The Anti-Trans ‘Cult’ | From Trans to Transphobic

[@rumblin_cynth_rampo374]

More than 35 years ago when I was on the cusp of transition a wise old transwoman told me "It is your journey and if along the way you discover the path you are on is not for you it is OK to turn round and find another path. No-one has the right to criticise that decision as they are not you."

[@ville-c4u]

Don’t translate.. Ég elska að nauðga konum á meðan þær gráta og biðja mig um að hætta því myndböndin mín eru betri………. .

[@TheModdedwarfare3]

Very sagely advice. I hope you and she had a wonderful 35 years since then.

[@CorwinFound]

For me it was reconceptualizing the decision from, "Do I want to transition to live the rest of my life as a man?" To, "Do I want to go on testosterone and experience those changes knowing I can stop at any point?" The first question is huge, existential and filled with piles of uncontrollable variables. The second is a much more limited and controlled question and far fewer variables. It didn't remove my doubts and fears but it made them manageable. The same for top surgery. Obviously there are some things that are irreversible. And I decided in the end that even if any of it was a mistake, they were mistakes I could live with. What I couldn't live with was the regret of not trying. 5 years in and no regrets.

[@rumblin_cynth_rampo374]

@@TheModdedwarfare3 sadly she is no longer with us, she got covid and didnt make it. She made it to 85. Me Im going strong and loving being alive.

[@rumblin_cynth_rampo374]

@@CorwinFound Thats a really good way of reconceptualizing it. We all make mistakes, the secret it to learn from them, move on and not make the same mistake again. My only regret was I didnt do it sooner. I know that if I hadnt transitioned when I did, I would be living a life full of regret and self bitterness.

[@TopHatLemon_lime]

As someone who went from trans, to back to my assigned gender, to gender fluid, to non-binary, and has had a very very convoluted gender exploration, I don’t think that detransitioning is a problem, I think it’s a good thing that people feel comfortable to explore their gender.

[@FrozEnbyWolf150-b9t]

This is more common than people think. Gender identity can change over time, and genderfluidity can occur over years and years, not just days. Just as it's not uncommon for nonbinary people to medically transition until they get the changes they want, then stop. There is no one right way to transition.

[@SchoolAccount-k3q]

Of course, I also don’t think the act of detransitioning is inherently a bad thing. It’s when they turn around back on the community and spread anti trans rhetoric. It’s also just that transphobes outside of the community use the 1% to validate their claims.

[@Dovah_Slayer]

​@@FrozEnbyWolf150-b9t this is so true but the transphobic cult doesn't have enough brain cells to think logically

[@ville-c4u]

Don’t translate.. Ég elska að nauðga konum á meðan þær gráta og biðja mig um að hætta því myndböndin mín eru betri………. .

[@herrickinman9303]

Why does it need to be "explored"? And explored how? By mutilating your body with drugs and surgeries?

[@PixelPenguin87212]

I work for a medical malpractice defense firm and we're currently defending some doctors who wrote letters of support for a trans man's top surgery, and now the individual has detransitioned and is suing the doctors and surgeon for giving them the surgery they fought to get 😑 while also going on shows and writing articles about how they shouldn't have let her get this surgery as an adult. it's so disappointing and frustrating that just because it wasn't right for you, you want to speak out against everyone having that surgery and take their right away to?

[@DryPaperHammerBro]

Apparently

[@Giuliana-w1f]

"how dare you give me the treatment i consented for while fully informed of the effects" Seriously tho, it's sad that it wasn't the right thing for some of the people that got it, but _suing_ someone for it is crazy.

[@armie4172]

Seriously, this person was fully aware of what the results would be. It’s too bad it was wrong for that individual, but it’s definitely *right* for most people who decide to get that surgery and it’s absolutely nobody’s business what anyone- especially adults do to their own bodies. It’s absolutely nobody else’s business. Are they also advocating against cis women who get enhancement surgeries that they later regret? No, they aren’t. Because they know it’s not their business. But somehow it becomes their business when the person getting the gender affirming care is trans. It’s so damn ridiculous.

[@evilgingerminiatures5820]

@@PaulVogler-sr1iq this is vexatious litigation & should be kicked out of court

[@M_M_ODonnell]

@@PaulVogler-sr1iq As an excuse to make care unavailable to trans folks generally? I guess that's the standard position of transphobic liars, though -- "I'd much rather thousands of trans folks be denied care than one person who isn't trans or can be browbeaten and threatened into saying they aren't trans changing their mind after we pushed to make sure they couldn't explore multiple possibilities at length."

[@InnocentNoodle]

I'm a detransintioner I was living with my transphobic family when I first came out and went back in the closet because I didn't feel safe and didn't believe anyone could love me As soon as I was out of that situation, I restarted my transition and I'm happier than I've ever been :) I didn't start medically transitioning til I was 25 My doctor wouldn't approve any hormones or surgery til I got therapy I sat on a waitlist for a year, got a year of DBT and gender therapy, sat on another waitlist for *2 years* for my first surgery and only started HRT last year I'm *still* on a waitlist for my next surgery and I'm almost 29 I live in *Canada* Idk where tf these idiots get it in their heads you can just waltz into a hospital at 8 y/o and walk out an hour later with 6 surgeries and a years worth of HRT 💀

[@armie4172]

Exactly. Getting gender affirming care-especially surgery-is in no way easy and the person getting it is always made fully aware what they are doing. It’s each individual’s own business. I can never understand people who care what others are doing to their own bodies. It’s helped so many people feel more in line with their bodies.

[@Sly-Moose]

Heck. I WISH I could have gotten those surgeries as a teen! 😂 They make it sound like such wish fulfillment, for me personally at least XD

[@MCAlexisYT]

Edit: I'm so used to transphobic detransitioners that I forgot that some people restart their transition after detransitioning. Original comment: > says you're a detransitioner > the rest of the comment implies that you're _not_ a detransitioner Which one are you???

[@rororoboat]

​@@MCAlexisYT Says that they were transitioning, had to halt the process due to not feeling safe in their environment, then restarted transition once they were in a safe place to do so. If they were initially on T and then stopped taking it, that would indeed cause medical detransitioning. If they weren't on T, likely they were still taking other steps, such as using male pronouns, presenting as masculine, etc. Transitioning doesn't only mean surgeries and hormone therapy. It is an extremely social process as well.

[@DiabeticFrog]

@@MCAlexisYT Detransitioner who retransitioned later on I think

[@phaIIicaIIyimpaired]

We don't make fun of or ostracize people who regret their hip replacement surgeries - an elective surgery with a much higher regret rate than transition. It's okay to realize transition doesn't work for you, no matter the reason.

[@SomeoneIusedtoknow-s1f]

Be careful using elective here. Lots of people misunderstand elective, elective surgery is just any surgery that is planned in advance and isn't due to emergency. Elective doesn't mean necessary, or not necessary. Many elective surgeries are for cosmetic purposes, but countless are necessary for health and life. Many times hip replacements are needed, not wanted. You either lose your ability to walk permanently, due to severe arthritis, or you get the surgery. Most of the reasons people get hip replacement is due to severe limitations, disabilities, extreme pain that can require opioids to endure, etc. Hip replacements can be the alternative to shortening your life due to the issues caused by not getting the surgery. I'm saying this because people often use medically necessary surgeries and compared them to cosmetic due to misunderstanding the wording used. Many people view elective surgery as cosmetic or "wanted but not needed." This is massively incorrect.

[@SomeoneIusedtoknow-s1f]

I also said what I said because necessary for life and balance of life... A lot of people use elective to dismantle the need for trans surgeries, due to the misunderstanding the term and thinking that elective means unnecessary or cosmetic only, my statement above isn't an attack just a clarifier for the inevitable jerks that show up.

