Talking Through a More Relaxing Labor

[@kelseymeyer3534]

You should do a video that is just you repeating words of affirmation and guided relaxation! Just a quick 1-2 minute video we can all have on repeat! ! You’re voice is wayyy more positive, soothing and encouraging then when my husbands says them!!

[@TMcNear]

Yes, agreed! Bridget Teyler has these and they are wonderful!

[@laurengordon1528]

Yes please!!

[@Nurse_zabe]

I can definitely look into doing that 😊

[@bleechrcreechrr]

@@Nurse_zabe yes please!!

[@erinw6726]

My mantra during labor started as shifting between 2 notes in a singsong pattern and eventually shifted into "this is how much I love you" or just "Mommy loves you" in a singsong voice to my babygirl. I loved the idea of turning my labor into a "love song" for my baby to enter into the world hearing.

[@Nurse_zabe]

I love this. A love song for you baby is the perfect way to describe it. 💗

[@eroslove1787]

I love your videos My mantra is inspired with the worship song 10,000 Reasons When I start labor, every contractions I count 1 reason to praise the Lord 2 reason to praise the Lord... I have my baby girl with 747 reasons to praise the Lord Hallelujah!!!

[@dressageponi]

I am 38 weeks and at my exam this morning I was 3 cm dilated and 70% effaced. I am watching your toolbox series to prep!

[@saranayakumar]

Omg am 5 days overdue and i always come to ur videos when i wanted guidance or positivity. I was lil frustrated that am past my due date and your words of affirmation Made me smile and gave me confidence i can do it. I am going thru the whole tools box videos now.

[@lindseybouchard8646]

As a newer L&D nurse, I love watching your videos and learning how to better support my patients. Thank you!

[@juliet5413]

Me too! I’m always looking for ways to just be better!

[@Nurse_zabe]

That’s awesome! I’d also recommend a spinning babies workshop once the pandemic is over!

[@theothershorty]

I am 13 weeks pregnant today but I really appreciate these videos. Labor is terrifying to me but I feel less stress having the tools to go through it in November. Thank you!

[@hopemack1030]

Love your labor toolbox. Helped get me through natural labor all up until I hit 7cm!!! After that, I succumbed to the crazy and nothing could calm me. But baby and I (with lots of help from the lord and my midwife) made it through no epidural. I'm still alive!!! Thanks 🤗

[@starlinerm.batistaarias8154]

I really, really hope my nurse will be like you or at least have your mentally and soothing voice. With every relaxing exercise I felt I wanted to cry but not of sadness but because I felt so understand... Like you were speaking to me exclusively.

[@Nurse_zabe]

💗💗

[@froggielove70]

Thank you so much for this video and all your advice. I recently moved and I am pregnant with my first child. He is due in July 💕 Words cant describe how scared I was until I came across your videos. You have been way more helpful than my own OBYGN. You always put my mind at ease and I pray I get a nurse just like you!! Once again, thank you so much!

[@Nurse_zabe]

You are so, so welcome! I know you will have an amazing nurse and birth. Good luck, mama! 💗💪🏼

[@AnItalianKnitter]

I’m due in July too! Best of luck

[@laurengordon1528]

Please can you make an affirmation track! I love listening to you say those affirmations and watching your videos to prepare reinforce that calm.

[@Nurse_zabe]

I’ll look into how to do that 😊

[@saranayakumar]

She got voice of an angel isn't it?

[@atoro4335]

I'm due in November for my first baby and I'm watching so many of your videos. They're so helpful!

[@sydneyjrivera]

Thank you so much for posting these! I’m 39weeks 6days waiting for baby to decide he’s ready. These are super helpful 💕💕💕

[@Nurse_zabe]

You’re so welcome! Good luck with the end of your pregnancy and delivery. You’ve got this, mama! 💪🏼💗

[@KLH311]

Thank you for making the toolbox videos, I can’t wait to use all of this advice! ♥️

[@Nurse_zabe]

I hope they help you have a calm, supported and beautiful birth 💗

[@kasieharner7062]

I am so grateful for your videos! Im 21 weeks and the labor process makes me anxious. But your videos are a HUGE help! Thank you! 💕

[@Nurse_zabe]

Anything unknown is bound to make you anxious, but I’m hopeful that my videos and other childbirth education will give you the knowledge and skills to advocate for yourself and create a safe and supported birth. Plus, you got this. You were born to do this! 💗

[@kaahpinhel]

You’re awesome!! ❤️❤️ God bless you and thank you for taking your time to make this videos!

[@Nurse_zabe]

Of course! These have definitely been more work than I bargained for with a video a day, but I was hoping to reach as many mamas as I could during quarantine when so many childbirth education classes are canceled.

[@AlyyElizabeth]

I have been watching you since you started your channel and am having my 3rd baby on Monday. Let’s just say your videos have been so helpful.

