The 5 Stages Of Dating For Women To Set The Pace Without Scaring Someone Away

[@LoveByDesign]

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[@adgal4830]

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[@nixlite]

😊😊

[@ampleparkingTV]

I’ve worked to pace myself and have enjoyed speaking to someone for several months now and taking time before sleeping with them. Feels good and calming.

[@LoveByDesign]

That's amazing - it sounds like your nervous system has really responded well to you taking things slowly!

[@chessc.3407]

Get married first.

[@domenicoscarangella5375]

😂

[@amandaadams9170]

That's great. A solid foundation is needed. Congratulations

[@Littleone124]

​@@chessc.3407not everyone gets married

[@wanjikunjoroge6875]

So many people talking about how to get a man hooked, not enough people talking about what you're talking about, love this ❤

[@LoveByDesign]

I’m so glad, I’m trying to be different amongst all the others ❤️

[@ansr3538]

Agreed. Most dating advice is telling us to play games and use manipulation......it's exhausting and I don't agree with that way of attracting or keeping someone. I almost signed up to one of these dating advice sites.....not cheap either, glad I didn't ☺️

[@Mushroom321-]

Right!!😮😮🙋🏾‍♀️😲👏🏼👏🏼

[@blade7506]

fr, more ppl need this advice imo

[@mikek7660]

Really happy to see a focus on building a healthy relationship rather than manipulating another to meet out ends

[@TheChillionaire007]

Needed this. I have ADHD and I got through 5 men in one year just because I am dopamine diving. Now I’m moving extremely slow and it is totally working

[@LoveByDesign]

This is a great topic for a video. Do you have any followup questions for dating with ADHD?

[@tri-anhnguyen3204]

Omg i thought i was the only one.

[@TheChillionaire007]

@@LoveByDesign I agree! No ma’am.

[@thebrooketheband]

It never even occurred to me that adhd would have it’s own dating pitfalls, but this makes complete sense!

[@dr.florence]

SAME HERE!!!!

[@yumi419]

I'm currently exclusively dating someone who appears to have good qualities for holding a slower paced relationship, versus I'm in the healing process from a narcissistic, toxic past relationship prior to meeting this person. They have been very patient and provided grace with me. I recently let my anxious attachment get the better of me and expressed it to them; while they could empathize with where I was coming from, they were direct to tell me they can only control what they do and say, not what happened in my past, and how I need to work on it. This person feels different to me... something special. I haven't had a lot of good experiences with relationships and grew up with a dysfunctional family dynamic, so I'm very thankful for your videos. I'm very hopeful with the work I can do using these videos as tools, this person and I can have a healthy, long lasting relationship.

[@LoveByDesign]

I hope that for you too 🙏

[@cassiekirkland8247]

I’m currently going thru this!! We’ve got this babe ❤

[@alexatakebackyourpowergrie872]

I can relate to this... best wishes and yes it's worked out for you! 👏🏽✨ ♥️

[@Karina_Engr]

The little shaman YT channel has helped me heal for narc abuse, and the book, why men love B#)$+es is a great book for gals looking to grow from doormat to dream woman.

[@buttermuffin1196]

I quit dating apps because of my anxious attachment style. I am a lot more confident now and I've done alot of work but it was still damaging my mental health. This is the most practical video I've seen so far on dating and using the apps and on the work you need to do before beginning. I wish I would have seen this three years ago but I am subscribing now and am so thankful! 🙂

[@LoveByDesign]

I’m so glad this is useful for you!! ❤️

[@jessicahitchens6926]

Its unhealthy and unnatural for everyone. Mind fuck...

[@sasb3675]

Thanks for this, I pushed away and ruined the connection with a very healthy person who would have been a good partner if I had just paced myself and calmed down, but I became an anxious mess and wasn’t able to be present on dates and pushing for things to move faster than he was comfortable with and eventually he broke it off

[@Himanshusingh-su6bj]

Hello, I am facing that anxiety too some days ago I started talking to someone and that day it was live chatting the first time, we talked and conclusion was that we are starting dating and i don't know why but i am becoming too desperate, our time zones don't match with each other and i am not getting any initiative from her and sometimes not even replies (almost 2-4 days gap) am I pushing too much??

[@Himanshusingh-su6bj]

Actually it's first time for both of us and i wanted it to be a good experience for both of us

[@LoveByDesign]

Hopefully that is something you can learn and grow from ❤️

[@LoveByDesign]

If you notice you are feeling desperate there may be something inside you that’s out of balance 🙏

[@lucy-ferprofiler5379]

"you can't scare off the right guy".

