The 7 Mistakes Targeted Parents Of Parental Alienation Make

[@Thepathof77]

I appreciate this video very much. I’m a mother who has been completely cut out of my children’s lives and it has been hell on earth

[@gunnmorstl1842]

❤ I know. And you are not alone!❤

[@irenahabe2855]

🤗

[@laurarominger2073]

Praying for you. ❤ just had my 18 year old daughter move out for the last time. She lived with her dad for a year because he undermined every thing I did to hold her accountable. And mocked me behind my back. I was the “bad” one. When a year later the ex’s wife had had enough and was saying everything I had been saying for years he decided to do joint custody again. I said but only if my husband and I and my ex and his wife meet so I know this time we’re gonna be on the same page. Believe me I dreaded it. My ex was aloof and hardly involved but agreed. His wife sat there and said everything I had. Anyway we seemed to be on the same page. Lasted maybe 6 months. Again he didn’t enforce curfews (when she failed a class), didn’t monitor it so she could graduate. Of course she wanted to go back there. I implored with both I thought we were on the same page. Nope (I blame my ex on this not his wife). So this week I told her to get the rest of her stuff out. The last few years of broken my heart. But my mine job is to hold her accountable and be responsible and be able to live independently. If I’m the mean parent fine. Btw my daughter is a total narcissist like her dad. Think her biological mom was too (we adopted her). I learned to put up boundaries and not care about what people say about me after the smear campaign when I asked for divorce. Learned not to care what people thought. God knows the truth. When o found out he lied to our son why our marriage broke up (he said I did, but he did) that’s the only time I told the truth about his dad. Many more stories. Sorry I’m telling the whole damn story.

[@desireeperham401]

I am going through the same thing I raised my kids now they think everything about me is bad

[@joanneramsey7723]

Right there with you 💔

[@victoriavitoroulis3273]

If you weren’t absolutely sure if your partner is a narc or not .. parental alienation is a 100% sure sign .

[@dpetinatos]

I wish you could elaborate

[@annalynn9325]

@@dpetinatos absolute absence of empathy for the child as they turn the child into a weapon against the person who made them feel abandoned or devalued. They hurt the x but destroy the child (outcomes of alienated children are similar to children who have suffered sexual abuse

[@teresawigton8319]

Amen it happen to me .the kids still don't know it but I'm the bad one ..the grandma was one her son the other ..she never knew what all he did and I never told her about underage family member..I should have .. Mu Mom Said she n Ot believes It I've

[@teresawigton8319]

Pray Really F God opens door Or use it to his glory to show how I can still serve him V E

[@isabelfolgado2900]

I may be wrong , but my ex I bever thiught as a narc mind you the definition is expanding- however he is abusive and toxic , so will say strong narc traits- lets rememberz they dont have to have an NPD Diagnosis

[@makaylaforbes6719]

This was something that I never understood. I watched my father doing this with my younger brother. Every time my brother wanted to see our mother, my father would ask him why would you want to see her? She abandoned you. It bothered me to the point I told my father to never speak like that with him again. I was an adult by then, my brother was a teenager. Those aren't games to play with your kids, and kids aren't pawns to use against a partner who hurt you. I see it through every divorce and I get that everyone needs to feel like someone should be on their side, but to involve kids in this has always been beyond me.

[@SarahAlyafee-Abbott]

You are a parent to millions of parents, grandparents and their kids Kenny ❤ you have no idea the healing power you’re sending to millions and millions of people through your videos. thank you so so much, I so appreciate all that you do to educate people.

[@jacquelinevd977]

Couldn’t agree more!! No guts, no glory!! ❤❤❤

[@EB-vs9tr]

I respectfully disagree with part of what you say. When your kid says she wants to go back to the other parent's house during your parenting time, i don't think it's best to bring the child back and giving in to her desire. Your parenting time is important to develop that special relationship with your kid. If you give your kid to the other parent, you lose that and the bond gets weaker. The child needs both parents in her life. Your kid doesn't always know what's best, but you do as a parent. If it were up to my child, she wouldn't ever want to go to school and she would eat ice cream all day. We, as responsible adults, have to guide them on what is appropriate and healthy.

[@HealthyMom247]

Listening to him say that it's okay to send the child back negated everything else he says. If you read or listen to Amy Baker, the PA expert, she will say that you need as much time with your child as you can get. I think this advice is off base.

[@EB-vs9tr]

@@HealthyMom247 I agree with you. I think it will only weaken the bond you have with your child.

[@HealthyMom247]

@@EB-vs9tr I can tell you it will. I have a 13yr old that I have not seen since Feb 10th. The alienation has taken over. This has not helped anyone get healthier.

[@fitness..moveyoullgetit5832]

Yeah it's bad advice, and opposite of everything I've read and watched on the subject. By simply allowing the child to go back to the abuser, the alienated parent is just confirming what every alienator says about the alienated parent; "they don't want to see you." It's just feels like giving up and taking the easy way out. Like someone commented in a different comment though, there are degrees of alienation,, and if it's gotten so bad, than maybe that approach makes sense. I guess no matter which way you go the kids are screwed either way, because either they're going to be stuck with a mentally ill abuser for a hundred percent of the time, but not have to deal with the mixed emotions..or have shared custody with the continued manipulation. There are no winners in this.

[@SesadiRamatla]

It’s easy to judge that it’s a bad advice when you have not experienced this. We are also human beings and it’s so frustrating when you are a parent who tries everything to show you love them and absolutely nothing you do for them is ever good enough for them. It’s emotionally draining and heartbreaking.

