreatment and depression journals.cambridge.org/action/displayAbstract?fromPage=online&aid=82068&fileId=S0954579401003030 The neurobiological consequences of early stress and childhood maltreatment www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0149763403000071_ Disorders of attachment in infancy psycnet.apa.org/psycinfo/1997-07339-004 Asynchrony of mother-infant hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis activity following extinction of infant crying responses induced during the transition to sleep www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21945361 Nighttime maternal responsiveness and infant attachment at one year www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3422632/ www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/blog/moral-landscapes/201407/parents-misled-cry-it-out-sleep-training-reports%3Famp grubbymummyblog.wordpress.com/2017/07/13/accepting-the-reality-of-infant-and-toddler-sleep/ www.drmomma.org/2010/09/why-african-babies-dont-cry.html?m=1 www.gentleparenting.co.uk/kc/controlled-crying-history-evidence/ m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1252517954880460&id=693504594115135&ref=m_notif&notif_t=group_comment_mention&_rdr www.phillyvoice.com/screaming-sleep/ evolutionaryparenting.com/its-just-a-little-cortisol-why-rises-in-cortisol-matter-to-infant-development/ evolutionaryparenting.com/controlled-crying-cortisol-and-attachment-a-critical-look/ evolutionaryparenting.com/a-not-so-blind-review-of-the-recent-cio-research/ nymag.com/scienceofus/2017/06/microbiome-trauma-gut-bacteria.html? vimeo.com/88343229 www.google.co.uk/amp/s/neuroanthropology.net/2008/12/21/cosleeping-and-biological-imperatives-why-human-babies-do-not-and-should-not-sleep-alone/amp/

@BooksToAshes 4 жыл бұрын

@@TheStigmawarriors Can you STOP posting this cr*p. Seriously, let parents do what they want. A sleep deprived parent is just as dangerous, look up the reasons why this is also positive and don't be ignorant. There is good and bad on everything these days.

@tuulchrystal 2 жыл бұрын

My baby is 9 months old, sleeps by nursing and nurse 3-5 times in the night and also comfort suckling through the whole night. It was really hard for me to sleep. I’d sleep so stiff barely move. If I move away from her she’d cry. Even her day naps she had to sleep with me for comfort suckling. I had no time to relax. Or even go to restroom peacefully. I became a literal zombie. My back killing me. My head always hurting from lack of sleep. Forget thing. Can’t focus. Always tired. So decided to start transitioning co-sleeping to crib. And watching few videos and yours really helped me keep going. I am on my day 6 now. We’re sleeping in same room, her crib is 10 inch away from my bed. First night was the hardest. She mostly have 2 naps a day each around 1-2 hours long. But that day for some reason she didn’t had her second nap. So she was super fussy and sleepy. I started her bedtime routine around 7:50. Bath, lotion and some reading. Put her down at 8:50 pm by nursing. As soon as I put her in crib she cried. Then get her back. Soothing, nursing. Then put her in crib she cried. Then again pick her up. I really don’t like crying out method. So instead I did this back n forth like for an hour. Then she finally asleep. Through the night she wakes up 5-6 times, cried. I’d pick her up soothe nurse put her down everytime she wakes up… Then I started do her naps in her crib from day two. Naps were little easier bcuz she didn’t cry like night sleep when I put her in crib. She fuss but didn’t cry…Over the last few days I put her in her crib hour before bedtime and sit next to her crib. Play with her or read to her. Trying to make her get used to being in crib. I think thats working. Today she didn’t cried like every other days. I think my effort finally paying off. I can now finally relax my back muscle and sleep. If I keep going maybe some day she will learn make herself to sleep without nursing. And your video keeps me motivated. Thank you.

@tawneydacko592 9 ай бұрын

This helped me a lot because cry it out method is not okay to me. I'm cosleeping exactly the same as you and I'm going to try all this. Thank you!

@Lmnopqrstuvwxyz686 4 жыл бұрын

This was very reassuring! Tonight was the first night of sleep training my 15 month old. I did the camp it out method where you sit next to their crib until they fall asleep. He shares a room with us so I am watching more sleep training videos as I prepare for night two tomorrow. Thanks for the video!

@bellex05 4 жыл бұрын

How is it going? I tried this tonight for the first day and it did not go well

@Lmnopqrstuvwxyz686 4 жыл бұрын

I was doing this for naps and bedtime, bedtime was definitely harder so I decided I would only try naps first so I didn’t overwhelm him and it worked like a charm! Since we just got back from traveling I have to start the bedtime from scratch 😭

@bellex05 4 жыл бұрын

@@Lmnopqrstuvwxyz686 oh, that's great! Thanks for sharing and hopefully your baby jumps right back into the routine!

@TheStigmawarriors 4 жыл бұрын

Here are the links, figure I'll post anyway so you or someone else may be able to benefit from them! Why not to sleep train/CIO Links on crying Long term cognitive development in children with prolonged crying adc.bmj.com/content/89/11/989 Effects of crying on cerebral blood volume and cytochrome aa3. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2831328 Infant crying: nature, physiologic consequences, and select interventions. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11923998 Maternal behavior as a regulator of polyamine biosynthesis in brain and heart of the developing rat pup science.sciencemag.org/content/199/4327/445 The Neurodevelopmental Impact of Violence in Childhood childtrauma.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/Neurodevel_Impact_Perry.pdf The experience-dependent maturation of a regulatory system in the orbital prefrontal cortex and the origin of developmental psychopathology journals.cambridge.org/action/displayAbstract?fromPage=online&aid=4495696&fileId=S0954579400006970 Selective depression of serum growth hormone during maternal deprivation in rat pups science.sciencemag.org/content/201/4360/1034.short THE EFFECTS OF EARLY RELATIONAL TRAUMA ON RIGHT BRAIN DEVELOPMENT, AFFECT REGULATION, AND INFANT MENTAL HEALTH citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/download?doi=10.1.1.130.917&rep=rep1&type=pdf Children with serious illness: Behavioral correlates of separation and isolation link.springer.com/article/10.1007/BF00705865 The Mother-Infant Interaction as a Regulator of Infant Physiology and Behavior link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-1-4684-4565-7_4 Control of sleep-wake states in the infant rat by features of the mother-infant relationship onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/dev.420150307/abstract Persistent Infant Crying and Hyperactivity Problems in Middle Childhood pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/109/6/1054.short The Effect of Excessive Crying on the Development of Emotion Regulation onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1207/S15327078IN0302_2/abstract Transition to Child Care: Associations With Infant-Mother Attachment, Infant Negative Emotion, and Cortisol Elevations onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1467-8624.2004.00698.x/abstract Effects of early stress on brain structure and function: Implications for understanding the relationship between child maltreatment and depression journals.cambridge.org/action/displayAbstract?fromPage=online&aid=82068&fileId=S0954579401003030 The neurobiological consequences of early stress and childhood maltreatment www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0149763403000071_ Disorders of attachment in infancy psycnet.apa.org/psycinfo/1997-07339-004 Asynchrony of mother-infant hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis activity following extinction of infant crying responses induced during the transition to sleep www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21945361 Nighttime maternal responsiveness and infant attachment at one year www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3422632/ www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/blog/moral-landscapes/201407/parents-misled-cry-it-out-sleep-training-reports%3Famp grubbymummyblog.wordpress.com/2017/07/13/accepting-the-reality-of-infant-and-toddler-sleep/ www.drmomma.org/2010/09/why-african-babies-dont-cry.html?m=1 www.gentleparenting.co.uk/kc/controlled-crying-history-evidence/ m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1252517954880460&id=693504594115135&ref=m_notif&notif_t=group_comment_mention&_rdr www.phillyvoice.com/screaming-sleep/ evolutionaryparenting.com/its-just-a-little-cortisol-why-rises-in-cortisol-matter-to-infant-development/ evolutionaryparenting.com/controlled-crying-cortisol-and-attachment-a-critical-look/ evolutionaryparenting.com/a-not-so-blind-review-of-the-recent-cio-research/ nymag.com/scienceofus/2017/06/microbiome-trauma-gut-bacteria.html? vimeo.com/88343229 www.google.co.uk/amp/s/neuroanthropology.net/2008/12/21/cosleeping-and-biological-imperatives-why-human-babies-do-not-and-should-not-sleep-alone/amp/

