Stop Being So Hard On Yourself | The Dr. Cloud Show - Episode 288

In this highlight from The Dr. Cloud Show, Dr. Cloud is asked how to stop being so hard on yourself. What are the key principles to help us out of that negative pattern?
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[@loridukes7273]

“Get in touch with the God who is instead of the God we make up”…..so good

[@fgbowen]

@Lori D - Yes Ma'am. Agreed.

[@HannahSquats]

Giving myself grace is one of the best practices in my life.

[@NicholeBump]

Dr Cloud could you do a broadcast about recovering from spiritual abuse? What you talked about with God really helped me…I struggle to read the Word daily because I came from a very harsh legalistic bound church and honestly it’s a miracle I’m still serving God but I’m wanting to learn more about accepting how God truly loves me.

[@Oilofmercy]

Nicole Andrew Womack has great teachings on how much God loves you, would love to hear Dr. Cloud also!

[@NicholeBump]

@@Oilofmercy Thank you! I will look him up!

[@jom6320]

Believe him he does love you Nichole. I have been hurt by spiritual abuse too. God showed me there is a profound difference between religion and righteousness. The pharisees looked and acted the part but many of them were lost and miserable they why they fought with Jesus

[@NicholeBump]

@@jom6320 Thank you! Jesus is so patient with us..it’s been a slow but steady process out!!

[@user-fe2fk7jb7l]

Need to remember 100% forgiven; I need to forgive myself🙏

[@patwhitmore302]

At 74 years of age. I'm starting to understand this..I wish I had heard this when I was young..thank you so much

[@artspeaksart4hearts443]

I was actually driving back from my dad's place and I was really in a bad way, lots of rough things have happened, dad's passing away, I have had uterine cancer and related difficulties with acceptance, forgiveness, strangely enough I thought of yr work in boundaries after recalling yr name, I found this on my feed... honestly I feel God led me to this message.. blessings 🙏🌼🌼

[@runningstarthierry6809]

Shalom art speaks, I pray for you to be totally healed of cancer and restored completely, forgiveness is key to keeping your healing, I struggled with decades of pain and depression, after I forgave my dad from a deep place after honoring my childhood pain I was able to forgive on a deeper level after I honored my agony as a child, God finally took away all my pain sickness and dis ease malease. Papa Father God is so wonderful!! Blessings to you!!

[@leeannmartin4326]

Prayers for your health and wellness !

[@moomoomagee]

Amazing. Yeah. Wow. failing doesn't make me a failure

[@424bebe]

Love everything that Dr. Cloud teaches and make the Bible so applicable to our struggles. He’s my distant therapist.

[@shellyt7173]

EXCELLENT Counsel. Thank you for your commitment to the One true, living GOD and His living, active today-WORD.

[@liliherndz5792]

MY FAVORITE TOPIC 🕯 “ Amazing Grace How DAM SWEET “ Dr Cloud ..I could LISTEN to this Vlog and message ALL DAY 🕯🕊🤍🕊🕯 Verse: We LOVE cause WE been LOVED ..ENLIGHTENMENT 🕯 the LIGHT of Un SELF LOVE thru GODs AMAZING & INFINITE GRACE and MERCIES ..AMEN THANK YOU LORD ..🤍✝️🤍 HIS PERFECT REDEEMING un LOVE ..AMEN

[@hilarybrown2528]

Thank you 🙏 Coming off an awful argument with my teenage son. Needed to hear this.

[@elsagrace3893]

Some people need to be more hard on themselves when it comes to the agreements and shared arrangements with others. Be a lazy Slacker in your own space and with your own things that don’t involve others if you choose but realize and uphold agreement you have with others and with shared arrangements.

[@rosemarieschleupen747]

Thank you so much for the explaination. I really really appreciate you. I've been reading your materials since Boundaries. Love how you pull scripture into everything.

[@liliherndz5792]

WE LOVE ..BECAUSE HE FIRST LOVED US ..with HIS PERFECT REDEEMING LOVE 🕊👩🏻‍🦳✝️👩🏻‍🦳🕊

[@sheilaalexander7324]

That was a beautiful message that my heart and soul has yearned to hear. Thank you. God will help me apply it. God bless you.

[@denisesimmons8896]

Thank you so much Dr.Cloud for sharing this. Definitely right on time and very encouraging to hear for my current healing journey 🙏🏾

[@pattyduerr1168]

Thank you for helping us through the journey of life, your calm voice and loving approach to life is really helping me through these dark challenging days as the darkness grows stronger and the hope of our Savior draws near..you just know how to simplify the complications and anchor our minds. God be with you

[@debrap947]

Boy did I need to hear that today! Thank you.

[@frankagliotti3626]

Thank you for providing perspective & wisdom in faith, hope and love Dr Henry. Blessings, Frank

[@heatherpham9617]

Enjoyed this, and the manner it was explained

[@PrayersfromtheRedwoodForest]

Your spirit is so sweet and kind Doctor. Your gentleness is making me well

[@francesbrown850]

So good.

[@loisthiessen9134]

Dear Dr. Cloud, thank you for being so real! Even your casual look and approach in your sessions is so helpful to me..it makes me smile and want to hear what you're saying because i know it's authentic and also sincere. I read your book Changes that Heal last year and it is always sitting alongside my bible. I can randomly open a page and read a section out loud and it brings life to my soul. Of course most of it is underlined too :) I'm so grateful for your love for folks that you would put out your wisdom freely almost like a pastoral gift to us. God bless you, Dr. Cloud

[@jeaneerhodes3622]

If they aren't hard on themselves maybe they had good examples or maybe they have a higher level of anademine. I hope I am spelling this correctly. I was taught that it is the neurotransmitter that thc mimics. I found this interesting. The instructor asked us to imagine someone that alway seems chill. She stated that these people are likely to have higher level of this neurotransmitter. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. I appreciate your heart and your work Dr Cloud! Blessings

[@tonyaraisch6502]

So good! Thank you for all you do! I glean a lot from what you teach.