[@EleanorWild-s1r]

Is it bad that I don't cry anymore? I feel so numb from the despair I went through when my children were stolen from me. I feel like I can't feel anymore. But whatever I did or said was always wrong or 'crazy'. I had to walk away and the pain was unbearable. Everything you describe is 100% accurate. Unfortunately I have made some of these mistakes and I know I can't take it back. But in this situation you're damned if you do and you're damned if you don't so you are always going to be fighting a losing battle. It's nothing but hell.

[@johnrubio330]

Yes! I agree with you.

[@MsGabiele]

Great video. Thank you for this amazing work! Justice will come when children will have children themselves…all feelings from the past are stored in the body. They will feel the love then, they will have flash backs and they will slowly understand….the difference between feelings and words. I believe truth and love comes back one day….

[@tonyuzan7171]

I really appreciate the sincerity of your message. But I have to say, I’m not sure I agree with your first rule. I think it’s important to not impose your will on your children, and to not make sure they’re seeing you just on your terms. But at the same time, because they are so confused, You need to account for the fact that they are much better off by having you in their life somehow. Because when you’re not in their life, that means their primary, and nearly only role model is the alienating parent. And as you described, very eloquently, that person has lots of problems. so is it really fair to leave your child to be parented exclusively by this other disturbed parent.? I suggest it’s a balancing act. You have to balance your ability to be in their lives, and influence them to some degree, with the fact that you don’t want to be coercing them and forcing them to see you either. It’s a delicate balance. in some cases, I can see how that balance could become impossible to achieve without really becoming forceful with your child. And just like you said, in those situation’s now you have two parents that are pulling on their children. But there is a slippery slope here. It is not always so clear that your child is going to resist that much. As all of the research suggests, they’re varying degrees of alienation. And so I suppose, one of the variables, here, is whether your child is severely alienated, or just moderately or mildly alienated. For a severely alienated child, you basically don’t really have a choice. For a mildly alienated child, it seems silly to just give up on your time with them, even though they’re feeling pressured to not see you. And with a moderately alienated child, I think it all depends on exactly what’s happening. So again this is complicated And I don’t think you can apply a rule to this aspect of your relationship with your child. So I’m sorry, I don’t agree with all of your rules,, but I do agree I think with the other six. God bless you for having the courage to do what’s right, and to share your feelings so openly.

[@kennyweiss]

Of course, there are subtleties, and each situation is unique and will have its own challenges. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings, and I appreciate your kind words.

[@LoveAndPeace5D]

Yes I agree, because children can develop severe personality disorders when raised by someone with a personality disorder.

[@justchill135]

I really appreciate this video. Point 2 means so much to me. I'm full of shame and regret. Thank you.

[@tanyakennedy8584]

Thank you, for this video. I cried with you and making decisions for the children, it was the hardest thing I've ever did. Spent so many nights crying and wondering if I did the right thing when everyone was telling me I was a bad mother for not fighting enough for them. Seemed so many didn't understand that it wasn't about me but about my CHILDREN and always will be about them.

[@DallasPeck]

Somehow I knew everything he is saying. I put my child’s best interest first. I gave up and hoped she’d come back to me. She did but the damage was done and she didn’t trust me. She had zero compassion for me. I wouldn’t allow her to see me upset. She would say the cruelest things to me. I wouldn’t react to her cruel words. It wasn’t her fault she was the victim. I’ve lost my daughter twice now I will never buy her another pineapple pizza 🍕 😊

[@stonermom707]

thank you for posting this as the targeted parent for the last decade my son is finally eighteen and im doing my best to be okay untill he reaches out to me♡

[@Carmen-sy5rp]

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing. The pain is unbearable and this is helping me. My heart goes out to you ❤

[@kennyweiss]

Glad I could help

[@ichikosudo1054]

You are amazing. I am learning so much. Please keep it coming. I am better for the time I spend with you.

[@kennyweiss]

Deal!

[@lauratruthseekingWarrior]

It's not my husband who is having my son alienate from me, its my SONS PSHYCHIATRIST. HES on lots of meds for ADD, SCHIZOPHRENIA, DEPRESSION, ANXIETY AND PANIC ATTACKS. HELP??? IM so veery heartbroken. My son is 27 and is on disability for it. I'm 61. My only living child. 💔

[@lindalou4858]

❤ I did what was human. As soon as I escaped from the dynamics of dysfunctional humans, I did it. Like you said, left them and I am at peace and I'm sure they are better too. I'm living a healthy life now.

[@begonia6446]

Thank you so much for all you do! Your a great inspiration to all thats going through the same right along with you❣️

[@kennyweiss]

Thank you so much!

[@bruceowen4159]

We can't tell you how helpful this video has been, as very confused grandparents we learnt so much, helping to unpick such a alien situation to us has taken away some of the pain, thank you again.

[@kennyweiss]

Glad it was helpful!

[@reneebelkin9242]

I feel your pain and I am so sorry you are dealing with this. We don't deserve it. I did everything for my kids and I never kept them from their dad even though I hate his guts I never said that to them (my kids). I've always come from a place that if I allowed them to mistreat their dad, I was saying it was ok to treat me that way, and of course it was not.