@bipolarchick26 2 жыл бұрын

When I did this, she got either more aggravated or wouldn’t sleep & thought it was a game…

@joys9029 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much , I did this method and it work ! For get all these negative comments. You just helped a new mommy

@isily8902 3 жыл бұрын

Please please dont take an example from this and do some research on why to not sleep train your baby

@novn32 5 жыл бұрын

All these negatives comments smh. Its your job as a parent to teach ur children so they grow up in healthy ppl with healthy habits. N part of that is falling asleep independently. Not all lessons are fun to administer. Good job mama

@w.n.1518 5 жыл бұрын

The babys learn it when the brain its ready for it. Get informations online and dont do this shit.

@marie-leonieweidner 2 ай бұрын

You guys are heroes❤❤ i feel so incouraged to keep our routine, crying is okay like you do it, we do it too

@karenlisseth2815 4 жыл бұрын

This is very encouraging! I have a 7 month old, we just co sleep and freaks out the moment we turn our backs to her and only naps 40 mins sooooooo.... going to give this a try!

@sweetberry9816 4 жыл бұрын

How'd it go?

@justwingingit65 4 жыл бұрын

Omg this is my life! How are you now?

@versteeg89 3 жыл бұрын

This is me with my 6 mo!!! Did you try this??? Lets us know

@marie-leonieweidner 2 ай бұрын

I cried during this video bc it is so wonderful❤ so incouraged thank you!!

@alexias166 5 жыл бұрын

These sleep training methods have their history in germany in a not very nice time for mamas. Its confusing to the child to let them cry it out when you are not there. As someone who has studied Early Childhood Development, I can assure you, you will only make them stronger and have a more secure attachment (stronger to be more independent sooner) if you meet their needs now when they need it. It is only natural for baby to need you now. Crying is not bad when addressing sleep issues, but crying alone is.

@Sincerelyprisca 5 жыл бұрын

Alexia S What do you recommend? My daughter is 6 months old and sharing a room with us

@natahlthomason3425 5 жыл бұрын

Alexia, i thoroughly agree - far more harm done than good. We bed share/cosleep like they do in Japan and many other countries that have lower SIDS rates than the US. Heaps of sleep for everyone and no emotional damage.

@travisherron5249 5 жыл бұрын

For the past two weeks I think it's time

@dutchshepherdlifeinmalta4066 5 жыл бұрын

The baby looks so very sad in the morning. She is learning no one is there when she needs them 😢

@laibahameed689 5 жыл бұрын

@@Sincerelyprisca abandoning them so quickly is not good if a baby cries genuinely it will induce inferiority complex There should be a slow transition

@taisabittencourt9527 Жыл бұрын

Did you put her down drowsy for her naps? Or totally awake? I’m asking this while looking at the monitor, it’s out first night and baby fell asleep at 12 minutes total (3 + 5 + 4) I’m so happy and excited! Thanks for sharing your experience

@ElleEasternSuburbsMum 5 жыл бұрын

I hope you’re reading these comments❤️ my daughter sleeps through the night and we have never practised CIO... it’s not the only way xxx

@charisma1472 5 жыл бұрын

What did you do? Trying to sleep train my 6 month old(starting tonight) to sleep in her own crib and I'm at a loss. Wanting something that doesnt involve so many tears.

@ElleEasternSuburbsMum 5 жыл бұрын

Charisma Cogburn Responsive settling! I have always tried first to settle her without picking her up (bum pats, sshhing, stroking her face). That way she’s not falling asleep in our arms and then waking up somewhere else alone and confused. Introducing a little muslin lovey really helped. Plus once she started rolling and sleeping on her tummy, she slept deeper! We follow the same bed time routine every night and use white noise all night! Also an earlier bed time really helped us. She goes to bed at 630-7pm.

@Think-about- 5 жыл бұрын

Every child is different. What works for one may not work for another. Be careful before judging another mom... especially if you only have one kid!

@jenniferb1786 5 жыл бұрын

Same.

@dimaavivaelouazzani4829 4 жыл бұрын

Same here ! Have coslept, met her every need from day one. Both my girls sleep the whole night. ( A 3 year old and a 15 week old )

@cowprincess4967 4 жыл бұрын

I did this method with both my kids daughter is now two years old and my son is now eight months. The first week or two was the hardest but they have to learn some how because us as parents are no good if we only get two or three hours of sleep. Nothing wrong with this method as long as babies needs are all met

@shellyh5186 3 жыл бұрын

Comfort is a need :(

@cowprincess4967 3 жыл бұрын

@@shellyh5186 of course comfort is a need also by daughter and son are completely fine and sleep through the night they get all the cuddles and comfort during the day and before bed

@21earlthepearl 5 жыл бұрын

I always thought I’d never sleep train, but I now realize that my baby needs to learn the skill of falling asleep by herself. Wish us luck!

@kyara.millan 3 жыл бұрын

This video was much needed! I feel like I only see on social media babies that sleep through the night/day and my baby is nothing like that she wakes every 3-4 hrs at night and her naps if we successfully put her down no more than 30 minutes on her own. So thank you for being honest and showing that there are babies that struggle with sleeping! (We also cosleep so I relate to feeling being held hostage! Lol) my baby girl Bellamy is a week over 4 months so I’m wondering when to start sleep training!

