The Upside of Anger | Ryan Martin | TEDxFondduLac

Dr. Ryan Martin is the chair of the Psychology Department at the University of Wisconsin-Green Bay and a nationally known anger researcher. His work focuses on healthy and unhealthy expressions of anger, including how we express anger online. He teaches courses on mental illness, emotion, and anger and violence. He also hosts the popular UW-Green Bay Psychology podcast, Psychology and Stuff, and manages the anger and violence blog, All the Rage. Ryan’s work has been featured in the Washington Post, New York Times, NPR, BBC Radio, and Invisibilia. Ryan received his Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from the University of Southern Mississippi and his B.A. in Psychology from the University of St. Thomas. Dr. Ryan Martin is the chair of the Psychology Department at the University of Wisconsin-Green Bay and a nationally known anger researcher. His work focuses on healthy and unhealthy expressions of anger, including how we express anger online. He teaches courses on mental illness, emotion, and anger and violence. He also hosts the popular UW-Green Bay Psychology podcast, Psychology and Stuff, and manages the anger and violence blog, All the Rage. Ryan’s work has been featured in the Washington Post, New York Times, NPR, BBC Radio, and Invisibilia. Ryan received his Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from the University of Southern Mississippi and his B.A. in Psychology from the University of St. Thomas. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@melodyconte]

Most of the people in my life who have accused me of "being too angry," were the ones trying to break me down, the ones violating my boundaries, insulting me, or trying to manipulate me.

[@jasminecomer9436]

I think that it's righteous anger. They provide you and that's an acceptable feeling. When you feel it there's a reason.

[@allenflyers389]

It's been ten months now since watvhing this.. What has changed for you?

[@56username]

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[@thegeneral1297]

I had to deal with this ad soon as l calmed down. People started taking advantage

[@vickyabramowitz4919]

When I used to get mad, I found trimming hedges would help me calm down. I just pretended I was lopping off the head of the person who triggered me.

[@theophilusakhimie]

lol

[@robertkennedy1666]

Thats cute...i got angry and ran someone over with my Suburban

[@56username]

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[@kidsundays]

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[@James-fb1rv]

What I find helps me is writing in a journal and exercising.

[@amyjkr]

One of the best. People think emotions are to be shoved down and controlled. But you can’t get control of your reaction to the emotion until you actually let yourself feel it.

[@Mad_S]

I don't want to avoid being angry, being angry gives instant gratification. What I want is to avoid the moments that my mind takes my power of critical thinking away because now all I want to do is yell obscenities at this guy over here. I want my anger to be controllable and useable. I don't want to have the immense regrets because I allowed myself to be rude. I don't want to be a rude person.

[@jimbo8651]

Being angry takes too much energy it's best to never EVER get angry anger is weakness

[@hellfire92837]

"Don't wanna waste my hate on you, I think I'll keep it for myself" -Metallica

[@unlimitedbread3723]

Jim Bo bruh what are you talking about? Anger gives you a surge of static energy that gives you extra strength. Getting angry in a fight is a big advantage, but getting angry at a video game is a disadvantage because you can’t play better even if you can break your mouse in your hand.

[@Mad_S]

@@unlimitedbread3723 when I enjoy playing a video game I charge headlong into the fire, when I get angry I crawl for 15 minutes across the map just to spite kill someone.

[@unlimitedbread3723]

Matt S idk what tf any of that means but good poem 👍🏾

[@properpsychology1276]

“Let the light of your madness shine, and it will suddenly dawn on you. Madness is not to be despised and not to be feared, but instead you should give it life.” - Carl Jung

[@kestekianSOAD]

“Goooooood let the hate flow through you” - Darth Sidious

[@thedeekabides]

"Do it."

[@swiftstreak98]

"POWWWERRRRRRR, UNLIMITED POWERRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!"

[@leftie75]

Anger doesn't = hate Anger has enhanced my creative talent in many situations.

[@56username]

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[@sv1079]

Finally someone said this. I am sick of people telling me that anger is not okay. This is really one of the best explanation on anger. Thank you.