[@mdcordova6895]

What if you didn’t abuse them? What if someone else abused them and they can’t say anything or don’t know how to or what to say? …..and, what if the children are grown adult? Yes!, God is needed and prayers. Thank you, I needed this 🥹

[@purepressurefitness4014]

This the best video I ever seen on alienation out of everything I've ever watch, you really take the time to spread out the machanics of what's going on

[@juliegloer786]

I’ve fucked up. I’ve been doing this lately and that makes me as bad as him. I really am a failure. I guess I’ll truly give up. It’s over it’s done I there’s no going back and changing it. I didn’t know what else to do other than to fight back. I’ve gotta go throw up now

[@Bsavvymusic]

This is heartbreaking 💔

[@KeithBruce-n3n]

30:26 I can’t believe the hell I have been through for the last 18 years. I originally went to a treatment centre for my alcoholism the centre and AA gave me the tools to be sober to this day but what they did not give me were any tools to defend myself against a narcissistic spouse who did everything to destroy me. I’m sure it’s a form of PTSD disorder as to this day I struggle with demons.

[@michelleeplee2098]

Today I was trying to imagine what my son is going through as we are in the middle of a high conflict custody battle. My first reaction was to scream the alienation from the roof tops. My ex told my son "if your mom "forces" you to stay overnights I can't stop her. My son told me he didn't mind seeing me during the day but didn't want to stay the night and becomes very angry when I "force" him too. My ex wanted it in writing I would not "force" my son to stay overnight during the week but every other weekend he would make sure he would stay. I realized this is his narcissistic way of controlling me and the situation to still make my son angry at me if I make him stay on the weekends through brainwashing and manipulation.. I started thinking about my son and I read that our kids have to reject us in order to survive in their environment. I felt in my heart, as hard as it was, that if he has to reject me in order to feel safe, then I have to sacrifice my hurt and anger in order to make it better and safer for my son,, so I agreed to not "force" my son to stay ANY overnights and took the lesser time in order for him not to be so conflicted and tormented.. I felt that in a sense I took a little of my power back for my sons sake because it let him know I heard him. It was very hard for me to do but you are absolutely right. I was thinking about my own personal needs and not the damaging conflicting abuse he is in the middle of and all alone in trying to just survive. I believe God sent your video to me today as this is exact confirmation I needed to hear. Thank you.

[@sherrymechum7102]

The advice on spending $ helped me

[@Peppa0982]

If you have a Narc as a parent then sometimes you can’t take it anymore and have to walk away.

[@nomad7540]

This is good advice for parents of adult children that are alienated due to spousal influence. Don’t try to come between the couple even if it means that you will never see your grandchildren.

[@juliegarcia1057]

I’m so afraid to watch this because I fear that I am probably guilty of all 7 mistakes! Ugh!!!

[@alina.miiiiii]

I am very grateful for all the hard work you did. As it’s my current situation with my toddler, I was very emotionally throughout the video Thank you🙏🏻

[@kennyweiss]

You are so welcome!

[@DallasPeck]

My daughters father raped me when I was 14 teen. I never told anyone I won’t go into that. I let his mom keep my daughter for the summer. They went to CPS and lied about me and received custody. I did everything I could to get her back. Long story short he brainwashed her against me. She unl her against me. He abused her just like he did me. She unalived herself last year. I fought so hard to save her but he hated me more than he loved her. He chocked her in front of our two grandchildren. She forgave him and bonded him out of jail. I never spoke badly about him praying my love and support would save her. 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

[@LoveAndPeace5D]

Your daughter died? Sending hugs.

[@irenahabe2855]

Yesyesyes. Thank u.

[@imogenmorris6011]

This is so good!

[@danivida5928]

I wish i could meet you personally Sir

[@walter4181]

Kenny I don’t understand how on other videos you say don’t give up on your child. Yet when you told your child they didn’t have to come with you any more, is that not the definition of giving up? I’m so confused can you please help me understand because that sounds very backwards and contrary. Thanks in advance and sorry if this sounds like a criticism.

[@kennyweiss]

I don’t hear it as a criticism. You might have to listen to it again. I think you missed that I was allowing my child to do what they think is best for them. That’s love. I’m not controlling them to give me what I want, I’m honoring what they believe is their authentic voice, the door is always open but it’s their choice. If I chase them down and demand a relationship, I’m controlling and manipulating them for my own benefit. That’s not parenting that’s not love.

[@sherrymechum7102]

Sorry that happened to you but I could never give up parental rights, I would take another avenue. My father left and I wish he would not have and I’m 54, yours will come back, don’t they see your videos. You have to remember, they have your DNA as well, at least one will, I will pray for you

[@erickrichter210]

Sorry for your pain. I'm going through it too. I've gotten back 3 kids last year who I had not seen in months. We're going on 6 months now of them voluntarily getting in my car and us having visits according to the court order. I haven't seen my 17 year old in over two years. I have adult children I've not seen in over 3 years. I have to disagree with you. I don't believe e we can take what alienated children say at face value. Your children want to be with you. But if they are minors, you cannot give them the choice. They don't want to make adult decisions. If it's going to be their choice, they have to choose to be with that other parent or else they are in trouble. If authorities choose for them, they are released from their loyalty bond. They feel more free. If yours is a min or, you need to make sure she follows the court order and hold the ex accountable. Your giving child choice will be used against you as if you don't lo e the child, i believe. Yes there's stress for the child.....easier to not be with you in one respect in that mom doesn't give e so much pressure stress. But child needs you, the healthier parent. The other is abusive. I say, if it's a minor....dont give child the choice. It's not their decision and they don't want to make adult decisions. Love you bro

[@joegranillo7216]

This is soo wierd!! My alienating POS, ex wife has CPSD, (she never told therapists) I met her as she began her therapy for rape by her boyfriend at the time 😏 yup she got legal status from being a fake victim. Now she put a false RO (silver bullet) and deleted me from everything! I feel for every one that suffers through alienation.

