STORYTIME: I LEFT MY NARCISSISTIC/ TOXIC RELATIONSHIP

[@gabbyrodriguez8977]

It’s like the season finale ! 😱

[@ephiemarie6821]

Uu

[@SongbirdSoulxo]

No one understands the trauma bond with a narcissist unless they experience it. Studies have shown that chemically, your brain experiences a withdrawal comparable to drug withdrawal.

[@TexasGirl-Z71]

Facts that’s exactly how it feels!

[@saharvarona]

Going through it right now. The trauma bond is so strong; doesn’t help that i have anxious attachment too

[@cierrafriend2185]

Giving people the benefit of the doubt too often is self-harm.

[@anastasiazinnecker1855]

Dear Dakota, I am currently on and off in a very toxic and unhealthy relationship. It is not easy and I constantly hate on myself for going back to him again and again. Thank you so much for sharing your story. You make me feel like I'm not alone and I'm not the only one struggling with this. You give me strength to not text him back, to not pick up the phone when he calls, and not let him in when he shows up. Thank you so much, you've helped me more than you know.

[@saharvarona]

Hi anastasia.. i’m on a similar boat (not really on and off but ive had many cries and break-up convos with myself). I hope you’re free now… ❤

[@EricaChavira-on4oz]

It’s 5:38 in the morning and I’m literally sitting here crying, I was in a relationship so similar to yours, it was honestly like you were talking about the relationship I was in. I have been no contact since February 17 of this year and it has gotten easier but I still struggle. No joke, I heard you talking about the most recent Valentine’s Day and you compared it to the first Valentine’s Day with your ex. I had not thought about that until you said it out loud, it made me think about the difference between our first Valentine’s Day and our last and it was so completely different… it was literally like night and day, It’s really sad when I think about that but at the same time, that thought helps me to keep moving on. Thank you for this video. ❤

[@marissasauceda3759]

I’m actually so mind blowed, it’s like the universe sent me this video. I was in a 4 year toxic/narcissist relationship. And while we were going through are break up, my mom was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer and now has passed. But for the longest he tried and still tries to contact me and I would go back. Crazy how this world works, my soul knew I needed this.

[@liciaandrea9789]

Literally everything you said was sooo spot on & such an ‘amen’ moment for me. When I cut him off & all access & wasn’t checking for him, I felt greattttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt, but I slipped up & let him come back around after telling me he really wanted it to work & blah blah blah, just for him to play the same games & make me out to be the bad guy for calling him out on his shit. It’s time to cut ties again for good, it’s been on & off for 7 years, nothing will ever change, I don’t love him anymore , don’t want to be married to him, don’t want kids with him, he appreciates me when I come through for him at that moment but when I’m not available he then tells me I’m unreliable, can’t count on me for shit, it’s exhausting, it’s like bro, I gave u the out, the door is open to leave , I tell u to go, leave me alone, yet u continue to stay & play the same gamessssssss, we are 29 when the hell are u going to grow up.

[@michelletess1670]

Its so crazy hearing someone else’s experience with a relationship like this. Ive been going through this for 6 years with the man I have a kid with and one on the way… I always feel crazy when I try to describe it to people and I do feel most people have a hard time understanding it. Theres just not enough awareness on people like that and the mental and emotional abuse, which can be just as damaging as physical abuse. You tie in narcissism, oh boy talk about a clouded mental roller coaster. And people always looked at me like a bimbo for constantly going back after horrible things done and said, even after promising myself that time was the last time. Id get so many people involved trying to get help for my sanity yet would then forgive and jump right back in. It was so depressing knowing I couldn’t figure out how to get away. Months would pass of separation and somehow i always gave in…why? Because it all lies within us, ourselves. I realized there’s something in me that needs some self care. It was like I was prisoner chained to this person. It was so obvious all the signs, all the actions, all the manipulation tactics But def took some soul searching to just finally stick it out. Its a loooong process of healing. Its motivating hear your story, that Im not alone, that there are people who get it. Because it can feel very lonely.