[@simplyimpish1055]

This is all new to me. Being over 50 and with the same man since high school. I’ve never dated. I’m excited but scared as well

[@earldavis3782]

Not quite the same experience but it has been a while. Started a few months ago,. Nervous but excited. A few things I've learned. First, make sure you know what your core wounds are and make sure you are working on them. Otherwise, they WILL show up in your relationships. Second, know what your core values are and what your needs are and be clear with your partner about those things. Third, know your worth! If you take the perspective that you. are a very good cake looking. for some good frosting, then it's as much what they bring to you as it is what you bring to them. They should complement you and not complete you because you already are a good cake. You will then reject people who are not your frosting just as they will do the same. It's not personal. You got this. Good luck!

[@proofpositive11]

I have been approached by a widower who I dated in high school. We are on opposite coasts of the US. He is moving quickly, assuming we know each other, even though we've only seen each other for the first time in 30 years! I am flattered but I have not known what to do. This is a good roadmap so I can be intentional and instead of always seeming like I am resisting, I can speak from clarity. I definitely need that runway piece just in case he is not aware as a widower the degree to which he might be seeing me as quick wife replacement.

[@rositareyes8583]

Thank You very very much for this video. I always get anxious when I do like someone back. I want to rush through dating. I no longer want to be like this when I like a man back. This video was great. Muchas Gracias from Mexico 🇲🇽

[@LoveByDesign]

You are so welcome!

[@MalindoWe]

You are a red flag lol

[@flowerchild33]

I love the way she speaks about using your energy and self soothing. This is very helpful and one of a kind video. Thank you for sharing this! ❤

[@LoveByDesign]

Thank you so much 🥰

[@anniigirl3]

This is life changing. I see now why I have been off balance in so many relationships. Love, love, love learni g and growing.

[@LoveByDesign]

So glad to hear this!!

[@thipimotsoare4228]

The majority rush into relationships

[@muhammadhadi88]

Thanks for this video Amy. I'm aware that I struggle with push/pull as I am an extrovert, but I am lucky that my introvert partner is able to dance with me with this idea. She's so subtle yet accurate with push/pull to the point that both of us are now much more balanced than when we started. We're currently on this runway, and we couldn't be much happier enjoying eachother's company !

[@LoveByDesign]

That is SO amazing to hear!!! Great work! ❤️

[@leahsamaniego4507]

Dating a man who lives 3 hours away has helped me to pace myself because we physically cannot go faster. Our connection is lovely when we are able to see one another, we communicate regularly in between, and we both agreed about a month in to not entertain anyone else. It also helped that we had built a friendship online prior to exploring dating. We are 6 weeks in now and I’m really enjoying getting to know him and work through things as they come along.

[@LoveByDesign]

I'm glad long distance is working for you at the moment!

[@alexatakebackyourpowergrie872]

Sooo good! One of the reasons I was rushing is I had to have it all now or it was pointless and wasn't gonna happen 'fear'. 😅I've healed to a place to know where I can be patient with myself and allow time to pass without me having to "have everything now." I know that what's for me is always for me and I can let go of the outcome and enjoy the Moment. ❤

[@johndglynn]

What a lovely surprise this video was. Really spoke to me. Thank you Amy 😊

[@sab_1055]

My anxiety is too powerful to start a relationship. I'm in physical pain, a full fledged flashback from the first sign of emotional connection. I work out a lot but it doesn't soothe when I'm in that state. I then ungracefully abandon ship at the smallest red flag, by text. By then I'm in so much fear and pain I can't make words. To be fair, I don't send a flurry of repeated, scathing messages. I try to state my concerns in a respectful way and a few hours later I realize I'm irreparably broken.

[@davidsisson2026]

Thank you for the info, its been difficult for myself ,learning to read the room has been the most difficult. thought i was going in right direction. older singles i think is tougher.

[@LoveByDesign]

You're welcome David! I believe it can be tougher when you're older too.

[@anhhuynguyen4969]

Just discovered your channel through this video, and it is one of the best channels about relationship I've ever encountered (you provide very neutral, healthy, logical approach & mindset). Definitely a sub!

[@LoveByDesign]

Wow thank you so much!! 🥹

[@NoMoreTears64]

My problem seems to be that I will go headstrong into communicating with an individual and then after 24 hours, I panic and end the connection before its really even started. This has happened even when it wasn't a red flag present. I think that I have healed from past hurt but I must have healed with a huge scar.

