THE DESI INFERIORITY COMPLEX

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[@poisonedchalice]

As a third generation British Bengali I can I identify with this completely. There is still an obsession with fair skin = beautiful and "acting white" in order to be successful.

[@felidaesaremoresuperiortha5855]

bengalis have a beautiful culture. pls be proud of ur rich culture!

[@mothiurNCL]

We have idiots who get influenced by mainstream racist media with cherry picked data. Use your own brain when attacking each other within this sub-continent.

[@KushQueen9]

It's absolutely pathetic. Even the term FAIR lol. I'm proud of my melanated skin.

[@bigdaddy7729]

I dunno why as Muslims we would be obsessed with dark skin , I mean tell them are you better than Bilal ? Are you better than Habshi ? Are you better than abu darda? Are you better than owaiz qarni ? All dark skin , and by Allah , all his beloved . Too much culture and not enough knowledge about our own religion !

[@taj-sid]

@Balochi boy You talk as if you speak on behalf British Pakistanis. Most Muslims were ashamed about grooming gang case, and were angry that the media tried to conflate South-Asian Muslim culture with the criminal grooming gangs.

[@rrss1598]

Literally nobody hates Pakistanis more than Pakistanis and we have this weird self hatred and I love how you delved deeper into it and explained why

[@ayisha4286]

Yes and we're self-destructive, stealing from and ruining the country our ancestors shed blood to build :(

[@robertk9936]

Indians.... Indians hate Pakistan

[@imatcarletonuni]

I'm a Pakistani and I do not hate Pakistan or Pakistanis. The only people spreading hate about Pakistan are the Indians

[@robertk9936]

Just joking man... Why would you want to hate any country as a whole? There are good and bad people in ALL countries

[@AliAhmed-ve5xl]

@@robertk9936 I believe Pakistanis hate bordering India Its the psychological issue of being associated with dark skin, poor, weak, effeminate Hindus that gets to Pakistani people's nerves They like to be associated with light skin, rich and masculine races.

[@milkchocolate6719]

Growing up, hearing my friends talk about their cultures/countries (Korea, japan, Italy, France, etc), I always was self conscious about talking about Pakistan and my culture. Compared to other asain countries I couldn't brag about how advanced it was or all the cool things you could do there. I always tried to focus on learning my friends culture instead of my own. I'm SO glad I'm out of that phase now, being able to rediscover urdu, history of Pakistan, my culture and family is so so freeing. Thank you so much for talking about this topic because this needs to be brought up more!

[@fatiahistiqomah]

Few of my traveler friends who've been traveled to pakistan bragged on how beautiful their culture and nature are

[@felidaesaremoresuperiortha5855]

ur self conscious cus u know NOTHING ABOUT PAKISTAN; its ancient history, culture, its beautiful national language (urdu) and beautiful provincial languages , diversity in ethnic groups and ettccc. i can be going on.

[@AliAhmed-ve5xl]

@@felidaesaremoresuperiortha5855 Urdu is from India

[@felidaesaremoresuperiortha5855]

@Balochi boy ur a baloch? whats ur self hatred about ur own country about? u ppl didnt even have a writing script until the 40s when pakistan took over ur land.

[@felidaesaremoresuperiortha5855]

@@AliAhmed-ve5xl so? it was made during the Mughal era. there was no india back then.

[@omowhanre]

How soooo very sad! I’m Nigerian, we LOVE Desi culture and food because the professional colonizers (the British) brought Desis as servants/workers/admin to Nigeria and they brought Bollywood and so much more to the continent. My 4 year old daughter who is Nigerian asked to wear Indian clothes for Eid and I let her. The Desis at our masjid were sooo excited and it made her feel so beautiful. It makes me sad when people don’t see the beauty in their own cultures and traditions.

[@Randomguy-wd9jz]

Jazakallah bhai

[@TG-gp2gf]

@lopen nhioloipi I feel like she used the word Desi because she was referring to that broad spectrum of people not just Pakistani people or Indian people

[@pxrkhali3363]

I am an Indian living abroad and have many Nigerian origin friends. They are great people with a rich culture. Indians and Nigerians are very similar, we had the same colonizers, we both are religiously diverse, and both of our countries our highly populated.

