Struggling With Regrets and the Past

[@katiee5903]

One of the pastors at my church once said, I have never met a strong person with an easy past. Man once I heard that I never forgot it. Not sure if this is something you want to do but I truly think you should start a podcast... yours would be amazing ❤

[@elizabethpierre3185]

A podcast woul be AMAZING!🙌

[@stephaniestephanie4545]

Thank you for sharing what the pastor said.

[@sunnyyoli]

I am about to turn 40 and have realized I wasted SO MANY years obsessing over bad decisions, things I’ve said, etc. Doing so has taken a bigger toll on me than I care to admit. Trust me brothers and sisters, it is NOT worth it! Always look forward.

[@annabellemetzler7345]

This spoken multitudes into my life. It’s time to move FORWARD.

[@emwilss]

I am so glad. Thank you for your comment, Annabelle!

[@stephaniestephanie4545]

Yes! Forward is the way!

[@jadenmontesdeoca7065]

Laying in bed and thinking about some cringy thing I said 4 years ago. -Me when I can’t sleep 😂

[@annan.9966]

"Where is the past? It no longer exists. I can't change the past but I can change the future."

[@TheGeekApprentice]

"I wish I hadn't dated that guy," sounds and seems so cliche until it rings painfully true for you (basically, me). Thank you, Emily!

[@kathrynalexisvillarreal]

I kid you not, this morning I was laying in bed doing just that, regretting the past. I’ve been so hard on myself these past few months over horrible decisions I’ve made and can’t seem to forgive myself. The Lord has really been working on me in this area and this video was a confirmation of that. Much love for you Emily❤️

[@emwilss]

I am right there with you sister. Thank you for this comment.

[@valerielinares2068]

What helps me get over regrets from my past, is that I remind myself to think, or even to say out loud, "what's done is done, there's nothing you can do about it now. No sense stressing over something I can't control." That helps me every single time I begin to struggle with past regrets. It's easier to accept it and move past it if I remind myself, "what's the point of stressing over something I cannot control?" Instead, I take the lessons I learned from that regret, and try to apply them to my present and my future. Sure, I can't control the past, or change past regrets. But, what I can do is choose to do better next time. And I find peace in that.

[@Hue_Haven_Illustration]

The timing of this video is just phenomenal! What an amazing God we've got ❤️ To think of how he works in all of our lives, to align what we need at the right moment, brings tears of gratitude and love into my eyes. God bless you Emily! And Praise be to God!

[@emwilss]

So, so, so, so true. Thank you for this, Sandra.

[@ghmillie3137]

Wow! I was seriously struggling with sadness and regret from my past and this morning, I just clashed. But this message came JUST in time! Praise God, the Spirit is indeed one! Bless you Emily for this!!!

[@NatalieDiamond]

I know what you mean. I use to be the same way- God’s really changed me with that thank goodness. It takes mental practice to prevent your mind from going back to that space; that’s what the enemy wants, mental pain. Thank God for Jesus😊

[@emwilss]

Yes! I have been working very intentionally with this as well. Thank you for your comment Natalie!

[@NatalieDiamond]

Emily Wilson you’re welcome💛

[@faithhopelove9567]

"It's been 84 years..." - and I still remember that moment like it was yesterday ^^'

[@emwilss]

Is this a quote from a movie? :)

[@noemiscortichini6819]

Titanic? 😊

[@nobody-og5tl]

@@emwilss TITANIC

[@faithhopelove9567]

@@emwilss Yes, it's from Titanic ;)

[@kellyreed8599]

Love your analogy that life is like driving a car: the majority of our time is spent looking ahead- FORWARD- with brief glances in the rear view mirror for reflection and remembering.

[@udntknw001]

Regret can be productive too though, it reminds you of your past mistakes that you might could repeat in the future making you more diligent the next time you could maybe make another mistake similar to the ones you've made. The moment you show yourself that you won't repeat the mistakes you've made is the moment you can truly let it go.

[@LittleWaffle]

As always, your timing is awesome, thanks a lot ❤️

[@emwilss]

I am so glad to hear it :) Thanks for letting me know!

[@arnynahjela891]

Emily . Your messages are so timely . It's speaks a lot to my life. Thanks

[@emwilss]

Thank you for letting me know, Arny. Thank you for watching and commenting!

[@NiaMSnow]

I can be my own worse enemy. I overthink about my past mistakes or issues and last night I had a break down. At work, then with the man I'm dating and then at home. I'm up, getting ready to go to the park to get some fresh air and your video came up. I'm taking every single piece of advice from this video. Thank you for sharing THIS insight!

