Why Arnold Schwarzenegger Doesn’t Consider Himself “Self Made” | Conan O'Brien Needs A Friend

Arnold Schwarzenegger explains why he rejects the title of “self made” and how accepting failure delivers success.
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[@bwalker77]

I find this man more interesting today than I ever did at the peak of his career. He has aged very gracefully so far.

[@camchangfilms]

Agreed! Age has really highlighted his intelligence, kindness, and humility

[@MrTapelius]

his motives are interesting. He was set up to compete with his brother by their father. It worked out good with Arnold, though not so well with his brother. He wants to be helpful but he also wants to be rich and get richer. they are not mutually exclusive, but they aren't so compatible

[@michaelreardon303]

He has aged like a murderous robot sent back 45 years to kill John Connor!

[@JoeJackaboa]

I love 'so far', what was going through your mind when you said that?

[@mikeledger2614]

Conan or Arnold?

[@ACTION_ULTRA]

as a recovering alcoholic who's relapsed at least a dozen times in the past few years, Arnold's talk of failure really hit home. I just gotta keep trying at sobriety, pushing myself harder each time to stay clean. Thanks Arnold.

[@ShadowCaster3214]

The trick is to find an empowering and healthy addiction to replace your unhealthy and disempowering one. Something like writing, reading, working out, meditation, community service, it can be anything really. It takes strength and accountability to even admit what you just wrote in this comment section. Good luck and sending you peace, love, and positive energy. When times get hard remember what you’re fighting for and you’ll pull through. 👍🏽 You can do it!

[@kpmsmiling]

i really connected with that part too. messing up doesn’t feel like a gift but at the end of the day it is. we get to learn so much, and have new information on how to be strong and what we need to do when things get bad. One day at a time, you got this!! 💜

[@daviduribe5897]

Can’t be sober but so afraid of relapse you can’t go live! Amen (not endorsing using, by live I mean actually LIVE)

[@maynardkeen85]

Stay strong brother

[@__-fi6xg]

here take my hand get up again and try, you can do it, you dont know me but i trust in you,and if you fail again, so be it, my hand is there for you

[@florete2310]

Arnold is both, totally old-school and very open-minded - which is a rare breed to be found these days

[@repealthepatriotact]

It's very interesting how truly great Conan has become as an interviewer. He was always good, but this podcast with no audience to pander to has really taken him to the next level. There's no way he could have gotten this depth of insight into Arnold's life in front of a studio audience.

[@aleksisuuronen5969]

It's for sure honed some aspects, but there have been few occasions where it could be seen before the podcast. He is very good on riding the energy of the room on when to crack jokes and when to get serious and how he effects it. He does like a noticebly shift with his voice and intensity when he wants to get serious. So controlling and reading the room. Another thing is that he is Geniunelly interested in things guy, so he does his researche and knows what are the Obvious million times asked/answered good questions (that becomes already bad ones for being asked so many times) and finds something not so surface level. That's just dude being smart and a vet, I think he is in general way smarter than people give him credit for (and they do mainly for Harvard). Not in he is genius in maths and physics way, which so many rates intelligence with but just overall. Quick witted and emotionally grounded people are almost always very smart, like Arnold also is all of those things. I think How the pod is done is a concious choice since when he tried to change the late night format and didn't wear a suit anymore and wanted it to be more closer to... this. People just didn't take it because Late Night celeb exaggerated story (sometimes outright lie) format is so ingrained into US that it's very hard to make it more cerebral.. even a little bit. Podcast then again is the perfect medium to mess around with both of being silly/funny and serious so it kinda naturally leaned towards the flow it has now. It is kinda like the version that worked from the last late night try, but even more free on what to say and not say etc. Kinda hard to be fully geniuine when a network is breathing down your neck about mentioning certain political things and giving notes for this and that. Advertisers being way more serious about things. Even tho I did love Conan's humor in late night, he is way more like this irl and I noticed it immidiatelly at the first episode since I had watched the tour documentary. In it you can see his humor being kinda balancing with dark and silly and how he really is. He himself is pretty complicated and interesting guy.

[@Toidal]

I think it's more the guest that he's interviewing than anything, like on his late night shows, you could tell for like the more superficial or even shy guests you get the more chaotic energy as he tries to create something entertaining with them, but for the ones he's actually genuinely interested in meeting, there's a ton more depth to them, even in the 5-10 minute interview format. Obviously with this podcast he can be choosy with who he interviews.

[@gaddag1477]

I think his 1 on 1 interviews are amazing. He never dazzeled me as a talk show host.

[@Robertthebob]

This is the first I've seen, definitely will check out more!

