The Cure For Self Consciousness (weird technique)

[@Laurenna16]

Thank you for sharing this video. I struggle with self consciousness about how I talk and come off to other people during conversations. It makes me stumble over my words. I hate it so much. The more I think about it the worse it gets. Knowing there are other people out there that experience, brings me a lot of peace.

[@zacharyespinola866]

Same here. Only happens to me sometimes though. I could barely talk to my supervisor at times because I'd lose train of thought because it collided with my other anxious thoughts. Then it gets worse because I realize I just dropped off and can't think about what we were talking about. And naturally they're staring at me because I can barely form a sentence at that point. It sucks because I know every is fine but just can't seem to get out of the hamster wheeI once it starts spinning. I wish you luck in dealing with this.

[@odizaii1700]

Me too. I blank out every time I'm talking to someone. My worries overpower my thoughts and I can't bring myself back to what I was saying then I feel dumb making everything worse. In public places I can never feel comfortable, I always scan my surroundings and see if someone's looking at me. I feel paranoid and anxious all the time and I dont like the feeling :((

[@Grace-cg5zy]

Omg u describing the walking down the street thing is exactly what i experience! Thanks so much for the video!

[@joliearanda6481]

Exactly

[@ultimatewarriors1291]

Yeah same here😂

[@nilen]

True

[@lancekolton4543]

i guess it is kinda randomly asking but do anyone know a good site to watch new movies online ?

[@dannystephen2490]

@Lance Kolton I would suggest Flixzone. Just google for it :)

[@seancoopervids]

Thought I'd leave a quick comment about this video to make it more clear: Self consciousness is that awkward icky feeling that other people are watching, judging and analyzing your every little movement or word. I used to feel self conscious all the time in public--even just walking past somebody in a park or buying some food at the store! I always felt like other people were critically judging me. In this video I show why one of the cures for self consciousness is actually...to become MORE self conscious! (Or more accurately self-focused: focused on what you are doing.) See, most shy and socially anxious people are too easily distracted trying to pay attention to what every random person might be thinking of them. This makes you focus too much on other people when you are walking down the street, shopping or trying to talk to someone in a crowded place. As a result you feel awkward and you freeze up trying to talk to someone in public when other people might overhear the conversation. The solution is to redirect your focus. Allow yourself to ignore all those background characters in your life.Focus more totally on whatever you are doing. (Just like in a movie only the main characters are in focus, the unimportant background characters are blurred out.) To really understand this technique, which I call "Tunnel Vision" you need to watch the video above now. And practice this in your daily life to feel less self conscious in public. (NOTE: There is also a different type of self consciousness where you feel insecure about some part of your appearance, body or clothing. I did not talk about this type now -- maybe I will in a different future update!)

[@stanleyguzman8809]

+Sean Cooper i am agree with you man please send me more videos about loneliness please .answer me.

[@Peacemakerblue]

Sean Cooper hey man, have you already uploaded the different type of self-conscious? (the insecure one). If not, then when will you upload it?

[@Peacemakerblue]

Video* thanks 🙏

[@kumaworld5365]

Email Contact you are perfectly right its quite insensitive to use others mental battles just to make yourself rich. I nearly bought his ebook but upon second thoughts decided to stop

[@ovidiun7855]

Man you made me realize something, and also you make my day more happier. Thank you Sean, hope you have a good day too

[@jesse2497]

it's weird because I'm more self conscious when I'm talking to someone in private than in public. because in public the person I'm talking to doesn't have all his/her attention on me so I feel less pressure.

[@clipzfromsilver4750]

Same ;)

[@joesmith389]

Yup me too. I get so anxious when talking with someone in a private office/room/etc. If it’s in a large open public space, it gives me the option of escaping the conversation whenever I want.

[@catherinerivera6646]

This was great, been searching for "shyness social anxiety disorder and social phobia" for a while now, and I think this has helped. You ever tried - Qanwen Donuke Approach - (do a search on google ) ? Ive heard some interesting things about it and my work buddy got great success with it.

[@ciro9951]

@@catherinerivera6646 I see what you did there, affiliate marketing :)

[@krystakhalil734]

I'm the same way!!