[@phaIIicaIIyimpaired]

@SomeoneIusedtoknow-s1f unfortunately true :/

[@phaIIicaIIyimpaired]

@SomeoneIusedtoknow-s1f I appreciate your addition, because you're absolutely correct 👌

[@InnocentNoodle]

LITERALLY👏 THIS👏

[@olivergardenss]

detransitioners were never a threat. they're going down their own journey of self discovery, and that's more than ok! seeing the hate from both sides can be really demotivating but always remember were all human and in this together ♡

[@ninjawizard3865]

@olivergardenss Can't be in this together when detransitioners are ostracized by their own community can we? 🤔

[@merg-vh5sx]

History revisionism. They were reviled and bullied. It hasn't always been okay.

[@Totally-Real-Catgirl]

@@merg-vh5sx They're not revising history, they acknowledged that their was hate from both sides.

[@merg-vh5sx]

@Totally-Real-Woman There wasn't hate on both sides, assuming that means hate from trans people as well as everyone else. Gender criticals have supported detransitioners from the beginning. Everyone who wasn't a TRA felt for them. The TRAs bullied them terribly.

[@ihateunicorns867]

Whenever someone drops the 'regretting gender-affirming surgery' argument, I always respond with "If you're that worried about that 1%, you should be going out of your mind about the 25% who regret knee surgery. This should take priority. Let's start there and work downwards". From that point on with every new thing they say, I respond with "But WHAT ABOUT THE KNEES??? We need to do something about the knees!".

[@Mysterious_Chaos_Wolf]

I do also use the knee surgery comparison a lot because my mom got hers replaced lmao. It actually really helped make it click for her that it wasn’t a problem because of how comparably easy it was for her to get her surgery than for me to get hrt.

[@-cet]

Ok cool and all, but why do you hate unicorns

[@novawilde2096]

I do think the 1% need love though. As to the 25% who regret knee surgury. I do worry that many De transitioned are not really not trans but are in a situation where they are still trans but there situation is no longer safe, or they lost to much support, or something...

[@Mysterious_Chaos_Wolf]

@@novawilde2096 oh yeah they absolutely need and deserve support, I’m pretty sure the original comment was referring to people who, detransitioner or not, are using the excuse of caring about surgery regret rates in order to spread transphobia.

[@mind_palace]

But the kneesss, think about the kneess😂😂

[@theundeadcactus6194]

My only regret with my transition is not doing it sooner

[@ScarletTiger109]

@@Manaward stop promoting violence.

[@-cet]

@@Manaward yeah, statistic of happy trans people.

[@mo0nflowersart]

Me too how did i not realize this in high school.

[@WingedEspeon]

Me too.

[@Rein_]

definitly knew at 11 but could only come out at 24. now living my best life, but sometimes morn the youth I lost to depression.

[@ThumbWithAFace]

One of my good friends started hormones around the same time I did, and after a few months, he realized the more feminine features he was developing were making him uncomfortable- so he detransitioned. I live happily as a trans woman, and he lives happily as a cis man. Still very much friends and support each other. Like everything, not every treatment will work for everybody. We're all in this journey of self-discovery together.

[@JaniceinOR]

I sometimes wonder whether there would be value to researchers talking with people who thought they were trans, passed all the current benchmarks for receiving gender affirming care as a trans person, then realized they were not actually trans. Maybe they could fine tune the questions even more, so fewer people regret either transitioning or not transitioning. (Definitely being careful that they do not block more trans people than help non-trans people!) Do you think your friend would want to talk to researchers about his experience?

[@JaniceinOR]

@saoirse2963 Once someone reaches puberty, without puberty blockers they will experience some irreversible changes. What is your solution to prevent trans people from going through the wrong puberty?

[@TanyaAppalavich]

⁠​⁠​⁠@@JaniceinORyes we need observable repeatable way to diagnose who is trans and who is not.

[@JaniceinOR]

@saoirse2963 Going through puberty causes irreversible changes. Therefore puberty onset puts time pressure on someone who thinks they may be trans.

[@JeffGunter-c8d]

@@JaniceinORdo you have kids? If so, would you honestly rather have had PBs followed by HRT and surgery rather than have your kids?

[@YoutuberGrudge]

I met a victim of domestic abuse, she was forced to take drugs and testosterone against her will (her words not mine) and was suffering due to that. We met in detox and I actively encouraged her to get as far away from her abuser as possible. She would be counted as a detransitioner but would be the first to stand up for transmen getting access to HRT, even though it was used on her against her wishes. Blocking access to healthcare isn't and never was about protecting kids, adults, etc. It's just bigotry.

[@DivisibleByWaffle]

​​@@nathandavid5886Then those people are terribly misinformed and need to do a better job reaching out to the trans community and understanding us, rather than casting us all as predators and supporting politicians and legslation that are trying to remake the world without us.

[@JoF999]

​@@nathandavid5886 genuine concern for vulnerable people. You mean cis people.

[@n1kogrindraws447]

no, they hold this view because they don't understand the reality of trans people that's all, people put themselves on unhealthy diets or take hormones without a doctor if they are not given access to gender affirming care. Dysphoria does not go away just because people want to, it does not go away with psychological treatment, only medical treatment, of course you can cope with it but it isn't solving a problen

[@n1kogrindraws447]

Not to mention just bodily anatomy, you are talking about young people infantilizing trans people, and there are plenty of middle aged and older people among trans people, also young does not mean stupid, people have the right to make decisions about their bodies based on informed consent, not you, nor anyone else has the right to stop them

[@n1kogrindraws447]

no one has the right to decide for others and control their bodies no matter what opinion you hold

[@Invalidcas]

i never really detransitioned, but i kind of did, i realized i was trans in 2020, then when school started back i met this girl, and we became best friends, and she would makr weird "jokes" about me and my identity, eventually just being blatantly transphobic, if i did something she didn't agree with she'd ignore me and make fun of me, and eventually instead of stopping being her friend like i should have done, i just figured i had to tell people they couldn't call me my old preferred name anymore and not to try to correct anyone on my pronouns because those things set her off. and i even started parroting her beliefs to try and get her to stop making fun of me. at the end of my freshman year, she started ignoring me again, and so i blocked her on everything and went homeschooled. ive been recovering ever since, unlearning and relearning how to live, before her i thought i was nonbinary, and i now know i am a trans man. I can still never use my first preferred name again because of the trauma i have attatched to it, which sucked cause i liked it a lot, i now have found a name that suits me and i love. I've grown to where i now tell people to correct others if they feel like it, because its still hard to do myself, but i have tried a few times. i am doing way better without her.

[@JoF999]

Good for you. She was never your friend, you will meet many wonderful friends who will love and respect you for you.

[@temerianlillies]

as someone who is *vaguely* a detransitoner. i can never understand how certain detransitioners could came to hate something they once found comfort and identity in. even putting aside a lot of them are just grifting and want money, and willing to throw comrades under the bus for money. it's just mind boggling.

[@herrickinman9303]

It must hard, if not impossible, to reverse those surgeries.

[@Giuliana-w1f]

@@herrickinman9303 surgeries usually take years of HRT. And the permanent effects of HRT are fewer than the permanent effects of first puberty (for MtF, breast growth, for FtM, fascial/body hair, voice changes, possible hair loss, and a _specific body part_ growing), not to mention those effects take quite a bit of time, where the person is the most likely to realize if they're not trans, and they were informed of all the possible effects. Regret is already extremely low, and regret for surgeries is even lower; the amount of detransitioners is widely overrepresented, and they're all presented to be because of regret, and resenting the trans community (when that's a small percentage [resent] of a small percentage [regret] of a small percentage [detransition] of a small percentage [trans people]).

[@Giuliana-w1f]

@@ninjawizard3865 not how it works at all. Transition is done at the very least through informed consent. People know what they get into.

[@billder7304]

@@Giuliana-w1f I suppose like ninja alluded to, it may sometimes come down to a difference between being told what they are getting into and actually comprehending the weight of it, which may explain why some of these detransitioners feel betrayed or like they were tricked. The individual misinterpreting or just not fully understanding how these treatments will affect them isn't entirely out of the question which is why it's important to fully explore what the individual wants out of their treatment and why.

