When someone gives you a gift say, “thank you.” Once you have done that your obligation to the gift and gift-giver is done..... these words have changed my life
@roselounsbury4305 жыл бұрын
Awesome, Emma! So glad this helped you! How are you incorporating it into your life?
@emmamacdonald825 жыл бұрын
Rose Lounsbury I have already donate a handful of gifts I’ve held on for months or years only because they were gifts. I needed someone to say out loud that doing that is okay. So thank you!
@roselounsbury4305 жыл бұрын
@Simply Mindfulness so glad this phrase is helpful to you! :)
@CottonQueen-kn5 жыл бұрын
My gift mantra is this: Is given to me to make me happy. In any way the giver wanted me to experience burden. So if it happens to be one im giving a gift to giver by letting it go and remain as they wish me to be-Happy
@nonexistingvoid5 жыл бұрын
If I don't like a gift, I will let the gift giver know. Not to be rude, but so they won't give me something I don't like again. Because why would I let them waste their money like that?
@seattlegrrlie5 жыл бұрын
I've always told people not to give me stuff. Buy me lunch, take me to dinner. I don't want things, I never have.
@girlyghoul5 жыл бұрын
I'm the same. I tell my friends what I really want most for birthday or Christmas is to spend time with the people I love. Let's just play games or watch a movie or heck, just hang out. Especially my friends who do not have much money. They always give me stuff every year though...
@LibbyRoseEmbroidery5 жыл бұрын
I don't do the usual holiday and gift giving occasions and neither do my friends, but whenever someone asks me what they should bring when we invite them over, I've learned that saying, 'nothing' or 'just yourself' will lead to flowers, chocolates, sugary drinks, ornaments etc, so I now always make a point of saying, 'some fruit would be lovely, thanks.' That we can use. :)
@ah57215 жыл бұрын
I've had the same problem with people still giving me stuff , I will have to use this line ! Just some __certian type of foood_ thanks.
@2HootHoot5 жыл бұрын
I like receiving things because Its an opportunity to sell or regift lol
@bikinggal15 жыл бұрын
I say that to my kids too!!
@diannemaloney55015 жыл бұрын
I went shopping with my Mother once and saw some beautiful lingerie I thought she might like for Mother's Day. I asked what she thought of them and she said: I already have one. ONE, she had one nightgown. Her entire life she owned two nightgowns at a time, one for winter and one for summer, well one for the warmer 6 months and one for the colder 6 months. She washed it on Mondays. I had a drawer full of nightgowns, but she had one and she felt that that was enough. That's a great word - ENOUGH - don't you think?
@lisa98675 жыл бұрын
I sweat at night so I like to wear a different one (clean) every night. I have a drawer full of them depending on the weather and/or if I have guests. To me they are useful and necessary.
@tomkatt34105 жыл бұрын
💔
@judysteger63045 жыл бұрын
@@lisa9867 i'm a sweater. it's obnoxiously bad! But I've found that not wearing anything to bed helps immensely.
@andie50315 жыл бұрын
I own a week supply of undershirts because when I wear them just once they stink to high heaven. Some folks aren't cut out for minimalism lol
@roselounsbury4305 жыл бұрын
This is so interesting! It just shows that people are so different in terms of what we consider ENOUGH. Thanks for sharing this!
@lindatait53265 жыл бұрын
My Grandma always said ‘One on, one off and one in the wash’. This allows for emergencies and the times you can’t get the washing dry quickly (I live in the Uk where we don’t all use driers). Works for me with bedding and towels.
@robinlillian94715 жыл бұрын
Linda Tait: If you and your Grandmother want to do laundry to wash those three towels at least twice a week, that's your business. Who are you to tell me how to live?
@hellybelle55 жыл бұрын
@@robinlillian9471she specifically said "it works for me" she wasn't telling anyone what to do...
@lania37175 жыл бұрын
@@robinlillian9471 wow. You're such a troll moving from one commenter to the next trying to rile people up. Good job by you.
@THEoriginaldragontrs5 жыл бұрын
My mum says the same!!! 8D
@THEoriginaldragontrs5 жыл бұрын
Clarice where r u from? (Im in Santiago Spain n here it happens the same).
@c_the_world5 жыл бұрын
Both my husband and myself grew up with parents that loved to hoard things. Now that we are married and have a home of our own, it is so liberating to live with just the essentials. It even helped to cut down anxiety!
@sc_arriola3825 жыл бұрын
I wouldn't say my mom hoards things but she def has way more stuff than she needs or even use. Things that haven't been used in over 10 years. Which is okay that's her decision however it stresses her out that her house is a mess because there's nowhere to put anything cuz space is being taken up by things she doesn't need or use..... I feel bad for her and it stresses me out that she's stressed out but she doesn't let me help her throw stuff away or donate
@carolyneverett7625 жыл бұрын
Give your extra towels, sheets, throws, blankets to your local animal shelter. They need them👍🏻
@juliadandy60195 жыл бұрын
Carolyn Everett YES! Great point
@shonaharris93285 жыл бұрын
Carolyn Everett. Or to organizations that give clothing to low-income families in need.
@rickwrites26125 жыл бұрын
Or homeless shelter
@Mad_S5 жыл бұрын
Or put them into a fire and use mirrors to direct the light into a sort of virtue signal.