[@MiguelBrites]

"be there totally" couldn't agree more with this, sometimes when I'm at music shows I end up not having as much fun as I could be having because I spend half the time focusin on me instead of the show itself...

[@vivekkrishna8076]

I started seeing your videos from 2015 and now its 2019.I can say iam almost cured from social anxiety by practicing your techniques. you are the most influenced person in my life from india its sad that no new videos

[@ShivamSahu-cn6uu]

Help me please.

[@gj3080]

Shivam sahu gimme your Instagram

[@ShivamSahu-cn6uu]

I am 18year old. Approx. how much time It will take to be cured from shyness and social anxiety completely? Plz help me I am getting depressed

[@gj3080]

@@ShivamSahu-cn6uu it'll take day few day's don't worry about what's gonna happen be in present.

[@gj3080]

@@ShivamSahu-cn6uu what exactly is happening?

[@Mddy_water]

I’ve been feeling like I’m worth less than everyone else for basically my whole life and there was a turning point where my social anxiety got much worse. I can’t even breathe normally while being in a public space. And the self judgement continues even when I’m alone sometimes. I am a person who wants to express themselves and create things, yet I can’t cause I’m too self concious and I feel like I’m wasting my potential, because I keep thinking about what would other people think.

[@shyaaammeneen63]

Friend, Doing public speaking courses are very effective. In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel relaxed reduce negative thoughts. Be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing yourself physically or mentally with others. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 10-15-20 minutes or more. You can sit or lie down, anywhere-anytime with eyes closed. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. No deep breathing. Don’t fight your thoughts. With practice the mind will relax. Keep a reminder to observe your breath sensations throughout the day and night --before sleep, when reading, at work, at home, when travelling etc with eyes open or closed. Like me make this a lifetime habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.

[@vanvev6920]

plz come back man, you are gold

[@Valeria-dm9vi]

As you talked about how you felt in the past, that really gave me hope that I can also overcome it♡

[@CherryYangco]

I get most self conscious in public ..I find this very helpful so thank u a lot

[@hariputtar7815]

Super helpful. Being conscious of being self-conscious really drains my energy. I'm feeling much better just after the thought of focusing my energy just on me.

[@markettechniques]

Doing good work. Keep it up. To anyone still needing more help. Taking action on the things you feel self conscious about. Such as weight or skinnyness = work out Bad skin = eat healthier and take supplements and derma roll. Anxiety and shallow breath = regular mediation A facial asymmetry = ask others is it noticeable start to break down this illogical fear. What I'm getting at is, although the mind tricks are an important part of getting better... the triggers and cues are often based on things you can change in the real world. Synergising the two together can quickly change your mental wellbeing.

[@bhloran1598]

Oh my god I think you just saved my life. Best insight and advice ever. You're the best

[@HeWhoFlewFromInwood]

Looking at others for validation opens you up to abusers and stresses out all but the best people who can sense your beautiful heart.

[@LauraGumina]

I have begun a few years (after gettinig most of the bad messages that I was telling myself out, through this therapy called EMDR), I started finding good-hearted people. I am kind because i like/love other people. We are more alike, than different. I can't allow myself to give over THE POWER to another person----over MY feelings. We are all struggling to stay afloat in one way or another.

[@Haleycowett]

Very true

[@Malik_Hoff]

Thank you. Tunnel Vision + Focus. This will help me a Ton. Subbed.

[@ultimatewarriors1291]

So no periphial vision

[@VitorMSAT]

I actually do feel self conscious when I'm by myself, that's the real problem in my case. I keep judging myself for acting or being who I am, trying to figure if that's the correct way to react to things. It's really annoying that this other "me" keep watching the real me. Edit: If you believe in God and convert, you'll figure out how to act. Once you start acting accordingly to the Truth you don't need to bother yourself if the others approve you. And that's when you start to really love others, when you aren't charitable expecting benefits from them. Convert to the Catholic Church.

[@gotinite1000]

that's called self hate

[@daydream06]

I can relate :(( That's why most of the time when I'm by myself I usually keep myself occupied with things so that i can at least be less conscious of everything.

