The Consequences of Focusing Too Much on Looks and Swag Part 1

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[@SubwayFan83]

That's the one situation that I do find laughable. There are certain black women that will be the first to turn their nose up and prune their face up when being approached by an alternative black man. But the very same women who call these men lame, corny, nerdy etc.. want to get upset when he's admired by women of other races. And that shit kills them. lmao!!! I look at the situation like this, a man should go where he is celebrated and not tolerated.

[@RomWills]

I always tell men go for the women naturally attracted to them.

[@detorreonpla3424]

What happens is these guys become successful and then these same women want to now why he's with a woman from another race. If this same guy says black women always shunned me growing up, black women will say "That's no excuse." Black women don't like hard outcomes. They always want a grey area where they can wiggle out. I think that's part of the reason why women aren't decisive.

[@detorreonpla3424]

Exactly.

[@detorreonpla3424]

When you give them hard outcomes, the games stop pretty quickly. Whether it's her getting her mind right or you moving on as a man regardless to her actions.

[@RomWills]

Detorreon Pla Digital Altitude - Aspire, Everything in a nutshell.

[@oyh1016]

Yup, lot's of 'em say it's a 'slap to the face' when they see black men who get with women of other races in particular w white women!!!

[@MoveInSilence23]

O H ...they are sooooooo jealous of White girls

[@missk3429]

Focussing on looks or who looks like they are decent is a no no. You have to at the person's whole being. Good character, morals, respect for self and other , financial stability are more important than looks. I learned this the hard way. smh

[@RomWills]

A person has to look at the big picture. Nothing wrong with liking how someone looks but other factors have to be considered.

[@GokuBlack-sn5dr]

preselection and social proof are some of the most powerful concepts in game

[@RomWills]

Funny thing is I can go even deeper.

[@davyjones-locker979]

This video was spot on! Thanks for this Rom, keep 'em coming. These are really mature and insightful observations which are not discussed much as people are unaware. I have noticed these aspects for years now - and this is from me as a Black-Brit in the UK who travelled elsewhere for marriage. Thanks Rom.

[@RomWills]

You're welcome.

[@90210Skye]

They are a dice roll in terms of weight also. They'll look like Gabrielle today, and put it on precious 2 kids later and blame it on baby weight. Bait and switch. A woman's fitness level is an indicator of the level of regard she has for you.

[@RomWills]

That's actually true.

[@mikerizzyraw]

2 years ago was studying an working to open business.. only had sapiosexual white and chinese women.. 2 years later -got ripped business open and NOW black women want to act nervous in my presence.. i'll take it of course, but the programming is real discouraging..

[@RomWills]

Personally I hate when want to jump on the bandwagon.

[@Tambura330]

lol, Rom, brother you are the man. I went to South Africa, met a Zulu/ Shona sister! Brothers got to travel, sisters here play to many games, they like to use a man. Then it's on to the next one, like you said in the video, if you don't want him, let him go!! But women wont do that because that dude she wants aint got shit and if he does he aint gonna give it to her. They will keep a guy around just doing enough to keep him hopeful that one day she will love him the way he loves and cares for her. Women play that game, taking all they can without giving anything back. But I had to go thru that to get were I'm at now, not feeling stressed, feeling loved and cared for. Don't get me wrong she not a 10, she's a workable 7, but she treats me better than any 10 I ever had!! Go to Africa, Thailand, Eastern Europe, the Philippines they love you long time!!

[@RomWills]

Hannibal1, There's some fine sistas in Africa. I watch The Africa Channel for that reason.

[@ricoclark4783]

Dead on! Your delivery makes it difficult for women to argue with you!

[@RomWills]

They know I'm right. Like Chris Rock once said, "Boo if you want, you know I'm right."

[@youngboi24]

THEY REJECT THE GOOD MAN THEN HE GO FINDS A WOMAN THAT MAKES HIM HAPPY THOSE CHICKS GET MAD AS HELL SMH #THEIRONY

[@RomWills]

Very common scenario.

[@youngboi24]

I CAN'T WAIT FOR PART 2

[@aqua_finessa6030]

my ex had the look and swag together but was a womanizer my bf now not into looks or dressing up but he is more down to earth and treats me very respectful Looks can have a man feeling hisself to the point he lose focus on what's real

[@R_W_Goodson]

Josyn Keith The woman who picks that type of guy also has a lack of focus.

[@Joker200084]

i just noticed your language there 'had the look and swag together BUT' Did it not occur to you that he made himself that way TO BE A WOMANIZER?

[@f1tony2003]

Sent here by Oshay. Great video looking forward to seeing more content.

