homoerotic friendships

[@uscitizen3252]

Thanks for discussing homoerotic friendships. I feel like I could've written this exact letter. I was 20 and my "friend" was 28 and married at the time. I was so confused because we started off as platonic friends and I didn't find her romantically attractive at all. We also worked together. She was having problems with her marriage (basically over) and that's when the emotional feelings developed. She moved into her own place and I started spending the night. We would cuddle, caress and I also ran my fingers through her hair. We'd also hold hands, write letters to each other, etc. People also noticed our chemistry--especially in the church. I fell very hard for her. She never confessed to sharing my feelings. She ended up having this long (going nowhere) relationship with the church bass player (a dude). She accused me of having feelings for her in a gaslighted way. As if to say she didn't feel the same. None of this relationship would have happened if she didn't befriend me first and she was the one who crossed the touch barrier. I knew I was attracted to women at the time--although closeted--so I never would've touched her unless invited. I also felt groomed. I was 16/17 when we met and felt she took a special interest in me. She was a family friend. She ended the friendship. This was years ago and I'm finally starting to process how unhealthy, manipulative and dishonest she was, but I do feel much better that she's out of my life and that I'm processing the years of our "friendship" in a healthy way.

[@susansediqe]

Hahaha the snoopy convo is so classic I can't - "just look up the bird" "I need to know all their names" "but he's not a baby" 😂 we've all been there trying to understand the peanuts characters

[@stayinguppod]

dude it's SO confusing. however, we're with my (t) family right now and i just asked a room full of them and THEY ALL KNEW. "um duh it's woodstock" "how do you not know woodstock??" - my 6 year old niece

[@alinakolousowa]

Aww it was such a wholesome episode, I love love love when you guys talk about random stuff in depth and it's really nice to know that you also enjoy it

[@erin.a.b]

absolutely agree about what you were saying about Friends! i don’t often laugh out loud when watching stuff either but Friends absolutely gets me ❤

[@mayodowd9807]

i just love you guys. every episode is just so entertaining but i am starting to think i do in fact have ADD lmao

[@HollyReachard-qu3xq]

Another great episode as always ladies! ❤ I also have PMDD and was told to take Prozac as you were directed to with Lexapro, or that I could take it full time. I chose to go full time with it instead of on and off, it has made a huge difference. Happy Holidays ladies!!

[@stayinguppod]

ah thanks for sharing. t here - cam's thinking of asking doc about fulltime, and this def helps that case. happy holidays ma'am!!!

[@sofiag.4968]

just discovered this pod, and i love y'all omg 😭

[@stayinguppod]

omg WELCOME to the fun house. how'd you find us?!

[@Anouddw]

First, PLEASE AND I BEG YOU to always keep the video with the podcast because it's just more enjoyable to watch you guys giggle with each other 3> Second, I am with Cam in thinking Phoebe is not dumb but that her upbringing is different from the rest of the group, yes I know she is in delulu a lot of times but she would actually survive in any situation in life and get out of it and also she always has good insight when you really think of it, so I think the creators made her like this because DUH she had an unfortunate childhood and didn't actually process a lot of it, also Chandlier became a sarcastic avoidant person because of his traumas, she is more in denial a lot of times. unlike Joey, where I think they made him really dumb on the show, really fun guy but a really dumb one LOL

[@erin.a.b]

fully agree!!!

[@renis17]

love the variety of topics but would be nice to know where the topics are so maybe you girls could add time blocks here on youtube so we can jump to the juicy parts we want to listen to:)

[@stayinguppod]

okay yes so true. if anyone wants to be a doll and drop time stamps for episode topics, i'll send you so much good energy lollll

[@Hollymodz]

this pod notification just put the biggest smile on my face!! I am so grateful for this podcast and happy to be a supporter

[@stayinguppod]

love you hollz

[@joeljanzen8121]

Thanks for another great podcast episode :D I also physically put a pin in tangents! It's so useful :) Merry Christmas everyone! I hope you all have a great holiday season

[@stayinguppod]

leave it up to joel to leave the cutiest comments

[@susanthrice2459]

Hey, I’m not a doctor, but I’ve been on SSRIs for like 25 years. I don’t think you’re supposed to hop on and off them, you might be inducing withdrawal symptoms. Give them a chance to work for you, stay on them steady for a few weeks. Take good care of you.

[@stayinguppod]

my doctor specifically put me on a cycle to take 2 weeks on then two weeks off but I agree it doesnt feel right! I think I will ask her about maybe just staying on them consistently. thank you!

[@rosea5311]

I don’t trust anyone who says they haven’t seen friends!

[@stayinguppod]

same i'm like sorry no

[@NJSillaStew]

39:57 Michelle Rodriguez is not straight, she dated Cara Delavine

[@stayinguppod]

thank goodness

[@polinavyakhireva9962]

48:05 yes men are scary but theoretically this is such great advice😂😂

[@BrendaGonzalez-xx9dh]

Uhm, when’s the last time y’all had Chuck E. Cheese pizza lol. It slaps!

[@stayinguppod]

I dont recall ever having it to be fair

[@sofiabessette7025]

was waiting for the youtube video YAY

[@stayinguppod]

our youtube uploads have been randomly so slow. sorry for the wait!

[@sofiabessette7025]

no no worries i can wait HAHA it was worth it xx loved this epi @@stayinguppod

[@tiffanicrenshaw9530]

Friends ripped off Living Single but of course its more palpable for yt people. Thats my only critique of Friends. The originality is not there and that's what frustrating about people hyping it up.

[@SurprisedBeaver-ps2de]

Why would anyone invest so much emotionally into a person whom they haven't even been physical with yet in any way shape or form. No touching, no high fives, no fist bumps, no shoulder swipes, no putting a number on the others phone, no handwritten notes like nothing. Why, who is going to do that. That's like going to a store just looking at something not even touch it once and then you buy it with your mind. You don't even carry it out the store.where is the rest of the story. That's not how dating works. Dating is when you see someone you like . Maybe that person likes you so you decided to share time together to just figure out where it's going to go. After you decided to share some time together. There's no more rules from before. Because something new has started. Like I don't understand what everyone is talking about. Why are all these words.

[@Unicorn21Productions]

Lmao “he’s just a fucken weirdo??”

[@stayinguppod]

"weirdo" is so aggressive hahaha

[@MinatorMls]

49:20 i love your socks ❤

[@emilyfairbairn4748]

A lot of people tell their kids if they put their elf in the Christmas tree it recharges it if you accidentally touch it .... just a suggestion

[@Carriehammer718]

I'm scared to imagine what mark z knows

[@Carriehammer718]

I can't watch friends now. Too sad. Maybe in a while

[@stayinguppod]

highly suggest a revisit, when you're ready