STARTING THERAPY: Why Now, 5 Years After My Husband died? // One Happy Widow

Today I will explain why I am starting therapy, 5 years after my husband died of cancer. I am remarried, have moved, and made som many changes and I am no longer in active primary grief. So why have I decided to start therapy NOW? Check out my reasons in this video.
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[@nancymaltry7983]

I went to therapy for a few months after my husband died. It really helped. But what I found, after a while, was everything was my responsibility It was overwhelming. I had this very strong thought. "Something has to not be my problem!!" . So I reduced my hours at work and I plan to retire in the Fall. That way I can concentrate on my house maintenance and all of the things that fell to me when Bill died. I feel your struggle and I applaud your decision to try therapy. I hope it works out for you.

[@OneHappyWidow]

This is exactly how I have been feeling! I feel like everything is on me. #widfam

[@frankgrill90]

@@OneHappyWidow Hello Nancy am Frank, nice meeting you such a heart touching comment

[@BUBBLESPOGO]

Yes. I'm 63 with a ways to go before full retirement. I applied for my husband's social security spousal benefits and I will switch over to my benefits at retirement age. I only work 2 days a week and I don't even have to do that but I want to for now. Remember not to make really big decisions until you've come a ways moving forward with your grief. May God comfort you and support you. Agape

[@tawniakibby2430]

Finding the right therapist is key. If you do not click or connect in the first couple sessions then move on and find another. I have been in therapy for a little over a year and it has changed my life.

[@OneHappyWidow]

I think this one will be good for me- I know her pretty well already, as I have attended some group sessions with the kids. I agree- the right connection is key! #widfam

[@lisalambrecht6676]

I’m 9yrs after my hubby of 32yrs and still have setbacks. Everything is getting easier to live with as time goes on.

[@OneHappyWidow]

It is easier as far as the grief. I think it’s the secondary losses I’m Suffering now. #widfam

[@dorislacaze8475]

I’m also type A personality, for a couple of years before my husband died , I had started trying to make decisions about what we needed to around the home as far as up keep but I had him to talk things over so it’s really different then . I do hope you take care of your self first, you can’t be the savior if the world , it’s to much and overwhelming , you need to give your self a break and take time for you, God Bless you for all you do for us all❤️🙏

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching! #widfam

[@terrycerda1837]

LEO YOU ARE NOT ALONE PRAYING FOR YOU LEO... GOODNITE

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks #widfam!

[@glynnyschiavoni8896]

Hi Leo, I can see and hear the weight pushing you down today. I’m so sorry you are in this hard place. I’m glad you are going to pursue therapy, and that you will be talking to someone who knows Jesus. It’s so hard to be vulnerable and to ask for help. Good for you my friend. I’ll be praying for you in the days and weeks ahead.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for your support, I know this too shall pass! #widfam

[@YaYa-jy1yv]

Through your therapist’s guidance, you will become you again. You will still do all the work, but your therapist will walk with you♥️

[@OneHappyWidow]

I hope so! -#widfam

[@kbenton8609]

Sometimes we all need to have a helping hand and there is nothing wrong with asking for that help. You are also right that there are so many other things besides the grief that can cause issues. Please take care of yourself and know that there are lots of good thoughts and prayers being sent your way.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks so much! #widfam

[@deemarch2089]

Suggestion I got this little peddle bike u can out under desk and sit in you office chair and still peddle / hand weights

[@OneHappyWidow]

Good idea! #widfam

[@marylynnkeeney7466]

Leo, I am praying for you! I've gotten so much comfort, encouragement and helpful insights from you as I experience my anticipatory grief.

[@frankgrill90]

Hello mary Lynn nice meeting you,am Frank by name

[@eve_evescollection]

Hugs Leo! It has been a very tough week for me as well, I totally understand. I guess these tough moments will find us all from time to time. Keep loving yourself! Thanks for everything you do for us all!

