Beauty And Body Image | That's What She Said

SoulPancake partnered with Darling Magazine to have a series of conversations about some of the issues that women face on a daily basis. Our first one is a glimpse into beauty and body image. When do you feel the most beautiful?
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[@lisk_ah]

That poem was beautiful oh my god.

[@lisk_ah]

edit: that WHOLE VIDEO was beautiful and the poem a perfect finish

[@shayen5423]

Anyone else get shivers when she read that poem?

[@keisha5542]

yup

[@aprilmorgan9807]

Shayen Payton yep

[@tunaste]

That girl could move mountains with the power in her words.

[@FelixMartin-rk6eq]

instablaster.

[@BackpackingBananas]

Just fell in love with Natalie, what a beautiful poem!

[@isilmonika]

nathalie's poem nearly made me cry... it's a really beautiful video, thank you for doing this.

[@isilmonika]

sorry, natalie*

[@imarockstarification]

Oh I totally cried!

[@pjellyjam101]

her poem was absolutely breathtaking

[@Notesofcitrus]

my jaw dropped at the poem. that is the best thing i've heard in the last year.

[@SweetasSugar42]

I feel beautiful when I am laughing with my friend. I feel beautiful because in that moment I am not thinking about what I look like. I am just laughing, I am happy, I feel complete. I hope to laugh all day long.

[@sophiebre315]

Thanks for that!

[@IS-dv8uu]

I felt beautiful when i did extacy

[@TvojaMAMA77]

One of the best videos ever. I literally cried at the end. Im fighting with my appearance for a very long time.

[@alyssamckrew3254]

What is there to fight for? You're beautiful.

[@jlove521]

I agree with Alyssa you are beautiful and we are enough :)

[@TvojaMAMA77]

❤

[@Pinkkittenpaw]

Omg, the poem was just perfect. It made me cry so bad. Wonderful job, and thank you for this video, soulpancake! Lots of love!

[@Crucis119]

Wow Soulpancake. Wonderful idea. Beautiful women. Natalie Patterson; I love your poem so much. You, gorgeous lady, have a rare and beautiful talent. Thank you so much for sharing. To the gentlemen leaving snide, complaining and fault-finding comments about this being directed at women and not men; please leave us ladies alone, please leave the women in this video alone, please leave the makers of this video alone. You want to talk about men and body-image? THEN DO IT. Get a roundtable discussion rolling. Write articles. Blog. Vlog. Podcast. Whatever! But please don't leave stuff like that on our videos and discussions. Thank you.

[@nataliepattersonpoetry]

well said.

[@savibati94]

natalie patterson you are mesmerizing. thank you for sharing.

[@laurenalexandria5313]

natalie patterson Ahhh! It's you! :D

[@CharlotteeSmithhh]

Crucis119 yasss

[@Dancerlil]

Natalie's poem is amazing ! It should be published and shared. So powerful. Go Natalie. I remember reading an interview with Cindy Crawford years ago. She said, I don't even look like Cindy Crawford. I have seen photos of actors with & without make up , hair all styled or everyday look, wearing the latest fashion or sweats. They look like regular real women. I wear no make up at home. If I go for a walk I just put on tinted lip gloss. For running errands I will add a bit of mascara. I will only do myself up a bit more for a special occasion. It is really liberating. There is something to be said about getting older ( I will soon be 60 ). We are all beautiful !

[@musicmyfriend007]

God bless you :]

[@Starl5ight]

Natalie Patterson, the brutal earth shattering honesty in your voice gives me chills. The way you have listed out and accepted all of the things I cannot admit about myself touches my soul. I just want to sit here and listen to speak until I feel better about me.

[@jayjayissued]

I'm in tears as I write this. All 8 minutes of this was all too relatable. Every second was stunning, and I simply did not want it to end. I hope I, one day, can say those beautiful words.