[@oaktree1628]

The absence of a live studio audience is key to becoming a great interviewer- like Howard Stern.

[@babstra55]

I'm so happy he said this. I always (wrongly) assumed he wanted to push the bs of self made men, but once again arnold subverts expectations.

[@DaveMcIroy]

He always said so. It's not new.

[@Kyedo2022]

exceeds expectations

[@Th3Sh1n1gam1]

Arnold's biggest message has always been to give back when you can; he says that this is one of the most important things in a lot of his speeches. So this is definitely the most expected thing, lol

[@GuhWave]

Get off your knees and wipe your lip 😂

[@checkle1]

After having a bunch of Tate clones (and the dirtbag himself) flood the internet for clout and fame, it's nice to have someone who's genuine and not a complete toolbag.

[@Danny-fs1hk]

Conan is an outstanding interviewer, and Arnold is giving back so much in this part of his life.

[@prellen]

📼📺🙏🏋️🎬📽️🇸🇪😇

[@MrTapelius]

well he is getting paid for it. Im not saying its not giving back, but it also about taking.

[@djxchazza761]

@@MrTapeliusbut with Arnold, there is a sense of giving back as he already has the money and he is in his 70s

[@thecompanioncube4211]

​@@MrTapeliushe's getting paid if he throws quips and goes back home anyways. Thing about Arnold is he makes good use of spotlight

[@Aaliyahchannel2024]

He really isn't. Constantly interrupts or talks over the guest. Will repeat what the guest said...Will interject to tell a stupid joke. Sure he's funny...But he's not a great interviewer. Doesn't mean he isn't entertaining. Doesn't mean he isn't a good host. But don't claim he's such a great interviewer because he isn't. He's a former comedy talk show host doing a comedy podcast.... Its as far as it's goes.

[@12groney]

I met Arnold in the late 1970's at a book signing for one of his bodybuilding books. He could barely speak English but I could tell that he was a down to earth guy with a sense of humor and a humble attitude. He had two bodyguards there but no one could figure out why. He really didn't need them, he was huge!

[@TORULEZ10]

Probably liability and general protection haha.

[@babstra55]

he was probably selling an image by having the bodyguards. he always talks about selling and how he wanted to be a star, not an actor. so I get what you mean, but I don't think arnold has one humble bone in his body, he always wanted everything even before he moved to US. but he's not arrogant either.

[@ublade82]

They were to protect you from him

[@javierrck18]

Not that long ago Arnold got attacked in public in south Africa, so you never know when some crazy person may try do to something.

[@oskarfunes2505]

To protect the fool enough to attack him 😅

[@kumakhan22]

Arnie is always inspiring positivity when he speaks. A lifelong hero of mine, in the movies & the gym.

[@Kyedo2022]

100%

[@prellen]

🏋️🎬📽️🇸🇪

[@itskevinzerbe]

Arnold's idea of failure being temporary is so important for people to understand.

[@owengraziano7288]

Couldn’t agree more.

[@Stormz.1337]

How is noone mentioning that Conan is actually interviewing Conan? That's epic! Love both of em. Great conversation.

[@paulpolpiboon9535]

They've mentioned before, it gets old

[@TheAstraeuss]

Deep respect for this self realization that he isn't a self made man, nobody is for that matter. The most successful people had a lot of help along the way.

[@GuhWave]

Yes some people are. 😂 how old are you ?

[@moderusprime]

You've obviously never met anyone who had to do everything for themselves and still became successful.

[@imightbebiased9311]

@@moderusprime Yes. Because that person doesn't exist.

[@beafraid5467]

​@@moderusprimenobody can succed in isolation. The only difference would be wether you succeded because you got help from others and learned to accept it and reciprocate it, or because you have taken from and profited from others.

[@Freakazoid12345]

I love how he goes on about how all these people helped him and ends it with, 1:58 "...become the greatest bodybuilder in the world." lol the humility and sense of humor

[@professorbranch]

This is why I love Arnold. He is so humble and ready to give credit where credit is due. Truly an inspirational man.

[@sew75962]

Jingle All The Way is an underrated Christmas film. He was so endearing in it.

[@Beatsmithdotorg]

I forgot about that one, used to be one of my favourites (along with Last Action Hero)

[@perceivedvelocity9914]

I worked at a KB Toys during the late 90's. That movie was so real. Parents would go crazy and fight over toys for their kids.