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching! #widfam

[@frankgrill90]

Hello Eve nice meeting you,am Frank by name

[@truelily7]

I have the inattentive type of ADHD or non-hyper. I am an older widow, fairly recent. I have dyscalculia and also diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment. I stay overwhelmed by all left for me to do with a big old house and home business. Long story. Point is I get just what you mean by trying to manage and where to start. I am still grieving but going onward through the fog. I do believe my husband is in a better place. I believe I am supposed to be here where I am. How to proceed? I am asking my spiritual guides and angels for help. Like please help. You have a lot more on your plate. I am sending you light and prayers. Ask your guides for help and listen. God, Divine, All That Is, loves everyone of us with unconditional love. Rest in that. Read that book, The Power of Now. I am that naggy person who keeps saying that. Love and Light surrounds you. Another thought. Acceptance. Really accept that you are overwhelmed and allow everything to be as it is. I don't mean give up but just quit pushing against. What we resist persists. This is also helping me. I know this but I forget. Thank you for all your sharing. Go on KZbin and listen to Snatam Kaur sing. Also Indian Spiritual music, Like East Indian. Listen, breathe, let go, relax.

[@OneHappyWidow]

I love the idea of resistance and learning how to not push back. I feel like that is my main problem- I am fighting against an immovable force and I need to just stop wasting my time and energy on a fruitless struggle. I will give this some thought! #widfam

[@susanswayngim1854]

In last week's video you mentioned all the things you had going and my thought was "how does she fit that much in?" I couldn't do that much even before my husband died. Now if I do one thing in a day I feel accomplished. But its only been 6 months for me and I'm (early) retired. I had counseling years ago and this lesson has stayed with me...I will share it with you. Are you doing something for another adult that they should be doing themself? I realized I had a tendency to take on things that belonged to them. Its not uncaring to have compassion but still let them deal with whatever on their own. And as for carrying anothers grief...could someone carry yours? I suspect not. So that seems a burden perhaps you could release. You've provided therapy for your kids...so they can learn ways to help themselves. That's a lot! Perhaps asking them "what did the counselor say about that? Have you tried that yet?" Anyway, these things helped me (different issue, but I think similar enough). I do hope any of that made sense and you find it helpful. Im considering getting a counselor too. But my problem is brain fog. And I don't know if anyone can help with that. My 2 adult daughters live with me so I totally understand needing a break from parenting! And mine aren't young! Seems the job of being mom never ends.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for the food for thought! I will certainly be figuring out where I can make changes. #widfam

[@adriennedavis343]

I swear I have spoken those same words, with the exception of the parenting issues, just this week. I need a reset button. I'm getting a week of staycation. First one since my husband died and had bereavement leave in January. So many decisions to make, and trying to decide what is the best approach to live life and figure out who I now am in the meantime. Listening to you is reassuring that I am not the only one. I too hope that you know you are not alone. And the scrambled brain! OMG I swear I live in fear I am going to forget to do something that I need to do. It is crazy. Thank you for sharing your issues. It feels as if I have a friend listening to you. That is probably why people feel you are so approachable since they feel you understand them. So thankful you have this channel and that I found it. In this moment it is helping.

[@OneHappyWidow]

So glad it is helping someone…so we are not alone! -#widfam

[@timgillenwater5989]

I don't know if grief share is therapy but it greatly helped me with getting through my thoughts and the things I was going through and I got me a bottle of prevagen the other day but I will be praying for you and please pray for me 🙏🏻

[@rosemariealvarado9902]

I was only able to attend 6 of the 13 sessions of Grief Share but I heartily agree. It was extremely helpful to know what we are experiencing is normal. It's been around for over 22 years and when my husband of 52 years died just a year ago 2 very dear people encouraged Grief Share. They were right!!

[@Jade_902]

I agree. Grief Share is very helpful.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Praying for you…and I would consider a grief Share to be a group therapy situation. I think it has helped many!