[@Jroltn]

They say a lot of homophobes also have internalized homophobia because they're homosexual, like they can't believe that this thing that their religion has described as one of the most shameful sins possible could ever apply to them, so they get extra defensive instead of just laughing it off if they're straight but get mislabeled

[@frankieroseyelashes]

Being in a transphobic and homophobic family is really hard as a trans and pansexual person but your videos make life so much easier and happier❤

[@rdnax92]

8:03 and they didn't clearly ever identify as cis... Detransitioning is sometimes due to lack of support/ acceptance rather than a false self-identification...

[@M_M_ODonnell]

That's the most common reason, even. And while I do think we need to make sure to embrace exploration and acknowledge that some people will have some sort of medical transition before they decide this isn't right for them, the transphobes pushing the "if it's possible for _anyone_ to regret transition, we must ban transition for _everyone_ instead" line also, for the most part, object to the sort of safe exploration that could let people have a stronger sense of whether and how they want to transition. (The transphobes' "solution" to the existence of people who de/retransition is to insist that counseling and therapy must be directed to the sole purpose of enforcing cis identity.)

[@herrickinman9303]

Detransitioning may simply be the result of realizing they cannot pass as a person of the opposite sex.

[@IndrasChildDeepAsleep]

The most common reason actually. Interesting that the media chooses not to show that specific stat to the public...

[@Rein_]

@@IndrasChildDeepAsleep that would mean they should blame society with their hate, instead of an already vulnerable person. one is much easier.

[@rosey7162]

I'm researching detransitioning for my master's thesis, and most of the studies I've encountered don't even define detransitioners as people who have stopped identifying as trans, but include anyone who started transitioning then stopped for ANY reason. It really inflates the numbers. I'm also seeing that most people who detransition are actually supportive of trans rights, tend to identify more as nonbinary than anything else, consider their transition to be an important part of their gender journey, and, importantly, feel ostrisized by both the LGBTQ+ community and by cis straight people. They need our support.

[@asongfromunderthefloorboards]

There is a very strong "transmed to anti-trans detrans" pipeline. Be sure to include an exploration of this.

[@JeffGunter-c8d]

@@rosey7162 that’s really not the impression I got from the Detrans subreddit. Maybe you should take a look 👀

[@kostantza1]

@@asongfromunderthefloorboards Transmed as in people you need to have gender dysphoria in order to be accorded the hormonal therapy and surgeries for a sex change?Those who believe transgenderism is first of all a medical issue, which can imperfectly but acceptably be corrected with the sex change?

[@DinosaurNick]

Me when I hear young: 18 to 20s Transphobes when they hear young: 5 to teens

[@armie4172]

I’m 39 and like anyone younger than around 32 is “young” to me. 😅

[@DinosaurNick]

@@armie4172 I'm 41 and I call anyone under 30 "Kid" lol

[@wmdkitty]

Right?

[@CometAura]

Yet another manipulation tactic from them it seems.

[@LaylaSpellwind]

Mistakes can absolutely happen. But maybe instead of banning trans healthcare, if we increased funding and education around trans people. We'd have an even smaller regret rate, which is already tiny. When I was younger, I couldn't explain my feelings very well, to that end my mother stood in my way when it came to getting the healthcare I needed. But if we lived in a world with better education on the subject and it was seen as less of a taboo. Then I would've been able to start my transition when it would've been most effective. Now I'll need a lot of surgery, for what could've been so much easier. Better education, resources, funding for healthcare. Can save a lot of lives.

[@CorwinFound]

Yes to all of this! Living as a non-passing (but visibly trans) person is really damned hard. The reality is that trans folk sometimes make the decision for certain procedures purely to get closer to passing, to avoid the misgendering, harassment, discrimination and violence.

[@Jroltn]

The worst thing is when the institutions that are supposed to provide a safe and caring space to everyone equally react to trans people as if they're a threat to others around them. That was kinda the case in my school and the reason why a trans person close to me had to wait until graduation to transition, not only because he was still under 18 but also because he needed to physically go to another country where he wouldn't be indirectly told to hide and keep a low profile like he was some kind of criminal for simply wanting to live in his preferred body

[@andrewgreenwood9068]

@@LaylaSpellwind yes. Giving people the opportunity to explore and question their gender without judgement should also allow people to express doubt without the risk of losing access to care.

[@WingedEspeon]

It would also be really nice if society wouldn't be so mean to non passing trans people. I don't have voice dysphoria, and I find voice training very frustrating, but I'm doing it anyway because I'm pretty sure I can achieve passing looks, but I will out myself as soon as I open my mouth. If society was accepting I would just wear striped pink, pastel blue, and white stuff everywhere, making myself visibly trans 24/7. I am proud of who I am, I just don't want to be murdered because of it.

[@LaylaSpellwind]

​@@WingedEspeon Yeah, I don't pass at all, my voice being one of those things that makes anyone over the phone misgender me. I stopped watching a lefty streamer who's name starts with a V, because he said that trans women need to try harder. We shouldn't have to. We should just have to try as hard as we feel we need to. Anything beyond that should be optional. It's our lives, not anyone elses. Also I love Espeon.

[@themystery424]

I know as an adult it doesn't make sense, but as a teenager I fell for that "you just hate the patriarchy" hook, line and sinker. Thankfully I wasn't outwardly transphobic, but it did add a good five years to before I would come out

[@Jroltn]

"you just hate the patriarchy" sounds like another version of adults trying to dismiss every teen experience as "it's just a phase"

[@shadowldrago]

It's worrying how addictive hatred and bigotry is.

[@aesthetxoly]

So called "Christians" when "love thy neighbour":

[@nathandavid5886]

I'm a Christian. Could you clarify your critique so I can respond?

[@ChristianCatboy]

It's bringing enormous disgrace to the faith.

[@herrickinman9303]

You seem to have difficulty expressing yourself in plain English. Is English not your first language?

[@DarthCato]

@@herrickinman9303 Love thy neighbour

[@Miwles]

To the people reading aesthetxoly's comment who aren't particularly gifted with literacy skills, they're saying that many people who claim to be Christians never really follow the simple rule of loving thy neighbor - many Christians will cherry pick particular verses to justify hatred such as homophobia.

[@dylpickled]

I’m a spinal fusion candidate and I’m pretty sure there are higher rates of regret with that (still sometimes necessary) procedure than trans ppl transitioning. I have a lot of empathy for detransitioners, I just hope/wish this empathy also exists for trans ppl

[@zapyoug]

As a trans woman who’s gone through a similar surgery, I can say for sure I’m happier with my hrt than my now metal spine (and yeah the regret rate especially for fusion is really high)

[@aspidoscelis]

I had to fight against doctors who tried to get my father to put me through spinal fusion surgery without my consent when I was a teen. When people talk about "pushing kids to have irreversible procedures they might regret", I'm trans and I experienced that-with spinal fusion. It's a real thing and I think we should be worried about it. It's just not about gender-affirming care.

[@MaaaadCowProductions]

This is something that happens with homosexuality as well. I have seen a fair share of videos that talk about how “Why I stopped being gay” or stuff like that.

[@CircusFoxxo]

Honestly "wow sure smells like nazis in here" is a reasonable tipping point

[@prageruwu69]

hello lgbt people. yesterday i was exactly 7 months on t. 😎

[@Ctrl-Z-Renders]

Happy 7 months on T!

[@internetperson.]

Congratulations on your progress stranger ❤

[@remy2718]

That's awesome! Happy.... mensiversary, I guess? 😂🎉

[@Orinene_]

happy t-day

[@CrimsomGloryXD]

Congrats! now you're about 7 months and 1 day on t

[@Al_Optimist]

I prefer to call it "retransitioning." "Detransitioning" makes it sound like it was a mistake, but for lots of people, it's not.

[@ChristianCatboy]

Agreed!

[@Manaward]

100% IS a mistake which is why your ilk love to log out of life at the end of your "journey". Truth is you'll never find happiness when your entire life is revolved around a lie.