[@zccau2316]

Problem is what is Pakistani culture? Most Pakistanis don't even realise Pakistani is not even an ethnicty but simple a nationality and that Pakistan is basically made up of 6 'mini' countries, each with their own ethnic group. |For example the Pashtuns are completely different to Punjabis while kashmiris are completely different to Balochis but all come together for Islam which is beautiful. Heck only 2 out of the 6 provinces share culture with India. Once more Pakistanis realise this, and once more of the Punjabi, Muhajers and Sindhis realise this, the better their identity crises will fix up. You don't see this with pashtuns, balochis and gilgits

[@KushQueen9]

@lopen nhioloipi yes Pakistan has a unique identity of its own. But that is part of the problem too "we don't like being associated with India". India/Pakistan were one nation at one point. This is why you have a lot of hatred between groups of people who are essentially separated by borders. The younger generation need to break that negativity.

[@RA-gg4pj]

A lot of Pakistani people I know get so happy when you say they look Arab. It’s really sad.

[@AyanAli-py7ci]

You mean like Osama Bin Laden, Rami Malek and Saddam Hussain? Wouldn't you rather look Zayn Malik, Imran Khan or Imran Abbas

[@infinitelady]

People say that to me also mistaken for Kurdish but I always correct them at I'm Pakistani.😊

[@AyanAli-py7ci]

@@infinitelady Kurds get stopped at the European borders while Ukrainian people get to go

[@RunhdeepS.Sandhu]

@@AyanAli-py7ci thats just racism...Eastern Europeans are famous for it..

[@OstrichFan]

@@AyanAli-py7ci terrible take tbh But Desi ppl are gorgeous on their own lol

[@sanjidahahmed3823]

Racism towards brown people is almost never taken seriously. It is a topic that must be more talked about!!

[@meh5069]

Brown people got a lot of racism inside of themselves that also needs to be worked on ☕️

[@myamwezmyamwez8669]

@@meh5069 That is exactly correct! White people are perfectly aware of this! This is how they end up daring to say things like "Our western societies have the least racism". They know there is no non-western nation in the world that would dare claim this too! What is even funnier is that there is no non-western leader that has ever dared to say this, imagine a leader from India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, Saudi, UAE, Qatar, and so on, come out and say they have the least racist societies in the world. lol

[@DaleEfti]

Exactly you never get the limelight at all

[@starr2870]

i think it isnt just 'brown' people but all asian racism isn't taken seriously

[@alecgurney9305]

@Benjamin Iota 💯

[@ZainabZehra786]

Thank you for shedding light on this topic 🙌 I am a 17 yr old proud Pakistani girl. My parents were very proud of their identity and my mother always told me that “one who doesn’t respect their culture and traditions or is ashamed of them is never respected by others.” I cannot tell you the number of times my fellow Pakistani friends and relatives pretended to forget urdu after just months of moving to a western country. Some of the parents would be very proud of the fact that their child knows how to speak english better than urdu. Fortunately, this wasn’t the case for me. While staying in Canada, my parents made sure that I and my siblings were fluent in writing, reading, and speaking in Urdu. Urdu is such a beautiful language! It was the language that Muslim league fought to protect when it’s existence became threatened by the Congress. It pains me to think that during the partition, millions lost their lives and yet you have people that are fearful of associating themselves with their motherland, one that was found in the name of God after many sacrifices. Here at my highschool, I am the only Pakistani girl and let me tell you, in just a year I have educated many of my teachers and classmates on my country. Many of my friends can even say a few phrases in Urdu. I believe confidence plays a key factor in how you present yourself to others. Being ashamed of your past just shows you that though the British colonization of the land had ended in 1947, It remains on your mind till today. Seeing yourself inferior to others especially those that live in the west is a form of mental slavery in itself.

[@native5647]

@Balochi boy what ?? seriously

[@KushQueen9]

Absolutely!!! Glad your parents instilled that in your mind.

[@dude-on1zr]

True words❤

[@g.s.632]

Congrats girl, and your mother is absolutely right.

[@desertboy1162]

Yes. Pakistanis have a lot to be proud off. I am the same way. Many Arabs are colonized mentally and prefer to speak English or French thinking they are sophisticated. Well Arabic is more beautiful language. I am Bedouin and proud. I am proud to be from Iraq especially the a western regions.

[@Riyaanreality]

I’m not Desi but an East African and it’s so sad how colonization has impacted populations across the world and taught them to hate themselves. I’m not sure if you made a video about it already but this reminds me of how communities bleach their skin in seeking proximity to whiteness. Extremely sad.

