THE BIGGEST PARENTING FAIL I'VE MADE IN GERMANY | New Zealand expat

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I’m Antoinette a New Zealander living with my husband Rob, raising our two children Emilia (7) and Matteo (3) in Lower Franconia, Germany.
In this video, I share an embarrassing parenting fail that happened to me last week!
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[@mariusgrieger1728]

Dear Antoinette, that was the opposite of a parenting failure. You've shown your daughter how to get through a very tough and personaly embarrassing situation and doing the right thing despite struggling. That's personaly growing and straight A+ parenting. It's not about beeing perfect but about trying to (be, become?) better one self. Be kind to yourself. You did really good. Greetings from a father of two (8&5).

[@JoviesHome]

Marius Grieger YES to all of this!

[@dellenebecker4610]

Well said from Australia

[@jacquenetteviljoen3126]

Did not expect you to lie about something so small. It would have been easier just to say you overslept by mistake and Amelia would be late. It has happened to all of us before. You never need to apologise for being human. I love your channel and you are very sweet but have noticed that you worry to much of what others think of you or how they will judge you. You are great don't doubt yourself so much

[@TourdionInstrumental]

I thought the same thing. Just say you overslept. It happens. Children watch everything we do, including lying. If the school had a problem with that explanation, that would be their own fault. Sounds like your husband was disappointed as well. We have all becoming very judgmental of others which I think leads to worries of having to cover up human mistakes. Being cognizant of that is imperative to changing it. We need to allow ourselves and others to be human again. If someone judges us for it, it’s their own problem.

[@islablanca1]

Danke fürs teilen! Ich bin Grundschullehrerin und finde es toll, von dir zu erfahren, in welche Situationen man als Mama kommen kann. Du hast alles richtig gemacht!!! Wenn du in der Schule anrufst und ehrlich bist, hat jeder Verständnis!

[@jrgilmore935]

Hilarious! Very human. I'm a German teacher and really had to laugh. Yes, I think us Germans really don't appreciate being lied to but we have quite a big heart and understanding for any sort of truth and appreciate honesty very, very much. I'm very glad your teacher reacted that way :)

[@nordwestbeiwest1899]

Ehrlich währt am längsten ! Oder in Thomas Mann`s Worten :"Eine schmerzliche Wahrheit ist besser als eine Lüge ."

[@peterpain6625]

Ähm nö. Das stimmt sicher überall aber nicht den verfilzten Institutionen in Deutschland gegenüber. Am besten nichts sagen oder "ausversehen" Auflegen. Mit der Wahrheit kann man sich bei den Schulen ne menge Ärger einfangen. Und ich spreche aus Erfahrung ;)

[@AP-RSI]

@NORDWEST BEI WEST - So wahr für viele Bereiche! Leider sieht dies nicht jeder so!

[@sirstanley8599]

Hast du da ein Deppenapostroph eingebaut?

[@nordwestbeiwest1899]

@@sirstanley8599 : Erfahrung ist eine teure Schule, aber Narren wollen anderswo nicht lernen . Benjamin Franklin wie wahr wie wahr ..............

[@sirstanley8599]

@@nordwestbeiwest1899 Ansatt dich mit fremden Lorbeeren zu schmücken, solltest du mal deine Muttersprache lernen.

[@KatieZeldin]

Such a lovely story. And good for the school for caring so much about the children. I think they just want to be sure there's nothing bad going on in the family, preventing the kids from attending school. They won't be cross at a mum who didn't get up in time :-)

[@Rainerjgs]

Deutsches Sprichwort: "'Ein reines Gewissen ist das beste Ruhekissen!"

[@KristinaKk_xx120]

This was a great story! Thanks for sharing!

[@lenat9454]

I felt pretty empathetic with you through the whole video. I am German but when I notice that I am going to make a mistake my head starts to think for the silliest apologizes like you did. Sometimes it is hard to say the truth and even if I worry so much before I will always try to be honest. Thank you so much for sharing this situation and show that it is normal to do things like that. Do not think that you showed Emelia how to lie, she learned how to stand up for herself by watching you! ♥️

[@MaiGirl94]

Thats a great story and the way the teacher reacted in the end is so sweet. I really enjoy watching your videos 😊👍🏻 I am looking forward to many more:)

[@mydetlef]

This is a typical example of the "little lies" or sugar coating (from my German point of view) that is widespread in the English-speaking world. Say what's up and nobody will tear your head off. It's easier, everybody understands it and you don't have to remember any lies. If I oversleep then I call and say: I have overslept. Direct, true, straightforward. And everyone loves you for your honesty.

[@EyMannMachHin]

Just don't let it happen too often. Like e.g. once or twice during a school year is kinda okay. If it happens regularly there might be cause for concern.

[@rutav6443]

little lies are more common in germany. you guys lie non stop.

[@onetrickpony2236]

This is not a nightmare or an "embarrassing" situation, it is human and has happened to everyone. I am a teacher and these things happen. And as a teacher you can judge "your" kids' parents well and know when it is an exception. I am happy when the students come to class later and the parents stick to the truth. I think everyone can see that you are a great mother and very conscientious. Don't worry so much and stay authentic. You are great! By the way, right at the beginning of my new job at a high school, I overslept what hadn't happened to me ever before. When the school noticed that I was missing at 8:00 a.m. because my class was not being looked after, the secretary called me and got me out of a deep sleep. From the number I immediately recognized who was calling and that I had messed up. I was completely distraught, apologized and was stunned by what I heard. The secretary laughed, the principal in the background too and I was told to slow down, and above all to drive to school slowly, a substitute would already be in my class. I think the school could see that the whole thing was terrible for me. You have to admit to yourself much more often in life that you are a human being that sometimes messes up. And admit the same to others. Alles ist gut, es gibt weitaus Schlimmeres! :)

[@solopfl]

If I remember right. You could just have said on the phone that Emilia is sick with a headache or something of that caliber. School in Bavaria will start to ask for a doctors note after a few days. Not usually the first day of sickness... your excuse was just to elaborate. 😂 well that ship has sailed for you in the future. Funny story anyways. The teachers reaction was kind. That’s lucky.

[@Rainerjgs]

Lüge haben kurze Beine - und ehrlich währt am längsten, insbesondere in Deutschland und das ist auch gut so!

[@franhunne8929]

Nope, do not lie. Just admit that you have overslept - that is not a crime, it can happen to the best of us, particularly when technology has failed us (remember her phone ran out of battery). So just stay with the truth!

[@Rainerjgs]

@@franhunne8929 Ein richtiger Wecker mit Batterieanzeige ist immer die bessere Wahl, denn so eine Batterie hält meist über ein Jahr und man wird rechtzeitig gewarnt wenn sie zuende geht, während man ein Funktelefon dauernd aufladen muß und plötzlich ganz ohne Funktion dastehen kann!