[@sh6460]

Must understand who is for you and who is not. Your teachings on safe people have helped me a lot. Some are good a hiding their desire to see you fail, it's good to recognise it and disconnect if destructive even if it's family. Others may not see it, don't understand what the problem is, that's been difficult.

[@BodyLanguageAnalysisInterrogat]

One of your BEST 👌 TY so much!

[@bridgeegibson2790]

Thankyou that was excellent. Very therapeutic

[@margaretg.1740]

Thank you so much for this message this truly blessed me today.

[@annecampbell2891]

Thank you Dr Cloud for telling the truth from the bible. I have been reading your books and listening to the videos from both yourself and Dr Townsend for years.They have helped me so much.

[@conniemoravec713]

I wish you could counsel me ☺️

[@lilianaortner9104]

Soooo good 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 Thank you Dr Cloud for the message ! I needed it 🙏🏻

[@Deba7777]

Thank you, Dr. Cloud,, this was really helpful. God bless you!

[@battleworthfighting]

Great share

[@pbfloyd5757]

Wow. That's encouraging!!! Thank you so much!

[@fgbowen]

What a blessing this video is.

[@mentorsgarden969]

Great message!! I am so blessed to hear this insightful teaching

[@dianedemarino3908]

Dr. Cloud thank you so much for your videos .

[@vernakroeker2330]

Thanks for that encouragement!

[@bevsofroniuk1193]

Thank you!!

[@karenjones2708]

When is Dr. Cloud coming back on his daily shows I mean is he off for three months or is this it will he be back I enjoy watching the daily shows but what I’m saying is repeat that are made into shorts which are wonderful but I am wanting to call and I have been trying for a year I’m not sure when I can do that the time is wrong I live in Indiana I would really like to speak with him just for a minute so I will keep trying I try every day. God bless

[@baobeixiaozhuzai]

👍👍👍Thank you

[@yolandevanzyl8475]

My son is homosexual, we have an open relationship and as a parent I have no other option but to forgive and to love my child... please help me understand how I can uphold my faith and still be a good parent 😪

[@yolandevanzyl8475]

My moral values are crashing...it goes against everything I ever believed.

[@judyi799]

you are a good parent. You have forgiven your son and you are choosing to love him. You are not responsible for his decisions. The Lord understands. In the name of Jesus, I pray that your son be set free from the spirit of homosexuality and be filled with the spirit of God. May God give him a new heart and a new spirit in Jesus Christ.

[@robinsmith4499]

After being abused by my brother in law who got caught by his wife (my sister) I had to set boundaries. The abuse started when I was 13 yr.there were 4 more women from the church that he had what he calls friendly female relationships. I am the evil sister living in sin because I accept his moment of yelling I AM SORRY. But accountability for years of abuse continues is hasn’t been deal with. There are steps for biblical healing after abuse. My brother in law explained I would never ruin his reputation. I live in a different state and live and have no contact with any of them. I believe in forgiveness with ACCOUNTABILITY.

[@Lightonahill25]

Im so sorry for what you went through. Find a safe competent person to help you deal with the pain, you were not wrong.

[@noreenstarck992]

You were young and a child. You are innocent. You need healing and strength and receive God's love and grace. Take care of you . ❤️

[@noreenstarck992]

Your brother in law is a sick man and this is trauma and this is against the law. It's outright Rape. You need to have strong Boundaries and an Order of Protection against him. He raped you and brainwashed you repeatedly . You need Jesus as your Savior and Lord. I am sorry you weren't protected. I'm sorry your Mom didn't protect you or your Dad. You were a child. Where was your Mom? You need deliverance, healing , counseling , and Christian Fellowship. ✝️ Amen.

[@judithrossouw807]

Dear Dr Cloud, please help. I havehad a horrific life with lots a d lots of losses. I am now struggling to trust God.....

[@godnuggets9148]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@marinatherincourt7368]

Thank you

[@user-kl1kf4wy9k]

Less difficult than the Machivalian imposed actuality invading one's essence-whoaaaa.

[@user-kl1kf4wy9k]

Dr. Cloud listen to T.D.Jakes song on Grace.

[@user-kl1kf4wy9k]

I internalized seeing you again😅.

[@user-kl1kf4wy9k]

Wait until I tell you about my 6 month Encounter resurrection . My parents, grandparent, uncles, aunt(?) are deceased, the rest are relative accepted Clones on paper in the Illery Warren-IDA., Conflict 🙄.

[@vynedvyne59]

He is perfecting…..pheu

[@cypresstreemic2001]

free will isnt true cuz God is 1 and his purpose is eonian and not eternal like it was changed to over 190 times in 150 ad by the latin transcribers of pauls letters because it didnt fit their fore-ordained ideas of free will and earthly pursuits and making up hell doctrines and again free will instead of God's doing errythang including their disbelief haha ps in store for the sequel it all is and a comedy of errors on purpose for character creation hehe

[@djmar1027]

I am a very regular follower of yours and try to learn everything I possibly can from you but the one thing I ask is that you don’t buy into the bearded men that look like beasts instead of humans. It is really disgusting to us, particularly as women. Please take the time to shave. Just reference back to the greatest generation of all time after after the war and how clean cut those men always were, including my father who worked as a contractor. Thank you.

[@pattyduerr1168]

Thank you for helping us through the journey of life, your calm voice and loving approach to life is really helping me through these dark challenging days as the darkness grows stronger and the hope of our Savior draws near..you just know how to simplify the complications and anchor our minds. God be with you

[@hope46sf]

Thank you!!