@acomment59915 жыл бұрын
You don’t know how that blessed me! I just cleaned the linen closet and there were so many towels and sheets I could barely close the door. I will take them to the animal shelter today!
@pricklypear75165 жыл бұрын
I firmly believe that overwhelming kids with a lot of "stuff" contributes to attention disorders. Kids with less stuff tend to engage more deeply with items, to exercise more imagination, and to cherish their belongings rather than casting them off in search of the next "thrill." I sure wish someone would undertake a study on this topic.
@majakofoed37215 жыл бұрын
Prickly Pear I understand What you mean and somewhat agree, but most attention *disorders* You’re Born with. I have ADHD, and only had a few toys growing up, I was an only child and often just sat out in the grass. I really don’t think They Can be connected. But i do belive that, for exsample, constantly having a phone in your face, Will decrease your attention span. Because you’ll be uset to being constantly stimmulated. (Proberbly a lot of spelling errors, Danish autocorrect fucks it up)
@IulesVa5 жыл бұрын
There are studies done with rats that show that a more enriched environment with more things developed the rats' brains more than a impoverished environment Gardner, E. B., Boitano, J. J., Mancino, N. S., D'Amico, D. P., & Gardner, E. L. (1975). Environmental enrichment and deprivation: effects on learning, memory and exploration. Physiology & Behavior, 14(3), 321-327.
@ah57215 жыл бұрын
There has been several studies on this. That's why quarterly I ask my son if he wants to keep the toys he hasn't played with in a while.
@pricklypear75165 жыл бұрын
@@majakofoed3721 My fault, I should have been more precise. I DO believe that ADHD (and other conditions) can occur spontaneously, so I should have said that "overwhelming kids with a lot of 'stuff' contributes" to the PREVALENCE of it. And, by the way, your English is, yes, full of errors but commendable nonetheless, as long as you know that "fucks it up" is maybe not advisable in many situations (even though it's a phrase I often use).
@candydemon415 жыл бұрын
Just depends on the child. I have always had everything I wanted tons of toys growing up and everything I needed. I don't have ADHD or learning disorders. I don't feel sorry for what I did get as a child but I do feel sorry for those who have nothing. They have a more poverty striken life.
@SeattleRosie Жыл бұрын
One of the best minimalist/decluttering talks ever. "Keep nothing that isn't useful or beautiful." Easier said than done, but very well said.
@o0Theresa0o5 жыл бұрын
Let's be clear - the standard for what is 'needed' is determined by the individual. My husband and I are pretty minimalist, but to be happy, I NEED 9 towels for the 2 of us. Why? Because I like to have 2 just for me (body towel and hair towel), and my husband has one. So, we have 3 towels on the go at any one time. But, I also like to be clean and fresh, so we swap those out regularly. Since I don't want to be constantly rushing to get laundry done, I like to have a buffer, so-to-speak, where I can have towels in laundry but still be safe with the number of towels available. That makes me happy. I define my minimalism. My point here is that you do not have to prescribe to someone else's rules about what qualifies as minimalism. Just because she thinks 2 towels per person is good enough doesn't mean it is the law of minimalism. Live minimally on your own terms, and with the things that you really want.
@carawestgate5 жыл бұрын
I agree. It's all about being mindful of what serves you!
@rachelselby54695 жыл бұрын
I agree, see my comment above. We have 16 for 2 people because we don't have a dryer. we each need a couple of towels for the beach, and we regularly have guests who also take towels to the beach. And we're two women who both want a hair towel.
@YeshuaKingMessiah5 жыл бұрын
If ur clean and fresh when you come out of the shower, ur towel will stay clean and fresh also for at least a week. It only ever dried off something clean and fresh. Simple logic.
@YeshuaKingMessiah5 жыл бұрын
Rachel, I use a sponge to shower so I get most dead skin off there. Way more comes off while you sleep anyway. The Kirby demo always wowwed ppl becuz it sucked out all the dead skin from the mattress. Unless you change your sheets daily too? Lol
@marinaalex05105 жыл бұрын
@Trickius That is a great comment, thank you
@allisonallison59695 жыл бұрын
Whenever shopping & you pick up an item , ask yourself......do I NEED this or do I just WANT it! It has helped me time & time again!
@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr28235 жыл бұрын
Pay cash, that's the other half. Only bring enough to get the things you need.
@allisonallison59695 жыл бұрын
@@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823 Absolutely! Got rid of credit cards years ago.
@Abel-lt5nr4 жыл бұрын
It works wonders! I always do it. Other thing I do is take a picture of it, walk a little around, and then see if the momentary emotion of buying it is gone.
@Puglover1304 жыл бұрын
You can still have things you want, as long as they bring you joy. That’s where the “beautiful” comes in.
@gemini81584 жыл бұрын
Allison Allison 💁🏽♀️It REALLY does work!👍🏽
@spicybrown755 жыл бұрын
Minimalism + Marie Kondo method = peace of mind and less stress.
@HeyItsDom75 жыл бұрын
yesss
@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr28235 жыл бұрын
She's wrong about half the time, tho. Folding all your clothes normally just gives you clothes you forgot about/wrinkled stuff. And we have several seasons where i live. About 2 months of perfect weather where you are neither sweating or freezing all day.