[@DannyGautama]

Conan is the only person who has cheered me up when I was going through Agoraphobia and OCD. I remember he said on his show to be kind, work hard and amazing things will happen. I teared up and I believe that was the catalyst that changed my life. Today, I write inspirational articles for mental health organizations, Hospitals and therapists. I am also the recipient of 2 awards and a Mighty Leader Badge. In addition to two article magazine publications and 2 newspaper publications.I also beat anorexia and went from less than 135 to 248.3 pounds. I tell you this because anything in this world is possible with a positive mindset. I love you Conan. Hope to meet you one day and give you a big hug.

[@pho3nix-]

Proud of you brother

[@DannyGautama]

@@pho3nix- Thank you so very much. I appreciate you.

[@brainsmoothy]

Hope you're feeling good now.

[@DannyGautama]

@@brainsmoothy Thank you my friend. I do.🙏🏽

[@dominikastrauss5208]

Amazing, congrats on your success, proud of you man 🎉🎉🥂

[@Jedzelex]

Arnold is spitting FACTS here. There is no such thing as a "self-made man" or woman. We all have parents that provided us either with the tools to succeed in life (if they were good parents) or with the barriers to keep us down (if they were lousy parents). Also, we all had MENTORS that have inspired and influenced our life choices. And the quality of those choices depended on the quality of those mentors. Someone like Arnold that recognizes that he received help along the way to his remarkable success, is a much better role model than egomaniacs (such as modern day influencers) that give absolutely no credit to anyone for their success. And that then try to promote the myth that they have a SECRET way to success and profit from selling that myth.

[@GuhWave]

This is a pure stupidity and ignorance in what you wrote lmao you sound slow 😂

[@babstra55]

and like simply to live in a society that provides roads, schools, utilities, hospitals, police and military, that's like a 1 million times easier to get ahead than living on a deserted island with actually nothing you didn't 'self make'. even for corporations it's massively important that there's thousands of engineers, workers and other people to run their production facilities. none of the massive production chain to produce the simplest items for us just happened out of nothing, none o the cities we live in just spawned out of thin air. people who perpetrate the myth of self made men are just mindnumbingly ignorant of the staggering amount of infrastructure and help from others you get by simply being born into a society. every little thing was made by someone, and we all just 'self-make' only tiny corners of our immediate surroundings.

[@GuhWave]

Another idiot ^😂

[@sattm8230]

Like most things it's a spectrum. Some have much more help than others.

[@ByGTee07]

What kind of mirrors do you use? Arnold is damn badass low-key comic

[@jonrussell739]

That mirror joke... rofl. Damn Arnold was showing how much of a deep thinker he is, but he's also so damned quick witted.

[@Beatsmithdotorg]

That is a genuinely good man. Funny, witty, clever, smart, puts you at ease and then makes you work out

[@NZyoutube]

expected him to respond saying - I go to the same circus. I lift the mirrors lol

[@DanielBoonelight]

@@NZyoutube uncreative really... i prefer his response for sure

[@NZyoutube]

@@DanielBoonelight ​lemme try that again. I expected him to say - yes Conan, I remember using you as the pull up bar

[@NZyoutube]

@@DanielBoonelight another - Yes I remember our time at the circus when we played Conan AND the barbarian / punch line drum

[@SP_TOOP]

Arnold and Conan are both two of the most humble and down to Earth celebrities there are.

[@mylucidlife495]

It would be hard for anyone to say they are a self-made person. Everyone needs others to help them succeed.

[@peterhughes614]

Not me, baby.

[@uliwehner]

it's not about needing help, it is about receiving it and then knowing that you received it. That is why it is so easy for the so-called self-made men to think they did it all themselves. they simply do not recognize all the help they received on the way. self reflection is completely missing in narcissists.

[@brookehoffman7929]

As a behavioral psychologist, I am witnessing what he's referring to for the "softer," younger generation. Clearly not minimizing significant concerns, but I do agree that, collectively, they are significantly more prone to distress avoidance. The ease of distraction/escape is so easily accessible and rarely challenged. Nice to hear a larger public figure highlighting the need to embrace the full range of life experiences.

[@jerotoro2021]

I think it comes down to what Arnold mentioned, society seeing boys and girls going through discomfort or painful situations and calling it a "problem", as if it's wrong and should be changed. Many times these painful experiences are a necessary growing experience, they cause healthful responses in people mentally/emotionally and they become stronger as a result. Society tries to eliminate all discomfort for children throughout life, and then wonder why they grow up so soft and unresilient, it's like avoiding all exercise and wondering why you have no muscle strength.

[@checkle1]

As a marine biologist, I agree.

