Finding Joy in Grief: A Radical and Mindful Approach to Grieving | Sky Jarrett | TEDxMargueriteLake

[@gephrygeph6480]

My wife passed away of gallbladder cancer on December 21, 2023. She fought hard for 9 months. I experienced all the emotions and responses Sky described. The grief of losing a spouse is the most awful feeling, but I will continue to move forward, taking my wife, the love of my life, with me every step of the way, the rest of my life. "Mindful grieving"...what a great concept! I accept my grief, allow it and cry because of it. After, I actually feel better, much better than when I initially bottled it up.

[@juliajesson1068]

I lost my husband 6 weeks ago, and lost my beautiful 23 year old grandson a week ago today, on my birthday, I’m destroyed, how can anyone move on from such pain, I want them back, I would gladly change places with them.

[@yvonneshanson1525]

I'm so so sorry!.. I just lost my mom and feel the same way.. it's so unbearable, there truly are no words that anyone can say 😢.. I'm sending you a big hug 🥀

[@juliajesson1068]

@@yvonneshanson1525 bless you chick, I’m so sorry for your loss, sending you lots of love and hugs.💞

[@yvonneshanson1525]

@@juliajesson1068 🩷🫂

[@LanishaMclean]

I know your pain. I lost my son when he was 10 yrs old from a seizure and my husband 3 months ago to a car wreck.

[@juliajesson1068]

@@LanishaMclean so so sorry chick.

[@nicholasdmello3400]

I have lost my son Nathaniel to a road accident about 15 days ago. The pain of loss is unbearable, life seems meaningless. I have been watching videos on grief n how does one deal with it, if at all. It has been of help to me to strengthen myself to confront the grief, one can't succumb to grief, life has to go on for self and surviving kids n family. This is one video which has in a gentle manner given hope to those like me who are grieving. Pray that all those hurting and grieving be blessed with the inner strength and grace from the Lord Jesus Christ, to journey in their grief and yet live life happily

[@carissahullfish415]

I lost my 17 year old a week ago. The pain is beyond words. Every moment of waking life is torture. I have been looking online for how to grieve. How to live for my family and children. I can't curl up and disappear. I am uncomfortable in my own skin. The void is huge in my stomach.

[@LS-er7pf]

@@carissahullfish415 It can onlly be unimagineable, as I have just lost my mother. But that void you talk about can be filling that emptiness with their memories, and love that they gave us to go on and remember them through what we say and do everyday. :-)

[@rhulanimbhenyani7065]

Just lost my mother to cancer a week ago. I just searched "how to deal with grief" and this video came up. God brought me here,I'm in a difficult season 😢

[@padafamfans]

I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my dad three years ago, and I haven't been the same person ever since. I try not to think about him being gone, but when I do, I can't stop crying.

[@mrubaby]

I lost mine 8 months ago to cancer too 😭, being the only child this by far has been the hardest year of my life. I pray God stays with us for the rest of our lives

[@r.a.h5788]

My father passed away away June 15, 2024, I’m here listening to this KZbin because of panic attacks , feeling lost & down , it happens at least once a week . I’m trying my best 😢 does feel nice when you can relate to someone

[@janetrussell2908]

“You do not have to let them go just because they have passed” Comforting to me now in my grieving

[@Officialmryuck]

I don't know you all but I love y'all!

[@justinsummerill8231]

Ouch this woman has been through a lot. Good on her for getting on stage and making such a speech and attempting to inspire others.

[@pratycool]

Lost my dad in second wave of covid and still not able to get over it. Relating every single thing shared in this video.

[@EryberrieTrueCrime]

My wife has been dead less than a week and I feel I've been on this roller coaster forever as her death was a year in the making. It's so painful I have no idea how to handle it.

[@IndigosMum]

I was absolutely side swiped by anticipatory grief. I knew mum was deteriorating rapidly but it wasnt until i started nursing her 8 days before her death that it hit me. This beautiful lady captured my pain. It has only been 2 and a half weeks and feels like a lifetime. I am feeling isolated but determined to not lose myself.