[@mada7393]

God is so big and caring😭I just had a situation today that I wish I could change. It was a teacher who was having a rough day, he couldn’t focus and wasn’t well prepared so he apologized a lot. And I really felt emapthy for him, I’m generally a kind person ( thanks to God 🌷❤️🙏🏻🥰) and I said “we understand you”. You know .. like I genuinely felt sorry for him and I wanted to comfort him in a way “like, it’s ok, we all have days like these..”. But everyone laughed, maybe they thought I was mean and he got super defensive “like, no you don’t cause you’re not in my position” and I felt so bad. I kept thinking I put him in a bad light and I feel so bad, why didn’t I shut up... I’m really hard on myself when I say something stupid.. but God knows my heart, he knows I realy wanted to help him, I made a mistake, I put him in a more uncomfortable situation and I am so sorry. But rethinking and rethinking and reliving this over and over again would not change things. So FORWARD✊💛🤗😍❤️thank you, Em, you’re an angel👼🏻

[@TheFrenzygirl]

Girl, when you started crying...man, this is me!! I really feel you because I get as upset and even depressed about the past that I (obviously) cannot alter

[@BlessedLifeLoveandFaith]

I woke up at 4am today and couldn't sleep until 6am. Throughout that time, I had look back on things I regretted and that was horrible. It lead me to crying. Late night thoughts are real when you can't sleep. ☹ Thank you Emily!! God bless always and I will continue to look forward. Happy first day of Spring!🌼🌻🌼🌻

[@emwilss]

Zion and I were up from 4 to 6 too :) Solidarity!!! Happy first day of spring right back to you, Stacie.

[@Totti2099]

I had a dream about letting go of my past and I was given Philippians 3:12-14 about looking toward the future of what Christ has for me! This video is so timely for me.

[@andyf.5306]

Wow I relate so much! Im also the type of person who dwells on mistakes/missed opportunities of the past and beat myself up for it for YEARS!

[@megalopolis2015]

I have many regrets, but I cling to God's promises and the forgiveness He gives for me. When I finally figured out that I did not have to be perfect all of the time, it was so freeing. The responsibility was no longer mine to bear alone. But there are always things that come up time and again, mostly involving my children. I have to remind myself how I've grown since then, and how my relationship with my oldest in particular has become so much better. My ex is in the past full time, and I see how much it damages his spirit. He says he deals with regret constantly, including the way he treated me. I would hope that one day God kicks his rear and tells him that what he does now is far more important than what happened then. The only day we have is today. By the way, Emily, you have such a generous heart. I have little doubt that your friend or family member feels slighted in any way by you. It is likely that you are the only one carrying that burden. Be kind to yourself and ask God to help you let that go. Many blessings to you.

[@taylorkuriakos1418]

So beautifully said!!! Also I think those thoughts we have about the past are ways that the devil try to distract us from what God wants for us RIGHT NOW

[@margiehalpern4573]

I am a mediator, and I am ALWAYS trying to remind the parties--as they perseverate about who said and did what to whom when--that the only thing any of us can affect is the future. I see how easily they slip back into talking and talking and talking about the past, rather than focusing on whether or not they can figure out a path to resolution. I think I'm going to try saying FORWARD as a reminder to look ahead!

[@annan.9966]

This is wonderful! Can you talk about worrying about the future as a Catholic woman? Thank you so much, Emily!

[@cf4655]

One thing that really has helped me when ugly memories pop into my head, when the deepest darkest regrets resurface and the enemy wants to use them: I say THANK YOU, LORD! You have Redeemed me from my past. My sin is nailed to the cross and the death of Jesus clothes me in white!

[@michalyngret5891]

Thank you so much for posting this video. I recently contacted an old boyfriend who broke up with me 20 years ago. I messaged him on his cell things that I didn’t get to say to him that I wanted to. I am so glad that I did it because it set me free. He married someone 15 years ago and it was heartbreak all over again. Only God can heal my heart. I know that I will love again, but sometimes it is so hard to let go and let God work his Divine Timing. Thank you for the work that you do and sharing your faith and experiences with your viewers.

[@emwilss]

Thank you for sharing, Michalyn. I am so sorry about the heartbreak but am so with you on allowing God to heal. God bless you!

[@michalyngret5891]

Thank you Emily. I really have enjoyed your channel. What I have learned from you is God wants us to be happy and to strive to live like Christ. From this experience, I have decided to go into ministry. Although I currently teach at an all girls Catholic high school, I feel called by God to do more. I have already bought my plane ticket for June to study Ministry in Virginia this summer. So excited!!

