Straight Talk: Forgive and Forget?

Is it possible to forgive if you don't totally forget? The Straight Talk panel had a lot of opinions on that!
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[@capishdyu]

“When you don’t forgive a person, it’s like your drinking the poison waiting for them to die” that’s DEEP and so true

[@natalierosamond5172]

Nelson Mandela said it first

[@kimtodd4490]

Wow mr harvey never heard it put that way before but it makes perfect sense to me thank you

[@menslifelessons9981]

Once I finally forgave my ex, this quote made so much sense.

[@underwaterdoggie]

Forgiveness is a good thing. But you can't just forget some things. The first lady commenting had it on the dot. You can't let people take advantage of you because you are willing to forgive.

[@berylmoige4521]

It is very easier for me to forgive than to forget

[@Jay-jb2vr]

@@berylmoige4521 if you can't forget, then you can't forgive

[@BraveStars]

@@Jay-jb2vr Thats not true. You will never forget but you forgive to remove the weight from you're heart. You forgive for you not the other, thats you're healing!

[@granturomiso05]

@@BraveStars it's in the bible gotta forget it as well with forgiving

[@BraveStars]

@@granturomiso05 Try it, see if it works! You are a human being and therefor imperfect. God asks us to forgive to receive healing and peace but as long as we exist in our human shell we wont always be able to forget. A man or woman that forgives the murderer of their child does so to receive peace, to be able to cope with the loss and pain but it goes much deeper then that. Its the capability to understand that we are no better then the ones God asks us to forgive. We are all capable of doing horrible things.

[@eboogieex18x]

There’s a difference between acceptance and approval. You can accept another’s mistakes or wrong doing but that doesn’t mean you have to approve of it. You can still move on without allowing someone to repeatedly let you down.

[@mariammtrawally6749]

I love the first lady respond

[@gorgainde1978]

I agree with u.are u gambian Maria trawally

[@capishdyu]

Agreed 👌🏾

[@mariammtrawally6749]

@@gorgainde1978 I'm a Liberian not gambian

[@gorgainde1978]

@@mariammtrawally6749 oh that's good we are all the same people

[@gorgainde1978]

We have so many things in common .gambians names an surnames

[@saquoiag]

I loved how Steve uses his platform to talk about Christ! He never comes off as arrogant or, rude. He just honestly and openly talks about what he’s passionate about and, how it impacts his life. Love you Steve!

[@egreaves2690]

Steve told a story about being homeless. He said he told God if he ever made it big he'd tell everyone about God's goodness and mercy. He's living up to his promise to God.

[@jesufreaks]

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[@rambo8218]

Boy has he got you Buffaloed.... The man is involved in eastern religion... Not Christianity

[@ATrueLoveOfficial]

Forgiving others is a favor you do for yourself because it help you move forward. Forgive others, but never forget the lessons you learned.

[@mweleme]

Forgiveness means one thing and one thing only: Don't pay back. Don't hit the other cheek. That's all there is to it. Don't wish evil for the other guy.

[@rubycalabrese6548]

💯 💯

[@thepriestess5969]

Mouthful

[@ultramusiq5507]

In other words be a door mat.

[@aprilchow-chee5281]

Exactly

[@lisas8080]

Well put from the first lady: forgiving doesn't mean forgetting. To forget could subject you to the same behaviors, mistakes, and outcomes. Remembering enlightens you to create healthy boundaries.

[@HazSut]

The bible says we have to forgive to be forgiven. At times it is hard but prayer changes things.

[@MK-mx8zg]

Amen

[@MK-mx8zg]

Its hard but it feels so good after

[@tooblessedtobestressed1538]

It is so so so so hard for me to forgive and forget.

[@roxannemoser]

I asked someone for forgiveness, and they told me no. I then remembered what God said about that. If they don't forgive, the sin becomes theirs. It lifted a weight off my shoulders, then I just felt sad for her.

[@HazSut]

@@tooblessedtobestressed1538 With God all things are possible. Keep praying. I have been on both sides... Wanting forgiveness and having to forgive. I did not want to forgive the person but when I wanted forgiveness from someone and they didn't want to hear me out I learnt a lot. Praying helps..

[@justruthb]

In a perfect world you forgive and forget. In reality we are human beings...we forgive and we try to move on, but it stays in the back of your mind. You won't cuss a person out every day because of their wrong, either we can live with it, or we can't. And sometimes we just have to let ppl go for our own inner peace.