[@trvshhologrvm]

Dude same

[@Masterofallytps]

I can relate so much....

[@cui.cui.]

Cultivate more love and kindness towards yourself. Smile to you, hug yourself, thank your body. Let go of judgement towards yourself and others. Take a deep breath and give yourself a break

[@chelseaaa7360]

I have totally been self conscious while I've been completely alone, but yes it's worth the thought of what would someone think of they saw me. But I love everything you said and it super helped me so thank you

[@drakebohlman2880]

Idk where you are in your life Sean but I want you to know that your videos have got me through a lot and I hope your doing well wherever you are ❤

[@dipzyfication]

When it comes to Shyness and social anxiety You're the best in the world. Thanks a ton for your precious insights.

[@shivamkumarchoudhary12]

I`ve to say that,this is one of the best video on social anxiety,this video is 100%,how do you feel on having social anxiety unlike other videos on youtube,which is 50% theoritical and only 50% practical...

[@PankajSingh-lq5dh]

My sister used to watch ur videos a lot... she's not with us anymore unfortunately but when i felt anxiety ur videos are the first thing that came to my mind

[@samuellima4810]

Hey Sean, i don't know if you'll read this, it's been sometime since you uploaded any videos, but i want to personally thank you from the bottom of my heart. You helped me fight my social anxiety and become a more healthy and happy person. Thanks a lot!

[@mrcocoa927]

Your movie analogy has been extremely helpful. Thank you so much 🙏🏻☺️

[@nermyahia9255]

thank you so much for this video .. i don't think anyone has explained it in this way .. thank you again !!

[@MultiAlexander121]

The movie thing, it's not about focusing on the main character, but i want you to try this trick, put your hand in front of your face and look at them, you notice that your background is somewhat blurry. That's why good production movie uses the lense of their camera similar to our live eye lense. I took videography class✌️

[@pmdias1978]

Hello Sean. This was the first time I saw one of your videos. I am currently undergoing psychotherapy because in my job I am too heavily affected on my tasks and my performance depending on the person standing next to me, i.e. if it’s a toxic person vs a friendly person. In my therapy I struggled with some definitions such as mirroring, being aware of my feelings and thoughts and, of course, being self conscious... I just want to say that this video made SO MUCH SENSE. It was a simple and clear explanation that opened my eyes. Thank you so much!! Already subscribed and will definitely explore your other videos hoping they are as helpful as this one. Cheers man! Thanks a lot!!

[@rubin-healmysocialanxiety702]

Great to see you are taking action and facing your social anxiety brother. Takes alot of courage 🙌

[@orlandobrown9289]

Very helpful and timeless bro hats off to you

[@wilsonaguirregomez3751]

Thank you very much buddy! This really helps.

[@shaunb361]

Great video,always good to get a refresher ,having learnt so much from your system.

[@Haoyuekuang]

Very interesting!!! It really IS "Other consciousness". Thank you for the video!!!

[@ceeIoc]

I'm most self conscious when talking to someone. I lose focus of what they are saying .

[@LauraGumina]

Yes, I have to PRACTICE listening. When i really truly want to know/understand the person behind the words. Curious about them, and caring at the same time. There is usually silence, and then I listen and it can be enlightening..

[@jodyalison]

The thing is that I know nobody cares what i look like but I still have a thought at the back of my head that people are judging me of my scent or what I look like.

[@sandiegorex6604]

For me it's the oposite that works. When i feel people are "looking" at me i "look" at them harder (i mean that i pay atenttion to them with my mind's eye, that way i kinda forget of my existence). I believe that when you look at yourself is when the problem begins, when in public you have to focus in other people and focus in the topic you're speaking unless you feel confortable to start "looking" at your thoughts with certain privacy.

[@charlotterosestephens6009]

In social situations I get this sense of that I better make things flow and be good at communicating otherwise it’s going to be really embarrassing and I’ll seem weird, so then I get annoyed at the thoughts and feel forced to perform then I think forget it Ill just let it mess up and then it does it feels like ocd Tourette’s or something cant help acting awkward can’t stop the thoughts so just let it overtake me.