[@alaina7483]

Y’all get this video to 100k this young lady is so brave and she is trying to help you learn from her mistakes. So glad you got to heal Dakota! ❤

[@Cece-wx8cy]

I wish i could have heard this in high school… I’m so grateful you shared this and how you grew from it. We must be energetically aligned bc this is exactly what i needed to hear today, thank you for sharing ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@triplegemini3]

It should be a class that we all take in high school

[@sarcastic_something]

I've struggled with addiction & was in a emotionally abusive relationship and can confirm that withdrawals are eerily similar!

[@arfanqurban3577]

Take care, stay happy stay motivated 🤗💙

[@brianaschlagel]

I wish I would’ve seen this when I was younger. You’re so wise and a beautiful soul, Dakota. God bless you and your daughter. Merry Christmas!

[@justmeashley7923]

Literally going through the cycle right now. It’s never ending but when you’re in deep and you really do love that person, it’s sooooo hard to say no.

[@aleigha_mm]

Frr:(

[@diamondtocurtee6648]

it is..

[@92tilinfinityy]

same :( but we have to be strong

[@lizasmit1468]

Thank you so much for sharing this difficult painful part of your life! You are so brave

[@mariahg2208]

My mom had this type of relationship with my dad. She got out too

[@allisonq12345]

I’ve watched all your videos. I just got out of my 1 year abusive relationship. It was so hard at first but I’m so happy it happened. It truly gets better. When you think about missing them remember all the bad memories and things they did to you.

[@LifewithSerena0323]

You’re such a beautiful soul Dakota. I think you should pick a career as an inspirational speaker. It’s true when you’re done with a narcissist you will be done. Merry Christmas to you and your family.

[@andrealuna6975]

This has to be my favorite video that you have done to date. You were so transparent and relatable in every way. I feel ANYONE who watched this video can take your advice and apply to an aspect in their lives whether not it’s personal growth of some form or in a relationship. Keep doing what you’re doing, it’s great and I wish you allllll the success in the world ♥️♥️♥️

[@alexistaylor496]

DAKOTA!! I love all of your stories but this one is by far my favorite. You have so much wisdom and growth. It is truly inspiring.I can tell you are such a pure and genuine person. I know we would be besties if we ever met in person because I’m a lot like you. I got a lot of useful information from this video and plan to rewatch it and take notes. Thanks a million sis! Continue to do what you do. It’s always right on point 🎯

[@xKailaxXx]

It makes me feel better knowing it took you 2 years to get over him because it’s been a year and a half for me, and i can finally feel myself moving on. For the longest time though i felt weak and confused and wondering why it was taking me so long when it obviously didn’t affect him as deeply as it did me.

[@mediocrebankai]

Six years girl, five years since I separated from him and he STILL sent me a merry Christmas text after I said I wanted nothing to do with him. They definitely have favorites.

[@Rampen26]

You are so powerful Dakota 😭💕🙏🏻! This story hits home! I had a narcissistic love like that! Now I am engaged to the love of my life that treats me like a queen! Love this growth for us 💕💕💕 I can’t wait until I see your journey till you blow up and find the love of your life babe!

[@r91oxann]

I remember going through this because at one point my ex made me feel like no one wanted me except him he made me feel like I was never good enough for anyone. I had to learn how to love myself again

[@ohthatsti]

You stay speaking FACTS! 💯

[@jasminaj3682]

Girl you are such a force for good ❤️ I would love that video on placeholders!