[@LoveByDesign]

It might be important to look at why you panic and end the connection, and get advice/support from there 🙏

[@Astro-y5v]

I was brought up in a religious cult and I've never had anyone show me how to date healthily in the real world. I wanna date and meet people and have some special moments. Thanks

[@LoveByDesign]

Reach out, I can help: www.healyourheart.school/call

[@CB19087]

You know what I found really interesting about what you were saying? And I wonder if its part of what causes dysfunctional relationships. Push pull. I always associated push pull with being punished. I push you pull away to show your distain. I never realised that i was meant to do the pulling away in order to give the other person space to respond. Although I have been doing that because my manager advised me years ago to trust him by giving him a chance to act on what I'd requested

[@Narcside]

Thank you ❤ this is so helpful. Especially as an empathetic with ADHD. ❤

[@LoveByDesign]

I'm so glad to hear this! ❤️

[@letaschmid130]

Personally, and professionally as a relationship therapist, I find your message so much more solid and practical and with more depth than any I have seen on this platform. Brava!!

[@LoveByDesign]

Thank you so much! Yes, I have therapists in my program, I love working with them! ❤️

[@brightdes1355]

New subscriber I haven't dated in 8 years and I tend to stop before I get ahead when I start to have some interest in the other person. Before giving it an opportunity I hold back k because I fear of becoming emotionally attached. Hello from Dallas Tx I am so excited to watch this and all other vids

[@LoveByDesign]

I think you're hit the nail on the head - fear of becoming emotionally attached is an attachment wound manifesting as avoidant energy. I'm keen to hear if some of my other videos help you! ❤️

[@agnieszkakaluzna9582]

Your advice is absolute gold!

[@LoveByDesign]

I’m so glad!! ❤️

[@annecaro.3956]

Thank you, Amy, That was very clear and nicely put.❤

[@LoveByDesign]

You are so welcome 🙏

[@stardustttt964]

Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video, and everything said in it ❤

[@andreabarabas]

The most important and most useful video in this subject! Thank you very much for sharing this with us!

[@dianwilliams3195]

Am so happy for this video I wish I have seen this video before.

[@noremac0123456789]

Im trying to figure out if I like the guy…in the past it was always just enough that they liked me and because of that, I’d just be with them for a few years, getting smaller and smaller, resentful then feeling rejected when it ended. I’m learning to listen more up front to what they’re saying and paying attention to what they are or are not doing.

[@archivist_of_dragonstone]

Messed around and made such an amazing runway that I no longer care if there are any airplanes landing on it. Deleted all the apps and not looking back! XD

[@Strawberriezrule13]

One of the best videos I've seen on the dating process! Thanks for sharing x

[@angyt1070]

Invaluable information. Thank you ❤

[@sagemonroe9532]

I'm watching this after my partner of 10 years left me. I don't want to repeat what hurts so much now

[@LoveByDesign]

I'm sorry this happened to you ❤️ how are you doing now?

[@heleddwatts6450]

This is a brilliant video - thank you for sharing these stages, so useful ❤

[@LoveByDesign]

You are so welcome!

[@yannababi]

Extremely helpful advice! Thank you!

[@melatonin1371]

The thing is I don't want to "Play games" with the person you know. I'm not trying to manipulate them into a relationship. The push pull method is in a weird place in my opinion. I understand that developing a relationship is like a dance between two people. There's just so much pick up art advice that mixes with good advice it's hard for me to tell what is healthy

[@halfmoonyogi4997]

There's a difference. Playing games would be playing hard to get, being inauthentic, trying to make them jealous etc but what she is referring to is leaning in and seeing if they reciprocate, and then pulling back to see if they lean in, and if you feel like reciprocating. It's feeling and matching the energy. You ever see those text convos with paragraphs and someone responds with one word answers? Or meet someone who only hangs out when you invite but otherwise doesn't show interest? If you stopped making moves, would they make a move back, are they still engaged or are you just dragging them along? Are you actually interested or are you along for the ride, afraid to have no ride at all? It's just about leaving a bit of space there to observe it so people don't fall into a relationship of all love bombing then breadcrumbs, or codependency.

