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00:00:00 Welcome To Sad Boyz
00:00:18 How Are The Boyz?
00:14:26 Executive Function/Jarvis Update
00:23:55 Jordan Update
00:37:49 Baldur's Gate: More on Nightz!
00:49:41 Super Bowl
00:58:27 NBA
01:24:08 Soulmate POV

[@MadBunnyArtist]

I have never felt more seen, than when Jarvis said “the anxiety of a video ending while doing the dishes” that hit

[@mikeharvey7966]

Right?? I have to carefully pick a video to put on that’s long enough for me to either finish the task, or hit a good clean/dry hands point to put on something else. Huge when cooking and I know I’ll have to handle raw meat. Not touching my phone, nor breaking in the middle to switch videos, and lord I do not want to live in that Sonic’s-almost-out-of-air anxiety while dealing with the sensory nightmare of raw chicken hands.

[@dliap98]

it's so validating to hear that other people are exactly like me lmao

[@trulyAmatulHaqq]

The fact that you used to be able to queue videos but now it’s paywalled into KZbin premium 😢

[@dliap98]

@@trulyAmatulHaqq rip :( i caved and got premium because i can turn the screen off and listen to stuff in the background, but i didn't know that queueing videos was premium only now too, that sucks

[@limitlesspursuit]

Same but then I remembered that Siri can make another video play

[@elliotseiler8046]

rly appreciate jarvis talking openly abt his chronic health issues as someone who is very much struggling to come to terms with being chronically ill myself . it’s nice to hear it talked about in a casual way

[@sophlamppost]

I feel the same way, especially coming into the comments and seeing how many people relate to their discussions on illness and mental health. Almost two years into my Crohn’s diagnosis, and this definitely makes it feel less like me life is collapsing all around me forever. I’ll probably be able to manage it like these dorks some day

[@NekaBee]

Seriously I felt really seen by the funny men in a couch who can't see me at all 😂 ( chronically ill/ multiply disabled)

[@julietbranch8736]

I completely agree. Anytime I talk about it to my friends I'm treated so differently as if I should always keep it quiet. It's so nice to hear someone else be open about it. Especially while I'm going through medical gaslighting and no doctor will treat my Hashimoto's disease.

[@caroloz6590]

I also have chronic hives and it's literally amazing to hear one of my favorite youtubers talking about how he has the same condition. Like beat for beat.

[@Saturnm0ss]

Same! Ive been disabled for about 6 years and sometimes i have to remind myself , no you are disabled, dont you dare do that thing that will flare up your chronic pain

[@morsibum]

perfect podcast to watch after getting your wisdom teeth out

[@nl8661]

Literally my wisdom teeth are growing in as we speak. This comment was a sign to get them pulled

[@najaiwilson3414]

Crazy that’s exactly what I’m doing rn

[@exacto7216]

i got mine taken out 2 days ago!

[@najaiwilson3414]

@@exacto7216 I just got mine out yesterday and I’m already mad I can’t eat my fav foods 😭😂

[@lunamercury_3113]

Feel better! Mine healed fairly quickly

[@tsj147]

"we're an organized...what's the opposite of crime?" "we're organized" made me laugh tooo hard

[@sciscapes]

Jarvis talking about having noise on in the background to quiet the discomfort that comes with silence as I use his voice to quiet the discomfort that comes with silence.

[@iamjustkiwi]

Oh my god the "autoplay into another LONGER video essay" has been happening so much for me with the hbomb plagiarism video too. I've probably listened to it like....6 times fully through in the process of going about my day.