[@CaptainWumbo]

I think most people work hard and most people will grumble when they're working hard without a future or opportunity. I don't know anyone in my generation that isn't working unpaid overtime and because of the nature of the internet and globalization, waking up in the middle of the night for unpaid oncall to put out fires. Who isn't working hard enough? Why can't these people afford homes? Why are they allowed to get squeezed and abused by privilged landlords? It just seems like laughing at and ridiculing people living in poverty. When democracy is working those people have a voice, but we're living in a time they don't really because of an outsized retired population.

[@benoitbilliau5731]

@@CaptainWumbo It did sound a lot like 'pull yourself up by your bootstraps' bullshit and it's very typical of his generation. I get what he's saying but not everyone has the power to do that like he did and it disappoints me that he's using that rhetoric especially when he's a politician.

[@dipperdandy]

Welcome to late stage capitalism, friend!@@CaptainWumbo

[@charlesliew660]

He’s 76 years old. To be so sharp, so articulate, so… just… alive, is hugely remarkable!

[@Rubylove48]

Calm down, 76 is not old. look at Chomsky, pilger, a zillion other 90 yo folks living in the community.

[@brandonhaygood5286]

​@@Rubylove4876 is old. 90 is old as balls.

[@bloodlinefilms]

he stays active. people that go sedentary and inactive in old age tend to shrink away. you need at least one thing to pour focus into.

[@Rubylove48]

I am a doctor and I disagree. Ive operated on many many people in the or 90s who are living very productive and independent lives. In their communities. They just do not get air time in public arenas or in Hollywood plastic culture. Hang out with real wools rather than listening to podcasts. 76 is not old. @@brandonhaygood5286

[@CoolDrifty]

As others mentioned 76 is not THAT old haha, not enough to be significantly declining mentally. If you’re in decent health most people will live well into their 80s nowadays. I watched a 102 year old Benjamin Ferencz talk on a WW2 Netflix doc a couple weeks ago. He was very articulate and cogent and THAT was really fkn impressive for his age.

[@ludiqtitan]

Arnold Schwarzenegger is the epitome of a living legend. It will be a sad day for the whole world when this man passes on. Thanks for making my childhood awesome Arnie.

[@KairuHakubi]

He'll be pulling buses with his teeth well into triple digits like Jack LaLanne

[@paulbradford6475]

Brilliant conversation. The best quote was, "Arnold, be useful." Those three words encapsulate the best traits of the most productive members of society, not the lay-a-bouts.

[@MyChannel-ol1zz]

Plenty of “lay-a-bouts” have the most money and control too much of society

[@krisfinley6706]

What a charming, engaging, down to earth person Arnie is. I found the story of him breaking into the gym hilarious"Yeah one time I forgot to leave the window unlocked so I just broke it"🤣 I greatly appreciate hearing a conservative say he's not a self-made man, he's had help and support the whole journey, which is normal for everyone. Glad he doesn't push the BS of 'pull yourself up by your own bootstraps" I find it bizarre that anyone would use that term as it's basically physically impossible to pull yourself up using your own bootstraps. Although I suppose if anyone could have done it, it would be Arnie😂

[@NecoLumi]

I honestly miss when Conservatives had idols like Arnie instead of the clowns they have now

[@imfireproof]

I love that Arnold credits everyone who got him to where he was! Amazing! So humble and SO true! Nobody is entirely "self made.“ no one.

[@yesilbursa]

I just wanna hug this guy. What a great thing to say in these times of self-centred people.

[@YodatheHobbit]

This might be the very first time Conan and Arnold have had a serious conversation while cameras are rolling. Awesome to have him on.

[@mariovang3440]

Wow, Arnolds words about failure and how you have to fail in order to be succesful gives me a little hope in life

[@eddgar-ce3md]

The trick is to fail fast, and try again. The more you linger on something, the more painful the failure is, the harder it is to improve and stay motivated. I have a friend who used to randomly hit on girls, just so he can train on failing fast. He used that later, started four businesses that failed and he became a millionaire after his fifth business was a success.

[@benzaiten933]

that part about being 'self made' really is great, because it's just as he said. we've all been helped by our family, friends, teachers, mentors, superiors and those around us. it can be small stuff like a co-worker showing you how to use a specific excel function, but it can also be bigger stuff like a mentor character letting you crash on their couch when you had nowhere to turn.

[@docproc144]

Arnold is a very profound thinker and intelligent speaker. You wouldn’t think so but he is. I was surprised at his humbleness by saying he wasn’t self made and had help from important people along the way. And the bits he said about going through pain and learning from it and trying to be useful and truly live instead of just existing were 100% true.

[@jkkarkar]

Arnold is such a humbling man!

[@toddbridgemanart]

I have been waiting so long for someone to say this. No one comes out of the womb tap dancing. You need help immediately after you are born or you will die. Period. Helping each other is a foundation of the human experience. None of us should ever forget that.

