Surviving A Breakup: Your Ultimate Guide (No B.S.)

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Clark Kegley

Clark Kegley

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@clarkkegley
@clarkkegley Ай бұрын
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@JustaNobody-j8x
@JustaNobody-j8x 4 ай бұрын
The fact that I’m still alive after all my failed relationships is good enough.
@11duckedoff1
@11duckedoff1 4 ай бұрын
Well reasoned conclusion
@Rambo4President
@Rambo4President 4 ай бұрын
are you though? maybe we’re all dead already 💀
@bluecoffee8414
@bluecoffee8414 3 ай бұрын
I hear you
@giancarlomatute8125
@giancarlomatute8125 3 ай бұрын
Understood
@ArthurH11
@ArthurH11 3 ай бұрын
Relatable brother
@salmatimite4129
@salmatimite4129 Ай бұрын
For everybody going through a breakup right now, lemme tell u something, it's gonna be okay, give it time. Now you're grieving, but in a few months, it will hurt less and you're gonna find inner peace. Keep going. Don't consider your relationship as over, consider it as completed, it's gonna make a huge difference. May God Help us.
@Tysowavy24
@Tysowavy24 Ай бұрын
thank you , looking at it as completed is great advice
@Beepbeep_its_treasure
@Beepbeep_its_treasure Ай бұрын
Amen
@xdarkfatex8985
@xdarkfatex8985 19 күн бұрын
Thank you
@angelalakes
@angelalakes 2 күн бұрын
Thank you.
@jennyhaytch
@jennyhaytch 4 ай бұрын
I’ve got an ex I call “Asteroid Boy” because our collision sent me off on a trajectory I could never have imagined. Led to a complete change and total fucking growth.
@jennyhaytch
@jennyhaytch 4 ай бұрын
“Write out what you would be willing to commit to in a partner in the future”. I did this a couple a years back : ) Awesome thing to do. It made me realise how little the “dream” ex was actually giving. And what I was capable of instead.
@FBread-xj8qk
@FBread-xj8qk 2 ай бұрын
Pray tell, how can I do and feel the same. I'm a guy, and I'm sick of feeling devastated for 8 months now, when the relationship I had with the girl didn't even last that long...
@louispacetime1576
@louispacetime1576 15 күн бұрын
It really does feel like the worst feeling any human could bear. But we always manage to overcome. If you’re reading this let’s stay strong
@andrewjohnson7474
@andrewjohnson7474 3 ай бұрын
Loved the part about "don't suppress." It brings me back to a quote I once heard: "The greatest pain comes from trying not to feel that which needs to be felt."
@makaveli2363
@makaveli2363 2 ай бұрын
Good quote 👌
@AmbiguousGxrlzCluster
@AmbiguousGxrlzCluster Ай бұрын
100%
@reef2980
@reef2980 Ай бұрын
Genuinely asking, what does it mean in this context?
@andrewjohnson7474
@andrewjohnson7474 Ай бұрын
@@reef2980 -- it means if you feel like crying, do it. If you feel sad, feel sad and spend some time processing why you are. If you are in pain, don't pretend you aren't and whatever you do, don't self-medicate. Otherwise, you just make the underlying pain even worse and it will come back to get you.
@reef2980
@reef2980 Ай бұрын
@andrewjohnson7474 thanks for your quick reply. I already thought it would mean something like that but I wasn't sure, thanks for clarifying that
@girlygirl402
@girlygirl402 Ай бұрын
Every time my phone rings or I get a text I have this physical reaction hoping it’s him and then when I see It’s not I’m devastated all over again.
@peytonhu1065
@peytonhu1065 Ай бұрын
Same thing. Just hoping I get a text back one day. Probably never will, and it hurts to accept that.