@boohoo13375 жыл бұрын
marie is overrated and very shallow
@skqq32504 жыл бұрын
I am so so glad that the tide is finally turning to the way I have been living. Seems the first 48 years I was the “frugal one” but I just preferred to spend my money or other useful ways.........good food, travel and investments.....YAY!
@EsterHorbach-it9tb9 ай бұрын
Isn't her motto "does this thing sparkle joy?" Let's be honest, most everyday things are just things, they're necessary, not more not less. Nowadays before buying something new (clothes or bags etc.) I ask myself "do I really want it" or " would I miss it not having it". Or being a huge Amazon fan: put it in your card, d o n ' t buy it, leave it for the next day and then you' ll realize, you don't want it anymore (because you didn't need it in the first place).
@ujepagaz84955 жыл бұрын
I like her intonation and everything
@roselounsbury4305 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@kidsmoked5 жыл бұрын
... what's 'everything'? :D
@1sanremy5 жыл бұрын
A few months ago, a gipsy came to my house looking for scrap metal. The guy was making a living for him, his wife, & his young child, by collecting iron to be sold by the weight. In addition, he was a christian & a sympathic man. So, i decided to give him every metalic things that could be found in my workshop ( tools included). I kept the minimun things necessary to do my daily maintenance of my property, and gave him all the rest: washing machine, drillers, hammer, saws, engines, nails, lader, iron bars, metal chains, cables, car engine pieces, old cast-iron radiators... he got about 600 kgs of metallic objects, that he could sell for around 100 €. So quite a good day for him and for me : exactly what i wanted. I told him : " Is it God who sent you ?" Thanx. And nothing of the given things have been missing.
@labotraduc84482 жыл бұрын
I'm in the middle of it, decluttering. This talk is very encouraging! I can see how my clutter has weighed me down. Thank you!
@sparklej11425 жыл бұрын
My towel wasn't washed often enough and I got MRSA--antibiotic resistant bacteria. So I researched and found in my very humid area that no more than three uses and then our towels are washed, then hung out to dry. And we use hand towels frequently. They work well. And we love thin towels, but quality thin towels are hard to fine. I must have the right number because occasionally I run out. I can't imagine getting rid of Christmas ornaments. Almost all were hand made or gifted by those we love so dearly. Hot cocoa and little hands and such precious memories are shared every year. The best advice I've ever heard was "Do you own your possessions or do they own you?" It's all about the deliberate--and connection.
@evrydae5 жыл бұрын
Do you know you got MRSA from a towel?
@jodavb5 жыл бұрын
Please look up Japanese Tenugui towels, they dry incredibly quickly and are often very beautiful
@marymann41265 жыл бұрын
Jane Crowe, my mother had MRSA. Her doctor told her that she should use a clean towel every time she bathed. Doesn’t matter it was contracted; clean towels should be used every time.
@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr28235 жыл бұрын
It goes either way where i live. Winter, you can dry stuff on the radiator. Summer can be a bit humid. I give it the sniff test, hang outside and wash once a week unless something doesn't look, feel or smell right.
@kellie47925 жыл бұрын
Ok I'm sorry , did your Doctor explain what MRSA is and how you could get it? You could indeed get it from a (contaminated) towel! Meaning one of you was already infected with it and contaminated the towel...
@jah47075 жыл бұрын
The book ‘Goodbye, Things’ is great for changing your mindset about ‘stuff’.
@venetiadavid74335 жыл бұрын
Love that book!
@ericamciver47475 жыл бұрын
A great read
@purpleskies66003 жыл бұрын
living a vanlife exsisitance makes you realise exactly how much you NEED! never been happier ever
@karenkaren31895 жыл бұрын
I always am getting rid of things. It feels great.
@AnnakiVEVO5 жыл бұрын
Agree, I also developed a pleasure through donating, selling and throwing out stuff from home. Every time I empty a space, drawer or shelf it feels great to look at it each time so empty and clean mostly after being used to it crowded.
@LuckyGuu3 жыл бұрын
@@AnnakiVEVO I love you!
@kaw8473 Жыл бұрын
I can relate so much to the Christmas bit. I used to almost dread Christmas because our family would open gifts until 11pm! There would be Ikea sized bags of stuff sitting around our house that we had to go through and sent a majority of it to charity. Thankfully we have minimalized.
@juliejay54365 жыл бұрын
This talk is both very useful and very beautiful! Lady, well done!
@roselounsbury4305 жыл бұрын
Thanks! :)
@carinm.bonifacino4 жыл бұрын
She nailed it!
@justicedaicy5 жыл бұрын
Very inspiring! You've caused me to stop and think about the steady stream of stuff coming into our home and how much of it we really don't use or need. The quote about having nothing in your home that isn't useful or beautiful is a great rule to live by. I'm going to start using that.
@roselounsbury4305 жыл бұрын
Awesome, Karen! So glad you found this helpful! :)
@shademarquez45555 жыл бұрын
is it so nice to live with a simple home with nothing but beautiful and useful things sorrounding you?
@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr28235 жыл бұрын
I'm a fan of borrowing and using it once and sending it back like brand new. Haven't bought a book. Cd or dvd in a queen's age (library).
@kelly-lainemconie68325 жыл бұрын
LOVED THIS! One of the most amusing talks on minimalism I’ve ever heard
@jholmlund5125 жыл бұрын
Great talk infused with the right amount of humor and candor to get me thinking about nooks and crannies to clean out around the house (and thus inside my head)!