[@weeniehutjunior]

I love Arnold. What a storied life!! I could listen to him read the phone book and be entertained. He's so funny, generous, smart, thoughtful and interesting!!

[@babstra55]

to be frank though he's such storyteller and marketing specialist that I wouldn't quite trust all the details of his stories. :D

[@Eskay_The_Evil_Genius]

These are two of my all time favorite famous people. They sit at my table of dream dinner conversations. Much respect and gratitude for all the time theyve given me so much entertainment.

[@theronwright1276]

On the old late night show, Arnold said Conan didn't have to worry about pain because only muscles get pain and conan didn't have any, just bones. haha

[@AgingFlux]

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[@sylwesterpastuszka5593]

This guy really knows how to give a motivational speech. I wish I had someone like him at my side when I was growing up.

[@jissanhuq3792]

Even he would say he couldn’t be what you describe. He likely has a lot of regret with his own children. He’s who is now cuz he’s embraced his failures. He’s better with the public than he would likely say he was when you were growing up.

[@sylwesterpastuszka5593]

@jissanhuq3792 I never meant him in a way of father figure or a replacement of some sort or father in general. I was thinking more of a guide or someone who would give me a good motivational speech when I needed it. Doesn't need to be a father straight away

[@Sajomo]

Love him for saying this. I've been very financially successful in my career, but I've always realized it it was due to the people around me that have helped me. I don't think there is such a thing as a self made man.

[@ZiggyHernandez]

I am utterly floored by how smart, wickedly sharp, self-aware, and humble Schwarzenbrager is (👈 “Last Action Hero” joke). I have an entirely new respect for the man

[@Lanxe]

Last Action Hero is a massively underrated movie imo. Nice to see it mentioned in the wild.

[@ZiggyHernandez]

@@Lanxe Last Action Hero should be at least a cult classic and it genuinely annoys me that it doesn’t get the love it deserves

[@einundsiebenziger5488]

@@ZiggyHernandez LAH is Schwarzenegger's most "Austrian" movie as he makes fun of himself in it. Most Americans obviously did not understand that, but that's what makes that film so great.

[@DraperJake]

Arnie has entered the Yoda phase of his life and I'm absolutely here for it.

[@einundsiebenziger5488]

There is no such thing as a "Yoda phase" as Yoda is a fictional character from a science fiction film for kids.

[@DraperJake]

@@einundsiebenziger5488 Don't ever talk to anyone again

[@wishnoe]

@@DraperJakehahaha…🤣🤣🤣 I knew exactly what u mean 🤭🤭🤭

[@permanenttrack]

The G'nator has really become someone who is an absolute joy to have gotten to know even from a distance for my whole life. If life is performative his performance has always been growing better.

[@evilash570]

Pretty sure this episode should have been called “Conan on Conan”

[@gir5o1]

Arnold's real strength is not in his physique, but rather his humility and empathy.

[@effexon]

except towards Conan he is brutal roasting :D

[@abundantYOUniverse]

Love you Conan and you gotta make the Hans and Frans movie!!!

[@doannhat808]

Someone pointed out the color differences of Conan and Arnie hairs vs faces. Now I can't ignore it.

[@hopemasike531]

Arnold is pretty orange🍊

[@bigandyt-man3010]

I love this. We grow and become successful with help and each other, and failure teaches us just as much, if not more, than success. Beautiful sentiments that Arnold talked about, inspiring and encouraging.❤

[@dystopiawanderer]

As someone with Asperger's, an anxiety disorder and some other things, who's been declared unfit for work... This hits pretty close to home. I admire Arnold's perspective a ton and am saving this video, but still I'd rather sit and do nothing while feeling empty and sometimes loathe myself for it. Not sure why I'm writing this down for everyone to see, I suppose I just need to get the thought outside of myself.

[@andreasoberg2021]

Nothing wrong with sitting and doing nothing. Not everyone has to achieve as much as Arnold. No need to loathe yourself about it, my advice is to be a bit kinder to yourself.

[@dystopiawanderer]

@@andreasoberg2021 Thank you, I appreciate the kind words.