[@charlottemumma6152]

Thank you for the energy you put in the world

[@emilyward4388]

Typing out a letter and never sending it actually does work so much!!! I did this with my ex un intentionally and he was definitely my twin flame but also my karmic relationship at the end of it all.. I still have love for him but I had to let him go because I knew he wasn’t good for me & he needed to get his life together & I felt that he was dragging me down with him & I typed a few long messages to him on different occasions and had every intention on sending them but was waiting for the right moment in the day & I would just never get the guts to send it.. 2 of the messages are still saved in my notes to this day because I had previously planned to copy and paste it from there to send it to him. But it ended up just being therapeutic never sending them but being able to let it all out & go off lol

[@jazziegurl09]

I love you girl. Preach those facts I love hearing you speak. Thank you so much

[@discovr4me]

Truly great video! Thank you! Just kept finding myself nodding as you talked. 💗

[@TheDayShines]

yaaas girl, i’m so excited for the video!🥰🥺

[@9TheDream6]

Word of advice , when you give the cat away , you give all your power away. I’ve been in many relationships and whenever I was intimate with them before marriage they treated me terribly. When I actually waited and didn’t give the cat away I wound up getting married to a great man a year later. When you don’t connect your cat to the man you are able to think clearly and asses is this man the one I want for my life ? He has to work to reach your standard. When you give the cat before marriage you will have to work to meet his standard Bc he already got the best thing he could from you. Sad but true and if they want to get in the box they should be willing to accept the consequences of that lovemaking. As women we need to stop giving men what they want without marriage so our children can grow up with fathers in their life.

[@jessieschatz9611]

So true.. Time to get my power back! 😭🙌🏽

[@heathergross2238]

Dakota I GENUINELY want to thank you for everything you have helped me through! You have taught me so much and I still continue to learn more and more with every single video/podcast. 🤗❤🤗 *You're the real MVP and my Pisces QUEEN!!!* Sending love and positivity to you and Aubrey from Ohio!! 💖💖💖

[@SaraLovesTea]

I have never been this early but just wanted to say.. ur adorable & so inspiring. I love your story times & somehow I can relate to all your experiences. Ur an amazing woman Dakota 💜💜🙌🏼

[@ScarfaceKJ]

It’s so crazy how much I can relate to this Adrian story

[@arfanqurban3577]

Take care, stay happy stay motivated 🤗💙

[@magiquealley]

Yes girl…I feel you so bad. Words cannot explain. It feels awful and you come out a DIFFERENT person. I literally feel like the “I forgot that you existed” Taylor swift song. That’s a celebrating song. Love it. If you haven’t listened to it you have to !!! It describes your feelings about Adrian to the T

[@simplykennady9809]

I’m so proud of you and how far you’ve come❤️ keep growing and blooming, love youu💕💕💕✨

[@mlkeller94]

i just discovered your channel today and may I say my narc and your narc must be twins! smh can somebody say cruel to the bone!!! thank you so much for this series its helped me greatly!

[@thepragmatist]

This is a great video. Thank you.

[@angierey73]

You look BEAUTIFUL!!! Thank you for this over one hr video ... Merry Christmas 🎅 to you and yours, D!!!

[@arfanqurban3577]

Take care, stay happy stay motivated 🤗💙

[@luminescentnymph1940]

36:44 That’s interesting 2020 was vibrationally the year to walk away if you feel like a doormat.

[@arfanqurban3577]

Take care, stay happy stay motivated 🤗💙

[@arfanqurban3577]

God give u peace

[@biollahiamutiti3852]

Well done man, Proud of you 👏

[@casidyaanastacya7139]

the way that i needed to hear this rn. thank you so much❤️

[@arfanqurban3577]

Take care, stay happy stay motivated 🤗💙

[@arfanqurban3577]

God give u peace

[@victoriaxbeck]

i’ve cried with you too. this has been amazing.

[@arfanqurban3577]

Take care, stay happy stay motivated 🤗💙

[@arfanqurban3577]

God give u peace

[@noeliaguirre-olivas4269]

First time watcher! This was a great video and I will definitely be taking some of this advice 💯

[@klaudiazyskowska8129]

GIRLL l was about to DM you asking for another video ❤🥰 merry christmas and a happy new year to you and your beautiful daughter 🥺🥺

[@GodStillTalks]

New subscriber so glad I did.... Good things come to those who wait, Blessings!!!

