The Biggest Lies You’ve Been Told About Money | Tom Bilyeu on Wealth, Love, and Poverty

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TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 - INTRO
00:43 - You need to keep your ego in check
06:12 - Understanding business at a high level
11:30 - Lessons from 650 self-help books
15:59 - How to turn YOUR truth into OBJECTIVE truth
27:38 - This too shall pass
31:50 - How to keep pushing EVEN AFTER you achieve your goals
40:03 - Why hustle culture is a necessary evil
48:02 - Why Tom isn't having kids
01:02:05 - Managing marriage and avoiding divorce
01:15:34 - Why journaling is so important and how to do it well
01:27:19 - Tom's biggest insecurity
01:30:54 - "You HAVE to read these books" - Tom
01:31:39 - The meaning of life... or lack thereof
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[@justinafarfan4843]

The part about the kids is absolutely true. I have never experienced so much grief in my life as I did when I became a parent and was faced with the harsh reality that I can not be everything to them. It’s one of the hardest and most humbling things I’ve had to accept about myself. Yet, I’ve also never felt so fulfilled in my life to see my children happy and thriving in a world where there’s so much suffering. Ugh there’s so much good stuff in this episode. Definitely one of my favorites 👍🏼

[@TheOGDesigner]

I'm very interested in your comment. What was the grief about? I didn't quite understand why would you feel like that because you can't be everything to them. I don't have kids, by the way, so that might be the reason. I ask because my girflriend have come to the understanding that we are not going for the kids route, because she doesn't want to and I decided to respect and support that. So I'm intrigued by your comment and would love som einsight. Thanks in advance!

[@chrissyaboyy]

@@TheOGDesigneryes I second this question !! Very curious to know more about this

[@aronsegal]

I don't even watch the main channel anymore, but I listen to all of the podcasts. It's just awesome. Keep it up 👊🏼

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Awesome! Thank you!

[@carlosmartinez7941]

Same

[@hollymac6177]

Same

[@leetjohnson]

Same

[@chrisarzu5196]

Samee

[@sandiego764]

This and the previous podcasts discussion on handling relationships is world class information that everybody should listen to. Will be revisiting these often

[@livingmyjameslifeRN]

Tom Bilyeu is single handedly the reason why my eyes were opened a couple of years ago to the hustle reality. Thanks for having him on and dropping gem after gem.

[@PatrickSeabird]

Jack's style of asking questions has improved so much!

[@SarahStair]

❤❤❤ Love the shades of blue analogy that Tom talks about in this podcast. Soooooo true. The more knowledge you have, the more options/context you have. The more options/context you have, the more you can make educated decisions about achieving your goals in life.

[@monkmane2345]

I listened to this during work and was captivated, Tom is somewhat of a genius, he took so many things im interested in to the very border of thought

[@elsavelaz]

Thank you sooooo much for highlighting how even language can be a way to make sure things work out best as possible

[@kml.]

the podcast is getting so good... well done, graham and jack

[@ortegainc.7985]

*Making money is an action. Keeping money is behavior. Growing money is knowledge.*

[@PushkarRajthalkur]

Even with the current dip ín the market I'm still glad I can smile 😊 back at my portfolio of $12,500 built from my weekly trade.

[@MaryJane-lz5ev]

Same here, a Transformations of €4000 to a €15,400 in just 2 weeks, He's really the best

[@KingsonKings]

Expert Barry Silbert never seems to surprise me 😄 i also trade with him, his strategies are top notch and i don't joke with him.

[@KingsonKings]

His on te legram👇

[@KingsonKings]

@Silbert980

[@JustenHarden]

Impact Theory was the show that got me into podcasts several years ago. Happy to see this collab!

[@LittleTimmyO]

Me too. 9 years ago

[@mitchellcontente]

Jack is very insightful in these podcasts. He does his research

[@larshansen252]

I love seeing Tom nerd out on business when he's being interviewed. Great questions!

[@frozenintime1009]

Tom's a good interviewer but even better in the hot seat. Really enjoyed this.

[@FrugalFamilyFocus]

This was a fantastic interview! I loved every minute and would love to see it continue. As an average person getting fulfillment through raising children, I couldn’t agree more with the sentiments here. I thank you for your service and I’m glad there are people operating at this level. Simultaneously I’m grateful I get to raise children and not feel the need to ruthlessly pursue my goals, conquer my emotions, and live at the cutting edge of my abilities. It’s incredible to hear from minds like this, and I’m left with the feeling that there’s clearly a place in this world for all types. Great stuff guys!