[@beautybeats24]

That poem got me in tears. I can't even comprehend. That was so beautiful and inspires me to call myself beautiful more often. And to except me for me and no one can tell me different. I always thought guys in high school don't like me cause I'm bigger but this reminds me that I shouldn't care if I don't have a date to the dance or a boyfriend. Thank you Natalie I'll keep that poem with me forever until it becomes a routine in my head to look myself in the mirror and say, "you know what I am beautiful."

[@RoboticScribble]

Absolutely beautiful poem that I want to read everyday!

[@daviddevlin1573]

That Poem at the end was absolutely beautiful. It brought tears to my eyes.

[@hollywoollweever6782]

the poem at the end was simply perfect. period.

[@shadowstorm0]

That poem at the end was wonderful! I spent a lot of time thinking of when I feel the most beautiful and I almost couldn't think of anything. I almost thought that I never feel beautiful, I almost always only feel pretty when I've spent time changing my face and my hair to be something it isn't, wearing uncomfortable outfits just to make me look "better" . Then I realized I feel my most beautiful when something I've done has made someone smile, whether it be a complement, a message on tumblr that means something to someone, a small comment on my writing. Anything I have done to make someones day even a little bit better is when I feel most beautiful.

[@Serendipity902]

The first girl talking, the one with red hair, oh my god she is so gorgeous!

[@hectorthealchemist]

Dang as a guy I've gotta say this is awesome and uplifting for me too. I have a beautiful body, I have a beautiful body, I HAVE A BEAUTIFUL BODY!!!! Dang this is what KZbin should strive to be more like instead of the bullshit on or empty air on most of the mainstream media...

[@Lily.valkyrie]

Go to the Thats What He Said series from Soul pancake!!!!!!!!!!

[@hectorthealchemist]

Haha okay thanks! :D

[@maellearianne6931]

I really like this. Its nice to see that they included that skinny girls can want to be curvy. Im a relatively thin girl and it hurts when someone calls me a "stick" or makes fun of my boobs. I wish i had curves. I wish i didnt have "the body of a 12 year old boy". People dont realize that how insulting that is. Especially when im not considered a "real woman" because i am flat chested. I avoid going swimming because of how uncomfortable i feel. Maybe someday people will accept that people have different body types and what makes them beautiful is the fact that they are unique, whether curvy, thin and every size in between ♡♡

[@Kay.leee.e]

If they call you flat again tell me and I'll run a bulldozer over them. "WHO is flat NOW?" You are beautiful and don't you ever forget it.

[@yesreneau]

it's those poems by her, man. they get me every time

[@timeheals0097]

The poem at the end had me in tears. So beautifully written and so real.

[@rannynguyen557]

I am a mixed girl, but I grew up under a Asian household. Many women know that Asians have a smaller body type, and I've ALWAYS ignored the remarks from all my family members, why can't you lose a few? You won't fit it, don't even try, that kind of thing. I just learned, well, I'm not that way! Don't make me into that way! And know I'm 200 lbs and loving my huggable curves, my strong legs that took me up an 8 mile mountain to feed indigenous families, and my big booty for cushioning!

[@HBudianu]

Ranny Nguyen Your comment makes me smile! You go girl. And I can only imagine those around you secretly admire your confidence and positive spirit!

[@justwinginit909]

Awesome! Keep on loving yourself!

[@angelicagehlich4755]

Natalie Patterson is a goddess! That poem brought tears to my eyes. It was amazing!

[@fulbodfit]

Not speaking for all males, and would like to weigh in as one male answering the question, When do you feel most beautiful? When I allow my dreams from last night to be my most meaningful presence today, simply stated, being powerfully vulnerable. Thanks Soul Pancake!

[@karenmccants1439]

"Comparison is a thief of joy"...perfect!

[@MichelleGuerreroDenison]

That poem near the end is so beautiful. I have CHILLS!

[@clairele948]

The intro to this video fills my aesthetic soul.

[@ApricotArtLover]

Very touching poem :) i also liked the quote, comparison is the thief of joy. True.

[@anhandfriend]

SoulPancake is one of the best things I've ever found on KZbin.