@Devil_Kenji
@Devil_Kenji 27 күн бұрын
Fuck…I’m in so much pain right now. This heartbreak has me wanting to give up…
@AndyKingCo
@AndyKingCo 26 күн бұрын
@@Devil_Kenjiwe are on the same boat. I’m so depressed. Let’s stay strong
@prasiddhirimal402
@prasiddhirimal402 26 күн бұрын
Its same with me its hard to wake up and breathe.. he says he will never gonna come back and I need to deal this on my own.. i am scared for myself😓
@Devil_Kenji
@Devil_Kenji 26 күн бұрын
@@AndyKingCo alright brother. I’m down for that
@reef2980
@reef2980 Ай бұрын
My gf or ex and i broke up 5 days ago. It's crazy how most of us that are going thru this feel almost the same thing. For me it's terrifying to have this emotional roller-coaster, especially when being numb. I really need to let my emotions come out, feel them and lean into the pain. I juat hope it does not last that long so that i can move forward again 🙏🏽 I wish everyone else good recover in the process
@MJ-gh9bl
@MJ-gh9bl Ай бұрын
My bf broke with me too☹️
@AlexisMartinez-xo4qy
@AlexisMartinez-xo4qy Ай бұрын
Going through this after a 5 year relationship
@reef2980
@reef2980 Ай бұрын
@@MJ-gh9bl Hang in there. Try and use this time to reflect and work on your values, own them and take back your life. Sending you all the love and strenght, you are not alone in this
@prasiddhirimal402
@prasiddhirimal402 26 күн бұрын
Its same with me its hard to wake up and breathe.. he says he will never gonna come back and I need to deal this on my own.. i am scared for myself😓
@Alonsooooooo
@Alonsooooooo 14 күн бұрын
How are u doing now?
@katharinesantana7147
@katharinesantana7147 3 ай бұрын
Stay away from the rebound, they really just fill in a void. Work on you and if you did love the person you broke off with come back a healed person.
@mrstone645
@mrstone645 4 ай бұрын
This video couldnt more on point with timing, just broke up yesterday. Thank you.
@babyyoda4942
@babyyoda4942 3 ай бұрын
how u doing bro
@mrstone645
@mrstone645 3 ай бұрын
@@babyyoda4942 Taking one day at a time, depression is still there but getting better. using this breakup to become the 2.0 version on myself like Clark says. Quit smoking weed for good because of it so i guess its a blessing in disguise, im not understanding totally what went wrong. you just cant actually and thats ok we should not ruminate on what could be and what we did wrong. a breakup doesnt mean youre less than. Smile because it happened. Its better to have loved and experience loss than to not have loved at all.
@aidanmohrman9493
@aidanmohrman9493 3 ай бұрын
Good luck dude, we’re right there with you.
@shitchops
@shitchops 3 ай бұрын
Im at week 6 after finding out about my gf cheating. shit is so much better now, im actualy surprised how much ive bounced back in that small amount of time. HOPE YOU ARE DOING A LITTLE BETTER NOW MRSTONE
@Docpowel
@Docpowel 2 ай бұрын
God bless you
@NeanderthalNatty
@NeanderthalNatty 3 ай бұрын
Completely agree with all of this. I got yoked after I was dumped and now I love training hard. Even though it was the most painful time of my life, I look back on it and feel extreme pride and it's one of the best memories I have.
@Beepbeep_its_treasure
@Beepbeep_its_treasure Ай бұрын
You're my hero. Will go to gym tomorrow and cry while doing leg press
@SerpentStar_
@SerpentStar_ 4 ай бұрын
Needed this in my teens and early 20s. Lost a coworker and friend in 2011 because her husband shot her, then himself because she wanted a divorce. We got to LEARN about our emotions or be controlled by them.