[@56username]

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[@unleashingpotential-psycho9433]

I completely agree that it is okay to feel angry when we are treated poorly. We sometimes need to use our emotions such as anger as a tool to help get us what we want, which can include being treated fairly.

[@AeneasGemini]

@Mark Donald you're never angry at the wrong things, anger is never "wrong" neither is any emotion. Anger can be misdirected, but only if you fail to act at the initial thing which made you angry in the first place. Stop seeing anger as a negative and you can avoid that

[@TheAutisticGeek206]

I know right? That is such a reality.

[@P1I2E3R4R5E6B]

I like anger. One of the few things that makes me actually ACT

[@joramnikam4063]

Ya me too. But soon after that my heart burns

[@56username]

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[@2004dale]

This speech about anger was my favorite and most relatable, like he actually understands. It makes me angry lol that all the people in my life don’t understand anger like this and that I’ve always had to feel bad or like something was wrong with me and I was the problem for feeling as I feel while I watch really intentionally shady people get away with “murder”. Ugh

[@dani238159]

I feel sometimes people get mad because they take certain things the wrong way and because it goes deeper than the issue at hand.

[@Alex_Hernandez999]

This is true

[@dani238159]

+Amanda Hernandez right? Just what I've experienced.

[@56username]

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[@ek-xb5np]

anger can be used in a good way but as long as you're using it to do things that help you get to a happy place or help you in life but using anger to make you more angry and putting it out on other people that don't deserve it that's when you're doing it in a wrong way

[@SseriousGgamer3]

I love my anger. I don’t control it at all. My whole life isn’t anger every minute of the day, I have several moods. But when it lands on anger, that emotional charge is better to be released than repressed

[@56username]

I used to be a very very angry person , before they gave men Letters. This is who changed me. Jesus Loves All of Us Believe On Jesus He will send a comforter , Peace that passes all understanding Just Believe And you eyes Will be Opened

[@JunJun-hd9mk]

"Your anger is a gift." -Rage Against The Machine

[@Skiamakhos]

"Anger is an energy." - Public Image Ltd

[@56username]

Anger is a Gift from Satan. Bible Say no to be friend an angry man. Jesus Loves You Believe on Jesus He is able to change you. Seek and you shall find

[@kidsundays]

@@56username Hail Satan. May he heal you from your stupidity.

[@kev977]

Anger is the reason I'm at everyone's neck in university these days, it's my motivator to push myself, and others, to get myself that passing grade that I've been pissed about.

[@chicagolandable]

Anger can never have an upside if you are unskillful with your anger. If you let it out for the wrong reasons at the wrong time and at the wrong people it fails to have any advantage whatsoever. This in and of itself causes anger. Life is just a pile of pain and unresolved difficulties

[@2004dale]

9:36 thank you! I’m always corrected for my anger. Funny when it’s provoked by someone treating me unjustly. Well you’re just supposed to take it and turn the other cheek. Did that for years and all it did was breed resentment. Ugh 🙄🤦🏽‍♀️

[@nimampour6900]

Best talk about anger. Thank you.

[@marilynbarker8255]

Thank you...I needed this!!

[@jameswebber-salmon7105]

Amazing talk. It helps me to understand and learn from my angry behaviour so I can better use my anger to live a happier life. Thank you

[@randyfellows]

I see Hoyt from True Blood is doing well for himself. That's good, he deserves it.

[@marylayhew9612]

😂😂😂

[@mrdevtg]

Sublimating all our crude emotions can be of immense help to ourselves.👍👍great presentation.

[@zanelenkomo]

I enjoyed that talk.. in the heat of the moment.. it's tough to channel the anger, but the Idea of allowing yourself or be angry and using it to action.. awesome!

[@kckail5135]

Hunger is a real problem.. I get hungry all the time.. Gotta eat something brb

[@Yimpa_Joy]

Beautiful talk. Thank you

[@onewomanslife]

Ephesians 4:26 26" Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath":

[@56username]

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[@onewomanslife]

BRAVO! GREAT TALK.