[@POLYMATHSORTA]

(1,500) likes, & (3) dislikes. That tells you how high quality Emily Wilson videos are. Respect yo.

[@annaschoen9017]

I am definitely a past dweller. I spend so much time thinking about my regrets and thinking about what would've happened if I did do it. I have especially been thinking like this these last few weeks. Thanks for the video! It was a good reminder to make the effort to let things go and to live more in the present. We are so much more free when we do!

[@brookerawson7286]

I was up late last night thinking about past regrets, then saw this today! God’s timing is great.

[@taylorm.8545]

Something what helps me when I mess up is I say ok, I'm going to learn from this and will do better next time. For a long time I felt like I needed to "punish" myself whether that be verbally or even sometimes physically. But that didn't do anything, that just made me feel worse. In therapy my therapist said to acknowledge it, accept that I made a mistake, and learn to learn from my past mistakes instead of dwelling on them. This has helped a lot in my journey in learning to love myself. God's been working on my heart and I thank Him so much!

[@martinazivai]

Waao! God is really speaking to me. This is the third time I hear someone today talking about letting go off the past, trusting God and forgiveness. I didn't wanted to admit that I was asking for a change, for the chance to forgive myself for such a mess that I'm in right now struggling with the same thing. Thank you so much for being an instrument of God and allowing yourself to be used for Him 😢 I'll do the same! "We don't want to become lazy, but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised" Hebrews 6:12

[@milamarjaana]

You really speak the truth!💗 I've been struggling with guilt and shame from my past. And today this thing has been in my mind. I just clicked on KZbin and this video was on my wall. I think God wanted to lead me to watch this video 😊 Thank you for speaking truth into my life - I really needed engouragement with that right now.💗 Ps. I'm happy that I found your channel. You make very important videos 😊 Greetings from Finland 💗

[@nicholehamilton5844]

Thanks for this video Emily. I was "dating" a guy and made some really bad choices concerning, choices so bad that 3 years later I'm still estranged from my family. And it's sad now because my dad may be sick. I asked my dad for forgiveness, but realize that he doesn't forgive me. It's hard because what if he's dying?For the past 2 weeks I've been living in regret, wishing I never met him at all. It doesn't help that I have to see him at work either. He treats me like trash now even though I'm always cordial toward him. It's such a slap in the face when he treated me so harshly. I wished I had the time stone that Thanos had from Avengers:Infinity War and could reverse time, but I can't. I daily suffer the consequences of one bad decision. Thank you for your word, Forward!!! I definitely need to know my next steps and an crying out to God for direction. I know as I focus on God and keep focusing on Him, He will show me the path to take and redeem the time.

[@jacinta5169]

Forward is the only way to go! Thank the heavens for this message! 😘

[@aprilpruitt5425]

When you mentioned forgiving ourselves, I physically felt a weight lifted off my shoulders. So many times I struggle to ask God’s forgiveness for my sins because I don’t offer myself that forgiveness. Thank you for reminding me to do that. Your videos have been such a blessing to me. 💕

[@danielamarius6065]

thank you for this video. i moved around a bunch when i was younger and i still struggle to this day in friendships. if my past had been any different, i truly wouldn’t be the person i am today

[@Michelle-by9fp]

I needed this so much! Thank you for sharing that you struggle too. I have come a long way, and forgiving myself was the hardest step. But so freeing. Thank you so much and God bless you! Also, what has helped me is telling myself I will learn from the regret. I can change what I do, how I act with people, etc. That's the only way to make change to a regret. I feel like it's grace that God gives us for our mistakes, he works ALL things got our good and His glory.

[@emwilss]

Yes, very very true! Learning from our mistakes is so very important.

[@amberburdick8120]

I love your videos! Love your direct approach and much needed words of truth in society right now. Can you do a video on where to meet Christian men of character? For those in their 30’s? I feel at a loss, since it is rare to find men who have these qualities (even in church), but I believe they are out there.

[@dawnforlife]

Aww...Emily..feel my heart aching when you shared about the wedding thing. Forward Emily..that person has forgiven you. If you had forgiven someone, which you have SO MANY times, be gentle on yourself too. Big hugs! Lovely message again

[@Luci924t]

I am sooo in love with all of your videos Emily! I'm a 17 year old girl from Germany and you're such a great role model to me!! Keep continuing god's good work! Thanks a lot

[@juliam.8147]

Seeing you tearing up on not thanking a person in thr right moment shows me how much of a good heart you have. I hope we all will be able to let go of such memories one day 😊😊

[@kateihlefeldt2117]

I've been thinking about my past a lot for a while now, and I was praying about it, asking God to please help me give up the failures of my past, and move forward. Your video is truly a gift from the Holy Spirit. Thank you so much, Emily!!