[@skyjarrett4369]

Liz my love, please know that you are not alone…I am standing with you in solidarity on the journey that I know oh too well can feel…discombobulating to say the least…sending you so much love…from my heart to yours ❤

[@IndigosMum]

@@skyjarrett4369 bless you! I feel your love from here xx

[@AnnapolisGirly]

I appreciated this. I’m not there yet but I’ve lost my mom and now my son. It’s incomprehensible right now. I need to function so I’m listening. My mom had a wonderful life and passed at 94, but my son. My son. I just can’t get there yet. I have never felt such loss and grief.

[@MaryLou913]

I’m so sorry. 🌹

[@Sunlova]

I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you❤

[@ElaineBennettEmbraceYou]

There is NO pain that comes close to losing a child. I've lost my dad, a dear friend but the loss of my daughter a little over two years ago is beyond what mere words could ever convey. It's a day by day journey. Sending you prayers for strength and courage to get through this 🙏🙏🙏

[@xo.rionna999]

The pain may feel so immense, but remember the love you have with them is forever ♾️ ❤️‍🩹🪽

[@debracurboy5844]

I am so sorry for your pain 😢. I lost my Mark 5 months ago and I know your pain. God bless you and give you his strength ❤😂

[@sophial7507]

Hearing that others feel disconnected when they are grieving is in itself a sense of belonging. I didn’t know what to expect when my parent died, and one of my struggles has really been not feeling connected with others who aren’t going through the same grief. Feeling like I can’t continue to talk about it, because people eventually expect it to hurt less, usually just within a couple of months. I think grief-groups are probably a fantastic resource. And I decided to reach out and check in with friends, who’ve lost loved ones, not right after their loss but months after, just because I know that time was and is really difficult for me as well.

[@skyjarrett4369]

“Hearing that others feel disconnected when they are grieving is in itself a sense of belonging” I just love that Sophia and have actually never thought of it that way. When my mother passed, I called my brother who had also lost his mom…he said “welcome to the club sis, you have now crossed the threshold many haven’t yet and until you know, you just don’t know.” Those words hit hard and it is from that place of uniting us all that I found the strength to do the very hard thing to face my fear of public speaking to share this message. Thank you watching, thank you taking the time to write, thank you for sharing your story. What’s the name of your parent who passed ?

[@sophial7507]

Lars, he was called Lasse, a common nickname here in Sweden :) He died in September, after two years suffering from brain cancer. I can’t express enough how much I recognized myself in your story. The grieving before he passed, how exhausting it was to care for him, the shame I felt for feeling so, but also the happiness and joy of spending that time with him. And it’s definitely a club that you don’t know exist until you get there, but there is some comfort in that we are not alone in this club. Thank you for your TEDTalk, I took some time yesterday, before going to bed, and had a mindful moment of grief and gratitude. I appreciate it!

[@skyjarrett4369]

@@sophial7507 my heart is always with you Sophia. May Lasse’s soul rest in peace 🙏🏽

[@elizabethraum2112]

I just lost my father a few weeks ago. I couldn't connect more with this ted talk. Thank you Sky Jarrett

[@derrickmaina5181]

I lost my fiance on my birthday 20th August 2024 through drowning while on vacation and I get panic attacks daily😢😢

[@ricardogonzalezrugamas2113]

I recently lost my grandpa and this hit home. Thank you for sharing your journey and wisdom

[@skyjarrett4369]

I’m sorry Ricardo. Warms my heart to know that you found this helpful. Thank you for taking the time to write 🙏🏽

[@rormarr]

Time doesn’t affect grief, but putting the work does. Really good lessons here Sky. Thank you.

[@skyjarrett4369]

It’s a big one for me Pillsy. Glad to know that it resonated for you

[@ElaineBennettEmbraceYou]

Everything you share here I have intuitively practiced since losing my beautiful daughter in April of 2022. That day my life changed forever but I set an intention that I would do everything in my power to honor her memory and live every moment of every day walking this journey in love despite the devastating loss I feel.

[@glenclarke6909]

Being impacted by grief caused by the loss of my son, and also being close to, and have been impacted by grief associated with the losses Sky referenced; I was struck by the consummate ease with which she bared her feelings as she personalized her presentation, and how eloquently and professionally she presented, on the topic of "Finding Joy in Grief". There are quite a few take-aways from this presentation that can certainly help those of us who are still struggling.

