The Dance with Pain - Tara Brach

[@anitazuck]

Tara’s video on Radical Acceptance of Pain is a great companion piece to this.

[@casario2808]

I have episodic cluster headache, which is considered one of the most painful ailments known to humans (not to brag LOL). For decades I fought it, and each episode just became harder and harder. Eventually I came across mindfulness and also Tara's teaching etc (through my therapist after a major depression/anxiety episode) and not only did it help me through depression, when my next cluster episode came I applied the same basic ideas. And while of course it didnt stop the pain, but eliminating that 2nd arrow helped a lot. Less resistance. Less suffering. And a sense at least that I was doing what I could out of presence and compassion. Its not like one can meditate or really apply direct mindfulness on the attacks, but there was some space between the pain and my own self-identity, if that makes any sense.

[@danieldavidson2387]

From one migraine sufferer to another, it makes perfect sense.

[@gillianmeadow3932]

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[@TaylorQuince19493]

How are you doing?

[@CataM1988]

Currently feeling physical pain, and this talk is bringing me peace. Thank you Tara!

[@TheWendable]

My therapist introduced me to Tara Brach and I’m really glad she did, thank you Maggie W and thank you Tarra

[@dianeibsen5994]

Thank you Tara!💗You I and this talk/meditation was beautiful⚘hearing about your child birth experience was very helpful. You really said many wonderful things💖

[@RobinTurner]

I wake up with a splitting headache and think "Oh, I'll watch that Tara Brach talk about pain in a bit." Then I spill boiling water on my leg and I'm like "OK, OK, I'M WATCHING IT NOW!"

[@dianeibsen5994]

Aww..sorry💗

[@suzannedavis4992]

So much wisdom in this 🙏

[@marlenesmith6097]

Tara Brach is so full of wonderful info..especially for us that have lived a life with a strong healthy body that is in its mid 60s difficult to navigate..i wish i would have found her many years ago instead of only a year ago. Love you Tara..thank you.

[@lucefleurylevi4078]

+Marlene Smith Yes Its true! We need to encourage each other! Much love, sister lucy

[@hopevalmadid3298]

very well said💟

[@shirleysheridan3947]

So helpful this morning. Thank you for sharing your wisdom

[@tomato33]

Namaste🙏🏼🌱🌺

[@konstantinNeo]

"We add "something" to it" I believe the term is: JUDGEMENT

[@srikishankandakatla4183]

Tara you are wonderful.. Your insights into life situations are so enlightening. Mr. Eck _ hart Tolle should watch ur videos.

[@beatrixvantil8623]

namaste 🙏

[@heatherbrown1880]

thankyou.exellent

[@lesleym3327]

Pain x resistance = suffering. I get it, but how do I avoid resistance? I'm 45 with two young children, and I have terminal cancer. I have some physical pain (and I'm likely to have more in the future) and tons of emotional/mental pain. Tara, can you give a talk that speaks directly to my situation?

[@BarbierNicholas]

Lesley M The emotional pain resides in the body. You explore the sensations there.

[@lesleym3327]

nicb I don't know how to do that.

[@BarbierNicholas]

Lesley M There's pain...where does it hurt? Go there...it has to be in the body. If you feel really disconnected from your body sensations, maybe try yoga or Qigong. Otherwise, body scanning, breathing into tension, etc.

[@jcmrush]

Stephen Levine's work is excellent and may be helpful. You may try Healing into Life and Death or his pain chapter/meditation in Who Dies. Both are wonderful books that helped me a lot with severe chronic pain and illness. Much of his work was with people with terminal cancer or AIDS. Blessings and good luck to you.

[@kritikasharma6402]

Do check out Dr Joe Dispenza's work . Hope that helps

[@clarkrector]

Tara, the method of pendulation (sic?) may have overlap with the Pain Gate Theory - basically, when we physically touch the area around something that hurts, it makes it hurt less.

[@rosanneweeks2415]

I'd like to know more about pendulation and the theory you mention. Who can I read?

[@juannunez5514]

Went You Laugh You unbeliever Pretty ,,,Great Class" LADY "

[@tishguerrero]

💕🌺🙏🏽

[@lizxxx5543]

What about if suffering isnt optional for example in dosorders like depression or biological anxiety. I tried meditations & hypnosis but after a while my anxiety comes back. Its like already wired in me & i dont know how to cure it. I tried hard.

[@berenicesansone482]

My family is living something similar like you are living. Eckhart Tolle's interview with Larry King about unconsciousness and suffering as well as causing suffering to others help me a lot to snap out great sense of despair and anxiety. I didn't know how to get out even when I was accepting it. I was accepting the pain but unconscious at the same time. May loving presence Stay always with us! Namaste

[@blueskies1237]

You say you tried it. Did you not stick with it? They may take years. Have you done any retreats? Have you tried a SSRI?

[@lizxxx5543]

And what about ignorance? Like you know how most simply ignore stuff that make them angry or pain? I guess ignorance can work too?

[@lanadelqueen9155]

If you just forget about it its fine . the problem is when u force to ignore it , it just become stronger its like your fighting and not accepting it which'll create more suffering.

[@margomiller1892]

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[@selmo6376]

What does it mean "pandjalate " ( at 34:37 more or less ), how do you spell it ? thanks !

[@Jen.K]

+selmo gliksman Pendulation - the movement between regulation and dysregulation

[@selmo6376]

thanks a lot Jenna

[@jackinthebox6143]

This is a crock. Suffering is not an attitude. Here we go with the New Agers blaming the victim again. Suffering=pain + time. Suffering is not a choice. How can one not feel oppressed when one is in pain day in day out, month in month out and year in and year out? The second arrow happens by itself. You know it's wrong and no amount of mindfulness will change that.

[@jackinthebox6143]

and to call it a 'dance' is really insulting to those whose lives have been ruined by it.

[@marketingbureau]

She is saying the opposite of what you say. She says pain is inevitable. That means it`s not a choice, it`s legit to be a victim. What she is saying is to invite pain in, and being with it. Acknowleding it. Actually what you are asking for. When you invite it, you can dance with it. Who says dancing is only beautiful ? You can cry and hurt, and dance. The dancing is metaphor for staying close to the pain. Just as you want. That`s actually true love. Staying close to yourself in pain, instead of escaping. Suffering means that the source of the pain / a heartbreak for example) has stopped, but you will stay in the pain for ever, in stead of diving down in the pain, and figure out what it`s truely about: fear of loneliness and so on. I suffer too. It`s human to suffer. But I am trying to get out of suffering, by staying in the pain, dancing with it. Suffering can be a way of escaping the true pain.

[@lanadelqueen9155]

@@marketingbureau also by escaping it the thoughts comes back to the mind and you will always try to ignore it . The thoughts starts controling you and ruining so many life moments and u may start fearing those thoughts to comeback and u will fall victim with nothing to do against them all that can lead to start doubting yourself ur never sure if you can do this or that in the future bc of that anxiety that leads to more suffering and it grows with time you became more vulnerable. One of the best cures be present in this moment

[@noonespecial4171]

This is Buddhism 2567 years old. New Age means instant gratification. You are angry because you want instant gratification