[@doublejoywilson]

me too!! my partner and i put it on in the background while we work on other things lol

[@two_5]

fr ive been listening to rachel oats 6 hour bethany beal deep dive lmao

[@olive6960]

this keeps happening to me with the colleen ballinger swoop video i watched it once😭😭

[@tetooooooo]

the onision video essays never leave me alone 😭

[@possumfrog]

Hey Jarvis! I’m a 16 year old kid that also has chronic spontaneous urticaria. My health has gone to complete shit over the past year and it means a lot to hear from someone who struggles with something I do too. For a few months starting last summer I was covered head to toe with hives and they never went away. I was on the max dose of every med I could be on and nothing got rid of it. I never wanted to leave the house and was in agony. They’ve gotten better since then but still won’t go away. A lot of people don’t know that random hives are a thing, so it’s something I’m insecure about. In school, I get really anxious and embarrassed that people are going to be weirded out. I almost cried once because my face got swollen in school and I looked like I had gotten horrible lip filler. It’s been such a big stressor for me to deal with the constant itching. Hearing you talk about your hives now (since I’ve gotten my diagnosis) has made me cry. I feel so seen. Thank you.

[@fivebatsinatrenchcoat]

Wow that was pretty much my experience around 16 or 17. I'm at uni now but when I was still in high school I spent about a year suffering and hating being seen by anyone and trying pretty much every treatment, slowly going mad. It sucks a lot obviously and I think the hardest part is not having any sort of estimate of when it will go away or if it will just flare up again and again. Best advice I can give is to be kind to yourself about it, let yourself cry and be angry because it is horrible and unfair. The thing that eventually seemed to be what put me in remission was a combo of omalizumab (Xolair in the USA) and IVIG, the latter is rather hard to get but the former is pretty much the go-to treatment for non-responsive cases; if you haven't considered/tried it yet then it *might* be a thing to mention to your GP/immunologist/whoever

[@spider_sugar3249]

God, hives are the worst!!!!! I feel you.

[@emilee-has-legs]

no matter what, your worth is not defined by what affects you externally, but rather the strength we have to deal with them internally, and you’re doing great. hives suck, rooting for you!!

[@toadacrosstheroad]

I totally get that. I might have a less severe case of MCAS and it's so fucking frustrating to do everything you can to avoid a flareup, and still end up having a reaction to literally nothing. It comes and goes so much for me- I could be perfectly fine using a product one day, then get horrible hives and rashes all over my body the next, and back again. Lately, having anything rub against my skin has made me breakout into hives too, so wearing clothes with a lot of seams or textures has been a nightmare, especially since that is almost all my clothes. I can't handle anything touching my skin because it feels like my skin is getting burnt or like having rubbing alcohol put onto a papercut, it's like nothing makes it better, and it's really hard to shower because that's when flareups get even worse, and it's never consistent with whether or not it helps or harms. I feel you so much, and I really hope you can figure out something that works for your skin. I've yet to gotten any testing for mine since I have other really debilitating chronic illness stuff going on that is more high priority to figure out, but I'm hoping soon that I'll figure it out or at least get on immunosuppressors since my issues are likely autoimmune.

[@SheWhoWalksSilently]

@toadcrossroad You could either wear your clothes inside out, or take up sewing your own clothes, you could do neat French seams that would be pretty smooth.

[@dahliawalters5120]

Can’t believe Jordan called me out as I put on the pod for the elevator ride to get my Uber eats

[@kalokai_ri]

Jarvis and Jordan talking about about BG3 makes me think about how badly i want them on dimension20

[@AnnamatopoeiaArt]

Yes PLEASE!!! It would be amazing, and they know people from dropout 👀👀👀

[@kalokai_ri]

​@AnnamatopoeiaArt exactly!!! Theyre gonna be on an episode of the new um actually season and im just waiting for them 2 show up on more stuff

[@he.said.teenjiejer]

they’re literally gonna be on um actually, it’s PLAUSIBLE and WITHIN REACH

[@TheAmityElf]

Oh my gosh, yes! They'd be so great! 😭

[@ary3901]

​@@kalokai_ri WAIT WHATTT OMG I can't wait!

