Ask Better Questions to Build Better Connections | Amber L. Wright | TEDxCSULB

Asking better questions isn’t simply another way to make small talk. Instead, it’s a path to creating real connection with the people around you, in a thoughtful and genuine way. This talk by communication expert and certified life coach, Amber L. Wright, explores how to ask better questions and invest in one of life’s greatest currencies: relationships. Amber L. Wright, CSULB Alumna, is a communication expert, certified life coach, and speaker who helps people find their voice during moments that matter. An award-winning educator, she holds a master’s degree in Interpersonal Communication. Well versed in the power of storytelling, she is known for giving dynamics presentations on how to communicate effectively and live authentically.
Amber has shared her expertise on what it means to speak, live, and lead with confidence in notable media outlets such as Forbes, Mashable, Fast Company, and Black Enterprise. She is the host of the Talk to Amber Podcast and author of, “Can We Talk? 10 Life Lessons on Finding Your Voice and Finding Yourself,” a wildly popular personal development book. She is a married mom of two, proud lefty, and a card-carrying member of Beyonce’s BeyHive. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@januarsalonga2170]

"I'm not doing my best today but I'm trying my best." Powerful. Thank you Amber,

[@wordswellsaid]

Thank you for watching, Januar!

[@EngrushOfficial]

@@wordswellsaid Thank you for enlightening us through your valuable words. Love you from India.

[@roolshool]

Criminally underrated talk

[@wordswellsaid]

Wow, thank you so much, Ruhul!

[@50tenspro]

Agreed Ruhul! So glad this came across my feed. Dr. Wright gets to the crux of what constitutes meaningful communication. Thank you Mrs. Wright. 😊

[@tomherald]

I agree!

[@MrValod818]

So much compassion in her voice.

[@silondilejali5473]

I did yesterday, I wasn't having the greatest day and when asked how I am - my response was "I'm not having the best day but I'm doing my best". And let me tell you how goooood that felt, to be honest and vulnerable yet still able to maintain my privacy. Thank you Amber

[@MissHuergo]

Thank you Amber, what an amazing speech. I had the same situation a week ago with my very close friends or (Big Sister) Pamela. I always smile even when I cry but this time I was sinking from the inside. We gather up at her house and we’re talking about life. For the past weeks and months I wasn’t fine and she took the momentum to not ask me but to tell me; I know you are not okay. WOW! that was powerful I literally couldn’t hold my tears., It was a very emotional time. My best friend committed suicide two months ago and after that day I been so aware of these feelings, so harsh. If you are reading this and consider yourself a good friend pay attention and good luck 🍀

[@spyram31]

Wow, “Communicating with intention”, I love it.

[@wordswellsaid]

Thank you, Stan!

[@kristinedreimane1454]

Absolutely love this speach! Thank you ❤

[@frany7493]

Brilliant, sweet, caring, powerfully humble and effective. Thank you 💕💕💕

[@yassirislam5223]

An excellent talk..warm, engaging ,and full of insight..thank you!

[@91choudhariazam]

Love you Professor. You are the best one.

[@AmeliaFeng-rd4nc]

Thank you so much for this talk!!! Just what I was looking for. Very well presented.

[@aqmeriamen-wint6313]

This is really amazing! Thank you Amber!

[@inyango9055]

Just love her energy and her voice

[@ajordan1847]

Amber you are such an inspiring communicator!!! Grateful to be able to witness your, "genius zone" in action. I plan to implement what you shared with others, the intentionality in questioning and showing empathy, resonated. Awesomeness all around.😊 (by the way this is Alethea J from class).

[@reginabass4515]

Thank you for helping me through your speech recognize it is okay not to be okay.

[@raeg5257]

This was incredible!! I have been feeling like my relationships have been superficial the last while. And it made me feel like for some reason I was at fault. But I’m going to try to ask more insightful questions. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experiences!!

[@roopakurup3931]

Such a powerful and amazing talk. Loved it. Thank you Dr Wright for such an inspiring talk .

[@user-rf5cm2if2t]

Meaningful speech, thank you Amber ❤

[@dorothyedwards7225]

Thank you, that was uplifting and connecting.

[@06.phamvomybinh44]

love your talk. really inspired. thanks a lot amber

[@pranayraycha9974]

I had been wondering for a long time how to connect things in order to remember them and how to remember to connect things. And suddenly I see this video in my recommendation and yeah I found one answer. Thank you.

[@VernettaRFreeney]

Great talk Amber. Definitely need to do better asking better questions myself.

[@jordantoronto863]

I love this talk so much!!!!

[@darchabennett7917]

That was awesome and much needed, thanks for the transparency 😊

[@ajinkyadeshmukh6324]

Thank you so so much for this info! It changed my perspective and made me think deeply about relationship building!

[@user-xd7gd6rg8j]

Love every single words of this

[@flossa1960]

this talk is amazing, it’s really changed my outlook! thank you amber

[@caneysherfield]

Very insightful thank you for sharing!

[@priscaisimoya]

I really enjoyed this speech!