[@RomWills]

Welcome aboard.

[@joyfulartist5254]

Excellent advice

[@doncalypso]

Man... talk about giving the Black Borg Sistahood a collective spanking!

[@doncalypso]

If Part 1 was that hot I can't wait for Part 2!!!!

[@RomWills]

Neither can I

[@doncalypso]

Rom Wills show no mercy and take no prisoners!

[@trickywily2823]

doncalypso Give them nothing

[@doncalypso]

salchih: BINGO!!!

[@jaimesmith2266]

Uncle rom i love your videos keep on speaking the truth god bless.

[@oyh1016]

Rom, u spittin nuthin' but the pure, unadulterated truth!!!! I wish I could give 5 thumbs up for this video.........

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@missk3429]

I've had the "cute",charming,well dressed, decently paid guy but was controlling, vindictive, and two- faced. I dumped him. He told me when he done with me I would beg to back with him. He tried to black ball me. smh

[@RomWills]

Wow. Some dogs are educated and well dressed.

[@missk3429]

Some year later I chose a less attractive guy. ( He thought he was the bomb because he had wavy hair). He had a good paying job, all his vehicles were paid for. But. he too was mean, controlling and violent. He told me he would kill me and cut me into pieces, if I didn't do as he said. I dumped him, he told me we will be back together. He also dogged me to people. Looks mean nothing. A person's character means everthing.

[@RomWills]

Miss K You might want to sit down and see why you basically got the same type of man.

[@drockden4955]

So true!

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@IWantMyVisionBack]

It's a shame when women go on to college, working in the workforce and beyond and still have arrested development in terms of this topic. I am 22 years old and I left all that superficial nonsense back in middle school and high school. I have gone back and forth with a young lady by the age of 20 years old who claims she isn't attracted to men under 6 feet tall. Straight up says that if a man is under 6 feet tall she doesn't find him physically attractive, as if she can tell the difference between a man that's 5'11 and 6 feet LOL. What she reallys means is she finds taller men more attractive than short ones, as I'm sure she has had many celebrity male crushes who were not only under 6 feet tall but below average height. The thing with this young woman is that she has issues communicating (shyness) with the men she really wants, the top tier men in terms of looks and height. And as a result she lacks experience in relationships and has never had sex. She won't give the less attractive and shorter men she's comfortable with a chance though. She puts on an aura of arrogance and confidence, but deep down she's insecure and sees herself as less than the top tier men she wants. If she didn't, then she wouldn't have any problems talking to these men, dating them, etc. I am above 6 feet tall myself, so it's not like I'm gunning hard for men under 6 feet because I am.. more so I find it ridiculous. It's somewhat understandable if someone's young, but to see women in their mid 20s, 30s etc with this same mentality is truly baffling.

[@RomWills]

That young lady is headed towards some lonely nights.

[@IWantMyVisionBack]

Rom Wills lol she's already there, the question is will she get out of it? I have seen similar things happen with a lot of women. In-between boyfriends they will have men they don't find as physically attractive in the friendzone for male attention, a male presence and energy. He's there until she finds a man she finds attractive enough that wants her.

[@RomWills]

IWantMyVisionBack That's how they will play. I'm doing a video on this subject this weekend. Thanks for giving me the idea.

[@crawfishandbeer1]

My Brother you speak truth subbed

[@RomWills]

Welcome aboard.

[@gabe5138]

Am I the only one who gets hype up when Rom says, “shewwt”

[@leaf6069]

im a white 20 year old and enjoy watching your videos.... this is not just for black men some knowledge in this shit. oshay brought me here lol

[@RomWills]

Not surprised. My books sell all over the world. I had a cult in Australia that may still be active. LOL

[@lizzylewis5793]

Look at it this way, women in this country can afford to be more vain/selective with looking at looks because we already have the money, houses, cars, good work ethic. We are spoiled in this country. Whereas women in poorer countries are going to find a hard working man more attractive than going off of looks alone.🤷‍♀️ Just a thought. Us women in this country need to put more effort in our looks and weight so we can get these high level 5's. Truth be told we have become lazy and fat...

[@joefromdc]

from my perspective, black woman want the tv dude or the white/black man. 2nd - i ask black woman if u make ur own money and you can protect urself, what do you really want a black man for. brothers pls start asking this question

[@RomWills]

Joseph Monroe, That's a very good question. That will make many people think.

[@joefromdc]

dating a woman with kids for me is not a problem. what is a problem is when that brother doesnt take care his own kids or take his frustration out on the kids when that woman doesnt want him anymore. lastly wouldnt a men expect to be second if u date a woman with kids. i feel like brothers hv unrealistic expectations in this area

[@RomWills]

Joseph Monroe Once again very good questions. Must be an Ivy City thing to think about things.

