Overcoming Life FOMO and Failure (Empower your journey and navigate with confidence)

Tips for moving into a new phase as told through the story of my current journey.
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Video breakdown:
In this video, I'm sharing intimate insights into my personal journey of leaving the hustle and bustle of New York City after 30 incredible years. Life is an ever-evolving adventure, and I'm here to share my experience and offer tips for embracing a new phase with courage and confidence.
Join me as I reflect on the decision to leave the excitement of NYC and transition into a more relaxed phase of life. I'll discuss the challenges, the emotions, and the invaluable lessons learned during this major life shift.
🔑 Tips for Your Journey:
I'll be sharing practical tips that have helped me navigate this transition, offering insights on overcoming FOMO, dealing with perceived failure, and empowering your journey toward a new direction. Whether you're contemplating a move, facing a major life change, or seeking inspiration, this video is for you.
🌈 Embracing Change with Confidence:
Change can be daunting, but it's also an opportunity for growth. I'll share how I've embraced this new chapter with confidence and how you can too. From self-reflection to setting intentions, these are some strategies I'm using I hope will empower you to navigate current or future transitions in your own life :)
If you enjoyed this video and found it helpful, be sure to subscribe for more content on personal growth, empowerment, and navigating life's exciting twists and turns as we do over on this channel! #LifeTransition #Empowerment #NewBeginnings #JourneyOfChange #MovingOn
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[@bleached463]

The new mic setup has just made me crave a Tara podcast 😅 Aliens, past lives, agony aunt segments… Would be so good

[@aliaelborai]

YES!!!

[@TarMarz]

hahahha I would get sick of myself if I made it to a 4th platform 😂

[@bleached463]

@@TarMarz well we wouldn’t! But I totally understand 😂 A girl can dream

[@pureheartbadass]

i love new york so much, but there are so many content creators there and i ADORE the fact that it seems like people are branching out and making these lovely videos from all over the world. i love getting to know new pleaces like this. we need more content from places that are not new york or LA. the new trend of like... "dublin/paris/copenhagen/seoul/whatever rural place diaries" is so needed and i can't wait for you to share your videos and perspective from whatever place you choose to be in

[@andyskye]

I don’t do video but I am also living remotely, creating content and shooting for brands

[@TarMarz]

this is where it's atttt! you might like hannah lee duggan here on youtube, i've been enjoying her slower cabin life!

[@paulinekeane3888]

Totally agree with giving somewhere at least a year before giving up. I also think moving abroad really forces you to be more mindful and present and intentional with your everyday. It wipes the slate of your life clean and pushes you to reckon with all those areas of your life that had been intuitive and muscle memory up until that point. You learn so much about yourself through being uncomfortable

[@TarMarz]

totally, for me it gave me room to really discover my identity without embarrassment and i'm grateful forever

[@Eyeswide39Open]

I’m a teacher (over 10 years in education) and I’m desperately trying to navigate out of it. I’ve recently had a new opportunity come my way that is not entirely in the right direction, but it could offer a bit of breathing space. This video has definitely helped me look at the decision from another perspective/ reinforced thoughts that I was having. Thanks and love from another Libra named Tara x

[@TarMarz]

a libra and a tara ?! love this and I wish you all the best - I know that the universe is supporting you with whatever change in direction you wish to go, once you decide it ❤️

[@natpei7427]

Good luck on your new journey!xx

[@oooliviaroseee]

Tara this is exactly what I needed to hear. I’m moving to Paris in a couple months and I have been feeling overwhelmed with it all. Thank you for paving the way with such grace! ❤️

[@TarMarz]

flattered by your kindness thankyou! all the best with your journey!

[@katharina.25]

I just love all the advice you can get out of this video and that it's not like you're preaching or teaching something to your audience. it's just us following you on your journey and taking what resonates. it makes me really excited for change rather than fearing it.

[@TarMarz]

I personally hate being dictated too so I try not to do that 😂 thanks for appreciating the vid!

[@JodieRogers]

love the mic set up, your voice is so soothing! Also exciting to hear your next steps post New Year 🤍

[@lyndsaymcgregor1793]

I really enjoyed this chat and so many things you said really resonated with me. I moved to NY in 2009 and returned to Ireland 8 years later but it took me about a year to come to terms with the fact that the pace of life there (and my career at the time) was no longer serving me and when a family member back home got really sick it was the last push I needed. I had tied up so much of my own self worth in my New York life and was really terrified of going home and being viewed as a failure. But that was me and my own insecurities and once I made the decision to leave it was such a massive weight off my shoulders and I just felt so at peace. Nervous obviously but not anxious or stressed.