[@souu__.]

This 👏

[@beast9125]

@@faebalina7786 nope they’re aren’t confused. They find it funny that you all want to be them. They swallow that as pride, an ego boost and become arrogant

[@basmalasaad3039]

Where you from- I'm Eritrean 🇪🇷 and I relatee

[@Riyaanreality]

@@faebalina7786 That’s extremely sad. I hope we and our children learn to love ourselves as God has created us and teach the next generations🤲🏾

[@Riyaanreality]

@Alicia Brady what?! I’m East African because I’m from that region. Sorry (not sorry) where I’m from bothers you🤨

[@user-xm6eg8ot9i]

Bengali Indian Hindu here. Our pride is in our land. Our people are from exactly where we are, whether we're tall or short, fat or skinny, fair or dark, thank God we don't have to find pride in foreign lineage.

[@nazmulbhuiyan1982]

I am Bengali Muslim from Bangladesh. And both my parents have deep roots in Dhaka and I am thankful to Allah for my background which doesn't involve any foreigners. What we should all believe and accept is that we are all human beings and nobody is superior. I live in Canada and I can tell you that this inferiority complex is prevalent among desis who live in Western countries. I believe this has to do with the way parents raise their children in Western countries, and they don't raise them to be a desi but trying to pretent to become like western white people and the first mistake they commit is not speaking their language at home. Most Bengalis (from both Indian and Bangladesh) rarely speak Bengali at home with their kids, and by doing that they are sending a message to their kids that our language, which is core part of our identity, is nothing to be proud off.

[@auguaauaguga6517]

@@nazmulbhuiyan1982 how can you say most Bengali parents speak Bengali rarely with their kids. I am from Bangladesh as well and things aren't that much

[@nazmulbhuiyan1982]

@@auguaauaguga6517 most doesn’t mean all. I would still say most as that’s what I see.

[@auguaauaguga6517]

@@nazmulbhuiyan1982 Bro it's 100 percent true that many Bangladeshi parents don't want to speak Bangla when they go to a big gathering. Actually people are less patriotic and thing that saying Hindi/English will make them good.

[@pyrophoresist1497]

It is definitely a problem with us Bangladeshi Muslims. There are some delusionals who will claim some of their ancestors were from Iraq or some other Arab country. Like, is there something wrong or flawed with coming from this part of South Asia?

[@mzmin4119]

You have no idea how important your content is. You’re speaking on the Pakistani identity struggle in the west which is something I only wish more people talked about. As someone raised in the US but who has very strong ties to my Pakistani culture and heritage, it’s sad to see how many of my peers caved in to peer pressure and tried to distance themselves. Pakistan has beautiful landscapes and a unique culture on its own. I feel as though when I was younger it was harder for me to distinguish myself from my Indian peers but knowing a lot more now about the history of the country and how it has set itself apart, I feel all the more connected to my Pakistani heritage. Would be interesting to see your take on the distinguished Pakistani culture. We need more Pakistani voices on YT talking about our identity and I’d love to see you bring them onto your channel if possible!

[@felidaesaremoresuperiortha5855]

pakistani and indian cultures are WAAAAAY different. thats like saying an arab and persian is the same bc theyre neighbor. NO! the same says for pakistan. pakiistan has such an unique culture and rich history, it amazing to learn about my country. :)

[@AliAhmed-ve5xl]

There are 43 million Pashtuns in Pakistan Sonia is mentally ill

[@felidaesaremoresuperiortha5855]

@Balochi boy imagine wanting to get approval from the western world! ur truly insecure.

[@zccau2316]

Problem is what is Pakistani culture? Most Pakistanis don't even realise Pakistani is not even an ethnicty but simple a nationality and that Pakistan is basically made up of 6 'mini' countries, each with their own ethnic group. |For example the Pashtuns are completely different to Punjabis while kashmiris are completely different to Balochis but all come together for Islam which is beautiful. Heck only 2 out of the 6 provinces share culture with India. Once more Pakistanis realise this, and once more of the Punjabi, Muhajers and Sindhis realise this, the better their identity crises will fix up. You don't see this with pashtuns, balochis and gilgits

[@felidaesaremoresuperiortha5855]

@@zccau2316 we all know pakistani is not a ethnicity i never said it was, its a nationality. thnxs for tellin what every1 knows. the ethnicities in pakistan make up the pakistani cultutre. it aint rocket sceince. No sindhis have an identity crisis, theyre the most proudest ethnic group in pakistan. n u not knowing this is super embarrassing. u thought u ate it. also,all the major ethnicity in pakistan share a common history, dna and culture. we are not only united bc of islam.