[@CEOLife]

Thank you so much! These are great, community is everything!

[@Abahale11]

Its amazing how deep we are in this "education narrative", besides accepting the fact that we all are learning and all we can do is try to communicate this learning to others. There's no such thing as "teaching".

[@trameldavis7763]

Well said Ms. Amber.

[@eclips3354]

Amazing talk!!!

[@wildfireol]

Brilliant talk 💜

[@mrterrygivens]

What a wonderful explanation of this skill. Thank you Amber.

[@wordswellsaid]

Thank you, Terry!

[@JOwens]

Love this, Amber Authentic Communication bonds, builds and helps us grow positive relationships . Thanks - it’s the best mentoring.

[@wordswellsaid]

Thank you for watching!

[@kaimurphy7953]

GREAT TED TALK!!!

[@yordanostemesgen1417]

This is such an interesting topic to talk about !!

[@tebogoikaneng727]

Love the talk, and I learnt a lot...

[@Ms76Cocoa]

This was so good Amber! Thank you!

[@wordswellsaid]

Thank you for watching!

[@michelleb4035]

Wonderful advice.

[@ambermack7243]

I loved this

[@tomato3347]

Amazing talk, learned Hundred things

[@kwamechristianesq.4558]

Incredible talk!

[@user-cj7xw4bk6j]

I love her.

[@justinaez4029]

Đã là fan thì mãi mãi là fan😉💗

[@jameskovach1210]

Much appreciation Amber, for sharing, and for enduring and/or moving through whatever obstacles “could have” stopped your work from getting to the rest of us. Is the phenomenon of -the entire universe being made up of nothing but answers (the only action necessary is to ask Questions [quality questions] to receive them) a common observation? Is this observation incorrect? If individual people are an aggregate that make up a more complex being, then you are a healthy cell and I’m grateful. Being Human is weird huh? Hope you enjoy these questions and many thanks. Is a “rhetorical question” just a phrase for a statement? Why are there so many important definitions for the word “just,” such a commonly used word? Sorry for yammering, I JUST have so many questions. 😂 Your speech has brought about an action in me, to make an effort to be aware of questions asked-and to react in a pleasant way to the curious and information seekers encountered throughout the day. To be aware when I am making statements rather than connections and so much more.

[@maureenclement2553]

Wonderful!

[@tashajackson6751]

I saw this talk live several months ago (pre-covid). It has stayed with me. Truly inflicted the way I talk to my youngest. Thank you for this gift. Your talk has had impact! 🙏

[@deborahcox4242]

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[@carololiveira6889]

Just beautiful !!

[@strainwashed]

Thank you amber

[@carmensumlin4294]

AWESOME!

[@NaturalieOne]

Ambert is amazing.

[@wordswellsaid]

Thank you, Lenita!

[@prenapoetry]

Thank you

[@tushararan9222]

Beautiful!

[@tamannaarora8892]

You are phenomenal

[@Sky_11029]

One of the best ted talks I've seen I wonder why so little visibility

[@wordswellsaid]

I appreciate that, Diane. Thank you!

[@rosedevereux2391]

4:18-7:30 💝💖💞 "You young AND you old at the same _toime_ " Sooo Cali!!

[@danaa.leblanc2543]

Excellent. Clear and concise. Thank you.

[@mosytube]

Solid. Very.

[@ContentCanvasYT]

This is profound.

[@Hervebutoyi]

Way too few views! thanks for the talk Amber. All the way from Denmark.

[@wordswellsaid]

Thank you for watching, all the way in Denmark!

[@joshaquino8189]

thoughtfully curious

[@BobF510]

This is an amazing reservoir of knowledge. A book I read with similar wisdom was a paradigm shift for me. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

[@TheStreetsurfer06]

Amazing

[@wordswellsaid]

Thank you, Gian!

[@TellSamyra]

Helpful

[@wordswellsaid]

Thank you, Samyra! I'm glad you found it helpful.

[@jasonhewitt2150]

You are good

[@bizhustle3741]

Perception shattered, Connection made... Nice!

[@antjr54]

Interesting

[@HilalIbnKhalifat]

"Relationships are life's greatest currency" can a metaphor be more American than that 😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@catchyme135]

7:40

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10:05

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3:30

[@christinadone774]

Today is all I have

[@user-mx5vr5ce7m]

Kendrick Lamar is even talked about in Ted talks 🔥🔥🔥🔥 drake stood no chance

[@robrobusa]

I wonder - how does one stop oneself from oversharing, then? :D

[@naphtalieh.gbolahan2568]

😊

[@MekonenMeteor123]

I lose sleep by that opener of this talk I have the worst icebreaking questions

[@Arachne-qw1vr]

Nah. I used to be like that. It's only good in micro doses.

[@pazzodi3]

This is corporate nonsense. True meaningful questions are the most difficult ones to ask.. how about asking, what's the most difficult thing about being you, what's the hardest thing about being a child/sibling/young, what's the easiest thing about being you? Etc.... Superficial questions will lead to superficial relationships.

[@parisrealick]

"Go deep, not wild" @tykwondoe