Stop Being Emotionally Unavailable & Heal | Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style

[@Sirenamia777]

I feel like the only emotions I can feel are those related to anxiety, anger or sadness because they overpower me. Is hard to even enjoy things because even excitement is suppressed. I only realized that recently and I'm trying to work on it.

[@sandyl5109]

1. Know yourself/getting to know oneself 2. End emotional suppression 3. Learning to work through feelings by noticing them 4. End self shaming 5. Practicing vulnerability 6. Becoming more generous (vs. survival mode) 7. Being able to communicate your needs to others in a healthy way 8. Proper self care 9. Meeting your needs in a healthy way We got this, folks with an avoidant side/DAs! :)

[@archivist_of_dragonstone]

I'm an AP married to a DA and let me tell you, I would LOVE it if he would dump all his emotions on me. I would rather have a flood of emotions over the silence and stonewalling. If we're talking then we can work on things, so let's talk it out. DAs, you're not too much for other people to handle. Give us some credit! We love you, and we want to support you! Bring it on!

[@fbmbassist]

I’ve definitely been feeling more generous as I’ve been healing my DA wounds, and trusting in my ability to express vulnerably and ask for needs/boundaries.

[@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool]

fantastic!

[@sandyl5109]

Thais Gibson sharing her knowledge is going to be the reason many couples on this planet last that otherwise wouldn't have had the skills to. And the reason that more people on this earth love themselves/ learn to compassionately stop abandoning themselves. We are so lucky

[@tucky3191]

You have a great gift of teaching.

[@rudinaalbania]

Survival mode... So meaningful and true for most single men out there unfortunately :(

[@mosabmahmod4794]

We are lucky to have you in our life Thais ❤

[@razvanyke]

100%

[@Thisisrenae]

Exactly!! I do tend to take emotional expression as emotional dumping and not being aware of others boundaries and they feel because this is what people do to me!! I’ve Carried so many peoples burdens from people. I don’t like to do it in return.

[@MrTadow99]

Yes we really are kind people!

[@arankapasanka]

This was super helpful information for me, Thais. Thank you so much. I feel like I had an anxious preoccupied attachment style most of my life, and then five years ago I started my healing journey and somehow nowadays I feel more like a dismissive avoidant... so I’m really working on all those steps you mentioned and it’s really been baby steps for me... Today I am writing this comment and it feels like I am taking one little step towards sharing my emotions and becoming more vulnerable...Again, THANK YOU🙏🏼🌷

[@Pielobyte]

1) get to know your needs and desires 2) fully experience emotions, end emotional suppression 3) work through feelings by noticing them 4) ending self shaming replacing it with curiosity, and empowerment via changed behavior/thinking patterns 5) practicing vulnerability 6) becoming more generous ->shared emotional vulnerability ->ending scarcity mindset via abundant action 8)

[@Pielobyte]

7) communicate your needs to others

[@Pielobyte]

8) proper self care ->checking in with yourself throughout the day ->taking time out to somatically process emotions, not in survival mode

[@Pielobyte]

Be present with yourself

[@Pielobyte]

9) Meeting your needs in a healthy way

[@roshalllambert]

Absolutely love the list! It was very accurate

[@Reddragons111]

Whoah the title is epic

[@freeinquiry1373]

Love what you said about how reparenting ourselves helps us get out of survival mode. Seems self compassion would fit with that. Have you heard of Kristen Neff? Thanks for sharing healing across our little planet. 💓🌎💓

[@ummismail20]

LOVE Dr. Kristin Neff’s work. Reading her first book, Self-Compassion, at 26 changed my life dramatically for the better. So grateful ❤️

[@sarahb3449]

Found her book very useful too!

[@littlemsparis]

The way you just called me out LOL

[@erxfav3197]

I really hope this helps DAs and FAs leaning DA…

[@melawieeinapfel8594]

I love how practical those tools are❤

[@vtbhoward]

I appreciate you Thais!

[@kkane3428]

Thais this is great content. Thank you & your amazing team !

[@DV-vn8rj]

Loved this and loved all your courses. I really wish I would have found you earlier. This is really helpful for me and my relationships.

[@akaboo69]

Guitar and music are my self care

[@gogohappygirl]

I would like to see a fearful avoidant version of this video, as well.

[@pawnyvideos457]

My bf has shut me down. I'm an FA. I don't know if I should pursue him or wait for him. I'm done doing the work. I'm at the edge. I feel like he's doing bare minimum to make things work with me.

[@TM-hd5iv]

What happened? I'm in the same spot. Left the ball in his court. It's been 10 days. He said he'd make the time to talk in person - but hasn't yet. I'm an AP but becoming secure. I get urges to initiate first but I know I shouldn't for my sake.

[@IanRoyball128]

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[@Theodoric3]

Thank you Thais Gibson, you are so awesome ❣️

[@eloisemarie5219]

A definite keeper. Great info

[@jan1cem]

Thais thanks for this. It is very hard for me to feel difficult emotions because Im a highly sensitive person/empath. Do you videos for sensitives like me?

[@smileyface3107]

Great video thank yoouuuuuuu!!

[@LA-xc4tc]

Does this partly apply to FAs ? Lol

[@tucky3191]

Hi! LOVE!!

[@kashbar4930]

So I have this weird thing I do where I’m so anxious and preoccupied but then when my partner does something that hurts my feelings I tend to ignore them and rethink being with that person. Even if it’s something really little… So am I anxious preoccupied or am I avoidant?

[@madisonnew7396]

Sounds like anxious but excercising some protest behavior, but could be fearful avoidant leaning anxious

[@madisonnew7396]

Also, the last DA I dated i realize was quite anxious (in general) and preoccupied with earning my affection- he thought of lots of ways to do good things for me, or to earn my love. When i would say things that he interpreted as him being not good enough (or hurting his feelings) he would shut down and consider not being with me. The problem was we were not communicating, both because we didnt know our own needs or how to communicate them. Id say take whatever information from any of the attachment styles that benefit you!

[@jasmineo3398]

I relate to working through this tendency a lot … I’m FA 😊

[@v-buckschan111]

Honestly , you could either be a disorganized leaning towards anxious , or actually being anxious BPD , search up bpd symptoms to clear this up

[@v-buckschan111]

Borderline personality disorder lines up quite well with your description , but take it with a grain of salt

[@anthonysalas6398]

Hi Thais, will you be doing a video like this for us APs?

[@romaekimberlybisnott6226]

There’s one for AP :)

[@anthonysalas6690]

Thanks! I will look it up.

[@ennybee4975]

What’s DA?

[@rawan1132]

Dismissive avoidant