@bemat903 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Kyara, I use to have the same problem with my little girl, she was waking up crying in the night-time but after I put into practice the methods presented in this Parenting Cours tinyurl.com/syfb4jw8 she sleeps all night long and my and my wife can sleep to. I wish you all the best

@CopelandDecorandmomof4 5 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️Thank you so much. I’m on day 2 of sleep training. Pray for me 😂

@melissameliss9575 4 жыл бұрын

I'm on day 4 and still brakes my heart when she cries but everyday is less and less and the improvements are amazing. She now sleeps at night. We are currently working on her naps

@CopelandDecorandmomof4 4 жыл бұрын

melissa meliss Great! Use the same technique. Set a nap time and stick to it. I also found that, sitting in the room with my child. She doesn’t cry at all and goes to bed within 5 minutes.

@melissameliss9575 4 жыл бұрын

@@CopelandDecorandmomof4 for how long was the training for your baby?.. Mine will turn 2 months old in 3 days. Like I said her improvement is amazing for how little she is but sometimes I feel guilty because she is so little. I also feel it'll be worse to stop the training now as there is mayor improvement.

@CopelandDecorandmomof4 4 жыл бұрын

melissa meliss My baby is 1 years old so she knew I was in the room. It took her 1 night to understand what was going on. I never did it early due to nursing. My baby was still eating every two weeks. When she was 2 months. I ordered a baby sleeper. Wrap her up and she will feel as if she is still in your stomach.

@Ashley-px4py 4 жыл бұрын

melissa meliss you’re sleep training your baby at not even 2 months old?!?!

@itskassieg5878 4 жыл бұрын

I just came across your video and it was very informative. My daughter is 6 months old and sleeps very late im talking anywhere between 2am and 4 am and wakes up very late. Ive tried everything her doctor has reccomended hut nothing seems to work. She also sleeps with us so it does take a toll not just on me but my husband who has to work early so hopefully this works for us.

@chasityfredrickson9940 4 жыл бұрын

Did you end up getting good results? My daughter is the exact same way won’t go to sleep until 2-4 am which is why I’m up now and sleeps so late

@itskassieg5878 4 жыл бұрын

chasity fredrickson no lol but eventually she ended up sleeping early on her own. I think her body couldnt take it anymore & one day she fell asleep at 7pm and didnt wake up til 8am and ever since i havent had a problem.

@beccahasbrook8140 4 жыл бұрын

My dr suggested this to us . And just watching this makes me wanna cry my eyes out , how am I ever gunna be able to do this with my son

@JC-mp1nv 4 жыл бұрын

Today is day 4 for us. My son has been sleeping really good! First night was horrible but I did not give in. Today it took him 14 min to fall asleep on his own for his nap! :) try it out.. you are doing baby a favor and yourself too. My son was waking me every hour, he just wanted to fall asleep on me, I couldn't even lay down cause that pissed him off. He wanted me to sit down while he slept. I got a super bad headache it lasted 2 days. My entire body ached, I felt nauseous. This is why I did ferber method.

@patriciatorres3030 4 жыл бұрын

@@JC-mp1nv This is exactly what was happening with me. My daughter is 7 moths old and she was nursing all night long and not even allowed me lie down. I feel sick, all my body is sore .Today is our second day and I have a lot of hopes..... God bless all the parents 💖

@JC-mp1nv 4 жыл бұрын

@@patriciatorres3030 hi! Do not give up. Its been 4 months since I commented on here. And my son sleeps through the night! I sleep so much better too and he does too :) just stay consistent and it will work.

@TheStigmawarriors 4 жыл бұрын

Here are the links, figure I'll post anyway so you or someone else may be able to benefit from them! Why not to sleep train/CIO Links on crying Long term cognitive development in children with prolonged crying adc.bmj.com/content/89/11/989 Effects of crying on cerebral blood volume and cytochrome aa3. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2831328 Infant crying: nature, physiologic consequences, and select interventions. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11923998 Maternal behavior as a regulator of polyamine biosynthesis in brain and heart of the developing rat pup science.sciencemag.org/content/199/4327/445 The Neurodevelopmental Impact of Violence in Childhood childtrauma.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/Neurodevel_Impact_Perry.pdf The experience-dependent maturation of a regulatory system in the orbital prefrontal cortex and the origin of developmental psychopathology journals.cambridge.org/action/displayAbstract?fromPage=online&aid=4495696&fileId=S0954579400006970 Selective depression of serum growth hormone during maternal deprivation in rat pups science.sciencemag.org/content/201/4360/1034.short THE EFFECTS OF EARLY RELATIONAL TRAUMA ON RIGHT BRAIN DEVELOPMENT, AFFECT REGULATION, AND INFANT MENTAL HEALTH citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/download?doi=10.1.1.130.917&rep=rep1&type=pdf Children with serious illness: Behavioral correlates of separation and isolation link.springer.com/article/10.1007/BF00705865 The Mother-Infant Interaction as a Regulator of Infant Physiology and Behavior link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-1-4684-4565-7_4 Control of sleep-wake states in the infant rat by features of the mother-infant relationship onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/dev.420150307/abstract Persistent Infant Crying and Hyperactivity Problems in Middle Childhood pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/109/6/1054.short The Effect of Excessive Crying on the Development of Emotion Regulation onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1207/S15327078IN0302_2/abstract Transition to Child Care: Associations With Infant-Mother Attachment, Infant Negative Emotion, and Cortisol Elevations onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1467-8624.2004.00698.x/abstract Effects of early stress on brain structure and function: Implications for understanding the relationship between child maltreatment and depression journals.cambridge.org/action/displayAbstract?fromPage=online&aid=82068&fileId=S0954579401003030 The neurobiological consequences of early stress and childhood maltreatment www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0149763403000071_ Disorders of attachment in infancy psycnet.apa.org/psycinfo/1997-07339-004 Asynchrony of mother-infant hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis activity following extinction of infant crying responses induced during the transition to sleep www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21945361 Nighttime maternal responsiveness and infant attachment at one year www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3422632/ www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/blog/moral-landscapes/201407/parents-misled-cry-it-out-sleep-training-reports%3Famp grubbymummyblog.wordpress.com/2017/07/13/accepting-the-reality-of-infant-and-toddler-sleep/ www.drmomma.org/2010/09/why-african-babies-dont-cry.html?m=1 www.gentleparenting.co.uk/kc/controlled-crying-history-evidence/ m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1252517954880460&id=693504594115135&ref=m_notif&notif_t=group_comment_mention&_rdr www.phillyvoice.com/screaming-sleep/ evolutionaryparenting.com/its-just-a-little-cortisol-why-rises-in-cortisol-matter-to-infant-development/ evolutionaryparenting.com/controlled-crying-cortisol-and-attachment-a-critical-look/ evolutionaryparenting.com/a-not-so-blind-review-of-the-recent-cio-research/ nymag.com/scienceofus/2017/06/microbiome-trauma-gut-bacteria.html? vimeo.com/88343229 www.google.co.uk/amp/s/neuroanthropology.net/2008/12/21/cosleeping-and-biological-imperatives-why-human-babies-do-not-and-should-not-sleep-alone/amp/

@bhumikamodh 5 жыл бұрын

I can understand sleep deprivation. Im a mom of a 8 month baby and am sleep deprived AF. I am thinking of trying sleep training but I am too scared. I couldnt even watch your baby crying!!! I had to put it on mute and switch on captions! Good job to you guys, I hope i get sleep soon!!