[@haidyyousif2125]

Love it and will apply this

[@shonaranae4588]

As a Savage I come from a long line of leaders and fighters who designed weapons'. I do find myself realizing I am angary and anger motivating me to do things like Rayan suggest. Yesterday I was justifiably mad a my Dr. and staff. My blood pressure was abnormally super high. I am motivated, clearly something needs to be done.

[@johansejio9968]

Such a wonderful message :) I learned a lot from this.

[@colbyboucher4576]

This man is actually a Sith Lord

[@mayleesview3792]

This is so true

[@Blueman99]

Give in to your anger

[@Mad_S]

You cant make me. Grrr.

[@Blueman99]

Matt Shears embrace the dark side

[@Missinginandout]

This was very educational and it was fantastic to learn some things regarding how to channel our anger which is a natural tool for us to use in life

[@Alex_Hernandez999]

My enemies only strengthen me, the provide me with the power to gain what I desire, my anger is a gift, they will never win.

[@karenbochinski]

This was a good one thanks

[@atomnous]

there are two types of down: sad down and angry down. the latter is actually more up, since it creates will force and puts you into action

[@killernerd2739]

The only time I get VERY angry is when I get blamed for stuff I don't do

[@lindairisrosen8509]

This dude is pretty good to listen to

[@lordgains3317]

Anger makes you powerful. Just ask Hulk or Anakin

[@matthewutter2060]

Yes I agree with Ryan it is my friend

[@aaronmichaels807]

I hated this guy until he started speaking in a biological manner, a scientific manner, I just feel the reason is more powerful than emotions. It so important to keep emotions in check with reason. I also think it's healthy to be angry, and to express it, to address it and manifest it.

[@robertkennedy1666]

Never judge someones anger or if its something to be angry about....you have no clue where thier life started or the path to whats going on. It would be silly for one to assume someone shouldnt be getting angry at something that they want to get angry and we all have a different type of life and different circumstances

[@spiritualhummingbird9331]

Great speech

[@tee26_05]

I could write many things but I would just say, thank you for this TED talk. ❤

[@teddybaby1106]

Amazing

[@debbie6533]

I appreciated my father's teachings....try under most circumstances to be calm..cool..and collective ..it's really helped me a lot.

[@reneeleerykers6762]

The trick is to try and avoid those people that take your peace away there the tricksters and they do it's actually buying emasculating you all being in a joke formal stirring and it's it's really not good cause if you lose your peace a lose everything

[@yashaswikulshreshtha1588]

Yeah, i tried the same but other continued to irritate me and then i got extremely raged up. Just wasn't able to control, i wish if i could be hulk so that i can mash him up with my hands.

[@kobinsadvance]

One of my fav videos of Ted Talks.

[@WAGEEHII]

That saliva sound you make when talking makes me angry

[@trudeausmagiclamp1472]

Wow, glad I am not the only one who hates that sound.

[@ItzDeshawn]

😭😭😭

[@ProHunter_invencivel1]

That was the only reason i was going to comment but you got it.

[@marylayhew9612]

Yaasss!!👏👏👏👏

[@0021able]

3ajeeb getting angry on such small things is a hard life to live...its very sad.

[@bjarkekirkbro1428]

This guy is good!

[@mehmetteke8814]

I liked it! I need share this video for my friends

[@rmmccarthy1240]

Mr. Martin's flash- drive joke is perfect.

[@gr6690]

I'm in a pre-anger state until I get a new job.

[@56username]

Trust the Lord Jesus Christ. He wants you to trust him. Have Faith

[@devaughnmattox1216]

Thanks.

[@swiftstreak98]

"I could be mean... I could be angry... You know I could be JUST LIKE YOU!!!!"