[@starrthepj]

mister meaner is a GREAT drag king name

[@littelcreatchure506]

Or miss demeanor

[@seweratwitch]

1:55:12 i cant believe they didn't pick up on the innuendo-- extremely salty tuna is supposed to be what...Jessica tastes like

[@avery-lynnwalker5082]

THANKYOU

[@lindensalter6713]

They jumped immediately from that I had to pause to process fully

[@EclecticDevo]

Yes! made me crazy they didn't talk about that

[@erikacomfort3343]

I’m crying and screaming that they didn’t notice this 😭😭😭

[@limelacroixcan]

DUDE I WAS SO SHOCKED THEY DIDNT REACT TO THAT AT ALL B4 I REALIZED THEY PROB JS MISSED THE JOKE ENTIRELY 😭

[@Arosukir6]

The Boys not realizing that the "salty old tuna fish" bit was a bad cunnilingus joke is pretty adorable 😂

[@dinahsaur7999]

Lol ikr 💀 flew right over their heads

[@frank4446]

Jordan almost jumping off the couch laughing has me on the floor 💀💀💀

[@B.-T.]

Jarvis and Jordan going on a tangent and laughing uproariously at fart sounds is just the purest most wholesome thing.

[@MechBlank]

the only version of “boys will be boys” that i will accept

[@Nahrias_World]

This video autoplayed while I'm building a piece of furniture...😅

[@Sam-uj9me]

fated to be

[@headintheclouds4571]

You fulfilled the prophecy

[@thenumberIX]

asked jarvis in chat if he met glup shitto yet and he took me seriously

[@tetooooooo]

what the fuck is glup shitto

[@MizMizuki524]

jarvis’ reaction to the cop slide incident vs jordans’ reaction to the baby soulmate tiktok at war for most infectious laughter moment holy shit

[@yagikataiser434]

I don't think I've ever laughed this much at fart jokes before. The Boyz continue to deliver cultured content

[@lukedoc321]

"It's like when you're trying to clean up your desktop so you just put everything into a folder on your desktop" man I did not need to be called out like that

[@Aidan_ODonnell]

@1:59:46 “No misdemeanors, no mister meaners” is one of the funniest things said this whole podcast and it went so under the radar 😂

[@two_5]

10:00 as someone who was diagnosed relatively young with adhd and more recently as autistic thinking of myself as high functioning was so damaging to my mental health. i felt like when i was struggling it wasnt valid because was supposed to be high functioning and so changing my thinking to understand that no one has more or less adhd but that it effects people in different ways and some people are better at hiding it than others! high masking was a much more helpful and validating term for me and my experience!!

[@lookatdemijipers]

I prefer "low support needs" because just because you often CAN do something on your own doesn't mean you never need help

[@two_5]

@@lookatdemijipers yes that too!

[@blakewhite3131]

Yeah, same here. I wanted so badly to prove myself. My parents aren't the most understanding in the world, and they give me a hard time with my executive dysfunction. It's hard to have to battle with the internal conflict when I have nagging parents to shame me about things I was already ashamed about. But it's validating to hear others also having to reassure themselves on what they can tackle, day-to-day

[@two_5]

@@blakewhite3131 im sorry to hear that. i think surrounding yourself with others (wether that be through friends or content you consume) helps normalize your struggles and making you be more empathetic towards yourself because those traits arent things you can control and arent something to be ashamed of!!

[@xyzzyx4839]

yeah, being called """high-functioning""" by others when I literally can't work is........an experience. I haven't heard the phrase higher-masking before but that really fits my experience too.

[@adrianpink8144]

1:14:31 “Any dynasty gets hate” “Like us with this show?” Another unheard Jordan banger

[@lilscigirl]

wow as someone else who has chronic urticaria since i was 4 or 5 years old, I really appreciate you talking about it, jarvis. i rarely ever even hear people mention the name (besides doctors and other eps of this podcast, of course) so it is just really validating to hear you speak on it. hope your flare up calms down soon… I know how irritating and uncomfortable it can be!