[@skyjarrett4369]

We’ve surely gone through the wringer of grief haven’t we uncle Glen ? Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m blessed to be able to journey with you in our grief

[@skyjarrett4369]

We’ve surely gone through the wringer of grief haven’t we uncle Glen ? Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m blessed to be able to journey with you in our grief

[@skyjarrett4369]

We’ve surely gone through the wringer of grief haven’t we uncle Glen ? Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m blessed to be able to journey with you in our grief

[@skyjarrett4369]

We’ve surely gone through the wringer of grief haven’t we uncle Glen ? Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m blessed to be able to journey with you in our grief

[@skyjarrett4369]

We’ve surely gone through the wringer of grief haven’t we uncle Glen ? Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m blessed to be able to journey with you in our grief

[@philaman1972]

Like a comet hurtling through space, grief smashes into *everybody* multiple times in our lives; that's how life is designed!

[@gleecares]

Well spoken... good guidance

[@betsysloan4619]

This is spot on! I celebrate my anniversary, my husband 's birthday, Father's 's Day and the anniversary of my husband's passing.

[@skyjarrett4369]

Love that Betsy ❤ Standing with you in your loss my love

[@betsysloan4619]

@@skyjarrett4369 , Thank you, Sky. I encourage people to honor their loved ones 's memories by celebrating them!

[@skyjarrett4369]

@@betsysloan4619 which is surprisingly hard for so many people. They are all lucky to have you with them on the journey

[@betsysloan4619]

@@skyjarrett4369 Thank you,Sky💓

[@skyjarrett4369]

@@betsysloan4619 thank you Betsy for being such a beacon of light 🙏🏽

[@Mindfullmomments]

It is actually the best video about grief that I had been watched in my life!

[@skyjarrett4369]

Thank you Negar…I appreciate your kind words…

[@finfuller]

Sky, it’s no wonder you’re a Mindful Coach; your ability to voice so simply, so poignantly, the very complex experiences and emotions that we ALL struggle with, is amazing. I am learning how to give myself permission to grieve and to feel real joy, without guilt. Thank you.

[@skyjarrett4369]

Love to hear Karen that you’re finding it possible to give yourself the permission to experience your grief ❤

[@normallife3045]

Very helpful. Lost my father recently... couldn't say final good bye or love him.

[@skyjarrett4369]

Standing with you in your loss my love 🙏 May you find peace

[@MariaFlores-ol5sm]

This message is a BLESSING to me❤❤❤ Thank you!!!

[@loutrinchere3714]

What an incredible gift of Wisdom Sky!! I loved how you grounded us in the reality that we will all experience deep grief, that we do have some say in how we will experience it, and that preparing for it can lessen the pain. You provided a straightforward, step by step roadmap of how to do this. The mindset shift and suffering formula are so helpful. Thank you for sharing the wisdom you gained from your experiences. I will be reviewing your presentation many times for myself, and will be sharing it frequently with others as needed. What a gift!!

[@skyjarrett4369]

Aww thanks so much for such kind words 🙏🏽

[@meditatorsguide]

I love the idea of creating the refuge in advance. Knowing the grief will come. The wave WILL come. There was a sense of relief when you shared that

[@skyjarrett4369]

It’s such an important part of the process 🙏🏽

[@debapriyomitter6320]

Sky, your explanations and clarifications are as expansive as your name, really! I have found in this video, a kind of closure for my trauma involving sudden death of my father 3 years ago in Covid and the helplessness of it all during those horrid times and the pain of restarting my life from an emotional zero. Additionally, I can well understand your identity crisis in such a hopeless, helpless situation...... but thats the way life goes. Best of lucks for the days ahead ✌

[@simonbrown9168]

I wish I was able to like this Ted Talk multiple times. It’s absolutely true. This was heartfelt and so authentically expressed. Thanks for sharing with me. ❤ Sending you nothing but love as always Tiffy

[@cindyloughran5925]

This is so powerful! Sky shares from the heart about an experience we will all face in our lives, in a way that is compassion- filled, gentle, inspiring and comforting. The talk is packed with useful tools and strategies to help us navigate the pain of loss and grief. Thank you!