[@gorgainde1978]

U are smart are you a conflict resolutioner

[@jascruz771]

I truly love this .

[@nidamaybe8046]

Exactly! For me it stills looks not possible to bring myself to forgive this person who had hurt me.

[@s4ndr3x98]

"Forgive but dont forget" my mentor taught me that . In short it means that when you forgive someone you should still remember what they did, so that you don't repeat their mistakes and you don't hurt someone else.

[@maybeso3885]

Might sound okay when it's explained, but when you ask someone to forgive you, and they reply,... "Yeah, but I won't forget!" It really makes you feel like crap, while true forgiveness should bring hope and more happiness... Usually folks who answers in that way, will still carry resentment about you and will likely talk about you. Better to stay clear away from those people, because some things are just not fixable.

[@maybeso3885]

i went off on my thing, but what your mentor said, wasn't bad. He didn't say, don't you... Ever forget that ugly bast...Lolll

[@aprilchow-chee5281]

@Maybe so it's not about the person and how they feel that's asking for forgiveness that's not my responsibility that's theirs also when people hurt you you're entitled to talk about it as long as you live and after because it's part of your story and your healing. Even if you forgive them.

[@reinettagrant9596]

Asking for forgiveness everyday, and forgiving everyday. Thanking God for forging me. I am a working progress.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@tooblessedtobestressed1538]

I forgive but will never forget. I have flash backs and that hurt the most

[@ericcolon3616]

Does it still hurt?

[@dragonrider712]

The number one thing I hope no one who finds themself in a relevant situation never forgets, myself included, is that forgiveness is very much like grief. It takes work and self-reflection, because the pain and emotional uncertainty you are trying to balance against are potentially unhealthy and destructive.

[@monkeyloven]

THE WOMAN IN THE MIDDLE HAS GREAT ADVICE!

[@chapter4444]

To truly forgive it's like it never happened. This is difficult if we are truly honest.

[@Vivacious7913]

Yeah because it is. I don’t completely agree with their explanation, honestly. The human brain does not work like that; neither does the heart. For me to forget=to let go, but don’t forget what it had taught you. If we forget it and they repeat it that would mean that it hasn’t happened before since we were suppose to “forget” the first time that the incident happened. So everytime they do it again should we treat it as if it was the first time?…..so if he/ she constantly repeats whatever they did and we always forget it how are we expected to learn from it if we don’t remember it to stop it from hurting us. To learn from something we have to remember it to do that.

[@christophergarrett7082]

I agree with the first lady.

[@crissycrochets]

Such a strong topic. I was treated terribly repeatedly by my husband and my in laws and they apologized a year later to my husband and not to me and expect me to move on like nothing ever happened because they already spoke to my husband but we are two different people if they want to have a relationship with me then they need to apologize to me. When I tried to have conversations to rectify the situation it ends with excuses and an argument, that doesn’t show ME that they’re sorry and truly understand how their behavior hurt me for so long. If you’re truly sorry the apology shouldn’t come with excuses and negativity. You’re most likely to repeat bad behavior if you don’t understand how you hurt that person. Why should I give them my time if they can’t show me that sorrow? They show it to my husband and not me, I don’t get it. That doesn’t make me feel part of the family because I did nothing to deserve any of that. 🙏🏽

[@gorgainde1978]

If u are to ask for forgiveness from someone u shouldnt talk about the nagitve things that caused your conflict.all u nedd to is to resolve it in a positive way.

[@crissycrochets]

Alpha Alpha exactly I let them know how I was made to feel and there was nothing but yelling, denial, telling me to get over it etc...

[@gorgainde1978]

@@crissycrochets Yea I understand that they use a wrong approach on you so that y they came to know your real color.i know u aren't an easy lady 😂

[@hellohaynes]

I went through the same thing with my husband family when we first met but what pissed me off more than anything was that he was not standing up to them. He just couldn’t disappoint his family which always left me disappointed. Eventually I just realized that I was spinning my wheels for nothing and I forgave them for me. Although he is a great man that is 20% that he just does not have. How they treated me always be in the back of my mind and they will never have full access to me which is their loss. I pray you find a way to forgive as well.

[@crissycrochets]

Alpha Alpha you don’t know me at all and I am a very easy person to get along with.

[@TheRubenGalvan]

You can forgive, but you never forget.

