The #1 Secret Avoidant Partners Don't Want You To Know

[@francespotter7697]

Not sure what's to be done when the attraction is sizzling but they're saying "I don't need a relationship and I don't want a partner". Self preservation dictates that you have to leave even though it's the last thing you want to do. That's been a very hard lesson for me this year.

[@tumbleweedconnection7906]

Yes the dismissive avoidant needs empathy and understanding but they can't give the same.

[@andrearowe4815]

😢Really?

[@FancyNoises]

They must receive it consistently, maybe for a long time, before they can learn to give it. This is also true of babies & little children. This is not at all an insult I'm making, but rather the truthful statement of why it's so difficult for avoidants.

[@geemail369]

Not having this modelled in one's early years or having your trust destroyed by traumatic events basically *_nukes_* any foundation for a healthy give and take. Ever tried to reconstruct the entire basement under a buzzing, heavily used facility (that is you) while it is running?! THAT'S quite a task!

[@aliceiacuzzoMUA]

I have been discarded by an avoidant after 1year relationship the day after my mother died. I would NEVER give an avoidant an ounce of empathy EVER AGAIN.

[@luketimewalker]

my condolences 🙏

[@christalhardy8771]

Your videos are very helpful in understanding this behavior. 👏

[@sushisam3010]

I have to comment on this: your videos are great and so are your earrings! ❤

[@anteg9084]

Will they always need empathy for an issue that they can't/won't acknowledge? This is very draining. It's not going to work in the long run.

[@nilo44]

Clear and insightful as always, thanks!

[@cm9770]

Thank you

[@ShimmerSoulSong]

Having these understandings, how do we respond to their wall, their shut down of blocking communication? It feels helpless. I would ask how my DA friend is feeling and they would talk about current events or give random facts or deflect with imaginative dark humor or inquiry. I had to accept they didn't want to share their inner process and processed emotions by co writing fantasy character stories. I felt the block to intimacy and deeper trust and love. But I don't think they saw any of it bring a block.

[@mercoboulotdodo]

Is it even possible to show them or to prove them that the current partner won’t reject them? Like by telling them…

[@ashton1952]

So true

[@SummerHawaii582]

Your video is very helpful. But you talk to fast slow down .