@Beepbeep_its_treasure
@Beepbeep_its_treasure Ай бұрын
Oh my this is horrible. I'm so sorry for your loss, may she rest in peace ❤
@Allenwatts-y9n
@Allenwatts-y9n 26 күн бұрын
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
@LilyOlivia-p3s
@LilyOlivia-p3s 26 күн бұрын
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
@Allenwatts-y9n
@Allenwatts-y9n 26 күн бұрын
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
@LilyOlivia-p3s
@LilyOlivia-p3s 26 күн бұрын
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
@LilyOlivia-p3s
@LilyOlivia-p3s 26 күн бұрын
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
@Allenwatts-y9n
@Allenwatts-y9n 26 күн бұрын
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
@chriswillis3612
@chriswillis3612 2 күн бұрын
There is nothing i can say that hasnt already been said. I miss her tremendously but i have to keep reminding her that she did it to keep her peace and in turn i need to find me peace too. I wish everyone here a healthy life too
@sinsemillao
@sinsemillao 13 күн бұрын
Thank you for this. Makes me feel better that I’m not alone going through this. Still hurting, but I’m still alive. Let’s get it ppl ✊🏽
@b_jwright24
@b_jwright24 Ай бұрын
Reading comments on these kinds of videos is really healing. Damn near all of us experience heartbreak and just feel completely lost afterwards. My gf and I broke up today and not gonna lie, I’m crying while typing this. Fellas if you’re reading this and you think it’s “unmanly” to cry, let those fucking emotions out. Edit: I don’t know how to deal with step 4 on my current breakup. I did it on my last but this time is different. I see her at work and we share the same friend group which hangs out at least once a month… We ended things mutually but I really don’t know how this is going to work
@ctgeorgia
@ctgeorgia 23 күн бұрын
Wife of 4 years... Just told me she was leaving Sunday morning and has not spoken a single word to me since. Feel like I'm a ghost in my own home and I have to see her morning, noon and night. She made it even worse last night because when I climbed into bed she got up and went and slept on the couch. It's like death by a thousand cuts because I have to watch her packing her things, move, etc. It's going to take months. There is no ripping the band aid off and just deleting photos and phone numbers, etc. This has been absolutely unbearable...
@BennySa-w4k
@BennySa-w4k Ай бұрын
“This too shall pass” 🙏
@invisible8481
@invisible8481 3 ай бұрын
1st week after our breakup, fuck this feeling man! I feel awful. It hurts a lot. Really really hurts. I wish someday I could back to this video, and say I'm strong.😢
@MJ-gh9bl
@MJ-gh9bl Ай бұрын
How are you now?
@Beepbeep_its_treasure
@Beepbeep_its_treasure Ай бұрын
How are you feeling now? Please give me some inspiration 😂
@andresugrinovich3438
@andresugrinovich3438 Ай бұрын
We need to know!
@aidankinsella8023
@aidankinsella8023 Ай бұрын
That 11-week rule is wild I wish I heard that 4 years ago now it's a different girl but shit would have saved me so much damn heartache back then and these past couple of weeks lmao
@orlandop4sun
@orlandop4sun Ай бұрын
amazing video . Due to previous separations i’ve learned the value of consistently working out , built an investment portfolio, learned a ton about attachment theory and communication. while it was hard at first it really put me in a great trajectory for the future
@11duckedoff1
@11duckedoff1 4 ай бұрын
Your personal anecdotes are as insightful as your advice, Thanks Good Buddy
@Johntheheadache
@Johntheheadache 11 күн бұрын
The reason people obsess with how their ex is doing is not necessarily because you still love them and want them back, in fact often times you know you want something/someone different...The real reason is you have control issues. Once you understand it's not love that keeps you thinking of that ex, you should and will start moving on. Give it a few months and if you can, make new friends and connections or reach out to close existing ones..New interactions will become more important than old ones by pure recency bias. Your heart and mind will instinctively say, ENOUGH! when the time is right and you will come out on the other side hopefully having learned how you can be a better partner when the next person comes along.
@itude1237
@itude1237 Ай бұрын
Such a pragmatic guide, Clark. One of the most useful videos on the topic
@Yarnover_PullThrough
@Yarnover_PullThrough 3 ай бұрын
All great advice. Although, who would freaking let someone like you go!? Most definitely their loss. Bet they’re kicking themselves in the butt now.
@EvanDimitriSullivan
@EvanDimitriSullivan Ай бұрын
I am going through a breakup currently. This stopped my crying and yelling in angush. Thank you for this.
@Bosas-q7o
@Bosas-q7o 25 күн бұрын
Is it still hard after the month? Week ago, I found out that my gf is cheating on me. It's hard.