[@rasmusn.e.m1064]

Yeah, fellow aspie here. All my life I've been called lazy by my dad who works in the military. Luckily, I've always found most subjects in school quite easy and have managed to make it to university, but I've always had a lot of days where I don't show up or do so without having done my homework. I was diagnosed four years ago, and it has been a journey. In the beginning, it would be an understatement to say that I was relieved when I found out that I wasn't actually lazy and that the thing that made it hard for me to do homework was not something that everyone else dealt with: at least not to the same degree. The only problem was that I still wouldn't get the same stuff done that others would. So, now I've been trying to slowly increase my productivity by trying to go somewhere every day and reading instead of staying at home. I've realised that the pure act of having to go somewhere is actually what makes it feel like I'm off to work and that getting up and going is the first success that fuels my productivity for the rest of the day. The days where I stay home and read instead now feel like days off, whereas before days off would be me just lying in my bed feeling miserable for myself. I don't know how useful this might be to you, but my original sentiment is just that autism (or aspergers) and motivation are a little bit more complicated than it probably is for other people, so Arnold's advice might not be directly applicable to you: you shouldn't be ashamed of yourself if you don't live up to his ideal. We have a really good excuse for exhibiting lazy-like behavior (we experience anxiety-like symptoms if we do something we aren't used to), but I feel that shouldn't stop us from feeling useful and capable. Even if you've been declared unfit for work, you can still set goals for yourself and accomplish stuff. Just start lightly: Small routine changes last the longest.

[@dystopiawanderer]

@@rasmusn.e.m1064 Thank you. Before my diagnosis I had a good deal of trouble with my father as well, thankfully he has become more accepting since. I hope yours will too. I appreciate your kindness and advice

[@rasmusn.e.m1064]

@@dystopiawanderer I hope it works out for you :)

[@maxducoudray]

You can tell he always had a more healthy view of himself because he was happy to have scenes in his movies where he fumbled and failed for the sake of entertaining the audience. Unlike American-born action stars, who tend to take themselves too seriously, like Stallone, Norris, Seagal, etc.

[@noticiasinmundicias]

The difference being that those last three actors are basically propaganda agents, so they couldn't really make mistakes or be anything other than perfect.

[@Mr.Honest247]

@@noticiasinmundicias Which in turn closes off an aspect of their character that Arnold doesn’t suffer from.

[@melltenfys]

Arnie talking like Yoda, but its the truest lesson one can learn, failure is your friend and your ally.

[@atrus3823]

Man, it is nice to hear someone in his position say these things. There is no such thing as a self-made person. The whole concept speaks to the narcissism in American culture, and leads to so much of the suffering in the world. If those in power don't recognize that they only got where they are because of those around them, then they are not compassionate the plight of those that have not received the help they need. And crucially, that help is different for everyone. It's like plants. A cactus will not flourish in the same environment that an orchid will and vice versa. Flourishing comes from a mutually beneficial pairing of the individual with their environment.

[@Pwnagotchi-0]

I love that Arnold can admit that nobody is a self made man. In a world where every other hip hop artist and movie star won’t admit that Arnold who was five times bigger than all of them both on the inside and outside 💪🏼 it’s refreshing to hear the truth sometimes

[@seanstoyroom7274]

Arnold's point about learning from failure reminds me of what Yoda's Force Ghost said to Luke in the Last Jedi: "The greatest teacher failure is."

[@zachparade2791]

God, this brings back the best memories of the gag Conan used to do with the TV and lips moving of Arnold, Saddam, Michael Jackson, Bill Clinton, etc back in the day. The Arnold ones were always hilarious!

[@Styngah]

Was listening and wondering why this clip sounded like something I'd heard before - not only motivational but soothing as well. Then, I remembered, this sounds almost exactly like Giorgio by Moroder.

[@wyskass861]

It's very amusing how with just once brief quip, Sona immediately knew where Conan was going with his joke about not getting into body building, She's been around him a long time.

[@seandalziel7414]

"Oh, poor baby." I need that clipped.

[@86245]

Great interview!!

[@alaresrock9810]

What an amazing man! 😊 I remember the first time I saw him in Conan the Barbarian; I was mesmerized. He is a great athlete, has an amazing sense of humor, is smart, and always inspiring

[@zbetz]

“I read this book yesterday.” How Conan completes a book cover to cover in a day with his busy schedule is something I’d be interested in hearing more about. Does he have help? Does he have a speed read technique? Does he just allocate ample time for interview prep?

[@meekofortin14]

He was a writer before. Seems like he’s just fond of reading.

[@makeadifference4all]

Conan (O'Brien, not the Barbarian) graduated from Harvard, so I'm sure his reading skills are superb. Arnold's book is probably wise and worth taking time to savor and ponder, but the book also is probably a "light read" if you have to get through it quickly.

[@AlessandroAltosoleChannel]

He did late night for almost 30 years so i'd imagine he is used to reading/watching the stuff people come to promote.