[@jackal2654]

Same, its really nice to hear other people talk about it! Mine got so intensely bad when i became an adult that it practically ruined my early 20's. Xolair has been such a lifesaver omg

[@lilscigirl]

@@jackal2654 oh man, mine was mainly bad in my childhood (elementary school was especially frustrating because kids didn’t understand it) but it’s mainly calmed down now besides the occasional flare up. I’m glad to hear something has been helping you too!

[@possumfrog]

I’ve been dealing with it too. It’s absolute hell.

[@fivebatsinatrenchcoat]

CIU is crazy horrible and it doesn't help that a lot of people can't understand how maddening it is to be itchy all the time so they don't take it seriously. My most recent flare up (a few years back), I spent months just listening to audiobooks so that I didn't have to move and make the itching worse. In the end it cleared up from a combination of omalizumab and IVIG but gods was it expensive. IIRC it's very rare for people to have a flare up last more than 2 years, but that's still far FAR too long. Also, I reckon it has a genetic component just based on looking at my own family history

[@HalicanDrops]

Same 😩 I had an episode that lasted about a year, and had no idea it was chronic urticaria for months, none of my doctors even suggested it was that until I saw an allergist. I'm nervous about it coming back but I wouldn't be surprised if it did. Trying to be productive while your whole body is constantly itchy is horrible and I would not wish it on anyone.

[@Velociraptor449]

I don't have what Jarvis has but I do have eczema where I scratch myself so hard I bleed and it's nice to hear someone candidly talk about this without awkwardness because it shouldn't be awkward.

[@cori742]

same! mine's also been like ridiculously bad this winter, i swear to god there's actually something going on environmentally

[@Velociraptor449]

@@cori742 FR

[@marisolbecerra06]

@@cori742 LITERALLY!! my eczema hasnt flared up in a few years but this winter it came back out of nowhere 😭

[@cori742]

@@marisolbecerra06 fwiw, i finally got mine back under control by keeping it covered in organic cotton, as many layers as i could stand, and getting it damp first. every time the skin dries out it damages itself more, so anything you can do to make sure it doesn’t fully dry will help it to heal! coconut oil (and occasionally mct oil with lavender essential oil) was also a lifesaver 😫

[@marisolbecerra06]

@@cori742 thank you! for me personally aveeno lotion gets the job done, although it sounds like yours is a little more intense than mine lol

[@floorcandy]

Jordan crawling around after the “can i have cookie?” took me OUT

[@orangejoe3038]

Might just be me, but I would love a "The Boyz talk Baldur's Gate 3" 5 hour long episode.....

[@Sunbather620]

As an immigration paralegal, huge congrats to Jordan for making it to the next step in the immigration process. Each stage is such a sigh of relief and each approval should be celebrated. Seems like you're working with great lawyers that have your back throughout these incredibly stressful proceedings

[@angelofspring48]

I understand the whole crying when meeting your idols/being overwhelmed thing…I had front row tickets to Janet Jackson and she waved hi to me… then she starting singing Scream and I was bawling uncontrollably and it was completely involuntary lol

[@tetooooooo]

" mama may i have cookie 🐀" lives in my head rent free now 😭

[@sonja5021]

As someone with chronic hives, it's really nice to hear someone else talk about it. I don't think I've heard anybody else online discuss chronic hives and it's weirdly comforting to hear people describe the things I'm going through. I'm glad it seems like anti-histamines help Jarvis, but they never were able to fully get rid of my hives so my doctors have had me on xolair for two years and it has really helped :) I hope Jarvis feels better soon, it's truly so difficult to function when you have hives

[@possumfrog]

Man you’re so lucky. I’m in the same boat with anti histamines not working but I got a blood test and it showed xolair wouldn’t work for me either.

