Shame Clues: From Embarrassment To Breakthrough | Sheila Rubin | TEDxSanRafaelWomen

[@homelessbre5170]

I felt like she really tried to protect and guide us as the audience. I appreciate how careful she was

[@CincoYT01]

1. How do you handle a compliment? 2. How do you handle if you make a mistake? 3. What if somebody puts you down? Or say something mean or criticize you? Cognitive reactions to shame: I am wrong, there most be something wrong with me, i blew it up! I cant never do anything right *all illusions of shame and guilt and judgment* Freeze trauma response Body sensations: Closed throat, chest inside, red face Actions for shame: putting others down, criticizing, blaming, yells. Shame helps us survive as species What is shame trying to tell you? Lack of boundaries? Shame can be a friend not an enemy Love and support, hugs are kind ways to heal shame be very very kind

[@bluemagic9531]

can you explain how shame can be a friend. it seems more destructive than helpful. i can see guilt helping as in found guilty or plead guilty to pay consequences to be ashamed of something is an inner soul tic that eats a way at someone.

[@ViorelaSoulCafe]

Thank you for this❤

[@s.l.g.]

Thank you so much. The example with the yelling father helps me understand my parents' reactions when I was a child, and mine today, being on the defensive when people make a request I can't honour.

[@JanKatrinaGuanzon]

Yes. Thank you so much. Self compassion and self acceptance is the key ❤️

[@devidaughter7782]

this talk was SO helpful for me! I have been getting in touch with the immense shame triggered in me around prayer, spirituality, meditation, etc. for so many years, when I have entered into these activities, feelings of panic, of dis-connect, and then beliefs that 'there is something wrong with me', have overwhelmed me, causing my 'brain to freeze up' as Dr. Rubin has so clearly explained. I can't pray from a place of shut-down, or try to do some visualization meditation, or participate in ceremony, etc., so I get myself going in the exact opposite direction intended. feeling shame about feeling shame, I have stayed silent about what has been going on for me internally, and am only now beginning to voice my experiences, and 'air the shame' in order to begin to heal it. thank you so much Dr. Rubin for sharing your important work on shame, with the world!

[@Crookqt]

Shame and pride balancing act. 14:00 Great video

[@centurionstrengthandfitnes3694]

Deserves way more views. Resonated a lot. Much love to the speaker for this.

[@JeffBazell]

I knew (and loved) Sheila in high school, and I'm not ashamed to say that. Hi dear friend! Great talk. xo

[@genegould6357]

Thank you! Your talking about shame and how to deal with it. Is so helpful!!

[@sebastienmorand2479]

'Ask what your shame is trying to tell you.' 'Your shame could be a friend.'

[@PlayfullyDee]

I love this so much Sheila!

[@centerforhealingshame5909]

Thanks Dorothy!

[@meridethshamszad3061]

thank you for the excellent talk about such ways to identify and work with shame!

[@Tacoman1967]

I never take a compliment well. I always push it away. I think mostly because my parents would never give me praise. It was as if they were jealous. They both never finished school. I understood their position as I got older.

[@dakinikiss9413]

Great job, Sheila love! 💛🌟💛

[@patiencejewel]

Beautiful! I learned a lot. Thank you Sheila!

[@centerforhealingshame5909]

Thanks so much

[@pablogarcesdiaz1151]

I loved this. Thank you

[@fergusmaher7490]

Excellent talk

[@susanfieldsmith8093]

Loved this talk Sheila.

[@centerforhealingshame5909]

That's so wonderful

[@frankdelahue9761]

I experienced embarrassment so many times that I can't even remember.

[@beautifulwoman1049]

Hey can you share with me? I am looking for someone to share with as an outlet

[@frankdelahue9761]

@@beautifulwoman1049 I took a leak and my female neighbor saw my junk exposed.

[@frankdelahue9761]

@@beautifulwoman1049 I almost died of embarrassment.

[@beautifulwoman1049]

@@frankdelahue9761 the best thing to do is find a way to laugh at it

[@frankdelahue9761]

@@beautifulwoman1049 I wasn't amused at all.

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