[@Rubylove48]

His ‘busy schedule’ IS prepping for his podcast guest. He has nothing more important to do before the interview 🙄

[@joncarroll2040]

That's also a pretty short book. I'm guessing 200 to 300 pages max and its probably not packed with excessive detail as celebrity biography/inspirational books tend to be fairly light on detail compared to history or fiction.

[@RobertSchmitt]

Arnold deserves a lot of credit because he created and provided value to so many who believed in him. I think the definition of self made isn't actually 100% on your own but rather someone who was able to work had, create value and see the the help of others and being useful , became successful. Rather than being handed a life that doesn't require help from anyone or any hard work to maintain or create.

[@UltimaKeyMaster]

That's why I agree the term is well meaning but inaccurate.

[@iLL3571]

Arnold is in top 10 of greatest role models who ever lived

[@bronxbl0gr]

This is me literally today finding out my man Conan has a podcast! Subscribed!

[@WIImotionmasher]

I get frustrated by hustler culture saying you gotta grind, you gotta feel pain and work hard. But I'm not frustrated by what Arnold is saying. Because what he's saying is just true, you gotta push limits of comfort to grow more capable. My problem is that I don't think many people recognize just how much pain most people are in every day. They don't understand the sheer variety of pain available to people, whether they want it or not. So when Arnold worried about the youth sleeping in, I can't help but think, man Arnold when you went to school they barely cared if you could do basic algebra. Kids are working their asses off with seemingly no benefit, every day. Sleeping in is the only escape from the pain, and it's not magic pain that makes us better and stronger. It's just energy-sucking, zero progress pain. Every day, all the time. No options to go out and live our own lives. Trapped in apartments that take 70% of our income in rent. Trapped at home with un-supportive parents that just cause problems and waste our time. There is plenty of pain that offers no growth.

[@calvee1100]

He makes some great points! I don’t agree with the sleep deprivation part but I do agree that we have to have some pain and discomfort in life in order to get better and stronger in life.

[@ericoliver1603]

I am definitely buying this book

[@Alexandraa55]

Great words about being useful and not being afraid of working too hard or getting less sleep. Young people (not everyone of course) nowadays care too much about not overstressing etc.Arnold is simply great, love him.

[@idlemickey]

Although I've always been a fan of Arnie, lately I've been finding even more and more reasons to respect him.

[@user-ej6fx3hz8o]

My Grandfather the farmer always said, Make yourself useful as well as ornamental. These older dudes knew what work was.

[@Heraclitean]

Arnold's accent makes any insult 15 times funnier.

[@GannaLavrova]

I had no idea Arnold was like that- smart, witty and selfless

[@deptofcarstereorepair]

His top attributes are tenacity, perseverance, and auto-hagiography

[@maximillianosaben]

I hope they release a video of him talking about his pets, cause I was cracking up walking along the sidewalk throughout that whole part. This was a great episode.

[@markLCE01]

KUDOS TO ARNOLD TO ACKNOWLEDGE THE TRUTH OF WHO HELP HIM

[@thee_seoul.brotha]

Conan interviewing Conan is such a good time.

[@generaljellyroll8737]

Arnold did hard work and I get it but he received a lot of luck and that shouldn’t be controversial. He wasn’t born with with a genetic disorder. He was born into a loving family. Right now, there is a person in Austria that worked just as hard but is not successful Sometimes, pain is your body’s way of telling you that there is a problem. You can’t just ignore all pain because it’s just weakness. It’s not and you have to be grateful for it. If you have a blister on your foot you have to stop and address it. You can be “tough” and press through it but you simply won’t walk as far. The name of the game isn’t to dominate pain but manage it. Hard work isn’t the catalyst that leads to success. A successful person will tell you they got there with hard work but that’s just the survivor’s bias. A lot of things are outside of anyone’s control and you have to contribute a lot of credit to luck which they won’t do.

[@kennytesta9312]

Which is probably why Arnold has described himself many times as “ the luckiest son of a bitch alive”

[@l4nd3r]

Just need to see how many of his bodybuilder friends are dead to see his luck.

[@UltimaKeyMaster]

The way you write all this seems like Arnold doesn't understand that and I legitimately don't get where you get this idea from. He literally hates the term self made because he wasn't the only one to get him where he was. I don't know how you take possibly the most humble thing he's ever said in his life and write this as if he could POSSIBLY be more humble on a personal level. Like you just took everything he said and went "not good enough."

[@Unz360]

That is a really interesting point to me about body building/weight lifting, in that basically the goal is to get to failure, and try to improve from that failure the next time. Good metaphor for life, always try to fail lol.

[@jublywubly]

He's so right with his comment about self-made. Only egotistical narcissists claim to be self-made. No-one can be self-made. Just the same as no-one can be self-taught, because that's an oxymoron.