[@privatez6967]

PTSD

[@sherrymechum7102]

Give them something that she can’t, not $

[@kimparke6653]

Dr. Childress is the authority on pas. Everyone else puts money ahead of children and their safety

[@vickiwithani9857]

A very big part of the problem is that the courts and judges appear to ignore or are oblivious to it.😢 they do not seem to care about the harm that is being done to these children, and they are the ones who can stop the abuse...

[@angelasmiley5000]

They participate in it, they are aware that they do. They have seared their conscience in this area. Their moral compass is gone, because they supposedly have to do it when it comes to supporting CPS ripping children away from good loving parents.

[@ChelleMEis]

100%. I swear I just wrote the same thing on a similar post.

[@jarudolphesq]

They know they can’t fix it so they dump and dash. Courts are jammed.

[@kristihutter7499]

My heart aches for anyone going through this, thank you for addressing this issue... Parental Alienation was a spiritual battle for me, good vs evil, once I understood I just focused on being patient, kind and being a good example to our son. I know he is not to blame for "acting" like he hated me...The hard part is taking responsibility for being in a relationship with a person who could use (hurt/manipulate/brainwash) our child to get back at me...I was lucky because I had hope, that was by the grace of God...

[@Hedge_ofthe_earth_fund]

I feel rejected and I was mad at my kids at first but I’m so glad I’m getting information about the truth. I’m so glad that I didn’t take my anger out on my kids because I was rejected and mad but I know it’s not them. They are not acting like they really feel and they need help to. I have always been able to connect with them and just recently it has started with them completely ignoring me and lying to me for my ex wife. I thought the divorce would make things better but things have gotten worse. She takes out her anger on the kids trying to hurt me and if I had known this, I would’ve stayed with her like I did before just sucking it up the just to hold everything together.

[@JPenticton]

I just found out about what my current partner 🤦‍♀️ has been telling my teen daughter for years, and he even told her that if she tells me then I will get mad at him and call police and lie to police that he hit me. He has never hit me. Nor would it ever ever dawn on me to claim that. Only reason I found out about this was I caught my daughter drinking a cooler in her room and because I knew that was not congruent with the person she was I pressed her and turns out she has been secretly drinking, sometimes until she throws up, and it was because of the stress of what her dad had been telling her for the past 4 years. It apparently began on Christmas Day. I work shift work so he only did it while he was alone with her. I knew he was an evil person but I thought he loved our daughter enough not to hurt her. I can’t believe I subjected my child to this type of person. To make this worse, I work in child protection and would think I would know allllllll the warning signs. I f-d up everything and now my daughter is paying the ultimate price. Tomorrow is the first psychology appointment. I hope she can get on a path to healing.

[@recoveringsoul755]

My children were turned Now my siblings are helping. Nobody will talk to me and I suspect the children aren't being allowed to speak. Or else They hold some power over them. They aren't children any more.

[@adventurouspanda9110]

It really really is 💯% a spiritual battle.

[@ginnybenett428]

I have same situation- I’m holding onto hope and have come to realize the problem is bigger than me, I have no control over my DIL mental constant emotional disregulation.

[@tinman10]

My son is 25. I last saw him when he was 6 months old. The hurt never lessens

[@Ranaelibrik]

💞

[@jleach3413]

I pray that he gets curious about you. Xoxo ❤️

[@r.f.9872]

Damn, wish you well

[@anoushiravannarvani5857]

I haven't see my 20 year old for 2 months...doing crazy...I feel for you.

[@shelibreen2029]

I just came across this video. Thank you for sharing your story and suggestions in navigating through this nightmare. I'm 5 1/2 yrs into no contact with my now 20 yr old daughter. The pain is unbearable and throws me into such a deep depression. I'm watching videos and reading up on parental alienation as much as I can so I can better understand what is happening. I cried with you during this video. God bless you 🙏 ❤

[@therange4033]

Sheli, you are not alone. Its awful but it wont kill you.... unless you let it. Much love.

[@fayebeinlich8657]

Ditto on your comment. Only difference is my daughter is 43 years old. Now what to do?

[@shannonstarcher4457]

I’ve just listened to this for the first time. I am crying in my kitchen. “.. the children attach to the abusive parent, and reject the safe, loving one…” My 20 year marriage ended 5 years ago. Our four children are the greatest loves of my life. Parental alienation, coupled with a diagnosed sociopathic narcissist and corrupt/uniformed legal system is Nothing short of standing in a raging fire, watching as your own skin drips off your bones, knowing you are dying, yet surrounded by water, paralyzed and unable to save yourself. My four children have come back, unhealed and have triggers, therefore leading to periods of silent treatment. Two of them are very much still in survival mode . The most difficult part is hearing their memories and how delusional they really are . I understand they were programmed for 3 +years while alienated from me and continue to be. through my healing and heartbreak -I continue to choose love, and choose them. My hope is eventually they will see how to be a parent, and that love is a choice-a decision you make with no reward and in the ugliest of circumstance, and that mom is safe and mom loved me-that mom chose me. Every.Single.Time.❤.

[@jesper1406]

25 years ago I went through a divorce. My kids are 35 and 33, and have in all 5 kids . My grandchildren, that I have never seen. Just this year I have given up connecting to any of them. It's just too big... Now I'm terminally ill, and I will focus on giving myself the love I need for the rest of my life... 😔

[@jamsey3298]

Hugs ❤

[@kellidean7577]

God Bless you! I went to prison for 3 years when mine were little. Have been making up for it for the last 15 years to no avail.

[@roseasher9487]

God bless you and may God bless you with peace for the remaining days that you have left. I promise you unfortunately the kids will regret it when you are gone. I am a step mom. My husband is a sweet man and never questions his daughter he just loves her when he does get to see her and has never confronted the mom. I hope that you find not only peace but Grace for the days that you have left. I promise to pray for you.❤

[@7oclockmiracles88]

I’d encourage you to look into Sue Morter. Her work is outside the box. HOWEVER, she can truly help you heal your body and soul on an earthly level and for me personally-Jesus on a spiritual level. Couldn’t get through the day without him.