[@LoveByDesign]

I hear you - the push/pull dynamic is something that exists just as gravity does. It's less about "using" the method and more about being aware that the dynamic naturally exists between two people. It's healthy to be discerning with dating advice on KZbin!!! And by all means - if any of my advice doesn't resonate, please don't take it 🙏

[@Summer-tk8yk]

This content is so good. Thank you.

[@LoveByDesign]

You are so welcome!

[@lancehunter6143]

This is great advice. I will save this and watch it again! I wish I would’ve watched your video before I started online dating… it is overwhelming and I didn’t realize that the first couple of weeks on the App. Rough! I’m learning though. I know your focused on helping women, but as a man I’m enjoying your advice and perspective. Thank you!

[@LoveByDesign]

Wonderful!

[@gregtarris9057]

Well done.

[@ceridwynnhaven3335]

Very well balanced, wonderful video. ✨

[@hbirg7893]

Thank you so much!! This is really helping me

[@LoveByDesign]

I'm so glad to hear this ❤

[@ptrsrfns]

Good video ❤

[@LoveByDesign]

Thank you! ❤️

[@JB4C89]

Lovely video ❤ needs more views

[@dianapaloma3102]

Thank you ❤️🙏

[@wrighbra]

Im new to taking it slow my past has been gogogo and it never works im here to learn

[@LoveByDesign]

What do you find is the hardest thing about going slowly?

[@sarahselvis9284]

This video is so reassuring ❤

[@LoveByDesign]

I'm so glad to hear it Sarah! ❤️

[@kaylareeder4449]

I agree with all of this...thank you for taking your time and sharing! This new me is making all these new decisions with my values in place and it's so validating to hear. I would like to point out something that's clearly unrelated to your topic so I'm sure there wasn't too much digging into it for this post...I am not poly, but understanding what poly means in your relationship is very important for a healthy relationship with your partner. You need to know if you can stick it out and if it aligns. Just putting it out there to all the poly people on their healing journey :) obviously still be choosy with your inner energy

[@LoveByDesign]

Thanks for sharing 🙏

[@user-mb9jx5tx9y]

I’ve always felt fine being single but then when a potential person comes along I start to get excited and sometimes anxious. What does this mean?

[@LoveByDesign]

It means underlying attachment wounds are being activated and you have an opportunity to clear those so your new attachment doesn't bring you anxiety! Reach out if I can help!

[@retailmenot1427]

Same.

[@Keen-1A-S]

Super helpful video!! Thank you!!

[@LoveByDesign]

You are so welcome!! ❤️

[@sh4516-g5i]

This is great advice.

[@LoveByDesign]

Thank you! ❤️

[@pendakhan852]

Thank u for explening very welle

[@LoveByDesign]

You're so welcome!

[@gayleneflower398]

I paced myself with this guy. It was still a waste of time. It just got worse and worse because he was emotionally unavailable emotionally, but I didn’t know that it’s so painful waste of five years.

[@LoveByDesign]

I’m sorry to hear you experienced this 🙏

[@jessicahitchens6926]

Listen to your body.. people call it instincts and intuition. Your body always tells you especially at the start.

[@jenmampeule8273]

Can you introduce dating after relationship or you have to leave and start all over again with a new person?

[@LoveByDesign]

Do you mean after you've broken up from a relationship, can you start dating the same person again?

[@EudesBezerra-s1n]

That's was helpful

[@LoveByDesign]

I'm so glad!

[@JPizzle10125]

Really, Interesting, this slow burn idea works? Ok, I always thought it was called wasting my time. I find when a woman is attracted, she wants to live in the moment, and want consistent interactions together. However in my experience this layer of slowness, just makes me bored, eventually I lose interest.. i find only women who are NOT truly attracted or really interested in me. "slow burn" just my humble opinion. And that goes for Men if I am practicing a "Slow burn" i am probably not interested and doing just the bare minimum usually out of boredom, which I know is bad. My therapist says I should have an abundance mindset.

[@LoveByDesign]

Going slow is not wasting your time if you’re investing that time in someone who is worth it.

[@jessicahitchens6926]

If you are bored quite easily that's a core issue that stems from you. No one else.

[@anonanon8974]

16:22 THISSSSSS. Ugh it’s so hard thoughhhh!

[@LoveByDesign]

I hear you ❤️

[@ChaiTogether]

Good stuff Amy 😊🎉🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@LoveByDesign]

Thank you!