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m glad it helped you! #widfam

[@deemarch2089]

I’ve had a professional counselor for years and after all of a said done she gave me this advice in a nutshell CHANGE what you can CHANGE ~ GROW where you can GROW and let the ~ REST BE Sometimes we have to take things in SEASONS I know why took some medication for a little while it helped I got off of it as soon as I could like she said look at it is SEASONS ~ we can’t press the button make it all better right away

[@OneHappyWidow]

Very good advice! -#widfam

[@sandramessenger2044]

So happy your going to therapy. Things come out later that you didn't feel early in grief process. I have been going to therapy for seven years I go to group therapy which helps alot.

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m glad you found something helpful! -#widfam

[@ladonnawilson2145]

Went one time about 6 months after my son died No help pretty much said time is the only thing 18 months later the same grief company through the hospice sat at my house seamed like 3 hours after my husband died. I just kept thinking why are you here. Looking forward to hear your reason for going

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching! #widfam

[@jankarel6454]

Just my two cents here. It sounds like you are in urgent need of some emergency self-care right now while you are waiting for therapy. Like going away for the weekend (with your phone turned off) and staying in a hotel by yourself. Just enjoying the silence, sleeping when you need to. Ordering room service. Maybe starting to journal about what's on your mind. I find that in silence things start to come to the surface--sometimes explode to the surface. It also sounds like you are taking care of a lot of other people. Who takes care of you? One of my favorite quotes is "Even a steel ship needs maintenance". We all need down time, rest and relaxation. It's your turn for that now. Everyone else can manage for a bit while you have some time for yourself.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Sounds wonderful! A weekend retreat, maybe? #widfam

[@Molly-eq1ix]

How true!!! I love the "Even a steel ship..." Great advice!

[@Cindyscrossstitch]

You have a lot going on. When then job is done a lot of stress will go away. You can do 5 minute chair yoga at the desk. Try to get out and walk by yourself even if 15 minutes a day. Every person has their own journey. Huggs🌻

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for the tips! #widfam

[@jmmc59375]

It's good to explore and reach out, and your being vulnerable helps me to recognize I am not alone in many thoughts I have at times.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching #widfam

[@raye5072]

Thank you for your bravery, in vulnerabilities your already succeeding because you have taken the first step towards healing. Asking for help is so hard. Good self care xx

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching! #widfam

[@snowyowlz5992]

Leo I find myself still scattered trying to do multiple jobs jumping around (shades of caregiving for so long). I don’t know how long this will go on though. Be patient and loving with yourself and family.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks, same to you! #widfam

[@brightenyourcorner951]

This was so encouraging to me as I view yourself as someone who has a great grip on the realities of life and the energy to push through so much of this tough journey. I appreciate your vulnerability and authenticity. I feel so frustrated that this “in between “ phase I am in . I worry I’ll never get over into the new chapter of life. I’m still raising teenagers and that of course is my most important mission, but unlike yourself I have major depression issues also (I see a psychiatrist) that I am fighting to conquer or at least control well. I’m only working 22 hours per week and I feel that I need to work more to fill up the empty spots (I spend way too much time feeling lonely)… but I don’t want to neglect my kids either . It’s difficult , but I have to encourage myself that I have survived this long , I just have to keep taking a day at a time and striving to be better. I rambled I know but again, thank you!!

[@OneHappyWidow]

Ramble all you’d like! Thanks for sharing #widfam

[@nancys.100]

I have been to counseling at 2 churches the pastors were both certified counselors it helped me, was before I lost my hubby. A couple of things I remember was to separate internal stuff from external stuff, I was journaling and to go back over the pages and highlight or under line feelings. Another time I saw a series on Boundries by Townsand, & cloud they have audio book on yt very helpful. Praying for you.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Interesting- I’m not sure I can differentiate internal from external, as it all seems to mix together. Maybe I need to work on that. #widfam

[@phendrahend9530]

You have given me something to think about. I've been on this road for a very long time. I'm really not sure if I'm struggling or if I've just changed, I wish you luck!