[@EmmaKimbleMaerki]

About the "chip on your shoulder" about England: OF COURSE YOU DO!!! My husband isn't Desi, he's Egyptian...but he's got a chip on his shoulder towards the British and the West in general because they looked at the map of the middle east and North Africa and divided the people by straight cookie-cutter lines. They pitted people against each other, and turned a group of one into a group of many who now fight each other. So yes, the chip on your shoulder is VALID.

[@roserain7034]

There are many groups in Middle East who are literally in the same country but hate each other. It's wild!

[@anonanon2712]

same, though im not Desi. Europe literally looked at Africa and decided which parts they would take for themselves, as if they were merely talking about a cake. we still suffer the consequences to this day, so yeah, the chip on our shoulder is justified

[@marwansallam]

I don't get how that's a problem. Iraq, Syria, Arabia, Egypt were all one state and things were fine. There were always many groups living together peacefully in Arab countries. We were never a "group of one". The problems in the Middle East are because of foreign intervention and our own inferiority complex and sucking up to the West.

[@KushQueen9]

@@marwansallam Egypt is part of Africa. Let's stop playing games🙄

[@supersagarsagar]

They also spread propaganda among non white people to mentally enslave them

[@samia4766]

You’re talking about Desi inferiority complex and I’m projecting your analysis on Maghrebis (Moroccans, Algerians, Tunisians especially) inferiority complex vis a vis French people/culture. I loved the video! Also, I can’t wait for your video addressing the criticism you received on the Arab superiority complex video. I love your videos Tazzy 💓

[@ACKtube-of3qf]

Lebanese also have it due to french colonisation

[@cupcake7217]

North Africans wannabe Arab, they suffer from an inferiority complex and just can't embrace their indigenous identity, amazigh

[@uzwinzfan]

i totally understand this. as an algerian living in algeria ive witnessed so many people get shamed for either not knowing french or speaking broken french as if being fluent in a certain language is a determining factor of one's intellect. it just doesn't make sense to me and i almost always call it out when i see it

[@AliAhmed-ve5xl]

Pakistan has 43 million Pashtuns

[@native5647]

@@AliAhmed-ve5xl What does that have to do with this video ?

[@ACMR6297]

This reminds me of a few Filipinos I know. One claimed to be part Spanish/Japanese/Arabic and tried really hard to display different parts of those cultures. They decided to do a genetic test, either 23 and me or something similar, and found out they were mostly Filipino. A mix of indigenous Filipino group and the largest ethnic group in the Philippines (forgot what it’s called). They had a small mental break down and claimed the test was wrong and did several more tests. That was a few years back and haven’t heard anything since.

[@jessejames6688]

I usually don't comment on these types of videos because I'm white & from the U.S. Most recent immigration in my family was in my grandparents' generation. However, I wanted to drop a note to say thank you for exposing me to cultural conflicts and race & ethnicity complexities that aren't on my radar day-to-day. I try to be informed and engaged, reading critical race theory and the like, but gearing from contemporary people around my age is more relatable tbh. Thank you for doing the work you do!

[@sarahwatts7152]

This video made me think a lot about the part of How to Be an AntiRacist about internalized racism. Horrifying, but also sad.

[@fruitloopz311]

Self hatred of your white Heritage will get you nowhere

[@WillyRahmannanoff]

I’m from Puerto Rico and was raised in mainland USA, where I’m Black or African American. My family was poor. I was first generation university student. I’m university I met so many Pakistani PhD students. I wanted to be like them. I began learning about the culture. I became Muslim with them. I fell in love with them. That’s my Pakistani story.

[@asadmech12]

Wow..just wow.. mashallah!!!

[@asadmech12]

@두유I am a Pakistani and I love Korea and its people " Sarang hay ham nida Hangook Saram". If you have lived your life in Korea it will be very difficult to live in Pakistan. I did master degree from Korea and I always wanted to marry a Korean girl but I was never able to find one. Anyways Korea has become part of my life...I live in Dubai and still I buy kimchi to eat..I just love and respect your country... Masalama

[@AliAhmed-ve5xl]

@@asadmech12 Koreans aren't even Muslim You're probably another dravidian convert with Syed as a name.

