Identifying Emotional Abuse | BREAKUP RECOVERY SERIES

[@Josmama47]

Oof... perfect timing. Just decided I have to end my 24 yr marriage. Realized he was definitely a covert narc about 5 yrs ago. He has ONLY gotten worse. The good news... I've just started on my healing journey. I will get better! Thank YOU, Stephanie! Unfortunately, the covert narc I married is in complete denial and will continue to only get worse. I fear that the stronger I become, his narcissism grows more malignant, so I appreciate having your videos to help me to understand what I'm up against here! (fyi he is not violent, and I'm not in any danger. The abuse has been over 24 hrs and is 100% psychological in nature)

[@flightydancer]

better late than never! Best wishes in finding a happy, healthy life.

[@christinaconnolly4797]

Three months apart now, after 16 years and 4 children he left and made me the problem after all the gaslighting and manipulation. Was told by his family I need help from a doctor when he was clearly one with the alcohol issues, staying out all night just total disrespect basically and all this while I had just lost my mom had a newborn baby! Never felt so alone in the world and am starting to see what I lived through was abuse. Thanks for your support as it’s invaluable to people like me 😢

[@1989arlett]

Whatever you do don’t go bk it gets worse. I did 3 times & it always got worse. The love bombing every time was euphoric, but it always went back to the same thing always! He was also an alcoholic and a user. It will always be your fault no matter what you need to make peace with his fam thinking you’re crazy. It takes time but eventually you will. It’s a muscle you must exercise join a small group at church. That was the only way I got through it with Gods help. I would have not been able to do it otherwise. You will be more aware as time goes by and will have Epiphany after epiphany of Howell badly him and he manipulated you. Your family and your true friends will be with you along the way as well as your beautiful children. Praying God restores you and uplift you and your kiddos. Drown yourself in narcissistic abuse Content. KZbin videos such as hers helped me so much to understand that I was indeed not crazy. Tick-tock is also really good and helpful❤ I am almost 3 years out and I think God every day for getting me out!

[@christinaconnolly4797]

@@1989arlett iv literally been back more times than I can remember and yes it’s always gotten worse. He was violent too under the influence of drink but never remembered anything the next day I never had a sincere apology! I lost my brother to an overdose two years after I lost my mom at 8 months pregnant and the last few years have been a living hell with him. No support at all if anything has been worse than ever and I don’t know where he’s been now for months slowly stopped being interested in the children I’m assuming he’s found a new supply. It’s such a hard pill to swallow to think I gave him the best years of my life and 4 beautiful children and he couldn’t care less has walked away as if i was nothing! Keeping myself busy and thinking about what I want out of my life now and slowly rebuilding. Counting my blessings and taking each day at a time xx

[@jamieseiple]

It's almost the worst thing of many bad things, they abuse you then tell others it was you! It feels terrible to be alone because they take everything. The only thing they can't take anymore, is you. Best wishes and love.

[@christinaconnolly4797]

@@jamieseiple thankyou and same to you 💕

[@Onafarmlovinit]

God bless your heart. You are a strong beautiful person. Don’t forget that please. ♥️❤️♥️❤️

[@lunamaru65431]

This channel is literally saving me 😔 it’s been five years and I’m still so broken.

[@Eleven-Health]

Invalidation comes in the form of disregard and dismissing and being scoffed at for being emotional. The humiliation was being mocked… This is one of the best videos I have found that validates what I went through. ThQ Stephanie.

[@Penumbras1919]

Me too. Almost full week no contact. Still accepting 11 years of abuse and lies. Thank you stephanie and everyone here sharing, letting each other know we are not alone. 🙏🏻

[@rubyramirez4616]

I’ve watched MANY videos on this topic and this is by far the most CONCISE & helpful explanation to shed light on what was going on and why, even why I allowed it. Thank you for your time & effort in sharing your knowledge, wisdom & experience on this public platform. 🙌 💡😯

[@CHOOSE_TO_BE_U]

@StephanieLynnCoaching You are so right about none of us are taught what a healthy relationship is. You have a wonderful, sincere way filled with very helpful information. Have you ever though of going to speak at local schools to educate the younger generation as what to look for in a guy or girl before they even begin to start dating? If I lived near you, I would support & applaud you to help the next generation!!👏👏👏 Being good in sports or academically is NOT a barometer for a healthy individual, as you well know!

[@lauriemorales7605]

This hits hard for me. All of my relationships have been abusive. I have been codependent. I am suffering after being rejected 😢 Thank you for addressing this ❤

[@Gulya1012]

Thank you, breakup recovery - thats what i need now😔

[@andreastanley8946]

So, about two years ago, your channel helped me find love for myself after ending a narcissistic relationship. A year after being single and healing completely, I met the man of my dreams. I was ready for him! We celebrated one year on March 8 2024. About Two weeks ago I found out he was cheating on me with his ex wife. How is this even possible? I promise I did everything the best way possible. 😢

[@michaelporlier8957]

That's so awful. I will never understand how someone could hurt another they care for so badly. I'm so sorry that you've had to endure that :(

[@bnr2064]

You are a life saver love you so much videos are super great ❤❤

[@TheeyeOftruth-yx2np]

This was absolutley tremendous, Thanks you so much for this Stephanie, It does need to be taught in schools, People out there promote abusive relationships, It's unhealthy and sick, I have a strong sense of self and healed, I'll never get involved with abusive relationships again, I don't give chances anymore, Peace, love, Respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory to the universe, The most high God is great 🦁🕊😃💚💙💛❤🌌🌈🤗🐎🦄😇☘🌞✌😘🌲🌝💜😍🌷🐉👽

[@lakeithalacey]

All I asked him was what does he love about and he blew up on me 😢

[@danii2661]

I definitely used to be worse than I am now but your videos still resonate with me. Thank you for being a guiding light Steph!

