🎯SPECIFIC Advice From A Therapist: Psychology of Overeating

HOW TO CHANGE YOUR PSYCHOLOGY AROUND FOOD: PSYCHOLOGY OF OVEREATING
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In this video Sarah delves into the often overlooked psychological aspects of overeating, offering concrete and actionable strategies to break free from habitual patterns and regain control over your relationship with food.
The discussion begins by emphasizing the connection between psychology and overeating, challenging the conventional advice solely centered on behavior and nutrition. Sarah highlights the importance of understanding and calming the lower brain, where emotions and primal drives, including appetite, reside.
The first key insight involves calming the lower brain by both ensuring adequate food intake and developing the capacity to process emotions effectively. Sarah introduces a fascinating connection between deep sleep and emotional processing, advocating the use of bilateral stimulation - particularly through the simple yet powerful "butterfly hug" technique - to enhance emotional well-being.
The second psychological strategy revolves around shifting the mindset of scarcity. By reframing decisions around food from a binary "yes or no" to a nuanced "now or not now," individuals can alleviate the fear of food scarcity and create a healthier approach to decision-making.
The third stop on the psychological journey focuses on disrupting habitual patterns. Sarah explains how repetitive cycles strengthen neural networks, leading to a sense of inevitability in overeating episodes. To counter this, individuals are encouraged to ask a powerful question - "What happens if I don't eat this food right now?" - prompting the brain to imagine alternatives and break free from the cycle.
The final destination in this psychological exploration is the implementation of reverse psychology. Sarah introduces two approaches: planning to eat more, leveraging the law of reversed effort, and, paradoxically, accepting the possibility of perpetual struggle with overeating, thus releasing the internal battle.
In conclusion, this video offers a holistic and actionable guide to address overeating by exploring the intricate interplay between psychology and behavior. Sarah's unique insights and practical techniques provide viewers with a roadmap to transform their relationship with food, promoting emotional well-being and balanced decision-making.

[@ninjafury5374]

It really does feel like I'm in an endless hopeless cycle. God bless you for sharing these brilliant alternative approaches.

[@janiceworthington9176]

Another good psychological method is to state positive personalized intentions around weight and food, like…I only eat when I’m hungry, I make healthy food choices, I prioritize protein, I lose weight easily. It gives your mind direction. It works for mood and anxiety as well, like…I’m capable, I’m calm, I’m confident, I like myself, I’m grateful, I’m happy, I’m going to have a great day

[@vedrana2092]

it's amazing how you described this sense of helplesness, when you ''feel it comming''. it's so true. thank you for the advice, i hope i win this ugly habbit of eating when not even hungry

[@jane_the_baby_wiccan]

my answer for the question was: But then I will not be distracted from myself. Then I'd have to sit with myself who I (at the moment, not always) hate. And that led me to think about why's that I hate myself in this moment and through having a discussion with myself, I came to the conclusion that I can just love myself and being with myself doesn't have to be so hard

[@iolairmuinnmalachybromham3103]

That’s a pretty fucking big breakthrough. Congratulations

[@letkidsbkids9327]

Thanks for sharing-I have the same self hate issue.

[@user-ny3vn2zh8m]

When I'm tired I give in. Menopause stopped me from sleeping more than four to five hours. I head straight for the sugar to get through the day. Something has got to change.

[@jazzsoul1695]

I just need to say, you're a very educated and very caring professional in the overeating world. I appreciate your videos. I'm in my 60s. I'm proud to say I come from a family of obesity, and Ive been "around the world" with strict diets, heavy exercising, worked for a gym, ballet, dance, aerobics, became aerobic instructor. But what I did this past 18 years is I create my own program of 10-30 minutes depending on how I feel. I also say with foods: " I COULD have that, but I'm choosing to have something else because I need my energy".

[@jenniferharris4312]

You are just absolutely BRILLIANT. I have struggled for so long with this. I am almost 58 years old and for the first time I feel hope. I feel like I can do this. I frantically take notes and pause and back up when I watch your videos. So many great tips. Thank you for what you do.

[@simonvsworld]

Any luck with this?

[@annmorando3105]

I'm almost 58 too.. Good luck to us all

[@sunshine91671]

53 here and these techniques actually sound like they will work. I have such high anxiety abinge. Butterfly hug technique (learned on this video) has helped soooo much with that and in turn my emotional binges.

