The Benefits of Not Being a Jerk to Yourself | Dan Harris | TED

After more than two decades as an anchor for ABC News, an on-air panic attack sent Dan Harris's life in a new direction: he became a dedicated meditator and, to some, even a guru. But then an anonymous survey of his family, friends and colleagues turned up some brutal feedback -- he was still kind of a jerk. In a wise, funny talk, he shares his years-long quest to improve his relationships with everyone (starting with himself) and explains the science behind loving-kindness meditation, and how it can boost your resiliency, quiet your inner critic and simply make you more pleasant to be around.
If you love watching TED Talks like this one, become a TED Member to support our mission of spreading ideas: ted.com/membership
Follow TED!
Twitter: / tedtalks
Instagram: / ted
Facebook: / ted
LinkedIn: / ted-conferences
TikTok: / tedtoks
The TED Talks channel features talks, performances and original series from the world's leading thinkers and doers. Subscribe to our channel for videos on Technology, Entertainment and Design - plus science, business, global issues, the arts and more. Visit TED.com to get our entire library of TED Talks, transcripts, translations, personalized talk recommendations and more.
Watch more: go.ted.com/danharris
• The Benefits of Not Be...
TED's videos may be used for non-commercial purposes under a Creative Commons License, Attribution-Non Commercial-No Derivatives (or the CC BY - NC - ND 4.0 International) and in accordance with our TED Talks Usage Policy (www.ted.com/about/our-organiz.... For more information on using TED for commercial purposes (e.g. employee learning, in a film or online course), please submit a Media Request at media-requests.ted.com
#TED #TEDTalks

[@nprpodcasts]

Enjoying this talk? You'll love the brand new TED Radio Hour series - Mind, Body, Spirit. Hear TED speakers share their eye-opening ideas on how we think, move, and feel. kzbin.info/aero/PL2TjQf2riraLkqqFGxK65JI-leCAxm1eD

[@zooanimal7578]

Totally agree on the root of most problems being lack of love.

[@periklisspanos1003]

Luck of money

[@Older_Mountain-goat_1984]

Agreed. My personal experience of my Know Thyself journey over 30 years has resulted in concluding my self hatred, buried deep in my subconscious, developed from many traumatic experiences (people being unloving towards me) through childhood, was the primary cause of the numerous soul wounds and dysfunctions I unconsciously developed and suffered from till resolving them all during my 40s. ( some of the main ones: Major and Endogenous Depression, an anxiety disorder, an inferiority complex, repeated suicial thoughts since the age of 7...all wonderously fully resolved at age 47). This bloke is expressing the same thing I discovered, that self love is the key to resolving your soul issues, soul issues that cause you to be unloving towards yourself and others. Something I read decades ago - "Hurting people, hurt others." I interpret to mean, when you're hurting, driven by pain, you lash out at the world, typically anyone in your vicinity, be it yourself or others. And by self-love I mean this definition of love - To do your best for someone because you deeply value them,and to do so with compassiona and understanding. I realised in my early 20's that I knew so little of myself, but I was keeny aware I was severely messed up. So I began the long journey inward to discover as much as I could about myself, to increase understanding and possibly resolve my inner turmoil. What I learnt along the way was shame, guilt and self-condemnation (elements of self-hatred) hinders the development and healing process, thus realising self-love (compassion and understanding) was the way to go. "If you want to follow me to freedom, be prepared to swim upstream, against the river of conditioning. Be prepared to grapple continuously with the fierce flow of negative mental currents. In time our strokes will become effortless and our sense of purpose irresistible." - Buddha "True love is born from understanding." - Buddha "You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." - Buddha "By attempting to avoid the responsibility for our own behavior, we are giving away our power to some other individual or organization. In this way, millions daily attempt to escape from freedom." - M. Scott Peck "There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own Soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious." - Carl Jung "We cannot change anything unless we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses." - Carl Jung "Eventually, meditation will make our mind calm, clear, and as concentrated as a laser which we can focus at will. This capacity of one-pointed attention is the essence of genius. When we have this mastery over attention in everything we do, we have a genius for life itself: unshakable security, clear judgment, and deep personal relationships ( especially the one we can have with ourselves)." - Eknath Easwaran "Mindfulness ( my preferred form of Meditation) refers to keeping one's consciousness alive to the present reality. It is the miracle by which we master and restore ourselves." - Thich Nhat Hanh "The greatest of all faults is to be conscious of none. Recognizing our limitations and imperfections is the first requisite of progress. Those who believe they have arrived believe they have nowhere to go. Some not only have closed their minds to new truth, but they sit on the lid." - Dr. Dale E. Turner "There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life." - John Lennon

[@LoolJohn]

Agreed. Also would add fear, whether real or imagined, abandonment, insecurity

[@Older_Mountain-goat_1984]

@@LoolJohn Agree in part because it's up to the individual to discover the exact elements of their soul wounds, as some may not have abandonment issues. Though fully agree regarding Fear, as mentioned in some of the quotes I shared.