@DrMattHersh2 жыл бұрын
Fantastic talk, Rose! Thank you! My wife and I are in the middle of doing just what you wisely offer. We know we’ll feel so much freer when we’ve decluttered and purged the unnecessary and the non-beautiful. Very daunting but I know it will be very worth it.
@user-onyoutube8685 жыл бұрын
Great presentation! When people take the time to get to know your likes, i.e., favorite restaurants, jewelry, etc, then giving a gift they will appreciate, and use won't be hit or miss. If baking is your talent, a cake, pie or cookies that you know someone really enjoys will be even more meaningful to them. Giving "vouchers" for baby-sitting so a friend can have a date night can be an inexpensive gift from you, but priceless to them. There are countless ways to give gifts that mean so much, and most of all, the recipient knows you took the time to put thought into what they like before you gifted them.
@lovelyrainflowerfarm10 ай бұрын
A very good, short explanation of minimalism.
@TheNimfadora5 жыл бұрын
The answer is 2 per person! Great lady and very nice talk!
@adrianpoolefamily94374 жыл бұрын
What a gifted speaker you are! Loved your talk. Thank you.
@beatricekarbaumer-jones65145 жыл бұрын
With some exceptions, I expect that 2 towels and 2 washcloths per week per person should be enough. Unfortunately, when American friends come to visit longer than just a few days, I gently have to initiate them into this habit. Most are used to just dumping their wet but still clean towels on the floor and expect to be given fresh ones every day, not out of malice but just out of unconscious habit from living in a wasteful, convenience-filled society. I live in Europe, energy is expensive, I don´t have a dryer nor do I enjoy being anyone´s maid or having racks of laundry cluttering up our living space for days on end. As much as I love my friends and we get along very well, I have weeded out the persistent clueless ones and suggest they stay in a hotel during our next wonderful, planned visit together.
@barbaraleszczynski22145 жыл бұрын
Beatrice Karbaumer-Jones you're right..we have become too spoiled and wasteful out of habit....one that I have now broken out of.
@lisa98675 жыл бұрын
They are not really good people if they are throwing their towels on the floor and expecting you to pick up after them. I don't even do this when I stay in a hotel. But I do prefer to stay in hotels than with friends and/or family.
@Draggonny5 жыл бұрын
My stepdaughter does this. We've been known to find 5 towels in her room even though she only stays with us every other weekend. If we only had 2 towels each myself and my husband would find no towels to use. Yes, she does have her own, personal pink towels to use but she'll still use fresh ones every time and not put hers in the wash.
@xiqueira5 жыл бұрын
I am American Hispanic. We’ve never used a towel a day. 1-2 washes in the winter per week, 2-3 in humid summer weather. Always hung to dry and we shower twice a day quick.
@lucieann215 жыл бұрын
Beatrice Karbaumer-Jones wow; I live in Australia where the sun is free and I can dry my towels every day on the washing line.. but even I don’t get new towels each day.. 3 days usually and then they get washed.
@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr28235 жыл бұрын
I quit giving holiday gifts a good 20 years ago. Never regretted it once.
@andrewandbeckysteck55285 жыл бұрын
What a great talk! It’s about so much more than towels. Now to go take a look in my linen closet...
@erikar64135 жыл бұрын
People are making this too much about towels. Everyone’s going to want to keep more of this or that and that’s okay. As long as your cutting back on others items...
@rencesbunt5 жыл бұрын
My grand-daughter painted me a picture. When she comes to visit, she is proud and happy to see it displayed. I don't like the picture, but I love her, so...
@gailgrooms9975 жыл бұрын
when my grandson died, the daughter of a dear friend painted a lovely picture and they had it custom framed. I don't care for the painting, I can't find a place to put it, and I am not sure how to deal with this. They keep asking when I am going to hang it. It is VERY large, it cost them a small fortune to frame it and it does not work into my color scheme (pink and red roses). What to do....what to do
@jjbpenguin5 жыл бұрын
Judith Stuart sounds to me like that picture brings you joy. By the guidelines given, keep it.
@LibbyRoseEmbroidery5 жыл бұрын
@@gailgrooms997 Maybe you could say, 'I really appreciate your kindness in giving it me, but I'm afraid it really doesn't work for us/me. Is there someone else who would be able to give it the love it deserves?'
@sk86905 жыл бұрын
gail grooms - I think you’re going to have to just hang it. Knowing as much as you do about it (effort, cost etc) it would be a very hard heart that could get rid of it. Meanwhile, if you have somewhere such as “on the stairs” where you see it once or twice a day, but it doesn’t take over a room, that would be ideal. Then in due course, you could say that much as you love the thought behind it, the reminder is just too constant, would they mind if you gave it to a local .... hospital, hospice, somewhere where it can go on the wall and someone will love to see it? I’m terribly sorry to hear about your grandson, and wish you peace.
@elliottgwendolyn5 жыл бұрын
@@gailgrooms997 donate it to something your grandson would have appreciated? Action it and give it to a cause that related to your grandson? Put it up for a year then take it down?
@paulinefollett30995 жыл бұрын
I have just cleaned up my office and organised everything. It felt great to only keep what I needed.