[@TheCoconelle]

Sarah, you have become my favorite person on the world wide web ❤ your KZbin channel has made recovery easier and… it finally makes sense to recover!

[@LisaMoss2022]

I have found eating fruit to be helpful. It satisfies the cravings for sweets and I feel full without the guilt.

[@user-wq2nf4wy1i]

Love this video, thank you! (Registered dietitian here who appreciates so much the ways in which you talk about the psychology of food! Couldn't agree more with your thoughts at the end).

[@paulinatracz3002]

This is absolutely the BEST video I have seen on this topic!

[@vegascharles]

I am an emotional eater, I really appreciate your content thank you. Im going to study on bilateral stimulation

[@k4741]

I am so glad to have found your channel! I have been binge eating off and on for 40 years and just now after listening to a couple of your brilliant videos, feel I might actually be able to stop. You’re a God send! Thank you for sharing your knowledge in a way that honestly clicks and gives hope.

[@afimaci]

I noticed that sometimes my answer is (to the ‘what would happen’ question) that I can’t breathe, I wouldn’t be able to breathe. It seems that what I really need in those moments is not food, but rhythm…breath work, maybe a relaxing song and swaying my body to the music (when dancing would be inappropriate)…Thank you, and also for the bilateral soothing method - it works!

[@workstudy8118]

This video was SO helpful. I’ve been eating healthy the past few months but these past two weeks I’ve been really struggling with binge eating dominoes pizza and all the things you mentioned in this video are super helpful to me today as I try to understand myself better and why I’m doing things

[@allisona9490]

Love the butterfly technique. That was awesome!!

[@marisaangelillo3534]

Great video Sarah, thank you. Also, that colour looks great on you!

[@passionprofit]

Sarah, I love how actionable your videos are with lots of practical advice. And at the same time you manage to bring across the complexity of eating challenges, that are not solved by "eat this, not that" - at least not for many people. The older I get the more I see that what we eat can change with age and with the situations we are in (challenges, illnes etc.). And that a "black+white" approach is usually not working well. So thank you for another great video and the hope you give that change is possible - one step at a time!

[@sandraalston7863]

New subscriber here, what a great channel. Down to earth and sensible advice, also I love that each video is just the right length. Thank you.

[@stephaniegeorge5557]

Awesome Video, thank u. Please make more like that...❤😊

[@kristinmichelle3728]

Wow, thank you. These are new concepts for me but feel like they are extremely practical and could really help- I look forward to trying them!

[@user-hd8if7ki2k]

Excellent info!!! Thanks

[@ayshastgiles2825]

Just found your videos. Brilliant and helpful. Thank you for using your own experience, to learn, understand, and share your studies and insights. You are a great communicator.

[@carmendelgado105]

Great video! I will save it to rewatch and take notes! ❤

[@janiceworthington9176]

Loved this. So good to have and be reminded of these techniques

[@selah7702]

Thank you! Best binge video I’ve seen! I am going to try these myself

[@kbencsik1]

First time I've seen her videos. This is fabulous!

[@airyfairy1988]

this is amazing, thank you

[@user-jx8ro5mr9b]

This video talk was wonderful, really resonated with me, thank you❤

[@jenniferkern1502]

I hope you can feel our gratitude! I can't afford therapy and your generosity in creating these videos is so awesome! You are helping me so much!

[@weightlossat50]

New sub....great info by a real person who seems kind a genuine

[@newaccount8022]

By the way, as always, great videos. All of your videos have been lifesaving for me, but this en particular has been eye-opening.

[@mercurious6699]

Heh, Google. Might just catch on... ;) thanks for the video

[@artadventures440]

Wow your advice is bang on! I am ever so glad I found you on this sleepless night. Praise Jesus their is hope. Thank you for this encouragement I felt you were talking to me directly!

[@KristinShepherd]

THE best. Thanks so much. ❤

[@Sapphireia]

Great video! Thank you!

[@megansmith2436]

OMG 😢 I feel so relived. I almost want to cry. Thank you.

[@AudreyM2023-yo1fb]

Thank you for this fantastic advice.🤗

[@natalielynch8992]

So so great!

