Lies I BELIEVED About Curly Hair! 😱🙈

[@djk5v]

Someone on the curly subreddit told me I needed to stick to the term wavy and not use the word curl when I quite recall saying on wash day 2a-2c curls form, so they know it’s wavy. Also, why gatekeep the word curl? It’s not straight, and that’s what I want to call it! I’m aware they might want to not confuse people because they think wavy styling is different from “curly” styling, but I clearly say my pattern type, so it’s not confusing.

[@OnePersonOneOpinion]

yeah my hair is wavy except, no matter how long my hair is, the last three inches of it curls. so what else am i supposed to call it! lol

[@saramcintosh2183]

I agree! I have always called my hair curly!

[@Dana-vq1tk]

Oh...you ran into a curl snob!!!Don't let them define your hair.

[@Dana-vq1tk]

I laugh at my previous hair and call it "furls".

[@sb7841]

I agre, why gatekeep? And the worse part is when those snobs are actually salespeople at the store selling curly wavy products… i get looks and questions on why do I even ask. I tried asking for samples of Jessicurl products and the sales lady with type 4 curls looked at me like I was robbing the other ladies 🤪🤷🏻‍♀️ i started going in with a hat, so they would not be able to tell 🙈

[@amandafairclough2130]

I totally understand the curly vs wavy conundrum. I have 2b-c waves but also 3a-b, and the odd 3c, curls. That’s why I love how you say wavy-curly and you’ve helped me embrace my natural hair and to know we all have good and bad days, that doesn’t make my hair any less beautiful. Thank you Courtney!

[@jessg.829]

Curl envy is sooooo real! I have to remind myself that my curls are unique and amazing too! Thanks for the wonderful message! ❤️

[@aprildegele1510]

I agree about the refresh, gurl. That's just a ploy by the product manufactures to get you to buy more product, or to buy it more frequently. It's a total scam. I can have a good curl day, and because I wear a CPap (which means I can't sleep in a silk cap), my hair is fairly flat the next day. To revive? I squirt it down with water, scrunch, and let it air dry. And then (yikes), I brush it out. What I get is a volume of beautiful texture, some waves, and that's okay with me. Would I like the defined curls? Sure, but I know my hair and it's not going to happen. I just go with what it is and if it's not wavy/curly, it's still lovely and healthy. And honestly, the best part is that the silver shines! I love my silver.

[@bettybolerjack361]

I'm convinced that CPAP is the enemy of wavy/curly hair! And I have yet to find any of these videos that address the issue. Like you, I usually end up spraying it with water and scrunching it. What I do from there depends on my mood, but it often does include brushing it out! Then, I will usually run my fingers through it and fluff it up a bit. That loosens it up so that I have nice soft waves and that's okay. I just recently decided to try sea salt spray and it is great for refreshing the curls!

[@lb8822]

I love sea salt for my wavy hair. Makes it quite curly.. I know, I said wavy and curly!

[@marybaudoin3711]

I wear a CPAP along with a chin strap. I tried a silk bonnet. But really lol I don’t think it helped. I’m getting a satin pillow case next. 🤷🏼‍♀️I need to refresh every morning. Wet it down. Air dry. No brushing!

[@angelag669]

A couple of things I would add to that are that you can't use shampoos with sulfates except to clarify and that silicones are bad for your hair. Since I went back to using sulfates and silicones, my hair has improved tremulously.

[@Terecita47]

Just recently started leaning into my new hair pattern. (Went wavy on me at 48.) I REALLY appreciate hearing that wavy is not inferior to curly!! Used to torture myself with perms and curling irons. Then gave in to stick straight hair. Then...voila. A delayed wish? Now it feels like I am trying to understand and get to know my hair again. Thank you for you videos!

[@miamiartteacher]

Same has happened to me in my late 40s! I call it my perimenopause hair….suddenly very wavy.

[@rebeccaotis8056]

I just turned 42 and found out a couple of weeks ago that my stick straight hair has gone curly wavy! I had no idea until I got 24 inches cut off and the stylist says to me, "oh look, now that all of that length is off your curls and waves have come back! Bet you had fun with those as a kid"...um, what? I looked at her in shock and said, "I have always wanted curly hair!" Menopause definately has some benefits!