@stephjose9401 3 жыл бұрын

I haven't sleep more than 4 hours in 10 months with my son. I am trying to get him to sleep in his crib but he just screams and cries and thrashes. I go in every 10 minutes and even after an hour he was still doing this.... ugh. Help me Lord.

@elafox3279 Жыл бұрын

This is so heartbreaking to see, even three years later. I don't judge any parent being desperate because of sleep deprivation. I have a toddler myself and two and a half years of bad sleeping ;) But please keep in mind: The only thing your baby is going to learn is that there is nobody there. The baby doesn't learn to sleep it just gives up on trying to get your attention, because there is no sense at all in activating the attachment system. I'm so happy, that sleep training isn't a thing in Europe anymore (sorry for my bad english though)

@carlabruni5223 4 ай бұрын

There is (almost) no parental leave in the US, that's why people are more inclined to do sleep training

@danielleharrison7955 5 жыл бұрын

I did this with my two when they were both 6 months old and we haven't looked back both of my kids are really good sleepers and they sleep a full 12hours at night from 7 to 7 and I have no problem with it you go mama you do what's best for your baby girl

@w.n.1518 5 жыл бұрын

Shit

@jessicaely2521 4 жыл бұрын

Same with me. My kids ar 12 and 14 months. Neither of my children had issues with sleeping unless they were sick or teething.

@brittanycalhoun8568 4 жыл бұрын

Ive shared my room with my 6 month old since she was born and still do. I put her pack n play right next to my bed. She sleeps from 7-8 pm to 7-8 am no problems. I think people feel like they need to rush babys sleeping in their own room. Maybe research about the negative effects of letting a baby cry it out? Shes still a baby mom 💕

@adrianal3al 4 жыл бұрын

Brittany Calhoun I still share room with my little one too same age. How did you get yours to sleep for so long? I’m assuming u didn’t use this method or crying out method...I just want to learn what other moms r doing

@theneed2comment 3 жыл бұрын

It's easy for you to say that when you aren't getting up 6 times a night with your baby.

@energizeyourlife4 5 жыл бұрын

She is soooo pretty🥰

@easygoer1234 2 жыл бұрын

I just got done watching this video of Riley when she was still tiny. OMG. She is just so cute. I just wish your preciousbabies would staylittle.

@amberhart6618 5 жыл бұрын

I never let my son cry more than 6 min (I go in Cuddle and calm him to almost asleep and happy then in the cot) for max 30min repeating after 30 min if failed go in and settle to sleep my son realised quickly I'm always there if he needs me now never cries more than 2min or not at all unless he is cold or still hungry x now sleeps 12-13 hrs overnight with 1-2 bottles

@KaylaBuell 5 жыл бұрын

AMBERLE HAY that sounds like a great strategy! Glad it worked for your little one. That’s a great stretch of sleep! 💕

@amberhart6618 5 жыл бұрын

@@KaylaBuell was extremely hard it took abit longer than your method would I tried your one and omg I couldn't handle him cry so long without calming him down x

@mishaalzk6033 5 жыл бұрын

AMBERLE HAY how old was he?

@zikrakhan503 5 жыл бұрын

12-13 hours with only 2 bottles in between?!?!...

@bryldavin2003 5 жыл бұрын

@@zikrakhan503 why only? My baby started to sleep trough the night when he was six weeks old and did not ask for any bottles during his sleep. He is 1 year old and perfectly fine right now.

@brikenas Жыл бұрын

did she also nap during the day in your bed pre-sleep training. For a baby that co-slept for 6 months, she did so well in her crib! Im nervous cause i cant get mine down in her crib at all, only our bed for naps

@aigerimdinc9881 2 жыл бұрын

Tried this with my elder son. It was horrible. I still feel guilty. He is cold with me, may be cause of his character. I co slept with my second. He is a lot more sensitive and loves hugging. I got nanny for the third one so she takes care of him at night and I go to sleep. Being parent is so hard

@090403created 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing this. I know it’s hard. I’m so torn because I really can’t take the crying. I cried a little bit just thinking about it. But I also know that sleep is so important for me and my baby and for the whole family. I think other than the crying part, the monitor part is also adding to my worries. As I tested it before, the EMF from the baby monitor is super strong. I really don’t think putting it next to the baby (especially when they are asleep) is a good idea…I just wonder if I can sleep train without the monitor? 🤦🏻‍♀️

@RapunzelASMR 4 жыл бұрын

My baby is a year, sleeps with us and nurses still like 5 times a night😴😴🥱I'm gonna do this. I'm starting to look like a zombie with sunken cheeks

@shibivishnu2087 3 жыл бұрын

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@SweetBitesSpot08 3 жыл бұрын

Me too

@Yoliztli11 3 жыл бұрын

me too How did it go?

@citlalliyepez5379 3 жыл бұрын

Updates?

@RapunzelASMR 3 жыл бұрын

@@citlalliyepez5379 she stopped it at 19 months :) I was 14 weeks pregnant and she stopped breastfeeding and also started sleeping through from 19-7am. Still sleeps with us tho :D

@Strider1313 5 жыл бұрын

Mine just screams bloody murder soon as she gets in there and when I pick her up to calm her down shes pissed

@shortygottalift5979 4 жыл бұрын

Mine too. Omg he is 8 months old. And as soon as he gets into the crib he is screeeeaaaaaaming with tears 😢

@alicenpiper7960 4 жыл бұрын

She knows if she screams, you’ll come pick her up... Don’t pick her up. It’ll be hard at first but worth it at the end.