@SarahLizDoan5 жыл бұрын
Pauline Follett I did that last month and it’s the best thing ever!!
@zolozek33275 жыл бұрын
I'm doing it now. Lol
@lauravalle37665 жыл бұрын
Well done, Rose!!! Such good and thoughtful food for thought here! And I enjoy your wit, humour, and lightness you bring to the subject.
@mercedesvarasteh19695 жыл бұрын
Love love love this! Amazing presentation and message that literally everyone can apply to their own lives. Great job Rose!
@Lunatheia Жыл бұрын
Obviously the whole point here is to figure out what works for you but also to be really honest with yourself. Here's an exercise: Try and pack away things as if to say you're going to throw them away. Then, once you really need something, go and grab it from the box/bag you put it in. By the end of 3 months you truly get rid of everything that hasn't been taken out and used. I did this with our plates and mugs and it surprisingly worked really well!
@anngepp8491 Жыл бұрын
"If our homes are full of things we don't need, use or love, our minds are full of them too".
@marih3286 Жыл бұрын
I've been a minimalist for a while, but I certainly enjoyed her delivery of this subject. It's an excellent reminder to re-visit my closets and make sure all the old towels left when the new ones arrived!
@schmidtandcompany5 жыл бұрын
Reducing and donating so much of our stuff in the last year. I imagine that someone will love it more than me. It makes it much easier.
@liontazi32805 жыл бұрын
Cindy-lou Hi love you from morocco my dream to meet you
@connorquimby89645 жыл бұрын
Where's the super like button? XD I have always believed that our surroundings mirror our internal state of being. The stuff you have, the friends you keep, the places you go. Amazing Talk
@NotAnAngryLesbian5 жыл бұрын
Closets in old houses are small for a reason.
@ah57215 жыл бұрын
Because they are pre over-consumerist ..Not for the reason of minimalism.
@irenatheginger24915 жыл бұрын
Not all old house a have small closets, just to point that out, I live in an 1810 colonial, and we have rather large closets both in our bedrooms and then in the adjoining closets to two bedrooms on either side of the house, on both floors.
@zacpohlenz52524 жыл бұрын
My wife and I just bought a cape cod style home from 1925. Very limited closet space, indeed. In fact, the previous owners had turned part of the upstairs hallway into an additional closet, but we're going to knock it down. We have no need for it, so we'd rather have the extra space in the hallway!
@LuckyGuu3 жыл бұрын
@@zacpohlenz5252 have you made your hallway bigger yet? If you knock the other wall down won't the room be bigger
@dianebalch53695 жыл бұрын
Rose is right about the benefits of letting go of things: free time, peace of mind and clarity. But also: knowing where things are!! Not rebuying what you can't find and wasting precious time looking, looking, looking!! ;-)
@ninak85065 жыл бұрын
Excellent talk. So many valuable takeaway lessons. - if it's not beautiful or useful let - it- go.
@merijaan44185 жыл бұрын
Loved how she focused on the essence of her talk. so minimalist indeed
@solohoh5 жыл бұрын
Go long distance backpacking -- I cut my toothbrush handle in half on the PCT to save space and weight.
@cleitatreestrong83973 жыл бұрын
This has been such a funny and entertaining speech, yet did clearly outline the benefits of living simply /minimally. Thank you for that great inspiration!
@butterflybaby77115 жыл бұрын
My husband and I have four towels. I wash them on the weekends and put fresh ones out half way thru the week. We hang them up after using them every night. All are white, fluffy and big (making them feel good but are washed & bleached all together). 👍
@reja1309 Жыл бұрын
How many towels do you need? It depends. If you live alone you probably need more than 2 towels if you don't want to run frequent small loads in your washer and dryer which are costlier. Same for dishware and cookware if you ever want to invite guests to dinners that aren't limited to a one-pot meal served on paper plates. Minimalism carried too far can really hurt the lifestyle you might want to lead that doesn't happen on a daily or even weekly basis. It takes a lot of thought and foresight and planning to do it well for each person or family's lifestyle. It's best done in stages, discarding things only as they turn out not to be needed or wanted over time. Eliminating too much too fast can end up costing you if you have to replace things.
@meredithpearson88845 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this important message. Loved the talk and am thrilled to have great resources like this, your book, emails, and talks to push me along. You’re awesome and doing incredible work!
@stickerlady17745 жыл бұрын
Tip #1: get rid of belongings you don’t need before you move to reduce packing. If you never move, then declutter in the spring. Tip #2: inventory your children’s clothing and shoes at each growth spurt. Sell or Donate. Tip #3: donate old towels to local animal shelters, or use them as cleaning rags.
@arodney909day5 жыл бұрын
Great talk Rose! You've helped us so much to think better about how we treat our stuff...and more importantly how we treat stuff we receive from others. Good luck to you and all the best!
@freshbloominclothing5 жыл бұрын
As someone that lives close to a beach and has a pool, I definitely need more than 2 towels. I use 2 for a shower as I have a lot of hair. I think I could live with 3 if I did laundry more often but I don't. So I'm going to see if I could live with 9-10 for both my husband and myself. Sometimes towels won't dry for the next day's swim so we'd need 4 beach towels and 6 bath to cycle and wash properly. We regularly have guests visit as all of our family lives out of state, we have a guest room and...we live near a stunning beach. Lol. So when my sister, her husband and their 10 year old daughter come to visit and swim, they'd probably need an additional 5 bath towels and 6 beach towels. Okay, I need a lot of towels. 🤷♀️
@nikkil7645 жыл бұрын
After losing a lot of my belongings due to Hurricane Katrina, I felt remarkably light. Unfortunately, well meaning friends and family members gave me many of the things I’d lost. I appreciated their need to do something in the face of such loss.