[@sonja5021]

@@possumfrog i’m so sorry, hives are actually the worst. i spent so much time not being able to figure out what worked (every anti-histamine on the market, steroids, etc) and i could barely function. i hope it gets better for you

[@HXgamer11]

Jarvis talking about being most at peace when he's tired (bc it removes some anxiety) really resonated with me. I think that's why I enjoy the sedating effects of MJ in my daily life.

[@tsj147]

nonstop laughter w the soulmate ear thing. didnt think it could keep getting funnier.

[@reganw759]

the fart segment was the wildest 5 minutes I’ve ever watched

[@paytonsme]

47:20 jordan kicking his feet with this little attitude i love him so much

[@ryanhatesgirls]

I don't know who Baldur is, but could you just ask them to open the gate?

[@mlizhereandnow]

Appreciate how much of a comfy listen this always is. Came for the funnies stayed for the vulnerability.

[@katieweaver2856]

I don’t have chronic urticaria but my mom does and I have some overlapping stuff - I will say when I’m having an autoimmune flare-up I also deal with a lot of executive dysfunction - I have trouble mustering enough focus to do even shallow work. And there is research out there that addresses the effect inflammation can have on the brain. Proud of you for showing up anyways and I hope you find treatment that improves your life quality 💜

[@dots3854]

the youtube watching while dishes part called me the FUCK out 😞

[@williamdailey792]

The best tweet to come out about the 49ers and the Super Bowl was hands down "learning the rules to your own game at the same time as Ice Spice is crazyyy"

[@Gingermermaid90]

I'm feeling that mental health struggle exactly the same.

[@catbear5200]

fart w. reverb always hits it's so funny lmao

[@haley2926]

Jarvis explaining sports is very educational and interesting as a non sports fan. Love it

[@starboardia]

talking about needing something like a podcast in the background while doing something as I’m listening to this podcast because I need something in the background while doing something

[@JoeWilks444]

I've watched you guys a lot recently, but I've never related to anyone as much as I related to the first 12mins of this episode. Made me feel so much less alone and alien. Thank you.

[@EveSterling-em9un]

2 hour episode? hell yeah

[@19elephanthands]

i have had similar problems with chronic urticaria, especially scratching/rubbing off patches of skin. it was weirdly cool to hear you mention that! i also get cold weather urticaria, so have never been able to use cold compresses or ice to battle itching. PERSONALLY, when its very bad, it has helped me to use a heating pad or similar on the itchy area. hope some fucking good health and happiness can flare up in you

[@possumfrog]

Heating pad and ice work for me! Also I’ve gotten prescription ointment. I’ve found lotion for bug bites or eczema helps too and helps keep me from scratching my skin off.

[@lucygazz]

Oh my god I feel like no one has cold urticaria !! I had no idea what was wrong for the longest time it’s so frustrating when it gets to your fingers

[@kristencocciante3803]

I love listening to the convo about “I need to be watching smth at all times” cuz sadboyz is that for me, this is what I watch while playing my mobile games with all the ads 😂

[@bee1189]

Bless this for hitting right when I have 2 hours left in my work shift.

[@Kingbimmy]

I really hope Jarvis and Jordan realize how helpful it is for so many of us when they talk about health issues and the stuff that a lot of us go through. I don’t have what Jarvis has but I have chronic pain, fatigue, and stomach issues. The last few months I literally haven’t been able to take care of myself. My mom has had to help me get to doctors and physical therapy and I’m on so many fucking meds it’s insane. I think my physical problems have left me so mentally fatigued as well, that that my ADHD has been running *rampant* even with Adderall 😵‍💫 I also get that up and down Jarvis describes, where I just can’t do shit and then I eventually go back to “high functioning”. It doesn’t help that I have AuDHD, so it’s also hard to properly put into words or communicate with most people, what’s going on in my head. It’s exhausting. But the laughs at the end from the soulmate POV’s were killer 😂 *mAmA* I’m fuckin dead 💀🤣

[@colleena6671]

I know. The executive function discussion got me on a Google deep dive. And an hour later while still watching the video I now have an appointment to possibly get diagnosed with ADHD.

