slowly resetting my life 🌱 being gentler on myself

Taking a week to reset and get my life together, slowing down my reset routine and bringing back self care in areas I've neglected. Thanks STEEZY Studio for sponsoring this video! Try STEEZY: stzy.co/LAVENDAIRE
Instead of setting goals and expectations for how I want to reset my life, I'm being gentle and nonjudgmental, and accepting whatever I can do. Sometimes you just don't have the energy to do the most and that's okay. I'm learning to release a lot of the internal stress and pressures I used to put on myself, and a big part of that is realizing it's all self imposed.
Life is so much easier when you choose to be kind to yourself, be your own best friend, release any unnecessary expectations and practice radical acceptance.
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[@lavendaire]

Life is so much easier when you choose to be kind to yourself, be your own best friend, release any unnecessary expectations and practice radical acceptance. Hope we can all have a healthier mindset like this!! 💕

[@honk8683]

sometimes the hardest person to love is yourself ❤ treat yourself like you would to your bestfriend who has always been by your side, or maybe a pet like taking your pup on a walk and giving your dog healthy food. be your own best friend.

[@sukritii6974]

We always try to find love from others and forget that we don’t need anyone’s other love When we love ourselves .🌸

[@kurtrae10]

Thanks for the tip

[@rinishkasawal3151]

Loved this.. Thanks a lot Aileen

[@ShraddhaParashar]

Resting and refreshing your life every once in a while is so important. Hitting a pause and resetting is the key to mental health :) Lovely vlog! thanks for sharing this

[@moonhousing2973]

My favourite lessons from this video; 1. Don’t expect too much from myself 2. Set baby goals 3. Be gentle on myself

[@kupo3769]

i like that, dont expect much rom myself

[@CocoShin]

This is a message that everyone needs to hear. Be gentle with yourself, listen to your body, accept yourself where you are.

[@melon8870]

🧡🧡

[@sukritii6974]

Right

[@amela5241]

Love that!!

[@tamzpyne7613]

so true ... "a full reset will never be perfect. do your best and let it go"

[@AhmetKaan]

*“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending...”* *―C. S. Lewis*

[@miszkalove6840]

Thank you. This really gave me new energy 🌸

[@AhmetKaan]

@@miszkalove6840 I am so glad it helped!

[@lazifatunnoor4274]

I agree

[@emelielindstroem]

"Rather than trying to do it all at once, I'm planning to do a little each day because I believe it is important to focus on small actions rather than overwhelming yourself with big ones" - I really wish I could live my life more according to this

[@niaonthego3442]

Yeah..kinda hard right? When all you want is to accomplish everything at once but yeah. Slow progress definitely counts.

[@lavendaire]

baby steps and patience!

[@emelielindstroem]

Thanks for the motivation guys! I am a super perfectionist trying to become a good-enough-ist 😉

[@emelielindstroem]

@ᥣilᥡ's audios. great advice, thank you 😊

[@monaefindley9210]

I`ve been watching your channel for almost 3 years, within those 3 years I learned how to heal myself and love myself. You changed my entire life Aileen, your authenticity, being vulnerable with us and showing us how to navigate life. Words can never explain how you saved me and I pray you stay blessed and your light continues to shine. Thank You!

[@555ochiblvd]

the thing with me is, that i expect myself to reset just in one day. And then i go back to working myself too hard and it's just this cycle of burnout. So i ACTUALLY wanna take it slow and easy. I'm slowly, but surely learning that I am enough, i have enough and i do enough even when I'm not as productive as i expect myself to be.

[@CrisTryingToBeProductive]

Your eyes tell me that you've been struggling for a while. Thanks for showing that side from yourself, it makes me feel less alone.

[@SamElle]

I have a bad tendency to overwork myself and forget to take care of myself and then I reach burn out and that's when I realize okay, I need to take breaks. This vlog is a great reminder to myself that work and school isn't the end all be all and I should prioritize myself!!