[@Rainerjgs]

@Ofmine Aber warum nicht gleich die Wahrheit sagen und den Kindern mit guten Vorbild voran gehen? Außerdem wäre dann die Tochter auf Nachfrage in der Schule ebenfalls zu lügen! Verschlafen ist menschlich und kein Kapitalverbrechen - auch in Deutschland nicht!

[@amygiess8906]

Wow that seems so strange! I’m a kiwi and going to the doctors is such a common excuse with no further questions. Soo interesting how strict they are, but what a great story about the importance of honesty.

[@fs2728]

Being sick is a common excuse in germany too. You just must not go to the doctors, because then you have to show a doctor's note.

[@swanpride]

Nobody in Germany goes to the doctor on the first day of sickness unless it is something really serious. We can stay at home for two days no question asked and only need an attest from the thrid day onwards. Avoids the rest of the staff or the school class getting infected and it avoids the doctors offices being overrun with people who don't need a doctor, just a little bit rest. Hence it is a really bad excuse in the German context to say "we had an appointment". Instead the standard excuse is to say you (or in this case your child) felt unwell...just don't let yourself catch running around obviously healthy.

[@amygiess8906]

swanpride ohh I see that makes more sense

[@frankharzer6224]

@@swanpride It depends on the job, I, as a german, for example have to go to the doctor on the first day when I am sick because my employer wants it and in my job that is pretty normal.

[@butterbee2163]

German school is mostly half day, so the kids finish quite early, they have the whole afternoon to go to a doctors appointment (like dentist, speech therapy etc I don't mean when they are sick), so there is no need to miss school for that normally

[@TeTeNeko]

Well actually at my School it is handled like that too for the documentary reason. Because they need an official writing everytime their student is not in school. If someone calls them to say they have an appointment, they need a confirmation from there because not every appointment you are going to is something your parent's are involved in or aware of (at such a young age it is but later on not, so they have the same equal rules for the following years). And to be on the safe side, they need a writing that confirms that date beforehand. But if you just call and say you or your little daughter is sick or something happend, a writing afterwards would be okay too. You could also call and explain that she missed the bus and there is no possibility she could come, schools are really accepting when it comes to that stuff. Normally at least. They understand that sometimes not everything works out perfectly, they are used to getting calls like that - I guess that's also why they are questioning so much about an appointment on the phone (because nowadays they just assume parents telling them if there is actually an other reason for the absence) But we all learn from mistakes don't we? An this was a pretty cute one haha❤

[@piccadelly9360]

Welcome to Germany, it's hard to tell the truth but it's worth it It's been so strict with children and school for a few years. There was child abuse, the children were not at school because they were abused. Politics reacted and it's been so strict ever since. If children do not go to school for no reason, the family concerned receives a visit from the police. Brave that you share your concern with us. We appreciate that

[@EyMannMachHin]

It's been this way in Germany ever since we had compulsory schooling. It definitely was this way when I was in school during the 1970s and 80s. Germans are paperpushers. And usually Police is not the first response here. If 'sick days' happen too often, school tries to intervene first and then child protective services (Jugendamt) will check in on you.

[@teachersusanute199]

Just tell them that you overslept 😁 we are all human. I‘m a teacher and it‘s ok to tell the truth 🤣

[@Damian.D]

This was a truly wonderful story. We all make mistakes and admitting them and learning from our failures makes us grow. I appreciate your honesty, you are so sensitive, warm-hearted and down to earth. Thank you!! 🤗

[@annaaquintanaa]

i love your vids and your channel, keep up the amazing work!

[@HEY-gn5lx]

I heard the excuse "I overslept" for coming late to school many many times while I went to school in Germany. It is completely normal. Just one time we made fun of someone who overslept because he was late to a class that startet at nearly 12 o'clock. But I am honestly not familiar with school being that strict when it comes to absence especially in the younger grades. When it is just about one morning it was usually enough for the parent to write a little letter and excuse the absence. That forst changed for us when we were in the last years before our "Abitur".

[@martinaheidrich5636]

Verschlafen ist überhaupt nicht schlimm, wenn es nicht 3x die Woche ist.🤷‍♀️

[@MyMerryMessyGermanLife]

I could totally see myself doing this Antoinette! 🤣 I can imagine it was SO hard to own up to that. So glad that the teacher understood!

[@goodsmile5170]

😂😂😂 You are so sweet! It’s ok ! No way this would be questioned in USA either. I love that your friends have your back. It’s an awful feeling it’s heavy . Amelia has a good teacher 🍎

[@juliahaas1783]

Tolle Mama, tolle Lehrerin!

[@beatrixpastoors1104]

Was für eine nette Geschichte! Danke, dass du sie mit uns geteilt hast! Und ich habe etwas gelernt: den Ausdruck 'to own up to sth' kannte ich noch nicht. Über den Vorteil entwaffnender Ehrlichkeit und die nette Reaktion der Lehrerin wurde hier ja schon genug geschrieben..... :-) Die deutsche Strenge hängt sicher mit der allg. Schulpflicht zusammen. Wenn ein Kind nicht akut krank ist, sondern man eher eine Kontrolluntersuchung beim Facharzt anstrebt, empfiehlt es sich, den Termin in die unterrichtsfreie Zeit zu legen. Ist übrigens auf dem Arbeitsmarkt ebenso: Facharzttermine am besten in die freie Zeit legen. Muss man doch in der Schule oder am Arbeitsplatz fehlen, bitte nicht vergessen, sich eine Bescheinigung geben zu lassen. Manche Ärzte verlangen dafür sogar 2 Euro oder mehr. Alle Fehlstunden müssen von den Lehrkräften bzw. im Job vom jew. Sekretariat eingetragen werden, ebenso alle im Endeffekt unentschuldigten Fehlstunden. Je mehr davon auf dem Zeugnis stehen, desto schlimmer! Man denkt dann: dieses Kind lernt nicht gerne, es schwänzt dauernd die Schule! Unvorstellbar, dass man in Deutschland bei Abwesenheit einfach sagt "Tut mir leid, aber ich/mein Kind hatte einen Termin!" - ohne zu erklären, was für ein wichtiger Termin das war. So wichtig, dass man deshalb nicht zur Schule oder zur Arbeit gegangen ist. Aber in NZ geht das? Ist ja krass! Ich wünsche dir, dass du bald deine Führerscheinprüfung bestehst und endlich unabhängiger und mobiler wirst! Und dass ihr bald in euer neugebautes Haus einziehen könnt. Dann wird sicher manches einfacher werden, besonders für Emilia. Übrigens, was ich schon immer mal wissen wollte: Wie kommt es, dass ihr als in Deutschland lebende polnisch/neuseeländische Eltern euren beiden Kindern italienische Vornamen gegeben habt? So richtig multikulti. Ich finde das sehr amüsant. Antoinette, hast du auch eine Mailadresse? Ich würde dich gern etwas Privates fragen, was mir jedes Mal durch den Kopf geht, wenn ich deine Videos gucke. Aber das gehört nicht in die Öffentlichkeit..... ;-)

[@bobbraumeister]

The real villain in this story is the phone that decided to die that night. How dare you, phone!