[@holypicklesmofo]

I feel beautiful when I make people smile.

[@Tozzie50]

Wow...that poem....

[@KarlyWeasley]

Natalie Patterson, your poem made me cry, I know I'm still young and learning but sometimes feeling beautiful in your own skin is the hardest thing ever, and I applaud your courage and self-esteem.

[@hollywoollweever6782]

you took the words right out of my mouth! Haha

[@codesolemn903]

Why is it that on every video i watch about women and body issues there are a bunch of comments saying "Women aren't the only one with issues" and a bunch of crap like that? Where does it say in this video that men don't deal with body issues too? And while I'm at it why do people find it so difficult to believe that girls who would be considered attractive by most people can have self perception problems too? Let's be honest here and realize that it is more common for women to have pressure to be physically attractive, but that doesn't mean that men don't struggle too. Just because a video focuses on one gender doesn't mean it's trying to insinuate that another gender doesn't have the same problems. Why can't we just sit and enjoy a video trying to put out a positive and informative message?

[@ACommonSpring]

Natalie's poem hit me viscerally.

[@daiskideyobros57]

Am i the only one that ended up in tears when the video ended?

[@LordBunnyHunterV111]

If feel most beautiful, whenever I'm having a laughing fit - I don't think about it then but afterwards I do.

[@LordBunnyHunterV111]

*I - sorry :/

[@learning.growing.1017]

ZePPLin same. And caring/ doing for others.

[@alexcrofton5079]

I am 14 years old and it's sad that I already feel fat, ugly, unloved, etc. It really is sad. I shouldn't be worried about my weight or appearance, I should be having fun, going to parties, worrying if I'll get my homework done before Monday morning, etc. I do hate feeling this way... I never really feel beautiful. I pick at my flaws almost daily and I hate that I do that. I wont even allow people to give me piggy back rides because I'm scared that I'll snap their back. I hate sitting on peoples lap because I'm scared they will make a comment about how heavy I am, etc. I struggled with an eating disorder and am going back to my old habits slowly. I hate it. It's the worst and I don't want to go back but it is overcoming me... Watching this video made me realize that, we were made the way we were made. We shouldn't pick at our flaws like they are scabs, we should be out in our bathing suits, not trying to suck in our stomachs, and have fun! I'm gonna try to get better and I hope I will. For me this video meant a lot to me because it helped me realize that I shouldn't worry how much I weigh or how I look. I should be having fun! If anyone, and I mean anyone, needs to talk, message me and I will answer asap. :) I'm here to help out or just listen

[@danielaasti]

I'm 14 as well and I don't know if this helps but I think you are BEAUTIFUL ,I know you are cause the words you wrote are really inspiring ,greetings from Peru and I hope you all have a beautiful life .

[@ariajaydesalt]

Wow - Natalie's spoken word was...everything I needed to hear and more. Thank you!!

[@AlexMora-FP]

I'm a man and I almost cried. It's great.

[@camryny7009]

the poem pure and passionate and i absolutely adore it

[@francoiscarrier6751]

That moment you read the comments and can't even find one stupid negative one. SoulPancake is awesome.

[@maddiem.3790]

That poem gave me chills and made me cry. She is truly talented

[@LovingDeWorld]

I cried at the end while listening to that amazing poem. It spoke to me so much. As for the question, I can't even remember the last time I thought I was beautiful, but I want to believe that I am. Thank you SoulPancake.

[@annaleee2311]

The poem at the end is just beautiful.

[@missatomicbomb3055]

The redhead is actually really pretty and she appears to have a lovely soul to match her looks. The guy who let her fall because he considered her, "too ugly to touch" must've been insane.

[@naimaA23]

I like to imagine that I was there with those women and being part of their conversation. I feel the most beautiful when I'm running a race because in that, there is power, and power is beautiful. Also, when I run, I just focus on doing me.. and that, too, is beauty. Thank you.