[@VioletCatbird]

I think this video triggered something in me because I just started cleaning out my "untitled" desktop folder a.k.a. my guest room/craft room! Of course it now looks like a tornado went through, but sometimes it has to get worse before it gets better. Looking forward to the next Sad Boyz so I can listen to you guys while I keep organizing!

[@AwesomeAlan1000]

This episode was what I was using to tear myself away from playing baldurs gate for hours and hours on end… and then the baldurs gate talk started

[@hioute]

the discussion about videos playing while doing the dishes is way too meta, the Boyz occupy my premium Dish Doing Video real estate

[@plasmathespaceproto701]

so glad you talk about chronic urticaria some days it can be SO draining and make me and im sure others feel bad about our skin and looks

[@nataliesmith9397]

I always struggle with executive dysfunction but the way yall talked about it helped me stop beating myself up over it for long enough to do some unpacking I've been putting off for months. I still have plenty of other stuff to do to clean but that little step was really helpful. Always appreciate you 💕

[@bornsmooth92]

As someone (UK 32m) who has absolutely 0 interest in sports let alone American sports, listening to Jarvis explaining them is still very pleasent

[@kyay10]

15 minutes in and I feel so seen and so understood man! I'm gonna cry 😢.

[@Corarii]

when you did that bit about needing to be stimulated and how debilitating and stressful it is when that stimulation ends is so real, as someone with adhd and anxiety im so scared if silence for too long and its really comforting hearing that other people share this same problem

[@juice8566]

i shouldn't have watched this in public the fart bit is killing me

[@DrowSkinned]

i need y'all to do more fart sound effects reviews. I haven't laughed that much in so long

[@natalie__jade]

Feeling real called out for putting on this video to fill the dead air between finishing dinner and choosing a record to listen to while I anxiety clean before my friends come over

[@cameron2836]

this video just set out to make me feel so validated about my recent flare up of adhd traits/issues and so seen when it comes to chronic health issues. fuck yeah.

[@dannydevitofan9]

Oh my god, this is my moment. As someone who spent five years with chronic spontaneous urticaria and angioedema, for me it was linked to my thyroid condition (I’m sure you’ve had your thyroid checked throughout this, but if you haven’t, definitely do) but the only thing that finally had it die down was getting out of an abusive relationship. It makes sense because my doctors had told me flare ups could be triggered by stress and being in that situation stressed me out a lot, but seeing the huge physical change after leaving him was wild. Good luck Jarvis, I know it’s really hard and I appreciate you talking about it. 🖤

[@coda3223]

I have mast cell activation syndrome and stress (good and bad) plays SUCH a big part of my symptom flares. Even just laughing too hard can trigger an asthma attack and a flare. So glad you got out of a stressful situation and found some symptom relief! ❤

[@lanceelliott2504]

I also just said to a friend "my body is deteriorating". We will weather chronic illness winter together brother ✊

[@Sarah-xh6qw]

No health advice, just empathy. As someone with chronic eczema, the experience of not being able to sleep because of the itchiness and subconscious scratching until you bleed is so frustrating and relatable. Hope you begin to feel more well soon!

[@oops6876]

Literally was just thinking “hey it’s Friday, I wonder if the pod is up yet” *Uploaded 1 minute ago* 😮

[@brendenevans1186]

Jarvis's blanket is giving Ramen noodles square

[@PolyPocketPole]

The irony of me building ikea furniture while I watch this

[@northstarjakobs]

The executive function section of the podcast is so funny to me because as an autHD bastard, I have two settings for focus/executive function: the one that Jarvis and Jordan described in the podcast, where I feel like I need seven forms of stimulation/input at once and can't really focus on any of it, and the special interest-fueled hyperfocus where I sit down to work on something and all of a sudden I've spent four hours sorting baseball cards and I only noticed that the four hours passed not because my stomach is yelling at me to eat something but because the thing I was listening to just ended (it didn't actually just end it ended like 15 minutes ago). One of the ways that I self-medicate with cannabis is that it tends to give me a happy medium between the two focus/executive function extremes. I'm able to zone in on one thing without becoming completely ignorant of my surroundings or the passage of time, which is nice. Wild that some people just experience that naturally.

