The 5 BIGGEST Sex MISTAKES Secretly Killing Your SEX Life! | The Orgasm Expert

[@TheDiaryOfACEOClips]

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[@flpsnk4848]

I mean I am in a situation, where me and my still breastfeeding wife, we hadn't have sex for probably even a year and just recently we scheduled a ''shower'' for the day's evening - we were really looking forward to it (when tha baby fell asleep) and it was amazing... So people can say we can't have a quality relationship but we don't feel that way, it really depends on the circumstances and our own view of things. We also keep very tight, transparent and honest communication that is what I think the most crucial thing in a relationship.

[@BrianAnu]

Respectfully once a year is not a healthy relationship.

[@orsolyabende8101]

Correct! 3 times a month isnt either unless probably you are over 70 or 80 years old and/or have certain conditions, diseases or are physically handicapped in any ways. 😮 And she refers to that as normal or average in the UK. Whatever they say about approx. 3-4 times a week thats where i am at. 😅

[@rhiannonh.7463]

@@orsolyabende8101 Happy, healthy, long term relationships she said are having quality sex 3x’s month VS unhappy couples who just have it frequently, not emotionally connecting, just doing it to do it, not having pleasure, etc… And the fact it’s an urban myth that all around the world people are falsely buying into about 3x’s a week.

[@emem2863]

The frequency of sex depends on the people in the relationship and what is happening in their lives. It's as if she’s saying basic things but in an off-putting and longwinded manner. It's almost as if she has detached the fun and intimacy of long-term relationship sex.

[@thijsjong]

If the quality is low it is only a matter of time to want less quantity. And I am a man. I think this is a false ditochemy. If the quality is high I want it more often. This women want quality, men want quantity is just a covert way of saying men provide low quality sex. A.k.a. men are bad at sex. I like this guest. 10:05 Yes people saying what they want or dont want. Please do stop with the mindreading requirement.

[@kianakeivani6143]

I truely feel the connection with your guest and the way she elaborates things so informative and at the same time relaxing for me.

[@PaulaWhetzel]

Foreplay doesn't start in the bedroom

[@rhiannonh.7463]

She notes this in the full podcast video.

[@Giannas1096]

This woman is absolutely right and I agree about the pet thing.

[@jeffwilliams7054]

I don't know why, but this commentary and guest makes me want to get my 1980s calculator out and do my taxes. Oh, and where did I leave my cross-word puzzles from last week?

[@ashleyparker4580]

I don’t want to brag but I get it at least 1 time every 3 to 6 weeks 😏😂

[@donlorabauer3289]

I think each couple needs to do what is necessary to keep their relationship together and show love to each other. Stop comparing to everyone else and statistics. Everyone is different and some people need sex more often and others don’t. We just need to remember to be vigilant to your partners needs and show that love.

[@vitali-opal-and-gem]

I bet statistics on relationships where couples are really in love compared to relationships that are not happy, will find a huge difference with the amount of sex they are satisfied with. Especially the number wiil be much lower than men in unhappy relationships

[@rhiannonh.7463]

She touches upon this in the original video that this clip came from.

[@daffidkane8350]

Quantity and quality!

[@lukeserrano62]

Once a year amazing sex is nonsensical. If it were amazing surely you’d try it again sooner. And yes, scheduling sex can actually be a pretty sexy thing to do; it’s all about mindset; positive anticipation.

[@indiagxoxo493]

I'm truly ok 4 or 3 times a month and only during ovulation😂😂

[@arianest-aubin7090]

Sameeee

[@Mally31]

💯 on your honesty Steven

[@damienhunt4264]

completely agree.

[@gimlarquinn3622]

Frequency shouldn't be a factor in satisfaction. But you do need compatibility between partners. I need some kind of intimacy daily, and full contact atleast 3 times a week otherwise I lose my mojo. I get depressed. I don't need to orgasm every time and as I will enter menopause in the next few years that is a factor that will need to be considered. Luckily my partner is sensual too and giving them pleasure is as satisfying as my own pleasure. Expanding what you do also keeps things fresh. Don't stress about going flaccid, my partner has had orgasms while perfectly flaccid. It just gives me more opportunity to try different things!

[@blaircox1589]

You're partner is incredibly lucky to have you.

[@AyeBeeG]

Thanks for sharing 😂

[@gimlarquinn3622]

@@blaircox1589 I am incredibly lucky to have him.

[@Boli4161]

I'm 47, my girlfriend is 27. She is gorgeous! We go daily; however, I don't think I can keep up this daily craziness

[@rhiannonh.7463]

Well here’s the thing, if you watch the original video, she says the spontaneous desire we feel in the beginning stages drifts off at the one year to 18 month mark in a LTR. That men have consistent desire that doesn’t change but women, that desire tappers off and is harder to maintain due to familiarity that creeps in abc the brain associating their partner to this. What needs to happen is tapping into the spontaneous triggers that get visual and physical spontaneous arousal so she can build arousal.

[@CamQTR]

One of my dogs runs under the bed and whines. The other dog just stays on the bed with us and sleeps as though nothing is going on.