@TheStigmawarriors 4 жыл бұрын

Here are the links, figure I'll post anyway so you or someone else may be able to benefit from them! Why not to sleep train/CIO Links on crying Long term cognitive development in children with prolonged crying adc.bmj.com/content/89/11/989 Effects of crying on cerebral blood volume and cytochrome aa3. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2831328 Infant crying: nature, physiologic consequences, and select interventions. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11923998 Maternal behavior as a regulator of polyamine biosynthesis in brain and heart of the developing rat pup science.sciencemag.org/content/199/4327/445 The Neurodevelopmental Impact of Violence in Childhood childtrauma.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/Neurodevel_Impact_Perry.pdf The experience-dependent maturation of a regulatory system in the orbital prefrontal cortex and the origin of developmental psychopathology journals.cambridge.org/action/displayAbstract?fromPage=online&aid=4495696&fileId=S0954579400006970 Selective depression of serum growth hormone during maternal deprivation in rat pups science.sciencemag.org/content/201/4360/1034.short THE EFFECTS OF EARLY RELATIONAL TRAUMA ON RIGHT BRAIN DEVELOPMENT, AFFECT REGULATION, AND INFANT MENTAL HEALTH citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/download?doi=10.1.1.130.917&rep=rep1&type=pdf Children with serious illness: Behavioral correlates of separation and isolation link.springer.com/article/10.1007/BF00705865 The Mother-Infant Interaction as a Regulator of Infant Physiology and Behavior link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-1-4684-4565-7_4 Control of sleep-wake states in the infant rat by features of the mother-infant relationship onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/dev.420150307/abstract Persistent Infant Crying and Hyperactivity Problems in Middle Childhood pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/109/6/1054.short The Effect of Excessive Crying on the Development of Emotion Regulation onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1207/S15327078IN0302_2/abstract Transition to Child Care: Associations With Infant-Mother Attachment, Infant Negative Emotion, and Cortisol Elevations onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1467-8624.2004.00698.x/abstract Effects of early stress on brain structure and function: Implications for understanding the relationship between child maltreatment and depression journals.cambridge.org/action/displayAbstract?fromPage=online&aid=82068&fileId=S0954579401003030 The neurobiological consequences of early stress and childhood maltreatment www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0149763403000071_ Disorders of attachment in infancy psycnet.apa.org/psycinfo/1997-07339-004 Asynchrony of mother-infant hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis activity following extinction of infant crying responses induced during the transition to sleep www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21945361 Nighttime maternal responsiveness and infant attachment at one year www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3422632/ www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/blog/moral-landscapes/201407/parents-misled-cry-it-out-sleep-training-reports%3Famp grubbymummyblog.wordpress.com/2017/07/13/accepting-the-reality-of-infant-and-toddler-sleep/ www.drmomma.org/2010/09/why-african-babies-dont-cry.html?m=1 www.gentleparenting.co.uk/kc/controlled-crying-history-evidence/ m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1252517954880460&id=693504594115135&ref=m_notif&notif_t=group_comment_mention&_rdr www.phillyvoice.com/screaming-sleep/ evolutionaryparenting.com/its-just-a-little-cortisol-why-rises-in-cortisol-matter-to-infant-development/ evolutionaryparenting.com/controlled-crying-cortisol-and-attachment-a-critical-look/ evolutionaryparenting.com/a-not-so-blind-review-of-the-recent-cio-research/ nymag.com/scienceofus/2017/06/microbiome-trauma-gut-bacteria.html? vimeo.com/88343229 www.google.co.uk/amp/s/neuroanthropology.net/2008/12/21/cosleeping-and-biological-imperatives-why-human-babies-do-not-and-should-not-sleep-alone/amp/

@jimenabotello3 3 жыл бұрын

@@TheStigmawarriors Wow! Thanks for the information

@BrendaRodriguez-lv7li 3 жыл бұрын

My baby did this for 5 days but I trained her so now I just read her a book while shes laying down until she falls asleep. She just listens and falls asleep even laughing in her sleep sometimes. Sometimes I do shadow puppets by turning on my phone flashlight and she smiles at the show. I used to have to wake up every 2 hours to feed her. I'd wake up 5 times a night. Wash bottles, sometimes change a few diapers, eat, and try and go back to sleep. I was easily agitated, to the point where at the end of the day, at my wits end I couldn't even watch my baby anymore, I had to calm myself down. I'm sleeping much better now and so is my baby thank god

@YunJaeGDLuv 5 жыл бұрын

Omg when you started crying I was about to cry too... my one month old doesn’t sleep at night unless she’s on my chest... which means zero sleep for me. So I basically haven’t slept in a month and it’s starting to really really get to me. So I wanna sleep train her but I know she’s not nearly old enough for it, and I heard you’re supposed to just let them cry and I can’t... it makes me wanna cry too hearing her cry. I literally pick her up the moment she starts and give her what she wants (milk or snuggles). Sleep training is going to be super difficult...

@cynthiaboyle8879 5 жыл бұрын

ManiacalMind look up TakingCaraBabies... my 5 week old sleeps 7 hour stretches at night thanks to her

@YunJaeGDLuv 5 жыл бұрын

Cynthia Boyle seriously?! What does she do??? My baby is almost 3 months and she’s been sleeping around 3-5 hours at a time now so it’s a bit better but it’s still difficult when I’ve got work and can’t be up most of the night

@cynthiaboyle8879 5 жыл бұрын

ManiacalMind take her sleep course :)

@jessicaely2521 4 жыл бұрын

I know this is old, but just a suggestion. I had to go to a child physical therapist for my daughter. She also helped me to get my daughter to cry less. She told me to go to them and put your hand on their belly and just talk to them. After they stopped crying is when you pick them up. The only time you dont do this is when they are definitely hurt or have a soiled diaper. Babies are extremely smart and yes they figure out whenever I cry I get picked up. IT took me to get my daughter to the point where she only cries when there is something wrong. Yes I know its difficult, but stay strong.

@DIVINE16. 4 жыл бұрын

@@cynthiaboyle8879 what diaper you use for your baby?

@ACoupleofTheKingdom11 Жыл бұрын

I feel so encouraged my son just turned six months old and I cannot deal with not sleeping any longer I need my sleep! My son is exactly like your daughter in his sleep patterns and everything so I feel like I can really do this too thanks Momma! How many times are you nursing her throughout the day?

@siobhanvlogs2388 3 жыл бұрын

I tried this last night first time and it works oh my god I cant believe it. She doesn't sleep without me on her side. At first she's crying a lot then I tried sleeping on her crib for 10 minutes . Telling her it's ok to sleep alone that means she's very strong and mommy just sleeping next to her room. I'm soo proud . Thank you so much ❤

@paigehrstich970 3 ай бұрын

You have saved me! Day 2 and it’s working I’m so shocked!

@kristenschepers3327 5 жыл бұрын

My daughter is almost 8 months old, and we co sleep, have been since about 2 months old. I really want to start sleep training! This video helped me soo much on how to do that! Thank you!

@mindy2365 2 жыл бұрын

Can you talk about your daily routine? Like she wakes up, playtime, nursing sleep etc?

@emilyschumacher7806 5 жыл бұрын

Before you did this, were you nursing Riley through the night? We are starting thr process and I dont know how to navigate the nursing part of the night

@danutalopata1300 4 жыл бұрын

I have the same question!