[@RaventheChaosDeathWitch420]

I really needed to see this video 💚 thank you for sharing 🙏💜

[@arfanqurban3577]

Stay happy stay motivated 🤗💙

[@natascha9568]

Damn Girl this video just helped me on a whole new level. I just... thank you! 💗 You're amazing 🥰

[@klaudiazyskowska8129]

This is so relatable to my ex 😭😭

[@arfanqurban3577]

Stay happy stay motivated 🤗💙

[@arfanqurban3577]

God give u peace

[@tavillan30]

Just done a live with u n u actually read my comments. Omg luv u lots gorgeous. Sisters forever

[@janessasedano]

Place holder ugh yes so much truth I wish I knew some of this stuff when I was younger

[@arfanqurban3577]

Take care, stay happy stay motivated 🤗💙

[@arfanqurban3577]

God give u peace

[@chubbybird8378]

you are a god sent! thank you so much!!!

[@diamondtocurtee6648]

going through the cycle right now.. trying so hard to leave

[@jacquelinelombard2909]

Luv u so much, you’re such an powerful women 🤍

[@hopenichols-toran4497]

New sub 😁 but I totally felt this story speaking VOLUMES to me.

[@DakotaaCross]

I’m so happy this resonated with you ! Thank you for this comment and the support it truly means the world to me ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@arraethescorpio9787]

We love you girl

[@KeelyJanelle]

30 minutes in and wow did I need to hear all this….. it’s like you made this video for me. I can literally relate to EVERYTHING. Currently in a toxic and narcissistic relationship…… 😅 Pray for me I find a way to pay my way out of here!

[@deshuliahhooks8893]

Praying for us both🙏🏽❤️‼️

[@arfanqurban3577]

Take care, stay happy stay motivated 🤗💙

[@arfanqurban3577]

God give u peace

[@alaina7483]

Girl my ex lowkey didn’t take me anywhere :) so now I can go anywhere!!! ❤

[@chefsnichte]

I love your story times ❤️❤️❤️

[@Margret-kisakye]

I shared some of signs of anarcissist on my channel. Sorry about this

[@oliviamiranda5201]

Hi girl love your shirt 💕💕 merry Christmas 🎁🎄 beautiful

[@lifewithnatasha0]

Hii 🙂👋🏻 question what do you use to edit your videos?

[@aestheticpixels]

It's the Iroh quote for me

[@nanabanana6355]

garbage truck giving signs of getting rid of that toxic person

[@DakotaaCross]

I will never argue with someone who wears stockings with a dress and thinks that looks Good. The pilgrims called and they want their outfit back lmfao GIRL BYEEE

[@bethventuresx8283]

@@DakotaaCross sorry you interpreted her in this way, but there’s a literal garbage truck at 40:46 that she was saying is symbolic of you getting rid of the toxic person from your life...She wasn’t calling you a garbage truck :/

[@Heyyshani]

I’m currently reading a book called Let That Shit Go but now I’m going to have to check out unfuck yourself

[@hellomeansgoodbye8026]

What happn3d to Amanda? Did she keep the baby? In only a few minutes in but I'm just curious

[@victoriaxbeck]

you are so beautiful dakota

[@oxykxtten]

ily💕

[@triplegemini3]

I call it the "ick list" ;)

[@WizageAndStyle]

You look sooo pretty, and a little different. Something changed? 😊

[@terri1455]

Not trying to be rude but I’m wondering after you left Adrian Did you ever really move on ? I mean did you get married or had kids ?

[@DakotaaCross]

Yes, fully. I'm completely healed and moved on from him and have been in other happy relationships since. im currently single but you don't have to be married or have kids to be happy/ moved on

[@vanessasaucedo7885]

Am I the only one curious what Amanda did with the baby? Not judging but genuinely curious 🤔

[@she--]

omg.

[@oxykxtten]

first comment ?

[@mujercelestial]

Never. And I mean NEVER have I ever cried during a KZbin video. But Dakota you’ve opened my eyes to so many things relating to my trauma and self worth that I’ve never been able to see. You’re helping so many people by making these videos. Thank you so much. Even though the relationship aspect doesn’t apply to me now, the inner healing aspect and self realization touched me in a way nothing ever has. Thank you for that.