[@hockeyhalod]

The parent/not parent argument was really strong. Live your life with no regret. Absolutely love being a father. No matter how hard the day to day is.

[@penguin3oo]

Tom’s insight is so profound.. this episode has been eye opening

[@julesvision]

So much input to think about. I have to listen to this episode again. Thank you for the content.

[@NicholasPalance]

I always enjoy how well-thought out Tom is.

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Us too!

[@juanitavaldez1907]

I thought he was totally boring. Ugg

[@bryan_witha_whyy]

He’s too thought out. When you take the emotion out of the human spirit you are no longer living a human existence.

[@austindeweese8078]

Bro said changing a kids diaper is beneath him.

[@BlindtoBillionaire]

Thanks guys! Great interview and so many powerful messages in this video! I will certainly be watching this one again.

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@3wetpaint]

Such a great episode

[@niall86]

I will say I felt the same exact way about having kids and planned on never having them. When I first met my wife I even told her this. Then we had our first and instantly the way I felt changed . 3 kids later and yes it’s insanely difficult but nothing is more rewarding. As a guy we honestly can’t comprehend kids until we are holding our own in our arms for the first time. The chemicals just kick in. I also made the same decision of pursuing my entrepreneurship (which is literally part of my soul) in full force or get married to the love of my life and start a family - the significant other you choose matters more in your life than almost ever other major decision in your life - spend quality time with your significant other before kids, travel , do everything you want. - know having a family is a huge commitment, more than anyone can ever explain to you - don’t look back and regret not choosing the other path I’m incredibly happy with where my life is , had multiple failed company’s with a few minor successes and I’ll never stop. 3 amazing kids and have the love of my life that I get to spend the rest of my life with

[@jaysportsenthusiast7632]

Tom never really doe’s interviews ! This was great !

[@peterharmon7852]

Wow. This is fantastic. Exactly what I needed to hear today. So much knowledge contextually constructed perfectly. Thank you

[@gpstar9234]

Glued to every concept articulated. Great Podcast!

[@TheOGDesigner]

I tend to have 3 people I constantly learn from as my (unilateral) mentors. Tom is the top 1 of that list and it's for a reason. You're also amazing, Graham 😬

[@aperson7584]

You *can't leave us in suspense - who are the others??

[@TheOGDesigner]

@@aperson7584 Sorry for the suspense 😂... they are Alex Hormozi and Brad Lea (at the moment)

[@FranciscoJNarez]

Woahhhh another interview!?!? Let’s goooo!!!!!!! I’m super excited you guys are able to go back! You need a 3rd interview! 😁

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Absolutely!

[@k_won456official2]

Dope! Love these type of info. Keep going guys!

[@travismcphee22]

Jack rocked this interview, great work!

[@joshingm]

Definitely watching this again!

[@abelarvizu2898]

Tom gave a PLETHORA of super valuable advice in this show. FOR FREE. Wow ty ty. And thanks to Graham and his friend for the great questions super valuable video 👌🏼

[@TCsHouse]

The tea story was incredible. Tremendous lessons.

[@NearOTPv2]

Great job

[@coldcheesebot]

Absolutely love this podcast

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

THANKS!

[@maryandrews6401]

Holy Cow! 2:44 into this and I had to pause to go get a pen and paper! Great questions! Great answers… 2 minutes in!! This is gonna be another great show! This guy is dropping some insightful truth nuggets!

[@timcoleman3930]

I love Tom's honesty!

[@nicky_rads]

great interview ! Tom has a lot to offer in many areas !

[@bradleyaustin4989]

I hope you guys know ur the only podcast I watch

[@KingUnique888]

That aspect about he family is so true. I learned working for over 2 decades that at work you must focus on customers, employees and shareholders. Outside of work your family, community and relationship with God. Somehow they are interrelated and a reflection of who you are at work. There is no way success can't knock at your door if you focus on those vertical.

[@crypto_buddha9723]

One of the BEST podcast in the game

[@bryan_witha_whyy]

This is why I can’t take people like him too seriously. He has all this theory, and little of it is practiced in a life most people can relate to.

[@teresabittiker2824]

Having kids changes your life. It is not all about you all the time. It makes you a better person.

[@Freshprankstv1]

That’s true. Too bad Tom can’t have them. His wife is the alpha in the relationship and she told him no lol

[@micahfrazier3723]

true. empty life without them

[@bibastarmedia9650]

It doesn't make you a better person. And still today the "better persons" are still going with wars and ugly crimes against their neighbours who actually (on both sides) many times "bettered" themselves (having 4 or more kids) -- doesn't help you see.