[@jenv6846]

You’ve taught me so much about how to care for my hair, thank you.

[@SwavyCurlyCourtney]

I'm so glad!

[@Lw77596]

Wave envy is also a thing 😊, you have such beautiful healthy wavy curly hair. Your videos are always so full of information and I for one love the science Courtney x

[@eliseraifman4766]

Wavy hair is beautiful. I have curly hair and do not follow the curly girl method. I also take good care of my hair and brush style my curls which literally takes me 5 minutes to style. I then diffuse my hair until it’s 85% dry then let the rest air dry as I put in my makeup. This way I don’t walk around with wet roots. I sometimes wish that I had straight or even wavy hair, but I’ve learned to love and accept my hair and myself, the way I am. Love and accept yourself no matter what type of hair you have.

[@bethgill8792]

Thank you for representing us “wavies”! It is super frustrating to deal with comments/judgements/misconceptions about our hair type. For years, thought I was just cursed with “messy” hair. Around my 50th birthday, I discovered the wavy/curly community and learned ways to work with my hair (besides just straightening it or using an iron to form “perfect” curls). I’m so grateful for folks like you who show us how to embrace our naturally wavy uniqueness! 😊

[@SwavyCurlyCourtney]

Absolutely!!

[@lb8822]

Same for me. I kept my hair in a short short pixy for ten years. During covid grew my hair and discovered dinaly that wavy hair need to bestyled diffrently than what hair dressers told me for over 40 years!

[@emilydyson1622]

Oh the gatekeeping drives me crazy too. I have just decided that wavy hair is beautiful and it doesn’t matter what someone else thinks about my hair. It’s my hair and is exactly the way God designed it. And for once in my life I am finally at peace with my hair. Yes, curly is beautiful but so is wavy. I really try hard to ignore the curly hair police as they must be at a sad place in their life with too much time on their hands, anyways!

[@STP255]

Misconception - 1 cowash My opinion - from my 4a/thin strand/ highly dense / curls - everyone should use a mild - moisture/Protien shampoo - and clarify monthly - vs cowash only - Love your channel - we may have different hair types - but I still learn :)

[@maryelle877]

The gatekeeping is insane. I always thought it was online clown behavior but once i went to ulta looking for a leave in conditioner from curlsmith with my unstyled, air dryed, flat winter hair. the sales lady stopped next to me, didnt ask if i needed help and just kept repeating "this brand is only for curly hair", just nodded and ignored her, "-so this whole brand is formulated ONLY for curly hair" eventually she gave up and walked away 🤷‍♀️ Pls dont let the negative comments get you down!! You share so much great info ❤ im also convinced the negative comments come from jealousy, they wish they had the versatility of wavy hair! 🥰

[@Ennpey]

Love the science!!!! That's one of the reasons why I love your channel! Don't turn it down.

[@sarahallegra6239]

I loved the hair science! I’d be down for more of it anytime you want to expound on it 😊

[@rachelmatthews3070]

Absolutely had some of these issues when cowashing, fortunately I didn't experiece hair thinning but i just found it weighed down my hair and pulled out my curls. For ages I thought I just wasn't using it properly and kept putting it in and hating the results. Thank you so much, love from the UK ❤

[@lindagreen8445]

Courtney!!! This was awesome! Brought me back to when I first discovered you and you virtually held my hand on my journey! You never led me astray and my biggest compliment is when people say “this is all natural?!” and I can say yes thanks to you! You’re the best! 😊

[@shoshanafox727]

I can't do the co-wash at all. I also have fine, low porosity hair. A gentle shampoo every time I wash my hair. Lather, rinse, repeat. I love your message at the end. Accept yourself just the way you are. 😊👍👍

[@jeniferwrighte5946]

Thanks for all your hard work. Enjoy your videos!!!

[@SwavyCurlyCourtney]

Thanks for watching!