[@AntoinetteEmily]

I agree! 😂

[@marinaab7276]

Very interesting. It actually makes a lot of sense for schools to have these rules. In Mexico you don't need to submit any written documentation unless your child will miss or missed school several days in a row. There's indeed a good moral to this story. Good for you for handling it this way!!! 👏🏻 Many blessings from Northern California 💕

[@butenbremer1965]

This was a lesson needed to be learned - mit einem Happy End für alle Seiten. Solche Geschichten machen das Leben lebenswert. Das Thema Moral und Ehrlichkeit wird in so vielen Kinderbüchern beschrieben. Du hast das einzig Richtige gemacht, Respekt und Hut ab!

[@LuckyGirlsTown]

Aww I felt so bad for you listening to you telling this story. I think I would have been tempted to lie too. Glad you managed to resolve everything. Emilia’s teacher sounds really nice. I overslept on the day of an important job interview last summer because I was jet-lagged and had to call the place five minutes after the interview was supposed to have started to try to explain why I wasn’t there. I was still so tired because I’d just woken up (mind you, it was 2pm, I was on New York time) that my brain just could NOT come up with an excuse so I just told them the truth. They rescheduled my interview and, at that interview, told me they were incredibly surprised by my honesty. I got the job. I think that in a lot of places outside Germany I would have been immediately eliminated from the candidate pool.

[@Damian.D]

What a great story! Happy, you got the job! These people seem really intelligent and open minded because they gave you a second chance! I'm impressed! 🤗

[@TierchenF95]

Lwaxana Troi (Star Trek Charakter) said once something very true about telling the truth: "Well, for one thing it's easier. When you tell the truth you never have to remember later what you lied about." I think Mark Twain said something similar.

[@robertzander9723]

Wonderful video, thanks for sharing that story, in situations like that we have in the moment, is a lie about being sick, having an appointment a serious thing, more than usually in Germany. Sometimes, maybe a lie is an easier thing to get out of something, but it can return like a boomerang and of course if somebody brings third persons in that situation as well. Everyone makes mistakes, it can happen, we are human beings and if someone says he/she had never made a mistake, he/she lies to you and you should run away as soon as possible, because these guys don't work, raise kids and have to manage a lot of things in their lives like you. Thanks of being so honest, so normal and sharing that embarrassing story. That's pleasant and one of the reason why I like you and your channel so much!! It's

[@irao.7697]

Du bist so ein sympathischer Mensch 💝❤️

[@Sirianstar10]

Good grief!!! All for a 1st grader missing a morning? Wow! Talk about over kill! It still made me chuckle. That should be the worst thing that ever happens to you! ❤❤

[@karinland8533]

Because of Schulpflicht (duty to atend school) she is requred to call the school. She could have said, sorry we overslept, because of corona the busses are not on schedule, my girl is not able to atend school today. I will write a not for that. That would have worked just fine

[@calise8783]

You ARE so sweet! And this totally sounds like something I would have done! You are awesome!!! Don’t ever doubt yourself! If only we all could be as kind and wonderful as you! 💜

[@kathrin816]

Here in Australia, we would all make a little lie like this too in all sorts of situations, such as calling in sick to work, missing school, handing assignments in late, missing appointments, etc. It’s almost that we don’t want to share personal things, but I think it’s also because our culture is so laid back and not so strict about school. What happens in Germany if you want to keep your child home for a special family event (such as birthdays or a long weekend trip). And do all kids go to school until the last day of the year? Here in Australia not many kids go to school in the last week or two before the summer holidays because we didn’t do any actual learning during this time anyway.

[@theresae]

To answer your questions: In Germany you can't really keep your child home for a family event or weekend trip (at least not in secondary school, I'm not sure if it is a bit less strict in primary school) because there is compulsory schooling (as a law), so you have to have a really good reason for keeping your child out of school. An exception would be, for example, a funeral because funerals are often on weekdays during the morning and this is seen as an appropriate reason for missing. But you always have to ask the school beforehand. And concerning the days before the summer holidays, some parents try to go on holidays a few days before the official summer holidays start, but it is not welcomed by schools, so it is also very difficult to do this and you can get into trouble as parents or as the child who is missing. So yes I think it is handled differently than in Australia because of this compulsory schooling law. But this law aims at securing a proper education for everyone, so I think in general it is not a bad thing.

[@martinadobke9639]

So mutig das du so ehrlich auf KZbin bist. Hab einen 4 Monate alten Sohn und es ist schön zu hören das alle Eltern Fehler machen 😉

[@schuhschrank947]

That is why I use two (!) old school alarm clocks and not the alarn on my telephone!

[@Damian.D]

"At least I'm an honest idiot". You are really the sweetest. 😊

[@mattesrocket]

That story is actually very funny for us. & one can learn, how Germany works: everthing is strict, we are upset if someone doesn't follow the rules, we tell someone off quite harshly who doesn't follow the rules, we expect being honest, but we know despite all this that mistakes happen to everybody and IN THE END often we take it relaxed. Or in some cases we anyway don't follow some specific rules totally strictly, maybe despite we discuss it first very seriously. One knows just by experiences what cases this are and ALSO GERMANS, Antoinette, sometimes don't know really, if the rule is now really strict or not. I easily can imagine I would have got in the same situation like you as it all came so suddenly without having time to think about what to say and being still dozy from sleeping. It's human, it's normal.

[@lindal3966]

I love the idea of everyone abiding by the rules because then we all know what is expected and acceptable. For example, I struggle to explain to my neighbours that constantly high levels of noise is unfair to others. But as for missing school, a note in advance is required here too (UK). Or it was when my children were school age. They would be quite harsh as well if a child missed too much school even if the reason was valid and unavoidable, such as illness, as was the case with my asthmatic son. Oh yes, so so happy my boys are well beyond their school years!

[@Vincentanton2032]

Well done! We all sometimes in the same situation, only some years ago i got often in trouble because of Not telling the truth. But if you do this, these lies needs to be prooven true from now on and that's the biggest problem with lies. So you've done everything right. Great you share this with us. Love you for that so much!!! Go on!!

[@schattensand6129]

Two thumps up for your husband, one for you.