[@itsvisking6200]

Did u learn about mohmmad he married and consumed b6yr old

[@worm_and_no_man]

Avoid being muslim. Be Christian. Be holy

[@yellowantonio-nado7761]

The internalized racism is hard to fight. As Chinese we deal with this shit too

[@theviralspiral-courtesyoft1187]

It amuses me when I hear the Chinese (mainland) lecture about racism. Have you seen your State propaganda?

[@alir.6396]

@@theviralspiral-courtesyoft1187 Dude stfu this person is tryna say what's on his mind don't make everything political toxic lookin ahh

[@carymnuhgibrilsamadalnasud1222]

I thought Chinese people were very proud of their roots.

[@unconscious1076]

Bro Han Chinese culture language civilisation are literally one of the most respected in the world Singaporean Taiwanese Hong Konger too are hans too and are as respected as Japanese in 1st world countries There is nothing to be ashamed of Chinese lmfao

[@unconscious1076]

@@carymnuhgibrilsamadalnasud1222 yes he is probably not even Chinese Even the biggest anti Chinese you'll see respect Chinese culture and civilisation

[@weltschmerz0]

this channel is underrated!! I'm a Chechen myself but such videos help me to delve more into issues that spring up within Desi community! Your videos educate me a lot and I find them as a light at the end of the tunnel !! Keep it up! Your wit, wisdom and video editing skill is unimitable.

[@valf156115]

Love chechnya and wish to visit one day!

[@tubby6007]

Chechens are so beautiful masha Allah. Strong Handsome men and beautiful women.

[@sahakhan4360]

Emma Pumpkin Nokchi

[@islamafridi5055]

Just because she might be feel inferior complex does not mean all of us do. My clan is alhamdulilah proud of who we are and we strong in out traditions of honour, respect and most importantly our imaan i Islam. We are proud of these. May be uneducated liberal wrstern ones who shame is inferior complex.

[@jalal3254]

its over for Kadyrovcels

[@nusai2229]

Totally agree with people from your own culture distancing themselves from you and putting up this white persona - not only are Desi’s called ‘Jungle Asians’ but we are conditioned to feel so ashamed for a land and culture that has provided so much knowledge, culture, art, language and taste to this world.

[@riyadougla539]

Why are desis called "jungle asians"? I am aware that people don't like south asians at all.

[@zainabk2866]

also as a hijabi woman I rlly connected with your point over south asian men (Muslim or non Muslim) that would distance themselves away from me because of my color/me being Muslim AND I KNEW IT WASNT OUT OF “modesty or courtesy” it was because they genuinely wanted to try connecting with other ppl and not converse with me at all

[@AyanAli-py7ci]

South Asian is not a race. Its a geographical space on the planet.

[@zainabk2866]

the fact that there’s two men being pressed about this says a lot wow.

[@riyadougla539]

Very true. I experience this all the time.

[@blackraven6049]

Wow as a Muslim Desi man looking for a virgin hijabi wife looking to raise pious children this makes me really happy. The more these losers distance themselves the better of a potential mate I become :)

[@zainabk2866]

@@blackraven6049…… what?

[@joeroberts2156]

The grass is always greener, I'm white British but I've always admired and had an intense relationship with the various Desi cultures in many ways.

[@madelynvw]

As a white convert married into an Arab family I have seen and heard enough to know you were on point in the Arab superiority complex video. Those within the Arab community whom are different probably speak out because they feel generalised, however I think the overall attitude is exactly what you described.

[@mymelodichandle]

The racist girl turned out to be Pakistani and not Arab! Albeit Arabs do have a superiority nevertheless

[@AliAhmed-ve5xl]

White people are treated with respect in the middle east You being white is already a plus point You being from a rich, western land is another plus point If you personally have a lot of money or education, you can get any Arab to like you now regardless of religion

[@desertboy1162]

@Balochi boy only Gulf puppets, don’t generalize. We Iraqis don’t give a shot about Whites dude. Plus it’s because we the Gulf rulers are bunch of puppet apes

[@charismaticares3382]

Well i am an Indian Muslim & i am very much in to Palestinian, Jordan, Lebanon & Syrian Girls but after this video from @tazzy Phe and arab supremacy video, i feel i have no chance dating/marrying with women of that region despite being muslim. Very sad…