[@granaures4547]

No, the reason why is people like you harassing and abusing us. Peddling hate and then using the end result as "proof" we are wrong while you cheer over another unexisted trans person.

[@roowyrm9576]

I'm 70 this year...in my teens I started to think that I wanted to be male, I liked wearing male clothes, I wanted to be able to live like a man. By the time I came to realise that I didn't want to be male, what I wanted was access to male privilege, to male freedoms. Instead of transitioning I realised that I needed to join other women in fighting for women's freedoms. For me, my desire to transition wasn't based in gender dysphoria.

[@CLOWTISMS]

Fair enough. You’re also proof that this isn’t some new phenomenon like anti trans people try to say.

[@Rein_]

those people would be found during the diagnostic process and wouldn't be given medical intervention. but that isn't a reason to ban trans healthcare for actual trans people.

[@5-Volt]

But.. but Jammi said no one would transition or consider it for that reason.

[@roowyrm9576]

@5-Volt exactly, as soon as I realised that was what I wanted, I changed my mind about transitioning, and joined the feminist fight for autonomy

[@JeffGunter-c8d]

@@Rein_ rubbish. How would a gender affirming therapist find that out?

[@Catie_Joy]

We have seen a VERY similar dynamic play out in anti-abortion circles with “abortion regret” in the US. It’s actually quite uncommon to regret having an abortion, but anti-abortion groups love to trot out a woman who has clearly been traumatized and guilted by the anti-abortion movement to tell the story of why she was evil and sinful for having her abortion and how the ladder needs to be pulled up behind her. The phenomenon of abortion regret is almost entirely fabricated by anti-abortion groups, but has been used for decades to justify restrictions and bans on abortion. I hate that the same tactics are now being used against trans healthcare, from violent threats against clinics and providers to infantilizing patients to misrepresenting “regret rates.” They are absolutely using the same playbook.

[@Ali-cya]

It's the exact same playbook for everything at this point, it's only effective because the playbook preys on poor thinking skills.

[@Sly-Moose]

Trying for another is right there 🫴 It's not like it's the same as a miscarriage, right?

[@Dovah_Slayer]

​@@Ali-cya yeah it's ridiculous how effective this shit is humanity really is getting dumber isn't it?

[@ville-c4u]

Don’t translate.. Ég elska að nauðga konum á meðan þær gráta og biðja mig um að hætta því myndböndin mín eru betri………. .

[@John_Weiss]

Also the same playbook as the ex-gay B.S. from the 1990s. The whole thing has religious-conversion tones. It's the same playbook they use to convert people to their religion, isn't it?

[@felvkitties8]

Living in the US is hell right now. I'm scared for trans or gay people right now. The amount of mental health issues people are having right now and will continue to have is really unacceptable. People shouldn't made to feel like they can't exist! Spread love not hate.

[@Snuzzled]

​@@Manaward you sure have a lot to say for someone who "doesn't care."

[@ScarletTiger109]

@@Manaward stop threatening violence.

[@granaures4547]

Given the attempt to remove marriage equality starting in Idaho, the claim of not caring who people sleep with is a lie.

[@SJames-s4j]

The damage trans ideology is doing to the mental health of vulnerable people is truly horrific.

[@michellelindsell1626]

@felvkitties8 sending much needed💜💜💜 from over 'ere to over there x

[@tiramisunsun]

I think those type of detransintioners may feel a sense of betrayal and loss, since all their efforts ended up with them still not being comfortable with their bodies. It can also impacts their health, as those surgeries are quite big changes, and they need to find a "culprit" to make it easier to process, hence the potential hatred towards trans affirming care and trans people in general. I hope they can heal from that one day and understand that hatred is not going to solve their problem.

[@zephyrwayfarer]

Thanks. I have a de-trans friend and he gets nowhere near enough care so like, this is a great thing to have.

[@granaures4547]

@@zephyrwayfarer he should absolutely get taken good care of.

[@f.r.etling]

12:40 Gender affirming care is not approved by every major medical board. It’s approved by WPATH. UK and US no longer approve

[@okamiangles7121]

This modern witch hunt is getting out of hand!

[@Dovah_Slayer]

It really is and it's just getting worse

[@SamirCCat]

In Sweden where I live there was, in a very popular show, two long programs about detransitioners and the "dangers" of trans health care. They framed it as discovering a chocking truth. I was waiting for a program that showed the other side, you know - trans people who were very happy to transition. It's been 3 years, still hasn't come. Why show those 1% that regretted, and in those 1% only the ones being transphobic?? Where are the rest 99%????

[@PocketKanin]

1:28 I had a therapist when I was in high school who kept telling me about detransitioners…I think she was trying to get me to doubt myself, in the end I do doubt myself on certain things, but not on how I feel about my body/gender

[@MxPotato84]

13-14% people regret hip surgery. I regret getting my gallbladder removed (despite suffering from many American quarter size stones) cuz im no longer able to burn off body fat. And the only consultation i had was about getting the surgery and the process of it. It was NEVER talked about the repercussions of having my gallbladder removed. And i hate that was never talked about and i have gained 50lbs in 13 years since the surgery. I go to the gym, do weight training, calisthenics, and eat healthy by the book, watching my macros, and nothing. Ive been going to the gym for 10 years. For gender affirming care, there is better care to make sure transition is the right choice, unlike many others surgeries, to avoid regrets. Thats why there less than 1% of detransioners!

[@JaniceinOR]

I am sad that you were not informed that weight gain was a common consequence of gallbladder removal. That stinks. I would want anyone having a planned procedure to be informed as to all significant common effects!

[@MxPotato84]

@ i use to be thin and lean with a badass strong metabolism before the gallbladder surgery. Now im a chunky monkey with fat curves that accentuates the natural female curves that were once very subtle, and irritates my dysphoria. Hate this so much. I want my gallbladder back. 😭💔

[@arlarl5122]

#1. Your gallbladder stores bile and has nothing to do with your ability to burn fat, that is a metabolic thing. Bile aids in the breaking down of fats in the intestines. #2. If you genuinely couldn’t burn fat you’d likely have lots of other health problems and would increase in mass constantly. You would experience caloric deprivation in certain circumstances. #3. The only thing your gallbladder has to do with fat is: it stores bile and squirts it into your intestines every time you swallow something including just water; this aids in the breakdown of fat. #4. The issues created by the removal of your gallbladder are digestive meaning the only thing it has to do with fat is how fast it breaks down in your intestines. You still pass the fat regardless if you digest it thoroughly and your liver literally takes over the missing functions of your gallbladder. The liver makes bile not your gallbladder. The only difference being: the liver makes and releases bile without storing it in the gallbladder. Instead of bile only being released when you eat, it’s constantly being excreted and especially after you swallow something. #5. The general consequence of gallbladder removal is passing bile and that is similar to diarrhea when evacuated. Take bile-acid binders like Colestipol or fiber supplements like psyllium husk. You are not gaining weight because of a lack of storing bile. You may have been told to eat a low-fat diet after your surgery, but that is because your liver requires time to adapt to the missing storage bladder. 13 years is a long time that’s less than 10 pounds annually. What is your age? It’s common to increase in body fat as we age regardless of working out. Had mine out a decade ago. I’ve fluctuated in weight but I’m still the same size 10 years later. Ten pounds up then 10 pounds down.

[@JaniceinOR]

@arlarl5122 I am glad that after your gall bladder was removed, you did not have a problem with weight gain. I am no expert, but it seems that many others do, according to what I found in reputable internet sources (including Medical News Today, rated highly reliable). "According to a study published in the Journal PLoS One, people who have undergone a cholecystectomy [gall bladder removal] are at a greater risk of developing metabolic syndrome." "Metabolic syndrome seems to be one of the side effects of gallbladder removal that can cause weight gain." The study cited is "Association of Cholecystectomy with Metabolic Syndrome in a Chinese Population". According to other sources, after surgery, the body metabolizes fats differently. The patient may also develop insulin resistance. I don't think OP meant they literally could not process fat, but rather that their body did not burn off body fat as much as it used to. The rest of your points seem reasonable taken individually, but medical research does not seem to support your conclusion. I encourage you to double-check your facts & conclusions before contradicting someone else, especially about something that people are as sensitive about as weight gain.