[@7oclockmiracles88]

You ARE NOT ALONE OR REJECTED BY US!!!

[@akingturtle]

My ex wife is 10/10 the worst parental alienator to have ever lived. My children who I had a authentic, normal relationship with 11 month's ago dont even want to greet me today. Their anxiety levels have increased, school progress hindered etc. I could never as a father just leave my kids to the mother. Would you leave your kids with a rapist? Why would anyone decide to leave their child with somebody that commits a violent abuse of a minors psychological and emotional state! It's hard to stay. Hard to fight. But as their father it's the only option and I will overcome this challenge for the sake of my children's wellbeing and safety. Thought's and prayers are with every parent experiencing parental alienation. Take one day at a time and leave no stone left unturned. Aluta continua!!

[@njstone9]

This is exactly how I feel.

[@akingturtle]

It's now been 18 months since the separation and alienation started. I've won in court and after an assessment was done, the boys are confirmed to be severely alienated. We've been attempting therapy and reversal of the alienation now for 3 months. It has not been a linear improvement at all. In fact, things have regressed. I've recently listened to a recording of my 9 year old screaming at his mother, swearing, he has been attacking her and more. This boy was a calm, soft, respectable and respectful boy prior to alienation. He sounded like a possessed child that I hardly recognised. Swearing, violent outbursts. Anyone who tells me that there comes a time where you need to walk away and allow them to return does not know what they're talking about. I'm a die hard father. I will not leave my sons. I will get them the help and therapy whatever the cost. He is 9 now. I can still save his childhood and ensure he grows up to be who he is truly meant to be. His lovely authentic self. All prayers go out to the parents enduring this!!! God bless.

[@njstone9]

My son is 14. The alienation started about 16 or 17 months ago. My ex is trying to take him back to her home country and this is the wedge she is using to turn him against me, because I won't let him go, as I know that then I'll have no access to him at all. What you said about your child being unrecognisable really resonates with me. I've tried multiple psychologists but with no breakthrough so far. If my son ever starts to become closer to me, the next time I see him he's been freshly radicalised against me once again. The pain I'm going through is just unbearable. No one should have to endure this.

[@DS8050-c3w]

I once heard it say " to ignore evil is to become accomplice to it" no one should retaliate I understand that but no one should stop fighting and stand up for truth and to defend those who are too weak to defend themselves, the alternative is hell, evil gets bigger if you choose to look the other way, we leave innocent people in hell longer than its necessary and sometimes the damages is irreparable.

[@nancychandler768]

“Parenting is not a 0 to 18 contract.” I keep telling myself that we signed up for life. Thank you for the validation and the encouragement. ❤

[@sarajosh7261]

Yes that is what my eldest sisters thought me ,thanks to them I want be there for them for life , with ups and downs

[@sherrymechum7102]

My child is 16 so pretty soon he needs to know the truth, it’s child neglect to not teach and make them aware of dangers in the world even if it’s their parent. I do agree to try and stay positive and never blame the child when they’re being controlled by th np

[@millenials_best]

God bless you Kenny. Your sincerity is immensely appreciated.

[@kennyweiss]

Thank you😁

[@jacquelinevd977]

Very brave of you to come forward! I cried 3 days in a row as my daughter suffered as well. At least I admitted it and started working on myself. Now our bond is closer than ever. My daughter didn't forgive me instantly. I had to proove myself and time is healing! Because of my devouring mom, I suffered from childhood trauma and went no contact with my narc sister. My daughter went no contact with her aunt 1 5 year ago.

[@talirubinnow]

Thank you for this Lost all my 3 kids in 2019 In the beginning I couldn’t Fight because I knew I wasn’t the perfect mother But as I day deep I realize that I was the safe one I am still so broken so I will just keep praying for them to find their way out of his hold.

[@hannaheye]

There is a lot you can do even from afar!

[@itsinthewords]

@@hannaheye I don't have it in me...yet...still licking my wounds.

[@meghannhenley]

Keep ur head up…. One day we will have them back and they will know the truth.

[@zifangkb2061]

Yes. I stop fighting and fighting is not healthy anyway. Being a good role model is a test, and we can grow through it even though Ignorance of the legal and psychological treatment system could also be very harmful. I feel so sorry for the child to go through it. We need to work together to treat this sickness and self healed in society as targeted parents. Thank you for sharing with us. We love you! ❤

[@meghannhenley]

I watched this and I felt like I’d had a ton of bricks taken off of me. I also felt a wave of guilt for trying to beg my boys and chasing them at games them running from me. Me sitting and not knowing any better as the alienator drilled him and I and out so much on him. I listen to the recordings and it breaks my heart. When I watched ur videos and I backed off. They started coming to me as secretly as they could. Blowing me a kiss ect. Now I’m so happy. It’s time for me to try to get them home my baby told me they are ready to come home now. They just keep heads down to stay outta trouble. So now I’m working on getting the resources to try to just see now they are older.

[@Al-nq6nf]

Wow. This video has blown my mind, it is both so painful but also so necessary. You can only be right, but yet I want to believe that we can have some hope that our children will be willing, consciously willing to be in touch with us. How despairing can it be otherwise?

[@cmajor8802]

I appreciate you sharing your honest self reflections and knowledge acquired on this matter. I'm the parent being alienated. I feel that no one understands how difficult and heartbreaking this situation is unless they have experienced it. I'm doing my best. Keep sharing. You're helping a lot of people.