[@mnorberta24]

Natalie's poem was so beautiful! And I feel beautiful when people smile because of me. And the girl who talked about the Helen Keller play was really pretty!

[@lennoxproductions2141]

Yup. I cried, this is so inspirational and heartwarming. Loving yourself is one of the hardest things for women to do these days. Thank you Soul Pancake!

[@farehaa.]

Her poem was so beautiful omg and she was so pretty too 💕

[@valeriegmz]

what a beautiful poem! brought me to tears... thank you Natalie for this moment.

[@MissAsiaNerd]

I LOVED that poem. I've been exercising a lot lately, so I guess I feel the most beautiful after a long workout.

[@heatherkillips6861]

Natalie Patterson not only has a beautiful body but she is a beautiful person as well! Loved that poem so much, I hope I get to hear more of her work :)

[@michlushful]

That poem is absolutely incredible! I just want to write it on my wall, so every day when I wake up I'll get to read it again. Body-peace love to you all xxx

[@madz2013]

Wow, just wow. I've never really felt good enough for myself. I remember the first time I felt different was when I was around 11 and my dance class tried on the costumes we would be wearing for the recital. Mine didn't quite fit like the other girls even though I was perfectly healthy (I danced for 3 hours a day 5 days a week). This video really opened my eyes, I need to love myself.

[@reddraiza7742]

The same thing happened with me. Everyone else told me I looked fantastic but this one girl told me that I looked fat in it. I hope you do love yourself, though. You're really pretty :)

[@lucyslotta7768]

Maddy Krebs This is crazy but I had the EXACT same experience. I trained professionaly for Ballet, my grandmother started me very early when I was 3 or 4. I trained for 8 years 2 months and 5 days before I had to put my foot down. Though I was and still am at a healthy weight body image issues have followed me sence I can remember. Its a constant struggle I would love to here how you handle it.

[@mikaylawilson7967]

The poem was so beautiful :') perfect

[@solempnisuicidal]

this is so enlightening, uplifting, and seeing that it isn't heavily scripted/structured, it feels real hearing it from such beautiful ladies.

[@aglayash9179]

Natalie is absolutely adorable

[@xwarriorx753]

аглая привет,как дела?

[@livingggggg]

THE POEM AT THE END, WOW!

[@Emma.Braford]

I LOVE the poem at the end. This was so good. Thank you.

[@CoralTennessee]

that woman at the end brought tears to my eyes... what an angel!

[@1alchen]

This is such a wonderful video! I absolutely adore the message it portrays because it resonates with a raw humanity that is within all of us. All of the women filmed are so inspiring. This just makes me so happy!

[@lovetayaforeverrip8195]

When I was in FIRST GRADE, we always thought skim milk and skim milk alone would make you skinny. One day we were eating lunch and somebody got a skim milk and this boy told her to give it to me because I needed to be skinnier. I have struggled with my self confidence since 1st grade and I have since learned that I am not alone. I don't think there is one girl in my class that is 100% confident in their skin. But I have had a teacher this year that has changed my life. She struggled with her confidence, and she is absolutely gorgeous. She is not a twig, she is a healthy, gorgeous woman that has gone through everything that I have. She will forever be my role model, and I will continue to turn to her. Ever since she became a part of my life, I have vowed that I will be like her. I will help girls in the future that struggle with their body because NO ONE deserves to think that they are not enough.

[@lizzykoenig5840]

That poem was absolutely beautiful.

[@madisonhamzy1723]

For my New Years resolution, I told myself that I would watch a Soul Pancake video at the beginning of every week and try to embody the message behind it. After being introduced to Soul pancake by my Comparative a religions teacher at my high school, I have been addicted. Sometimes they are funny, heartfelt, enlightening, or simply thought provoking, nevertheless I find myself with a smile on my face every time. As a senior in high school, living in California and ready to embark on my new chapter if life titled "College", the pressures of school and life in general often times interfere. However it is with these videos, this food for thought, that I am reminded to embrace the good things in life, tell the people whom I love just how much I love them, to be more thankful, or to compliment another... I cannot thank this channel enough for the joy and perspective it brings it to me. Especially these "That's what she said" videos, as a young adult, I know the topics of discussion here should not be reaching just me, not just teenage girls, but everyone. Anyway, I'm not even sure if you read these, however I thank you.