[@minahan9315]

You are so helpful. You just motivated me to go take a walk outside

[@AllisWell-qs8kk]

Thank you Sean. I sure appreciate you and this video. I can relate in so many ways.

[@harshsingh4313]

Ur video is an absolute gem💎 Thank you so much

[@shyaaammeneen63]

Useful video. Doing public speaking courses are very effective. In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel relaxed reduce negative thoughts. Be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing yourself physically or mentally with others. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 10-15-20 minutes or more. You can sit or lie down, anywhere-anytime with eyes closed. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. No deep breathing. Don’t fight your thoughts. With practice the mind will relax. Keep a reminder to observe your breath sensations throughout the day and night --before sleep, when reading, at work, at home, when travelling etc with eyes open or closed. Like me make this a lifetime habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.

[@jeanebomfim8972]

Mindfulness exercises is a really good tool to help stop being self-conscious. It makes you pay attention in what really matter

[@samuelanderson9416]

So when I feel social anxiety open up to f1.4

[@orjanpetersson3099]

Verry good video, i'll try to implement this into my life

[@Chanchanlala]

Amazing, thanks for sharing, your articles and writings are very helpful to improve my life

[@sEvan_el_Evan]

This is a great video nice talking points and techniques

[@maripilymenendez]

Thanks for this! Really helpful.

[@PeterShieldsukcatstripey]

You described self consciousness really well.

[@user-bk1ez4sz8t]

I’m more self conscious with people I know, friends and family, and when it’s just one on one or small groups because I know all their attention is on me.

[@stanfordyu8829]

What if someone is walking towards you and you think you should smile at him or her? If I put her into the background, I would ignore her, which can be impolite. What would you do when someone is walking towards to?

[@koritorrid290]

I do feel self conscious when by myself. Even more then around other people.

[@Amberlynnslivertit]

Me too which makes it even worse when being around others because I think that they can see this too ☹ I guess I'll just die

[@AsiaRivera]

@@Amberlynnslivertit cheer up little lady, you’ll find a way to heal and heal your self consciousness

[@theklown1671]

@@AsiaRivera that helps so much

[@aeb9915]

the problem is, when i focus and make tunel vision, i start to lose the connection with people, like they dont matter at all, and i start to have a big ego, and start to do whatever i want... like no one matters only me...

[@anupampatro8513]

Perfect explanation of social anxiety

[@lowgascostsorangeman2688]

You are some smart dude. You nailed it right on the head.

[@dianalove539]

This is a very good video, thank you.

[@setorious]

You do a good job explaining feelings into words. Kinda an impossible thing to do

[@ebrustafa7715]

I ve just watch your video and can say that it is very helpful. thank you so much!

[@ejiasichristian5476]

Thank you so much for the vid

[@anonymousyoutube5801]

Why haven't you been online since 2 years? No upload on website, no youtube videos, no Facebook posts.

[@patronusn7355]

Wow, love the movie analogy

[@healiendemis9306]

I didn’t realize that I hadn’t been fully focus until I watch this video. I do agree tho, I day dream a lot

[@dannyd0g]

It's not quite as simple as mentally blurring out random strangers, eg strangers approaching you on a city street. People can and do make a difference in a real world of interactions and feedback loops. I have tried blanking approaching people out due to overwhelming anxiety but this has caused outright ridicule on a number of occasions. Just the right amount of nonchlance / acting / street smarts / awareness and non awareness is required to pull this off during anxiety. Fine tuning is key. All would be so much easier if a friendly companion could offer objective feedback.

[@foz2071]

This is brilliant

[@kat_rabbit]

This is the paradox of the term "self-conscious" which does seem to mean "self-unconscious" in terms of attention directed outward instead of inward. I feel like there's something to say here about introversion and extraversion too, do introverts and extraverts experience "self-consciousness" differently? Thanks so much for this, it's the first time I've seen or heard anything speak to the felt experience of "self-consciousness", rather than the intellectual abstraction of it.

[@chilly1661]

Thanks a lot! this has really helped me.