[@Sh0n0]

lack of girth

[@sheep1336]

At 3:15 I realized how people often think it's weak to open up and work through your emotions, but it is absolutely courageous and honorable.

[@DavedtheWay]

100%

[@alugrof]

'Self love, properly understood, as having your own back, is not selfish' This is beautiful. Others often asked how I could still be nice even with rude people, and since I can't properly express it I just said 'because I can afford to do it'. And that's why I can afford it: because I have my own back by hugging my own demon, so I could do it to other's demon as well. Brilliant TED talk 👍

[@kkaysenjackson]

As a recovering jerk and type A person, this Talk means so much to me. Meditation and therapy have changed my life. Dans work is accessible, opens the door to options, and allows us to grow in a way that does not feel heavy or overwhelming. Thanks Dan.

[@TamsMarie]

Over the past couple of years, Dan Harris has been one of my most positive influences. I started using his Ten Percent Happier app after reading his book of the same title. Some people mastered sourdough bread making: I meditated, listened to podcasts, and applied mindfulness whenever possible. I’ve meditated daily for over two years now, without fail, and it’s the good habit that I acquired that helped me through the pandemic with most of my sanity intact. Glad you’re not a jerk any more, Dan, and thanks for sharing.

[@rocioiribe5841]

This was how my lockdown started. I share your experience as well.

[@LilysEyes24]

Dan is my hero. He has made meditation accessible and easy to connect with like no one else had before.

[@aclasscali]

@@LilysEyes24 i could’t agree more with you on that. He is one amazing person.

[@johngcrum6731]

As an "A - Type" New Yorker who is now battling cancer, one of my goals is to come out of the other side of things kinder, gentler and more compassionate- much less of an "ego driven jerk"...To recover as someone who loves myself better and is therefore better able to love and support others. Thanks for this Ted Talk, Dan Harris.

[@GretchenVaughn]

That. Last. Line. 😂 Dan Harris is so sweet, funny and relatable. The 10% Happier App has changed my life.

[@authentic_101]

This is easily one of the most fun talks about arguably THE most important topic for our times!

[@sanjanaprakash1338]

One of the most refreshing takes on self love. Thank you TED and Dan Harris for this well timed reminder!

[@joesyogafitness6085]

Dan is right, it is a skill to love oneself. What you have to do is work: face fears, face being uncomfortable, face difficulties you have run away from your whole life. It takes a decision to stop being a jerk to one self. This time not alone.

[@canadianhappyinitalytruest6556]

Dan’s communication of these concepts has lead me on an incredibly positive and impactful journey over these past few years, making things better… inside and out. Thank you

[@JohnnyCatFitz]

I have to say that I'm very happy that Mr. Harris has continued on his journey and is sharing it. Years ago I was skeptical and ignored him but hearing this talk makes me feel he is the type of person/people we need to be the new gurus in the 21st. century. Relatable people in and somewhat 'of' the world, for that is where life happens. I agree, love is the only thing that can save the world. Reason without love/compassion is dry and can become cruel and inhuman. Good on you Mr. Harris.

[@ramanaarti]

Much thanks Mr.Harris for this terribly needed message ! Wish you the strength to continue on this path 🙏 !

[@ritamiller6111]

I absolutely loved this talk. I became a huge fan after having read your book Ten Percent Happier. You and I share some of the same traits and having someone else put voice to what I myself am guilty of humbles me. But you do it with such great humor, never taking yourself quite too seriously. Thank you so much for this talk. Awesome!!!

[@JeffreyTsay82]

Amazing job Dan!!!! I’ve been a long subscriber to 10% happier and it has dramatically improved my relationship to myself, my wife, my children and my friends. I appreciate your courageousness and applaud you for letting yourself be vulnerable. Great TED talk and thank you for everything you do!