[@jodeemonaco7814]

Very very good ! I have recovered from anxiety by researching & understanding what happens in the brain & body prior to & during a panic attack . By understanding the process I could see it was nothing to be scared of & just a process triggered by thoughts . I learned from Russ Harris to become curious & investigate your thoughts - to recognise them & name them - but I hadn’t worked out how to apply that to food . What you are teaching here is so so good & you are dynamic & fun & exciting & non judgmental in your teaching. Keep up the good work - i love this stuff & you are so good at your job . Thankyou so much

[@roseannbarks9327]

You have the most pleasant, calming speaking style, I could listen to you all day, thank you

[@user-jj2nq3hy4c]

Nicely done, strategies that make sense and applicable in many instances.. thank you..

[@laceyturner3318]

This is incredible!

[@hopeleclaire1354]

So wise 🌹thank you ❣️

[@arthogof]

This is really helpful thanks 😁

[@otisodili]

Thank you for this video ❤️. I also have an overeating issue and this are very useful tips I can try

[@maureensigurdson7387]

Amazing information and presentation. Best I have seen. Thanks. This gives me hope

[@fiercerodent]

I feel like this is the first actually helpful video on over-eating I've personally seen. The idea to not say yes or no, but "not now," helped me quit smoking for good, so it makes sense it would also help manage food cravings.

[@claireeliza4126]

Excellent video. The deadpan, tongue-in-cheek reference to google made me chuckle 🤭

[@kimbernard9250]

i actually only have trouble with sugar and carbs. If I indulge, I binge multiple servings and have extreme cravings for more for days afterwards. It takes 3-4 days before that goes away and then I'm fine, no cravings what so ever. So, I generally don't allow myself to indulge in the first place. Sugar/carb addict.

[@christinecortese9973]

Me too. Can’t have ice cream in the house.

[@suel3804]

Me as well. Carbs.

[@Mia-ff9np]

Omg, thank you!!!❤

[@victoriaburgess700]

Well done from an RD with a masters in psychology 👏👏

[@lisasunshine7654]

1:55 processing emotion with bilateral stimulation like REM sleep . 3:50 the butter fly hug

[@mariemcleod46]

So interesting thank you❤

[@lejinkazitku3445]

Great video!❤

[@RJones-tn5vg]

I think that's how I got fat. I get really hostile when I can't eat *right now*. I worked jobs where I couldn't eat until I didn't have a customer in front of me and I would crash so hard. Then I would overeat for breakfast to hopefully avoid the crash, but it doesn't work.

[@helenepro1093]

Thanks for realistic tips

[@martinalih]

Thank you ❤

[@N-visible-mom]

I live in a house with three teens and an 11 year old (who also can eat her weight in gold) I do survival eating...it's now or it won't be there and it's expensive and killing me...but I can always buy more later it's not a yes or no !! ❤️ I like it

[@QueenD75172]

That is such a coincidence... I have been using this google thing too. Its quite helpful, such a hidden gem 😂

[@carlyhunt1787]

The last point you made about finding the middle resonated with me SO much. I do want to recover. I Just don't see either extreme (HAES or diet culture) to be healthy. It's so frustrating that I feel like I have to pigeon hole myself in order to seek help. That I have to be in total agreeance with HAES and body positivity. It seems that's all the therapists in my area jive with. Maybe that's just my eating disordered thoughts coming in and totally disagreeing with that stance. Who knows lol.

[@King9king]

Amazing

[@marymcsoley4071]

Well I’m certainly more positive 😃 I’m gonna give it a go 👍🏻 thanks 🙏

[@LeoDarden-dc1ph]

I'm 29 yrs old I'm type 2 diabetes it seems like only thing that I crave is junk foods and fastfood restaurant I left sodas alone for a long time but I keep going back to junk food watching this video it helps me a lot thank u

[@karatate8944]

I love your videos. They are just what i need to lose weight in a healthy way and hopefully not gain it back. Again.

[@stefaniasmanio5857]

Don't keep these foods in the house... worst advice ever: I take my car direct to the closest grocery's. ...