[@akshayyadav399]

Hello Sean! I know you have done your part! of giving THE SOLUTION to the world and now you can rest!.........still I would like to be in touch with my GURU....please keep making more videos!!

[@amandeepsaini4172]

Hey Akshay bro Kya tumne vo course kia hai shyness and social anxiety Wala?

[@mwloos1]

Social media doesn’t help. Seeing how judgemental and mean people are to each other only validates my self consciousnesses.

[@jmarici5801]

Hey Sean, do you not make videos anymore?

[@ddzluttapi1160]

J Marici yeah me too waiting his more videos

[@gsmshsns]

did he not manage to escape out of that pune ashram

[@gsmshsns]

@0:30

[@zharakov]

@@gsmshsns So he is dead?

[@indrakamalyadav2921]

@@zharakov he is dead

[@ceasarsantiago1589]

why did you disable the comment on SA Bottle VSL face 1a. maybe you are not sincere on that video. isn;t it ?

[@gotinite1000]

Yeah, the whole thing is a scam, sadly..

[@jaz3847]

everything is clear now thank you!

[@sofasniperman]

Hey, THANK YOU

[@vaibhawkr3904]

Hi I am from India. Hello to you sean. Hope you liking Pune. I have been in that place.

[@oliverschroder3944]

Your communication is sharp

[@streb6]

Excellent Sean

[@yohanistesfaye777]

I'm amazed that I have all the symptoms you've mentioned. I'll try to see the tunnel vision way. Thanks!

[@om-will5651]

I thx you man, you have make me realize something I knew about me but never understood what it was. is a great in site . what happens to me. this so great I'm so thankfull. I keep learning from you man

[@Jerrongamereview]

So your advice is to just stop focusing on what others might think of you? The entire problem is that you can't stop doing that. If you could just stop being self-conscious whenever you wanted it wouldn't even be a problem. It's like saying to a depressed person to stop focusing on all the negative things in life, but to just focus on the positives.

[@gabrielgouvea77]

Garnalenpeller Exactly.

[@98nfsmw98]

Whether you think you can or can’t is true. It’s a matter of training yourself but most people give up the first day to chase the ‘next thing’ A depressed person can’t just do it because they don’t believe they can actually change

[@chrism7091]

Garnalenpeller you don't "stop focusing" , you shift your attention to something else

[@tranphuongthao8965]

Garnalenpeller I think it's advice is very good. Have you ever tried it or you just sit in your comfort zone and whining about everything without even trying and always playing the victim

[@joliearanda6481]

@@98nfsmw98 exactly

[@jallytzasanchez7233]

Hi, could you give me more information about that course?

[@leonorarriaga3577]

Sean im a Musical Theatre student and i love the craft getting in character and imagining myself in it's position. Yet, throughout the year of college auditions, after studying a lot on how to succeed in an audition and getting in character i started becoming more and more aware of myself and how much in character in am to the panel to the point where i forgot how to act and the movements i should do during my performance. They became fake, acted out, since i was constantly disturbed by my other- consciousness thoughts (would they think im acting fake?, Im not good enough to be here! why did i move this way? i need to get in character!) and i felt like couldn´t just deliver myself to the character and the song like i used to before i was faced with competition and the high expectations i made for myself to get into a drama school. How can i stop these thoughts and this negative awareness that is blocking my freedom of performance?

[@ddzluttapi1160]

Hey sean where is your new videos Thanks you changed my life

[@ddzluttapi1160]

Waiting for your comeback

[@vickysdimensions7741]

Thanks a lot u solve my proplem now I am Crystal clear what’s my proplem and how to overcome it...thank u once again...

[@georgekurgansky5986]

I lost that ability lol. I'm here to learn about having it

[@monaekke]

Is it about the direction of your focus? Or the judgement that you think people tag on you? You can still focus on people and imagine them thinking nothing or only good things about you. Maybe that could ease the tension.

[@joesenpai2347]

I suffer from severe self consciousness ( i focus on my body functions too much ) and severe self awareness mixed with an anxiety disorder. Which is a fucked up combo , I focus on my body and I focus on how I must live and try to control everything i do or want to have . But that does not go too well . i am struggling so hard right now . I have severe anxiety attcks it is lasting all day . Breathlessness , feeling like am losing my mind. I am in a dark place my friends. Wish me good luck ! Wish me recovery .