[@DeAngelo77]

Well, then that’s not real forgiveness. But I’m not saying it’s easy. Forgiving is hard enough. Forgetting is almost impossible. That’s a whole different thing, but it goes with true forgiveness.

[@rikanejose2611]

@@DeAngelo77 Let's say I cook for you and put poison on your food then you almost. I ask you for forgiveness later, would you really forget about it and still eat food from me.

[@DeAngelo77]

Rikane Jose That’s not what “forget” means in this context. It’s not that literal. Forgetting does not mean getting Alzheimer’s or trying to erase the instance from your memory. In this context, it means that you live your life without constantly thinking about how you’ve been wronged. It means moving on. Obviously, if someone tries to wrong you again, you should be aware of the history. But don’t keep bringing it up unless they bring it up. Does that make sense? It’s hard to explain.

[@lazyfatferalcatchubby4996]

@@DeAngelo77 it becomes a problem when the person faults them for it. It only becomes a problem when there's anger in that person's heart at the thought of what was done to them. That is not true forgiveness. You can remember what was done to you, but you must not fault them for it and you must not have any anger in your heart towards that person for what they did. You can remember what they did, but you must not care what they did. Saibaidee

[@Jay-jb2vr]

If you can't forget, then you can't forgive

[@claudineokubadejo2621]

It’s so hard trying to forget what my mum did to me growing up. I have forgiven her but I just can’t forget.

[@sleepy-peepy]

You should forgive without forgetting. If you forget, the relationship can never grow or change for the better. You can get cheated on, and forgive your partner, but your relationship can’t go back to being how it was because you decided to forget. That’s how you got cheated on in the first place. When you don’t forget, you can build and learn from what went wrong in the first place, so hopefully it doesn’t happen again.

[@h.peters]

Steve Harvey preaching to us. Amen my brother.

[@MelissaRae1975]

I agree with the 1st gal. You remember for a new line to be made

[@graceyoung3191]

Deep topic! The lady in the middle said it best..." I forgive them for myself" ....I also liked when you said paraphrasing, forgive others so that when you mess up others will mirror the forgiveness to you based on how you have been exercising your forgiveness towards others who have hurt you etc.

[@ariamanfo]

Thanks Steven I really really really needed to hear these words. ❤

[@claudiawaithe3148]

...For the first time in my life, I finally get that part of the Lord's prayer. "For they know not what they do.".. "As we forgive those who trepass against us." 3:00-3:06 and 4:00-4:32. Two strongest points for me. I've been hurt at different levels numerous times. That hasn't changed; but I never could hate the ones who did it to me. Cause I know it'll never do them anything. I take all the time I need to do whatever it takes to heal. But I don't keep those people in my life no more.

[@claudiawaithe3148]

@@Dana_inc I totally get you. Definitely not everyone. I'm in yet another situation due to no fault of my own where I've moved on and cut her out of my life but she's hell bent on staying in it to cause turmoil. I still don't hate her, but I don't like her. And she's pissing me off over a year now. It's a kicker this one. She's cheating on her husband but going through his phone and other people's phone to harass me on the paranoia she constantly feeds herself about her husband revenge cheating with me. And oh yeah. I've prayed and blocked so many numbers; never responding to her but she's asking for it. Do I forgive her? 🤔Ehhhhhh?... I don't think she deserves it. She's not sorry for what she's doing to me. So yeah. For her it's punishment. Severe punishment. That's the only way her type will learn. But thanks for responding to my comment. It's greatly appreciated. And hang in there. Do what's best for your peace of mind.

[@blazeovich]

Steve, thanks for touching on this!

[@SD_Chosen]

Everybody Wants Grace and Mercy Until it's Time for Them to Show it...When They Are wronged, they want Justice, But Want Mercy when they Wrong Someone

[@AKAnoone3]

Stave is great man he didn't talk when the ladys were arguing but they did when he were talking

[@lil_falasteeny1095]

Bruh Steve have a good knowledge for quotes and peoples keep it up man i love you and every single show for you

[@lindamp85]

You can only let go when you let God. And to be able to forget, the person has to show true regret. Otherwise, like first lady said: Boundries!

[@Godlywoman88]

The boundary I set is of a person has repeatedly hurt/manipulated/used/misused me, etc, they aren't welcome around me anymore

[@shatoyiajones13]

There is a difference between forgetting and hanging on to something. Forgive AND do not Forget. Not forgetting doesn't mean not letting go. It means remembering the person's character in this context and the boundaries I need to set in the future. I don't forget not because I'm bitter and I'm hanging on but because I'm better and moving forward with you in my life more carefully so you don't pull the rug from under me and I don't have to repeat this situation for me to learn to establish these boundaries with you.