[@JaniceinOR]

@arlarl5122 I am glad that after your gall bladder was removed, you did not have a problem with weight gain. I am no expert, but it seems that many others do, according to what I found in reputable internet sources (including Medical News Today, rated highly reliable). "According to a study published in the Journal PLoS One, people who have undergone a cholecystectomy [gall bladder removal] are at a greater risk of developing metabolic syndrome." "Metabolic syndrome seems to be one of the side effects of gallbladder removal that can cause weight gain." The study cited is "Association of Cholecystectomy with Metabolic Syndrome in a Chinese Population". According to other sources, after surgery, the body metabolizes fats differently. The patient may also develop insulin resistance. I don't think OP meant they literally could not process fat, but rather that their body did not burn off body fat as much as it used to. The rest of your points seem reasonable taken individually, but medical research does not seem to support your conclusion. I encourage you to double-check your facts & conclusions before contradicting someone else, especially about something that people are as sensitive about as weight gain.

[@AngelDRose]

Today one of my old high school friends came out as trans! I told her how happy I was for her, but there’s this part of me who was like “where was she when I was the only out lgbtq person in our friend group?” 😂 we could have had so much more fun back then. 😂

[@Oktopia]

The human mind and experience are meant to be elastic and changeable. One of the greatest strengths of our species is our ability to adapt. A person's path to personal authenticity can involve many events and experiences before they settle on what most fulfills them. I wish we lived in a world where the finding-out phase was shorter and met with less judgment and resistance.

[@ninjawizard3865]

We used to live in a world just like that...😂

[@JamiJR]

I often one those who are against puberty blockers will feel when their daughter or granddaughter starts going through precocious puberty at 5 years old and needs puberty blockers but can't get them because they've been outlawed.

[@JustEatHerCake]

A child cannot consent to sex therefore they can't comprehend the severity of the transition. This sounds like child abuse

[@Giuliana-w1f]

​@@JustEatHerCake maybe stop sexualizing transition then. Transition for a child is limited to name, pronouns, and maybe clothes/hair (basically what is known as social transition). Transition for a teen is at most, all of those things, plus puberty blockers, that require at the very least the fully informed consent of both the teens and parents, and are reversible.

[@goodpeople25]

@@JustEatHerCake What does that have to do with puberty blockers? But sure puberty blockers for all since they can't comprehend puberty.

[@ChristianCatboy]

The anti-trans legislators can just add an arbitrary loophole for that situation, though. That's what they're doing in many cases.

[@ville-c4u]

Don’t translate.. Ég elska að nauðga konum á meðan þær gráta og biðja mig um að hætta því myndböndin mín eru betri………. .

[@LizzyB123]

6:48 the number of bills introduced in the US in 2024 was 672, 50 of which passed. The number of bills introduced this year as of 26-1-2025 is 323, 2 of which have already passed. We're likely to break the previous year's record for the 5th year in a row.

[@LucyTheBox]

Maybe this is an indication that I just am not the kind of person who would detransition, but I really can't get behind the mindset of going anti-trans after detransitioning. Like, I had to fight so hard, jump through so many hoops just to get to the place where I currently am. Even if transitioning turns out not to be right for me, I wouldn't have wanted anyone to stop me. Transitioning would have been something that I needed to do, to experience for myself that it isn't for me and why that is. Even if all my official ways were blocked, I'd have found an unofficial route to transition anyways. This was my choice to make, and is one I needed to make for self-discovery, I wouldn't want to take that choice away from others.

[@apricotbuncakes]

I promised myself when I first realized I was trans, that if I EVER felt like I regretted transitioning, that I needed to detransition, that I would still stand behind the trans community. Because I couldn't understand how someone could experience the bullying, resentment, hate, and ostracization without feeling sympathy. And especially now I still don't understand it. When the world is actively telling us we don't belong, we don't matter, that we don't deserve happiness, and creating falsehoods about us, why would anyone try to transition if they didn't believe it would make them happier? Even at the informed consent clinic I went to, to start HRT, they still were required to explain to me three times that certain things would be irreversible and that I should be absolutely certain this was right for me. Even for top surgery, without insurance I still have to have a therapist approve me for it. We have to spill our life story, answer uncomfortable questions over and over. We have people who don't know us ask us what our 'configuration' is. We're harassed and mistreated. No one signed up for mistreatment, but we did sign up to be ourselves. And I don't understand why some (obviously not all) detransitioners can't see that. They lived through it too.

[@coasttocoast2011]

To me hearing people who are not trans talk about trans issues is kinda like hearing men discuss abortion issues. If you haven’t or can’t experience it, why do you think you can decide what happens in that space?

[@JeffGunter-c8d]

Because trans issues effect everyone

[@Everythingwithonehand]

People occasionally regret knee replacement surgery. Nobody would ever say that nobody should have access to that treatment because of the few who don’t benefit from it.

[@rowangothic]

@@spi19991337But not only are the regret rates for sex reassignment surgery less than 1%, but additionally, it does not cause cancer, top surgery does not make you infertile, and fertility is not everything. Trans people know what they're doing when they get the healthcare that they need.

[@ScarletTiger109]

@@spi19991337 that doesn’t happen. Stop lying.

[@TanyaAppalavich]

Knees surgery is only accessible for people who medically need knee surgery and succes isn’t measured by their regret but if it fixes their knees. We can see bad knees but what about the boys body would require surgery

[@ScarletTiger109]

@@TanyaAppalavich plenty of children require surgery, but that irrelevant since children aren’t getting SRS. SRS is only accessible to those that it is deemed medically necessary

[@fnjesusfreak]

I find myself in an odd position because I'm often in communities (such as Evangelical Christian) where I have to go in and out of hiding, while I have never detransitioned beyond the fact that the only transition I've been able to do is social.

[@vanessacherche6393]

sorry to hear that, my uninformed advice is to find some more communities. if you feel the need to hide yourself from a community, that community likely never truly gave a shit about you, regardless of how you live your life.

[@fnjesusfreak]

@vanessacherche6393 Most times I look for a community I find I don't fit in and am seldom accepted.

[@MommaDusk]

I once did an interview with a detransitioner on my Twitch channel and it was honestly an amazing experience for me. She was a wonderful person and her experience opened my eyes to a few things.

[@DonutCare564]

Such as...? /gen

[@ScarletTiger109]

Elaborate

[@markusdarri2158]

Heyyy bro and fellow trans peeps all the love, all the way from Iceland! Mucho gusto hermano♡

[@Tismpebbles]

YAYAYYY JAMIE POSTED 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈also everyone remember to drink water/eat and look after yourself!!

[@S0d4p0p_R0z3]

Transphobes r so weird, I genuinely don't understand it. How can they hate something not affecting them? How do they hate ppl being ppl then get mad when we have opinions on them. Also the detransition thing is also weird cause not enough do to matter

[@Dovah_Slayer]

Because they have convinced themselves (or been convinced) that the existence of someone who doesn't fit into the "norm" is erasure of their identity, its pure narcissism

[@angelcollina]

Because it’s easier to hate someone outwardly than to look critically inwardly.

[@jerrybergsteinbaum8008]

What an evil thing to say.

[@ScarletTiger109]

@@jerrybergsteinbaum8008transphobes are evil

[@S0d4p0p_R0z3]

@@jerrybergsteinbaum8008 bro evil how 😭🙏

[@Bl00dBl055um]

You are such a kind and empathetic person even to people who have been harmful to trans people. I strive to follow your example. Thanks for being such a good potato.

