STOP Being Dismissive! | Effective Communication

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[@antonellacrucioli6445]

I didn't have the courage to divorce because of the children....

[@antonellacrucioli6445]

He's not a bad person but he doesn't understand how I feel, if I'm tired,sad,worried..anyway I also think that it's hard to live with someone no matter what

[@MsKofi1]

Being in a relationship with an immature man who resorts to the silent treatment when we're at odds is so frustrating!! He needs to grow the hell up!!!!!

[@sherwoodwalker573]

And you as well. It seems both parties need to see the other persons perspective.

[@acharich]

Hmm, do u nag though..? Sometimes men go quiet to process & also to avoid retaliation..

[@lovelymel1585]

If you realize your worth and value, you and other women in your shoes would walk out those doors and leave. Why settle for immature men? You should pay more attention to the red flags. You can't expect excellent communication from anyone who is still in that mindset....It's like asking a cat to be a lion...If you desire a relationship with clear communication, raise your standards sweetie.

[@MsKofi1]

@@sherwoodwalker573 Thank you. Do you mind elaborating on your comment, please?

[@MsKofi1]

@@acharich There are times when I consider myself nagging. I'm trying to do better. Thanks for your input.

[@ladytemjad]

Be an emphatic listener. Most people only hear to render solutions... they don’t listen to understand and feel what the person is really saying from their heart 😕

[@mikeklyderedpalmer6914]

I take you are a female, when a women open up to a men women expect a good listener, but as a man we dont judge but for us, all problem has a solution, so we offer solutions.

[@acharich]

I listen to understand & I listen well, but peeps shouldn't keep coming back with the same issues if they are unwilling to do anything about them & are dismissive of caring advice.. lol

[@valerie4912]

Try not to follow through with “but” after saying you hear and understand someone. Language is important and saying “but” is still very dismissive.

[@MsKofi1]

My guy makes and of me saying but quite often. I need to do better!

[@valerie4912]

LiveLife16 Pardon?

[@mw7882]

When your partner is dismissive, avoidant, and passive aggressive it does not make you feel valued and loved because often times this same person has so much compassion for others outside the relationship.

[@steelersgirl3063]

It’s hard to find someone who wants to give back good communication.

[@marcellusbrown7940]

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[@SednovaNova]

Either dismissive people or defensive responses automatically turn me off and disengage from the conversation. Then it becomes a argument on the basis of the relationship which doesnt address the issue. After I get to dealing with this enough times I dont even try to positive reinforce I am trying to help. Instead the drill sargeant in me comes out and now I will give them the ammunition they need to leave permanently. That way I have peace in the situation.

[@irlandaise5631]

I agree..I m 37 ..and had a bf years ago for a short while..he d never dismiss anything..after that I keep meeting men who dismiss most of the stuff I say..and dont want to listen to details ..but then ill listen to subjects they bring..I keep them as friends only..I even had male friends in the past who didnt dismiss what I said. For example I ll be transparent and comment on what people say even if I dont agree..I had to try to explain myself to a new friend..and he wouldnt agree he understood what I meant..but he laughed..saying he doesnt know..but he laughed though.. recently a neighbour was chasing me..and he would talk about him a lot and not listen to me..im sick of anyone who dont give back what I give..I couldnt go out with a man like that though..

[@CurvyThickFitTV]

I literally just had this convo with someone. My thing is tho - it’s easier to say take a breathe pause wait - but in the moment, it’s really hard to listen accept and receive someone’s message and remain positive while someone is being dismissive towards you OR that person doesn’t want to accept what you’re saying OR you’re at a loss for words on how to articulate and express your thoughts and feelings. I feel like it take a great deal of self awareness and maturity to be able to communicate clearly and openly. Most ppl just aren’t there with it. Unfortunately.

[@acharich]

Mmhmm.. 💯

[@CreatedSpacespodcast]

So very true...

[@bigaceboogiewoogie1928]

The timing has to be right to communicate though. Some people need time to calm down and gather theirs thoughts for an effective response.

[@karenstephenson6668]

This is so true, Stephan thank you for your wise words.

[@VySharieff]

I’m a very Dismissive person. I don’t disagree. I delete you from my life. But this caught my attention🧐

[@PlayTimeChildCareTraining]

DipN2it Creations I’m the see way and need to grow.