[@bibastarmedia9650]

It is a biological processes and has little to do with civilization, being better person etc.

[@HelloWorld-hb7yt]

i think his wife is too old to have kids.

[@JacobKnowles]

“My North Star - to reduce human suffering and increase human flourishing” Love this, Tom!

[@jacksonmaitner3127]

Can’t believe how much this has helped me in just the first 30 minutes Tom is a genius putting together all the puzzle pieces for me

[@KetchumAllCollectibles]

56:57 great quote

[@darleneatkinson3906]

Been watching this video for 48 minutes Fulfillment, I read holy bible and it reads godly contentment is what all people should seek for I say I feel fully fulfilled in my life. I feel great about my life I enjoy my life it might look different than other people's lives but that is it get to know thyself what does make one feel fulfilled in life? I truly love all 3 of you guys' videos Tom, I'd watch other of your videos also. And I seen many Iced Coffee Hour videos, and they get better and better. Thank you, all 3 young men I truly enjoy this video.

[@JC1000RR]

Great interview guys. Got allot out of it

[@anthonynwaneri7991]

Another incredible podcast. Jack you fucking killed it with those questions. You're a natural 🙏🙌

[@MrDavidOlanipekun]

I'm learning so much from these podcast's this episode and Tai Lopez are my favourite episodes.

[@doctorgap]

No clue who this dude is, but 2 minutes in im definitely interested to learn throughout this podcast

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

He sold his company, Quest Nutrition, for $1 Billion and started a really great podcast (Impact Theory)

[@gregoryjules2005]

Very cool guest you guys! Thanks for sharing 🙂

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Thanks for watching!

[@TheZGALa]

I am super glad I became a mother, and my son is indeed, one of the aspects of my life that is fulfilling, largely because it was impossibly hard, being a single mom and I did it. However, now I am 52 and feeling so lost and isolated, and it is so hard to start over without the carreer or family/relationships I would have liked...so I don't think it is quite the same for women who can become pregnant even if unplanned. I imagine I just made terrible choices early in life...I also think that 'big brothering' probably gave you a much different (and more positive overall) sense of fulfillment than struggling as a single parent gave me.

[@TheZGALa]

Society only celebrates parents who also have happy marriages and financial success. Parents in poverty, and especially the 50% or so of us who do it without much support, are not celebrated in our society. We are shamed and shunned.

[@pentrubarbati]

@@TheZGALa we should not celebrate failure and stupid behaviour kids should be raised by 2 parents .. wuth so mant contraception methods a surprize pregnancy is not an option ... should we start celebrating lazyness and uneducated people also ? ps i hate this single mom bs there was a dad you didn't got pregnant by miracle ... and if you are so awfull that he left or he is a looser what says about you ?

[@TonyMoze]

Love this ❤

[@wynnvip]

Very good podcast

[@beamlarochelle5001]

Best Podcast I have ever witnessed. Amazing Job. Tom is an amazing Human

[@roydunia1417]

Love it 🔥🔥

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Thanks 🔥

[@PaulHindt]

"You can be anything you want, but you can't be everything." As someone who got a late start in life and only really started finding some success in my late 30s, that quote definitely resonates with me. Once I finally decided to pick a path and become a software engineer, everything started clicking into place. I still struggle with this though on smaller scales, particularly when trying to decide what projects to work on.

[@PS-ic4bp]

😂😂😂 Late 30s is late in life?? You guys!!

[@minhcao1838]

Hour 1 minute 5 is gold. All my frustration is always deep rooted in an insecurity. Never argue about the tea!! Please listen and share this part.

[@biscaynesupercars]

I got to meet Tom and Lisa Bilyeu at VidSummit. Both of their talks were amazing.

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Awesome!

[@tarrySubstance]

Where is the link of Tom's book list?

[@puredistancegolf]

Fantastic episode. Smart, smart guy. Regarding hustle culture. He's right, but there is something to be said for luck and talent. The playing field is nowhere near even.

[@ScottLara]

Another great video!

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Thanks again!

[@Patrickt-fb5wj]

Big fan of Tom Bilyeu !

[@NekarXenos]

Me looking at the various shades of blue in the fedign behind his head 😂

[@user-lr1sq8fp7j]

Toms honest answer to the question about having kids should’ve been,I’ve never had kids of my own so I don’t feel qualified to answer that. Nobody has an answer to everything. Kids can be extremely fulfilling.

[@marvialegria1]

How can i listen to the podcast using Alexa?

[@willbergmann_]

Typo in the title just so you guys know! Great pod

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

What's the typo? Don't see it?