[@tatsf]

Overall I feel that the rise of social media contributes a lot to these issues. Any person, no matter how accurate or inaccurate, can pose things on social media as absolutes with a plethora of emotional acrobatics attached and the general public will gravitate to the most sensational of the offerings and run with it like it is well-vetted research! In reality, there are a fairly small number of "influencers" with an awful lot to say on these issues and absolutely no one is fact checking any of this info that's being put out there. Very frustrating to me. And, at least here in the US, even if you can quote valid research and publications, all the other side has to do is say "Fake news!" to dismiss it all.

[@Demidog_Winion]

I remember commenting on one of your old vids that I wasn’t trans so you couldn’t indoctrinate me…… anyhow, I’m He/Him now

[@Giuliana-w1f]

Congrats on coming out dude

[@evilgingerminiatures5820]

Self Identity is complicated & working out who you are is not easy even if you like me ended up like me with "easy mode" being cis and straight There is little more disgusting than picking on people at a very vulnerable stage of life and weaponising there life experience against others. Every bodies life is there own & they should be allowed to live it as they wish.

[@amazingspiderlad]

Dude I really think you're downplaying the transphobia directed at trans men... Most of jkr's essay was about us but people only focus on the parts about women. On top of that, there's a lot of unique prejudice against trans men from other types of radfems who don't take much, if any, issue with trans women.

[@VictorLHouette]

Why would trans people ever be opposed to others exploring their gender? That's what we want! We want it to not just be taken as a given that everyone is their assigned gender! And if they find that they are comfortably cisgender - yay! We're extra happy someone found where they're comfortable! What we don't like is people who tell us that our experience isn't valid or real. And we don't care whether the person saying that was a detransitioner or not. It's not the person saying it that bothers us, it's what's being said.

[@Effective_tool_of_Satan]

And it's not even a cool cult, with nice robes and rituals.

[@thedragonssparkvideos]

It is so hard to argue against uneducated and people unwilling to learn or get to know. You can push all the actual facts and research but it goes nowhere.... These loud hateful people just get what they want cause they are loud and hateful. It is so exausting.

[@damienedmiston3195]

One of my old coworkers was pretty open about detransitioning. She said that she was on hormones and presented masculinely, but came to find that she wasn't happy as a man and wanted her family in her life. I hope that it was truly the case of being mistaken about being trans and not "my mormon family didn't accept me as a man and I had to pick between my true self or my family"

[@userunknown_762]

It may have been the latter. I've met people like that, that got so wrapped up in the culty side of religion that trying to satisfy it caused them to lose themselves. Similarly for people who didn't want to disappoint their "family." It's a harsh reality, but while I don't have numbers, I feel as though it's not insignificant. After all, the country I live in only banned conversion therapy as of less than 5 years ago. Before that, we heard so many horror stories of kids and adults being forcibly turned straight or cisgender through what is essentially torture.

[@ScarletTiger109]

That’s the most common reason for de-transitioning, the lack of support

[@adriadelafuente3648]

You don't have a right to your family's acceptance.

[@fahrinurlaub01vg]

Hi Jamie, I've stumbled onto your channel a couple of weeks back and it's been such an enrichment to my life. I'm a non binary pansexual person but it's not always easy to live my life completely out of the closet in the area I live and watching your videos helps me feeling seen and as a part of our community. I thank you very much for that. also, my partner is currently working through figuring out their own gender and sexual identity and your videos are immensely helpful for them to work through those things and allow me to guide them to a better understanding as well, since I don't always have the answers or the right words to help them either. we're both great doctor who fans, and my partner actually had the privilege of working WITH David Tennant at one point. we are very grateful for your videos and your confidence to put yourself out there in ways we're both still struggling with and are looking up to you for that. thank you very much once again. keep up the great work, we certainly appreciate it!

[@UniversalNominalism]

Arthur Rockwell made a really good video talking about detransitioners, would highly recommend. He included a bit where he compared transition regret to divorce, pointing out that just because some people get divorced that doesn't mean that no one should get married. He also pointed out that not everyone who gets divorced feels that they made a mistake in getting married, and they don't necessarily regret the time they spent in that relationship.

[@JeffGunter-c8d]

True, but getting married rarely involves a double mastectomy or castration…

[@ScarletTiger109]

@@JeffGunter-c8d trans people aren’t castrated. Stop making up lies

[@Alex-gh8iu]

​@@JeffGunter-c8dAnd, coward?

[@JeffGunter-c8d]

@@ScarletTiger109really? No trans person has ever had their testicles removed? Who knew?

[@Alex-gh8iu]

​@@JeffGunter-c8dstay triggered about it, coward. 😂😂😂

[@Emilyish10101]

Hey Jamie! Ive been watching your content for at least five years now (even before i realised i was trans), and these videos and your channel in general over the years have helped me so much going through all this lol. So i know its not much but here is some of my money to show you how much you videos mean to me :3

[@kermitthorson9719]

i remember watching a show on TLC back in college, just after TLC started to go to shit so it still had a lil legitimacy. it showcased 2 people that were born amab, transitioned with all the medical practices available at the time(80s-90s) but had since detransitioned. i didnt realize it at the time that it was attempting to be anti trans BS. but it lie them all failed to prove their point that transitioning was the issue, but the bigoted society. one got involved wiyth a chuurch that gaslight her into detransitioning, and the other seemed to want to get married to a cis man, but because of society i think they never told the men before the marriage, so not finding love they detransitioned. so society and accpetance mean both those ladies could have lived their lives happy as women.

[@elirae9419]

I'm afab, and I'd say mostly nonbinary, but I'm on testosterone and I'm happy with it. I don't think I want any surgeries, though that opinion has changed so it's subject to change again. I also work in caregiving, a field that I've noticed puts women at an unavoidable disadvantage at some times, with male residents who have prejudices, etc. And I started passing for a dude right when I started in this field, and I've been stealth, for the most part. As sad as it is, it's so much easier. It's just a lot easier in general to be in public and be perceived when it's as a man, even if fruity. Part of it is my desire to have the effects of testosterone, but as I've been on it, it's definitely proven to be helpful socially. I'm white too, so, there's that.

[@elirae9419]

I wouldn't say I've "bought into the patriarchy" so much as I'm in the belly of the beast.

[@SirGrimzly]

I think I’ve had a similar experience. Before I started T and was still seen as a girl, my voice would often be spoken over, ignored, or not taken seriously. Now being perceived as a man, when I speak people listen and actually take it seriously. It makes me incredibly sad that this is a reality

[@b4ttlemast0r]

The problem is that detransitioning is really overrepresented in the media. I think youtube has recommended me almost as many videos by detransitioners with scary titles, as videos by people happy with their transition, giving the false impression that a lot of people regret it

[@antimale]

Detransition numbers are about 5000+. So obviously the numbers would be large in volume

[@Rein_]

@@antimale percentages is better to talk about because it actually show how much it is, because 5000 on 8 bilion is nothing. and 1% of the just 1% of people who are trans is almost nothing. and proves the care is actually quite good in preventing medical detransitioners.

[@antimale]

@@Rein_ In my opinion, percentage use undermines any given population. It is good in studies about medical care however in sociological sense, a single person can change how people view it. The same scare that people are being rushed to transition

[@Rein_]

@@antimale but then you also need to show how many people don't regret transitioning. Only focussing on those who regret, or were forced to detransitioning is not fair. So a persentage is still a good way, because it includes both. Nobody is rushing others to transition, especially not medical and mental health care people.

[@antimale]

@@Rein_ yes. According to recent surveys the transgender population in the US is about 6-7 million. So regret of less than one percent would be about 5000. Understanding detransitioners would help us understand more about new standards of care. Like DSM 3 had an issue of combining trans kids with cis kids who are gender non conforming. DSM 5, only diagnoses trans kids with gender incongruence.

[@advorak8529]

So many people drink and drive and kill people and some have regrets. So we should ban all alcoholic drinks. There are no health benefits to alcohol. It hurts the user. It hurts the community. It hurts their family. The facts are undeniable and overwhelming. Much stronger than any trans problems. If you are fine with being anti-trans, you should be 100% against alcohol. And tobacco. Unless you are irrational and a hypocrite.