[@adriee9]

The poem was the best part. It voiced so many things yet so simply and beautiful. Thank you

[@SiriusPotterFan]

The poem at the end made me want to cry. Lovely job, darling.

[@hannahp6261]

Natalie's poem...actually this whole video...I'm at a loss for words of how wonderful this video made me feel. ♡

[@nzcourtneylouise]

Oh wow the tears streamed when she read her poem! Magic. I feel most beautiful when I'm naked because there is no need to worry about clothes that don't fit right or don't look as good as they do in the magazines.

[@TheTalisa1985]

I am my own favorite song that I'm just beginning to learn the all words too. The poem. Just beautiful. It touches my soul in words I can't express. I cry tears of joy everytime I hear it.

[@maryambukhari60]

I absolutely love this channel. It's just so amazing, and everyone is so flawless on this channel. One may not have the perfect chiseled cheekbone, or the flattest stomach but they all have that twinkle in their eyes showing that they are happy with who they are. In my opinion, that's what makes them beautiful. I know I may not have the best curves, or the best hair (two things I think I can improve) but you know what? I feel beautiful. Feeling beautiful comes with accepting yourself. Accept your flaws, because 'imperfection is beauty.' (Marilyn Monroe) Smile a little (or a lot ;) the more smiles the merrier), and spread happiness. When you are yourself your the most beautiful, and if anyone says that your not - to heck with them!

[@nawedy]

Amazing poetry!

[@kakakashia]

Natalie, I honestly have chill bumps on my arms right now. Thank you so much for sharing such a personal poem with us. You are beautiful and that poem made me feel beautiful too.

[@ComeAwayWithSara]

that poem, that poem is just amazing. you are amazing.

[@SweetAjaB123]

THANK YOU to everyone involved in making this. Darling Magazine is my favorite magazine and SoulPancake is my favorite KZbin Channel and I am overjoyed that you guys decided to partner up on this video! Please, do it again sometime! The poem at the end was like medicine to my soul, and I know so many girls who really need to hear it. Words cannot fully express the pain of comparison and body issues especially among young women, and the more we become vulnerable with each other about these destructive thoughts the more we can slowly heal those wounds.

[@purplebackpack7710]

I was holding my breath during that last poem and I didn't even realize it. This video is perfect in every way, it shows how much we are our own worst critic.

[@audreyvinyle]

That poem made me cry my eyes out, beautiful !

[@RayonDeSun]

That poem is INCREDIBLE. I just never thought of my body that way, you opened my eyes. Thank you! I wish that every person who needs to hear those words will find this video.

[@Notaburgerkingfan]

Natalie's poen was really beautiful I cried from beginning to end. No one has ever called me beautiful but i realise now that no one has to do it for me because I can do it myself.

[@ChiYeolsLover]

Soul touched. Tears pouring. SoulPancake rocks. And that Natalie Patterson, damn.

[@renanpossari]