@jo-annel.wright29755 жыл бұрын
@Monique Lehnhardt I have heard that from many people when 'nature' decluttered for them. I believe fire, air and water are great cleansers and if we don't voluntary declutter nature will do it for us.
@nikkil7645 жыл бұрын
So true. The thing most people don’t understand who know me is that despite all the pain, Katrina moved me to live where I wanted to live and how I wanted to live. I left the city for a small college town I love. I would not wish that heartache on anyone. I lost one cousin in the aftermath of the storm. But some good did come from it for me because I chose to not look back.
@melaniegodwin87915 жыл бұрын
@@nikkil764 I'm sorry for the loss of your loved one but I totally get what you are saying about the feeling of lightness when something like that happens.
@theartofmurder5 жыл бұрын
Monique Lehnhardt hi BOH
@jo-annel.wright29755 жыл бұрын
We have one and a half towels each for the tow of us now as I never got around to replacing the one the neighbour's dog decided was her chew toy. My word of the year for 2017 and 2018 was Declutter. I have been decluttering for twenty plus years...well I was probably just playing tetris with my stuff for half of that time. Karen Kingston's Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui set me in motion, Peter Walsh's Enough Already refocused me, Marie Kondo telling me to ask if it sparks joy was a game changer and Margareta Magnusson's Swedish Death Cleaning has got me closer to Minimalism. But each spring clean and declutter session is getting me closer to the Essentialism that I aspire to. I like to remember the Pareto Principle where it is said we use 20% of our stuff 80% of the time so in effect we can get rid of 50% and still have more than enough. I guesstimate that 80% of what we have is for guests, and the remaining 20% is 20% Sweeties and 80% mine. I have decided I prefer not to have anything too precious so I can use 80% of my stuff 80% of the time. My word for this year is Enough.
@FelisBoudria3 ай бұрын
I didn't know it at the time i joined your Facebook group that i was seeing your talk. I recently made the connection. Live it
@stargazer13595 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Rose...As I am cleaning out my linen closet
@flintridge35765 жыл бұрын
I asked the same question of socks. How many pairs of socks do you really need. I’m pretty sure the answer isn’t 48!!
@KarineTKnudsen5 жыл бұрын
But what about all my boxes with "when I get slimmer-clothes"?
@SonshineLady75 жыл бұрын
Toss them and when you do get slimmer purchase a few "fill in" items for the rest of your wardrobe.
@KarineTKnudsen5 жыл бұрын
No, I love my vintage clothes ;)
@localtwelve11385 жыл бұрын
Thats when i do the 6 months method. If i havent used or needed it in the next 6. I have to deep 6 it. Lol
@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr28235 жыл бұрын
@@KarineTKnudsen Vintage won't work. Most of it is very hot, very flammable and very out of style. It changes when it comes back. It will last, God knows, but it looks obviously dated. And if you were there the 1st time it was a fad, it's a no-go because it shows your exact age. :) What you could use now is REAL limited. Jmo
@KarineTKnudsen5 жыл бұрын
I don't care about trends. I have never done that. I don't wear "trendy vintage", because I think it's so unflattering (like pushing a big woolen sweater inside a blue jean - ouch! my eyes hurt!) , but one of my favorite vintage jeans is the Levis Sailor pant, which is impossible to get hold of now. I cherish it, really love it. It has a very special seam line that flatters my body. And I have a very beautiful dress in purple satin which is a classic. I would never part with that one as well. Perhaps when I'm finish detoxing I will naturally go back to my normal weight, so I'll hang on to them a little longer. Thanks for your input, though. :)
@selena-98415 жыл бұрын
It really surprised me when she was shocked that you only needed two towels per person. I own two towels and a hand towel, why would I need more????
@phyliciajoykloes5 жыл бұрын
I love this talk. For sure, minimalism is about how you feel.
@SarahLizDoan5 жыл бұрын
I like towels and sheets and clean ones BUT definitely the point is having what you need and living more simply. Well done!
@verucasalt45355 жыл бұрын
Give people your time, not things.
@blueshattrick5 жыл бұрын
Give your kids every toy they've ever wanted = Watch them lose their imaginations, never be satisfied with what they have, and become unappreciative
@SoloSailer5 жыл бұрын
JMH worked for me
@juliereynolds29925 жыл бұрын
Fantastic! It was inspiring, thoughtful, and entertaining! Thank you Rose!
@thejelena5 жыл бұрын
I'm all for minimalism and I agree with everything she said, but I disagree with the part about the towels. If you're like me and you go to the gym, swimming pool and sauna plus you also don't own a tumble dryer, good luck with having only two towels!