[@kennyweiss]

You are so welcome!

[@deannahafsasalam5784]

😥😥😔😔 I'm experiencing this right now. She is 8 yrs old and this entire situation has devastated me. Thank you so much God sent this video to me at the right time. I was feeling so low and thinking my daughter doesn't love me. She even told me she didn't like me.

[@laurarominger2073]

❤

[@staceytunstill4041]

My son told me it was my fault that me and his dad divorced. He said 'I'll never forgive you'. He was 11. Honey, I am so sorry.

[@laurarominger2073]

@@staceytunstill4041 I’m so so sorry. It’s devastating ❤️🙏

[@Llelewynnose]

I’m in it, my 8 year old daughter has so much rage and anger, she hits me nearly every day, she says she hates me as soon as I try to get her to take a shower, change or do schoolwork., belittles and insults me. I walk on eggshells, Her Dad is Disney Land, enmeshed with her. He shuts me down to have convos about her, get on the same page to create structures, tells me I’m incompetent, autistic, don’t realize my impact on others. He indulges her whims-few limits. If I try to parent I get undermined. Im financially dependent. I find it hard to connect with her ever since her baby brother was born. I have let her disrespect me, and I don’t know how to reclaim my power. The more she pushes me away I don’t know how to the baby is pushing me away. Mimicking I’m praying for answers. Scared to go to the domestic violence shelter. I don’t trust Dad with her. Their relationship is inappropriate, and enmeshed. I just want to die this is so painful to see her in pain, I know I’ve made mistakes and made her feel unsafe. How can I make her feel safe when I feel so unsafe emotionally?

[@njstone9]

My son repeatedly says he doesn't like me. It hurts so much. It's unbearable.

[@kprince1131]

I stumbled onto your videos yesterday and I’m thankful. Your real and raw emotion is like a breath of fresh air for me. I’m in a situation similar to yours with grown children and it doesn’t get easier. Thank you for your honesty and helping me to start understanding how I can save my sanity and my children’s. I feel like someone else gets the pain and I’m not alone. I just want to do what’s in my children’s best interest. Bless you and your children.

[@kennyweiss]

Thank you so much!!

[@CaitFinnegan-Grenier]

You are so REAL. Thank you.

[@marisena8516]

I've been making that 6th mistake, trying to show/tell the truth. Set the record straight. It is so difficult to watch this happen and hear the things he's telling me that his dad says about me! Almost 2 years of it so far.

[@fffrfrw]

it is the disgusting legal system that is responsible for this problem

[@angelinacsanchez6602]

Thank you so much!!! This beast almost killed me. I’m in therapy now and being educated is the answer. You are a true warrior! Your heart shows so clearly. The more we spread the truth, the more chains will be broken.!!!!!! Thank you again!

[@ketomania5426]

I am so hopeful our kids will one day have their eyes open to the truth and they return to us. We will have to stay strong until that day, whether it comes or not. For now, it is so good to know we are not alone.

[@lauratruthseekingWarrior]

My son just started alienating me over 2 years ago. HE is 27, I'm 61. I miss him every single day, my only living child. 😪 we were so close before he was put on schizophrenia meds, and before and even after the divorce in 2012.

[@noneyabeeysnass8283]

I disagree with leaving your child over the co-dependent description. You should be co-dependent about your child. That’s natural. If a parent makes you fight to parent, then they can pound sand- I’m still going to parent however I feel is best. I’ll fight for my child and outlast the other parent. I’m also supportive without being judgmental, of a parent making the decision they believe is best because not all situations are the same…

[@amandarocca4276]

I personally agree to not give up. Every situation is different. What he's saying is, the Alienating NPD parent will win because of the fact they do not care and will weaponoze the child until the very end (these kids end up destroyed). That's what he's saying. However we also can't leave kids in the hands of an abuser. I can't say the answer for every situation. For me, it's was a year of court, forensic psychologists, wilderness camp, therapy etc etc etc. now, 5 years later I've had my son back but he's struggling coming to terms w the aftermath and scars. they feel guilt. they feel confused, numb. they can no longer trust reality of what they thought they knew. It's brainwashing and them some. never give up, educate yourself as much as possible. know that experts don't always share the same opinions. And every situation is unique but share the same evil.

[@Janisg616]

If your adult or minor child would join a religious cult, it would not be in the best interest of the child to leave him alone. I would compare alienating parent to a cult leader, and child is a victim to that cult. I think that giving up the fight is not in the best interest of the child, it's might validate alienators message, that you don't care about your child. You are leaving the child to the abusive parent for further brainwashing. In case of a court order you cant do much, you have to follow it. But if according to the court order child has to spend time with you but prefers not to do that, I don't think that giving him choice not to see a healthier parent ever again is in the best interest of the child.

[@ladyk2002]

you look great in that suit. Royal blue is one of my favorite colors. 🤔 I wonder because of the level of trauma some of us travel to find the skills to navigate parenting. Growing up in a traumatic child hood.. I searched for what life could look like and had to accept all the imperfections despite of what I wanted. I so appreciate your honesty and yes letting go hurts and the helplessness we feel , one day it will all make sense. I am so blessed to let go and the relationship I have with my kids doesn't look like I would want but it sure is good to see them when they want. Thanks Kenny.. I appreciate your open , kind heart

[@jessgraves83]

I texted my adult son periodically for two years. He came home this summer. Come to find out, I was blocked the entire time. The texts were for me, not for him, in the end. He came home when he was ready; when his dad discarded him permanently and my son finally saw him for who he was. It truly has to be about them.