@BeNnoGaLeS
@BeNnoGaLeS 2 ай бұрын
the trash can analogy is so incredibly simple it’s perfect
@masonsmyth147
@masonsmyth147 4 ай бұрын
the universe always provides. Currently heart broken, hadn't been on your channel In a little.. and what do you know. A video just for me. Thanks man, I appreciate you
@fey879
@fey879 Күн бұрын
"ONCE YOU BECOME A PICKLE, YOU CAN NEVER GO BACK TO BEING A CUCUMBER." I haven't laughed at something so silly yet wisely true like that for a while now, thanks! 😊
@rue2599
@rue2599 2 ай бұрын
I think that erasing their digital footprint on all your devices is more effective than just blocking or unfollowing them. Mute their posts, stop checking their social media, delete chats, delete pictures… if you’re like me and you’d use these to get a fix or get triggered by them, erase their digital footprint on all your devices. Otherwise, you’re prolonging the healing process. I still can’t bring myself to unfollow or block though because it feels too drastic compared to how civilly the break up went.
@scottyrivers6973
@scottyrivers6973 2 ай бұрын
Block them & run while you can
@TheAce617
@TheAce617 Ай бұрын
Ignoring them is 10x more efficient than blocking. It tells the other person you’ve moved on in peace… IMO🤷🏿‍♂️
@MArca-hj3xv
@MArca-hj3xv Ай бұрын
You've got to unfollow. Doesn't matter if you broke up civilly. You're doing it for yourself, for your personal growth. You're putting yourself first, not the memory of the relationship. I think that sends an even better message than if you were to follow them, not that sending a message should be why you do this.
@louispacetime1576
@louispacetime1576 15 күн бұрын
@@MArca-hj3xvcouldn’t agree more, it’s faster to get over someone that way. Although it is fuckin TOUGH
@11duckedoff1
@11duckedoff1 3 ай бұрын
Going back to your ex is like taking a shower and putting dirty underwear on after
@Jaden.Morris
@Jaden.Morris 2 ай бұрын
Why is that what if it is right person wrong time?
@11duckedoff1
@11duckedoff1 2 ай бұрын
@@Jaden.Morris if you have to ask, you’ll never know, excellent question friend.
@AmbiguousGxrlzCluster
@AmbiguousGxrlzCluster Ай бұрын
I think this applies to some situations but not all. No one should go back to an abuser but sometimes life is more complicated sometimes a breakup happens for a benign reason like an unexpected move or something.
@11duckedoff1
@11duckedoff1 Ай бұрын
@@AmbiguousGxrlzCluster well said friend
@TreblePvP
@TreblePvP 4 ай бұрын
3:44 "Did you sit there and judge yourself for getting sick." Me: yes actually, every time. *laughs in c-ptsd*
@MArca-hj3xv
@MArca-hj3xv Ай бұрын
Same 😁
@canaansmithtkd
@canaansmithtkd 23 күн бұрын
lol glad I'm not the only one
@natalieschannel7675
@natalieschannel7675 3 ай бұрын
I just had a break up and I accepted he wanted to end our relationship. I just want to stop missing him.
@doglover5519
@doglover5519 2 ай бұрын
Me Too! It's so hard.
@angelvides9158
@angelvides9158 4 ай бұрын
Bro I’m goin through it rn, I wanna go back and try to fix things and break no contact but I’m just trying to fix myself first. Shits tuff fr
@SonLamTran-ho5su
@SonLamTran-ho5su 3 ай бұрын
you got this bro 🤝 focus on building yourself first then eventually you'll be in a better place
@angelvides9158
@angelvides9158 3 ай бұрын
Appreciate you bro ! 🙏
@mvthyr
@mvthyr 3 ай бұрын
Heard you man I know I’m a better man now and I want to show that but I still got a lot of work
@Docpowel
@Docpowel 2 ай бұрын
How are u doing now Bro ?
@espora_
@espora_ 2 ай бұрын
I am now in that position...3 weeks no contact and I miss her God so much
@fourthtunz
@fourthtunz 2 ай бұрын
What a great video! Thank you! I’m 61 years old and been dating for about 18 years. You think I’d know better lesson learned once again.!