[@colinc5531]

Very immature smh

[@akuasalaam490]

Therapy... Point blank period.

[@Alphacentauri819]

Dismissing others is a way of being in control, of not needing to hear anyone else...in that way, all you get is more of your own ignorance and arrogance reflected back, unknowingly. We expand, grow, evolve, when we can be confident...yet also willing to learn, hold space for others, others opinions, without being so fragile that our go-to is dismissal. If we can calmly, confidently, clearly, state our boundaries, needs, and call out our own biases, cognitive distortions, and seek a greater global awareness...we grow, we become better. To be dismissive is to be fearful, controlling and not growing. It is a stagnant way to be. I hope for you that you are challenging the dismissing nature... if we dismiss others, it usually means we also dismiss ourselves in some way. That self dismissal is born of shame. Shame is the opposite of empathy. The key is to compassionately hold space for ourselves, realize we aren't perfect, accept that...and in that way, we become more authentic and increase our ability to connect to others too.

[@kaifran1973]

of course you wouldn’t agree, you’re just emotionally unavailable to have an adult Conversation

[@Abbott12]

Learning to be okay with disagreeing with a person but still respecting them and letting them know you value their opinion is something that I've had to work on because I would shut down and it was it but that's not fair I'm not in a relationship and I haven't been for a long time but that's a practice that you need to put in motion and every part of your life every relationship thanks for the reminder

[@ToluFalode]

I agree 100% being dismissive will do more damage than you may even realize because of the resentment it breeds. That’s why your partner will randomly bring up that issue you thought was resolved not because of the issue itself but because of how you resolved it ie your tone, language, approach, etc it’s important to remember no relationship is a 100% perfect but effort will lead to progress and growth for you both: Thanks for sharing Stephan! ☺️

[@mefme8442]

I absolutely agree! We do need to make an open space so more discussions can take place. Disrespect is unacceptable....more of us need to learn to agree to disagree...Im going to share this video with a few ppl...🤣🤣

[@janellamurphy5665]

Yes excellent information worth sharing indeed!!!! Thank you Stephan so much for posting this. I am still learning to listen and wait for the direction of the Holy Spirit for instructions.. Amen 💥

[@nicoleroper5099]

Thanks Stephan. Another good video. Lots of love and respect always!

[@lovepink7804]

This video is right on point. 💯👌

[@ladyshorty6989]

LISTEN LINDA LISTEN!!!! 🤣🤣🥳❤😍AMEN BROTHER STEPHAN!!! NOW HE HEARS ME!!! THANK U!!!

[@ladeedee144]

Been in a relationship like this in the past...So glad I got out and can finally enjoy true freedom to be me and in total peace🙌🏾

[@narviaflournoy3869]

Amen Amen, hallelujah, thankYou !! 👂🤏🙏

[@elizabethwhitford2743]

I live by your words. Thank you!! The growth I've had in the past few months is amazing..One day at a time

[@constancenunn]

I got so tired of arguing with my NARCISSIST ex boyfriend.

[@jdouce6074]

This was perfect. Only simps disliked this 😔

[@shordy77]

It’s so sad u gotta tell gown Ass ppl this ... like this not common sense 🤔.... a lot of ppl lack communication skills ... ALOTTTTTT 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@eedabc123]

Apologize to one another. Learn to start from now. Ask what we can do to fix things... Learn your communication setbacks. Work on yourself. Practice. Take a break from each other...

[@shaunettejoseph4569]

Love this video, it really inspired me thanks alot

[@traquilasmith2275]

Yes this video help me to. Communication respect and listening is very important in a relationship thank you God and stephan great message.👏👏👍👍

[@TyReaLiTy]

Speaking truth!👑💛

[@kutinahayes3670]

Great advice..but is he in a healthy relationship

[@goddessblack8787]

Kutina Hayes from his previous videos and just following him he’s single but at least when he does enter a relationship that woman will have a man that understands women and someone that is actually knowledgeable about relationships sounds like he would be a great partner to have 👍🏾

[@MsKofi1]

Experience is the best teacher!! You're like me...I want to hear from someone who has tried and tested what they talk about!!