[@bluelotusmeditation]

This is such an important message you're sharing with your viewers - take a break when you need to - thank you for sharing this. If you need one day, take one day. If you need several, take several. Self-compassion, self-care, and self-love enable us to mindfully connect with ourselves and the world around us. And when we are healthy we are better able to help others as well.

[@susree_art_world]

Hey Aileen..thank you for everything.. I don't know what to write here.. You are my inspiration and you are one of the reasons where I am today..you changed my life..You are my light..I can't just express this in words...you changed the way you think..you taught me how to love myself..how to create my dream life..remember you said "stay in tune with the things that light you up" in your last podcast episode.. And now I am doing what light me up..I have already started my youtube channel.. I am studying.. Taking care of myself..doing what lights me up..I am on my way to create my dream life..You are the reason that I can smile today.. Thank you for coming into my life..I wish I could meet that person once in my life who changed me..who changed my life... Lots and lots of love from your Sthiti...

[@theculturalear7134]

💕

[@lavendaire]

i'm so grateful for you

[@susree_art_world]

@@lavendaire😍😍

[@susree_art_world]

No Aileen..I am so grateful to have you in my life...

[@VerenaSatriani]

So refreshing.. It shows that moving forward can be done in slow pace. Enjoying every little moment in between.Thank you, Aileen

[@SimplyCatherine]

Yes this was a good one I enjoyed it

[@698-yi]

Honestly, she has really helped me realize that I should take care of myself and not overwork myself❤ She is literally an angel who brings heaven on Earth🤍❤

[@kyleenorfleet]

This was important to show!! Progress can be made slow with little steps and spread out. I think too often we can get caught up in overwhelming ourselves to get many things done in a single moment and this shows slow and steady and also being kind to yourself is the best option

[@theculturalear7134]

"Oversetting unnecessary expectations" that part👈👈 Take care, 'cause we care, Aileen!💕

[@presidentkimnamjoon7472]

For like 2 months I've been very harsh to myself, because idk, i felt so many emotions at the same time and when I'd talk to some friends about it, or even my mom, they'd say, "oh it's okay" Then i thought talking to them will lessen the pain I was going through, but then I realized how i was treating myself, like i had completly forgotten the fact that im a human, there's a heart beating inside of me, so is anyone else, so is you, right now❤️ I've learnt to let go of things I can't change, like i used to have insecurities, but then i realized once again, this thought is not unnecessary because at the end of the day, we are born to be happy, not to be "perfect" or being someone's beauty standard, it's just not it Ofc, you have have to start validating your feelings first, like tell yourself it's okay to feel sad, it's okay to feel like that, you'll learn from it, and give yourself time Take deep breath and everything will be okay ! From a girl who was suffering 2 months ago, and now look at me, I've done it guys :D im so happy rn, and im proud of myself! So i hope you give yourself a lil pat on the shoulder rn, here's my virtual hugs to you all

[@F0reverblessed]

Recognizing and acknowledging when we need to take a step back and take a breather is important. When we don’t take a breather we risk, stretching ourself thin and not doing the best we can. You’ll be so exhausted that all you want to do it “get it done”. From a self love content creator to another, beautiful video Aileen. Your transparency is very much appreciated!! 💗

[@Selflovewithlena]

I love it that you show us also bad /sad days and normalize it. Thank you stay strong 💖 Thank you for existing ! You are here for a purpose and I’m so happy for your hard work and your videos. I started my love yourself journey because of you. And today I love myself so much and I learned so much from you. Im so kind to myself and I attract so many high quality people. And now I’m writing a book. Your new hair looks so pretty it really suits you !!