@stephc4647
@stephc4647 Ай бұрын
We've been dating for two years and turned out that he was seeing someone else for almost half a year. It hurt so bad that i cried every minute, hadn't eaten anything until now, and then after our break up, he promised me that he would change himself for me, and after a few days, he said that he would go to the girl he cheated on me with. I feel like dying because he broke my heart again. I feel so stupid for not wanting him to go after all he did because i really love him, and now that it is all over, i don't know how to help myself forget him.
@CoachPattyBlueHayes
@CoachPattyBlueHayes 2 ай бұрын
Great advice. I was in the ‘numb out’ phase and it was brutal to my soul and poor liver 😣 Surviving that dark night of the soul was a blessing. I couldn’t be who I am now in that past relationship. I hope people can find some relief 🌟
@erinobrien8793
@erinobrien8793 3 ай бұрын
Phase II is what I call the 90 day no contact period. It’s needed to disengage your emotions and break the feelings of connection. You don’t see, hear, or engage with them in any form. It helps the healing process and forces you to focus on yourself.
@adyabagchi9830
@adyabagchi9830 2 ай бұрын
What if they study in your own CLG and you have to study with them for 2-3 years?
@Tubastank1
@Tubastank1 Ай бұрын
Stumbled on this video and have never seen your stuff before. All excellent advice but I really want to commend you for providing honest and humble advice. So tired of seeing other influencers push toxic advice shrouded in some BS masculine agenda As a dude. It’s okay to feel sad and hurt because you miss a girl that you loved. And depending on the situation, your ex may not deserve to be viewed as some worthless commodity. You don’t need to demonize your ex to move on but you do need to move on and the advice here is a healthy way to start.
@marguskiis7711
@marguskiis7711 20 күн бұрын
No contact is the most painful method to get over. I have done both. Spending my time after break up with contact and without contact. After my divorce I stayed on contact with my ex wife and I got over her pretty easily. I saw her flaws and bad attitude every day and my desire towards her died out soon. She was just an average woman for me I did not want back. With my lovely gf who dumped me out of the blue without any serious reason I started the no contact. And it is damn terrible. I think about her damn every day. I miss her more and more. I idealize her. I can not get over her at all. After the last break up and during the no contact I am actually the human wreckage. I hide this and I make brave face but I am destroyed inside.
@CichlidCharmer
@CichlidCharmer 3 ай бұрын
Great GREAT video. I am going through a breakup and I feel like I just went through every stage emotionally because of your presentation. Thank you
@dcdidit
@dcdidit 2 ай бұрын
Been broken up since 6July24 and been going CRAZY... Thank you for this bro. I really, really needed this. Peace.
@golf1diesel
@golf1diesel 2 ай бұрын
3rd July here..
@kateann4558
@kateann4558 Ай бұрын
Same same
@cowboynohorse
@cowboynohorse Ай бұрын
June 4th here. It sucks.
@malignantmelanomar
@malignantmelanomar 21 күн бұрын
@@cowboynohorsesame
@ghostyglover
@ghostyglover 18 күн бұрын
Same July 9th I REALLY knew… how you all holding up?
@nefelibata3977
@nefelibata3977 27 күн бұрын
I think the worst part is that I have to accept that the breakup was equally my fault as hers. Which hurts so much because I feel like I failed her and myself. It would be so much easier if I could just hate her and be angry and just whatever but I can't and I have no idea how much more tears I have left
@NotionsbyJT
@NotionsbyJT 26 күн бұрын
This video is a blessing in disguise. Thank you Clark 👏🏽
@imronlevi
@imronlevi 3 ай бұрын
The example with the trash is awesome
@michaeljeacock
@michaeljeacock 4 ай бұрын
to a much lesser degree you also have to deal with electronic ghosts when people are not metaphorically but actually dead to you. I had to deal with stuff like that after my mother died a few years ago. removing her number from my contacts archiving message threads removing buy gifts reminders from my google calendar etc. obviously this is not someone I am trying to forget but cutting down on the little electric jabs that she isn't here anymore helps a little with the grieving.