[@ethanprovencal3846]

Hearing you guys talk about the option paralysis and need for planning out efficiency was really validating. Thanks for doing what you do!!!!

[@k.a.u.4599]

Seems like everyone I know is having bad health rn. Thanks for talking about what you feel comfortable with it's nice to hear solidarity!

[@charlotteweisserman9095]

i have adhd and bipolar disorder and i love that i can watch sadboyz knowing i'll be able to relate to either or both jarvis and jordan each time

[@jacquelynkemp2743]

From one person w chronic illnesses to another, I feel your pain. Hope it gets more manageable soon ❤

[@lydia437]

I appreciate the chatting about the difficulties of ADHD and how it can ebb and flow. Going through a pretty rough patch with it recently

[@cryptic7263]

the executive function talk and the bad health spike talk was so refreshing to hear because im going through the exact same thing and ive been feeling so shit. it's always good to know other people are experiencing what i am struggling with, bc it makes me remember im not the reason that this stuff is happening

[@drunkfur]

Thank you so much to both of you for always talking so candidly about executive dysfunction/ADHD struggles. It makes me feel less alone on my roughest days 💚

[@breadjustslatheredalloverme]

i would’ve barely laughed at “mama may i have cookie” if jarvis and jordan didn’t absolutely lose it 😭 so fucking funny

[@presidentalpaca]

ty for talking so candidly about adhd and executive dysfunction. it's always a comfort to hear others talk abt the exact problems ive had. ive been in a really bad hole w that for months, but i just got a new job thatll give me structure and the money to pay for therapy and a nutritionist. im really excited to feel like a whole person again.

[@violethell411]

I just start to clean my “depression hole” with this playing in the background and the beginning makes me less guilty about the state of my apartment rn. It’s nice to hear that content creators deal with the same sh1t as us. Thanks for being vulnerable about your mental and physical health it helps more than you think 💜

[@SillyBilly455]

My favorite time of the week yet again

[@alyssamendoza7708]

That part about something ending while doing the dishes was SO TARGETED LMAOOO

[@alyssamendoza7708]

Wait do I have ADHD lol

[@darkaiel]

Do you have a weapon? Jordan: I've got like a really strong brother.

[@frankensteinlives]

14:53 this is how I ended up watching Mike's Mic tell me about every season of Pretty Little Liars six different times. No regrets?

[@bluebirds_and_bees]

1:31:35 Watching both of your faces change after hearing the cookie line was the highlight of my week

[@murielwest6613]

they are both very handsome

[@Tobithepurpleducc]

I don’t have what Jarvis has, thankful I don’t, but I do have a handful of other issues (not chronic thankfully), and just knowing that I’m even slightly different always just made me feel shit about myself. It’s nice to see someone I look up to so much be able to talk about stuff like this openly, it makes it easier for me and hopefully others to be able to feel more normal. great episode as always, gonna finish it tonight before bed :)

[@intel_coar6844]

I know you guys probably get praised for how you talk about mental health a lot but my adhd behaviors drive me insane so often and hearing you two discuss adhd makes me feel like such a fucking normal person and I am all here for it. Thank you for doing what you guys do