[@kinchowangmo4144]

Hi... I am having self conscious problem for a very long tym and u describe the same which I experience in my every day life.. I got some tips from this video n I want to learn more plz would u mind directing me to the next level.. one of ur video which ll help me improve... or what would be better for me to improve? Meditate ?thank u so much for the first lesson..🙏🙏🙏

[@heroismist]

U were in pune koregaon park !! I Also live in pune .Love your videos.Fan from india

[@yazansy6641]

Amazing informations

[@Retrobom57]

It's difficult to dance if you never learned how to do it and that's the whole problem. Any idea's ?

[@bhloran1598]

Retrobom57 well learn or just feel the music!!

[@saidalkhusaibi]

Thank you sean great video but why not call it task consciousness since you are talking about giving your full attension to the task in hand.

[@worldking3838]

I'm going everything you talked about in this video

[@vedangdamle244]

I'm from Pune and i love you for not calling it poona.

[@vedangdamle244]

and i love your technique, I'll try it

[@umeshnamdev8684]

ohh u are from poona☺☺

[@gsmshsns]

dude can you go check in the ashram..where has he gotten lost all these months since this last video :P

[@Fierce77551]

It's poona

[@Fierce77551]

It's a Marathi word poona

[@CovertOperator-n6i]

This is amazing info but I’m wondering for example if at an event with lots of family and family in-laws, and friends of loved ones (since I have no friends bc of this issue) how do you tunnel vision when everyone’s opinion of you matters? Wondering every second what they’re thinking of my walk my talk my mannerisms and am I awkward, does my mouth twitch it’s non stop. So when everyone in the scene matters and it’s a large crowd how can you handle that with this in mind? Thank you for the vid it’s a great one

[@shyaaammeneen63]

Fo S ho, In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. Doing public speaking courses are very useful. To feel relaxed reduce negative thoughts. Be careful what you feed your mind. Avoid comparing yourself physically or mentally with others. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. For a relaxed mind observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 10-15-20 minutes or more. You can sit or lie down, anywhere-anytime with eyes closed. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. No deep breathing. Don’t fight your thoughts. With practice the mind will relax. Keep a reminder to observe your breath sensations throughout the day and night --before sleep, when reading, at work, at home, when travelling etc with eyes open or closed. Like me make this a lifetime habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.

[@CovertOperator-n6i]

@@shyaaammeneen63 wow thank you so much

[@CovertOperator-n6i]

@@shyaaammeneen63 wow thank you so much

[@CovertOperator-n6i]

@@shyaaammeneen63 wow thank you so much

[@CovertOperator-n6i]

@@shyaaammeneen63 wow thank you so much

[@twenty6195]

I hope you doing well man, we haven't heard from you long time

[@derrickb26]

Glad u found peace

[@lawrenceanthony8187]

great vid, Thanks!

[@richfishing92]

This was legit.

[@0x529]

Thank you!

[@dj_bullets7106]

I think you're explaining through and through 'living in the present..' this is nothing new. Meditation helps greatly in achieving this state of focused 'being'

[@twilightlacedream4717]

Sorry, I forgot about my feedback about this video. Could you maybe also say how to not focus on other people? Is this more detailed in your system if we decide to buy it? I'll do my best to take you're advice and that it takes time and practice, but I'm not sure how I can focus more on doing what I'm doing when doing things. Also, try to be in a area where it doesn't look so dark. I could barely see you're face, especially with the glare I already have from the light coming from my window hitting the screen. Thanks :)

[@J91Y]

come back to us

[@CesarSandoval024]

is there a relationship between self centerdness and self conciousness

[@ciro9951]

Cesar Sandoval the best way I know is when you're centered you're in the present and self consciousness is being in your head

[@stanleyguzman8809]

hi sean cooper how are you thank you so much i have seen your videos and i fell better ... bye

[@sihambasi7236]

What you said is amazing, thank you😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