[@sjensen183]

The super helpful. I think I am a little bit confused as to what the difference between stage 4 and stage 5 is though. I guess stage 4 means that you want to see someone exclusively and you don't want to date anyone else. But if you're dating somebody exclusively how is that different than being in a relationship (esp if you're already sleeping together)? Also I think you mentioned getting aligned on core values in stage 5 (which is the relationship stage) but wouldn't you want to know that before entering a relationship?

[@LoveByDesign]

There are a bunch of conversations you need to have between Stage 4 & 5 in order to establish a relationship that you are both co-responsible for. And yes - you need to start exploring their core values from Day 1! But getting clear on the core values your new relationship will priority (as opposed to it just being an individual thing) is one of the conversations you need to have. This video explains the relationship conversations more clearly: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bH6pqaVqg9F0rtk

[@davidsisson2026]

It certainly can be Precariuos, i wanted to take it slow. and ended up too slow. Learned something. Hope to have another chance soon.

[@LoveByDesign]

I hope that for you too!

[@taleandclawrock2606]

Not too slow. If your pace wasnt right for him, if he couldntvrespect and wait for you, then being with him is not in your best interests!❤

[@englishtothrive]

Love your voice! ☺️

[@LoveByDesign]

Aww thank you!!

[@azanimation3994]

Me and my girlfriend have been hanging out for a couple months now, I asked her to be my girlfriend 2 weeks ago. We haven't had a first date yet, and I wanna take her to prom with me. But I'm conflicted on how fast I should take this. I want to take the relationship slow, because I don't want to mess up. But I don't know if that's what she wants, and I don't want her to feel like I don't find her attractive. She is so beautiful and such an amazing person and she's never been in a relationship before. How do I show her I love her without being disrespectful?

[@LoveByDesign]

Just keep communicating your truth with her so she can feel your heart ❤️

[@LeadAna-sc6pv]

I'm always scared if he has a secret family and he's just having fun with me. My ex used to do it with so many women. Is there a way I could get an idea if he's being honest?

[@LoveByDesign]

You have to not give him your trust automatically at the beginning - because trust is earned over time. As you spend more time together, and integrate your lives slowly as you date/move into relationship, use your discernment to assess whether he is being truthful or not.

[@taleandclawrock2606]

Is he transparent with you about his activities away from you? Does he publically take you on dates so his friends and community can see you together? Are your needs being met? Do you feel safe telling him how you feel? I once got played by a man with no less than 4 relationships at once!!! There were all those red flags,but i didnt realise that, as i had alot of neglect in childhood, so it was normal to me to not get much attention or feel cherished, safe or appreciated. All the best!❤❤

[@mmommo10]

a bumpy ride? nailed it!

[@LoveByDesign]

🙏

[@hannahjoy6809]

Im in my first ever relationship and we are about a month in and he has started mentioning going further, he has more experience then me and i feel like im going so slow that im holding him at a distance even though he said hes happy to go my pace. Is it all in my head?

[@taleandclawrock2606]

Take time to identify your own feelings, and go at your own pace, the right person respects and cares for you enough to wait for you, and thats the guy you want!❤

[@nougatbb]

How do you feel, when you frequently hear him going out with friends, but not ask you out ? Or you tried to ask him go for a coffee, but he told you that day he has to see movie with his male friend.... sort of, but he didn't initiate another appointment for you. Would you get disappointed ?

[@LoveByDesign]

Absolutely. I’d say your needs aren’t being met, and if he continually doesn’t want to meet them, it’s time to end it.

[@taleandclawrock2606]

Yeah, hes just not that into you, move on, Queen. ❤

[@juisjuis551]

How do you know what your core values are?

[@LoveByDesign]

Google core values list - go down each one and identify your top 5 based on what you live your life by currently (not what you wish you did!!)

[@53Strat]

I love how people who just love eachother keep things simple and are sucesfull in relationships, then you have people never able to maintain a long lasting relationship and they have all these theories, like push/pull, attachement style ect. Pretty ironic if you ask me, we tend to overanalyze when we are unsucessfull.

[@LoveByDesign]

Oh yes - I'm sure their relationships are simple 🙄

[@ZeeGeeBee]

It comes with becoming aware and asking yourself “why am I not finding success”. Not everyone has had an upbringing that cultivated secure attachment. It’s seeking knowledge and self-improvement which naturally will require some degree of analysis

[@53Strat]

@@ZeeGeeBee Attachement theory is still way to generalised to be applied to a individual. Love language is utter bullshit if you ask me. People had better long lasting relationships before all these theories. Its more of a societal issue if you ask me. I honestly believe from the talks that I had that the succesfull people with regards to relationships do keep it simple. Self analysis is always a good thing to do, I agree. Been trying to keep it stoic for years and had been praised for it. Just not by the women that I wanted so thats a issue I created myself.