@LadyMiah5 жыл бұрын
I would count 2 big towels per person, plus 2-4 extra towels in total for all to use in gym, when having guests over, or when the wash machine breaks, etc. :)
@daniellemadison42255 жыл бұрын
That wasn’t her point. Minimalism is different for everyone. It’s all about having what works for YOU
@thejelena5 жыл бұрын
@@daniellemadison4225 I agree, but my comment was coming from my point of view and my lifestyle ;) I know minimalism isn't having x amount of items, every (aspiring) minimalist has his/her own definition of minimalism.
@shelton1265 жыл бұрын
Jelena Brozovic you have my permission to own 3 towels per person.
@thejelena5 жыл бұрын
@@shelton126 That's very generous of you, thank you 😂😂
@bethelshiloh5 жыл бұрын
I wrote a book even with all of my stuff. But I would love to try being a minimalist.
@carrielee2585 жыл бұрын
I thought the painting was pretty. Great talk.
@roselounsbury4305 жыл бұрын
Thanks! I'll tell my mom she has a fan. :)
@silvasilvasilva5 жыл бұрын
@@roselounsbury430 Make that two, it's a lovely painting!
@roselounsbury4305 жыл бұрын
Mônica thanks!! My mom will be glad to know. 😊👍
@chrispicakes65775 жыл бұрын
It’s one place I’m okay having extra. Even though we live in a small apartment, we have a cat and a toddler and no washing machine. Things just have to wait until laundry day. No washing stuff in the middle of the night if someone pukes everywhere. I would hate to run out of towels during that!
@bootalophosaurus23785 жыл бұрын
But then that’s something you do need in your life. You use the extra towels and your life would be worse without them and the independence from washing machines that they provide. Therefore it’s not necessarily un-minimalist to have extra towels in your case. To you, they’re not extra.
@lisa98675 жыл бұрын
I have a washer but I'm busy during the week. I work full time and help care for my elderly father. I wait until I have enough to do a full load and then I wash them. To me having a few extras is a good thing.
@citizenofnowhere77765 жыл бұрын
@@lisa9867 me too
@sarahflaute47065 жыл бұрын
That’s why the question is “how many towels do YOU need?” The answer was 2 per person for her family. It may be 3 per person for your family. It’s not really about towels. It’s about asking yourself how many things do you really need, as in, you in particular.
@annCRP5 жыл бұрын
Towels count changes if you live near water.... but she has a good point to apply to other items!
@renewpresspublishingservic55245 жыл бұрын
Oh my. I really needed to hear this today. Thank you, Rose Lounsbury.
@lorrie28785 жыл бұрын
I will never give up my boxes of Christmas stuff!
@sustillman5 жыл бұрын
Lorrie If you think they are beautiful, you’re good to go!
@lorrie28785 жыл бұрын
@@sustillman they're precious. They truly give me joy every year. "your daddy made this when he was in second grade" -"remember when we painted these?" "that's aunt Haley when she was four" these are hand blown glass... My only home decorating tradition, lol!
@EVERLASTINGT5 жыл бұрын
THIS WAS AMAZING. Life changing and mind blowing for me.
@coquetscache5 жыл бұрын
Great stuff. I don't personally have this problem as whenever I purchase more towels they mysteriously disappear. I have bought one beach towel per year, and 6 purple towels, and 4 grey and started out with 4 of my original ones from the house before this one and I now have... 3. And no I am not throwing them away or losing them at the laundry mat. But my Mom did collect towels, we had about 60 at one time. Thanks for this wonderful talk, it made me think of MOM>
@sharonmoore1672 жыл бұрын
Fun and inspiring talk. I know the clutter in our boat is messing with my head. Thanks for giving me a push to fix it!!!
@tomjones23484 жыл бұрын
Masterfully done! As an just one example of the concept she alludes to, I've accumulated 17 guitars over many years. How many do I play? I have 4 out right now, and usually play one of them every day. But honestly, I could sell 13 guitars and be OK.
@mydoglayla50455 жыл бұрын
I need to watch this every week until I’m done clearing stuff out of my space.
@emiliam7785 жыл бұрын
Amazing speech, loved it!
@MrsSueLaMont5 жыл бұрын
Rose, you get my thumbs up! ...However, wonder what you do when you have guests/company?... hopefully, you have clean towels to share :)... I am basically a minimalist, but bought white cotton towels, for the luxury of 1.) not having to do laundry every day... 2.) they are easy to wash/bleach to be available, as we use towels/wash cloths for showers, shaving (DH), hot wash cloths for face, and whatever... Our friends know we do not need 'stuff' with material gifts... and a better way to 'gift somebody' is by sharing a meal or snacks and fellowship. The 'memories' do not take up space in the house, but fills the heart long after...
@Subduality2 жыл бұрын
Even this woman's outfit is tailor made. Love the enthusiasm, great delivery!
@1Girl2485 жыл бұрын
wait, where are people saying you should buy more towels??? for most of my life i've used just one, having one as backup for beaches and such. never occurred to me that people might have more than that
@StrawberryAppleCream5 жыл бұрын
When my mum passed away we sold her house, I was living with her at that time to, and with it came a lot of stuff. We got rid of 80% of it and the rest is stored in boxes. That was 2 years ago and since that time me and my brother we never looked at those boxes. The only thing from the whole house that we regret getting rid of and that we would like to have are the LOTR extended version DVD boxes :')
@tonitouchberry8945 жыл бұрын
I recently lost a dear friend who was a truely free spirit who refused to bend to government or religious rule! A brilliant, world class artist who was my dear friend - Frank Harrod - and his motto was - one pot, one bowl, one spoon!!! I miss him so!!