[@ashleybeverly7328]

@@MsKofi1 He was married and is now divorced, I believe. He's about what he talks about. 🙏🏿

[@MartianMoon]

Some of the best sports coaches in the world don’t play the sport they coach

[@angelawalker7582]

Stephan, I'm loving your new book. You just don't know clarity this has given me. I want a healthy relationship and looking back on my previous ones was very toxic. I dealt with enough toxicity dealing with breast cancer. Thank you :

[@LemansSunset350]

You’re awesome

[@jmarie6128]

You're very Blessed and have a lot of common sense Mr. Labossiere...Thanks for sharing your Wisdom.

[@lovelylady715]

Great message Stephan! Effective communication in a relationship is so important.

[@marianaguillory6554]

Passive aggressive people might still say “I understand what you’re saying” or “I acknowledge how you feel” in a dismissive way, because they know how they SHOULD respond but say these things in a cold way to put up an impression that they are dealing with you fairly even though they don’t care at all to know or really understand where you’re coming from , I’ve known people to add in a phrase or two like this and still be extremely dismissive and rude

[@RvRestoration]

Where are the other single healthy men like this??

[@kerryanderson3060]

That is the Answer do it with Love, when we listen, let the love show through your actions, by been attentive, and I’ve always tried to be calm, and discuss things without distractions, and always Pray.

[@RoxyC143]

This was the issue in my last relationship. Thank you, Stephan!

[@2020sweelew]

This just recently happened to me....I listen as he shared with me and afterwards I said OK. There was nothing else to say. We had discussed the issue many times and no matter what I said....he said I didn't acknowledge him..so I asked for his definition of acknowledge.. because mines was not to agree but accept how he felt which I did but I guess after listening to his reasoning I didn't change my mind so we were done.

[@TruthExposer83]

Lol...speak that truth Stephan!!

[@marcellusbrown7940]

Got u lock because u monopolize the game Stephan Speaks, 4 u emulate confidence in urself aftet it mature through time years of experience.

[@reneebcc]

Yes my favorite, "communication is key" ❤

[@CreatedSpacespodcast]

Thank you Stephan, I just had this conversation with my friend just the other day.🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@mdiaz4106]

This needed to be said... especially in black America, people can’t stand to know there are others who won’t agree with them on everything single thing going on in life.

[@ladennayoung2939]

This is the age of narcissism. Not much to do with a single race. It is just people in general.

[@Tnc874]

Why is the black community always used in something negative?

[@terrismith2300]

Wow! I'm going through this with my other half. Thank you for making this video.

[@lurnellamsterdam9354]

I have experience where I use to lash out at! my partner an all he use to do is love me but knw I now better an... I'm a change person knw an I thank God for wat he has done for me an still doing. I felt hw my partner felt an the truth is it's not good at all very painful soo be careful of wat you say when ur angry an thanks Stephan for your advices.I thank God for the man he sent for me. I at to change my attitude also cause it was not healthy for me or at all.

[@sherwoodwalker573]

Praise God. I am grateful for your honesty. I wish more of the comments were introspective like yours and not accusatory.

[@acharich]

💣💣💣

[@ashleyrhinehart3658]

This is something my partner is definitely teaching me! Thanks for this reminder Stephan! Great message!

[@deisiquijada4167]

Thank you.. for all your advice I have taken the time to reanalyze (my thoughts and actions) most importantly taking Gods word in consideration in all my actions as well as wht I accept.. #GodBless

[@creemarie5892]

Thank you for the advice and your stating pure facts...it always boils down to communication

[@queenrmia1816]

Definitely Agree I strongly believe that communication involves a few different sensitive approaches to be Healthy effective communication in Relationships, and we really try hard to express ourselves, but don't realize the importance of some needed things. We need all of these, and more to converse with people for everyday life. No one is perfect, they come with practice. 1. Facial Expression 2. Eye Contact 3. Listening 4. Voice Tone 5. Body Language 6. Verbal Response

[@acharich]

🔑🔑🔑

[@ClowneryAtItsFinest]

Some people just don't get it. It's too much work for me to convince u to see things from my standpoint. I'm not for the back and forth, it's draining. Some people have to be dismissed or they will rack your nerves!