[@seanstoyroom7274]

Though there are some things you have to do yourself, like pay off your own debt. So I could say that I made myself a Debt Free Man two years ago.

[@b21raider27]

Arnold is so awesome and humble too.

[@lachauntiswashington231]

This was a great episode 😂👏👏👏

[@WalkingmanPattaya]

Love Arnold, an Environmentalist, Humanitarian, Animal lover, Actor, Comedian, and now Philosopher. Kudos man, 73? years old and telling it like it is. Peace, Love, and EV's ...no Pollution is the Solution

[@sndsiwrite]

Wow his father had such an American accent!!😂😂😂

[@alyssaroxs531]

Of all the people I’ve never met, Arnold is one of my favorites

[@The_RedVIII]

"How many times do you have to change diapers?" LOL

[@R0yB477y]

My two favorite Conans.

[@brent954]

My god, a Republican who didn’t pull himself up by his own boot straps! He gets it, and good message for all.

[@maximus3294]

😂 lot of conservatives could learn from this

[@playedout148]

Surprising amount of perception, awarenessby arnie. These self mades benefit from stable society with no raging civil war, rule of law, access to education, infrastructure, access to qualified employees, etc.

[@kevina3744]

He's no longer a Republican, and voted for Biden. Arnold's too smart, decent, and sane to support today's GOP.

[@Taycore9]

Arnold is such a fascinating guy. He deserves all his success because he truly earned it.

[@Shitinthemorning]

He deserve more to be protected and be loved untill his death, even when he looses his mind because of age, because Im sure this dude is unbeatable, he will reach 100 years easely

[@Sledgeh101]

God bless Arnold Schwarzenegger.

[@di9465]

It’s nice that Conan read his book before the podcast. That’s respect right there

[@VikiJoker1924]

We want Schwarzenegger Baby with Bill Hader! XD

[@jbischof71]

Wow. I don’t know if there has been so much content packed within 11min. Super inspiring stuff

[@FNHot]

Arnold, still hearing your dead fathers voice, isnt motivation, that was abuse. Deal with it, come to peace with it.

[@someguyusa]

It's good that Arnold openly acknowledges that so many people helped him, including financially. So many people overlook that aspect to success with a flippant attitude of "pull yourself up by your own bootstraps." Heck, public schools and universities effectively punish failure from start to finish. Grades being final rather than iterative is so stupid as a *learning* method. Hell, we treat sports with more grace and better learning methods than actual education.

[@user-uu1si1td6h]

Arnold for house speaker! Common' everyone let's make this happen.!

[@karens1967]

Not a bad idea at all. He's a leader and except for a few nutso outliers, he'd probably have everyone's respect

[@thedude4672]

I'd be okay with that, but Arnold was a very moderate Republican. I don't think that those exist anymore.

[@maybewhoknows7076]

Two legends. Maximum respect for these guys, part of my childhood, grew up with them.

[@Jebu911]

funny to think back in late night with conan. He used to make fun of arnold on a lot of skits.

[@Romanball5677]

Do you smell what the Arnold is cooking!

[@Mostly_bad]

I love this! No such thing as self made man. So humble.

[@ashtonturner2862]

If only more Republicans would be like Arnold instead of extreme right MAGA puppets.

[@daveconleyportfolio5192]

Oh yeah, we'd all be one big happy family if you didn't have anybody to villify.

[@ashtonturner2862]

You're confusing vilification with facts and the truth @@daveconleyportfolio5192

[@kevina3744]

He voted for Biden. Arnold knows how despicable and insane the Republican Party has become, and is too smart and sane to support it.

[@thedude4672]

So true. There was a time not that long ago when Republicans had some integrity. It's sad to see what the party has become today. It's no longer the party of Lincoln

[@tiromandal6399]

Our Arnie did a full 180 from his prime bodybuilding days lol. He was the definition of arrogance and pride back in those days but now it's totally opposite. His book is definitely the best and most realistic self help book out there.

[@StevenAlvarez]

so many great sound bites in this clip! Awesome!

[@crithon]

after so many years of Pumping Iron, it's nice to hear him rephrase what he said into something more positive. I had a high school friend quoting him, it's nicer to hear this version of Arnold.

[@mk17173n]

I think its how you define self-made. We live in a society and interact with people who guide us but there is a difference between someone who is poor and has to work hard and save for their future as compared to someone who had millionaire parents who gave them everything.

[@leoc1812]

I had sincerely forgot the man he was until this interview. At it reminded me of why he was elected as Governor. Charming, hilarious and well versed. One of the best COBNAF interviews.