Poem: Sometimes When I am feeling disconnected from a crowd of people I’m standing in front of When they are staring at me but nothing about the interaction feels of love or understanding Not fun or joy I ask them to repeat after me “I am beautiful” And some are more reluctant than others I am beautiful should be a given Should be a place we begin from A foundation we are born into but sometimes messages get delivered like the post From a stranger always having a bad day A body should not beg for acceptance We walk around in these bodies These protective suits for our tender souls We walk around looking like tattered undelivered apology notes My flesh is exactly as I need it to be to keep my spirit intact Shiny But I have been roaming these streets thinking I understood the concept of beauty as it relates to me Thinking I am beautiful If only I was less or more Thinking If I weighed less these shallow fools would want to know me I’ve been hiding behind clothes trying to camouflage When myself and comfortable is all I’ve ever wanted to be But sometimes Comfortable is as lasting as a love I lost long ago She said “You have a beautiful body” I could not comprehend the words It was the first time in my entire life I had ever heard these words placed together and directed at me When im confused I take big ideas and break them into smaller pieces Make them tiny enough to fit my world into You have a beautiful body YOU Meaning me Meaning Natalie Patterson Daughter of joe frank and lynne Meaning mid west American black girl With skin and eyes light enough to confuse her own kind Meaning my own kind don’t recognize me You have a beautiful body HAVE implies ownership meaning I natalie Patterson own something I never paid for meaning somethings are free meaning I didn’t earn it so I don’t know the value of it Might abuse or take it for granted You have a beautiful body A meaning one Meaning I natalie Patterson own a single thing One irreplaceable thing that does indeed die You have a beautiful body BEAUTIFUL meaning pleasing or satisfying Meaning I am appealing and desirable Didn’t know that Have always been pretty with a “but If you only” attached Never been just beautiful Stated as fact You have a beautiful body BODY meaning physical structure A place the spirit is held in And i have never held even my lovers long enough to be good at it You have a beautiful body I will repeat these words until I am no longer reluctant Until these words are a given Until they are no longer foreign in my mouth I will repeat these words I have a beautiful body I have a beautiful body I have a beautiful body Until ownership becomes a privilege Until this skin becomes a perfect home Weathered and worn over time A perfect home Whose walls I know well Whose stair case And old floors creak my favorite song I am my own favorite song that I am just now learning all the words to But I wanna sing you Sing you til the song sticks I have a beautiful body period.

[@nataliepattersonpoetry]

Thank you for posting it.

[@renanpossari]

natalie patterson =')

[@dmarsub]

Thank you!

[@adelopé]

Natalie's poem actually made me cry. I wanna listen to it over and over again!

[@ammomercury]

that poem was absolutely everything!!

[@Rookie_Rockounding]

That poem! Beautiful! Even dudes suffer this same self talk that needs adjusting. We all need to recite those words! Soulpancake is what we need more of!

[@AsfiaMirza]

I feel the most beautiful when I do an action of goodness and know that my God loves me for that and He will guide me through my worsts x

[@niceniecey]

omgosh! i got goosebumps. "I have a beautiful body!". This is definitely one of the best videos I have ever seen.

[@SweetGaBrownin]

I don't know how I missed this series. I thought all the ladies were exquisitely beautiful, and Natalie you are AMAZING!!! Your spoken word was felt and is phenomenal Queen.

[@yapyap92]

This is wonderful. Thank you. Natalie's poem made me cry, so amazing! I feel the most beautiful when I do what's right and it brings joy to myself and others.

[@Checkersss]

WOW the poem at the end is actually AMAZING

[@widdd_]

The things the women said about when they feel the most beautiful was so very pure and it was mesmerizing to watch them say. And finding a random woman who just so happens to be a wizard with words was wow....everything about this video.

[@helenefasnacht7906]

I am filled with emotion... Thank you for those responsible for creating this powerful message! I believe every female can relate to feeling "Not Good Enough" Thank you to my daughter for sharing this message with me, her dear friend that shared this message with her. May the power of this sharing, grow & empower each that reads it! message continue to be shared to pass the message we ARE good enough & Beautiful

[@BryleeEadie]

That poem gave my chills. Beautiful.

[@sdg7799]

Natalie Patterson's poem most definitely made me burst into tears. I'm so thankful for these videos.

[@natattacc99]

I feel the most beautiful when I REALLY laugh out loud, and when someone sings their soul out into poetry like that.

[@AmyGnzlz1]

That poem is exactly what i needed to hear. That was incredible

[@buggld]

That poem... was incredible.

[@PandaChaos36]

Girl that poem... I wish that music on the radio was as positive and empowering as you were then to me

[@CharlotteeSmithhh]

I wish discussions were held like this all over the world. That poem was mesmerising