[@trishakingsbury2224]

Brilliant, beautiful, and inspiring. I hope many people watch. We need more of this message! 🌟

[@psyfiles7351]

Dan you are a lovely human being so brave!! We all have these, you are the one who taught me to be more self aware when you said years ago that meditation helped you realize the voice within is a jerk. Me too! You have helped me raise my jerk self awareness radically. You inspire me again!!

[@lorileineroorbit]

I have been listening to and following Dan's work for years. Yet another absolutely beautiful, eloquent, light-hearted delivery, Mr. Harris. Thank you for your honesty and wisdom. From a combat-injured veteran and her service dog, namaste.

[@LilysEyes24]

Forever grateful to you, Dan. You got me back into meditation when I had given it up for good and never wanted to try it again. You made it accessible and easy to connect with mostly because you spoke so bravely about your own experience. It makes me smile whenever I hear you say: this is something I never wanted to do or I rejected that immediately. Only to open up a bit later and give it a try anyway. That is so helpful. Can’t wait to read your new book.

[@salliegilman6094]

Hi Dan, That was a really great TED talk. I applaud you for being so transparent. I have been a meditator for a number of years, and it has changed my life. I find myself to be a kinder, more compassionate person due to a Loving Kindness practice. Of course, I still screw up, but I move on and begin again. I'm also a fan of 10% Happier so keep on trucking and doing what you"re doing. My biggest goal is to do a long, silent retreat sometime in the near future! Thank you for this TED talk!

[@Yotrek]

I recently started a practice of “noticing”. I set a monastery bell timer to go off every 15 minutes. (I think it’s a plum village app). I stop, inhale and exhale once. Then ask myself “who’s here right now”? Then answer myself: “[angry, depressed, responsible, thinking] Carlos is here”. Then, if “angry me” is here. I respond with: “that’s ok, let him talk. Nobody heard him when he was a small boy and hurting”. It’s amazing this “noticing practice has improved my productivity, decreased my debilitating depression, and anxiety.

[@joannewilliams1727]

Thank you for your honesty. Your timing releasing this is superb ☺️

[@julied.6236]

Dan - Your books, talks and TPH have changed my life, and help me show up in a way I never could have imagined. I love TED talks, and this is my all-time favorite. Thanks and respect for keeping it real … and for putting so much energy and care into work that benefits others. I cannot wait for the new book and your future projects!

[@jenniferswaringen3109]

Thank you Dan for your work and your brave honesty.

[@JBTee123]

Love this- you’re a brave & tenacious person, Dan. We should all be so brave… I love loving kindness meditations- and do them when I cannot sleep, which helps tremendously. I am still trying to learn this & this talk boosted my resilience. 🙏

[@Lorihart1231]

Great to see Dan Harris share his story, insights and optimistic solutions. His humor, honesty and vulnerability is refreshing, and lays a safe foundation to lean into habits that are life changing . Ten percent happier is the BEST source for well organized mindfulness, relationship and spiritual information. With Dan as our guide and fellow student, he brings world renowned experts directly to his listeners. My life is better because of his work.

[@tedhall7246]

Great TED Talk, Dan. I started my meditation journey with the Ten Percent Happier app and continue to use it almost every day. Sharing your journey was vulnerable and illuminating. Thanks for all of the work you to to help all of us to demonstrate more compassion in our daily lives.

[@Toby57548]

Great job! So proud and happy for you!

[@canaliwoodcock8493]

So grateful for this talk and the honesty you bring to all of this work, Dan. I will also say love 10PH app. That and the podcast helped me save myself from a very traumatic and transitional place in my life. Because of it I am in my dream job, growing and learning. Long way to go, but more than ten percent happier.

[@5thdimensionliving727]

Brilliant TED talk 👍 so natural, engaging and thought provoking. It reminded me of my own journey 6-7 years ago when I went through a very painful mid-life crisis that lasted 12-18 months which completely overhauled my life. In my darkest days, learning how to self love (for the first time in 46 years in 2015!?) was the key to my recovery and leading a blissful life now. Everything you said was completely on-point 👍 I practice self-love every single day even if I have to say no to loved ones because the only person who really and properly looks after me is me ..and yes, I managed to find my heart which was buried away in so much external crap that we take to heart..I now have a great heart and brain connection..start and finish with you 👍

[@aamnahere6250]

This was a delightful talk. I think while we are taught to be kind to others which is extremely important, we're not taught to be kind to ourselves with the same vigour and passion. Most of us never learn to love ourselves and we're overly critical and outright mean in our self assessments. It's even more true for children who're raised in unhealthy, chaotic and abusive homes. The positivity to be derived from this is that it's always possible to start on your journey of self kindness and to extend the same kindness to others as well.

