Teach Your Inner Critic a New Story | Kari Romeo | TEDxCoeurdalene

By changing the way she talked and thought about herself, Kari Romeo was able to turn insecurity into joy, doubt into confidence, and shame into self-love. This is the story of how she became a more happy, confident woman. Kari believes that every human being has unlimited potential and that the key to unlocking that potential is learning to love ourselves. For most of her life, Kari doubted her abilities, her self-worth and struggled with a poor self-image. To the outsider, she seemed quite successful, giving little indication of the almost constant negative discourse going on in her own head. When Kari finally learned to love and appreciate herself, she found her pathway to success and happiness. Now she brings simple steps to help others release themselves from their judgmental prisons and open a world of unlimited potential.
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[@MarthaZukowski]

Wow, can I relate to Kari! My entire professional career was self-training, seeking more information about a subject, pushing to get the MBA in my 50's, working hard, and being promoted for it. My inner critic still gets to me once in a while. It's gotten better over the years...yet, still lingering in the back of my mind. Great talk, Kari!

[@leolian8179]

You got the MBA when you were in your 50's. That's amazing.

[@AzucenaPerez]

Loved her message and her positivity. Thank you!

[@spiritforge]

🎉

[@connieamos-parsons266]

This is amazing! Thanks Ms. Romeo so much for speaking. It’s enlightening and inspiring to so many people. I saw this last year and searched for an hour to find it again.

[@udz5480]

I love how you made this truth so simple and human to relate to, thank you for this wonderful gift!

[@Divinissima13]

Beautiful talk! Thank you for this and thank you for choosing you, most of all!

[@candykandy]

Beautiful. She’s amazing

[@eileenmacdougall8945]

That was wonderful. Thank you !

[@angelagilesklockeYT]

Wonderful, Kari! This is so important. Thank you!

[@AnuSupreme]

That was a EXCELLENT VIDEO! THANK YOU

[@appid5668]

Loved this ted talk😊

[@rosegabriel2400]

Fantastic talk!! Thank you.

[@kranthipriya9587]

Thankyou so much for sharing your experience.

[@saurabhniley5441]

Great talk! You are a pretty good influencer.

[@dddeen477]

This is exactly what I need to cure my 20years of Anorexia. I shall listen to this everyday as it has given me the light I haven’t received since ❤ Thank you ❤

[@haidisje3457]

it gets better i promise i have been on my recovery journey and there is so much joy to be found ❤

[@onesteptosuccess5520]

Thank you❤

[@sadekamullings269]

Very good talk!

[@stephaniemckinnon9089]

Loved this thanks 🙏

[@billieberry292]

Thank you!!!

[@jtcash44]

How do I NOT have negative self talk when things are so bad? When the negative self talk is based in reality?

[@InGodImoveandbreath]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@unzahid]

powerful.

[@KateGladstone]

My Inner Critic refuses to learn any “new story.” After all, my Inner Critic was right with me, watching this video, and she is *_absolutely not buying it._* For this and/or other reasons, ma’am, following your recommendations made things much, much worse - in lasting ways. Please help.

[@singtalklaughli8999]

Of course she won't buy it. She's your critic, she's never gonna want you to tell yourself something positive, so she wants you not to buy it. You still have to choose to not believer her and tell yourself positive things

[@KateGladstone]

SingTalkLaughLi Lize Futcher I I’ve no idea how to cause myself to not believe that belief. Is there a procedure? Also, telling myself “positive things” immediately and vastly increases my despair and feelings of inferiority. I discovered this at age four, and it’s still true. If I “tell myself positive things,” I quickly stop wanting to keep alive. That is not a risk I can take.

[@jills3933]

It sounds like you could use counseling, or talk to a doctor to screen for mental health illness. This ted talk lady can motivate you, but not fix all problems. In the mean time just having awareness that your inner critic is not always right will help. Also maybe the critic is right, like this lady spoke about being overweight she is, but she realized beating herself up didnt help her. She still is a worthwhile pretty person. It's knowing that no one can make you love or hate yourself, that's up to you. Others thoughts on you hold little value. If you need help to get this professionally there is no shame in that at all.

[@KateGladstone]

Jill S I’ve been through lots of counseling. I’ve been through lots of doctors. I worked hard in therapy, and got worse.

[@singtalklaughli8999]

@@KateGladstone I think it's time you looked into what happened when you were 4 to make you become this way You could have been abused physically, emotionally, or verbally When traumatizing things happen at such a young age they can grip onto you for life I'm not a professional by any means but I have struggled (and am still struggling) through some stuff myself which is the only reason I can tell you. If you don't get to the root of the problem, you can't fix the problem Ask some family members if they remember anything that happened when you were at age 4 that could have left such a massive impact Also as said in the above comments, I think you need to speak to a real therapist or anything of the sort that could help you uncover those deeply rooted problems

[@letsgoBrandon204]

Caree caree caree caree career chameleon

[@amraboughazala5986]

I got nothing from her

[@JoTheHuman]

Brilliant talk with relevant, relatable, and real-personal stories with an easily understood and impactful message. Thank you Tedx and Kari Romeo for this wonderful presentation! I struggle a lot with a savage inner critic. This is one step closer to loving myself better! :)

[@danielbacon6047]

!!!!

[@judytakano2]

Loved this. Great job articulating what I have thought for years.

[@smithy7034]

Excellent talk. Thank you very much. 😁

[@jkbboston6051]

Fantastic, Kari and so true - thank you!!

[@chigongmadeeasy]

I was wondering what charity water has to do with the title - then realised: gush, that's advertisement why I let that run on? - you might ask... - because I was reading the comments section! have you ever been in the same shoes? made me laugh at myself back to the topic: I still catch my inner critic and sometimes that piece is sooo loud - I found that talking to that part of me and giving it love helps a lot

[@tracygallagher6716]

Thank you Karen im struggling to find myself . Niw I have a start

[@cindyhalpern3187]

This was so relevant. Everyone can benefit from what the speaker said!

[@ganeshsawant455]

very nice

[@letsgoBrandon204]

I don't think it's a great idea to go balls to the wall American style optimism. I think it's better to recognise reality. That means excising the distortions that emotional thinking introduces. If you're too optimistic, you're going to make bad decisions just the same as if you were despondent. If you tend towards despondency, then I think a little (or a lottle) optimism certainly wouldn't hurt.

[@fairwearth690]

There's a difference between "toxic positivity" and grandiosity vs. positive self-talk. But I agree with you, balanced emotions and perspectives are important. As a Canadian, I think I understand what you are trying to convey by "American style optimism", but I disagree that it has anything to do with being American. Grandiosity and toxic positivity are universal behaviours regardless of where one lives, in my experience.

[@jolovesnailart]

Thank you so much for your speech 🙏 Very helpful, it also helps me to realize there are lots of people who are struggling with this. Thank you 😄

[@Chrissiesmile]

That has truelly inspired me. Thank you ❤

[@AnnaPrzebudzona]

What a great talk! What a great speaker!

[@zhaikartentiev3275]

An Awesome talk! Thanks 🙏🏻

[@Ma1efcent]

Wonderful xxx

[@lezadabit3590]

Love this!!!

[@ryankapoor3734]

Great talk!

[@ProTroll69]

This doesn’t seem helpful at all.