@TheStigmawarriors 4 жыл бұрын

Here are the links, figure I'll post anyway so you or someone else may be able to benefit from them! Why not to sleep train/CIO Links on crying Long term cognitive development in children with prolonged crying adc.bmj.com/content/89/11/989 Effects of crying on cerebral blood volume and cytochrome aa3. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/2831328 Infant crying: nature, physiologic consequences, and select interventions. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11923998 Maternal behavior as a regulator of polyamine biosynthesis in brain and heart of the developing rat pup science.sciencemag.org/content/199/4327/445 The Neurodevelopmental Impact of Violence in Childhood childtrauma.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/Neurodevel_Impact_Perry.pdf The experience-dependent maturation of a regulatory system in the orbital prefrontal cortex and the origin of developmental psychopathology journals.cambridge.org/action/displayAbstract?fromPage=online&aid=4495696&fileId=S0954579400006970 Selective depression of serum growth hormone during maternal deprivation in rat pups science.sciencemag.org/content/201/4360/1034.short THE EFFECTS OF EARLY RELATIONAL TRAUMA ON RIGHT BRAIN DEVELOPMENT, AFFECT REGULATION, AND INFANT MENTAL HEALTH citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/viewdoc/download?doi=10.1.1.130.917&rep=rep1&type=pdf Children with serious illness: Behavioral correlates of separation and isolation link.springer.com/article/10.1007/BF00705865 The Mother-Infant Interaction as a Regulator of Infant Physiology and Behavior link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-1-4684-4565-7_4 Control of sleep-wake states in the infant rat by features of the mother-infant relationship onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/dev.420150307/abstract Persistent Infant Crying and Hyperactivity Problems in Middle Childhood pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/109/6/1054.short The Effect of Excessive Crying on the Development of Emotion Regulation onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1207/S15327078IN0302_2/abstract Transition to Child Care: Associations With Infant-Mother Attachment, Infant Negative Emotion, and Cortisol Elevations onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1467-8624.2004.00698.x/abstract Effects of early stress on brain structure and function: Implications for understanding the relationship between child maltreatment and depression journals.cambridge.org/action/displayAbstract?fromPage=online&aid=82068&fileId=S0954579401003030 The neurobiological consequences of early stress and childhood maltreatment www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0149763403000071_ Disorders of attachment in infancy psycnet.apa.org/psycinfo/1997-07339-004 Asynchrony of mother-infant hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis activity following extinction of infant crying responses induced during the transition to sleep www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21945361 Nighttime maternal responsiveness and infant attachment at one year www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3422632/ www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/blog/moral-landscapes/201407/parents-misled-cry-it-out-sleep-training-reports%3Famp grubbymummyblog.wordpress.com/2017/07/13/accepting-the-reality-of-infant-and-toddler-sleep/ www.drmomma.org/2010/09/why-african-babies-dont-cry.html?m=1 www.gentleparenting.co.uk/kc/controlled-crying-history-evidence/ m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1252517954880460&id=693504594115135&ref=m_notif&notif_t=group_comment_mention&_rdr www.phillyvoice.com/screaming-sleep/ evolutionaryparenting.com/its-just-a-little-cortisol-why-rises-in-cortisol-matter-to-infant-development/ evolutionaryparenting.com/controlled-crying-cortisol-and-attachment-a-critical-look/ evolutionaryparenting.com/a-not-so-blind-review-of-the-recent-cio-research/ nymag.com/scienceofus/2017/06/microbiome-trauma-gut-bacteria.html? vimeo.com/88343229 www.google.co.uk/amp/s/neuroanthropology.net/2008/12/21/cosleeping-and-biological-imperatives-why-human-babies-do-not-and-should-not-sleep-alone/amp/

@BrendaRodriguez-lv7li 3 жыл бұрын

Dreamfeed. Instead of feeding her to sleep. Feed her while shes sleeping and lay her back down between 10 to 11. In the morning if you wake up at like 4 or 5 am you can do the same thing again. In the morning if she wakes up and cries I still feed her. I like to monitor how much she eats. She eats a lot of solids so I make sure shes eaten at least 22oz of milk in the day and feed her at least 1 to 3 times at night. You can slowly wean her off.

@carinabamann7859 2 ай бұрын

When she would wake at 30 minutes for naps would you get her up or keep her in there for remainder of her “nap time”?

@courtneyroche4587 5 жыл бұрын

The people commenting that you are a bad mom for sleep training is nuts! I used 12 hours by 12 weeks book and my son has been sleeping for 10-11 hours since he was 8 weeks old... now almost 6 months. Never had to do the cry it out method!! Yea sometimes he wakes up and fusses a bit but never cried or screamed!!! Maybe the first week or two he would fuss then if it would turn to a cry I would immediately go in rub his back for a min or two and he would go back to sleep. You go mama don’t listen to these people. You do what’s best for YOU, YOUR family and YOUR baby!!

@KaylaBuell 5 жыл бұрын

Courtney Roche thanks so much girlfriend! I appreciate that so much! I do what’s best for my family and this totally worked for us. Riley’s sleeping super well and we’re all 10X happier. Doesn’t mean this is the only way. Doesn’t mean it’s the best way. But it’s what worked for us and I shared it in case anyone could learn from it. That’s just what I do lol 😘 So glad your little one’s sleeping well too! I’ve heard of that book before so it’s great that you had a good experience!

@SimplySami13 4 ай бұрын

i’m wondering if i can do this even with a contact napper… ugh so daunting to even start

@barbarahochstetler4165 5 жыл бұрын

I used to be against sleep training but my baby is 3 months old now and is a terrible sleeper.I can't wait to sleep train her.This was definitely helpful.Sleeptraining doesn't mean you don't love your baby it simply means you're trying to teach your baby to sleep just like you teach your baby to do anything else

@taryn-gracex6189 5 жыл бұрын

I absolutely agree. It's tough going too I feel you know when enough is enough and everyone is going to benefit from sleep training. Feels so horrible to do but honestly the the best thing we ever did and it didnt take ss long as I thought at all. Everyone is much happier and functions way better. People make comments about it being this that and the other but I only have to look at my happy healthy well slept 1 year old to know that we made the right decision :) xxx

@barabasrebeka 3 жыл бұрын

Dear Kayla! For the daytime naps did you nurse her to sleep? My problem is that she can only sleep with me if i nurse her before sleeping. Also the nighttime sleeps are bad too, but before doing the Ferber method I would like to separate the sleeps from the eatings. Thank you for the video, i wil definetaly try it!

@seafoamgrien 5 жыл бұрын

I literally cried watching this. Happy tears for you both. I’m so scared to start sleep training. My guy is 9 months old and I’ve resisted this for so long but my health is suffering.

@dimaavivaelouazzani4829 4 жыл бұрын

You are resisting, because your instincts are showing you what ks right.

@dimaavivaelouazzani4829 4 жыл бұрын

@I Love The Colour Pink Absolute bullshit.

@AT-fw9bv 4 жыл бұрын

@I Love The Colour Pink I Love The Colour Pink disgusting shellfish self to blame for a baby doing whats biologically normal for them to do. 😬 jesus christ. You do know humans are mammals right, carry mammals at that. A baby waking at night is N O R M A L. Not something someone did to the baby 😤

@dabryennarine6546 4 жыл бұрын

I Love The Colour Pink are u crazy . You don’t even know this woman but calling her disgusting. Idk if your a mother but leaving a newborn alone doesn’t feel right .