@yzma6142
@yzma6142 3 ай бұрын
Wow. I have never thought about this. I’m sorry for your loss 🙏
@teresacarapeto7490
@teresacarapeto7490 4 ай бұрын
Thank you Clark for sharing this video. You have put a lot of time, energy and effort in this. This will help a lot of people. You are amazing! Thank you for being You!! 😺
@Nicejack_10
@Nicejack_10 2 ай бұрын
My guy From Tomorrowland. Keep up the good work bro.
@shravanrao2686
@shravanrao2686 17 күн бұрын
If I were in my 20s, this break up wouldn’t have hurt so much, but now at 32 out of a 6 year relationship. It feels like I’m one of the those left over singles. I’ll die alone 💔
@roxanapop1557
@roxanapop1557 14 күн бұрын
I am so sorry you are going through this 🤗 I am also at an older age and both my siblings got engaged when my relationship went to shit (we officially broke up yesterday). I feel like it's too late for me, and I feel I am somehow broken or not good enough for people to choose. But I know this is my pain telling me lies, and in actuality being in your early 30s is actually young 😊 Wishing you strength 💪
@shravanrao2686
@shravanrao2686 9 күн бұрын
@@roxanapop1557 you too. I hope you find strength during these difficult times,
@iblamedevv
@iblamedevv Ай бұрын
Thanks Clark, after being confused for a week, i finally feel good after watching this video
@anthonyredden9373
@anthonyredden9373 4 ай бұрын
I was good then had a dream, and now I relapsed.😢
@matthewjohnson375
@matthewjohnson375 4 ай бұрын
Keep going, I'm in pain, so much, I just want a particular person to make it better. They won't do it
@JeremyHausser
@JeremyHausser 4 ай бұрын
those dreams really set you back right.. I know them really well too.
@dr.weirdbeard2840
@dr.weirdbeard2840 2 ай бұрын
I get them all the time. Always makes you feel like it's a sign not to let go. Messes with your head for sure
@noah1502
@noah1502 2 ай бұрын
this keeps happening to me too. dreams are so hard
@slipperynoodle3611
@slipperynoodle3611 24 күн бұрын
Thank you for keeping this gender ambiguous and accessible to women and queer people ❤
@LeaChea
@LeaChea 4 ай бұрын
Thank you for this. Betrayal blindside of is hurtful. Thank you for this video.
@johnmorganjr769
@johnmorganjr769 2 ай бұрын
You are a truthful, blessing of a messenger !! Salute !! 💯 👍
@johnmorganjr769
@johnmorganjr769 2 ай бұрын
🙏🙏🙏
@shinowhitlock2449
@shinowhitlock2449 Ай бұрын
Im liking the video because you said be careful on what you put on the list, then you said kidding... humor, fun, and I learned... so simple 🥰
@alezmbgt
@alezmbgt 4 ай бұрын
Love your videos, as always you're incredibly wise and you know how to speak in an amazing engaging manner. And it is cute how when you will share a personal story you ask if it's ok with us. Thanks for sharing all your knowledge, stay safe
@Y2hlYXRlcg
@Y2hlYXRlcg 2 ай бұрын
Thank you for this video, it was the advice and warm hearted-ness I needed
@maridougcividanesestrella
@maridougcividanesestrella 4 ай бұрын
This is wonderful for young and middle aged people. For older people a breakup is a farewell to romantic relationships 😢
@SerpentStar_
@SerpentStar_ 4 ай бұрын
What you think you become What you feel, you attract What imagine, you create The Buddha
@SafwanDesai
@SafwanDesai 20 күн бұрын
Awesome video bro
@CrystalRose-iq8yg
@CrystalRose-iq8yg Ай бұрын
This was really good. Really helpful. Thank you! I have just subscribed!
@BMW_boyz
@BMW_boyz 9 күн бұрын
You right my girl cheated on me and broke my heart and I can barely move on until now
@johnmarchetti8611
@johnmarchetti8611 Ай бұрын
Great video. This is a very straightforward approach to it.