[@skyjarrett4369]

Thank you Cindy for watching 🙏🏽

[@yaniquegriffiths6713]

Sky, having witnessed firsthand your journey through grief, I must say that there is much truth in all that you’ve shared. You’re living it, growing in wisdom and ever increasing your capacity for compassion. Thank you for sharing yourself and your knowledge with the world.

[@skyjarrett4369]

Thank you my friend for being a pillar of strength for me and for our family during this time. I know you know from all that you’ve endured yourself. ❤

[@desirastewart7651]

So much of what was said resonated as truth to my own experience with loss and grief. Thank you for giving language to what I have lived and known. I will revisit this talk many more times; it offered validation and grace. Thank you.

[@skyjarrett4369]

Warms my heart Desira to know that you received validation and grace. Thank you for watching and for sharing your experience 🙏🏽

[@sandra8991]

Sky Jarrett, thank you so much for sharing your experience, your advise, your wisdom, your acknowledgement. I have grieved a lot the past years to a point I am searching for intense mental help now. But it feels great to know that it meant I loved a lot. And it is great to be supported to sit with emotional pain until it is released by the body and being able to experience hope and joy too. It is ok now to know grief is part of my life, that means I loved.

[@teresawoodland]

Thank you. Such deep wisdom in this. It captures so much of what I have learned about love from losing people. The pain is part of the love.

[@skyjarrett4369]

That’s exactly right Teresa…the pain is part of the process 🙏🏽

[@AStewart-bk2br]

Thank you for this, Sky!

[@mattwexler3682]

Thank you, Sky, for your bravery, your vulnerability, and your wisdom. Your invaluable perspective and advice here resonates deeply for me.

[@skyjarrett4369]

Warms my heart to know that the message resonates for you…thank you Matt for being a source of perspective and wisdom through this journey

[@chiquitahunter]

Listening to how you went through the pain in losing your mom made me realise no one can feel those emotions for another, but there are ways of making it easier for yourself and also others who are going through loss! Having a road map is very important for me as well as remembering you don't ever have to let your loved ones go!..👏🏼 Excellent talk from a very beautiful soul.💖

[@skyjarrett4369]

Thank you for your kind words Teresa 🙏🏽

[@MargaretBrooks-xl5fq]

Sky, thank you for an exceptional talk. I appreciate your vulnerability. I love that you highlighted that grief is a full body experience. My church is starting a grief group. I will share this.

[@skyjarrett4369]

Love that Margaret. May this message soften the hardship of their grief. Thank you 🙏🏽

[@phithai-vietdo6285]

Beautifully delivered and heartfelt. I can resonate with being caught in that distraction and irritability. It is quite liberating to tap into the heart and practice shifting that mindset.

[@loriannmichele]

So very powerful. Thank you for sharing your journey and the tools we can all use to navigate the inevitable losses we will face and grieve on this journey of life.

[@skyjarrett4369]

Thanks for watching Lori

[@lorrainegordon8391]

Thanks Sky for a beautiful, thoughtful talk. Sharing your personal experience with loss and grief made it even more powerful and relatable. I will share with my communities as we are all experiencing various forms of loss. Bravo!! ❤️👍🏽

[@skyjarrett4369]

Thanks Lorraine for listening and for spreading what I hope can be medicine in the healing journeys of those suffering with loss 🙏🏽

[@ChildofRuth]

Sky your heartfelt talk will help countless others go through these difficult emotions with hope. Your message is powerful and timely. Both your parents were big personalities with big hearts and you have made them proud!

[@skyjarrett4369]

I appreciate that so much 🙏🏽

[@joanleroy538]

Sky, I totally loved this presentation. I could so relate to it. You have touched my heart and soul in a way that is truly remarkable. Thanks for this, because I really needed to know a lot of the information that you shared but mostly that grief has no expiration date. Thanks again my darling. Love and blessings.

[@skyjarrett4369]

Warms my heart to hear that. All my love ❤

[@evontherealtor]

Thank you for sharing

[@pamelacausa7479]

Amazing talk, Sky. It is heart-touching. Thank you for sharing your experience with us

[@skyjarrett4369]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@tracyrussell4365]

So insightful , giving us a road map. Thanks for the guidance Sky .