[@paulettehammond-duerson8989]

Steve, I can forgive, I struggle with the forget part. I have a long list of names that have done me wrong. I am sure I may be on a few people's list as well. The problem with the forget part, to me is, the people that wrong me expect things to go back to the way things were, and they never will. When they can't go back, the first thing they want to say is "But you forgave me." OR. "I thought you forgave me" They expect you to go back and the same fool you were before their wrong deeds" To me forgiveness means, Okay, I am not going to hold on to it, I'll let it and you go.

[@imntsckimntwell8301]

Forgetting isn't letting go of the events of your life. If we don't acknowledge when we've survived life and what not, then cannot ever truly be who we are! I don't ever want to forget where I've been, however I've forgiven much!

[@aboktv6055]

Forgive yes, forget the pain, anger, frustration associated with the issue yes but never forget the lessons learnt.

[@shawndyer7860]

Steve preaching... Real talk.

[@charleshurstreinvention3959]

You can let go without forgetting. This week for my own subscribers I talked about forgiveness and kindness--and how it makes you better. In a nutshell forgiveness eventually sets you free--as the adage states. But what they don't tell you is it doesn't just happen the second you try it. And yes there are some things that may be unforgiveable. But the important thing--for you is that you try. Most who are trying to reinvent their lives were placed in dire lives to begin with because of the past. And people in their past. So how do you accomplish my awesome advice above you say. By practicing it daily. For me it went back and forth--for years. One day they would be forgiven then the next day they weren't. But I kept mentally disengaging the anger. And one day it just let go. We all have different beliefs on what is beyond our lives. My hope is that some sort of afterlife exists where all of the people that warred with each other--are now friends living in peace. Hope this helps someone here.----Charles

[@User-zzyyxxvv]

Forgiveness is to free your mind from resentment and bitterness. If you have not let go, then you have not forgiven. Doesn’t mean what was done to you was ok, but you’re acknowledging that you are no longer a slave to that memory and the feeling it brings. Forgetting is a big part of it. The memory will come to you of course you can’t stop it. But if you’re relieving the pain, anger and all those feelings whenever the memories are back, then you have not forgiven. You’re still trapped. Forgiveness is the ultimate freedom

[@miachapman9528]

Right now I don't know if I am capable of forgiveness after the betrayal I recently received. I am trying so hard to forgive him for my own peace of mind, for my own heart. I need to let go and move on from this betrayal but I don't know where to start.

[@maggiemartinez6285]

I know how you feel. My husband has betrayed me as well. It’s hard to forgive and forget so I have decided to seek counseling and go back to church. I know my husband loves me but he has issues as well. He has decided to go to counseling as well. We also decided to go to couple’s counseling. This is very important to me. We all have issues and need to learn how to move forward happy and healthy. Love is patient and love is kind. Hope your situation has gotten better. God bless you.

[@sheilarobles3679]

I've already been hurt by a family member. I thought I had forgiven them. But after this maybe I hadn't. But I learned a lot from this. Thank u so very much.Love always sis Sheila.

[@SD_Chosen]

I Hope God Gives You Strength to Truly Forgive 🙏 It is Tough, But With God All Things Are Possible

[@cherylnsanders9712]

Go'head Steve! ❤🎉😮 Teach about the Power of Forgiveness.

[@cookieruiz9971]

🙌🏼 God knows everything

[@simonchipimo1916]

Brilliant man you Steve!

[@kristenparnamets6115]

ONLY THING YOU HAVE TO DO IS JUST FORGIVE😄😄!!!!

[@candomanrw]

Thank you for the forgiveness. I forgave the people in my book FIGHTING FOR LIFE AND JUSTICE. I forgave others after watching Tyler Perry/Dr.Phil. and Steve Harvey with awesome ladies. God bless you all. Amen.

[@constanceansu3493]

this is such a great segment.. realtalk

[@rubycalabrese6548]

I agree with the first lady. Let me add though...Forgiveness Does Equal Reconciliation. It's possible to forgive someone in your heart, free them from the debt of wrath... and move on with the rest of your life without them in it, but wishing them well.

[@lotus9865]

Lemme ask you this. Does God forgive us for himself?... And if God forgave us for our sins and "moved on" without us in his lives would you be happy about that?