[@annewatman677]

I have to be careful with conditioner because it easily makes my hair too limp. My hair is more wavy than curly, and I am very happy that I discovered you. Your best recommendation for me was Kinky Curly Custard.

[@Kjærli_Lyst-hår]

Best and most useful wavy/curly video ever!!! I'm 3 months into my journey and I needed to hear this. Love the science too. Don't apologize for that!

[@sav827]

Thank goodness for the products that enhance our hair to make it look curly. Love my products. 👍🙂

[@SwavyCurlyCourtney]

The best!

[@maureen7653]

I actually really like the science! Keep sharing it!

[@SwavyCurlyCourtney]

Thank you! I appreciate the feedback!

[@stephkrunic3884]

😂😂😂 Never be sorry for the science Wonderful Courtney!!!! ❤❤❤❤ Thank you.

[@Skirkly]

Your hair is beautiful. I have tight curls in the back, but don't get all envied up just yet....the front and one side looks like yours and the other side is curly wavy. And, I don't have thick hair. I envy the people with thick hair and that appear to have a curl pattern that almost matches all over their head. It's so frustrating trying to style it when it looks thin, wavy and kinky all on one head! I need to get a dry cut simply because the back is kinky and shrinks up and then the sides don't and looks longer and odd compared to the front.

[@EZDPhilly]

Thanks Courtney ❣️I’m in the transition phase and you’ve just totally lessened my stress level for moving forward with embracing my wavy…sometimes curly 😂 hair!

[@SwavyCurlyCourtney]

You got this!

[@kristyn8905]

I love your videos, they're always so helpful. I also wanted to say though that I love your eye makeup. Have you ever done a little tutorial on what eye makeup you use and how you apply it?

[@madsquishy3410]

Ya know, it used to bother me so badly that my hair wasn't perfectly straight or perfectly curly either one. I hated it for the longest time. Other people would compliment me on my hair and even then I hated it lol. But now that I'm on my own hair journey I am embracing the waves and loving how it looks after being styled. And to your point about taking a break from styling: I spent like almost 2 decades doing nothing to my hair other then washing, conditioning, scrunching it with no product in it, and air drying it. My hair was so incredibly healthy because of having no product or dye in it and no heat so when I did start actually styling it a couple months ago I had beautiful results right off the bat. I'm kind of glad that I was lazy with my hair and waited until I found a styling routine that actually benefited my hair before I started putting any effort in lol. And actually I've noticed that I get even less frizz in my hair if I just air dry it rather than diffuse it. But my hair is fine, medium density, medium porosity, and shoulder length so it air dries in like one hour. I originally was diffusing it like everyone else, but I kept getting frizz and one night it was late so I just did all my products and styling and let it air dry before scrunching out the crunch with some hair oil and OMG it was so shiny and not frizzy at all!! AND I has even better second day hair than I ever had before after sleeping in my bonnet and silk pillow case. I think that's gonna be my new go to for sure. I love taking evening showers anyways so it kinda works out lol.

[@ln91222]

Yes, to so many of the things. I, too, have stopped chasing curls every single day. I, too, cannot cowash, it just doesn't work for me. I like you with a little snarkiness : ). Finally, I'm going to be using "throw my sucker in the dirt" as often as possible, lol. Great video and very helpful!

[@littlenancy98]

Thanks for being science-Y!

[@SwavyCurlyCourtney]

You bet!

[@TeresaRains-d6p]

I love all the science!! Thank you so much for all of the information.

[@SwavyCurlyCourtney]

Any time! 🤗😅

[@msh6865]

Love the positive attitude and honesty. Who knew there were so many curl protocols and standards out there? 😂

[@Ennpey]

Your first point triggered me in rewatching all of your co-wash videos, haha!! (That's how I found your channel 4 years ago #memorylane You have saved my hair ♥♥♥ Thank you!!!! ) I know you said cowashing wasn't for you, I'm one of those people for whom washing frequently actually makes my scalp produce more sebum. I don't have oily skin naturally. But I have been skipping co wash and my hair is getting now greasier quickly again, so now I'm going to cowash again! But I still clarify every 4-6 weeks.