[@CLOWTISMS]

@@jayvander7156 in countries other than the USA it is completely normal for kids to have a bit of alcohol in their own home. I first got drunk at 12 lol. Not saying it was good but wouldn’t call it abuse

[@advorak8529]

@ You also do not have an epidemic of school shootings and mass shootings ...

[@undamaged1813]

a bit of an off topic comment but just wanted to say thank you Jamie, I started my journey here as a confused cishet ally and over the years watching your videos, I have learnt so much information about the community and as part of that journey I have figured out that I am neither cis nor het and came out about a year and a half ago as non-binary and a year ago as pansexual and If I didn't find your content when I did, then I don't think I would have figured out who I am in time to have met my trans man boyfriend, so a massive thank you as your content has made my life so much better

[@Bopsterjazz]

I have zero issue with detransitioners, unless they detransition and then run to the right and start trying to tear us down.

[@twig74]

How dare KZbin keep this from me for 10 whole minutes!

[@hannahnohlgren989]

It's so strange. I know googling bad experiences with birth controls of various kinds lead you into a rabbit hole of women who scream bloody murder about how it is terrible and they now don't use anything because hormone preventing birth controls and spirals are evil. Imagine if people with bad birth control experiences demanded no one takes birth control. 😂 Or imagine parents who had miscarriages or children who grew up to be criminals demanded we ban people from having children because their experience sucked. 😅 It's. So strange.. Stay safe everyone. ❤

[@string1235]

whats your thoughts on Trump getting rid of our rights in America ;-; (I'm scared)

[@MilkyWayWasTaken]

I'm getting scared as well. Despite living in a blue state and county, I still don't feel safe:(

[@string1235]

@MilkyWayWasTaken it's been what? a week? and im alr getting harassed

[@Strix1213]

I live in the northwest and I'm terrified. My partner has been panicking a lot and I don't know how to help.

[@MilkyWayWasTaken]

@string1235 Yikes, I'm sorry to hear that.. The year barely even started it's already gone crazy. My mother basically showed her stance gay and trans people recently making things even more lonely for me..

[@FrozEnbyWolf150-b9t]

Do not surrender in advance. Executive orders are not law, they are merely statements of legislative intent, and will have years of legal battles ahead before they even come close to being passed. They want us to give up, because it makes it easier for them. The fact is that no rights were ever given without a fight, but they can be lost if people don't.

[@curlykind]

The point of ANY detransitioner is that GAC is currently ideological and follows a superficial process which doesnt protect people from harm, which is the first and core base principle of medicine. The point is that it's stupid to think that you can only "affirm" and any questioning is transphobic. Each patient needs comprehensive support tailored to their needs. It can't be the same affirming recipee for all. They might be trans but they might also have other issues that makes them think they're trans even though they're not. Also, they might be trans but medical intervention might not be the best path for someone. If the only thing a doctor is allowed to do is to "affirm" and offer HRT and surgeries that's clearly dangerous as they encourage a path that might not be the best for the person. Plus all the issues with the frequently reported lack of proper information given about the risks and permanent effects of HRT and surgeries...ideology should never be behind medicine and unfortunately thats the case doe GAC. It's problematic. So it's not about being against trans people and wanting to deny health care. Its precisely making sure people get the right support based on evidence and proper protocols which safeguard them properly from harm.

[@wintergirll]

De transitioners are welcome and valid ❤️

[@JackPlasma]

Fun Fact: Some people just want to hate you for no reason

[@Rein_]

not really fun though

[@TamaraDippel]

HUGS TO ALL ♥ Hang in there!!!

[@itr00ow93]

Transitioning is difficult, imaging doing it twice! Wish them the best always

[@Freefirall]

All surgeries have complications. But, Transgender surgeries are new and threefore have lots of bad complications, 99% complication rates, because there has not been enough years of time to oerfect Transgender surgeries. Other surgeries have had 100s of years of time 😢to oerfect them and have 1% complication rates.

[@JoF999]

​@Freefirallwhat are you talking about!? What surgeries (other than limb amputation) has been happening for 100s of years!? Lmao the first heart surgeries were only a 100 years ago and the first trans surgery was in 1922. All surgeries come with risk of complications but that doesn't make trans surgeries anymore of a risk. Where are you getting your information!?

[@goodpeople25]

@Freefirall You are a blatant liar.

[@rowangothic]

@FreefirallI would like to see a source for those statistics

[@rosieg6989]

@FreefirallOver 105 years is new to you?

[@sandwichqueen]

Most trans adults were once trans kids. I didn't know what being trans was when I was a kid. All I knew was it was wrong to yearn to be the opposite gender. So I kept quiet since elementary school, for the most part. I still remember vividly wearing a skirt in 5th grade for a school project. I came out when I was 17. I still had no clue what I was doing, but my mom already knew due to someone outting me, so I gave in. It was the best decision I've ever made. And now some no good people want to take away the part of me that gives me joy? I get it may not be the right choice for everyone. That's because everyone is different. I might nudge someone to transition if they ask, but I will never force someone to be the gender they aren't. I've did that for 17 years and that was 17 years too long for me. I do think some trans people project onto others and while trying to help people they end up hurting them instead, but that's usually by pushing them away from the decision rather than forcing it on them. Just some ramblings of a trans woman who's tired of all this misinformation BS about trans people being scary.

[@cmralph...]

when will the UK offer us (tg peeps) in the US the option of asylum? because ... H E L P! H E L P !!!

[@Spacewith2224]

Our government isn’t that much better for trans people here so it’s unlikely, we also need asylum

[@adriadelafuente3648]

Never, the UK is an Islamic Caliphate.

[@gmrkitty]

OMG!!! I just learned a new word today: SWERF ... And now my brain is stuck on SWERF & TERF ROFL (like Surf & Turf - seafood & steak dinner or buffet usually).

[@mscatmoon]

Nobody gets to tell me what to do with *my* body. It doesn't "belong" to them. I may have to obey their laws, but they will never win because they cannot tell me who I am or force me to be what they want. Also, if I make mistakes, I take responsibility, I don't blame other people for them unless they literally forced me to do something and the choice was not mine.

[@ParasWiineri]

​@@saoirse2963 I would love to see what concurrent science has to say about transitioning vs. not transitioning and how that affects the general life quality of trans people. Oh yeah. General life quality of trans people enhances if they get medical treatment and they can perform better in society. But that is what concurrent science says.

[@daddydeadly3428]

​@@ParasWiineri ​ how would "concurrent science" work in this scenario? How can you assess the same person transitioning and not transitioning at the same time. I've never heard of the term concurrent science being used in this type of context.

[@ParasWiineri]

​@@daddydeadly3428 the same way we determine how treatment for depression or any other mental health care affects or the lack of it.

[@krissyskulls]

People who were trans then turn on us? Urgh 🤬

[@nathryl03]

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[@velvetdeathhh]

I had to cut off a detrans friend recently for starting to be really vocal in her transphobia, seemingly out of nowhere. Our final conversation felt like we were living in different realities. She made it sound like all detrans people feel that trans people’s access to transition should be severely limited. It sours the reputation of the whole community when those people are so vocal and breaks my heart. But there IS space for trans and detrans people to coexist and support each other and I just wish we could bridge that gap in the community.

[@granaures4547]

@velvetdeathhh many do. Many people who detransition are happy with the opportunity to have had the opportunity, and the vast majority ofntrans folk have no beef with detransitioners. It's the loud ones that get propped up by the right that are the issue and a very, very, loud minority.

[@kaiyakershaw1028]

This is a really gracious and nuanced position and I really appreciate your articulation of it so that straight allies like me have better language and understanding to combat transphobia and hate.

[@cassandraxiv5223]

I find it ridiculous that KZbinrs have to censor "suicide" or risk demonetization. This kind of censorship by KZbin is not solving any issues, and is only making it more difficult to talk about important subjects.