[@adakanma]

Love, love, love this so much. I stopped judging myself for still experiencing downward spirals when I realised I was able to access the upward spiral more often and much faster.

[@Penelopeq8]

Great job with your TED talk Dan. Beautifully honest and inspiring. I appreciate all you do as a long time TPH subscriber and fan. Keep doing what you are doing. It continues to help many of us find more peace and happiness. 🙏🏼😌🧘🏻

[@arc1601]

After using TPH app for even a small period of time and watching him give this talk, it almost feels like I'm watching someone I know. And like with anyone you know, when people were laughing applauding it felt like a huge sigh of relief that wow people are really enjoying this and ofcourse they are because he is amazing !! And I felt joy and am proud of this person and so grateful for everything he has done. If you're reading this, you made us feel 10% better and you know that's alot !! Keep going Dan 💚

[@jasondidner]

Ten Percent Happier and resources like it have helped me navigate some very thorny family health issues - physical and mental - that require as much of my best self as I can produce. Advice like this helps me to be as resilient as possible. And it's inspired me to write songs on the subject. Thanks Dan! Great talk!

[@zakUSDedelman]

Thanks for mustering the courage to address this. You rock!

[@shlomolibby1078]

This is simply brilliant, and timely in my case...... Recently l became serious about my lovingkindness practice. Nothing much happened- Except that my life is so much better, and my heart much lighter! Dan, may you live a life of ease!

[@shawnhampton8503]

Wonderful! I love Dan! He is real and I use the 10 percent happier app. Wisdom here. One of the biggest obstacles to our inner growth is an honest and clear acceptance of ourselves in total: the good and not so good and the shadow; and then to learn to accept others for theirs. Like the saying goes "Friends are people who know you really well and like you anyway" ...this includes ourselves.

[@lorrainefussell823]

Dan Harris, I learned about this Ted Talk via the 10% app. I've loved your work, your humor, and your wisdom since reading your first book and have shared it with lots of others. Thank you for improving my life!

[@Hudwerks2011]

Brilliant….an excellent summary of the second chapter of your life so far, and without one word wasted, how you reached your current plateau and most importantly how we can do it too.

[@kendallstark4302]

This was so spot on. Really needed to hear this 💖

[@Anja_Pearson]

Thank you for being so vulnerable and yourself. I really enjoyed this talk!

[@elizabethortiz-schwartz7376]

Thank you! I drank the coo-laid a couple of years ago. The 10percent happier meditations not only got me sane through the pandemic but gave me a touch of the loving kindness superpower you speak of. I strive to be less of a jerk and more often can see when I’m stuck. Thank you for your bravery, sharing your vulnerability and knowledge with some humor. ❤

[@blackdragon1488]

The way he taught us to meditate is a basic meditation type in Buddhism... We learnt that when we are 5,6 years old, coz I'm a buddhist by birth... Eventhough I didn't use it much in my life.. Now I see the whole meaning of it.. I'm grateful to be born as a buddhist to learn them from early ages.

[@prehistoricorchid3455]

Is there a way to learn Buddhist meditation in respectful and non-whitewashed way?

[@blackdragon1488]

I think many Buddhist monks teach Buddhist meditation ways in KZbin. You just have to search 😇

[@alicequayle4625]

Thich Naht Hanh is a good teacher.

[@julieofficer834]

TPH- total game changer, very smart and thoughtful guests. Dan Harris, lovely TED talk. Thank you for making this very hard stuff so accessible

[@drishcouture]

Brilliant. Full circle moment for Dan. So happy for his journey and progress and am gracious for this powerful (and practical) insight he shared here..and what a great platform he chose as well. A TED talk for the record books… keep at it folks! Cause “our demons are always out in the parking lot doing push-ups”. Man o man too many gold nuggets hidden in if you don’t pay attention! Unified field theory of love Meditation evangelist Ahh gotta go back and listen again! Thank you Dan!

[@kathleenmccool9818]

Last line was the BEST. Thank you, Dan.

[@sherrykurtz7577]

Thank you for your vulnerability. Great talk. I also enjoyed your book, 10% Happier, very much and recommend it frequently. My inner critic is indeed an AH, and I definitely need to give myself a break. I can see how doing that can also lead to being less critical of others, which I'm expert at. Ultimately, my opinion of another person doesn't actually matter to my life or theirs.