[@yashaswikulshreshtha1588]

When i play games, i have to face some really skilled player, and at that time after trying hard i fail. it just makes me extremely mad, angry, frustrated, and irritated that i can't explain, it continues to rage me up when i know that the player isn't physically here. it feels like anger is raising up but you can't explode it on someone that's not here physically. If those player come at my place, i will give them the extreme emotional and physicall pain that they will never forget in even afterlife

[@NoMamasWayTV]

Reading his book rn not bad and a interesting perspective from him

[@dionisiovega6270]

I have a few people I will be sharing this with

[@chris200999]

I used my anger to change my life. It works

[@Reemaa905]

It is not okay to be angry when we are treated poorly, but it is right to be angry when we are treated poorly👍👍

[@Dana-gd2fs]

When you suppressed your emotions for 25, well realistically 14 years and now emotions don't really exist anymore. Not as strong at least. And you can switch it off at any point. Cool and concerning at the same time.

[@cindywoodward1147]

I did the same thing. Now I'm dealing with chronic diabilitating illness. IMO, it may come back to haunt you. This speaker has great points about the benefits of anger and how to deal with it, other than suppressing it.

[@kleeblatt9257]

You can never suppress emotions. They'll manifest in you, if it's an ulcer or anything else. You subconsciously will carry those emotions with you until you feel them.

[@yashaswikulshreshtha1588]

i can't control myself in anger after being frustrated or irritated, just can't explain how angry it makes me. I love my family but sometimes i get so angry and mad at them that i can't explain, more than slamming doors throwing newspaper and books. If someone taunts more than enough then it just evokes extreme frustration, irritation and anger. It is extreme when playing games, bcuz when i loose in the game it makes me to just kill that guy, once i find him. All my favorite are rage games. Please help me to control it.

[@AltonRowell-gb1lb]

Interesting.

[@michelealves327]

Muito bom! 👏🏼👏🏼🙌🏼🇧🇷🇧🇷

[@willemwalters1336]

RATM-anger is a gift

[@smartrecovery5858]

Anger is what drives.........

[@Mad_S]

...Mercedes-Benz

[@Mad_S]

@Simon Finaly yours is even better. Lets go with yours

[@doommaker4000]

@Simon Finaly """discussions"""

[@jennyjones4875]

Writing a letter to the editor will 3nd racism lol

[@Rolandaskab]

People are quirky and not reliable. This idea reduces expectations. And anger.

[@hickerbilly345]

People talking with cotton mouth angers me LOL

[@computerbiscuit]

If there was an angry guy in one elevator and a sad guy in another......which one would you talk to? It's a trick question. It's both are in the same place....lost. Love unconditionally, anger should not be shameful. Not violence though. Who would get in an elevator with Freddy Kruger?

[@OPTIMUMELITE]

Upside of Anger. Everyone moves out of your way. That's what I don't like, anger is quite destructive depending on the person. Puts fear in others perhaps.

[@youareanidiotbut4441]

Those who are pleased or got to learn even one unique thing from the video hit like 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

[@clairtrek1218]

Constantly angry constantly angry cause they are hiding and I can’t confront, can’t make or channel it into something possitive

[@spidercobra6421]

I wish we had the purge

[@o.o2561]

We get mad because our insular cortex has been conditioned to be over-stimulated from an age of infinite content-driven cultural values. If we shift our values, we can shift our temper, to tame our inner shitstorm of anger.

[@Kamalsingh-oe1re]

the best I feel is you have NO ads in b/w👍

[@evandorenkamp4892]

Dude doesn’t talk about anger over serious issues, rather minor annoyances

[@CoronaMage]

This audio is so goddamn quiet that when I turned up the volume to the point where I could hear it the sound of the Windows chime was powerful enough to make my subwoofer knock things off my desk.

[@TheWatcher328]

Where does "brother got abused" belong to in the Why Do We Get Mad? slide?

[@sheepgray08]

I feel like I want to be this man when I grow up Hahahaha

[@ashwinviswanathan9450]

Man, the question I came here to get answered was HOW?

[@undeadwerewolves9463]

Nice but I just wish I was able to stop myself from taking my anger out on my boyfriend 😔 just went to see a therapist today about it

[@allenflyers389]

It's been two years now. How are you doing?