[@Emily-d7w3l]

The Jesus thing is funny because I went on a psychedelic trip with ketamine and also had a life-changing encounter with Jesus. The thing is in that encounter I felt affirmed and loved as the person I am now and will be as I start my transition journey. If these people actually read the gospels they would know that Jesus stood with the outcasts and marginalized. Jesus would support the trans community. I believe he would even heal trans people by giving them gender affirming care in performing a miracle of gender reassignment to give people the body that fits how they see themselves.

[@Alex-gh8iu]

​@@saoirse2963no one cares about you period. :)

[@CLOWTISMS]

@@saoirse2963 I care

[@Bibibi1990]

This was a great video! More like this please!

[@sarahtooldtocare8561]

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[@danielbutler8103]

I've taken cough syrup before and it made me feel worse, so should we ban everyone from taking cough syrup? Or I could just not take it.

[@janasrnkova653]

It is like going to University. Most people are glad they did it, some people regret it and stop midway, but very few finish and regret it after it's all done and they got a diploma. By the comparison, I don't want to make it sound like transition is no big deal, because it is, and it is hard. But I made the comparison because it could open the eyes of the terfs, cause they tell trans people not to transition because of the very small regret rate, but nobody goes around campuses to warn people to not go to University because there are some people who did regret going. And why is that? Why should you stop people from transitioning when you are not stopping them from other actions that also have a small regret rate? People are eligible to their own decisions and it will probably work out for them, if not, they are also eligible to do their own mistakes, but it is their personal choice and personal experience, so nobody shares the same experience and what is right for one might not be the best for the other. Therefore let people explore and leave them be.

[@JeffGunter-c8d]

It is a bit like that, although Uni rarely results in castration or a double mastectomy. So I guess in that respect the analogy doesn’t quite work…

[@janasrnkova653]

@@JeffGunter-c8d I mean, yes, but same goes for implants, tattoos, and other permanent or hardly reversible treatments. But still it is the thing about informed decision that is on the individual undergoing the procedure to take, not general public prohibiting such procedures. They are told about the regret rate, risks and everything else, but is still their decision that should be available to make.

[@JeffGunter-c8d]

@@janasrnkova653 you are quite right, ultimately, the difference is whether or not the individual is considered to be sane. Which raises all sorts of philosophical questions about the freedom of an individual to pursue a seemingly insane end.

[@janasrnkova653]

@@JeffGunter-c8d why would it question sanity? I mean, do people question someone's sanity over every decision they make? Like if I decide to wear blue, am I insane because I made a choice? Get a lip filler? A tattoo? Get my tonsils or appendix taken out? Trans people go through psychological evaluation to confirm they are trans before they are eligible to undergo any physical changes. It is not just a fling of mind or temporary mood. They are very sane. Plus their decision has zero influence on anybody other's life. It is their personal decision. People who say it is dangerous are mostly people claming body cannot be changed because God made you perfect and whatever. But frankly, religious people are far closer to insanity than any trans people, with believing in things you don't see and stuff, you know.

[@JeffGunter-c8d]

@@janasrnkova653look, either you have ‘gender affirming care’ in which case no one is seriously questioned, or you don’t. But the root to the discomfort about gender transition is that people without gender distress can’t ever imagine that a sane person would choose to have those procedures. That then raises a whole host of interesting questions.

[@catharsync]

I feel like it might help some people to separate the treatment in question from gender as a whole. From the time I developed breasts, I openly wanted reductions. This was years before i questioned my own gender identity. And while I said it was because of back pain, I barely noticed the pain. I just had a lot of discomfort around their presence. I have settled into a gender identity of sorts. I don't mind being considered a woman, but I don't have any attachment to it. The discomfort remains. And whether that discomfort is caused by me being a trans man or nonbinary, or just because I'm autistic and it causes me sensory problems, that discomfort remains. Kmowing that, i dont need to be certain about my gender identity to go in for surgery

[@Farfarellos]

14:30 They listen to respond, not to understand

[@tomcavanagh2643]

Excellent video, as usual. I would like to see a video on people who re-transitioned (people who de transitioned and later transitioned again)

[@MenacingWhat]

Who up spudding they spud

[@pantern2]

You are bloody wonderful!

[@hannahdekeyser9220]

I love the fact that Jammi can both laugh at trans memes but that he also takes time to talk seriously about transgender people and their experience. Love!! (PS: the edit was bc I spelled his name wrong)

[@Jroltn]

I don't think we should criticize Schevers until we've truly been in their shoes, just as I don't think someone who may have been on the verge of transitioning - but then changed their mind and did not go through with it due to one reason or another - has any less of a valid experience or knowledge about trans issues than someone who did go through a full transition. The same applies for people who detransition if it improves their overall well-being. There's so much beneath the surface that others don't see, such as whether the gender-questioning person's community is welcoming and accommodating to trans people or not. If a person with body dysmorphia lives in a conservative society where they fear for their life or loss of jobs or opportunities if they come out as trans, perhaps staying alive in their birth sex despite the discomfort is a bigger priority than going through with the transition, at least until they've been able to relocate to a more supportive environment. Even though detransitioners don't reflect everyone, I don't think we should automatically dismiss them as some kind of Noncommittal Pirates Of Male Privilege (re:FTM). After all, they did (hopefully) go through a stage where they had to educate themselves on the physical and mental steps of the transition process and its subsequent social issues which (hopefully) taught them to be empathetic towards others who are going through similar journeys of finding themselves. I mean, in one of your videos, it seemed like you would defend someone like J.K. Rowling for being an ally solely due to her large audience and sphere of influence even though the damage was already done after her main turfy remarks.

[@tommyboyio1363]

Hi hello, it's "Dysphoria" not "Dysmorphia". Those are two diffrent conditions. They sound very similar but they're not the same thing.

[@clarawest9794]

Early! Hi Jamie, love your videos!

[@gurlies4eva]

Hi Jamie, I am just commenting as a bi teenage girl and I really want to come out to my dad but the whole side of his family is homophobic and he would just try to explain to me why i cant be bi. I've already told my mum and I don't know if she believes me or not so yeah. How do I come out to my dad, because I really want to. PS: I also told my Uncle and his boyfriend and they're really supportive but they're on my mum's side. So not everyone's too bad. THXXX

[@Giuliana-w1f]

If its not safe for you to come out, don't force yourself to do it

[@gurlies4eva]

@@Giuliana-w1f Thank you so much

[@Feehlo382]

@jammidodger is there any specific research that demonstrates detransition rate in its true meaning of no longer identifying with a gender other than what they were assigned? Because I've found quite a few that include desisting medical treatment which we know isn't the same thing. If you know of any academic papers i'd love to know the titles/authors 🙂

[@Giuliana-w1f]

Afaik, detransition rate is 8%, and 5% of them do it out of regret (for a total of 0.4% of trans people). The main reson for detransition is social pressure (from parents, friends, partners, or other people)

[@rosey7162]

It's hard to tell! There's a lot of sampling bias in detransition research. I've seen many studies that specifically recruit from detrans activist communities, so there's going to be a higher rate of "true detransitioners" reported in those studies. There's also a lot of politics wrapped up in the research, and it's hard to parse out actually useful data from the propaganda.

[@waffles3629]

Yep. So many detransition "studies" are total BS. Some of the ones I've seen would categorize me, a trans person, as a detransitioner.

[@amandamaionchi4420]

I think the problem… why many think this ideology is a “cult” of sorts… is that nobody can even tell you what gender identity MEANS… what it means to be a man/woman in terms of gender… or how one determines their own gender identity. These are the most basic questions imaginable… This has led many to conclude it’s a dualistic, metaphysical quasi-religion that essentially posits we have sexed souls that can be mismatched to the body. Presenting a coherent conceptualization of gender identity (the construct around which all your assertions are centered) may help 🤷‍♀️

[@Completely-Hatstand]

FTA. Love me a Jammidodger with my cup of tea. X

[@sf2132]

Just want to say that I love the cool vibe of the spuds community❣️