[@ZymaPro]

Doing this 8 min into the talk I almost immediately cried. Alone fighting your own battles doesn't mean alone if you got your own back and are "active in your own rescue." I have been shielded from learning all this sort of stuff and became a horribly self hating person while loving and gentle and understanding BOTH since my youth. Since leaving all my family and friends I am on a solo journey to find everything useful to a happy life. Medicinal herbs for proper self care in the kitchen (ginger for nausea). Repeating the same goals and I am statements at bed time and when I wake up. Ice cold baths. Anything that is useful. Philosophy, Buddhist, and well being positive quotes from notible wise people. Anything and everything. This talk adds to that very well. "Worry not for tomorrow. You will face it with the same tools you have that arm you against today." I hope to eradicate the self hatred in me. I'm hard on myself but like he said... it can be a positive driving inner life coach rather than a spiraling negative flogging.

[@heathercolman6682]

Love this! Thank you, Dan 😊

[@blakebortles23]

this is what men need. A guy who validates the difficulty men have with being emotional while still encouraging us to give it a try

[@interferenzbrille_2542]

Exactly what I'm learning in psychotherapy these days and it helps so much!

[@emilycvmckenzie]

So awesome. Thank you Dan Harris, will utilize your teachings.

[@seattlegrrlie]

Got this advice a long time ago... talk to yourself the way your world talk to your best friend. "You got this" and "you can" and "you are smart and successful" and... man good it change your life

[@lillieharris6204]

LOVED IT!! Can't wait for more TED talks. Truly inspirational! Forwarded the link to both my kids (22-yr old son with an absent narcissistic father, 17-yr old daughter currently experiencing panic/anxiety attacks for which everyone is trying to find a "physical" cause -- rather than treating the underlying anxiety of being a 17-yr old senior in high school during this day and age).

[@user-cs6pt7ez6m]

Hello Lillie, how are you doing. where are you from?

[@erichopham]

They probably won’t watch it being that young haha

[@UncompressedWAVmusic]

Lillie H.- A trained Hypnotherapist and NLP Practicioner can eliminate panic attacks in a session or 2. My wife was cured of clinical depression by just 1 three hour session with a professional in Hypnotherapy and NLP the transformation was Miraculous and it contributed big time to her completely recovering from advanced ovarian cancer in a few months without any hospital treatment. She refused Chemotherapy, surgery and radiation than got the 3 hour Hypnotherapy/NLP session and also teas from an TCM doctor.

[@mydajaz]

Bravo Dan! A great TED Talk for a kinder world. 🌿I teach mindfulness and meditation, and I found this very refreshing and helpful. So did the folks I shared it with today. It's a valuable addition to our toolbox. 🙏Thank you!

[@JohnAtkinsonTechHelp]

I really resonated with your message, Dan. Well done!

[@kbronx64]

I. Love. This Perfect timing in my life - thank you. One of the best, most engaging TED talks I've seen/heard

[@tabbybiddle]

This is so well done, Dan. I thoroughly enjoyed it!

[@user-up2xr6yo4e]

That’s right! It works. And I did it) just by watching my ego (for a month-two) and not trying to put it out. I had been saying to myself “I see my ego” (meaning all destructive feelings and thoughts, fears), not imagining it (that’s important). And it had gone away) of course it’s comes back sometimes. It’s our mind. But when you see it, it goes away. It really helps with relationships and with all your life))

[@user-cf3lp7gf7k]

We have to love and appreciate ourselves because if we don't then other people won't do that. It's also utterly significant to value your own efforts. Sometimes, I tend to condemn myself for not studying so badly or underrate my knowledge. Then I realize I am being a jerk to myself. In such cases, I tell myself there is no need to be so strict with your own self. You have not done something today, you will do it tomorrow. Live and soak up your life. Life is not all about studying. You won't miss anything out if you don't study for one day. Those words help me to calm down and not to get myself down.

[@shydebhar]

Thank you for your vulnerability. Having my own workplace appraisal, it is hard to hear all your flaws and failures and still feel worthy. I do the opposite of taking it out on others, I become anxious instead and self flagellate. I agree with the summation that our social fabric is unraveling. The never enough-ness and always behind-ness societal pressures are the catalysts for mental health burnouts and breakdowns.