[@julieschumacher2402]

It was your channel and Alison Lupo’s channel (saw you got your hair cut by her...jealous!) that gave me the “a-ha” moment of “I’m not curly, I’m wavy!” I tried nearly every curly hair product and styling trick out there but could never get the same results or got WORSE results...because I’m not curly, I’m (now) proudly WAVY. Your tips and tricks make so much more sense for my hair and I’m super grateful to have found someone who gets it. Keep up the helpful content we wavys need to navigate our “fearfully and wonderfully made” hair!

[@bluefroggy99]

I’m so grateful for your videos and you sharing your heart with us. Thanks for helping me along the way in my wavy/curly hair journey. 💜🙏🏻☺️

[@SwavyCurlyCourtney]

You are so welcome!

[@FaceItGrace]

In the 2 years of my curly hair journey I never followed the Curly Girl Method because I still want my hair to be and feel conditioned and love a good cleanse a sulfate shampoo gives me, among other things. Lorraine Massey went from haircare pioneer to another one of the curly hair gatekeepers, which is saddening.

[@Celeste-.-marie]

I have recently discovered how nice it is to take a styling break also. Especially after a fresh cut when you get "curl shock." I just leave it alone for awhile then when i style it again its extra bouncy!

[@SwavyCurlyCourtney]

So true!

[@ibbi8930]

I love to take breaks from the full routine. It lets me and my hair rest and I often just love how soft and touchable my hair is when there's not a lot of products in it. Sure, the waves are looser, and don't last as long, but I know that I can get my spirals back next time if I so choose. Great video!

[@SwavyCurlyCourtney]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@FírecrackerSaF]

I feel like the wavy/curly issue is like a different way women size eachother up and down. It’s not ok to tell someone they’re skinny or overweight. Yet in the 20 years I did hair, I’d have soo many clients be condescending about waves. So much so, that I personally rarely EVER did my hair wavy, because of it!! It’s real. And it’s stupid tbh, that a lot of women compare their hair to others, to feel better about their own. I cannot imagine how many ridiculous comments you’ve endured over this. Thank you for having your content!! It’s helping me figure out how to accept and work with my own waves now, instead of forcing it to be ‘extra curly’ or forcing it to be straight ❤

[@CJ_536]

Love the ingredient detail. :) and I agree... hair is fun. We should enjoy how God made us and let the other comments go.

[@jessicakief2561]

I love the science breakdown! Thank you for sharing it ❤

[@SwavyCurlyCourtney]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@helennoble9587]

My misconception is hair gel, the crunchiness and the dry ends are damaging … tried so many all in the bin ! Plopping, waste of time How ever our hairs are so different , what works for one …….. Wave spray or occasionally a little salt spray and oil on ends, good to go

[@Celeste-.-marie]

What wave spray do you like?

[@helennoble9587]

@@Celeste-.-marie yes very much , the curl smith wave spray and the Qua wave spray are light weight, hold definition, give body without the dryness, much better

[@aprildegele1510]

That I have curls, with a majority of waves, is something I've NEVER had, so I'm thrilled to see them! I lived in TX most of my life, where big hair is a thing (still is, but now I live in Oregon). I used every product under the sun (including Aquanet purple and backcombing) to get that big hair and because my hair was so baby fine, it didn't hold for more than an hour or two at best. After it all failed, I looked like a wet rat. So, ANY volume I get from waves or curls is welcome. That only happened after menopause. My brother went kinky curly at puberty and I always felt slighted. But now? Once my hair is longer, I'll be able to finger curl! In the interim, I'm good with where my hair is on any given day because I have more volume that I have ever had! Volume is a HUGE deal for anyone who has always had baby fine hair. You can style the crap out of it with the strongest hold products (Loreal, for a very short time in the mid to late 80's, had a spray that would literally survive a hurricane. I was so sad when they stopped making it, just as I was sad that they stopped producing color enhancing mousse that had a bit of shimmer). Now, in my mid 50's I don't really care. I just let my hair do what it's going to do and embrace it. That's what age does. You learn that what was important to you in your teens and 20's isn't important now.