[@OneHappyWidow]

Probably a bit of both! #widfam

[@dorislacaze8475]

Is there a summer church camp your younger children can go to for a week at least, if so send them , your older children need to get help dealing with their grief, and get a job get on their own feet. Financially . That can relive you of some stress, take a weekend away with your husband , don’t think of his grief loss or yours only concentrate on each other only , when school is over with for the year, take your summer break find a new job you will make a decent living at and one you can enjoy a little more than the one you currently have , and just give your self a break if the balls fall then let them fall pick up the most important ones and let the others lay there till you can get yo them in your time , that’s what I had to do it’s sounds selfish but for your own peace of mind you gave yo do it, you will be suprised at what others can do on their own

[@OneHappyWidow]

Good ideas! #widfam

[@ladonnawilson2145]

Support is the best I think you already figured out the problem but like me I figure out the problem I just don’t know how to fix it I wish you the best and look forward to hearing what you learn

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching! #widfam

[@bevyendall6248]

Hi Leo, I am so sorry you are struggling. You have done amazingly well and you just need some respite. I have felt the same as you, even the thyroid and hives. I am praying the therapy will help. I wish I could lift some of those responsibilities off your shoulders. It is a lot to deal with and people generally have no idea just how hard it can be. Sending love from South Africa.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thank you friend. I will be ok, just going through a season of stress…and I know it won’t be this way forever. I just want to ease some of the pressure until that time to exhale comes. Take care of yourself! #widfam

[@linkedinroses9447]

Hi Leo I feel where your coming from! I finally said to everyone that looked to me to be strong and blah blah blah that I don’t give a s***t about them and have no care about what they do and since I did that I’ve been able to work on my grieving process. It’s been a month but I feel like I’m on the mend but I do see a place for therapy now.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching and sharing your experience.

[@gingerfeeley6849]

Popped up today as I am struggling after 5 plus years out for me. It seems to be getting harder and I think therapy might help . I relate to everything you are talking about!

[@OneHappyWidow]

Good to know I’m not alone! #widfam

[@donaldday1281]

Hi Leo, I have been thru what you are going thru presently. Your husband needs to deal with his own unresolved grief in an appropriate way. You can support your children & give them all the support & tools to succeed in life. But at the end of the day they are responsible for taking that support & tools & putting them into practice. Your husband needs to resolve his issues of unresolved grief in a healthier way & not lash out. They are responsible for there own happiness. Success or failures. You need to gently remind them of that. Take yourself out of the middle & tell them as much. Good luck I am praying for you.

[@OneHappyWidow]

They have mostly moved out and are in their own except the baby who is still here a few more years. #widfam

[@nancywelch1]

You mentioned your thyroid. I am in the same boat. The medicine made me full of anxiety, high strung. I felt like I was just plain old mean. I am only in 2 months in widowhood. Had I not had that med change 4 years ago, there is no way that I would have been even able to cope, not even a smidgen. Sometimes it takes a couple different med changes until the correct one makes your body clock tick properly. My heart goes out to you. I faithfully watch your videos. My husband passed from cancer 11 months and 2 weeks in hospice. He lived a decade with two cancers. My problem is that some of my closest friends are widows, one for 5 years and the other three within the past year. It threw them all into flashbacks so I try not to show much grief when we talk. It makes them relive it when they are still struggling. I don't want them to relive their pain. I cope by listening to music. When I have a big lump in my throat and need to cry to relieve it I listen to the song called Baby why by Richard Parker the song is about a break up but I use it to clear out my feelings about losing my husband and I get my good morning cry out daily so I can effectively start my coping for the day. If I don't then I cry off and on all day long. My husband was the kindest man I ever knew he would not want me crying while doing things like driving or mowing the grass. He would want me to pay attention. I am so sorry for writing this book of a message.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Feel free to write all You want, especially if it helps get those thoughts out! Thanks for watching, I appreciate your support. #widfam

[@nancywelch1]

@@OneHappyWidow Thank you. I appreciate you, just saying.

[@annekevandeven4895]

Sending you love, Leo ❤️

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks #widfam!