[@rubycalabrese6548]

@@lotus9865 No, but he would be completely justified. The point of forgiveness, by means of Christ dying on the cross was to make Son's of Men, now Son's of God. Man's forgiveness does nothing of the sort, but we should still forgive out debtors.

[@lotus9865]

@@rubycalabrese6548 this is true forgiveness, forgiving someone and attempting to keep them in your life. Did Jesus forgive Mary Magdalene and wish her well? Watch this and it may change your perspective on forgiveness. kzbin.info/www/bejne/pWOleoePYpiAppY

[@rubycalabrese6548]

@@lotus9865 God makes provisions for divorce or relational seperation because he knows and empathizes with the pain man endures when someone sins against them. When this relationship ends God does not count it as "being unforgiving". Because forgiveness is a condition of the heart. Not a condition of circumstance. Otherwise, he would have not allowed us ANY grounds for a letter of Divorce While there is no commandment to keep the one who sinned against you in your life. We are commanded to forgive them in our hearts and if you if you feel convicted to reconcile and remain in that relationship, there is no commandment against it.

[@SD_Chosen]

It is Truly Up to the Person and the Situation If Reconciliation is Possible...Different Strokes for Different Folks.

[@WuzGoldEvans]

Thankyou Steve Harvey

[@peterchileshe9760]

Forgiving is good but I must admit forgetting is so hard but as a Christian one always has to remember that none of us are perfect and Human Beings will disappoint you in life..So..thats my take

[@cnsummers4086]

Amen

[@annkreutzer9519]

My mother always told me "We are commanded (biblically) to forgive. God is the only one who forgets." I've never forgotten that.

[@BraveStars]

You will never forget but, a truly heartfelt apology can go a long way.

[@Dev_599]

Became a HUGE Christine Lakin fan from this episode! Didn't even know who she was! Lol 😂❤️

[@dalaniemanning7563]

As I’ve been reflecting on this: I agree that forgive and forget do not go hand in hand. To truly forgive means to fully remember and acknowledge an event or the trauma a person put you through. To forget would dismiss the hurt. But to forgive, you would have to be at peace walking through and reliving everything that occurred during that event or with that person. True forgiveness is not forgetting but rather remembering and having a deep understanding of what happened and feeling peace in your heart once you’ve worked through the process. To completely forget can only happen with a trauma response which is why reliving and exposure to the trauma in small amounts must occur in order to heal from trauma and ultimately forgive what or who broke us.

[@kennethlafleur1378]

Wow I needed that

[@MsRae-ev9hs]

I don't do well with forgiveness so I just end up dismissing the person go ENTIRELY. I can't love them anymore if I can no longer trust them.

[@diadiaa892]

STRAIGHT TALK👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@sunitafisher4758]

🌸 I forgave and forgot because I wanted to move on freely without pain & scars It doesn’t mean I can be fooled twice and I am stronger & better than I was yesterday

[@algraham9003]

It all depends on what you are forgave and forgot. I could never forgive and forget if my wife cheated on me because I would also lose trust in the relationship and when you lose trust it take too long to get it back and it will always play in the back of your mind. I could forgive a friend that kissed my girlfriend but not my wife.

[@sarahbodo9592]

thanks steve love you

[@katSupaStar]

It sounds really nice and makes it easier to do when you think of forgiveness being about you. But the truth is that it's not all you about you. It's an intrinsic benefit to everyone. Forgiveness is simply the right thing to do, and because it is the right thing to do everyone wins: God, the other person, and you. It may not be easy, they may not even accept the forgiveness, but ultimately it brings healing to the whole situation and everyone affected (even onlookers). It's one of the purest demonstrations of authentic Love. To forgive is to be like God.

[@maryalabi9255]

I love how you put it @Katsuperstar. Very well said. 👍

[@shante6855]

I agree, it rolls off the tongue like saying peanut butter and jelly 😂 I always forgive but will never forget. You don’t forget a good lesson; if you do than you’ll repeat the same situation over and over.

[@nancycaballero2297]

I have forgiven to be able to move ahead, to forget I'm already starting to work on that, it's best to release the heart, mind and soul and refresh your self with positive thinking.

