THIS Is What Women Actually Want From Men…

THIS Is What Women Actually Want From Men… | The Orgasm Expert

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Dr Karen Gurney, A Psychologist, Psychosexologist and Couples Therapist, reveals what most women actually want in the bedroom and it's not what you think...
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@BrothaSchwifty 4 ай бұрын

I think the reason penetrative sex is seen as the least favorite part of sex for a good amount of women is because most men either skip or rush foreplay. The better the fore play, the more receptive a woman is to penetrative sex and she’ll enjoy it as much or even more than the foreplay or even oral sex imo

@anwa6169 3 ай бұрын

Thank you. YES.

@naturandmor 3 ай бұрын

Exactly but this lesbian expert does not like penis 😂

@pamm8608 14 күн бұрын

Not just foreplay, but they definitely have to know what to do with "it" once it's in there.

@robotman011 4 ай бұрын

Couldn’t women just tell men what they want? We shouldn’t even have to guess.

@MyrnaDeJesus 4 ай бұрын

You being with women that don't communicate their needs and desires with you is an invitation for you to strengthen your communication as well and to have an open dialogue with one another. We're all, by nature, a communicative species but we must exercise that ability and strengthen it with one another because we've all endured trauma that hinders our ability to express our needs.

@AceKite00 4 ай бұрын

@@MyrnaDeJesus With my last one night stand, i asked her what she likes and she straight said "I still haven't found what i really like." So I just did what I wanted. There's no way she slept around as much as she has and still "doesn't know". So no, women oftentimes ARE NOT communicative.

@MyrnaDeJesus 4 ай бұрын

@@AceKite00 She did communicate. That sounds like it was an invitation to explore together and an opportunity to communicate further. She was straightforward about not knowing precisely what she prefers-- just because she didn't know doesn't mean she didn't communicate.

@flowerpower7308 4 ай бұрын

@@AceKite00Why the hell would she have night stands if she is not interested in sex?! 🤦‍♀️

@GaMEChld 4 ай бұрын

@@MyrnaDeJesus"That sounds like..." Sounds like guesswork to me; that would be an example of what men would call poor communication. If she was saying what you thought she was saying, why didn't she just say that?

@valdius85 4 ай бұрын

1st thing would be attention. Husbands can feel when a wife is not paying attention and her mind is something else.

@ajluvzlondon4214 4 ай бұрын

"we don't have to get all of our sexual needs met by that one person..." advice from a couples therapist!

@naturandmor 3 ай бұрын

And lesbian as well 😂

@hightierplayers2454 3 ай бұрын

@2:00 "all genders"? Yeah, that's all I needed to hear to know for sure this is no expert of anything.

@valdius85 4 ай бұрын

“The happy wife school” - I recommend her channel for no BS about sex. What people say does not mean it’s what needs to be done to actually make things better.

@BoHror933 4 ай бұрын

How come she has not one wife on stream? Woman? Where are these wives she schools? She i just letting some truth spill out to tickle the male fantasy of sex and marriage. None of her talk and sayings can be actualized in reality.

@andylikesstuffchannel 4 ай бұрын

Learning is Life

@duhsunnyday8590 3 ай бұрын

1:24 what she said is very important. If your girl isnt having sex with you, its because youre doing something wrong and her needs arent being met.

@marieo5417 4 ай бұрын

I thought this was an excellent podcast, actually... I listened to it all, in the words of the late, great George Michael, without prejudice. She was very good and I send her happiness, warmth and joy in the small hope of countering some of the uptight meanness going on here. Sex is natural, sex is fun... 🎶 this woman's done her work, more strength to her 💜

@Vivi_9 4 ай бұрын

It was an excellent episode there's just too many incel viewers who get triggered whenever their dumb opinions aren't validated

@anwa6169 3 ай бұрын

OKAY! A lady here. PLEASE, do not try speak for me. There are many ladies out there who like what she said in the first few moments, that we do not like "p... in v... sex". I DO! And I will not keep on watching this and I need to vote it down. Men, please do not swallow all and every nonsense some women spread. Seriously.

@thesecret6019 2 ай бұрын

So you're saying that we should listen to you than someone who is practicing sexology for almost two decades!

@anwa6169 2 ай бұрын

@@thesecret6019 I am saying what I said. Maybe you should listen to your own body, your soul, your primal instincts? I mean, do what you want, it is your life, your responsible for yourself.

@anwa6169 2 ай бұрын

@@thesecret6019 Actually it is easy to think this way, but those people who are fulfilled and happy in their sex life, would they go and see such people? If my back is fine, I would not go to see a chiropractor, right? You see what I mean? Also it speaks volumes about the development of sexuality of couples, too. And maybe also about men, who are not doing it right and who can cause microtears and other things that are NOT good for her.

@pamm8608 14 күн бұрын

Agree. Sexologists saying that women don't care for piv sex is because they have not been with a skilled lover who can give them a big O that is like a full body seizure. Not just a cliteral O. Which is ok, but I like the full body screaming O.

@pamm8608 14 күн бұрын

@anwa6169 Exactly. Men need to LEARN and sense what they are doing. When we were young, men would just plow away until they were "done". No pleasure in THAT.

@Sylvan9595 4 ай бұрын

One day you hopefully will be mature enough to give a shit about what women’s want and just live your life in piece and happiness with or without a woman.