[@willbergmann_]

@@TheIcedCoffeeHour It looks like it got fixed. Bilyeu was spelled Bilyue. Much love guys!

[@GSR2step]

For me at least, this is the clearest any of these concepts have been expressed. Ever.

[@TheDahc1]

Can I get a clip of the cup of tea story

[@jasonalessio1058]

About 6 years I ago I decided that anytime anything goes wrong. It's 100% my fault. I've never been happier and it's the only reason I've been successful in some of my recent ventures

[@poadude]

That works if you don’t have actual bad things happen to you like abuse, glad your life is easy!

[@hectorrojas-kz9hx]

@@poadudenahh that works because he actually wanna do better, no like others that to blame anyone and anything but themselves

[@termita358]

He says to the 2 most harmless guys in America, while looking like the 3rd most harmless guy in America 😂😂😂😂😂😂. Just hilarious 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@RM-vx1kc]

There’s nothing rewarding than having children and teaching them, loving them, giving them skills…. I have 2, they are adults now. The only regret I have that i didn’t have 4 children….

[@JR-gq7rx]

More rewarding??

[@Muhluri]

@@JR-gq7rx yeah, seems like a typo

[@jeffrounsville4961]

Great video

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Thanks!

[@k.t.1594]

Some sick words from Tom, he is very, very well-read.

[@mbb05jb]

What time is the harmless bit a the start?

[@Ileanapros]

I've been watching Tom's content for a long time... I really wish Tom defines the terms he uses before he dishes them out. Fascinating to watch the interview he did with Hormozi as an example. At times they were both saying the same things but in different ways until Hormozi started defining the terms. An example Tom always says is 'everything is your fault', but the sentence is already self-punishing enough. I feel like what he is actually saying is 'everything is your responsibility'. Honestly, I feel like that is a blindspot that Tom needs to look at and change some of his self-punishing language to more accurate neutral language so people don't bring their own understanding to his words without him defining the terms.

[@tanya6905]

I’m only here for Jack

[@isaacvega3360]

Great pos

[@Churchtattoo]

Jack has been carrying these podcast on his shoulders. I hope he’s getting 50/50

[@MoltenArmour]

He does

[@ypey1]

Yes, he gets 50$😅

[@Mcouey2]

The mango frequency

[@louisianabeast]

Still liking!

[@AMAmedia8]

If you want to be successful, your goals will make demands.

[@somesteak6100]

I love all of Toms content! Such a wise dude

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Us too!

[@SetMeFree]

I’m 35 with no kids and I’m the only one smiling at the functions these days. 😊

[@Freshprankstv1]

You have no legacy

[@brahmabull4004]

​@@Freshprankstv1who gives a fuck

[@dmitryr1223]

wow its the george costanza jacket!

[@ISREHL]

You guys did him dirty with that thumbnail

[@vaughanmoody]

I’m just commenting to say your subscriber number is 999k. Wow! Cool! I’m already a subscriber, so I hope this comment helps to somehow get you over the 1 million subscriber mark, by it encouraging someone to decide to subscribe. Keep up the great interviews guys.

[@terrahillman151]

30:50 topic…what he is describing is what Dick Schwartz refers to as Parts in IFS. We all def have ‘parts’ of us that show up in differing times and can act and be totally different than our true self 👌🏼

[@jacobmorres9817]

I love bilyeu

[@colombianspanish]

"Keeping my Ego in check is the world's easiest thing" EGO = 100 Tom = - 0

[@persistenceovision]

Graham had to get up when the “how much sex” topic came up. Haha I thought either he was uncomfortable or took the advice VERY literally. Either way made me laugh.

[@MarcusAnthonyPerez]

Jack gets it.

[@CoreLabb]

Thank you🪷 ...also, just downloaded Kyzen🥰🥰 so happy Tom mentioned this treasure 🤓

[@sc3639]

Wow, I am 37 and I have never heard of Tom Bilyeu.

[@GBlunted]

The story about the tea was fucking brilliant! That and the follow-up pool game story really spoke to me and I don't even have a girlfriend lol!

[@MrMilliron]

is nick rochefort mentioned in this video?

[@intuitive_duck]

I used to watch him a lot before I started noticing patterns I didn’t like in him. I haven’t regularly watched him or Lisa since. If they have a compelling guest I might listen.

[@user-lr1sq8fp7j]

“Strong convictions loosely held”… in other words an open mind.

[@Augustalawncareofreddeer]

True

[@grn7522]

He has a lot of good advice, but at the same time much of it is him starting off with having a wrong mindset to begin with. Its like a rehabilitated drug addict teaching straight edge adults how to not be drug addicts.