[@steph_steph876]

Everyone may not agree but I think it depends on the nature of the relationship and moving forward. If it is an intimate relationship or friendship or family then to truly move forward you have to forgive and forget otherwise it makes no sense to move ahead in that relationship. If however its other people that somehow are not really crucial in your life and they have wronged you, you have to set some boundaries because they might be out for you (you never know) and I think that what the 1st lady was trying to say. You need to remember so you can know where you stand with that person

[@shekinahglory9150]

Amen!

[@belunu4980]

Forgiving heals and helps us to move on. God wants to do it for ourselves, for our healing. GOD can take over only after we let go. But forgetting and petting back a snake that almost killed you, that is not right. GOD also says that revenge belongs to HIM. And in my life GOD has always disciplined those who harmed me. I’ve seen it happening again and again. Steve is truly my mentor. He speaks words of wisdom every time he opens his mouth. A man of God.

[@patrickneuve2454]

Amen!

[@ZadeMeadowsLittleMouse]

Amen!!

[@dambora2539]

You are the best ever

[@osmanabdikadir8884]

Steve you are the best

[@RepentAndBelieve1437]

Honestly bitterness brings sickness.

[@renegade637]

When I grew up, I got the impression that forgiveness was going to the person and telling them that you forgave them. However, when Christine said, "When someone wrongs you, you don't forgive them for them, you forgive them for you," then the forgiveness is letting go of what they did wrong and not holding a grudge. Obviously, you can't help if you have flashbacks to that event. Plus, I'm sure you'll think twice about entrusting them under the same circumstances again. But, you're not holding onto the grudge on a daily basis.

[@lifeisbeautiful9455]

I lost my mother to domestic violence and she was 39 and he’s still living his best life but he took her from us then my sister and brother passed too! Once again he was the result of that so it’s hard but it took me a long time because I thought I was going to be next but I got away from him because he was abusive. So no father should treat his daughters or wife that way. All he did was use us and he never provided or worked. He had issues with his mother and hates women.

[@printsphinx257]

I'll forgive but I won't forget the patterns that caused me to feel discomfort or sadness

[@NickDopeMan]

"Forgive but don't forget, girl keep ya head up." - Tupac

[@nadamatti2490]

God bless you man, you are a real Christian ❤️

[@abigailbrown2074]

I agree with the last lady. Whether we like it or not we need to forgive and forget. It is a hard task and sometimes we may struggle but it’s what God would want. There’s this song by Helen Baylor, “Into the sea of forgetfulness you placed all of my sins for I’m the one who keeps reminding you over and over again.”Y’all should listen to it. It’s actually a really nice song.

[@nicholassinggih6678]

Here's the logic - In order for someone to really forgive, they must actually REMEMBER what they're forgiving for. If by some accident, or due to amnesia, a person forgets an offence, then they really haven't forgiven anything. Because once the memory comes back, they will definitely get hurt/offended/angered again. On the contrary, the action of forgiving actually happens when someone - despite of still feeling the hurt and pain - CHOOSE to FREE the offender from all debts or penalties. So, even though Steve Harvey's words sound beautiful - he's not correct. Imagine this scenario: A poor man only has $10 in his account, he took that ten dollars out from the ATM to buy food. Another man comes and snatched that ten dollars from him. He was sad and angry, and for two days only ate left over food from other people. On the third day, it was announced that he won the lottery and got $10M. A month later, he was interviewed - and in the interview he shared about the robbery and said that after he moved in to his new apartment he's finally forgiven the man who stole his ten dollars and wish him well. A year later, the man got bankrupt again due to his gambling addiction. He was left with a ten dollar note on the street. Then the same incident happened, where someone snatched the note off his hand. Then he got really angry and chased that robber. He found out that it was the same man who stole his money from before. He got really mad and start abusing him. Do you think that real forgiveness has been given? But when someone was betrayed or abused by a family member, but when they choose to not not berate nor inflict punishment even though they're still hurt or saddened, that's when forgiveness happens. Forgiveness happens one tiny instance at every time someone remembers the pain and suffering inflicted upon them yet they chose to not ask for retribution.

[@masoumeh416]

actually, the idea of forgiving and forgetting is always confused. - 1) when you FORGET - there is nothing to forgive... 2) but when you FORGIVE - you might not necessarily forget.