[@djgonpet]

Thank you for sharing this story with us. I really appreciate your genuineness ❤️ I'm sure the teacher has the same opinion, that's why she reacted like that. And don't worry... Everyone makes mistakes

[@إدعوليأجنيملياردولار]

Hallo Im Namen Allahs des Barmherzigen Al-Baqir (Friede sei mit ihm) sagte: Wenn die Braut dich heiratet, dann gehe, um vorher die Waschung durchzuführen, und du fügst die Waschung durch, bete zwei Rak'ahs und sage, dass sie ihr auch befehlen, zwei Rak'ahs zu beten. Dann danke Gott und bete zu Muhammad und Muhammad, dann bete und befehle den Frauen, die mit ihr kamen, zu glauben Oh Gott, gib mir ihre Zuneigung, Zuneigung und Befriedigung und befriedige mich mit ihr und versammle uns mit dem besten Treffen und vergiss eine Koalition, denn du liebst die Gesetzlichen und hasst die Verbotenen Wenn Sie sich dafür entscheiden, dass ich einen Sohn von ihr habe, machen Sie ihn gesegnet und fromm unter den Schiiten Mohammeds und machen Sie Satan in ihm nicht zu einer Falle oder einem Erbe. Haben Sie keinen Verkehr mit Ihrer Frau mit dem Wunsch einer anderen Frau als Ihnen, denn ich fürchte, wenn ein Kind zwischen Ihnen entscheidet, dass es weiblich, weiblich, idiotisch ist Im Bett mit seiner Frau, damit er den Koran nicht rezitiert, denn ich fürchte für sie, dass Feuer vom Himmel herabkommt und sie verbrennt. Ihre Frau wird keinen Verkehr haben, außer mit Ihnen mit einem Lappen und mit Ihrer Familie mit einem Lappen. Abdullah (Friede sei mit ihm): Ein Mann hat keinen Verkehr mit seiner Frau, und es gibt einen Jungen im Haus, weil das etwas ist, das geerbt wird Unzucht ... auf die Autorität des Gesandten Gottes (PBUH): Wenn ein Mann und eine Frau Verkehr mit Eseln haben, dann kommen die Engel aus ihnen heraus. Auf die Autorität von Abu Abdullah (Friede sei mit ihm): Wenn er wollte, dass seine Familie zum Verkehr zurückkehrt, würde er die Waschung durchführen und die rituelle Waschung des Gebets durchführen. Der Prophet (Friede sei mit ihm) verbietet Gott und Frieden), damit die Frau mit der Frau darüber spricht, was sie wirklich mit ihrem Ehemann allein ist. Es ist wünschenswert, es beim Geschlechtsverkehr zu nennen und die Waschung durchzuführen, insbesondere wenn die Frau schwanger ist, und Gott, den Allmächtigen, zu bitten, ihm einen Sohn zu geben: fromm, gesegnet, rein, männlich, zusammen. Er hasst Geschlechtsverkehr in der Nacht der Sonnenfinsternis und am Tag der Sonnenfinsternis .. und am Mittag außer am Donnerstag .. und bei Sonnenuntergang, bevor die Dämmerung vergeht .. und in den Wüsten .. und nach Sonnenaufgang bis zum Sonnenaufgang .. und in der ersten Nacht des Monats außer im Monat Ramadan .. und in der Mitte des Monats und am Ende des Erdbebens Und der gelb-schwarze Wind. Er hasst den Geschlechtsverkehr, die Zukunft des Kusses und den dahinter. Und im Schiff. Und nackt. Und die Folgen eines feuchten Traums vor dem Waschen. Es ist nicht beliebt, auf die Vagina der Frau zu schauen und zu sprechen, ohne Gott zu erwähnen hiiiiii

[@إدعوليأجنيملياردولار]

Das Wichtigste für mich sind Kinder und dies ist die Fortsetzung. Über die Etikette der Ehe O Ali, wenn du mit deiner Frau im Bett bist, lies den Koran nicht, denn ich befürchte, dass Feuer vom Himmel auf dich herabkommt und dich beide verbrennt. O Ali, habe keinen Verkehr mit deiner Frau ohne Lappen und mit deiner Frau ohne Lappen und wische nicht mit einem einzigen Lappen ab, so dass das Verlangen auf das Verlangen fällt, und das folgt der Feindschaft zwischen dir und führt dich dann zur Spaltung und Scheidung. O Ali, habe keinen Verkehr mit deiner Frau vom Aufstehen, denn das ist Wer Esel macht und wenn er zwischen Ihnen stirbt, wird ein Kind im Bett urinieren wie Eselurin überall Ort . O Ali, habe in der Nacht von Eid al-Fitr keinen Verkehr mit deiner Frau, denn wenn ein Kind zwischen dir geboren wird, wird es erwachsen Der Junge leidet keinen Sohn bis ins hohe Alter. O Ali, habe in der Nacht von Eid al-Adha keinen Verkehr mit deiner Frau Denn wenn er sich zwischen euch beiden entscheidet, hat er sechs oder vier Finger. O Ali, habe keinen Verkehr mit deiner Frau Wenn er sich unter einem fruchtbaren Baum zwischen Ihnen entscheidet, ist ein Kind ein Henker in einem vollständigen Kampf. O Ali, habe keinen Verkehr mit deiner Frau angesichts der Sonne und ihrer Herrlichkeit, es sei denn, du bist entspannt, denn wenn ein Kind zwischen dir verstorben ist, ist es immer noch in Elend und Armut, bis es stirbt. O Ali, habe keinen Verkehr mit deiner Familie zwischen dem Aufruf zum Gebet und dem Iqama Denn wenn ein Junge zwischen Ihnen verbracht wird, wird er eifrig Blut vergießen. O Ali, wenn deine Frau schwanger wird, habe keinen Verkehr mit ihr, bis du dich in der Waschung befindest, denn wenn ein Kind zwischen dir hin und her geht Sei blindes Herz, geizige Hand. O Ali, habe während der Mitte von Sha'ban keinen Verkehr mit deiner Familie, denn wenn ein Kind zwischen dir hin und her geht, wird es mit einer Wunde in den Haaren und im Gesicht verzerrt. O Ali, habe in der letzten Phase keinen Verkehr mit deiner Familie - das heißt, wenn noch zwei Tage übrig sind -, denn wenn ein Kind zwischen dir stirbt, ist es im Voraus. O Ali, habe keinen Verkehr mit deiner Familie über die Lust ihrer Schwester, und wenn er sich zwischen dir entscheidet, wird ein Kind ein Steuereintreiber oder eine Hilfe für den Unterdrücker sein, und eine Gruppe von Menschen wird durch seine Hände zerstört. O Ali, habe keinen Verkehr mit deiner Familie auf den Dächern des Gebäudes, denn wenn sich ein Kind zwischen dir entscheidet, wird es ein Heuchler, ein praktizierender Innovator O Ali, und wenn du auf eine Reise gehst, habe in dieser Nacht keinen Verkehr mit deiner Familie, denn wenn ein Kind zwischen dir verbracht wird, Er gibt sein Geld zu Unrecht aus. Und der Gesandte Gottes, möge Gottes Gebet und Friede auf ihm und seiner Familie sein, lesen Sie (dass die Verschwender Brüder von Dämonen waren). O Ali, habe keinen Verkehr mit deiner Familie, wenn du drei Tage und zwei Nächte spazieren gehst, denn das ist es Wenn ein Junge zwischen Ihnen stirbt, wird er allen helfen, die Sie unterdrücken. {Die Tage, an denen die Ehe empfohlen wird} O Ali, du musst am Montagabend Geschlechtsverkehr haben Denn wenn sich ein Kind zwischen Ihnen entscheidet, wird es ein Hüter des Buches Gottes sein, der mit dem zufrieden ist, was Gott, der Allmächtige, geteilt hat O Ali, wenn du am Dienstagabend mit deiner Familie Verkehr hattest, segnet er das Martyrium, nachdem er ausgesagt hat, dass es keinen Gott gibt Außer Gott und dass Mohammed der Gesandte Gottes ist und Gott der Allmächtige ihn nicht mit den Polytheisten bestraft, und er ist gut Der Geschmack kommt aus dem Mund, barmherzig, dem Herzen, großzügig, der Hand, der reinen Zunge, vom Rückbiss, Lügen und Verblassen O Ali, und wenn du deine Familie am Donnerstagabend getroffen hast und ein Sohn zwischen dir gestorben ist, dann wird er der Herrscher von wem sein? Herrscher oder ein Gelehrter unter den Gelehrten und dass ihre Universität am Donnerstag ist, wenn die Sonne aus der Mitte des Himmels verschwindet und er zwischen Ihnen und einem Kind hin- und hergeht. Satan kommt ihm nicht nahe, bis er grau wird und sein Verständnis und sein Lebensunterhalt Gott ist Sicherheit in der Religion und in der Welt und dass die Universität am Freitagabend war und ein Kind zwischen Ihnen war Gesprochene Worte. Und ihre Universität am Freitag nach dem Nachmittag, und er ging zwischen euch beiden vorbei Bekannter berühmter Wissenschaftler sein. Und dass sie am Freitagabend nach dem Leben nach dem Tod Geschlechtsverkehr hatte, würde es gefallen Der Junge statt des Ersatzes zu sein, so Gott will. O Ali, habe in der ersten Stunde keinen Verkehr mit deiner Familie Ab der Nacht, wenn ein Junge zwischen Ihnen verbracht hat, glaubt er nicht daran, ein Zauberer zu sein, der die Welt beeinflusst Das Jenseits. O Ali, behalte diesen Willen wie ich unter der Autorität von Gabriel, Friede sei mit ihm.