[@sarahdosanjh252]

There doesn’t have to be a one-size-fits all approach. Most people I work with have binge eating disorder or switch between binge and restrict cycles and so habituating these foods to be able to be around them is a part of recovery and making peace with food. The scarcity mindset can be very complex for some people. Of course some people will prefer not to have the foods around and everyone can decide what works best for them. I’m glad you’re doing what makes sense to you. I did a similar thing in my recovery (not having it in the house but ‘allowed’ to go to the shops to get it) before I gradually felt more able to have the foods around without eating them compulsively

[@kta0702]

I like that advice . Keeping the food in the house makes it easier to eat. So without having we are less likely to wonder in the night grazing . As far as getting in the car and driving to get them. I don’t like being around people that much or spending money a lot so it’s easy for me to not get dressed and drive all the way for temporary pleasures. As far as fast food I can drive past it without an issue. It took a while for me to get to that point but I made it.

[@sandibroad4099]

💖thank you

[@Od.3056]

Wow, you put a lot of info in these 12 min. Have to listen severeal times

[@sandrajohnson2491]

I agree! I’ve listened to it three times already.

[@tiffanyj3245]

The point about sleeping and REM hit home! I now understand the reason I can’t remember anything from my entire life. I thought I had a memory problem. Also should be very upsetting since I’ve been high stress I guess and my body just trying to process my emotions during the small amt of time I actually sleep. 😬

[@vanessaburdine4865]

I’ll try Google, it sounds promising

[@cateh4772]

1) butterfly technique ( calm lower brain) 2)now or later on ( avoid saying no and creating a rebellion battle) 3)asking a question - what happens if I don’t eat this food right now ( ask brain to imagine another outcome) 4) plan to eat MORE ( instead of less) Law of reversed effort

[@alibongois]

Self sabotage..... Thank you!!!!!!! This is SO COOL!¡!

[@sararetka9979]

So, if I were to ask my brain that question you mentioned, and the answer was: if I don't eat this food, then I won't get relief from the stress of being a SAHM of 2 toddlers, because everything else I've tried to relieve stress hasn't worked; what then should be my follow-up to that? Loved this video btw, thank you!💖

[@ayshastgiles2825]

Thanks

[@TheBingeEatingTherapist]

Thanks! That's very kind of you xx

[@MK-eq5bn]

Thank you so much for this video. I was literally struggling with my thoughts when your video alert came up and it helped me manage. You are the best.

[@kjo9982]

Very interesting! I’ve noticed since being diagnosed with Celiac disease a few years ago, I feel so restricted that I binge all the time

[@kjo9982]

I rebel! That makes total sense as your video goes on. Thank you for this insight!

[@hannahduggan3599]

Right now, I'm in South Carolina with my family. We are staying at a hotel. A couple of hours ago, my family and I were at a restaurant. I ate some fries, some bread, some salad, some lemonade, and some chicken wings. I got very full right after it. I was so full that I didn't want any Dairy Queen. My brothers got Dairy Queen, but I am still in pain from eating too much. On the elevator, my brother, who is in the Navy, told me that I need to relax and go to the bathroom if I have to. I'm originally from Pennsylvania.

[@rawann1001]

Thank u ♥️🇪🇬

[@Ninnes197]

Thank you so much for this advice!!

[@bonniedunbar6717]

If this video was put up for me I can say my latest pill has totally removed any desire to eat. The chicken I made went to the ferrel cats outside and they loved it. So with luck for everyone waiting I can get rid of the September songs and try to find a few with the month of around June I think.

[@perryjude1230]

Is it possible that binge eating could be a form of self harm or a slow suicide attempt? Kind of feels that way for me.

[@TheBingeEatingTherapist]

Yes, I have worked with people for whom this feels true ❤️‍🩹

[@perryjude1230]

Thank you!

[@Chanel31113]

How does the sleep disorder periodic limb movement disorder (PLMD) play into eating or the psychology or food?

[@chanvalentine8283]

I could have used the video 3 hours ago. Thanks algorithm.

[@pocahontas330]

❤❤❤

[@evadebruijn]

🙏

[@jvnd2785]

Thank you for the video. My question is this: What would you recommend to somebody who has a history of eating disorders and is in great deal of pain? I do suffer from excruciating pain (fibromyalgia) and seizures on a daily basis (caused by childhood trauma/C-PTSD) and eat/overeat to relieve the pain, both physical and mental. My brain does answer the question "what would happen if I did not eat this food?" with "you will be in pain/you will have a seizure". I am terrified to start eating because I *know* that once I begin, it's almost impossible to stop (I rarely feel full). I live alone and this makes the situation worse because there is nobody to stop me from overeating (or more like, stopping myself because I feel ashamed).