[@Nurse_zabe]

Baby #3! How exciting. I’m so glad they’ve been helpful. 😊 Wishing you a fast and easy delivery. You got this, mama! 💪🏼💗

[@lanamarkovic4542]

Thank you for the toolbox series. I get very excited when you upload, they are very informative and they Will be helpful during labor, you are AMAZING! ♥️

[@Nurse_zabe]

Thank you so much for watching. 💗

[@AshleighMcCarty]

Watching while being induced right now

[@Nurse_zabe]

Yay!! Hope you see this comment with a baby in your arms. Definitely update us! 💗💗

[@AshleighMcCarty]

@@Nurse_zabe it went really well I thought! 9 hour labor, I made it to 7 or 8cm dilated before asking for epidural, and shortly thereafter doc said it was time! 10 minutes of pushing and laughing with my wonderful OB and our beautiful son was born. Watching your videos throughout my pregnancy really made me feel informed and eased anxiety.

[@kyracrowell7453]

Will you so a video about not having a support person during labor? Military wives for example might not have a close friend or family to be with them during labor if their husband is away.

[@valeriaz8510]

Thank so much for all your videos, I just had my first baby boy and all of your videos helped me tremendously! I thank God we're both doing great, and you for sharing your knowledge 💕

[@Nurse_zabe]

You’re welcome! So thankful y’all are doing well! 💗💗💗

[@carlairving]

I'm in my TWW and this was more soothing and encouraging than all the fertility meditation I've done so far :) Thx

[@sassysavannah4383]

I gave birth on the 9th and I think I did so well through the whole thing thanks to you 🥰 so thank you so much

[@Nurse_zabe]

You did great because you are a rockstar mama! I just gave you some tools to feel educated and supported. So happy you had a good experience!

[@Nurse_zabe]

And congrats on your sweet baby!

[@emmaklippel2815]

Thankyou again! I've been suffering from B12 and Iron anaemia and have been super short on breath. Hubby's been helping me out with some guided imagery breathing and blowing up balloons. I feel like that'll definitely come into play come labour time 😊

[@Nurse_zabe]

I’m so sorry you’ve been struggling with all that on top of normal shortness of breath with pregnancy. You’re right, practicing now will definitely help with labor! 💗

[@sitcomchristian6886]

I fell asleep in between pushes. But that was because I was exhausted lol 🤷‍♀️😂

[@Nurse_zabe]

Exhausted and able to relax! Rock on, mama!

[@dreamsscream]

I friend of mine slept through much of her labor (not the final stretch though). The contractions would wake her up but she would go back to sleep.

[@jericadunnagan1067]

I'm super excited I found your videos I feel like even though this is my 3rd baby I'm 28 weeks but I've learned a lot and feel way more confident going into this coming labor 🥰🥰

[@Nurse_zabe]

Knowledge can definitely make you feel more confident! So thankful you’re feeling this way! Congrats on baby #3! 💗

[@jericadunnagan1067]

@@Nurse_zabe thank you we are very excited to be blessed with our littles 💗

[@Itsdianaaa.m]

I got my membranes swept today and found out I’m over 1cm dilated and just started spotting 😱 I know it’s normal but it’s still exciting for me 😄 thank you for your videos!! 😁💕

[@Nurse_zabe]

Oh yay! I hope you see this response with a baby in your arms! 💗💗

[@Itsdianaaa.m]

Nurse Zabe thank you but no baby yet 😬 but we are still waiting and I’ve had contractions also! Hopefully today ! 💕

[@kimbird7563]

Can you do a video about the risks and benefits of delayed cord clamping? Lots of women told me not to have the babies cord cut right away and some say different. I'm having my first baby in November and I would really like to know more about this.

[@treefrog1018]

Awe. I am not even pregnant and not going to be pregnant and I feel encouraged by hearing these word of affirmations. 😆 This really is my top love language.

[@jes3429]

I just found your channel while looking up pros and cons of having an epidural. I've had 4 babies without an epidural and I am expecting my 5th baby in less than two weeks but the fear of going through that kind of pain is giving me anxiety. I'm trying to decide if I should get one or not this time. My labors have always been 12 hours or longer and the reason for not getting an epidural with the first 4 babies was the side effects and also I hear from alot of women that they suffer from back pain problems during the colder weather. Since the day I found out I was pregnant (which was a total surprise) the first thing that I thought about was the painful contractions and now that I'm so close to giving birth the fear and anxiety is so much stronger. I'm watching a lot of your videos and I want to tell you thank you beacause it's helping calm down some of the anxiety. I still haven't decided if I'm getting an epidural or not but I'm enjoying watching your videos 👍😊

[@Nurse_zabe]

Glad I could help some with the anxiety. It’s a tough decision and there isn’t a perfect answer. It can be different for each person and for each labor. 💗

[@jackierandazzo]

I made a Labor Toolbox playlist 😂 love these videos (love all your videos!)

[@Nurse_zabe]

Great idea! I have a playlist with all these as well, but I know there are other great educators on this platform!

[@nicoyataylor1955]

I love all your advice!!!!