[@TarMarz]

it happens so easily, nyc makes everything feels so biggg even within ourselves the thought of leaving sometimes can make us feel smaller somehow but I think as you said tying up your identity in it and realizing you have, then trying to untangle that is a big job 😂

[@EDG1965]

Loved this! I’m glad to know you are ok and that you are prioritizing self care. How exciting your plan sounds. I’m rooting for you!

[@TarMarz]

thankyou so much!

[@passthatcouture]

I'm so proud of you Tara. I've been following you for years and love seeing your growth. Here's to a new chapter for you!

[@TarMarz]

thankyou 🥹

[@phoebe261]

This sit down chatty catch up was so lovely - thank you for sharing with us, it’s always appreciated as I hope most of us recognise it’s totally not a right, but something you choose to do! X

[@TarMarz]

thanks for being so thoughtful 🫶🏻

[@pessoasombra]

I think you'd be great in a podcast format.

[@still2shy]

You have so much to offer from wherever you are! Your Canvas is blank my dear, can’t wait to see what you paint.. the last piece was chic and fun!

[@TarMarz]

thankyou!

[@emmy.222]

This video gave me inspiration to slow things down… i live in a city (toronto) - so maybe like a mini new york. And i really resonated with you saying you always felt like you had to be doing something. I just started a full time job and I feel too drained to keep doing ALL the self development work, trying to read, trying to workout or maintain hobbies, being social… I am really taking some words of wisdom from this video. I hope you’re enjoying this slower paced, transition period 💛

[@TarMarz]

omg this! trying to tick all the human expectation boxes weekly feels like an absolute rat race that just never seems to feel easier 😅

[@wandamcewan2178]

I've been a subscriber for the past 4ish years and it's crazy to see how much i've changed and how much you've changed as well. These past three months have been full of challenges and changes (libra season was rough) and making the decision to stop school for now and come home and take care of myself, was a thing I thought about earlier this year but ended up scrapping the idea until October and truly the feeling after making that decision was crazy. Feeling like my lungs could fill with air again, my body responded so well to that change in direction. I'm so happy for you Tara that you've been able to do this and start to rest and recuperate!

[@TarMarz]

i'm proud of you!

[@Justviewinn]

I’m excited for Cork content. ❤

[@patriciaobrien3030]

A lovely listen, wishing you all the best! Exciting times ahead 😊

[@sarahwotaszak563]

Hi, Tara! Long time viewer, have been following since before the move to the US. I loved this video! I’m in a really transitional period of my life (just hit my Saturn return last year) and I’m also considering moving in a years’ time bc I’m in a long distance relationship as well, so a lot of this really resonated with me! I appreciate you being open and honest about your thought process and feelings around the move out of NYC, and about just closing chapters and starting new ones with excitement rather than anxiety. Wishing you a smooth and easy transition when you back the leap back home to Ireland, can’t wait to see all of that content and Canada in the meantime! Happy holidays, much love from Chicago 🩷

[@TarMarz]

thank you so much, we're all just here to encourage eachother and nurture some future strength for when we need it!

[@nicholasofficial4141]

i really feel you on the stress thing. NYC has such an infectious energy that is amazing until it is not. The instant peace you get havingg distance from it is delicious but you start to miss the chaos lmao. Congrats and good luck on ur new journey!

[@TarMarz]

you worded that so well!❤️

[@amandagosio]

Love the mention 😉❤ but genuinely so happy for you and can feel so much peace in you with this decision, even in your voice! 💕

[@TarMarz]

❤️❤️❤️

[@marquisstarks9471]

Tar Mar! So happy for you and your exciting move. May you receive all the blessings :-)

[@TarMarz]

thankyou!

[@CherylHuse]

As a Native New Yorker that moved months before the pandemic to Connecticut *another state thinking it would be better. Everything you said. Just really resonated with me! I felt this shift and continue feeling this shift. I’m proud of you for honoring yourself and trusting all that you are 🥲🩵

[@TarMarz]

thank you for leaving such a lovely comment and the snippet you shared about your journey❤️

[@CharVillena]

I enjoy hearing you talk about your experiences, Tara. I really connect with the content you've been putting out as I find that it's rare to find KZbinrs who are interested in spirituality, astrology, and astrocartography like I am. I would love to cross paths with you one day and talk about all of this. Good luck with everything in the future, and cheers to new beginnings ❤😊

[@TarMarz]

awh thankyou so much! I love all the spooky stuff

[@emmat5871]

I tided the kitchen and listened away to this, super relaxing and interesting! I’ve been away from Ireland for 20 years and really agree with your take on giving places a while to feel like home. I reckon it took me a good 5 years…. Not that those 5 years were terrible, they were fun in parts. Looking forward to seeing Vancouver then your adventure living back home as an adult!