[@angelajoshsmith2485]

Thank you! We've become meditation advocates because of your work. Kudos for all that you've done well. Best wishes in all of your future courageous efforts--

[@patricks.9036]

Dan Harris just a champion of transparency. Just like in his book 10% Happier, always discovers a way to happier. Thank you TEDTalks and Dan Harris

[@annmccarthy7848]

Thank you for this. You are very courageous to share this. I am so grateful, it’s just what I needed to hear today. A very dedicated 10 percenter.

[@kerrynewsome8745]

Brilliant. I’m a big fan of Dan. I totally relate to him especially as I am a podcaster as he is too now. His interview skills are amazing and I think his growth shines through because he is living with purpose. Finally. ❤

[@gloriaballard]

Loved this!!! Thank you, Dan. I've been listening to you for quite some time. You are amazing and inspiring. Thank you for changing the world for the better!

[@lalawest33]

Dan...I truly love what you are doing. I have found so much wisdom on your podcast. Thank you, sweetie!

[@ariemulchand]

You hide? You are exceptional in talking about a favorite topic! Know your worth my dear. You are a nice person!

[@prajwalshetty9809]

Thank you man, makes a lot of sense and really needed to hear this… I worked out the spirals and was starting to figure out the self flagellation is not helping..

[@edwconr]

Thanks for posting. Those gifted wordsmiths (oral or written) communicate so clearly. 5/5 stars for this TEDtalk.

[@UncompressedWAVmusic]

The process he explains at 10:20 here worked right away. Helpful and funny. I really like all of this. I did immediately applied and got results from Dan Harris's process he explains at 10:20 in this talk. He recommends doing it for 4 people. I did it for 10 people in my life. I immediately felt a lot better and calmer and peaceful. I wrote down the process on a 2 inch post-it note and put it on my calendar for reminders to repeat it.

[@flamingolady5047]

Amazing Ted Talk! Love Dan Harris! He has taught me so much through 10% Happier!

[@motivemystic]

Wow, this video was incredibly eye-opening! I've always believed that being kind to others is important, but Dan Harris's talk made me realize just how crucial it is to be kind to ourselves too. The idea that we can actually rewire our brains through meditation and self-compassion is truly amazing. I can't wait to start implementing these techniques in my own life. Thanks for sharing this inspiring talk!

[@billhdowne2382]

Narcissism manifests in many forms. I admire his courage.

[@keithireland6627]

Great talk many thanks.🍀

[@whatissoul9]

Love it and the podcast. Thank you dan harris !

[@ProudMomOne]

Thank you, Mr. Harris- a very important message, no doubt! Thank you!!

[@thislvl]

Beautiful talk

[@dariomilkovic4848]

Dan. Wow. Amazing talk. Thank you.

[@Gazonkie]

Excellent. Thank you!!!

[@flyingmobias]

Notes. May you be happy, safe, healthy, and live with ease. Generate warmth with full sentences. Conjure image and send phrases to: Easy person or pet, yourself, mentor, neutral, difficult, then all beings everywhere. Consciously counter program against inner critic. And when you feel yourself spiraling, but your hand on your heart and speak to yourself like a good friend or supportive coach instead of a sadistic inner tyrant. Amazing talk. Thanks

[@mg79277]

Great talk. Amazing delivery

[@ligiasommers]

Amazing and helpful inspiring talk . Funny too 🙏🏻❤️✨🌹

[@shanthikriss64]

Great job 👍 thank u for sharing

[@cfpl2375]

I’d like to show this to our inpatient behavioral health unit. Thank you! ….and congrats on taking that journey

[@lisajesswein8144]

Wonderful!!! I am working on ME as well and this was a great help in my forward (and upward) progress. Thank you.

[@karensullivan2238]

Just what I’ve been needing to figure things out. Yep, lack of love. I just didn’t know why.

[@Zorak90]

This is brilliant, love it.

[@AndreSelbach]

I’m glad he found his way. The root of all issues on earth is lack of love. Every individual issue

[@DeficioOfficial]

This was extremely helpful.

[@doctortex30]

Kind of summarizes few key Ted talks out there and it is good to see that being done.

[@thetruthmindset]

I love Dan and his work especially the TPH app. I couldn't be more grateful ❤️

[@user-cc1sp7wi1y]

I agree that love myself then we can love other people.

[@kaursinghi6030]

10:46 Super helpful meditation

[@mfumobamuza1091]

Beautiful!

[@ariemulchand]

Your smiles!

[@allydavis6953]

One of the very best TED talks ever!

[@user-cs6pt7ez6m]

Hello Ally, how are you doing. where are you from?

[@ronsparkman4913]

Dan Harris is the absolute best!