[@Nurse_zabe]

Thank you! 💗💗

[@ourlittlelife2818]

LOVEEEE. Definitely sharing this info with hubby. 🥺💕

[@Nurse_zabe]

Yay! This is a great one to watch together. The breathing one as well!

[@jackiesheaffer9262]

I wish you could be my l&d nurse! These have been really helpful, thank you!!!

[@Nurse_zabe]

You’re so welcome! I know your labor nurse will be great for you! 💗

[@kempokayja]

I wish I would have seen these before my last birth. It was the worst experience of my life. There were a lot of factors like platelets being to low for an epidural and being on magnesium, and being induced way before my body was ready for labor (I know it was necessary but still sucked). It is very true what you say, anyone CAN deliver without an epidural, and once you lose control it is very difficult to get it back.

[@Nurse_zabe]

I am so sorry your previous birth was a rough experience. It sounds like you had a lot of overwhelming circumstances surrounding it! From what you describe, it would be darn near impossible for anyone to maintain control over how they dealt with contractions. Honestly I didn’t give birth without an epidural gracefully at all. And that’s ok. We are both rockstars! You especially, mama! 💪🏼💗

[@XJunixAnnexKayxScarX]

On a funny note, I was a support person for my best friend during her labour, and her midwife kept saying “that’s the way,” over and over. It honestly got annoying, but I wasn’t going to say anything because like if it was helping my friend then who cares. After my best friend delivered her baby she says she remembers wanting her midwife to stop or say anything else! 😂

[@ThisPeacefulSpace]

Could you please make a video on health issues moms face due to pregnancy and what to watch for while pregnant. For example vericose veins, vision and gall bladder issues etc.

[@Nurse_zabe]

Great idea. I’ll definitely look into it!

[@amarg8631]

I went yesterday to hospital because at 36+5 weeks,I was having mild constructions every 10 min but I couldn't feel my baby move so they checked the baby and everything was fine I had them for about 10 hour irregular mild constructions and then they stopped. This is my third baby and I never experienced this before. Did something like this happened to any other mum ???

[@Nurse_zabe]

First off, I am so glad you went in when you weren’t feeling the baby move, that was the right decision. Sometimes when it’s baby #2+ you feel more Braxton Hicks and uterine irritability towards the end of pregnancy. I hope the rest of your pregnancy and delivery go smoothly! 💗💗

[@amarg8631]

Nurse Zabe thank you so much for replying and also for wishing me well it means a lot 🥰,

[@Lubinzubie]

I’m 7 months pregnant with baby #2 and I just stumbled upon your videos. I love them! Can you do a video like this for planned c-section mamas? My first baby was born via unplanned, urgent c-section and as a result my OB is requiring us to have a planned c-section this time around. I live overseas and things are done SO differently here, and after my daughter was born I was told I had to lay flat and not talk or move my head or hold my daughter for 6 hours. I was told this is to avoid a spinal headache. Is that normal practice in the states? I want to hold my baby and start nursing right away this time around. If not how long can a baby go without nursing?

[@Nurse_zabe]

That is not normal practice in the United States, but it hard to say what was going on during the urgent cesarean birth since I wasn’t there. Even when we do have the risk of a spinal headache (often after an epidural that goes too deep), I will help mamas hold their babies and nurse lying flat. Have you checked out my “10 things your labor nurse wants you to know about c-sections” video? That might provide some answers as to what a scheduled cesarean birth would look like. 😊💗

[@Lubinzubie]

Nurse Zabe yes I have. Thank you! They make all women here lay flat like that for 6-8 hours after a csection. I live in Guatemala and idk if the information here is outdated or what. The nurses gave my daughter a bottle full of formula before I had even held her and I was furious. So I’m definitely advocating for changes this time around. Thanks so much for your channel and your content! It’s so helpful and encouraging!

[@reth31]

Hi, thanks for all the info you ever provide. I am currently 37 weeks and 1cm dilated do you think when will be the time for me? thanks.

[@Nurse_zabe]

If I had a crystal ball and could know the time I would be a very rich women. There are so many factors that go into the start of labor. But starting at 1cm is a great place to be when contractions do start! 💗

[@sarkeen3128]

My was epidural 😂 both times

[@jennyramirez9073]

I enjoyed your “women who are epiduralized” comment!

[@beckalakestream6321]

My due date is today o___O

[@Nurse_zabe]

😬😬😬 maybe you’ll be one of the 5% born on their due date! 💗

[@someonesomething4834]

do you ever think nurses judge young teen moms?like under 15 year olds..?

[@Nurse_zabe]

Some might. We all (as humans) have biases that we have to constantly make sure are not affecting our care. But our job, regardless of age, race or religion (or anything else), is to make sure you feel safe, educated and supported in your labor. I know almost every labor nurse strives for that!

[@megancooke2772]

I’m a teacher, not a nurse, but I wouldn’t judge. I’d be more likely to feel bad, as that’s a lot for a young person to go through.