[@ehh227]

Yepppp!! My last relationship I tried to express my feelings and why I felt that way & it was always an attack of well you did this, you did that instead of understanding. He always blamed me and was so defensive. The communication thing 🤦🏻‍♀️. But when you find someone with good communication it’s so nice!!! I don’t even have to explain myself anymore!! Never again will I allow that type of negativity in my life.

[@Honeypepper.]

Let’s talk about the entanglement situation 🤪

[@dawnaskey4975]

Irony- I just expressed frustrations about this in a relationship to a confidant... This was literally the next thing I saw.

[@rg3818]

Very good advice. Being dismissive can also come off as selfish and prideful.

[@wanjirukarago9308]

Before i become dismissive to you ,it means i had already read your mind before you even know it 😂😂😂.

[@TheeSocialButterflii]

I hear you and I agree but Terry Crews is still dismissed lol. I stepped in his shoes, they didn’t fit so...✌🏽

[@undefinedlimits9993]

It is funny when I expressed something to my ex boyfriend. He called me "Bat Shit Crazy" and then he went ghost . I also discovered he was using my card for several dating website. A debate about wearing masks that he didnt want to listen to me at all but he was always like this and dismiss anything that I tried to say and did exactly that "Speak down to"That debate was a way for him to get out. Went totally ghost once he realized I have a voice and an opinion.

[@lovelymel1585]

Good he went ghost, it was a blessing in disguise for you girl. Don't ever settle for any type of men like this. He wasn't worth a minute of your time. Forgive and let go, and trust me God will bring the right guy!

[@undefinedlimits9993]

@EnJoy Life And Smile thank you

[@undefinedlimits9993]

@@lovelymel1585 thank you Mel. I am still trying to process it all. That this person didn't respect me at spiritually or sexually..Thank you. I pray that he stay gone because now I am getting use to being me again and not being mad at myself for loving someone who didn't love me. 7 years of being stupid.

[@lovelymel1585]

Undefined Limits I had a few years with someone who also wasn’t worth a minute. Once I left him I can tell you 5 years later it was the best decision I ever made! It’s a process for sure but your not alone! Be strong!

[@undefinedlimits9993]

@@lovelymel1585 Thank you today wasn't a good day. I had a little crying spell but then I realized I am so much stronger than this. He hurt me yes..he left me..yes...All I can say is that a week before this happened he said "You deserve more than I can give you" I think that was his way to leave without saying it. I pray for all of us who hurt because I thought I would never feel this way. thank you Lovely for the kind words.. we are all worth better..better for love and respect.

[@hannahtheloser9599]

Hey im not sure how to ask for advise from you (from email or your website) but i havent been able to find many videos covering this common problem in relationships. Me and my girlfriend (im a lesbian btw if that affects anything) started off in a friend group of 2 other girls and this year me and her started talking romantically. We really see a future together. It was going great until our 2 friends turned on me and are now trying to get her to break up with me. They dont have reasoning to it other than they think i may be racist (shes black and im white) ive never shown any signs of racism and i respect everybody no matter what. I dont want her to drop those friends but they are slowly starting to ruin our relationship and i feel like i can do nothing about it. Theyre trying to brainwash her into thinking that im a horrible person. I would do anything for this girl man. Shes amazing, beautiful, funny, intelligent, and more. I want to keep her in my life but lately it feels like im constantly having to prove to her that her friends are wrong. Ive talked to her about this a little bit, not about brainwashing and all, but ive reminded her that they are not part of our relationship and they have nearly no right to tell us what our relationship is like and what to do with it. But it doesnt seem to be working. Is there anything i can do? Sorry for the very long message but i trust your judgment

[@a_princess8]

This is very helpful. But when your married to a narcissist (labeled by therapist) this doesn’t work!

[@renee167]

Communication is the key! Great Advice!

[@escapingthewilderness]

I’ve been learning so much about effective communication within relationships. I thank you so much for this video🙏🏾. Listening helps you better understand where that person is coming from.

[@kimfrederick7710]

Great advice and had this happen about a month ago and I acknowledged how they felt but it resulted in us not speaking for about 3 weeks

[@kaifran1973]

Everybody wants to communicate effectively until it’s time to do so. Shutting down on a person and being cold cut will never get far with having a successful relationship or friendship. Silent treatment and being dismissive is a manipulative tactic to use. People like this do not deserve your time, love , or respect.