[@TarMarz]

definitely agree took me 5 years to relax into it and really feel like I have everything I need down

[@startpage717]

Congratulations...I see the change. Phew!

[@fdotleonora]

Tara, don’t let anyone let you believe it is entirely where you are that draws people to you, it is so much who you are. also Jenny Claffey - who i discovered because of you! - is in ireland and she is AMAZING!!! just keep being you❤

[@TarMarz]

she is such an inspo I agree!

[@amberstewart2006]

Watching while I do my treadmill warmup, in the spirit of wedding prep. Perfect watching material as usual, love you Tara

[@TarMarz]

❤️❤️❤️

I felt so seen when you said it takes a lot of courage to move away from home. For me the transition was the opposite, I lived abroad for the most part of my life. I moved back home for university alone (not much of my family around in the city I live in) but the journey to actually navigate my life in my 20s, feeling lost in a country I'm supposed to call home felt so lonely and strange. Watching your videos feels like an older sister reassuring me that I'll be okay moving forward. Big energetic hug back!

[@TarMarz]

you got this❤️

[@MrMaggieGrim]

I personally get excited to see content from someone living ANYWHERE but NYC. And I studied at UCC and absolutely can't wait to watch some Cork vlogs :)

[@TarMarz]

hahahah your college road alumni

[@JusMeBeck]

Your Enegry feels so refreshed ❤❤❤

[@linneaholgersson2668]

I loved this video, had it on while I was doing my night time routine and I stopped it ( 17:56) to comment that yes you need to do these videos on your self care list. I also just moved countries (moved from 7 years in Amsterdam to my home country) and feel like I need to ground and rest/reset to be able to start my “new” life after having my whole 20s in Amsterdam. So would love to continue get inspired by you with this journey 🤍 lots of love!

[@TarMarz]

coming your way tomorrow 😎

[@ellenfilipppa]

I love your energy it always makes me feel so calm

[@TarMarz]

glad to be of service!

[@AmaraBush]

tara!! wishing you the absolute best of luck on your new journey. i got to meet you at la cantine a few months back and it was such a full circle moment for me because i found your videos when i was in high school and knew i wanted to move to new york one day!! been here two and a half years now and i think it is kind of apart of the new york experience to wonder how long you will stay and what is next (def is something i find myself already questioning). i think partially because new york is such a exciting yet exhausting place to live, but also because the people who move here are all so ambitious and crave growth. you have truly felt like an online big sister to me all these years, and i feel so at peace after watching your videos, and reaffirmed that as long as you have a strong core things will work out exactly as they're supposed to

[@TarMarz]

Awh Amara! our selfie still lives on in my phone 😂 so nice meeting you honestly such a enjoyable interaction 🥰

[@rebeccadurrans521]

So happy about the Ireland move ❤

[@aniekhamathew1242]

Tara first off i want to start off by saying that i have been following your journey for half a decade now and it has been so awe inspiring to follow along your life as at most times i have found our journeys quite similar and resonated with your videos in realms of my life such as navigating big shifts / letting go / following my gut & heart & leading my life with joy. Whilst you have shared your ups and downs with us i particularly found your relentless optimism through it all very inspiring. thank you for sharing all the wonderful content over the past years. I for one cannot wait for your content in ireland and part of me (who lives in london) is so excited that you will be closer! hope you would be open to doing meet ups for your followers here. sending you all the love for your move & exciting life ahead x

[@TarMarz]

honestly floored by this comment, it's full of so much kindness and dare I say 'love' and recognition for me, which not knowing you personally feels like an honor to recieve. thank you and sending good vibes your way!

[@aniekhamathew1242]

@@TarMarz ❤️❤️❤️

[@red3pants]

I’m not here for the New York bits - Tara you are the only influencer I follow in NY despite you having lived there! All that is you - your journey, the weird spiritual bits, navigating life in your 30s, your wisdom - that’s what I’m here for and I’ll happily follow you wherever you go. Wishing you success and peace in this next chapter and looking forward to seeing more of Ireland through your eyes!

[@TarMarz]

appreciate you just being totally along for the ride! ❤️

[@StephLashea]

I will miss the NYC vlogs for sure. But, it's so great seeing my favorite content creator girlies progress and take on new adventures, especially you. You've gone through so much and still were able to produce inspiring and meaningful content. Not only that, but I love your realness. It's that Libra energy, though! I love my fellow Librans 💛 And I can absolutely relate to you & others on similar paths having moved from my hometown and gotten married all within this year. Not only that, I've been able to travel around the U.S with my hubby and we even had an epic honeymoon traveling overseas. It has been a whirlwind to say the least. So, I mentioned all that to say that there is so much beauty in change; as scary as it can be. I can't wait to see the content you will make in Vancouver and eventually when you're back home in Ireland. I love the Ireland vlogs by the way! It has always been on my travel bucket list to visit there one day and I definitely plan on making that a reality! Lol, I didn't mean to be so long winded, but I'm big on giving flowers to those who deserve it.