[@RomWills]

Joseph Monroe One thing I respect about you brotha is that you want to go deeper. Men do have to take some responsibility for what's happening.

[@msj9097]

fair enough

[@RomWills]

Respect.

[@MoveInSilence23]

Great vid as always. To paraphrase TLC... they're gonna have it their way or nothing at all.

[@RomWills]

Yep/

[@LifeEntity]

that response video, is one of the reason to never take women words seriously, I laughed the whole video... waiting for obsidian network to respond to her.

[@RomWills]

Obsidian brings a sledge hammer to swat a fly.

[@R_W_Goodson]

Rom Wills But it's so entertaining watching him swing that sledgehammer!

[@KurtisStryker2015]

Good brother

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@KurtisStryker2015]

Rom Wills welcome

[@houdinidimes4897]

hey Rom when I was going back over nice guys and players. i was highlighting in the arousal section. my question is, isnt the stuff your saying the man should do the nice guys are already doing? buying her groceries doing everything for her but still not getting anywhere.

[@RomWills]

It all holistic. If a man is just buying groceries naw he ain't getting anywhere. He still has to have other things going on. Put it like this. Mr. Goodbar buys groceries and the woman starts planning the wedding. The nice guy does it and he get a pat on the head.

[@houdinidimes4897]

Rom Wills thanks alot Rom and if you want I could give another personal experience to add to your collection and in seperate parts you covered some of the things in this example. think youll find this story interesting

[@houdinidimes4897]

Rom Wills From reading the book id guess that ive been all three of them men besides the gamesmen currently id say im a masked man. So I met this gurl at a party shes from LA. Left with her number went to her place the next night at her place we drank she hit me with that shes a good gurl line and but i spent the night at her spot shes a lesbian by the way she never dated a dude before. two weeks we spent together and all of a sudden she just avoided me and stopped talking, went through ny little simp moment because i really liked her and thought she might be it. months later caught her ina store on MY side of town said she was afraid because i was a nice guy and she didnt know how to deal, gave me her number again, flaked and begged me for another chance, we had another great two weeks future look bright, then went to another party with her friends she gets wasted and mad at me cuz im tryna leave this strangers house and not want to leave her there. Next day im worried dont hear from her, had to learn from her mom that she was ok. and even still she hit me with the silent treatment never heard from her again. so i stopped chasing her sent her one last message for closure you know said my piece and resolved to move forward. But if she would describe it I was a great guy, treated her well pleased her physical needs, mom liked me and all actually wanted a relationship and she still bailed with no word. College educated, my own place, career job. Everything on paper women ask for and still nothing lol. Just wanted to share that with you maybe you could shed more light on that or another peculiar situation like it. thanks again.

[@RomWills]

Houdini Dimes Don't worry about women like that. Many don't really know what they want. Whatever she looking for you might not have it. Don't take it personally. Charge her to the game.

[@MoveInSilence23]

Houdini Dimes thank the Almighty she beat feet. She's going to be doing that her whole life.

[@blackmissiles964]

good video brother peace..

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@blackmissiles964]

Most definitely peace brother

[@BookerT1]

I only catch you every no and then but when I do you on point brother!And lets also add the classic hypocrisy.......I have all these fake enhancements yet I'm want my man to be "real." GTFOH!!!!

[@RomWills]

Yep. Fake Hair, fake eyes, fake body talking about they what a real man.

[@jackmanslightpepper]

No play because his shoes weren't fly, lol. Them damn Jordans, huh???

[@RomWills]

Yeah...

[@jehoramisrael7374]

REALTALK

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@missk3429]

You have to look at the person's whole being.

[@RomWills]

That important for women AND men. I'll take a seven who's compatible with me on a mental over a Dime I have nothing in common with.

[@samboo18fuksdogs1]

Right, i have been with a Latina for a few years now & I hear it form 👩🏾. I give em the middle finger & tell em you had your chance. In fact I gave them 2 chances & they failed

[@tywill8983]

I never got the woman I wanted and it has been pissing me off for the longest.

[@valarieford8417]

My ex boyfriend was bald he wanted to get a hair looks change at 57 most black have lost their bodies don't stay the same checj out chrarcteer

[@aqua_finessa6030]

my ex had the look and swag together but was a womanizer my bf now not into looks or dressing up but he is more down to earth and treats me very respectful Looks can have a man feeling hisself to the point he lose focus on what's real

[@RomWills]

True.