[@yuiopoli9601]

Calling someone a "conspiracy theorist" makes someone dismissive.

[@TheCoreyBlandin]

This is so true 💯

[@deemitchell9429]

This is very true and I have been practicing this a lot throughout my life. I know when I was in middle school and high school I was quick to defend myself, however, I have discovered to just listen to the other person. Take a breather and just listen and stop trying to fight to protect my own emotions and what I feel is right. Stop being in the rush to get the next word out. I have practiced this so much with my sister over the few years of just listening also because I am a student I have no choice but to listen to other people's opinions and I actually enjoy it. To be able to tap into another concept of how to see things or how other people see things are very interesting and a person can learn so much about a person just by listening. I look more so toward other people's opinions that I find myself asking other people questions to see what they think about things. It is very good to be open-minded however, you do not have to agree with that person and you can still keep your own opinion but just be willing to listen and at least understand the other person emotions. I believe this is why I get along with guy more than women because I am not an argumentive person and now I see why guys come to me for opinions a lot because I am willing to understand where they are coming from instead of attacking and belittling them. I also have been put in the situation of being bullied and not being heard this has allow me to put other people emotions first besides thinking about me me me and what I have to say. I also found this concept to work very well as a swim instructor putting other people comfort in place if someone does not feel comfortable with swimming I need to take steps back and see what step I miss or where they did not feel comfortable to understand that emotion and correct it. I love your videos thank you for always sharing,

[@susandoyle1177]

Exactly what I’m going through right now.

[@darsheamartin2768]

Communication and understanding

[@falishak6765]

Well I try not to dismiss men. But he asks me an question then I answer calmly, and maturely and he tells me oh I just wanted to hear your response him to me then says you sound like ohh ohh ohhh ohhh blahh blahh. So my response was ended this conversation since he claimed my answer arent what he want to hear on normal how many kids I have which is 1 son who 21 and I'm 41. But how is that blahh blahh blahh...then he preceded toi texts me oh im just joking. I just got on the phone with you for 5 minutes. Who jokes on simple stuff. So dismissed he is and blocked.

[@electrarain5602]

💯 I have a question say if a person is hostile how are you supposed to listen to them if they're yelling?then what ?

[@tishly]

It helps if they would call you versus text you all the damn time.

[@jacquelinegibson6181]

What about platonic being dismissive? Does this advice apply?

[@jdouce6074]

Yup. Ignoring someones feelings is disrespectful. Period. Would someone disregard their boss because they were given an assignment they didn't agree with or attempt to come to a resolve that works for all parties or separate altogether?....the disappearing act is a manipulating witchcraft/mind game NEVER settle it'll only get worse

[@cookingwithmskisha4777]

This is my biggest downfall.😞

[@zibbiagray147]

Mostly is how you feel about other people most people want to be with the person that they see their self in that person😌

[@Amy-ww9ds]

Very great content, thank you!!!!!😄

[@jamilawilliams4969]

This was great coach!

[@janellamurphy5665]

Thank you Stephan so much for posting this valuable 💗 information!!!! God bless you 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@GambilityGaming]

Mistake I made wish it didn’t end like this

[@Justsiyani]

This was a sermon !!!

[@yvonnelisajones7095]

Pour into each other, love, communication , support and love 💞

[@sabrinamae9461]