[@BeaVizcarra]

8 month relationship. It’s difficult I got my hopes up I had been single for a decade and was really thinking he was it…the long awaited man. Unfortunately soon after meeting him I was treated very poorly, invalidated, manipulated and when I try setting boundaries I was told I need a crazy diagnosis. I broke up with him a little over a week ago…he won’t stop calling and sending flowers. No thanks! I am not going back there. I’m in pain now but I know I will get better as long as I don’t let him back in my life!

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

You are strong and an inspiration! This strength is a test to the work you’ve done on yourself - high self worth girl!

[@Yosef_Maharat]

Thanks, Stephanie.

[@monykoc2010]

This is such a great video. Thank you so much for doing this series! This is exactly what I need right now. I always love all of your content. Thank you Steph : )!!

[@kristenmarino3406]

This is a lifeline for me rn. 😭💙 all the bells going off w/what I’ve recently gone through with a longtime friend, more than friends last 6mo and it’s been a mental puzzle for me. Just feeling heartbroken and trying to understand the mental mind f he put me through😞

[@lucianas4919]

Thank you Stephanie for this video! It’s such an important topic that needs to be discussed and one that everyone should be taught.

[@makslyna1]

First! Good one thank you

[@joanebel5207]

So good. Thank you!

[@rebeccaarwine2768]

The best explanation. Thank you Stephanie

[@octavia7141]

It’s so sad that you’re explaining exactly what I was going through in my previous relationship 😢. Listening to you and other coaches has helped me completely move on from my past and I’m healing ❤️‍🩹 🙏🏾. Thank you for this message ❤.

[@shreyaindia4024]

This is a great setup... ur original wisdom chair.. i totally love ur advices and insights..

[@kimberly8839]

Great video! Thank you!

[@justint.kennerly5780]

It sucks the psychological games make us feel like we're the abusing

[@Brightstar765]

Thank you ❤

[@Champman543]

I am so confused. I think we both contributed to this. She said I was the narcissist, but I don't know. I've made mistakes without a doubt. She never apologized or took responsibility, guilt-tripped me, and blamed me for everything. She told me I was never there for her emotionally and that she was only emotionally dependent on me, that it was never love between us. She started dating a new guy only 2-3 weeks after our breakup (we were together for 7 years). She said it would make it "easier" for me to let her go. She doesn't have time to grieve and just wants to be happy and feel loved again, hopefully finally marry and have children (she is not even that old, 27). I knew she was angry at me. But she didn't stop until, in the end, she left me confused, depressed, and without confidence and self-worth.

[@feryalasadi5329]

I was the one who emotionally abused him, but on that time I wasn’t conscious about my behaviour at the end he left and give me a wake up call 😢😢😢

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

That’s brave of you to own that!

[@Malikmalik-vb2zu]

One life to live breakup means destroy women life is that simple no matter what people's saying living alone means smoking one pack cigarette a day

[@SurveYoung]

Once I woke up , and I saw what she was about I ran and never looked back input my self on child support to guarantee I'm in my kids life Then she used the kids to hurt me So I walked away from them For my sanity I miss my children but moms venom Spilled in I have a new life full of love Full of respect God gave me another son who I'm crazy about and I'm so happy to have a second chance life is short ! Enjoy it !

[@I_am_Syrius]

"love is like suicide" ... chris cornell

[@majorbloodnok6659]

Wow... I didn't realise you'd met my ex-line manager. We're definitely broken up 🙂

[@germainelowpt7206]

This is so helpful

[@BlackWolf-gk8sn]

I learned some live lessons with those people. Be careful with Avoidants in ANY WAY. I don´t care if they have NPD, PTSD, Depression, BPD whatever. Those all are disorders, I don´t want to use any of that as a label. BUT if a person, is in it´s characteristics, very avoidant and has fears in any way, to be close. Just leave them. And don´t be afraid yourself, to be the villain in someones else story. I had struggle with that. I don´t wanted be the bad guy. But then i realized, I never was. This was just a few of someone, who just can´t get to know me. It´s a them problem. Not a me Problem. The only me problem, was to believe this bullshit and take all the guilt.

[@Dethian666]

It's all abuse

[@tinsheek]

Im listening since 2020❤

[@YD-uq5fi]

My father took great pleasure in emotionally abusing me, but was always extra-nice to his daughter (my sister). Hence, she refused to admit that this was going on. My mother is equally useless on this front. On some level, they were ok with me being abused since at least it was not them on the receiving end. My father has passed away now, and frankly, I am glad he is gone.

[@ME-nw8dk]

So, how do we know if they are aware of what they are doing or if it's on accident?

[@lindaluna8999]

Do you think it’s controlling when somebody tells you that you spent too much time with your adult children and mother when they’re not even around or with you I don’t even know how to handle that back to me seems very controlling. What does it matter what I do when I’m away from my partner, and if I want to spend it with my children and my mother, or do whatever I feel like doing?!?!?! Had to step away from that situation and I’m doing no contact because I think that it’s just not right for somebody to say that to me especially when everything was going so great start to future future don’t you think?

[@lilyneva]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@drestrick3899]

What is it called when your partner baits you or you uses your poor response to their bad behavior in an attempt to avoid being held accountable?

[@scarystarbeing5932]

Reactive abuse

[@MrJweb19]

So staying bitter, would make a healthy person conform to all of the red flags!?

[@patrickdaigle5239]

🙏👍🙏

[@gorillamax4872]

There is a reason she’s single