[@mariahelenaferreira3177]

okay but like, im so addicted to your channel and to your vibe and calm,, seriously, this is why i pay for internet, huge hug from portugal 🇵🇹 ❤️🥰

[@lavendaire]

sending you love

[@random_thing-]

you have made my life better, i feel like even if i was doing nothing i would put a lot of expectations on myself to be perfect anfdfollow a perfect routine, but now i dont blame myself for not doing things like waking up early. u have helped me end the expectations for my life, thankk you

[@peaceseeker8329]

Thank you for helping me with my anxiety. You make me realize everyone has flaws and you gotta accept it. But how? You show it to me!🌻

[@anushags6634]

Wow that’s the most gentle tip I have heard...just live.. don’t force into actions

[@gracieller.9472]

i needed to hear this from someone else, thank you. i thought i was wrong for feeling like i need to take things slow and be gentler with myself. most people around me keep making me feel not good enough for just being me and just giving what i can at the moment...

[@sophiayuna]

"change is the only constant" I love that

[@94SydVicious]

Woke up today not myself and stumbled across this video which helped so much. Just need time to be calm and kind to myself and slow down and take each moment as it comes. Thank you your videos, your vibe and your spirit always know how to uplift when it's most needed. Thank you for your realness, you're a gem in this world. 😌💎🌸

[@rudig5698]

Happy April to everyone! Thank you Aileen, you’ve inspired me to start my own KZbin channel!😊❤️

[@chrisoulalakkas7935]

If things are getting harder, it’s a sign you are on the right path. Keep climbing. Never quit.

[@rennadapierre]

Girl. This is so beautiful. This video could have lasted another 10 20 minutes and I would have not complained. Good for you for keeping up with your health, good job

[@intentionalliving7326]

Yes!!

[@phenx1354]

Thank you lavendaire really for this video. I have never been more demotivated and I needed this more than anything. I swear it’s like you hear me everytime because your videos always come at the right moment of my life! 💗 I am so happy Influencers like you exist. I listen to your podcast every night when I go to sleep. You are one powerful, strong influence in my life! You are my goal! 💗

[@lifestyledbyerica6453]

This entire video resonates so much! In January I resigned from a job I had for ten years. February I shifted into over productivity and tracking every little habit or goal I set for myself and I nearly burned out. I put so much pressure on myself for no other reason than control and to feel "worthy". I started therapy in March and decided to be intuitive with my days, wake up when I want, workout when I want, look for work when I want, watch tv all day if I want, take naps if I want and it was just the shift I needed. I am trusting my body, I am trusting the process and learning and growing exponentially. Thank you so much for sharing with us.

[@FairuzHumam]

Thanks Aileen. This reminds me that all I need is a reset now. I am so tired. Just live and do what you feel like doing 🥺

[@whoknows8099]

This is such a beautiful video 😌 I’ve been feeling so stagnant lately and just numb to all motivation. It’s really comforting to hear you talk about the fact that change is a constant, and that even though I feel stagnant I am still changing and growing just in a different way ❤️

[@JulieNguyenYoga]

Thanks Aileen for sharing the fact that even after a week of reset, you still were tired. I felt that lol. That’s how I’ve been lately and can’t seem to get myself out of this “funk”. But I’m learning to accept it and just ride this ebb and flow of life without attachment or judgement.

[@studybuddy626]

Sometimes we pressurise ourselves a lot . Also sometimes we just don't understand the importance of giving ourselves some time to heal. Your videos are always up at just the correct moment 💕

[@curiouspancit3572]

You always say to be gentle with yourself while here I am self-destructing in every second. It’s so hard. I don’t know what to do. But thank you for your videos, it keeps me grounded. Things will be fine.

[@lavendaire]

you gave me an idea for a future video - to talk about why we're so hard on ourselves & healing that

[@Di59001]

Everytime I feel stressed I watch your videos with your lovely voice and feel so much more relaxed. Thank you!