@marguskiis7711
@marguskiis7711 20 күн бұрын
the video is total crap No contact is the most painful method to get over. I have done both. Spending my time after break up with contact and without contact. After my divorce I stayed on contact with my ex wife and I got over her pretty easily. I saw her flaws and bad attitude every day and my desire towards her died out soon. She was just an average woman for me I did not want back. With my lovely gf who dumped me out of the blue without any serious reason I started the no contact. And it is damn terrible. I think about her damn every day. I miss her more and more. I idealize her. I can not get over her at all. After the last break up and during the no contact I am actually the human wreckage. I hide this and I make brave face but I am destroyed inside.
@henrivacas36
@henrivacas36 3 ай бұрын
I agree with everything but…deal with an ex-wife after 23 years of marriage and two children in common. I ‘ll survive surely but it will be not easy to struggle. Cheers from Switzerland!
@bitman32x
@bitman32x 4 ай бұрын
I didnt see this coming. But as always your content have valuable information everytime.
@debbiefarrar7356
@debbiefarrar7356 2 ай бұрын
Your video was truly full of great advice Thanks a million 😊
@user-rh6zc2pk5d
@user-rh6zc2pk5d 15 күн бұрын
1:50 - criticizing 'pretend they don't exist' because it means you didn't care / you're suppressing emotions 7:05 - forget that they even exist ?????
@kaushikkkkkkkkkk
@kaushikkkkkkkkkk 12 күн бұрын
initially first feel it after two or three months try to forget them
@devonjahnjez
@devonjahnjez 3 ай бұрын
Dismissive avoidances suppress theirs after discarding you 😢
@ievafilonova3198
@ievafilonova3198 25 күн бұрын
You are a real legend ❤
@ashleycee123
@ashleycee123 2 ай бұрын
Clark is such a beautiful man. ❤❤❤❤
@obear4301
@obear4301 11 күн бұрын
i wish the background focus would be better in the video so I could see the chart better as I listened to you
@aestheticpoetcarley
@aestheticpoetcarley Ай бұрын
The hard part is probably removing pics of him and my kiddos and all these happy memories to delete involving my kids. But I gotta do it. I'll go get a USB on Saturday and get it done
@deliamaria4220
@deliamaria4220 4 ай бұрын
This video îs the best from the best! I am so lucky that i found you❤
@Falconof96
@Falconof96 17 күн бұрын
I am here after rejection and i feel awful. I can only guess what everyone here is going through with their breakups.
@Al1zer
@Al1zer Ай бұрын
Should you also do this if you’ve only been on a few dates but weren’t officially a couple? We dated for about a month and I was in love.
@xatiesloco7461
@xatiesloco7461 3 ай бұрын
What helped me was... after he discarded me the second time so cold and without remorse.. a friend told him that she thinks i would do something bad to myself... he texted back "lol, im high and i dont wanna bother with it"... after a 2.5yrs relationship and he moved on asap... this put me instant in the "fuck you" phase... all of my "but he is my pookie" feelings went to rage... using this rage to hit the gym, make music, new tattoos etc etc ... the only thing im crying over is that i was so dumb to trust him and looking over all the red flags..
@clairenicholls8024
@clairenicholls8024 24 күн бұрын
Great tips! Thank you 🙏❤
@marguskiis7711
@marguskiis7711 20 күн бұрын
pointless tips. do not work
@LindsaySatmary
@LindsaySatmary 4 ай бұрын
It's so hard to be sentimental in a superficial world. The memories are hard.
@mikescott29
@mikescott29 Ай бұрын
use the breakup as motivation for everything be better and improve yourself
@haramantara3460
@haramantara3460 16 күн бұрын
0:53 - "sad and emotionaal" 😂
@zacmilne9423
@zacmilne9423 15 күн бұрын
Did he knock somebody for saying “pretend they don’t exist” is bad advice then later advise us to “pretend they never existed”?