🕊❣Dueteronomy 7:1-3❣🕊 We are not to marry outside of our nation. Biblical names are a lil difficult to know who is who in these days due to tampering, n changing names. So called African Americans, Hispanics who are the natives is the descendants of the slaves who were dragged here 🕊♠️Dueteronomy 28:48♠️🕊 ☝🏽 * W* / *yolks* of *Iron* on their necks 🕊♠️Dueteronomy 28:68♠️🕊 ☝🏽they were brought n dragged here by *ships* into *Egypt* , l👀k behind a dollar bill💸💸💸 n u will see the pyramid n all seeing illuminati eye above pyramid. ☝🏽👸🏽 Our Ancestors were in slavery due to transgressing the laws. Fell into sin n we have not been redeemed. We dont acknowledge out heritage due to the *crafty* *counsel* n a system designed to keep us sleep n deep in sin. 🕊♠️ *Romans* 6:23〰️for the wages of sin is death.... 🕊♠️Psalm 83:2 〰️ for lo, thy enemies make a tumult they that *hate* thee have lifted up the head. They have taken *crafty* *counsel* *against* thy ppl n consulted against thy *hidden* *ones* They said come let us cut them off from being a nation, that the name of *Israel* no more in *remembrance* for *they* have consulted under *one* *consent* they are Confederate against thee 1. *Edom* : caucasians 2. *Ammon* & *Moab* : Japanese & Chinese 3. *Ishmael* : Arabs 4. *Harganes* : West Africans , Egyptians 5. *Amalek* : *fake* *jews* who call themselves *Jewish* ish is a suffix, Pertaining too, not the real thing. They are your illuminati, elite, Rothschild, Rockefellers, Vanderbilt, vanguards, Masons, secret society, Gov, malitia, federal reserve , the chief house 👿 🕊♠️Rev 2:9 〰️ I know thy works n *tribulations* n *poverty* (but thou art rich) n the *blasphemy* of them who say are *Jews* n are *not* , but are the synagogues of *satan* ♠️🕊Job 9:24 〰️the *earth* was given into the hands of the *wicked* they *cover* the *faces* of the judges thereof ☝🏽👸🏽 One of their many crafty counsel they changed, covered, kept a secret. Christ is a darksin man, not a white man with blue eyes. It's a hate crime n a blasphemy 🕊♠️Rev 1:14-15♠️🕊 Feet like unto brass, brass is brown n burnt unto a furnace will turn black. ☝🏽👸🏽we have laws, statues n commandments to *live* by n holy days to acknowledge especially the sabbath. Fri 6pm- Sat 6pm The lord created everything in 6days n on the 7th he rest. The seven day is sat. Sun the wk begins. ☝🏽👸🏽 When the sun sets, the day begins, when the sun goes down, the day ends. New years : *Abib* begins in the *Spring* when nature spring's back into life. 🕊❣Dueteronomy 16❣🕊 ☝🏽👸🏽 Everything created by *TMH* is in a *Beautiful* n *Devine* *Order* 🕊❣1Corinthians 11:3〰️ I will have you know that the *head* of *every* *man* is *Christ* n the *head* of the women is the *man* n the *head* of *christ* is *God* 🕊♠️Ecclesiastes 12:13♠️🕊 🕊❣1Corinthians 14:33〰️ for God is not the Author of *confusion* , but of peace , as in all the *churches* of the *saints* ☝🏽👸🏽 We are the *church* , one body w/the hamashiach. We are Israel. We are a set apart ppl. Holy n seperate. The body is your temple, n the temple must not be *defiled* , *unclean* christ cannot dwell in a defiled temple. 🕊❣1Corinthians 3:17-19❣🕊 Imperative ☝🏽👸🏽 🕊♠️ *Roman* 8:6-8 〰️ to be carnally minded is *death* , to be spiritually minded is life n peace Because the carnal mind is enmity against God; for it is *not* subject to the laws of God , neither *indeed* can be So they that are in the flesh *can* *not* *please* *God* ☝🏽👸🏽 His sheep knows his voice n follows. Returning home n out of this world. 🕊❣John 18:36❣🕊 🕊♠️Wisdom of Solomon 1:15♠️🕊 In these latter days, prophesies are coming too pass n Jacob's trouble is near. You must be in full Armor. Do not sin Shalawam Malak ✊🏽❣

[@MelisJoy]

This video is absolute gold. I completely agree 100% Thing is, in my situation if I try to show my bf this, which most of the message I've tried to communicate w him. If I do, I'm 99.9% sure he'll still not see what he fails to do & won't see that he is completely invalidating & dismissive to almost everything I've said the past few weeks, on top of being physically distant. On top of just getting attitude out of nowhere, but will deny it most times. Nothing can be worked on or improved when ppl constantly play victim 😔 after 5 years of "I'll work on not being defensive & will be more understanding" he only does it for his kids, but still can't for me. Maybe after allllll day of us not talking he might own up to it, but will still justify it or trivialize it in some way bc to him "the things I get upset about aren't a big deal to him" and most of the time he finds it "ridiculous" and treats me & issue as exactly that, until hours later. I can't take the trivializing, dismissiveness, gaslighting, defensiveness, excuses, apologies only to randomly be disrespectful again then deny it. He only owns up to it 5% of time but usually it's stated as if it's something I caused

[@acharich]

PREACHHHHHHH..! 🎯🎯🎯 *Absolutely spot on from beginning to end..* 💯💯💯 This is why active listening is so key.. 🔥💎🔥 - @Acharich

[@shordy77]

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[@BiiancaVarela]

God Bless You .