@jenniferb1786 4 жыл бұрын

@Rachel is My Angel disgusting!!! The AAP suggests up to a year old in the same room. You are SICK.

@elzettepienaar3099 2 жыл бұрын

Is there a point in the process where you would say this has gone too long and pick up and put to sleep?

@Sainsanaaa 5 жыл бұрын

I'm planning to sleep train my 7 month old daughter. This video was very helpful. Good for you guys! I know it wasn't easy.

@HeritageCarriage 9 күн бұрын

It is totally different if your baby is crying from pain or hunger! It is very important for a baby to understand that mom or dad will be back. A child has to learn to have alone time .

@sarahmustakim3471 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Kayla! This video gives me so much hope. I'm planning to start sleep training my baby in 2 weeks when she turns 4 and half months. I'm very very nervous about the whole process. Your video has given me lots of positive motivation. Hopefully it goes the same way for my little girl.

@lykalapat446 4 жыл бұрын

sarah mustakim hi! How are you? I just want to ask if you decided to sleep train your baby? How was it? :)

@sarahmustakim3471 4 жыл бұрын

Hello Lyka, yes. It went very well. Now she's 11 months and a wonderful sleeper

@asmanaqashband3848 4 жыл бұрын

My baby just turned 4 months and i am planning to train her near the 5 month mark ! But since we dont have a seperate room for him i want to train him while room sharing!

@SupItsMeganWong Жыл бұрын

What’s the wake window you leave before last nap and bedtime?

@ashleighflood2201 5 жыл бұрын

I know this is a old video but just came across it. How did sleep training go after the one week? My daughter is almost five months old and I think I'll be sleep training in a couple of weeks as soon as I get her baby monitor and crib bumper. Your daughter sounded similar to mine with her sleep. She was going to bed at 9pm for the longest time but the last two to three weeks I have been noticing she's getting extra fussy and sleepy early so we have been going to bed 7:30-8pm. She wakes up around 12am-1:30am then again between 3-5am for change or feed or both. Sometimes I can get her back down in her basinett after last wake up and she will sleep until 6-7am, other times she just won't give me a extra hour or two unless she's on me or beside me in our bed. It sounds like your daughter did great with the sleep training though, I really hope my daughter does too. I'm exhausted. I know other people will say I'm lucky getting up twice a night but it's still tiring no matter what. I can not wait to get my sleep back. Oh and her naps right now she only naps 30-60 mins max 2-3 times a day but she puts up a fight and it's exhausting cause I know she needs sleep. She's extra cranky and rubbing her eyes. I got a stubborn little girl. She hates naps lol

@AfroSunGoddess 5 жыл бұрын

How did the training go

@nicolemastelero5709 2 жыл бұрын

I've been struggling to do this strategy on my own and this is giving me home.

@sarahherman7222 5 жыл бұрын

So great! I’m gona try this with my baby :) I hate hearing her cry but she wakes up every hour so something needs to change !

@kareneich3466 5 жыл бұрын

Please dont!!! There are so many other ways to train them!! Don't let your baby cry :( please!!! Check out takincarababies on IG! She has a cry free similar option!

@stephanielim7967 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this. I am preparing to sleep train my almost 4-month old and mommy is super anxious. But hearing your experience made me feel a lot better. Thanks!

@MadyLeeMoore 2 жыл бұрын

They need to be at least 6 months old, that's what I read.

@RepentOrBurn 2 жыл бұрын

13lbs and 4 months you can start

@MadyLeeMoore 2 жыл бұрын

@@RepentOrBurn That's crazy. My 11 month old still wakes up and needs to nurse. She's breastfed on demand though.

@heathermattas7033 5 жыл бұрын

Started putting my daughter in her crib to sleep at 1 month old and at 5m old we have no problems. She wakes up 2x a night to eat and right back to sleep. She also does 2/3 naps during the day and they are in her crib. I feel children will learn this naturally if you don't wait.

@790timtam 5 жыл бұрын

Heather Mattas agree! My 5 week old has self settled from birth by putting him down awake and giving him the same sleep cues each time. His needs are met, he doesn’t cry himself to sleep. It is definitely possible to do this from a young age

@minimalisthungarianmumflit9361 3 жыл бұрын

My daughter was same from Burth still 6 months then we needed to go hospital and since she sleeps only with me now she’s 0 month old so I will try this even do it’s heard breaking specially cos my baby never crye

@heathermattas7033 3 жыл бұрын

@@minimalisthungarianmumflit9361 around 6-8 months they start having separation anxiety so that could be what's happening.

@kathrynmolesa1641 3 жыл бұрын

We used to feed our babies and then rock them until they were dropping off to sleep. It worked for us.

@absolutelyaverage5061 4 жыл бұрын

I'll be sleep training my baby asap. Of course it's painful hearing them cry but they're not actually hurt and it's beneficial for everyone involved in the long run

@kaseycorliss7282 4 жыл бұрын

Same I have a baby due soon and I hear so much negativity towards sleep training all I can think is thanks for unsolicited advice I'm still gonna do what works best for me and my baby. I dont know why everyone thinks their opinions matter more than the mom. 🙄

@rachelm7359 4 жыл бұрын

Wrong, it’s traumatic and actually changes their brain! CIO is proven to be harmful.

@absolutelyaverage5061 4 жыл бұрын

@@rachelm7359 there are ways to sleep train that aren't just letting them cry it out! They're going to cry for a little while in any of these scenarios and no one is suggesting just throwing them in a crib and abandoning them! :)

@Yamela21 3 жыл бұрын

I did this with my son and it was so hard hearing him cry. I would break down too. But it was the only way he would sleep. Going to see how it goes with my second.

@aliciajames7544 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for doing this video, watching you go through this was so hard for me!! Haha I really appreciate the video, and it looks like it paid off for the whole family xx

@nav5453 5 жыл бұрын

I watched your whole video and this has been so helpful. Our daughter is 4 months and 1 week and we are just trying this so she learns how to fall asleep. We are ok with her waking up to nurse at night just because shes younger than 6 months. I loved you sharing and being real along the way. Thank you. I feel like i will just watch your video again and again during this process.

@paigequeenb8257 4 жыл бұрын

Girl!!! Taking notes. You guys are awesome! I have a notebook and learning from you. We are in our 30s (almost 40) trying to conceive and I haven't sleep trained since living with my sister and niece... When I was 16.... She's in college now lol it's been awhile.

@katarinamstines765 4 жыл бұрын

I'm watching this right now as I'm in the middle of sleep training my 16 mo. It is the hardest thing ever.

@thinorthin2230 5 жыл бұрын

This gives me hope.i have an 18 month old that has been bedsharing with us and even though she didn't nurse anymore she would always fuss and wake up in our bed during the times she used to nurse. I am so sleep deprived and always rock her to bed and for naps. Tonight we are officially sleeptraining. Thank you for posting this! Also new subscriber now

@KaylaBuell 5 жыл бұрын

thinorthin 2 hope you’ve been having some success mama!