@minervandusen324
@minervandusen324 3 ай бұрын
Awesome Video. Great advice.😊
@nathantrudgill5057
@nathantrudgill5057 4 ай бұрын
Use this to realise that this is the nature of life for things in life. They come and they go. Impermanence
@raquels4330
@raquels4330 4 ай бұрын
I'm confused because in the beginning of the video you say pretending they don't exist is bad. However, mid-way through this is the advice you give -pretend they don't exist. Maybe I'm not understanding.
@FernWillow555
@FernWillow555 4 ай бұрын
Okay I noticed that too like what’s happening 😂
@SaarLeestMee
@SaarLeestMee 3 ай бұрын
Emotionally they existed so don't pretend the feelings didn't exist actually later he means practically in your house and behaviour with Internet erase it so you can heal without reminders all de time
@gabe.6273
@gabe.6273 3 ай бұрын
I think he meant having no contact. But I agree he should’ve been much more straightforward.
@franukito
@franukito 2 ай бұрын
the great pretender
@Wrestling-Nun
@Wrestling-Nun 2 ай бұрын
It’s not about pretending the don’t exist. It’s bad to pretend as if nothing happens this suppressing What you need to do is sort of like mourn them and then feel as if they died thus them not existing anymore
@carterfackrell7771
@carterfackrell7771 23 күн бұрын
How do you avoid them when a lot of their friends are also your friends and you have a lot of committments where they're there.
@bigpapa2195
@bigpapa2195 4 ай бұрын
Did i miss the how to get a girlfriend guide?
@charlynhawley2038
@charlynhawley2038 Ай бұрын
Thank you 🦚 🦋 🌻 peace and joy
@Teeheeweewee
@Teeheeweewee 10 күн бұрын
The double take I did when he said forget they exist after starting the video by telling me that this was terrible advice. 😂😂😂
@strryle125
@strryle125 3 ай бұрын
I can relate so hard great video man
@dracoalexios1213
@dracoalexios1213 Ай бұрын
Its an icy sorrow that i was ghosted after what has seemed that things were going so damn well then vanishes, but the blood rage i have its that i want all my invested time and efforts back. If only i can have my efforts back, >:'(
@breerivera3887
@breerivera3887 2 ай бұрын
Pulling all ex’s off my phone - thanks 😊
@girlygirl402
@girlygirl402 Ай бұрын
I was in such disbelief in the beginning I was numb by day 4 I literally cried for an hour and a half until my eyes were swollen. My tears came out of nowhere and I allowed myself to feel into it and surprisingly I felt a little better afterwards. I’m still in pain though.
@BhargaviM-jm9gt
@BhargaviM-jm9gt Ай бұрын
Same with me sis , how to overcome this it's really hurting like hell
@Lovereems
@Lovereems 3 ай бұрын
This is incredible thank you!
@TheAverageGam3r
@TheAverageGam3r 3 ай бұрын
Hard to block and remove all that stuff when we have kids..
@jrjraid9713
@jrjraid9713 4 ай бұрын
great video thanks for the information , very useful
@KritmayPachaury
@KritmayPachaury 4 ай бұрын
I had a break up last month We had a 4 year long Relationship she said she doesn't love me anymore
@drivethrufilmzz
@drivethrufilmzz 3 ай бұрын
yeah, it’s a nightmare. I went through it 4 months ago and I’m barely feeling better. We broke up after 5 years. You’re gonna randomly start feeling okay.
@KritmayPachaury
@KritmayPachaury 3 ай бұрын
@@drivethrufilmzz I feel better buddy thanks for your reply
@Edgeofdavid
@Edgeofdavid Ай бұрын
I broke up with my girl on Monday wtf. That’s a very very weird stat. Because I guess you spend the weekend together and things come to a collapse?
@trayush9999
@trayush9999 Ай бұрын
Thank you sir 🙂
@andtheflyinglizard
@andtheflyinglizard 3 күн бұрын
months in, its just gettin worse
@SiTao_Huang
@SiTao_Huang 4 ай бұрын
Thank u Clark,, very helpful ❤
@myloveforSelena
@myloveforSelena 3 күн бұрын
does this pain ever goes away 😢😢😢
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