@warblingsongbird55305 жыл бұрын
LOL! I just moved and realized how many bath sheets I owned! I literally donated 20 and still filled my new linen cupboard. How ironic this pops into my inbox!
@lisapitts95185 жыл бұрын
You're Amazing! Great advice. It is just 2 of us, we have way too much "Stuff"
@roselounsbury4305 жыл бұрын
Aw, thank you! Good luck with the decluttering!
@SonshineLady75 жыл бұрын
Years ago a friend said I was the only person she knew who kept all her Christmas decorations in a shoe box. And it was true!! I was a minimalist, at least in that area, before the term was used. Thinking about towels - I don't have that many but only having two would mean more regular washing of them and quicker wearing out. I may do four. ;)
@BeppyCat5 жыл бұрын
Towels is easy. Talk to me about books and magazines.
@DirtyPrancing5 жыл бұрын
I had a book problem :p now I use the library to rent, and if I decide that I would read it again, then I buy it. Same for movies. Now I only keep books/movies that are classics and/or my favorite. Went from two large bookshelves full to only one small one -- and a lot of my books look beautiful so i can decorate with them.
@mindimoom91425 жыл бұрын
BeppyCat, I'll talk to you about books. I got rid of many books by asking myself will I read it again. That pretty much got rid of most of the fiction books. I have only kept books that I use for reference, how to books and a few other non fiction books on topics of special interest. I also bought a Kindle on which I have hundreds of ebooks. All the classics (pre 1923) are free, newer books can be borrowed from e libraries or bought for much cheaper than paper copies. As for magazines, since the internet I don't buy them anymore. There is nothing in a magazine that can't be found online. And if you do really want magazines, subscribe to online versions. Hope that helps. Good luck.
@SummerSwan505 жыл бұрын
Okay, I have 4 towels in use at any given time: bath towel, hand towel, wash cloth for face, and a second wash cloth for my coochie. Then when those are in the wash, I need 4 more clean, dry towels.
@leannepruett89795 жыл бұрын
So true!! I don't think I'm going to live with just 2 towels, but I can (and will) get rid of a few extras!! And the sentiment applies to so many things in our houses - after all - we can only wear 1 shirt at a time (or maybe 2, if they're layered :-))
@ultravioletpisces36665 жыл бұрын
I had only two for a while and I had to constantly wash them. And then, you don't have a load of towels to wash so its very inefficient. If you have a bigger family, 2 per person is fine but if you have only 1 person, I think you need a few more.
@michellem62195 жыл бұрын
For the last three years my husband and I have had two bath towels each plus one beach towel each, it has never been a problem and I don't own a dryer.
@thesbryder2 жыл бұрын
I've realized that minimalism is a great way to live. Well I have 3 towels, so that's a bit more than necessary, but I'm getting there. Nice talk on minimalism & towels though!
@dalesands1291 Жыл бұрын
One thing about moving around a lot and renting rooms only I never had the space to overwhelm my self with stuff. Now that I have a one bedroom apartment to myself I can gather a bit more. I moved into my new place 8 months ago and it still looks like I just moved in.
@bikinggal15 жыл бұрын
Things that bring you joy!! After usefulness of course!!
@milfordcivic6755 Жыл бұрын
I'm 48 and I've done a good job of keeping clutter out of my life. But I often ponder the same question: How much junk do I need? How much is enough? During my 20's when I had nothing, it seemed I focused on nothing but buying stuff. Now that I have everything I need.....it leaves a hole....
@cherkkiable5 жыл бұрын
4. if you have bidet, you use 1 for intimate parts. 1 for face (this is handy for people with delicate or problematic skin), one for hands and one for the body
@jo-annel.wright29755 жыл бұрын
I use face washers after using my bidet. I got the idea to use face washers as hand towels from a 5 star hotel so when we have a party I put out washers for my guests. And I may transition to them when our hand towels need replacing.
@kimchi80225 жыл бұрын
Aw...this was really well written. Loved the ending. Good job lady! :)
@stephenbouchelle77062 жыл бұрын
I read an essay long ago by Theodore Roszak about traditional Japanese culture. The title was something like “A Few Good Things”. This was his point back in the 60’s - early minimalist.
@staceylovespaper5 жыл бұрын
very good and humorous!!! Great lesson
@janeland96992 жыл бұрын
I have one bath sheet, one face towel, one hand towel & one to wrap hair in after washing ( don’t like getting loose hairs in face & mouth) x 3 , one in use, one in laundry & one spare. Yes, it does seem a lot for one person - I was going to donate some but with the cost of living becoming out of control, I’m keeping everything including clothes I haven’t worn for ages, even ones that are too big, plus spare bed linen - EVERYTHING, and I’m storing it - who knows if there will be money to replace what I’m using now as times get harder
@lauravitaverde41605 жыл бұрын
That's why my giftgiving consists essentially of stuff that I'd like to receive to, and that is stuff u can use up: bottle of wine, a great tea blend, homemade marmelade, tickets for a show... They'll enjoy it for the time being, and when it is gone it is gone. Then I have a gift drawer with unwanted gits, and I regift them to someone I think will actually like it, to avoid accidentally regifting it to the person I got if from, I put their name on it.