[@ankitasardar5900]

It was such a refreshing vlog! Like its okay to do nothing when you don't have the energy. Taking care of ourselves is important 💜

[@rubyleo26]

I've been feeling so unmotivated I love how you talk about being more gentle on yourself and even working out

[@rigdhensherpa8973]

Yes we should be gentle and kind with ourselves we all are human beings and its ok to take time to do something or take some rest 💕💕 lavi love

[@nicoleonfeels]

We could all be a bit gentler with ourselves since we are typically our own worst critic 💗💗💗

[@summermoon.k3725]

How did you manage to just post just what I needed. Thank you

[@ALifeofLearning]

This made me feel so much better after beating myself up for not healing after 1 week from 1,5 years of stress overload 😅

[@intentionalliving7326]

🤗🌸☀️

[@intentionalmediallc4338]

This girl literally got me through college with her videos in 2017 and I finished with three degrees. In 2021, I own my own media company and it feels more than ever listening to my inner dialogue is where I am at. I feel like we have literally grown up together even though our lives are very different. I have never commented on a video but like this really made my heart melt knowing exactly where she is at. We got this love, in our time, at our pace.

[@lavendaire]

wow congrats to you!!

[@intentionalmediallc4338]

@@lavendaire Thank you! There is such success with being so vulnerable as you have done for years. You're truly authentic and it helps me when I speak with literally hundreds of influencers in my business. Sending you lots of rested and slow living vibes right now!

[@stellaabigailverana6641]

Thank you so much for this video, Lavendaire! I've been overthinking and stressing out these past few days because I lose all of the motivation inside of me and after watching this I realized that I'm putting too much pressure on myself and I have such a high expectation to myself. I will definitely apply the tips you gave in this video. Thank you so much, Aileen! ❤️

[@jessicamorgan0]

had a little breakdown over school work and came to watch this video since I missed it. I feel a little better now :) I’m not sure if you’ll see this since I’m late but ty again for everything you do

[@francescarachel6739]

i feel like i've been too hard on myself and feeling super tired, then this video came up on my timeline, thankyou

[@monalishasmile5005]

Very much refreshing video..being gentle on self and taking baby steps is all that matters..love the video Aileen❤❤

[@MellySnow711]

I love this video so much! And I totally agree that sometimes we put unrealistic expectations on ourselves. I'm so glad you're feeling better! And I am also ready to be gentler on myself.

[@angelvantovier2235]

I can feel your energy right now and can see the effort you put in to make this video , all I want to say is keep strong , and your message and mission is powerful ❤️

[@MissDhanusha]

This is such a great message. We need to be more gentle on ourselves.

[@mariaiftene5593]

I don't know how, but your videos always come at the right time. Felt so off lately and your " do what you can" made me burts into tears. Thank you so much Lavendaire ❤

[@lavendaire]

💖💖

[@lazifatunnoor4274]

My march started great and then after starting my personal brand Rosandra, I had a lot of expectations from myself. Also my neighbour gave my two little baby chicks. Therefore my plate got overloaded and I was over working myself which resulted in burnout. I suffered a lot (Cz the people at home are extremely negative) and I was feeling so lonely, defeated & hopeless. Then my beloved friend had helped me, she gave me such comforting words it really had helped me come out of the darkness.

[@intentionalliving7326]

✨Tender care 🌸 We & the world around us is better when we add this to our days ✨

[@HanSan17]

When you were talking at the end, I felt like I was going to cry. I feel so inspired by your recent videos, sending you SO much love!

[@tinbernas5947]

She's literally the nicest person Xx

[@AllieC27]

I love this video! I have felt the same way in the past. I was being super productive for my growth / self-love journey with my day to day routine that I ended up feeling exhausted! Everyday was planned out to the point that i forgot how to just be free, relax and do whatever I truly want to do in the moment. Since then, I took some time off organizing every hour of my life. I now just plan a few activities per day and if i don't complete them all, I don't beat myself up for it :)

[@Sathone]

Thank you for reminding us again that we shouldn’t sacrifice our lives to productivity. I appreciate the message of accepting yourself as you are in the moment :)

[@vidhigujadhur8722]

Take care and best of luck with your reset! ❤️🍀

[@JCan2159]

Love the dance segment! Get it, girl! I love zumba and love that feeling when I let loose. I call it "losing myself" to dance 💃🏻🎶 that feeling of body & soul connecting to music.