[@marisena8516]

Hugs to you ❤

[@randpherigo9724]

ive been texting over a year.. no reply. his mom prolly has me blocked

[@jos2701]

My ex is trying to alienate my son (20 yrs old) from me. He abused both kids, and now my son lives with him. In my divorce papers, it clearly states that neither parent can speak poorly of the other, guess what the ex is doing, I know what he's saying - I have evidence. My son visits periodically, but it's awkward. He barely replies to my texts. We used to have a really close relationship. My hope is that one day, both my kids sees what their father is doing, but I'm afraid I'll be the one completely cut out of their lives. I have nightmares about it. All that said, I understand what you're all feeling. I hope your kids see through it all and come back to each of you.

[@sherrymechum7102]

So glad he come home

[@sherrymechum7102]

You give up parental rights, I can’t listen to you any more after that

[@margaretbradley6693]

Well, it is a completely abnormal situation. Any parent that does this is supremely dysfunctional. It causes potentially severe psychological damage to the children involved for the rest of their lives. This is well documented and the legal system must educate itself. Alienating parents do not love their children. They weapoize them. I experienced it in my own childhood. Yet, I had the wherewithal at nine to see the truth....

[@elainesmith5313]

This is very validating for me I was married to a Vulnerable Covert Narcissist for 45 yrs His attachment to his Mother was absolutely unbelievable . He died this year, her jealously of me had been apparent for May years . Since he died she has discarded me...thsnk God. No contact for me is a blessing . He lived a miserable life, for 67 yrs. There was No Way for him to break free. She absolutely drained him dry of emotion. He had nothing left to give his own family. You are right!! Totally Evil! Have recovered... But still much to work out emotionally. Thank you!

[@musickluver666]

You are selling solutions to a problem you haven't solved!! Is there any level of HARM the other parent can subject them to that would require your intervention? You seem to be talking about leaving them with a person you call diabolical to fend for themselves!! How is that the best solution?? I wish you the best and I appreciate you sharing your pain so honestly. I agree with many of your suggestions but damn your advice is befuddling. It is to leave child with abuser because they can't possibly understand what is happening to them and you can't save them. So you truly believe your remote abstract modeling is going to land with them and shape them over the close contact hands on sculpting that the abuser is doing? Again I see your pain and feel that you sincerely want to help other parents through this painful process. I just don't know that how to quit lovingly and leave them in a dangerous emotional environment is truly best for them. God bless you and any parent that ever experiences this trauma!

[@LoveAndPeace5D]

Yes I agree. Also because children are brainwashed to hate the other parent, it's not what they truly feel inside, which is empty and longing for a healthy parent.

[@IsHeARealOneVadaRealMC]

This was hard to hear... I was a single dad for 9 years before I got married and I've always had full custody of my daughter who is now 15. I technically still do. However, the last month has been very hard for reasons I won't explain in this comment section. I do think that at some point the outreach becomes more about us than our child(ren). If I hadn't already gone through so many hours of therapy, I don't think that I would accept that statement. But I do believe it to be true.

[@farzanajumaye3822]

May God bless and reward you immensely for your work of simplifying those complicated psychological concepts and including the spiritual aspects of human relationships.

[@morrisgunnells1834]

Thanks Kenny for this video. You were teaching us how to be vulnerable and honest and humble towards our kids and everyone. This is so important for all of us to learn.

[@jameswilson1884]

Your a wise man. Thank you for sharing your wisdom

[@kimparke6653]

Parental Alienation is the nongift that keeps on taking . It affects generations going forward and grandchildren lose loving grandparents. While I agree with much of what you're saying, this destroys extended family. It's too much pressure for children, inner child. This potentially feeds sex trafficking of children. #joysmithfoundation

[@margyrowland]

Yes, anything that undermines the healthy function of family makes children vulnerable and parents weak.

[@zifangkb2061]

🙌

[@margyrowland]

THANK YOU 🙏 I’m an alienated Grandmother loving them silently from afar

[@kennyweiss]

You’re welcome

[@emj3677]

I waited until my children were grown before leaving my husband. It was during the divorce he did a severe character assassination of me. Its been over 15 years since I have seen two of my children. I clung to the one grown daughter who I didn't realize was collaborating with him to 'smear me more'. I have rebuilt my life and have sought counseling over this, my heart still has a hole in it, filled with hurt that can't be filled. I try to 'look on but it is so, so hard. My heart breaks for all the other parents going through this. Thank you for your contribution to us parents suffering in pain. ❤

[@Hedge_ofthe_earth_fund]

I wish I waited! Big mistake. She has been so much worse.

[@laurarominger2073]

My heart breaks for you. I understand ❤

[@emj3677]

Thank you for your kind responses. 💕❤

[@SashaTibelius]

Thank you for the video. I’m watching your channel from Russia.

[@kennyweiss]

You’re welcome… Stay warm. :-)

[@SashaTibelius]

@@kennyweiss I will. I’m alienated father of son (15 years old now). In 2019 (Los Angeles) I received PRO (permanent restraining order) because of false accusations in domestic violence. Since February 2019, I don’t have any information about my son.

[@nikkichadsey4712]

Spot on brother I completely agree with everything you've said. I too am a step parent who is going through this with 2 adolescent boys . It's ( I think) even more difficult to navigate for us because we have a terminally ill son also who is 24 hr care which throws a giant wrench into the whole dynamic of our family. I'm trying to be a father for them and spend time with them but also trying to keep my youngest alive and happy. It can get overwhelming at times but... the only way to even have a chance is to pray and let God guide me. I'll never give up on them tho.