[@asociallyineptstranger409]

Or if you forget and not forgive....you're gonna be mad at them and not remember why and be really confused XD

[@andrematheson8912]

This segment was really interesting

[@rozhyarkamaran7498]

it is true. 👍👍

[@489soldier]

I agree with forgiving and on depending on some circumstances forgetting because I'm pretty sure that mom forgave him but will stil have that memory and that goes to say remembering isn't always a bad thing if you do it in a positive way

[@atikalove9]

There is no forgeting, forgiving rather means acting boundless of the offence. Acting without considering the offence. Now for some people, you cannot act without considering their previous actions, it is called wisdom. At the end of the day, the matter of forgiveness is a necessity to be orchestrated with wisdom.

[@nadirbelguechi5751]

Hello i am from algeria i have see all ur video's steve i love u man 👏👏👏

[@SD_Chosen]

As A Man That Needs Forgiveness for Past Wrongs...I Would Hope That People are Truly Sorry and Repentant, As I Am, And Will Be able to Receive Forgiveness...I Can't Speak for Everyone, But I Truly Regret Things I Have Done, And Anyone Who has Done Anything to Me I Forgive, Without a Doubt, He Who is Forgiven of Much, Loves Much.

[@hectormzqt6169]

Definitely forgive. Definitely don't forget. Life is a trail to learning. To forget is to waste opportunity. 👍

[@motivationalspeech2627]

Beautiful

[@jo-joal3791]

If someone could not forgive me, I would not want to see that person anymore.

[@luvelyjay]

Unless you have Alzheimer’s or memory loss, you can’t forgive AND forget. You’ll always remember the wrong that was done to you by someone but you choose to not let that overshadow everything you have with that person by forgiving them… but you don’t forget.

[@cheyennebastian339]

That's exactly what I was thinking! Cause how can you expect people to just forget it completely? Yes, you can forgive a person who has wronged you for your own sake, but to just forget something completely? If it's a bad memory that has hurt that person, you can't expect them to forget something so traumatic/hurtful. You can't just....extract memories from your mind when (if it's a bad memory) it will always be at the back of your mind. 😅

[@jessleann393]

Now that I am older, I have adopted the stance of, "Lord, I truly hope they eat; just not at my table"

[@marciabrown6216]

Life is a lesson & God is Thy Teacher. Forgiveness is difficult, if you want too keep Peace in your life, well its something that you will have too do. In time, I believe you will forget. We have choices, it is good to tell the person how you feel. Remember, this is if you, if you choose to continue having a friendship. Let them know things will be different & overtime, we can build a new friendship base on Truth. Now remember, your truth & their truth may not be the same, but find common ground, so you can all move on. This has been an interesting year for me, closing many doors. I have no regrets as I told them my Truth of how I feel. Many blessings to all for in 2019. Make it an awesome year. Stay blessed marcia brown

[@misidee]

Mature conversation.

[@SippenSomeTea]

I remeber that episode

[@happygirlgooch1589]

Yesss ladies think bad thoughts 🤣🤣🤣

[@barryp9463]

You need forgiveness daily and even for the bad thoughts

[@maryalabi9255]

Nice one, Steve!. I love your practical christianity, and holding up the principles of Christ in public. God bless you more. Actually, as a Christian too, i agree with forgiveness and Our LORD's prayer, though it's hard. Just that at almost 40, i see a lot of 'woke' people who refuse to 'take responsibility for their lives'...take responsibility for their actions, growing up, opening up themselves to learning daily instead of 'this is how i am' 🙄, and it's putting a lot of pressure on those of us who want to love totally and unconditionally. You get punched like 5 times? From same person(s), you gotta start protecting your heart. I agree that in forgiveness, you forget the anger or bitterness towards the person (just as we receive grace too from God), however, I'm more intentional about protecting myself through some boundaries to avoid these hurts. God bless us all in Jesus' Name. Amen. Always love your shows Steve. 💞

[@cornyconnie.]

The Bible says we should FORGIVE in order to RECIEVE FORGIVENESS!!! Amen

[@rubbishsongcovers]

“Forgive and be free. Forget that you have forgiven and be freer.” - Buddha

[@waheedahsrecipes5004]

Yessss Lord you can’t holed on to it you must forgive for yourself let it go

[@hiswifey2441]

Guy

[@magalysenecharles1901]

I like the first statement so true so true

[@GS-ff5dd]

Uncle steve you have the connections And the money. Can u PLEASE make this format show

[@LauraJohnson47]

The first lady was absolutely correct in other words “she nailed it.”

[@jesufreaks]

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[@daddy8985]

Wow great vid

[@lineage254]

Lady i cant take you seriously with that hair omg hahahahhaha