[@mykaelahall9740]

Thank you so much for sharing.

[@emwilss]

Thank YOU for watching and commenting!

[@katrinalynn7828]

This was so good. ❤️ ❤️It’s so easy to focus/think on the negatives of our past but we have so much to thank God for & to be looking forward and living more in the present

[@joannabortwaz533]

I agree (: we have so much to thank God for even in our past but we have to keep looking forward and learn from the past

[@charlottemckinley1188]

Thank you for the perfect timing, Emily. I needed this. A few weeks ago I had a rude awakening with a "friend", as in a person who happened to be one of my former CCD classmates older sisters and she was 10 years older than me. I missed her a lot, and I wanted her to be there when I was confirmed next month, so I typed up a letter telling her how I really felt and part of me was thinking it wouldn't be appropriate, but another part of me figured it would be okay, so I emailed the letter to her mom, secretly hoping that my mom wouldn't find out, but 3 days later they were on the phone, and I knew what it was about, and it was NOT pretty. They said that while the letter was beautifully written, it wouldn't have been appropriate, but they understood I was having a hard time moving on from 4 years ago when she lived at home, so I got a referral to a counselor, with whom I am going to start seeing sometime in the next few weeks

[@addie-eileenpaige6460]

Emily, thank you for making this video. I admit that I play the "What If" game or just think, "Why didn't I say that?" Keep up your ministry. If you could, please do a podcast.

[@johannamndzz]

Yesss girl needed to hear this! I was legit realizing yesterday that I still havent forgaven myself for some things I did in the past.... Thank you! God spoke

[@ioanamadalina6109]

Thank you for this video. Its so true what you say about moving foward. We cant change the past but we can repent and learn form our mistakes and try our best not to repet them.

[@sarahsingsforchrist]

This is exactly how social media should be used -- vulnerable and transparent experience communicating truth. Keep up the candor; it is BEAUTIFUL. --> FORWARD!

[@angel.danielle]

Oh my gosh I needed this!!!!! Thank you! ♥️

[@emwilss]

You are welcome! Thank you for telling me!

[@frostedwalnut]

I really needed to hear this! Thank you so much, Emily! Could you make a video about forgiving yourself? I struggle a lot with that!

[@megansiffrin8937]

Thank you, Emily! So nice to know I’m not alone in this struggle and thanks for the advice. Your videos have been getting me through so much.

[@emwilss]

I am so glad, Megan. Wish we could sit and chat in person! Thanks for your comment.

[@prjdghyt]

I am currently feeling regret. And thinking about the wrong thing I did in the past which I now suffer from. I like the line you said "stop looking at the rearview mirror"

[@mariaczaguo9149]

Wow!!!! Today is my 18th birthday and this video resonates so much with my life right now! Thank you so much Emily!

[@sydneybufford3042]

This video actually helped me a lot! I’m dealing with getting over an abusive relationship and I know I need to accept that it’s over and there nothing I can do to change it. I think the “forward” mindset will definitely help me in my recovery, so thank you!

[@miasalmans1652]

Oh my goodness... I have been praying that I can forgive myself and look forward. I was in a car wreck with my brand new car 2 days ago. I am so regretful thinking what I can do different so angry at myself but I have to move FORWARD. Thank you Emily!!

[@Shootinforthestars1]

Oh that’s such a great idea,. Forward

[@-Princesse-]

Hey Emily, I just felt like sharing this with you. It may be small, but sometimes the small things are bigger than we realize they are. I really liked the way you opened up and share that intensely memorable moment with all of us. It helps when we see others struggling too because then we know our pain is not just ours, but we all suffer under the weight of sin and the burdens of this world. So thank you! :) Also, I found it highly worthy to mention the fact that it was so respectful and lovely when in telling us your story, you left out the details of the painful memory for you and also, by not giving a name or even gender, you showed much respect and honor to that person, and that was really awesome to see. Thank you again for making these videos and sharing so much knowledge and wisdom with us that the Lord has shown you! Much love and God bless

[@noemimatias3729]

I needed to hear this. Thank you so much! May the Lord continue blessing and using you.

[@emwilss]

Thank you Noemi :) God bless you too!

[@hannahlee9557]

Thank you so much Emily!!! I needed this a lot! With college admissions rolling in all i can think about is how I wish I had studied more and gotten better grades and test scores instead of praying and looking forward. Thank you for your timely wisdom! I love your earrings!!!