[@hongngocvn]

I don't know why but I can feel your tiredness, maybe as I also have the same situation like you, feeling negatively and don't want to do things. However, good to see you wake up and set up your life again. I think it's time for me, either. Thanks for another inspiring video. Keep up. We always by your side.

[@SmileLauren]

Aww that thumbnail is the cutest 💕

[@MentallyMillennial]

I so needed this video right now. I always feel this constant need to be productive and it’s exhausting I’m always feeling guilty for resting. & guess what I burn out and boom bust cycle constantly. But you’re right. Change is constant. We change by just being here & every day with what life throws at us and gives us. Thank you 💜

[@srishtyjha7529]

"Change will happen naturally " 💜

[@AlyssaVierneza]

I needed this. I’ve been SUPER depressed, it’s reaching a bad point, and I’ve been in bed sleeping and sad a lot. I realized to get back on my feet, I physically cannot force myself to change everything right away. It’s going to be slow, super slow to get back things in order. Thank you for this video, it reassures that I’m okay.

[@hayleykwok]

thank you so much, i've been feeling very burnt out lately too and really needed to hear this. it's all so overwhelming and i've been thinking of self harming and committing suicide all over again... seeing this reminded me to calm down a little. yet at the same time i have such high standards and perfectionist tendencies for myself, but don't feel as though i ought to/deserve to take a break since my iGCSE exams (grade 10 in the US) start in two weeks. i can't just do nothing, but i struggle with procrastinating and feeling stuck all the time and i'm exhausted. i'm also trying to recover from anorexia and it's all just so mentally draining and i want it all to stop and my pain to end.

[@ella21004]

Watching your videos feels so therapeutic. Thank you for this💖 I am a fan from the Philippines🇵🇭🥰

[@raurvish]

This was so peaceful to watch I hope you know the amount of value addition that you're doing is insane. I loved it. Thank you so much queen

[@lifewithtanrak1012]

Thank you, Aileen. Thank you for the reminder again to be gentle with myself. I feel like the Universe always show your video thumbnail at the right moment 🎀

[@annienamaste8283]

You seemed so much cheerier, lighter, brighter and more at easr after your reset week! 🙌💖💕

[@akiinefaexperiencinglife]

I am on day 2 of reset , that's how my April is starting like, this video is good, I'll compare notes. Sending you love ❤️

[@summermoon.k3725]

Stay strong Aileen!! You got this!! Sending love your way 💖 You're not alone 💖

[@jerra230]

I really need this right now. It’s been 2 weeks since our govt. started to have lockdown again... (trauma, anxiety, fear ) i started feeling it again.. i feel so tired for these 2 weeks. Thanku! I’ll do a slow reset..... UNTI-UNTI🌱

[@MoumitaKarmakar1190]

Thank you for sharing your experience. And I love the way your hair looks now Aileen. Lots of love and positivity to you ❤️❤️❤️

[@kellyokeefe7290]

I love this. I am always SO hard on myself and it’s taking its toll on me. I’m so afraid of being judged all the time that I don’t know how to love myself😣

[@girijadevi4790]

Haven't watched it yet but I am pretty sure that it's going to be full of positivity. Sending lots of love💕💕💕

[@firafsiefa_]

I love this so much! I had so many midterms a few weeks ago that made me feel so burnt out, so during spring brrak I also took the time to reset mentally, emotionally, and physically. It was soooo rejuvenating and now I feel ready to tackle the rest of the semester!🥰💫

[@jaimetan]

Love your giant “lettuce bouquet”! And thanks for sharing your reset with us. Great reminder that it’s ok to slow down and give yourself space. I’ve been going through a similar process too! Sending you all the good vibes 🙌

[@thesrilife2182]

broo how does she know what i need everytime??? thank you aileen!!