[@undeadwerewolves9463]

@@allenflyers389 ah he wasn’t much help I didn’t get to spend enough time with him to sort things out (he’s was actually a councillor in my college who anyone can go to go to for free, I wish I’d signed up with something better and more professional... I went for two or three weeks and missed 1 appointment due to a college trip I had the same day and I was booted off and my spot was replaced! 😕 I tried letting him know I had a trip but the message apparently didn’t get to him) Me and my boyfriend aren’t together anymore but that’s was for more reasons than my anger I found out later... (Another girl) Still have anger issues, always have since being a kid lol but for the past few two years I’ve been much calmer and but still get snappy when frustrated. Thanks for checkin in and asking lol I totally forgot I made this comment two years ago haha How’s you?

[@NathanielJacobson]

Hi Ryan

[@loveimmelalas6328]

❤️😊

[@YASIRAFRIDIPakistan]

❤️❤️✅✅

[@ayannne]

dudes red background had me angry half the time

[@TheAutisticGeek206]

I get angry because I only hear that tons of people around the world is saying: *autistic people only needs to understand each other so much more than neurotypicals!* Even if I know it ticks me off, I am so trying not to get involved in those kind of situations anymore. And to be very serious, the autism culture can put tons of limits on us such as gonna out and experience other cultures.

[@missjayne7401]

Cognitive distortions... emotions. Take the time to think or get it out of your system, whether that be shouting into thin air, exercising or ranting to a friend and base responses on fact and logic.

[@berrynick135]

Who here thought about Pixar's "Inside Out" haha :)

[@annebomba]

I did

[@johnmausteller]

What about the 80 / 20 rule ?

[@stanhootzz1904]

WHERES the TAXES fer "CADET F$CKING BONE SPURS" at???

[@jessp8954]

Insert Nick Young Meme ;)

[@rodolfoloayza2601]

I don't understand !!!... The subtitles ???

[@Version-ru1mj]

An animal caught in a trap, will gnaw off it's own leg to escape. What will you do? I must not fear... I must not fear... Fear is the mind-killer. Fear, is the little death that brings obliteration. And I'll face my fear and I'll permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past... I will turn the inner eye and see its path. And where the fear has gone, there will be nothing. Only I will remain. Like sifting sand through a screen, we sift people. If you had been unable to control your impulses, like an animal. We couldn't let you live.

[@erichiguera]

"You can't just swing a club when you get angry like your ancestors did." Oh yeah? Wanna do something about it tough guy? Fight me then!

[@yashaswikulshreshtha1588]

You never know if your opponent is more cruel than you, what would you do if his anger get satisfied after he tear apart every single organ, skin, eyes, bake your legs in oven and heat, inserting a lava rod in your eyes, when you're all conscious, when you can feel that pain. YEAH, that's gonna be me. nothing satisfies me unless i watch every single cannablism video clip on youtube. I can't explain how extremely it rages me up. i think i can describe it like: 'world's very very most highest extremest hottest raged up anger' it happens with me when i play games. it's really hard to control. So stopped playing that game.

[@yashaswikulshreshtha1588]

Imagine if your oppenent is less angrier than you but lot more cruel than you, he won't care even if he breaks your bones, it will satisfy him and for that satisfaction he will damage you more. Have you faced something like being bullied by whole class? it happened for year with me, but now if they will beat me or bully me now. then i won't show them anger but the extreme cruelty that i have gathered since they bullied me . Wanna mess around with me? i am not tough guy but very cruel you can say i will kill you like a ghoul.

[@Liliana_Mend0za]

Ive been holding anger and a close friend is afraid ill sooner or later will just explode, i just dont know how to express myself. Who ever is reading this and could give me some advice i would really apreciate it:]

[@carlaschultheis3662]

Go into a room by yourself and just yell. You will feel better. Once you let the anger out you will feel calm.

[@NidgeDFX]

11:25 the only reason most people don't lash is because their ks consequences such as police and jail. When I was under 18 I gave zero F's. Just saying...

[@teresaashby4037]

Me: laughs in emotionalist

[@TrickiHunter]

Then I am a whole case study for you

[@hectorrivero2173]

As an anger specialist…… do you Watch dragonball?