[@dirtpiddler7548]

I like this channel but listening to this lady as an expert. 😂

[@AH-em3zl]

Well that haircut would nooot help...😅😅😅😅I see alot of comments making SILLY assumptions about other marriages...there are no rules...come on...

[@robinsnestradio]

😂👍🏽😆

[@pamm8608]

Remember, women have hormonal fluctuations throughout the month. That is a factor, too.

[@samsonodelowo7191]

Women usually desire quality over quantity, men desire quantity over quality. Not a fan of this 'expert'

[@thijsjong]

If tge quality is low it is only a mstter of time to want less quantity. And I am a man. I think this is a false ditochemy. If the quality is high I want it more often. This women want quality men want quantity is just a covert way of saying men provide liw quality sex. A.k.a. men ate bad at sex.

[@samsonodelowo7191]

@thijsjong I'm not saying either gender doesn't also want the other. I do believe that most wouldn't mind great sex often. However I'm saying in large the primary driver (if only given the option for one) matches my original point. There may be outliers (as there always are), however the ratio of likes to dislikes on the comment probably attest to the trend. What do you think?

[@TraeZoe]

Men… don’t protect or provide for a year… lets see what happens

[@emem2863]

That's what you got out of this? 🤔

[@Skibidisuuui8940]

​@@emem2863 Needs ?

[@madz6074]

Incel vibes

[@bonnielynn6662]

Lots of women provide for themselves these days....and as far as protecting goes...maybe look at the stats about how many women are killed by their own partners.

[@w33518]

​@bonnielynn6662 men can be also killed by their partners granny

[@whoisthis3038]

listen carefully to this lady and do everything opposite

[@Itcornerbg]

:) no sure if this is application for all countrys due to the culture specifics but in general 3 time per week is not bad idea :)

[@damienhunt4264]

Dogs and cats should never be in the house. Humans in the house, dogs and cats outside.

[@paulaheady8990]

I enjoy my pets in the house but in my bed

[@ASIOFY247]

I am so glad that she says it's quite common to not have a full erection everytime you want to have sex with your partner. Since I only know how it is for me and what I see in porn (which is always a terrible reference) I don't know if I have problems or not. It's so weird, on one day we had sex 3 times and I came everytime. It was amazing. And on other times I don't feel like it when we are trying and my erection just goes away. I don't want to disappoint her, but she says she doesn't mind at all and is happy. I believe her, but I am also disappointed everytime it doesn't work because I wanted to have some nice sex too haha. But it really is a belief to hear from him and her that it's common that it doesn't work everytime you want to. It also feels like common sense because there is so much to it, but I still can't take all the pressure off me from time to time.

[@rhiannonh.7463]

She talks about how sex is modeled to us based on movies, p*rn, what we hear others tell us, etc.. so we never get to see other couples literally in front of us how sex is done and we go based on what we see from media. Hence why it was interesting how in p*rn there is flow in sex, but how in reality sex doesn’t always flow so smoothly and that it’s very normal to not always have flow from start to finish. And the whole erection thing, this is very normal what she’s saying tbh. By being distracted, you free your mind to shift focus, which takes pressure off that area of the body mentally for the brain to allow an erection to natural start back up by doing something else with the partner that can mentally cause arousal. She did say in the original video, that pressure and stress 100% cause diminished arousal and difficulty for a person to get in the mood, let alone can’t orgasm during sex if their brain can’t be present and calm.

[@mogenkidapril3926]

Going to bed wearing jeans... damn!!!

[@michaelbond7213]

Most of this does not sound correct

[@checkmatenate]

One word: FORPLAYYYYYYY

[@cierralowery7096]

Garbage, if you are connected, you want to connect.

[@donharris8846]

3 times a week!!!! 😮 I’ve been married for 21 years and we’re down to 2-3 times a year if lucky

[@tilersun]

Wait, wait, wait. That haircut is clearly designed to repel sex 😮

[@prayformywheels]

😂

[@jeffwilliams7054]

Well, maybe ..if one is in truly in love, I suppose how (haircut etc) one presents themselves (pronoun missing) depends on whom one is trying to attract (pronoun or pronoun)? Maybe? Maybe not? ..not entirely sure, mixed messages here.. he her him hers ..unclear. If the person or persons this host loves also loves this haircut, then it's all for the good. The world needs more loving people everywhere..

[@stonedoliveees]

In one word🔥westcoastswing

[@deuceph]

I can't take this woman seriously.

[@Lionsraws66]

😂🤢

[@flumpyflumpy3515]

Karen .. are you single 😍

[@emem2863]

I believe she has a wife or at least a serious girlfriend.

[@themaddgamer]

Yeah, I don’t believe she is living in the real world. I think she is living in this new clown world. Let me correct, not everything she says is crazy. But some of it is.

[@janetjackson4236]

Was thinking the same thing 😂😂​@@emem2863

[@k-1llmatic832]

Like I'm gonna take sex advice from this dude.

[@classichumor3370]

Oh yeah, advice from the sexiest person on this planet 😅😂

[@dawitdogbehaviorist2469]

Don’t trust anyone with that haircut