[@ladrabudka6953]

Dear Heart, you sound utterly miserable. Having had similar issues (but nowhere near as severe) it sounds like starting with calming the nervous system and her butterfly technique could be a good place. This therapist and Therapy in a Nutshell channel has a lot of good videos on addressing the brain issues. By the way do you take magnesium supplements? Some people have good success with decreasing the pain I’d FM with it. Also highly concentrated epsom salts baths is said to be a big help. May God bless you with very good and perfect gift from above🤗🙏🥰🌟!

[@hula62]

I ate a huge pile of spaghetti! 😂

[@tomlavelle2333]

I learned years ago to eat to live, not live to eat. I simply eat until I’m full and then stop. I have never had a weight problem.

[@benjiBlueOFF]

I'm sorry but when. She said she has just found google 😂😂😂 I didn't know that's was possible great tips tho ❤😂

[@georgiasmyrniou6337]

What is the psychology of..overcoming?

[@heatherlopresti4643]

Hi Sarah, do you have a binge eating workbook? Or can you recommend one?

[@TheBingeEatingTherapist]

Hey, I don’t have one and I don’t know of one that I would know enough about to personally recommend. The intuitive eating work book is very good and it about healing your relationship with food, which applies to a lot of the binge eating stuff.

[@user-zm3xs8re7m]

I have a question about the deal where you address the yes or no predicament. In my house, if i don't eat the food I plan to have later, someone WILL eat it before I get back to it. How do I deal with this situation?

[@jamesg3141]

"Runaway train never going back... "

[@jackblu475]

Me: "OK brain... what would happen if I did NOT eat the food right now?" Brain: "I'll tempt you to eat it again in three seconds until you do... so you might as well eat it now..." But for real. I've tried so many times... It's just a non-stop loop that plays in my brain. Ugh

[@karinekmk9293]

I never asked myself the question "what happens if I DON'T eat this now ?" . Really interesting, I write it on a post it in the kitchen, bc I know my brain won't remember this if an urge arises. Sarah, I know you took a YTT. So you know about yamas. Did you ever realize that "satya" means "truth" , and it begins like "satiety" ? (Please consider that I'm french and translate from sanskrit to french to english, so I may be not accurate). Everyone can make their one conclusions, but we can suggest that satiety is a kind of truth... Wanted to share this with you ! Thank you for your videos, very helpful🙏

[@TheBingeEatingTherapist]

What an interesting observation! I once heard satiety as ‘eating until your body sighs’. It sounds kind of poignant and also vague…like truth 😄

[@karinekmk9293]

​@@TheBingeEatingTherapist I didn't know how to figure out this quote, until I ate my lunch : my last bite ended with kind of a sigh, that 'mmpff' of satisfaction/ happyness / relief when you eat smg really satisfying (quantity, quality, tastebuds). Maybe this could be an explanation ?

[@SeanPerez101]

What about us with ADHD and executive function isn’t exactly available?

[@barbaramartin6716]

Do you have any help for those of us that eat after I go to sleep?

[@TheBingeEatingTherapist]

I have this video from quite a while ago: kzbin.info/www/bejne/eafEmaOmfKyMp9Usi=IP5PdGaEE1fQBypB

[@alema2206]

My problem is sugeri and fati stuff. I eat a lot of vegetables, i walk a lot with my three year old Hauntingdog and i have a big Garden. But my Brain cries for sweets and unhealthy stuff. And if i ask me why, i'll get so nervos and anxious, then mostly i giff in... It's a addiction.

[@reinerselbstschuss3820]

My higher brain: Yay, Sarah has made another great video full of valuable advice I can't find anywhere else My lower brain: I won't be tricked yet another time. This all sounds so sophisticated, but it might make me eat less NOPE GIMME ALLLLL THE FOOD!!!

[@newaccount8022]

Hey Sarah at first I thought you were being funny when you mentioned Google but I don't know if you realize Google has been around for 25 years😊 and is probably used by pretty much everyone on this planet😊