[@إدعوليأجنيملياردولار]

Etikette der Ehe für jeden Mann und jede Frau Gründe für die Gesetze - Sheikh Al-Saduq - Teil 2 - S. 513-518 (Gründe für Anekdoten der Ehe) {Unter der Autorität von Ali bin Abi Talib, Friede sei mit ihm, in einem langen Hadith, in dem er erwähnt} Der Wille des Propheten, möge Gott ihn und seine Familie segnen Und darin sagt er: Der Gesandte Gottes, möge Gott ihn und seine Familie segnen, hasste den Mann, in Ohnmacht zu fallen Seine Frau menstruiert, und wenn er es tut und der Junge leprakrank ist oder an Lepra leidet, beschuldigt er nur sich selbst Und es ist makrooh für einen Mann, mit einem feuchten Traum zu seiner Familie zu kommen, damit er sich nach einem feuchten Traum waschen kann, wenn er das tut. Der Junge ist verrückt geworden, also geben sie sich nur die Schuld. Auf die Autorität seines Vaters Musa auf die Autorität seines Vaters Jaafar auf die Autorität seines Vaters, Friede sei mit ihnen, sagte er: Es ist nicht beliebt, wenn ein Mann in der ersten Nacht des Monats, in der Mitte und am Ende des Monats Geschlechtsverkehr hat. Und er, Friede sei mit ihm, sagte: Wer heiratet, während der Mond im Skorpion ist, sieht nicht das Schönste. Und er, Friede sei mit ihm, sagte: Wer im Monat der Bedrängnis heiratet, der soll das Kind erobern. Der Gesandte Gottes, möge Gott ihn und seine Familie segnen, empfahl Ali bin Abi Talib, Friede sei mit ihm Er sagte: O Ali, wenn die Braut dein Haus betritt, zieh ihre Hausschuhe aus, während sie sitzt und ihre Beine wäscht Und gieße Wasser von der Tür deiner Tür zum anderen Ende deiner Tür. Wenn du das tust, hol Gott raus Verdunkle siebzig Farben der Armut und bringe siebzig Farben des Segens hinein und sende siebzig auf dich herab Die Barmherzigkeit flattert über den Kopf der Braut, damit sie in jeder Ecke Ihres Hauses ihren Segen erhalten und sicher sein kann Die Braut ist von Wahnsinn, Lepra und Lepra oder befällt sie, solange sie in diesem Haus ist. Und verhindern Sie, dass die Braut in ihrer Woche Milch, Essig, Koriander und einen sauren Apfel davon bekommt Die vier Dinge. Ali, Friede sei mit ihm, sagte: O Gesandter Gottes, und für alles, was ich daran hindere, dies zu tun Die vier Dinge? Er sagte: Die Gebärmutter wird für das Kind von diesen vier Dingen sterilisiert und gekühlt Eine Matte an der Seite des Hauses ist besser als eine Frau, die nicht gebiert, also sagte Ali (PBUH): O Gesandter Gottes, was? Kumpel Essig verhindern sie? Er sagte: Wenn sie mit Essig menstruiert, wurde sie nie vollständig gereinigt, und Koriander ist aufgeregt Menstruation im Magen und gestresst durch Geburt. Und der saure Apfel stoppt ihre Menstruation und es wird Krankheit an ihr, Er sagte: O Ali, habe zu Beginn, Mitte und Ende des Monats keinen Verkehr mit deiner Frau, denn Wahnsinn, Lepra und Demenz beschleunigen sie und ihren Sohn. O Ali, habe noch keinen Verkehr mit deiner Frau Mittag, denn wenn ein Junge zu dieser Zeit zwischen Ihnen verbracht wird, wird er schwerer zu fassen sein, und Satan freut sich über die Sehnsucht Im Menschen. O Ali, rede nicht viel beim Geschlechtsverkehr, denn wenn ein Kind zwischen dir hin und her geht, glaubt es nicht Um stumm zu sein und nicht auf die Vagina Ihrer Frau zu schauen und Ihren Blick beim Geschlechtsverkehr zu schließen, dann den Blick An die Vulva wird Blindheit vererbt - was beim Jungen bedeutet O Ali, habe keinen Verkehr mit deiner Frau mit dem Wunsch einer Frau Außer Ihnen befürchte ich, dass Sie beide beschlossen haben, eine Schwuchtel, weiblich und verrückt zu sein.

