The Cure for Codependency

The cure for codependency does not start with sending your partner to a counsellor.
The cure for codependency starts with working on yourself. This includes:
1. Understanding who you are
2. Recognizing your own needs
2. Recognizing your own triggers, adaptations and limitations
3. Healing your old wounds
4. Meeting your own 12 Basic Needs
5. Regulating your own emotions
6. Implementing and maintaining boundaries
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[@katrinat.3032]

Truth. Send yourself to a counselor to learn how to understand your self

[@catfour34]

Resolve childhood wounds

[@tyw3537]

"Adaptations that have resulted in limitations." That sounds about right.

[@nancymorrison9978]

And know that that work is painful but necessary to live a good life. Amen

[@AffirmativeArtsOnTheRoad]

That, and prolly leaving the partner, staying alone for a year or two while you work on your childhood wound stuff...until you really REALLY REALLY are clear that you will NEVER EVER EVER EVER let yourself be anyone's codependent, so that the very moment you feel your codependent self waking up in response to your partner...you'll be out instantaneously! BECAUSE......you're just NOT GONNA BE ANYBODY'S CODEPENDENT EVER AGAIN! CAUSE YOU JUST DON'T WANT TO.

[@nikstar1313]

Yesssssssss

[@marjol3in]

True. That's why I walked away from a 1 month contact (friendship) because we are both highly codependent. We were destroying each other (both autism and trauma) 😢

[@ruthparks5120]

Yes I'm all the time talking about how crazy my BF is because of his insane jealousy or his abuse but then I stopped myself right in my tracks because there has to be something really really wrong with me TO STICK AROUND AND PUT UP WITH IT!

[@johntim3491]

That might include also a small possibility that you contribute unconsciously.

[@SerenEnfys]

@@johntim3491 I agree. I believe that we wouldn’t open the door for these actions and treatments if we weren’t literally open to receiving them. Something is off. It’s never just the one side or sole fault of the one person in any 2+ dynamic. It’s a co-existence of issues. But I understand, humans usually become cognisant of other’s faults before looking in a mirror

[@johntim3491]

@@SerenEnfys ... unconscious pay-offs or secondary gains. I can tell that you really understand this. Really our dysfunctional relationships are a gift showing us our blind spots ... to run from them ironically is like trying to run from ourselves. As Freud pointed out...we are compelled to repeat the same mistakes until we turn the spotlight on ourselves.

[@codywaters3919]

I wish I had this earlier

[@fairygurl9269]

*Respect to Future Us

[@4Mikes4Mindset4]

💥

[@chillin_in_a_dark_room]

❤😊

[@maritaandersson9394]

Thank you i and my husband love you❤I have complex ptsd we struggel .But you are the best ❤

[@VMorales923]

Amen 🙌

[@SmashMaster]

Who’s me and who’s them? Sounds like both partners could do with fixing childhood stuff

[@kimortegastrongwarriorbrid5334]

#loveyourselffist

[@marilynng4337]

Praising God, he is helping me to get free of my long history of people dependency Knowing that you are loved by him, having constant communication with the Father, forgiveness, and meditating on the scriptures are healing and freeing

[@positivevibe7684]

Love it, Love it, love it. I definitely had to work on myself. I sent myself to a counselor. That was the beginning of my healing and working on my stuff. I'm still a work in progress. I realize working on me is a journey, not a destination.❤❤

[@nikstar1313]

Address your trauma bc you even get into a relationship and become codependent

[@Vanessa-ln1tt]

I love this!!!

[@kassiemarq3928]

thank you

[@disp2000]

Amen!

[@alialmatawah5413]

Believe that 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@freeandhappybumblebee]

Wow!

[@Derek-tk4wf]

And having self-awareness has kept me from ever even pursuing a relationship. Knowing it would end up BADLY. And not worth ruining another persons life. And never getting anywhere with self healing.

[@tonightinareacode309]

No, I'm never capable of a healthy relationship because all I get is lied to, lied about, cheated on, blamed for things I didn't do, used and discarded, stolen from, and no one believes me or cares.

[@jenni4claire]

Watch the video and listen to what he is saying

[@arthurgarcia4424]

Thank you Tim. Working on me. A challenge indeed.

[@jerrycostello3813]

Amen again

[@traceybaytops8681]

Very, very true!! Powerful!

[@user-nh5tw3jh5d]

Dude why don’t you set a team to publish your shorts in multiple languages ❤

[@amygerstle2037]

❤

[@syzygy4365]

I honestly agree, but have you ever seen the willing codependent partner (the one who refuses to self reflect) use force, violence, anger, manipulation, shame, belittle, guilt tripping, ect.. just to deflect there bad habits off of them. They don't sit and self reflect until they can't control you anymore. Maturity comes when we take responsibility for our own happiness. Ive seen grown men blame their partner for enabling them instead of reflecting on their drinking habits, gaming habits, poor standards, and lack of ambition destroy not just their lives but their partners success as well. I just don't understand those types of people. This can't be the same problem, right? I just don't see them as a victim because they refuse to decipline themselves. These type will always try to control you before they reflect. Meanwhile, the other person learns to pick apart every flaw, hurt, life slip, and pain they carry. How do you become healthy after that? 😥💔

[@cathysilva5011]

Does this ever hit home with me

[@FreeFromHer]

This is true. However, if you are a codependent, there is a high chance you are with a narcissist.

[@chrissypadowitz3821]

How can I get longer messages like a whole series these are just short things

[@ctrotter5447]

Tap on @Tim Fletcher at the bottom and go to videos.

[@travissimeon3895]

Check out his channel. The videos, not just the YT shorts. He has a series of videos that talk deeper into the subject

[@Meggaaaaa]

I have a hard time recognising codependency. My partner and I wonder if we are because we are quite inseparable and have a hard time sleeping without each other, but we’re also just best friends

[@cyborgoctopus186]

Full video title?

[@marinvidovic763]

Basicaly we created a society that will ask a policeman to go to a therapy and address his ability to detect someons Speeding and crazy driving unde the influence of personality dissorder, and following issues ... ...(* while she is keeping his children in that car ) All. Happily ... heading at some 🎉party ... ... where they will enjoy the night Out and drive back. ... So yep... ... He has. Issues ... spoting that somthing is crazy here and ... There are no OTHER LIVES at stake here. Or ... What tf ???

[@1truthseeking8]

Back the blue UNTIL they unalive you...

[@gpfeia]

Or admit you’re a lost cause and stay single.

[@bubbleopter]

❤