[@skyjarrett4369]

Thanks for watching Tracy 🙏🏽

[@cherylquerry6664]

Thank you Sky for this incredible insight! I especially liked the suffering equation, which can have a variety applications beyond grief as well. I appreciate your sharing your heartfelt personal story. Blessings on your path!

[@skyjarrett4369]

You’re so right Cheryl! That suffering formula applies to so many things in our lives. Thank you for watching 🙏🏽

[@keleeshamarley7178]

I love this Sky! This is phenomenal. Thank you always🫶🏽🥰🙏🏽🥰🫶🏽🙏🏽💜🙏🏽🫶🏽

[@skyjarrett4369]

Thank you my love for watching, commenting and for all your love as always

[@97warlock]

keeping there memory alive, keeps the greif active ive learned,.

[@skyjarrett4369]

But does the grief ever actually go away though? The key for me has been to welcome the grief, to befriend it...the more I try to wish it away is the stronger it comes up...what we resist persists...I feel. What are your thoughts on that?

[@azlife4me]

Thank you for this great video. I think it will be very helpful to me.

[@C-SERA]

Try to lose someone suddenly. Its even worse. I thought thst my mom was doing well, then suddenly i found her dead. I couldnt even tell her goodbye.. its so horrible. My heart is wounded. So wounded i cant focus on work. I cant focus on anything

[@sarapowell46]

Amaaaazing!! You are such a powerful storyteller ❤🎉

[@mariamajallow9417]

Thank you

[@BBlair-if8tj]

Wise and helpful. Beautiful presentation! Thank you!!

[@elisacanali2751]

This deeply touched my heart ❤you are absolutely incredible

[@skyjarrett4369]

Thanks Eli 🙏🏽

[@robertashaffer3950]

This was phenomenal. Thank you so much 🙏🙏

[@PatriceFordLyn]

Thank you for sharing your journey and your insights Sky. How can I find out more about your work in mindfulness?

[@gerry498]

Amazing video! So helpful and encouraging! Thank you!

[@angaramacrafts8564]

Precise advice! Fabulous helps!! Anticipatory grief is fer real!! Thanks for sharing these points!!! ang

[@beatleme2]

loss my wife of 13 yrs to cervix cancer tumor within 3 mths thinking it was menopause n static nerve pain just turned 50 :(... bleed out on the op table after getting blood clots in her leg trying to remove after a kidney tap days before but cant prove, tho they checked for clots prior 8 1 23

[@chantellemurray1887]

Very good

[@srblond]

As someone who lost their mom recently had to caregive for my mom for over a year by myself, this speaker has zero clue how helpful it is to have sisters to take some of the load off.

[@geminil2415]

As someone who had 5 siblings who all came together to care with all our love for our dying mother.I can't imagine how terrible it must be to do that alone and not only through the loss of our loved ones, but through any stressful situation in life.All love and blessings to you❤

[@ldolan4051]

There are different griefs.

[@MS-ns4ki]

I have no idea why people think they are immune

[@sekaizvandaziva]

I lost my son 3 months ago i can't move on from it

[@katalinbohdan9122]

My fiance was just murdered in the Ukrainian war. I can't handle this pain of losing him in such a violent death

[@monisharma7756]

I lost my husband on June 10th and everyone asks me why I still have his picture in the drawing room. Why are you using his possessions? It spreads negativity. Really ? How the loss of a loved one affects you negatively Your existence..

[@msj5415]

How do you become a pond?

[@jasminespence1474]

This woman has obviously never lost a child!! You can only say loosing a parent is difficult if you have never lost a child 🤨Try loosing 2 children like I have 💔💔

[@overthehill067]

My heart breaks for you Jasmine. I have lost both parents and almost all siblings of our once large family but never a child. I ach to even imagine what you must be feeling right now. God bless and keep you on this journey. Keep your strength close. 💞

[@LisaLisa0624]

🥹🫶🏾🙏🏽🫶🏾🥹

[@colourmequaint9690]

There is enough room in this world for all of our griefs. Her grief doesn’t take away from yours. I am sorry for what you went through.

[@notyouraverageharleyquinnstan]

💔

[@97warlock]

only strangers care to listen. only.

[@aminakane8643]

What is she talking about ?

[@ingridplata2411]

I really don't understand what you are suggesting we do honestly