[@mirkok.6906]

Don't blame yourself! :o) Not charging the battery may happen to everyone. You weren't aware of the stricter rules in Germany. Your reaction was human. Yet I appreciate your decision to tell the truth. Honesty is the best policy. Best wishes! ;o)

[@BairnandaBackpack]

Thanks for sharing your story Antoinette! I am always surprised how rigid that kind of thing is in Germany and there's a lovely moral to your story. It's so relaxed in Scotland too! 😂

[@Jazmin-do3fn]

Well, you just wanted to protect your daughter...🤔 Thank you for being human😉 And thank you for sharing your story and being honest as always even though it was an embarassing mistake for you! All the best

[@marcokrueger3399]

What a nice story about being honest! I'm now 21 and one thing I learned through all my childhood, it's that making a mistake is just half as bad if you're honest about it. That's why they put rubber at the and of pencils, because people make mistakes. :)

[@doskraut]

I'm glad you told the truth and sent a hand written letter, you kids are learning so much good from you and your husband.

[@sarahmarinaa]

Emily can be happy that her mum is a role model. Owning up to a mistake is hard but now she knows that honesty pays off and it's better to have an awkward situation than to get yourself into even more troubles.

[@mel_9917]

Hättest du nicht einfach sagen können, dass Emilia krank ist und ihr dann selbst eine Entschuldigung schreiben können 🤔😂 aber sehr süße Geschichte 🙈 noch einen Grund mehr den Führerschein zu machen! 😂🙈

[@jesssmith3615]

this is so strange for me as an english person! we never really had to come up with an excuse we just rung to say we weren’t coming in and that was that, never really had any consequences for not coming in either. you’re honestly so sweet!

[@ruby9286]

Verschlafen ist menschlich und gehört auch mal dazu. Es ist auch menschlich, wenn man vergisst, sein Smartphone aufzuladen. Dir reißt niemand den Kopf dafür ab und ich denke, dass dir deine Ehrlichkeit - wenn sie auch erst später kam - viel Vertrauen eingebracht hat. Kopf hoch, du warst in Panik, da neigt man schon mal zu einer seltsamen Lüge. Das Wichtigste ist, dass du es noch ganz normal geklärt hast ohne noch mehr lügen zu müssen. :-) Ich mag deine Art!

[@nothingtobeconcernedabout7477]

It is somewhat the same as when you talked about being able to go on holidays a bit earlier. You needed to inform the school and ask permission. This situation is similar. A lot of it is about accountability. I think one of the reason saying that you bungled up the dates is that they would have immediately asked when the real appointment was, including date and time. Especially nowadays every doctor's appointments takes a different weight. Any health related appointment could have triggered an immediate, better safe than sorry, reaction from the school and send everyone in the class and everyone that had contact with Emilia into immediate quarantine.

[@blendedkorea]

It's not a failure. It's the best lesson being a mother and living in a foreign land.💞Keep safe.

[@hape3862]

These stories happened to me every time when I tried to lie. Finally I stopped lying altogether and always tell the truth now - which on the other hand is disturbing for some people as well again. But what can I do? I'm just too stupid to lie! Maybe "German bluntness and honesty"™ has the same reason - that many of us are just too stupid to lie properly?🤪

[@jensgoerke3819]

Telling a lie might be easy, but maintaining that lie is a lot of work, and the more work has gone into maintaining the lie the more damaging the eventual reveal. Telling the truth straight away makes dealing with the actual problem much easier, and resolves a potential confrontation before it even happens.

[@jessicaely2521]

The High School I went to in Florida was like your daughter's school. It was the biggest pain in the ass to do. I never faked being sick in my life. The school even would ask what doctor's appointment it was when my mom called. She always said "none of your god damn business. You'll have a note from the doctor tomorrow." My mom was an honest and upfront German/Polish.

[@jumi123]

@Antoinette Did you know that a few years ago a lot of children missed the last day or even a few days before the sommer holidays? Just because parents wanted to safe money since prices for flying and hotels are still a little bit cheaper? Because of the Schulpflicht sometimes the Police at the airport stoped them. Children and the parents should understand that you have a responsibility the same way as if you are employed. If your child fells unwell for just a day and you do not want to bother a doctor because of a simple headache or a stomach issue it is okay to call the school as soon as possible to let them know the child will not attend today and then write a note the child can show the teacher the next day. That way your child has only excused days on his/her report at the end of term and everyone knows it did not skip class without the parents knowledge. Kind of like most employers only want a "Krankenschein" if you are sick for more than three days. But if thatvis a regular thing he will changevthat and you have to go to the doctor on Day 1. So as long as this happens only once or twice a year and it is not the last day at school or on the day your child has a very important test to write, everything is fine. But the school keeps track of that so they will inform the Jugendamt if your child is always sick without seeing a doctor. That is why it is always better to have a note from the doctor. It just makes a better impression. Most speech therapists or pediatricians aso will automatically give out a note that your child had an appointment. Often parents are ask if it is all right if they let the teacher know about the diagnosis. For example if the child had "Läuse" the teacher will let all the other parents know that there has been a case in in the school so everyone should check their child. Without saying names of cause. Speech therapists may give information to the teacher how to support the child... But you did good in telling the truth. It was not a big deal. You do not seem to be the person that is oversleeping almost 15 times a month. And owning up to your mistake is a huge part of German culture. Especially after World War 2 people startet to put a lot of emphasis in values like saying the truth.

[@katriaseven1530]

That must have been so stressful, but I just love that you told us and I am happy it ended good for you. Also, it is great Emilia is so healthy that you did not know about the doctor`s note.

[@balidobbster9010]

Was für eine doofe Zwickmühle 👀! Aber Lügen haben kurze Beine, halt Dich an die Wahrheit. Und die meisten Menschen haben Verständnis, dass auch mal was schief geht. Da reißt Dir niemand den Kopf ab. So die ein oder andere Schwäche macht einfach einen Menschen aus. Sehr liebenswert diese Geschichte zu teilen, werde mich bei dem Versuch meiner nächsten Notlüge daran erinnern....😁

[@martinaspohr2663]

Antoinette, No worries. We all make mistakes. I believe we all have been in situations and questioned our selves in dealing with it. All in all it is best to come clean and not have to worry about it. Especially being in a country where they may handle it differently than where you grew up. This is just my opinion that I think most people are kind and understanding. After all we are human and not perfect. I am no one to comment or share my thoughts. You did the right thing. Also, you are a wonderful woman and mother. Best to you and your family. Martina

[@garynarborough]

I had a giggle but from one older Kiwi to a younger one telling the truth is always the best policy. Trouble with lying (rightly or wrongly) is you have to tell another usually and just dig yourself into a big hole you can't get out of. Without exception no matter what the reason being up front gains respect and stops you having to remember the lies you told to cover yourself. It happens because I've seen people do it with horrendous consequences. Good on you for telling the truth. Wasn't as bad as you thought and you and Emelia got a great compliment from her teacher.