[@msjoyfulinjesus]

Uncanny how God inspires you to make a video about a topic at just the time I need it. ❤️

[@aaronpolinati]

"Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland. Isaiah 43:18-19

[@raneenaomi6293]

Thank you. This was helpful.

[@Jen-vd6ik]

Thank you

[@chelledue1624]

Forward. Yes. So helpful and beautiful. Thank you Emily 🙏

[@marisadf13]

needed this ❤️ you rock Emily!

[@emwilss]

Thank you Marisa :)

[@RoxxieDymond]

I needed this so much today. Thank you, Emily. I'm crying, ahhh, thank you!

[@emwilss]

I cried a bit making it too :) Thank you for letting me know Roxxie!

[@RoxxieDymond]

@@emwilss :') 💛💛

[@nicoolioo]

REALLY NEEDED THIS !! I can't stress that enough. I cried in prayer all morning and was overcome with all this guilt and anxiety that I couldn't get out of. THANK YOU THANK YOU! also, side note: mom's give the best and most simple advice right? thank you Emily's mom!!

[@lochtessmonsterxoxo]

Yep. Yep yep yep. I have to remember this DAILY.

[@ninasahagun]

Thank you Emily, this is definitely a constant struggle for me. I ask for your prayers as I continue to leave all my past and worries at the foot of the cross and think "forward!"

[@catherineelise9580]

Courage, sister

[@abbybutton5561]

So needed this!! 💕💕

[@emwilss]

I am so glad - thank you for letting me know!

[@joshuadspeer]

This couldn't have come at a better time in my life, and in the lives of some of my friends who need to hear this. Thank you!

[@rebekahkersey4286]

I really needed this. I struggle with living in the past A LOT.

[@luuvvvu4ever692]

I watched this video in mind about something that happened 6 years ago. And then you said " maybe it was something 6 years ago" and I knew that was God telling me I was supposed to watch this.

[@sierra2516]

Thank you so much for this gem! I didn't even mean to click on KZbin but was trying to swipe of a different KZbin notification and accidentally clicked the notification, then saw your video. I really needed to hear this! So thank you again for sharing!!❤

[@stephaniestephanie4545]

Wow this came right at the clock! I was just talking about past mistakes. Thank you for this!

[@deborahbostwick2619]

I needed this. Amen!

[@emwilss]

Thanks for letting me know! Amen amen!

[@adriannazones5833]

wow thank you so much I really needed to hear this right now💗

[@JessicaElaina1]

Wow. Okay. I needed this 😭😩

[@emwilss]

I am so glad - thank you for telling me. We will move forward together!

[@malindaresendez76]

needed this. thanks sister!

[@lalabautista6668]

Cried while watching this. This is what I needed to hear. Thank you!

[@brisscrespo7866]

Thank you, I need this.

[@shadyabrown-hall5955]

Yes. So beautifully said. Moving forward is the best decision.

[@deepika2865]

Forward it is henceforth.... thank you so much!

[@shannonabeywardena7323]

Thanks, Emily!!!

[@GlamourGirls02]

Thank you for sharing Emily! Last summer I helped lead a missions trip and feel like I disappointed the person who asked me... There were so many moments that I relive that I wish I would have done something differently to truly step up and lead. I now lead missions trips monthly and have grown so much but can still get caught up on this one trip. I am starting to wonder if I'll have another opportunity to go this summer but either way this video spoke volumes to my heart. Thank you! Many blessings ~Paige

[@dianahernandez5532]

Wow I was literally just talking about a past relationship and some regrets about it with my friend. I really really needed to hear this. Thank you 🙏🏼💙😭

[@bethgomez8347]

This definitely helped. I cried too

[@nkolemwandama3838]

Really needed this. Thanks Emily!

[@emwilss]

Thanks for letting me know :) You are welcome!

[@halimorrow6025]

I relate to this a lot!

[@valeya]

I have been thinking about my past a lot for the last few days so I really needed to hear this ❤️

[@moniquemartinez212]

Love this. I think the concept of “forward” will change my life. Thank you!

[@lisawittlinger96]

That was so good !!!!

[@christenhope4416]

this was perfect for me

[@nicolel.3980]

YES 🙌🏻 so powerful and important. Perfect timing for so many people including myself and something we all struggle with

[@hannahk938]

This was really helpful! I want to start practicing forward! God bless you and never be ashamed of Jesus! 😊

[@mininatalie771]

I needed this! Thank you 😊 you are being so used by God right now ❤️❤️