@hannahkern6579 5 жыл бұрын

I got my first baby to sleep through the night from 3 months on but I rocked her to sleep and set her down. No crying, but then there was the issue of her needing me to put her to sleep lol. She grew out of it eventually.. But now I have a second who is 6 months and her sleep at night is just getting worse! That's why I'm here. I miss being well rested!

@lauricehilario7906 5 жыл бұрын

How did you get your first baby to outgrow the need to rock to sleep?

@JoyofTheLord77 5 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you made this video. What I really appreciate is your video is in so much detail and you showed everything. Though I have few questions and hope I can get some help from you. You know in those time intervals when you start sleep training babies, what if baby starts crying so bad that it will vomit. What to do then? Second question what to do when babies are sick? Third question what to do when they are teething and in pain and need us? Fourth question about cluster feeding, because some babies will cluster feed even at night so what to do then? I am so looking forward to your detailed answers.

@w.n.1518 5 жыл бұрын

Dont do this shit! Please...its bullshit!

@pratikshakhadka3751 6 ай бұрын

I wish my parents did this for me. I co-slept and I always have hard time falling asleep by myself.

@phylliswillis1298 5 жыл бұрын

i considered doing this for my baby once she's a good age but i honesty think i wont be able to. If she cries for more than a few mins i have to hurry to her & help my baby. hearing you say she cried for an hour gave me anxiety. my 7 week old sleeps throughout the night but wakes to eat & goes back to sleep. it takes us a while to put her down (about an hr or more) but now i put her in the moby wrap before bed, she falls asleep fast (15min) & the put her down when she won't go to sleep Otherwise

@nituthakkar3433 4 жыл бұрын

Hi loved watching your videos. My LO is just three weeks older than your son. Planning to start the sleep training once she turns 6 months. Watching your video gives me hope that someday she will sleep better and I would too..

@mayaj4846 5 жыл бұрын

Why do people think its ok to just let their baby cry themselves to sleep. Smh. They only stop because they have no more energy to cry this is just sad I couldn't do this to my baby.

@pmthedonutgirl5221 5 жыл бұрын

Maya M stop it, this is a trial of independence is all u dont have to do it or comment or like it u can be a parent that rocks their baby all day and makes them dependent on you for sleep to each their own im a nanny and when parents ok it this is the method i use it wks it’s important

@Thebergnest 5 жыл бұрын

In response to the person who responded to Maya M... I can’t believe people actually PAY you to leave their baby to cry. I’d fire your butt! That’s absolutely terrible!!! Sleep training is at the mercy of the parents (even though I don’t agree with it), in no way is that your job.

@pmthedonutgirl5221 5 жыл бұрын

Ashley Berg i said when parents ok it and its not a POW situation no one is being tortured assaulted or harmed you sound judgmental and crazy if thats what u think and luckily im not working for u and if you dont agree with sleep training u dont have to keep it moving and thats it

@iCrystal01 5 жыл бұрын

Maya M YES 👏 thank you

@spapati 5 жыл бұрын

Baby wont be a baby for long, anyone should just relax and enjoy because in no time babys grow up and more independent

@jasmineskitchennn 4 жыл бұрын

My son is three months old, not sleep trained to self sooth but once he’s down, he sleeps for seven hours the first stretch.

@nikolakoster1209 6 жыл бұрын

We are a month away from sleep training. Thank you so much for documenting it!

@KaylaBuell 6 жыл бұрын

Nikola Kosterman of course! I loved watching these videos as I prepared to do it myself, so i figured it might help. If you get stuck at all or just need a little support, let me know! I’d love an update once you get started! Sending good vibes your way mama 💕💕

@marithzasigala4869 4 жыл бұрын

My son turned a year old Feb.5th, he’s always been a really good sleeper as long as I was there with him at all times and could whip out my boob anytime he wanted it. I felt just like you did, constantly felt hostage in a room with my son just so I would ensure he would sleep. We’re on day 2 of sleep training and I’m glad to come across your video definitely gives me the strength to continue with our sleep training journey! On our first night he cried about 20min before he fell asleep and slept through the entire night, however the next day he missed his nap and tonight he cried for a total of 20min again and has woken up once and just sat in his crib for an hour with occasional whining (not crying) but after the hour he lied back down and went to bed. I’m hopeful that’ll it will continue to get easier and easier. Thank you so much for your video!

@Manusic 3 ай бұрын

Please DO NOT LET YOUR BABY CRY, that is NOT how you support your child to sleep on their own. (btw. that is not an age at all to being able to sleep on their own). Babies give up when you leave them crying, accepting that loved ones do not come to comfort…That is so heartbreaking, please be aware.

@neicygoldenvlogs 2 жыл бұрын

I don't think I'll be able to do it when my baby is old enough 🥺 am such a softy with her

@Warefamily2024 2 жыл бұрын

I want to discuss sleep and general “transitioning” for my second baby coming in the fall. With my 1st, I coslept and breastfed for 2 years. I liked having her near me because I wanted to encourage that instinct and bonding especially after she was literally part of my body for 9 months... However, I struggled with knowing when to “transition” to the next phase and I found each transition was SO agonizing for all of us. Examples: > when to transition from being with mom (co-sleeping or bassinet for example), to say a CRIB + if baby is right next to mom in whatever capacity and they dry or wake are you grab right away or put arm on them right away doesn’t this make them dependent on you for that instant response (not saying it’s bad) just posing question of - does it make that later transition of them self soothing etc more difficult when you suddenly aren’t responding and what does this all look like. I mean at 3am I wasn’t into letting my 1st scream and scream when she woke so that my hard working husband would then also wake up. > when and HOW to cut off night BREASTMILK so that it’s easier and HOW/ what to do to get them to sleep and no longer be dependent on those night feedings? I felt like there was yelling and arguing because my 1st was a toddler when I finally took the milk away at night(2yrs). I couldn’t handle not getting any sleep after 2 years of giving my first my all. 🥹 Things I have been told so far: > I have learned/heard that not letting a baby fall asleep ON you if you’re breastfeeding so they don’t associate “I only sleep if I am on mommy” is a good place to start > putting them in a crib when they are tired but not yet asleep so they “fall” asleep in their physical space (crib) > that using crib for naps right away when they are a newborn will more easily develop the habit as opposed to car sleeping more than a crib or a side sleeper more than a crib.. > keeping a lot of noise so they can sleep deep in noise as opposed to being a 👻 when they are asleep. My first is such a light sleeper and we never made a peep! Sorry this is long winded. I don’t even know what my exact questions are. I just need a better flow and plan to be confident in this second time around that May have worked for several others. So please help! I am more open minded than I used to be! Any little nuance you can share I’d love to hear!!

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