[@sherryp6663]

Oh sweetheart! You poor thing! The US is relaxed about appointments too! I remember my dad taking me shopping after an orthodontist appointment because I was just going to miss the last hour of class.

[@carolinesweetspot]

Your best video, thanks for sharing your mistake and your learnings about it, about people and about yourself. Einen Fehler zu machen und dazu zu stehen macht Dich sehr sympathisch und authentisch! Tolle Reaktion der Lehrerin!

[@nikkazs4424]

Antoinette I look up to you for winning this "inner fight" with yourself. To put yourself out to be judged by the teacher if you coul have avoided it is so tempting. Congratulations.

[@Kessina1989]

Also bei meiner Großen hat meine schriftliche Entschuldigung gereicht... Aber ich glaube, dass machen die Schule in DE immer unterschiedlich!

[@Purify123]

I am so proud of you too!

[@stefansucher9992]

Somebody told me a time ago a nice sentnece. We as humans are totaly perfect in being unperfect.

[@gepee3654]

Wow, thanks for sharing this story. You were astonished about the strictness of german schools - I as a german was astonished the same way that you don't have these rules in New Zealand. So telling the truth in this case also helps the teacher to understand something new, and I as a teacher once I understood how it is in New Zealand would be soooo embarrassed for bringing you in this difficult situation ... Oversleeping is not a big problem as an excuse, only if one is one of those parents where it happens three times a week, which you sure aren't. But especially in these difficult times schools want to know what is up with their pupils and if they are ok, so saying I overslept shouldn't be a big problem, but not telling any reason at all can get the alarm bells ringing - is the child ok? Are there problems in the family? May it be sick, even having Corona? And then you spoke about a doctor's appointment ... aaah, I cringed so hard .... All in all, you are a very brave person to write this letter and telling the story to us all!

[@heha6984]

Tja, die Mama so süß wie die Tochter! Alles ist in Ordnung :)

[@starblomma]

Those are some pretty strict rules at your daughter's school 0.o To be honest I don't fully remember how it worked in my elementary school, but in secondary school we simply had little booklets in which one would write the reason for the absence and get that signed by a parent. I still remember celebrating that from the day I turned 18 on I was allowed to sign my own absence notes :-D Although, there were also kids that had to bring a doctor's note for each time they were absent but this was usually only requested in special cases, meaning kids who were missing what seemed like an usual amount of days or where the amount of absence seemed to impact their grades. But also full disclaimer: this was about 20 years ago, so things could of course have changed ^^ p.s. I think it was great that you stood up to your mistake! That's setting a great example for your kids!

[@deronkel4643]

Funny and nice Story. I really enjoyed it. A true Story 😄. You can hear it.

[@jeanrothmund3510]

Hi Antoinette, you made my day and I am still chuckling...! 😊 Lies usually don't travel far and the most people I know appreciate honesty the most if it takes courage to confess a fault. 👍

[@nadinebeck2069]

It's a funny story! Be proud of you. Patents also fail sometimes. That's honest and an important message for our kids too.

[@berndhoffmann7703]

omg !! I can imagine how embarrassed you must have been. You went through it - tough! When I was in school parents could phone up and write a letter of excuse, but my parents never did they insisted on visiting a doctor. If it happens again just tell them you are today too late for the bus and have no car available and when the next bus is scheduled.

[@eagle1de227]

Assumptions made in 1:00 answered in 9:15 ... As usual there's a german saying: "Ehrlich währt am Längsten" (honesty is the best policy) respect for your courage and thank you for sharing this episode with us! Take care and stay safe!

[@cheeky1306]

If someone is looking for an example of the German word creation "verschlimmbessern", he will find it here. :D

[@dieZera]

another tip never rely on only one alarm clock especially on your phone, even if it's plugged in

[@uweneudecker5078]

Sweet video! Lesson learnt, not just for you also for Emilia. Making mistakes is not a problem, but only make them once :D Per aspera ad astra!

[@catmit-a2955]

Was für eine interessante Geschichte. Wie für ein Lehrbuch 😊😂

[@jcomm120]

Such a funny story. Like Inspector Derrick woven into the school system. In Fr. I've had situations where I needed to challenge teachers/admin a few times which was frightening but I got used to being simultaneously brash & humble which seems to work best here, usually. One outrageously funny faux pas was gifting a novel by Courtney Love's grandmother to a very strict headmistress. I screamed out laughing when I finished my own copy of the same book. In one chapter the lead character, a young woman flirting with communism writhes in pain from an intestinal tapeworm while working in a machine factory outside LA cuz she's broke. The polar opposite of Mme Carnet's esteemed & polished existence.

[@cherls15]

It's crazy to me that you were put under so much pressure to begin with, this is something that I just don't understand within the German schooling system. Here in NZ, I could just tell the receptionist " my phone went flat, there are no frequent buses, she's only at school for a few hours anyway etc." I can guarantee, they would just say " that's okay! Thank you so.much for letting us know! Bye!" hehe. It seems that in NZ, all school office people are happy if a parent keeps them informed with absences / lateness etc. there is never any questioning. BTW, this is a cool video!! I thought it was a funny story as I immediately started coming up with lies you could have used too🤣

[@nightcorelove2626]

If she would have said that the german school would have also been totally okay with it

[@IchSaluki74]

Next time just call and tell them that you overslept. :-) This is why we are honest. It get soo difficult. Love from a german Mom.

[@sweetsuperhero25]

Ich finde es toll, dass du dich für die Wahrheit entschieden hast. Das war sehr mutig!

[@utecanbolat3590]

You could just have told them the truth from the beginning, or that you'd mixed up the days (that would have been believable, given that Amelia has to go to school only every second Friday) Normally you don't need a confirmation from the doctor when your child is sick for a day. But for insurance reasons you do if you tell them you're taking your child to the doctor. Like, if, God forbid, an accident should happen on the way to or from the doctor, it still counts as a school accident and the school's insurance has to pay for the treatment, but only if it's official. I am talking from experience, from my work in the past as the secretary of a so-called "D-Arzt" aka the "Unfall-Arzt" at his own office or at the hospital you must see if you have an accident at work or at school or on the way to or from there.