[@novaszen]

jarvis is the chronic hives representation i didn’t know i needed

[@jongkittae]

preface to say i do not have the same skin problem as jarvis but I have been dealing with chronic psoriasis (mainly on my scalp) for the past 6 years now and I get it dude. genuinely I know how it feels to have that incessant urge to itch and scratch and I think adhd makes it about a hundred times worse because one of the many effects that adhd has on the brain is lowered impulse control and that makes it so much harder to deal with issues like chronic skin conditions. it's also horrible trying to see a dermatologist and have them basically write off your pain and suffering as a symptom of your mental illness, like yes my adhd DOES make it a lot harder to NOT scratch at my scalp but that doesn't mean my scalp is like fucking phantom itching or something??? also shoutout to both of y'all for speaking so bluntly about your various mental health struggles (I personally have adhd, depression, anxiety, & am autistic as well) and it is so (weirdly maybe) heartwarming to know that others have the same/similar experiences and are also just out here doin their best. it's just nice to hear people who can relate to my own (often fairly specific to my different conditions) experiences and feelings and it's kinda validating tbh. anyway i love y'all and thank you p.s. i would listen to y'all talk about only baldur's gate for 2 hours (sadly i can't afford the patreon rn but hopefully soon)

[@amberotermat1978]

I feel so validated by the prevention talk. I have ADHD and depression and if the rubber stamps I just bought don't have a specific spot they belong to, I will spiral out of control

[@emmmmie]

I never realised that feeling like you have to optimize all of your time (while like not being optimised at all and just getting stressed) was an ADHD thing - I love stardew valley but I can't play it too much because it gets me so stressed about trying to have the most perfectly calibrated day and if I misstep I feel really bad lmao

[@coda3223]

Super relateable! The CJB Cheats mod makes it less stressful for me, because I can pause time and do a bunch of stuff. Totally understandable if that's not how you want to play though.

[@deeocdismay7657]

We are all trying our best and i appreciate this pod so much

[@stormer1958]

damn, feel really called out(seen) when they were talking about the ADHD and having to watch videos while playing a game and eating. I was playing a video game while listening to this pod, it's a weird need but its nice to see that others also know this feeling/experience.

[@haleighstier6429]

related to this podcast really hard this week, it means a lot to hear all of this from other people especially in such a friendly setting

[@averydeering3649]

your talk about executive function at the beginning was honestly so helpful to me bc just yesterday I was beating myself up about still not cleaning my workroom after moving back from college. I'm glad to know I'm not the only one struggling with this out there and it's nice to hear that reminder from you that we need to be kinder to ourselves.

[@moth__soup]

i had an awful day today and i’m very glad i get to watch my favorite boyz, love the pod guys :)

[@ccompasspoints]

despite me not giving a single shit abt any sport i could listen to jarvis and anastasia talk and the nba all day long

[@plushdragonteddy]

i never knew jarvis and i were in the same boat with our bodies pretending we’re having allergic reactions when we’re not. i’m on nasal spray and allergy medication just so that i can blow my nose like a few times a day instead of literally going thru a box of tissues per day. it’s,, So Rough, i hope it gives u a break soon man

[@gray9989]

this podcast is just constantly articulating experiences i've never been able to express myself and i'm so appreciative to have someone understand like this

[@toadacrosstheroad]

as someone who's also experienced a really bad physical health flareup of all my disorders this winter as well, I feel you so hard Jarvis. It's so frustrating to wake up everyday, take the meds, and just hope it doesn't get any worse without actually knowing what will happen. A lot of people can take pain meds or antihistamine's without having to worry about them not doing anything or causing adverse reactions, but for some (like myself), it's always a guessing game, and it's really scary for me to take as needed medications because half the time it works, and half the time it makes me even more sick. Autoimmune disease is so frustrating and unpredictable, and I hope your flareup gets better soon bc I know how debilitating they can be.

[@EbbnFlow_Design]

Systems are so key when you have unpredictable executive function. I've spent the past 2 months 3d printing a wall storage system where all my work supplies are organized up in front of my workbench. It all has a place so it goes back easier and the effort to find it is low..also not buying stuff you already have. I've moved onto my cabinets and other storage improvements and decluttering. I know that when I finally start making art again it will be smoother and hopefully I won't get derailed so easily. My brain has the space for creativity even after a my day job.