[@saira_6151]

@@desertboy1162 I don't know. I have met Iraqis who are friendly and those who racist and think Iraqis should not marry Africans or South Asians and instead keep it Arab whilst some favor marrying "white". I know only one iraqi who married a white, and her family didn't accept it but disowned her. Personally I don't see people as Arabs or Desi or white or whatever. I see them as humans and yes I am not colour blind but I just don't believe in racism superiority or even the need to force others to only marry certain groups and not others. The racism issue is rampant cross the middle east, outside the Gulf. If you are white you get automatic respect. Obviously exceptions exist and some Arabs are vocal about opposing racism and these superiority complexes but race is an issue. I think it always will be its just sad it's permeated even our Ummah. Because Allah made a s one people. Human.

[@DarkHairedCurlyOne]

Hi! As your Christian sister I want to say your beautiful, your culture is beautiful and I admire you. Wishing you all the blessings !

[@emauk9448]

This is a great video - you’re talking about very pertinent topics that not a lot of KZbinrs will never touch upon in case of being ‘cancelled’. You’re very natural and I would love to see more of these topics from you!

[@nabiraablimit9921]

Coming from Uyghur, honestly having a country is better than being humiliated under the oppressive coloniser. No matter how poor or underdeveloped it is, it’s still a safe space. Plus Pakistan is none of that, it’s doing pretty good for a country that doesn’t have much allies in the region.

[@george4vIogging]

Pakistan is an absolute wreck

[@Tippy257]

@@george4vIogging no it’s not.

[@george4vIogging]

@@Tippy257 Yes it is. It is a failing state by almost every metric.

[@george4vIogging]

@@stayblessed9525 If you say so.

[@Tippy257]

@@george4vIogging it’s no worse than India, all those countries in the subcontinent are similar. Their infrastructure looks a mess from the outside because they are not white and clean and tidy like nazi countries, but when you go closer it’s not that bad, it’s just how most of developing world is. Rich and poor worlds apart.

[@hinataJem]

Nobody should be ashamed of where they came from. After all, we are all humans. We come from same earth. I think we should be proud of our culture but not put down other people culture. I feel like some people have so much proudness and feel superior to others but in reality, there’s nothing to be superior about and nothing to feel inferior about.

[@shoshanawolfe7107]

Totally agree, it’s really beautiful to see that so many people from all over the globe can agree on this💗 (From Israel :))

[@samiai8905]

Thank you for this. I've been dealing with shit and while I was thinking about it I desperately needed this put into words.

[@chocolatelava1017]

You choose deeply resonating topics for the desi community and third culture individuals. It makes you reconsider and revevaluate different aspects of life. Great video, keep it up! P. S. Your Arab supremacy video is underrated.

[@zccau2316]

Problem is what is Pakistani culture? Most Pakistanis don't even realise Pakistani is not even an ethnicty but simple a nationality and that Pakistan is basically made up of 6 'mini' countries, each with their own ethnic group. |For example the Pashtuns are completely different to Punjabis while kashmiris are completely different to Balochis but all come together for Islam which is beautiful. Heck only 2 out of the 6 provinces share culture with India. Once more Pakistanis realise this, and once more of the Punjabi, Muhajers and Sindhis realise this, the better their identity crises will fix up. You don't see this with pashtuns, balochis and gilgits

[@angelica49427]

I guess this happens in all post colonial countries, yikes. We could replace key words in your story with any Latin American country or peoples and voila same story. Always enjoy your point of view and take on life. Thanks for sharing.

[@aylinc.556]

So true! I thought of this as I watched the video, specifically in the case of Dominican identity, but of course it happens in all countries. The effects of colonialism are still evident today.

[@riyadougla539]

True, I've seen Latin Americans look up to western countries so much.

[@bluesorbliss4331]

As a desi woman (Bangladesh) I wholeheartedly agree with your research and sentiment. Its the hybrid theory. We feel inferiority and superiority complex at the same time when we are a hybrid. Colonized, brainwashed, raised under Western influence/society as well as not fully bring able to integrate into our own culture, society etc. We are neither here nor there. Its a mess. With the rise of social media, and the incorporation of the British education curriculum alongside our national curriculum, we face an identity crisis. There is segregation within ourselves now. I.e. the rich/well to do send their children to English medium (British/American be edu) the middle class goes to national curriculum and the lower class is reserved for madrasas. We are more hateful and divided than ever. Thanks for the book refs I will need to read up on them.