[@NorthernBell4612]

Sending, hugs and prayers to you and your family! I appreciate feeling, dealing and carrying the weight of grief and unrest of others and the self guilt it may impose. As a "fixer" myself I gave acknowledgment to each individual owns and deals with life struggles in certain ways as does their manifestations of it. We can't always "fix" what is wrong with others, only be of support, encouraging guidance and be a good example shedding some light if possible. This need of support and engouement extends to you also. It's like when your personal well is nearly dry there is little to offer others. I am glad you are reaching out to therapy. Action vs reaction I can see that in you! Adjust, readjust, prioritize, reorganize and focus on what's most important, all be it easier said that done, when spinning plates wobble and may begin to drop. You need a break, find peace, solace and focus on taking care of you! Mom, wife, homemaker, teacher, crafter, streamer and entrepreneur. You do a lot! We appreciate what you share with us on this journey. The only person we are able to effectively change is ourselves, in perspective, mindset and approach. Hang in there, this too shall pass. Past the stormy clouds of chaos the sun will shine again.

[@OneHappyWidow]

You always have such wise advice! Thank You again for sharing!!! #widfam

[@deemarch2089]

I had to seek professional help Advice my regular MD doctor I was losing my speech it was becoming quite slurred and it was all due to stress and like she said it was a symptom and you do not want to get the disease that comes after so I chose counseling and it was it save me now I check in one time of year

[@OneHappyWidow]

So glad you seem to be doing better! #widfam

[@barbarapomeroy4664]

I SO APPRECIATE your honesty! YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!!

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching! #widfam

[@steveparker2938]

I started therapy about 6 months after my husband died because I was afraid I was headed into complicated grief and I seriously could not remember a thing past my husband's service. Rapport with a therapist is key and I lucked out. he "got" me right away. He started in with a process called EMDR ( eye movement desensitization and reprocessing) and it was the key, for me, to start putting things together and learning how to live as a single person again as well as addressed things in the past that were hanging on that i didn't realize were still dragging on me. (like the time in second grade I made a mistake in class and they all laughed which set me on my path to seek perfectionism in everything I do. Now it holds no power.) That's my two cents worth. I'll take my change.

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m so glad you found a therapist that gets you, and it sounds like you really took the therapy and made it work for you. I’m so proud for you and how far you’ve come! I’m hoping my therapy will help me too. I don’t think mine is as much grief rooted, but rather executive functioning that has been severely hindered by the grief. So I don’t need to deal with the grief, I need to learn new strategies to navigate my daily life the way it is now, instead of how it was before. I could juggle my life Willy-Nilly before, but now I am dropping many balls all the time. I need to learn how to implement structure and routine for myself (which is REALLY hard since I’m severe ADHD). Wish me luck, my first appointment is next week! #widfam

[@steveparker2938]

@@OneHappyWidow You got this!

[@Linda-gc6le]

Leo, This hit home. Some days, I'm like what did I do all days! Why I'm so tired. Not depressed. I do feel like I help everyone but no one help me in the way I need to be help. I don't like to ask for help. I'm only 8 months in too. I'm still dealing with Lawyer. I feel like I can't catch a break.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Yea, it’s the constant struggle that just wears you down without a break! #widfam

[@tresseyz.7330]

Think of it this way. When you are flying anywhere, the flight attendant says put your oxygen mask on first before you take care of your child. You need to put your oxygen mask on. You sound really sad, beyond being a widow.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching! -#widfam

[@terrycerda1837]

Let go let God sounds easy but truly need to let go and learn to say no to people.... you are so tired overwhelmed....you need to have a good cry and rest in God's arms. You are not abad parent...let God guide you.....I will be praying for you.... only God can give you rest and renew your strength... my strength and yours is so limited....ONLY GOD CAN TRULY BE OUR HELP... WE ARE IN HIS HANDS HE IS THE POTTER SOMETIMES HE HAS TO BREAK US AND START OVER.. IT HURTS BUT ALOT IS MY FAULT I TOOK THE BURDEN OF OTHERS WHEN CLEARLY GOD TOLD ME I DID NOT GIVE YOU THAT BURDEN. I TOOK IT UPON MYSELF I Said sorry and started again with God's help. Yes we are Moms with big hearts but many times need to let our kids grow up to survive in this world many ups many downs but must keep going forward. Trust in God He will up hold you. Love you God Bless you....