@eastafrika728 4 ай бұрын

The big detail missing here is that it doesn't matter what kind of sex you have, it's still just stimulating the same nerves, same brain region, giving the same sensation, there is no different sensation for different acts of stimulation, no matter how good or bad the sex, it's just the same sensation all the time. It's like drinking different types of alcohol seeking a different high, when it's just the same one. Even if you have tonnes of sex, it's still the same sensation, then it ends, the same way, all the time. The difference only comes with respect and empathy for the other person.

@milavieira1013 4 ай бұрын

I see many women not knowing much about their own bodies, we are way more complex than men. If a person is not comfortable with their sexuality, they assume his/her partner will know what to do... It used to be cultural, but should not be an issue now. Maybe people are getting more selfish about their own pleasure...!:(

@NuvoVision 4 ай бұрын

Simple Jack

@ivandansigmun3891 4 ай бұрын

Women fail to communicate their needs. Tell me what you like, what you want.

@inevitablesadness1624 4 ай бұрын

I beg to differ, it's actually Men who fail to communicate especially if they are in a long term relationship

@bluesEvanskro 4 ай бұрын

@@inevitablesadness1624 I’m awful at communicating my feelings, for ages me and my ex were talking she just wanted me as a friend and I still had feelings, I eventually told her last week how I still felt and it turns out she’s been shagging another guy and now me and her are not speaking at all anymore😂

@Darth_Bateman 4 ай бұрын

@@inevitablesadness1624 Look, inevitablesadness. . . .This might be your experience? But most men experience the following: Communicating their needs only to be looked down on, and then have what they say completely and utterly spoken over by a woman. Case and point : What you are doing right now. Women tend to experience a common experience in regards to men, because of it a movement started. But somehow so many of you fail to understand that men tend to experience a common experience with women, and will argue that you are the exception even if that completely misses the point.

@dr.thaliaw9881 4 ай бұрын

She’s a very smart lady. Nice job with this one!!🎉

@fionadale1011 4 ай бұрын

A lesbian tells us what women want from men. You couldn't make it up 😂

@Darth_Bateman 4 ай бұрын

Literally 2024.

@marieo5417 4 ай бұрын

A lesbian might know what women want better than most others...? 🤔😎 but I don't even know that she's lesbian... many other possibilities... bisexual, asexual, heterosexual... it's actually irrelevant... she's an academic... 📚 never judge a book by its cover 🤓

@markgriffiths409 4 ай бұрын

@sandrasphereexactly 👌😆

@Darth_Bateman 4 ай бұрын

@sandrasphereso basically, he did absolutely nothing wrong and is legally and morally blameless.

@Darth_Bateman 4 ай бұрын

@@marieo5417an academic writing theory about sex….? And you buy that? That’s got to be one of the scams of all time.

@leventpasha 4 ай бұрын

Glad you have posted 10 mins.of this. Well there are huge variables here that can affect your sexual behaviour, starting from your accestors, to your fetus life, to your childhood traumas, to your last week environment and experience, to your last second of metabolism includance. W/e this topic can not be generalized even thinking about anatomy variance. Yet she has a book to solve all the issues. That stinks. I honestly recommend to start with Robert M. Sapolsky's Behave to understand this issue knowing better about all around our behavioral mechanics. Imho she is waste of time with that categorical thinking. World and life is not a form buckets instead a yet uncomprehensable equation of chaos. We can not yet sterilize the subjects of behaviour. We are merely begining to understand it, and generalizing issues is the worst handicap ahead of us. James Gleick's Chaos might also be better to understand the delay we are having with statistical approach, specification and ignorance of wholistic approach. Well... Sorry for long post hope it helps, and hope I can see Sapolsky here as a guest one day.

@user-hm8wz4vp8l 4 ай бұрын

Women whine as they don't get what they want but they assume men can read their minds. Tell your man what you want he will do it most likely. The issue is every women is different so if he tries what he has done with another women may not work for you so tell him if you can't get off its your communication issue not his lack of ability.

@echase416 4 ай бұрын

It’s not mind reading. It’s Anatomy.

@calculatedrisk1 4 ай бұрын

@4:44- You’ve got to be trolling with that statement lol… Specifically when it comes to this episode…

@internetFan1 4 ай бұрын

Her understanding comes from "studies and surveys", but she is wrong e. g. about "only the clit". There are orgasms from G spot & A spot, and also there is other female orgasm from anal penetration, all of which are much more intense compared to the clitoral orgasm. She should read more, and try more.

@Sky10811 4 ай бұрын

exactly. well done squirt is amazing

@hughjanis6439 3 ай бұрын

Speaking of really bad hair cuts.🤣

@loppan4534 4 ай бұрын

She seems okey 😎

@vcom2327 4 ай бұрын

What she says women prefer has not been my experience at all. Sorry

@pixie3458 4 ай бұрын

Agreed

@oliviasmith5888 Ай бұрын

Me too!

@Erhudreamer 4 ай бұрын

Speak for yourself sister. If women have issue with sexual relations, its usually do to sexual trauma, inappropriate fondling during child and teenage years.

@natalia1045 4 ай бұрын

Yes but no, I am married and it took us many years to have a great sex due to the childhood abuse from my close relative. But the love and loyalty of my husband cure that. I don’t think I would ever had a great sex if I was not faithful to one man. It would add up on that trauma because like I said it took us many years of patience and unconditional love.

@felipegabriel348 4 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

@gtd65 3 ай бұрын

I must be living in a parallel universe, based on this talk? Do other people not actually communicate and talk about their turn ons or desires? I've had multi-orgasmic women aplogise to me about me only getting one climax vs several or continuous orgasms on their part.