[@brittneypinckney7317]

I hate when I feel like I'm being or have been dismissed....it's a HUGE trigger for me and I go straight into attack mode or shut down....I'm working on it because it's not healthy and now try to tell potential partners. I'm pretty sure I've also been dismissive to others in the past 😔

[@violetamet]

I was told I was being dismissive recently, but truth is, I didn't understand what they had meant until now. I have to admit, I have trouble with communication, so it causes a lot of conflict without me meaning too. I want to get better and learn to understand and not act dismissive. Thanks for sharing such important information! I never know what to do during some conversations!

[@Nokutizu]

my ex would constantly dismiss me in almost every conversation I’d try to engage in when it involved on solving our issues. .-. he’d always shut down and give me endless silent treatment. he never wanted to discuss anything in which led to our breakup. 😞 but he blames me for ending it and not analizing why I did it.

[@PlayTimeChildCareTraining]

Dang

[@brandycan9749]

@stephanspeaks a lot of what you say sounds good. My question to you whole heartily with no disrespect is, you have A L L of this great relationship information, are you happily married? Or single? If single, even if you are happily single, why? It’s hard to go to a hair stylist who’s hair is unhealthy or always looks a mess. How can we... no how can I take what you say seriously if you’re just as single as I am?

[@Ohkeh640]

Not for me for sure haha

[@BeingMe000]

Wow Stephan!!!! I could kiss you for this. Thank you for sharing this. It is so needed. People don’t know how to communicate anymore. I’ve encountered so many people who can’t listen to differing opinions without becoming belligerent or dismissive. This was so on point. Thank you so much!!!!

[@jacquibishop4189]

🤗.. your take on love,life, an relationships are spot on” very in tune with yourself!🙂 I have a question?!?, do you have relationship talk with men as well?!!?

[@mrsbutterflyrainbows6654]

Awesome.Please do more videos on that subject: effective communication, boundaries and other tools for healthy relationships. And a huge Thank you for all that you do.God bless you Stephan.

[@izo893]

This was well put.

[@nareshsam2862]

Strong and accurate observations on relationships keep going love from india 🇮🇳👍

[@cherylaikens3492]

This is so on point!! 💯✔My exact words last weekend to my significant other and he couldn't get it!🤔

[@tonicocovixinjohnson4182]

My boyfriend always makes it seem like only he going through things. Tells me to be patient with him. He going through things I lost my stepdad 9 months ago and grandmother and he think he the only one with issues He had changed alot and tells me be patient its been most 3 years our communication isnt great. Our first date was at a club we did that for a year and half so we dont really talk. If he dont like what I'm saying he walks away

[@lovelymel1585]

Man good word...so true...communication and learning how to have it effectively..Steven, could you ever do a video involving couples who have been successful at relationships after reading one of your books or watching your videos? Would be great to get some testimonial videos if you can of people you helped!

[@sabrinamae9461]

Hypocrite.." *Repent* " 🕊♠️1John 3:10♠️🕊

[@shellaewashington4602]

I agree! If my ex- husband and I would have communicated with one another we would still be married! Sad, too late, but lesson learned from all the crushing. However, I thank God for the self-awareness and lesson about listening to listen instead of listening to respond!

[@ShaBella509]

Don't listen to react, listen to understand! This is good advice for real life situations and relationships personal or business-Thanks 🤎🙏🏿

[@mishonnalifestylestrategis7515]

Absolutely! The dismissing ticks me off in the dating for men over 45 it’s sad that people can’t have discussions now they call it ghosting smh. Great video!

[@anewcreation4667]

He’s personally attacking me😂! I’m working on it🙂.