[@Julia-gc7do]

Watching your video is one of my favorite things, I can always learn something and gain some energy from it, Thank you Alien

[@Princessmiacara]

Thanks a lot Aileen, you made my life better, I was so hard on me, I forget to love myself, I was tired of everything, now Iam OK , it feels a lot better, I can't thank you enough, but that's the only thing I can do . Love you a lot

[@agalstreasures565]

Oh boy I loved this video....story of my life recently....one of my best friends told me "never underestimate the power of tiny steps forward".

[@analynoclarit564]

Thank you so much Aileen! I love youuuu. Thank you for always reminding us to just live and breathe. I def need this today.

[@rajshreepardeshi_]

Loved this vlog !! This is so beautiful !! Thank you so much for this babe !! I LOVE YOU SM !! Sending you LOADS OF LOVE, BLESSINGS AND HUGS !! ❤️❤️✨

[@StarlightLoveHeart]

You make it look so easy to reset yourself. With an anxiety disorder & development disorder, and being on medication for it, it makes it so much harder to get my life together. My mind yells at me to reset, but my body won't move and do it. It's frustrating. I'm so glad about having such a good support system though! My dog sure helps my mood. Maybe you could do something about mood and animals?

[@Travelwmouna]

Slowing down is what I needed, this vlog came at the right time ❤️

[@intentionalliving7326]

🙌🏻

[@mounaouaddane8683]

Girl I checked your videos and I'm in love ❤️, when will you be posting next video about confidence?

[@Travelwmouna]

@@mounaouaddane8683 I'm happy you like them 💕, I will be posting this week

[@ashleighblack6688]

Everytime you post, it's like they universe is reminding me to stay in track with your videos. Thank you very much♥️

[@soniapurin5223]

Hi Aileen, I just found that I have to undergo a septoplasty procedure after having a serious nose and ear pain that troubles my breathing. I was really depressed and sad these days, as I’m too scared of going under a knife and the surgery. I’ve also feel really depressed when I’m not achieving my other goals either due to so many life problems. I felt useless. Watching your videos comforts me a little and always love your advices. It keeps me living at the moment...

[@SimplyCatherine]

I love this. Setting small goals really can help get us back on track.

[@tranngoc5722]

I really love this video because of the feeling it brings up, very peaceful !

[@tierneydias3428]

Thank you for posting this made me feel so much better

[@NidzJanakiS]

Also thankyou for making this reset video Everyone needs a reset in their lives😌

[@ayeshasohail8300]

Hey sunshine, Whatever you have been able to do is enough for yourself. I know you know way more than me but just a reminder from a lil girl that everything happens for a reason and sometimes it really hard to believe that. Just keep swimming till you reach the shore ❤

[@ChocoMilk.o_o]

This channel, motivated me so much in my life, and... I just want to thank you SOOO much lavendaire

[@emmajarek-simard1942]

This is so beautiful, refreshing and exactly what I needed today 💕 Especially because of the pandemic, I think we all need to be extra gentle with ourselves 🥰

[@zeinasinan9531]

Your new hair color is GORGEOUS 😍

[@shifana_joonie]

Your video came at the right moment I needed u. Thank God for your existence ❤️

[@Flower-tl4vj]

Wow I love your honesty & also true motivation & really the guidance we need in these moments ❤️

[@LiviaBrash]

For optimized performance, we need to embrace optimized recovery, however gentle and slow it needs to be 🌷thank you for this important video and message! Much love and positive vibes from a fellow KZbinr 💕

[@anhadleen]

Thanks for being on KZbin 💖 You've inspired me a lot 🌼

[@Shahdotheincredible33]

I love your vlog style in this video! I would love to see more vlog-type videos they're so fun to watch! 💕