[@Rainerjgs]

Warum hast Du eigentlich nicht gleich die Wahrheit gesagt? Jeder von uns - auch die Schul-Sekretärin - hat sich doch schon mal verschlafen, oder? Auch wenn die Sekretärin nicht nachgefragt hätte, so hätte das doch wahrscheinlich dann die Lehrerin gegenüber Deiner Tochter getan und hätte Deine Tochter dann auch lügen sollen? Lügt man im in Neuseeland denn so einfach schnell mal die Schule an, wenn man verschläft? Gott sei dank hast Du einen guten, grundehrlichen, typisch deutschen Mann, der Dir auf die richtige Spur geholfen hat! Ihr 4 seid eine beneidenswert liebevolle und glückliche Familie und ich danke Dir von ganzem Herzen, daß Du uns so aufrichtig und ehrlich an Deinen Fehlern, Sorgen und Freuden teilhaben läßt! Gott reichsten Segen wünscht Euch der Rainer-JGS.de, der Verfechter deutscher Werte und aufrichtiger Nächstenliebe und verbindender Völkerfreundschaft.

[@peterpain6625]

In Neuseeland ist alles etwas lockerer. Da apperiert nicht gleich die Inquisition wenn man anruft und sich entschuldigt ;)

[@Rainerjgs]

@@peterpain6625 Aber in Deutschland auch nicht, wenn man nur einfach bei der Wahrheit bleibt und sagt, daß man verschlafen habe, wenn es nicht zu oft vorkommt! Andererseits sollte man aber auch einen ordentlichen, verläßlichen Wecker benützten und nicht so ein labiles Funktelefon dessen Akku zu jederzeit ganz plötzlich mal leer oder defekt sein kann!

[@peterpain6625]

@@Rainerjgs Ist was dran. Hab, als ich jung war, über ein halbes Jahr meine bettlägrige Oma gepflegt und fürs mehrfach zu spät kommen insgesamt 2 Tadel und unzählige Einträge ins Klassenbuch gekriegt OBWOHL bekannt war wieso. Es wurde sogar, ohne meine oder die Beteiligung meiner Eltern, eine Klassenkonferenz abgehalten. Hätte ich gelogen und wäre "einfach krank" wärs einfacher gewesen (O-Ton Sekretariat damals!).

[@theogantenbein7870]

Das war lustig 😂. Danke für die Aufheiterung nach Feierabend 😄👍.

[@sophiarain8901]

What a great story and such an important message!

[@Cyril_Sneer]

Haha... U learned about it and make it better next time! And the only way to to learn is by making mistakes AND KNOW about it! "Aus Fehlern lernt man" und "Einsicht ist der erste Schritt zur Besserung"! 🤣😜

[@MBrieger]

LMAO, I remember being speaker of the student body in Schleswig-Holstein. Under the law back then, one is basically only accountable to the students. If I decided to take a day off, my excuse was that I tried to get advertisement lined up for the school newspaper. That was good enough. But bottom line, you will find that truth is always the easiest. Also remember, Germans can be dead honest people. Blunt to a failure. No sugar coating. Unless you talk to a politician that is. Eherlich wärt am Längsten. No one s ripping your head off for an honest mis-hap.

[@Schnurpsy79]

Ich kann mir vorstellen, wie erleichtert du warst. Sogar ich war erleichtert, dass die Lehrerin so cool reagiert hat. Sehr süße Geschichte. 😄

[@jeanyluisa8483]

Obviously it's true, Bavaria is different than Germany ;-) The easiest would of course have been to call the school and tell them you overslept. They hardly can fire you or your daughter for that. But here usually you can also just call the school and tell them your kid is sick. The only excpetion are the days before and after school holidays and holidays. Then they have to ask for an attest of a doctor. The reason for that is, that too many parents cheated and reported their kids sick to avoid starting their holiday trips the same day all the others start too.

[@natashaw401]

Keep up the good videos

[@simply_janina]

I love her teachers reaction, so nice🤭

[@DanielleBabyBliss]

Awww that was a cute story! I had a similar situation with olive 2 weeks ago. She’s part of the class that now goes at 10 am and I was just so busy cleaning up and then I realized olive should have left 10 mins ago. I get olivia out the door 😅 your late! Just say it’s mommy’s fault. Then 1 min past 1 on the dot I get a call where’s Olivia? I’m like “she’s coming and we just had a rough morning and lost track of time” She wasn’t so impressed 😆

[@AntoinetteEmily]

So pleased it's not just me that gets into these kinda situations. I'm impressed you managed to get her there in the end and props to you for telling the truth and not making up some crazy excuse 💕

[@DanielleBabyBliss]

Antoinette Emily oh man this stuff has happened to me enough. I’m constantly forgetting to bring signed forms back in time mainly.

[@camillaguidi9060]

Here in Italy you need to show an official document if the kid is absent for - say - one week or more or if he/she doesn't come to school too often.. I feel like asking for all these details are certificates because of one single absence is exaggerated and almost goes agains a family's privacy. Living in Germany for three years I noticed myself how in certain situations privacy is almost sacred and in others it is not really considered... this always puzzles me a bit. But in the end every society has its norms and we should respect them even when we don't fully understand them :)

[@stephan11575]

Eine süße Geschichte. Allerdings kennt das fast jeder...fast ein jeder hat schon eine Lüge/Notlüge benutzt. Und auch wenn man nicht Lügen sollte, ist es gerade zu menschlich. Ein anderer Punkt ist, das Antoinette eine gute Mutter ist, die es realisiert hat, wie wichtig die Schule und die Regeln (die damit verknüft sind) sind. Da können sich einige Mütter/ Eltern eine scheibe abschneiden. Deswegen sollte man nicht zu hart mit diesem kleinen Fauxpas ins Gericht gehen. Ich musste etwas schmunzeln und fand es ehr süß.☮️☯️🌹

[@Nutzername92a]

I always had my own alarm clock, so this never happened to me :D

[@cucublueberry8078]

Hahaha... I knew this would go south the moment you said you'd just tell the school your daughter had an appointment. We germans don't f*ck around with school duty XD

[@sylviag7674]

I’m surprised about all this negative comments on here. You know what? Your “mistake” is not that bad! I grew up in Germany and I think your mistake could have happened everyone. Sure, it’s always better to be honest but I might have just said the same thing as you.. so I feel you!

[@tarshe12]

It's the same in Australia. You don't need a doctor's certificate or any proof of why you are absence until year 11 and 12. Much more relaxed :)

[@raimondschaaf4008]

The truth in your first call would be okay. No false illnes or lies. Just tell you are late. It will be marked as an „entschuldigte Fehlstunde“. That‘s it. An appointment is a entschuldigte Fehlstunde too. So just tell the truth: you are late.