[@aaronschmidt169]

Its evil, pure evil, a malignant narcissists is a cancer

[@privatez6967]

You are a good man and you are spot on to use the term "diabolical" when describing these situations. These parents know exactly what they are doing. Dr Childress sums up how to tell who the alienated parent is. When the children "hate" one parent that is a sure sign that it is THAT parent is the one who is the VICTIM of parental alienation.

[@therocknrollcook]

This is epic. Kenny, you are totally concious !!! You’ve taught me so much. Blessings and ❤️

[@laurarominger2073]

First time listening. You are incredibly fair and always take children’s needs above everything. The targeted parent makes mistakes. We’re human. But we can learn to do better. God bless you. ❤🙏

[@emilybreeding3518]

This is the 2nd video I've watched of yours and I'm so grateful I've found you. We've been dealing with this for over a year now, when the ex tried to sue us, and ever since I've been researching alienation and narcissism. You've hit home on so many points and you've allowed us to see this from an entirely different angle. I hope and pray we will be able to do a counseling session with you. This is a tremendous and emotional revelation and you came to us when we needed it the most. Thank you.

[@carolnahigian9518]

my4 were brain wash by Dad- they all suffer PTSD- if they called me, he withheld FOOD: now all 4 AVOID ME

[@taylorpresley4604]

Incredible and unbelievable isn't it?

[@taraarrington2285]

It's kid of like dogs. The dog that's abused is still loyal to the owner.

[@privatez6967]

Only a sadistic, abusive parent would say to the other parent "you know how much ...... hates you". And that was AFTER I had attempted to take my life a few months earlier.

[@autumnlara3803]

You are my HERO 😭🙏🏼💜💜 alienated mother of 3 children. Currently 12 years. Current ages 17,16&12 . My 16 year old has recently reached out and I’m trying to learn healthy ways the re learn my child and be the safe person for her. She wants to live with me but “doesn’t want to take it back to court” I’m scared this is all a set up or way to keep hurting me. My biological mother and father are the alienating parents/gaurdians. My mother alienated my siblings and I, my father and I and now my own children and I. I just want to break the generational curse. 😭😭😭 thank you for what you do.

[@izzyb1980]

I can’t help but put some blame onto my alienated children. They have their own mind and know what the truth is. They are complicit to a degree with alienating me from them. I’ve had to cope with this as though I’ve lost my children to death. It’s the only way I know I can move forward in my life. Grieving the loss of a living child is the hardest thing I’ve done in my life.

[@ninunife5242]

I understand what you are saying because I've felt that way too. But the problem is that they don't have their own mind. Their minds was stolen. That is the truth. Some things are hard to understand. I'm so sorry that it has come to the point where you have to grieve their loss.

[@HealthyMom247]

@@ninunife5242 I think it's like they are in jail, held captive. They want a relationship but can't have one right now. The children do willingly take part in it, and I think it's their internal predisposition that allows it. At some point they have to take responsibility for their role in it.

[@danequabonner1340]

I'm going through the same thing right now with my 11 yr old. And I cry alll the time because that's exactly what it feels like... mourning a living death smh so sad

[@everettepouncey4049]

You are a very good teacher. I am so grateful for you and your work!!!!

[@petestegler9885]

Cunning, baffling and powerful. It's all part of the same thing. I think you and I are a lot alike and have common backgrounds. I don't think it's impossible to understand, but in my case, it takes everything I have to handle that hurricane in my brain. I don't think I can get a handle on a hurricane, but I can learn how to live with it...sometimes find my way to the eye. Such a sad family dynamic. It hurts everyday and, I too am powerless. My life is bittersweet. Much more bitter these days. Just trying to accept that fact. Trust me...I get the "just too big".

[@MagnificentMartha]

I wish I would have had this information 36 years ago. First ex kidnapped him when he was 2 weeks old and didn't stop taking me to court and stalking me. Every 2 years court for 12 years until I walked away. Then the 2nd ex collaborated with the first when I divorced him and drug out divorce for 4 years. 3 boys.

[@lofimaster]

Thank you for this video. It’s been very helpful and gave me different perspectives. I’ll definitely watch your other videos.

[@drdadcamp]

Great video, Kenny. I first came upon this in April 2023. 35:20 very touching. Great concepts such as alienated kids will align with an unhealthy alienator. Kids deserve to live in reality, so stay strong, healthy, well, for yourself and for your children.

[@sn8323]

Beautiful message. Thank you for uplifting and giving truth and hope.

[@dinamichelle5007]

You are absolutely amazing. Thank you so much for this. I needed this reassurance today!! God bless you all.

[@anthonyward2594]

I like your videos. However, I was going to give up as you have suggested. I thank God that I didn't. My youngest daughter is healthy because I fought for her I am absolutely certain. She needs my involvement in her life and she has flourished. Fathers offer challenge to children. Challenge to become stronger in body, mind, and spirit. Stronger in character. My youngest is not medicated, yet my other two children and my ex-wife are. I do not see my two older children and I am absolutely convinced that their downward trajectory is because they are cut off from me and my love and what I offer. Fight for your children! Yes, the court system and lawyers can be diabolical, and yes the cards are stacked against you, but fight non the less. Don't be 'combative' in how you conduct yourself, but fight. Be gracious and loving in your manner and all your interactions with your ex, your children, and everyone else. But fight. I would have never forgiven myself had I not. I have lost more than can be expressed, but at least, and as imperfect as I am, I tried, and am trying to pull my children from the fire.

[@sherylannejacobs7235]

Yes, #1 is me all the way. It takes years to understand how deep and diabolical and evil this is. My love for my kids and theirs for me, I thought was unbreakable. I was wrong.