[@OneHappyWidow]

Very true and wise words, thank you! #widfam

[@vickimartin6083]

I hate April too. My dad passed April 16 2012, my husband of 30 years April 8 2013 and my bestfriends husband April 6 2018. So I know where you are coming from.

[@OneHappyWidow]

June is my tough month- Dewey’s death date, our anniversary, and Fathers Day. I think we all have our blocks of difficult time. #widfam

[@susanbibber3080]

Hugs

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching! #widfam

[@beckyhoffman9423]

It is just so overwhelming to me. It has been about five years out also then my mom which nobody can take her place then my sister. Why am I here. I don’t understand I miss them so much I can’t stand it. I am so lonely

[@OneHappyWidow]

I wish I had answers…but I am praying for you! 🙏

[@Molly-eq1ix]

About two months after my husband died, my daughter told me I would need to either see a therapist or I wouldn't be able to see the grandchildren...and she meant it. It really helped me figure out how to deal with the past as well as giving me direction for the future. I think you know you need to stop carrying all the issues....but that's a mother thing. Guilt...the gift that keeps on giving. Hang in there!

[@OneHappyWidow]

You pretty much nailed it! #widfam

[@annikaa1903]

I feel with you, I know how it feels when it is too much and all you want is a little vaccation from all the things life has for you. Have you considered to make it possible for us viewers to donate money to support this canel or ministry? I would be happy to donate because you helped me so much with these videos. Lots of hugs and prayers!

[@OneHappyWidow]

The is so much for your support! I am working on things to offer people that they can benefit from when they purchase. I am also working on a paid membership group that would benefit me AND the members (hope to have that ready by end of summer). And I just recently got approved to be able to accept “tips” on my live streams, in the chat section, but it is difficult to ask for those kinds of things without feeling selfish lol. But I’m working on trying to find ways to monetize this entire resource in different ways. If I can do that, I can actually quit my day job and focus on helping widows full time…wouldn’t that be wonderful?!! If you are interested in either of my pivot courses, I have those available for purchase, and in my opinion, they are well worth the purchase price! Feel free to email me for links (and that goes for anyone else lol). [e-mail]

[@nargisoulspa]

Hello dear. Watching this video of yours your teary eyes your teary voice your teary heart.......I cried with you. I wish I could meet you hug 🫂 you. But I'm far away. I'm in Pakistan. I'm single. not a widow but divorced. I can relate with you maybe 50%. But my heart cries out for you 100%. May God heal your heart give you peace and tranquility. Amen. May HE grant you best of health wealth and happiness.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching! #widfam

[@chrisray8821]

Thank you for sharing these things.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching #widfam

[@barbarapomeroy4664]

I appreciate your honesty! Totally understand how you are feeling!

[@OneHappyWidow]

#widfam

[@naomiferreira8255]

I hear ya Leo. Sometimes you just got to close your eyes and talk to God.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Amen, sister! I do this daily! #widfam

[@beckyhoffman9423]

I went one time to therapy. I cried the whole time but I did not go back

[@OneHappyWidow]

I went once too and got nothing out of it. Maybe this time it will help, as it’s for a slightly different reason. #widfam

[@ruthtaylor1083]

Hi Leo, thanks for sharing. Very brave of you. ( I am also about 5 years out from being a widow. But I also lost a daughter two years before that.) You need a parenting break you say , and that's understandable. But i thought I also heard you mention that ypu have a mother? Lucky you having a mother. Is it possible to plan for them to go to her for a week-end or a few dzys in school holidays while you have a short break away? And is there not a church camp organised during holidays that they could go on , while you have a holiday of your own? I understand all you say and especially for example about the 10,000 steps. Where to fit it in? I find it is very relaxing to go for a massage. Have you tried that? Keeping you in my prayers.