[@soniaburgos4595]

Well said, Courtney! I believe wavy hair has the best of both worlds! Your hair is beautiful...like a beachy Mermaid!🥰

[@curlyandstrong6798]

Great video, Courtney! I have never been able to cowash😢 I personally wish I could. Unfortunately, my scalp gets EXTREMELY itchy. That being said, I prefer shampoo, especially if they are cleansing. I am a 3b,3c, low porosity, medium density, super fine curly gal, and I also prefer sodium c14-16 olefin sulfonate it definitely helps my itchy scalp.

[@dyoungerman.]

My hair went 2B/C wavy after I lost most of it following a medical event almost 3 years ago. I had straight, long, thick hair for my entire life, and now I have the hair 16 year old me would have given anything to have! But ... I'm still learning how to manage this wild mane 🤣

[@andreakarlsson7927]

There can never be too much science. 😊😊

[@mayaward609]

I LOVE THE SCIENCE TALK

[@SwavyCurlyCourtney]

Awe yay! Good! Love it!

[@Dana-vq1tk]

It sure as heck feels like a carrer!!

[@aprildegele1510]

I'm so sorry that you have felt inferior because you have loose curls/wavy hair! 20 years ago, I'd have killed to have your waves/loose curls. I can imagine that really curly girls look down on those with looser curls, but it's still curly! I'm so sorry that you felt bullied, or inferior. That makes me sad.

[@ellenjolenewilkins6511]

Enjoyed this scientific video😊

[@SwavyCurlyCourtney]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@debrahudson3334]

This is kind of off topic but in your last video you mentioned not using a hair towel. I thought using a hair towel was the best for curly hair as it gets the water out fast which prevents the curls from weighing done or the protein in our hair from breaking? Im a newbie to hair care so just trying to collect information and these videos are Great! I also stopped using sulfates in my shampoo.

[@helenbreaux8576]

Thank you 😊 🩷

[@AHessMess]

I hate when people tell me i have to diffuse my hair. I haven't blow dried my hair in years and don't plan to anytime soon. I like air drying my hair and my curls are just fine

[@aprildegele1510]

My hair actually curls better when it's more on the dry side, especially my silver. I used Wella for a month and it did very well when I alternated washes with the regular curly shampoo and the cleansing conditioner. I haven't been brave enough to use the mask yet. I'm going to predict it's going to take all of the curls out of my hair (my hair is baby fine and dense). Now, my hair is still short as I'm growing it out, so it's in the totally annoying phase. I've switched to kinky curly. So many more waves, but that conditioner tends to weigh my hair down when I use it as a partial leave-in, meaning I only washed it out half way this last time. To that, it's totally silky and healthy. You'd think that the kinky curly line would be too harsh for baby fine, dense, short hair, but it isn't. That was a surprise. I'm sure I'll figure out the condition eventually, probably when my hair is longer so that I can condition only the ends and actually brush or finger style it properly. For now, it's still too short for either. But I will say that I've gotten an extra 2 days out of a wash using the clarifying shampoo, even when completely rinsing out the conditioner, using an anti-frizz foam, and using the curling gel before diffusing. I need more volume at my roots and firmer hold. Thinking of trying the Dippity Do now that I know it's still being produced!

[@angelaharris1112]

I know what I would do with those comments. 😡 Thank you for yet another great video!

[@Lizard301]

Different. NOT less!

[@ciannacoleman5125]

I guess I'm one of the only people who's worst abuse to my hair was a poor conditioning habit (until the last few years)? I pretty much have just let my hair do what it wants and lived in buns, braids, and ponytails. I wacked off 18" about 8yrs ago when I started college and discovered I would get ringlets when I washed that would quickly go away as soon as I so much as ran my hands through it. I just did another "wack" (my hair is still mid spine but for me it is short) and decided to try encouraging the wavy/curly to stay. Leave in conditioner is the secret to the softest hair imaginable I completely forgot once my mom started letting me brush my own hair as a child. One use and even if my curls are soso the texture is 100% worth the extra step

[@SwavyCurlyCourtney]

Yes! Leave-in cand be so helpful!!!