[@TarMarz]

wow your journey feels so beautiful through your words I can feel it, the joy that is! thankyou for the well wishes!

[@Ray-lp6ko]

Big energetic hug right back ❤

[@TarMarz]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@hopenorm]

Such a wonderful, inspiring and informative video 💛

[@TarMarz]

thanks for spending all that time with me!

[@janaybridges]

I am SO EXCITED for Ireland content!! TBH idgaf about NYC and have followed you for years. xx

[@TarMarz]

ahhahaha 😂🫶🏻

[@DailyRestore]

Resonated. Thank you ❤

[@TarMarz]

❤️❤️❤️

[@andyskye]

10 years ago I was in kits looking at english bay on mushrooms and had the spiritual awakening that I needed to leave the toxic city ruining the earth and return to nature in my hometown. I did and still live very close to nature. (I do love cities still lol!) really excited for you to be embracing the art of slow living and still creating content! I do the same 🥰

[@TarMarz]

so much slow s'living on the way for me I think 😂

[@andyskye]

it is the most soul nourishing way to live and to connect to spirit. Adventures to the city inspire big time and the energy is unreal (I’ve been to NY to visit family in Brooklyn and I loooove the vibe there). My life in northern Canada is a lot like Jonna Jinton in Sweden. The way she captures northern living is 👌🏽

[@kath357]

This is such a beautiful & insightful video! I recently moved to a new place and I’m in the early uncomfortable stages and feeling all of the feelings 🥲 However I know that this move was right for me and I’m trusting the process. I would love to see some content around New York favourites/ how to spend a few days there. Wishing you the best with your transition and your new chapter ❤❤

[@TarMarz]

congrats gal! everything feels so alien at the start but I think you got this 😘

[@CarolinePrudence]

Please do recommendation videos! From someone planning on visting for the first time next year :)

[@abeach5420]

Hiya Miss Tara ....great and fab all around. You speak so easily to all so many topics and reach SO many people. Interesting about move to the homeland...I SO hope the right rental space finds you. Not gonna lie I am soooo overdue for a vid featuring that gorrrrgeous doggo of mom and dads haha. So long ago that was. Excited for you and your partner in crime/adventure/growth/travel ... what a thing to return home together. Am sure the owner of Vangroovy condo will make even a cra cra amount more than what yaz payed. Vancouver is so boring compared to NYC needless to say esp. post pandemic AND inflation greed by the small percent of *zillionaires* that run a great majority of the world. Did you book to go to Capilano Suspension Bridge--worth it!! Also Vandusen Gardens on Oak St for cmas lights and La Farge outdoor lights all around the lake out in Coquitlam...can take train right to that one. I will be sad to not attempt to get ya out on a big swim in our Salish Sea...I had SECRET places to share with ya two haha. Be well girlie.

[@patrickgabrielmendy9337]

Awesome

[@katiikatinka]

Greetings from Stuttgart 🤍 one of your lovely posters 🤩🎶

[@TarMarz]

hahahah nice spot! when my boyfriend started talking we joked about having our first date in stuttgart 😂❤️🫶🏻

[@user-fl4zh8ij7o]

As someone who recently left London for Brighton I can 100% relate to that underlying stress of a city. Leaving was like breathing out finally Ps love a bit of Rhysand fairy smut as chewing gum for the mind 😂

[@TarMarz]

chewing gum for the mind 😂

[@Kelleena1on1]

Again congrats , i looking forward to Ireland vlogs will you be continuing to share your life ?

[@TarMarz]

definitely!

[@morgan3llis001]

$200 for a dinner and 2 drinks is not typical in nyc imo... $100, yes, but $200... never in my life haha

[@aislingreid1994]

Hi Tara, where is your navy jumper from x

[@TarMarz]

reformation x

[@connienamaste8164]

30 yrs in NY? That must be a typo.

[@flfl4871]

As a proud Jewish woman- It's been tough to experience the rabid antisemitism . Am Israel Chai.

[@Hellokittyrockz101]

i had fallen out of keeping up with youtube videos for a while and have been in a weird place and i feel like i always rediscover your videos when i really need to hear it. i have come to you on youtube and instagram and feel an older sister energy from you to me (also an only child), to where it feels so relatable and your words always hit me personally/emotionally. sad that you left NY cause i also live here so i felt like you just got the vibe but excited because i know whatever you bring next will still elevate your life and mine🫶🏼🥹

[@TarMarz]

hey girl hey, well your welcome back anytime and if that time is now I hope I can continue to provide some internet comfort for as long as it's needed!