[@taleandclawrock2606]

It must be great to have no attachment wounds or trauma, and never have to think twice about human relations. 😂❤❤

[@swatigarg4709]

We have been dating for 2 months now and I asked him to be exclusive. He mentioned he is talking to someone else as well (though less frequently than me) and wants to explore more. I felt sad and bit hurt. I expressed my fears and how I wouldn't feel save. To me it felt like he wanted to be with someone else otherwise why would one explore more people. Should I just move on and let him go.

[@reneesampson6566]

He was honest. Move on unless you don’t mind to continue dating having this new information.

[@reneesampson6566]

Also if he didn’t ask you for exclusivity first don’t waste your time.

[@LoveByDesign]

I’m sorry it took me so long to get back to you! After 2 months if you’re ready for exclusivity and he isn’t, you’ve got to move on.

[@anca0302]

Been doing this since forever and never learned my lesson 😂

[@LoveByDesign]

Understanding is the first step!! If you more clarity on how to heal this, I'd love to jump on a free call with you: www.healyourheart.school/call

[@pokeball976]

How long should a “good” date last? 1hour? 3?

[@LoveByDesign]

There’s no ‘shoulds’, but between 1-3 is good!

[@tprice1735]

Looks, money and status, oh, and it helps to be a violent, dominant guy. 🤷‍♂️

[@LoveByDesign]

Sorry?

[@tprice1735]

@@LoveByDesignNo offense, but none of this stuff works. We have a pervasive hookup culture now, so looks, wealth and status are all that matter. All genders are lying about something on dates, just the way it is.

[@taleandclawrock2606]

Yuck. Sounds like a nightmare.

[@tprice1735]

@@LoveByDesign Women prefer men who possess Dark Triad Personality Traits, look at the research.

[@tprice1735]

@@taleandclawrock2606 Women despise kindness, I was kind to them, got me nowhere, yet I see guys in prison with wives and girlfriends. Freud even said they enjoy violent men.

[@Mikehunthertz51]

Being single for 18years and now idk if guys are just being nice or not? 😂😂And not looking for anything casual.

[@LoveByDesign]

Get to know them, trust your instincts! If you're unsure, just ask them 🙏

[@sylvievachon1020]

So if a guy you just Matt wanted to be exclusive right away.That would be considered a red flag? And to be clear, being exclusive doesn't mean you're in a relasianship.That just means that you've decided to date only each other as you get to know each other.So when you're introducing them to somebody.They are just the person i'm dating?

[@LoveByDesign]

I think exclusive dating is a personal preference and not a red flag as long as you don’t rush into a relationship.

[@sylvievachon1020]

Could you do a video on the difference between an exclusive dating?Not quite relationship yet and a situation ship

[@gabrig11]

2024 : "if exclusivity is one of your values and you want to be monogamous" .

[@lauraleesimons1966]

Hmmm… great info but that is a whole portfolio of plays. Seems like so much work. Why can’t it be simpler?

[@LoveByDesign]

I'm not sure what you mean by portfolio of plays - but I think I'm hearing you say it seems a bit like a game. I think it's best to take my advice and videos and what resonates for you, and leave the rest - I'm not encouraging game playing on this channel at all (I work hard to go against most of the typical dating advice here on YT). This channel is all about trying to be your most authentic, true self and represent yourself accurately when dating (and in life) so you can find the most compatible partner!

[@nathaliabielser5370]

???????

[@LoveByDesign]

Do you have a question Nathalia?

[@kme9861]

Most important: don’t put all your eggs in one basket!! You should be dating multiple people in the beginning

[@reneesampson6566]

👍🏾

[@dfateekh]

No dating))not relevant

[@LoveByDesign]

Ok :)

[@Fizzifil]

99% of men will be off

[@gspstactical3621]

Hey, just out of curiosity. What do you mean by 99% of men will be off? Thanks!

[@normirymy]

Mgtow

[@LoveByDesign]

sorry?

[@yasadolescencerenaissance]

amazing video, thank you so much!💗

[@LoveByDesign]

You are so welcome!

[@swetlanametzler1846]

Thank you, this helps so much!❤️

[@LoveByDesign]

I'm so glad to hear this!!