[@QuickSilverHair]

Courtney…I feel really dense. I have been staring at your hashtag #2chair for several videos wondering what a 2 chair was!!!! 🤣 I’m here again, I have figured it out. 🤦🏼‍♀️ Here here!!! All these myths busted!

[@SwavyCurlyCourtney]

LOL Love it! I could see why you thought this!

[@QuickSilverHair]

@@SwavyCurlyCourtney I run my words together anyway especially when I talk too fast…which I know you have the same experience. Hashtags take me to a new level. 😂

[@mandyratliff6285]

I want to add my two cents worth😂. My hair ranges from 2b to 3b, so it's wavy-curly. I have people with looser curl patterns tell me it's not wavy, then I have people with tighter curl patterns tell me it's not curly. I find the ones with tighter curl patterns to be quite rude about it, in general. The majority of my hair is 3a-3b, not 2b-2c. Several hairstylists have told me it's curly, not wavy. Not 1 hairstylist has said it's wavy. I'm not sure why all the gatekeeping is necessary. But everyone thinks they're some kind of expert, when they are clearly not. So I try to blow them off. I can't imagine what it's like to have a platform that reaches thousands upon thousands of people. The comments must be exhausting. I started watching Courtney's videos in late 2019 or early 2020. I started using her methods and advice and have never looked back. I've tweaked my routine for my own personal hair but I'm a firm believer that Courtney's methods work for a wide variety of hair types and textures. I love you, Courtney! Thank you so, so much for all that you do!

[@SwavyCurlyCourtney]

You just made my day! I’m really honored I was able to help. Thank you so much for being so kind!

[@liztucker429]

Have you tried LUS Love Your Curls

[@liztucker429]

I was just on your site and I see that you promote their products

[@SwavyCurlyCourtney]

Yes! I have a done a few one brand wash days with them. Here is the latest one! kzbin.info/www/bejne/n6rNpGCFlqeeh5o

[@halcyon3116]

@15:17 GASP lol

[@stephswavycurls]

Lab Muffin Beauty science does say that brushing curly hair while wet is better than dry! Ignore the naysayers ❤

[@karenruggiero9500]

I don’t know what you mean by porosity.

[@FírecrackerSaF]

How fast your hair absorbs water and products, or how long it takes water and products to penetrate within; and how long it takes hair to dry. ❤

[@wendyash6915]

I never say that I cowash. If my hair needs washed, I use shampoo. The rest of the time, when I wet my hair to restyle, I only use conditioner but that is for moisture, not washing. The whole curly girl world is so funny.

[@chrystalthornton1502]

Realizing you can't make wavy hair curly because it will just fall out after a few hours. Realizing you can't make wavy hair straight because it isn't. Embracing the wave you actually have because if you do, it will stay in all week with no effort.

[@aprildegele1510]

You also use way too much shampoo. All you need is a couple of dime-sized plops, one for the front and sides, and one for the nape and bottom sides, meeting at the crown. As you seem to know, shampoo only needs to be applied to the scalp, and that suds aren't necessary to clean your hair. I've seen that you wash properly, only at the scalp, so if the scalp is really the only thing that needs cleaning while the rest of the hair will be cleaned by default in that the soap will work it's way down (or you can work it down), why do you use so much shampoo? Now, I have a hard time watching Brad Mondo. In one of his videos, he suggested that simply rinsing your hair in warm water will clean it. I beg to differ on the simple principle that water and oil don't mix. There is absolutely NO way you can clean an oily scalp with just water, much less remove the oil in products. To that, I have had seborrhic dermatitis on my scalp for decades. After using the Kinky Curly clarifying shampoo, it's completely GONE. This makes me think ... HOW many years have I used bad shampoo?

[@gingerchipper]

Your hair is beautiful. Embrace it. Seriously, who cares what other people think, do, or say. Naysayers, backyard (or should I say bathroom) experts, and know-it-alls are put on earth to annoy us. Don’t let them.