[@OneHappyWidow]

We are looking into some summer activities for the kids. At this point, it’s not as much the day to day as it is the mental weight of worrying over their future I think. My mom is caring for her mother right now (advanced dementia) and has no room to fit my Kids into her days. Dewey’s mother would gladly take them, but she wants them permanently and wouldn’t bring them back (along with their monthly checks, I’m sure). I do think a massage sounds wonderful, I think I’ll schedule one in soon! -#widfam

[@sandylynch6676]

Hope the therapy helps in your every day life . I went after the first year it did seem to help some . My therapist was a young widow she did understand some of my struggles . I think my problem is living in the past and need guidance to not do that . I have PTSD from when my husband was killed by a hit and run driver . I was there a couple minutes later so I need to learn to think on better times but I have a problem with it . The guy that did it got 2nd degree murder and is in prison it was intentionally done . My husband and I worked at the same job . I think I have ADHD also so need to figure out how to deal with that also . I think we all have different things that plague us . It's hard to deal with everyday life when we have unresolved issues.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching, and sharing with us! #widfam

[@nargisoulspa]

You are doing a great job. Karma will take care of you.....soon.

[@OneHappyWidow]

I can’t wait! ❤️

[@marylord501]

well I have no kids Im alone but have a friend who is doing therapy for 17 years now and to me it seems it is doing nothing for her so I wont go to therapy my husband is gone for 5years also and it isnt getting any better I have my moments sometimes not bad orher times it is terrible I get where I dont want to go any where or do anything again Im gaining weight its like sometimes I just dont care its so much worse on the anniversary of his death and holidays are bad but it seems to take me a long time to get over it I guess I will figure it out

[@OneHappyWidow]

Mary, do you work? Or have hobbies, interests, activities? You sound like a good candidate for the pivot course. Email me at [e-mail] if you want more info!

[@nancywelch1]

((HUGS)). If you can't do those steps walking then put on some music and dance.. I know you are a Christian and some do not believe in dancing. I am a Christian too and it is not like I am out shaking my booty half drunk in a bar. I don't drink. lol I am just in my own living room with a cup of coffee or juice all by myself. It helps clear my mind and lessens the tension. I started doing this years ago, I am a retired RN and the hospital floor work could really be stressful. I also have a history of migraines so I try to do things that don't include medicines. Dance therapy works for me.

[@OneHappyWidow]

I am Christian, and I do believe in dancing! It makes me feel happy, and I know it is great for the body! #widfam

[@summertakacs-michaelsonch8842]

💓

[@OneHappyWidow]

#widfam

[@beckyhoffman9423]

We want be getting medicine soon it comes from China . The medicine we do make in the US still requires products from China.

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching! #widfam

[@teresamyers8056]

It’s been 3 years

[@OneHappyWidow]

I’m sorry #widfam

[@lediadarrow7079]

Sounds like your taking on more than more then you can handle. You have to take care of( yourself) can you get off by yourself . Do you have people who can help, that can help???? If someone is asking to help let them

[@OneHappyWidow]

I don’t have a lot of help Outside of the house, but I do have a husband who is a great help.

[@bettybernier9703]

Have you considered a professional life coach?

[@OneHappyWidow]

I have not…but if this therapy doesn’t work, I might look for one! #widfam

[@traceycastro2552]

There’s only one savior and it’s not us. I get you have minor children so of course their needs need to be prioritized but you need to take care of yourself first. You need to put your face mask on first before you can help others. Can you pass ownership of shared things offload things to help your peace?

[@OneHappyWidow]

Oh I know what needs to be done…but doing them is a different story lol. I need support in knowing how to do that without drowning in guilt.

[@billyshank7353]

Have U thot of applying for an online bu’s? But then there’s no gaurentees making $ I don’t have an OLB Then I wonder f OLB s all what it claim to b They can do 25:41 videos & not doing an OLB @ all just to lie, trick & deceive

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching #widfam

[@josephinecallahan-mccabe4823]

This video stresses me. Cannot listen to you anymore...good luck to you

[@OneHappyWidow]

Thanks for watching! -#widfam