[@riyadougla539]

Our societies are extremely divided.

[@mishkaatrawjee1271]

This is so important. A big part of my life was influenced externally by this internal hate. And I’m so glad you’re talking about it. Because this is more common than not.

[@lovelaugh_lina]

In my country, Singapore, its well known amongst the Muslim Asian(Chinese, malay,indian) community that the Arabs here have superiority complex. On the surface, they seem normal, they will make friends with the Asians and work alongside with Asians, date(while leading to believe that they will marry) asians but at the end of the day they(and the whole Arab community) will only want to marry and socialise within their own race. Because most Muslims here have arabic names, to distinguish themselves from the Asian Muslims, they're too proud about their last names, making sure that people know their last names first ( Al- xyz). The irony is that they barely speak their own language already as their ancestors have adopted the asian culture after years of living here. This is just my( and many others) observation/experience. Its not to bash but to highlight how the asian muslim community have perceived the Arab Muslim community. Edit: of course there are exceptions but its quite rare Edit:language

[@saltandpeppers8788]

Thanks for this, as I learned something new!

[@ACKtube-of3qf]

Am sure the situation could be different in south Asia, but as an Arab here’s my understanding based on the vibe around me, We love to mix with all cultures (based on my experience) But marriage has always been a big no even marriage from other other Arab countries is a no so it’s an unspoken taboo that you shouldn’t marry outside you country Which is very interesting as boarders weren’t really a big thing hundred years ago

[@starlightwhispers6781]

There's definitely a 'pushing up' of Arabs and their history in Singapore

[@AyanAli-py7ci]

@@saltandpeppers8788 its sounds fake

[@AyanAli-py7ci]

@@ACKtube-of3qf check American statistics and British statistics 75% of second generation Arabs marry out In Britain 25% of Arabs marry out They make an exception for whites then

[@infinite5795]

Good job, Tasneem. Being from India and living in the Philippines due to work, I have noticed this in Indians, but it is more about the white skin color fascination or validation of our culture by Whites. But, in contrast to Pakistanis, I have noticed that Hindus here are very proud of their origins and their 7000year old culture, same with other religions except the Muslims. The Hindus hold seminars and cultural programs, festivals almost everyday and majority of Indian women wear saree even to work, which is considered fashionable. Traditional arts, classical dances, filigree to study of paintings and architecture are learnt as well as linguistic studies are encouraged, the Indians still write in their traditional scripts like they did 2500 years ago. Nowadays, the Indian govt. has started an initiative to devise exam papers, books of any institution in all the 22 official languages of India( it was there earlier, just the no of languages was fewer to 11 or so) apart from English. Also, Bollywood has never been very true to our culture, so Indians are looking more to the southern Dravidian movie industries for content and creativity. Nevertheless, I see this as a welcoming step, but you can't deny the tonnes of reaction channels on KZbin on Indian affairs be it clothing, dance, songs etc.

[@Asma-xs2wv]

You are so articulate, and express your opinions eloquently. Well said!

[@ladypinkymoe7574]

I am Pakistani and Moroccan and I didn't know there was a desi inferiority complex. All the Pakistanis (Nani, khalas, mother) in my life were strong independent women who were proud of being Pakistani (my mother was born and brought up in the UK so maybe there is something there?). My mother's attitude was way more superior about her heritage than my father's attitude, but there was nothing like 'i am better than you' it was more of a fusion of cultures. Arabic and Urdu and English. But I get where you're coming from. These things need to be said. Thank you for saying them.

[@Far7anR]

No one really escapes it. It's this weird network of inferiories and superiorities that honestly weaves through every culture. It manifests in different ways. I am not at all surprised to hear that your mother ended up marrying a non-Desi man and that she is still very boldly Pakistani. Nor is it suprising to hear you specifically mention Desi woman. It would have been very surprising for me to hear a Pakistani woman like that marrying a Bangladeshi man or Indonesian man or Somali man. It would also have been very surprising for me if it has been your mother who was Morcoccan and proud and your father who was Pakistani and mild about it. That is how it always plays out. Inferiorities and superiorities don't always present in an obviously toxic way.

[@AliAhmed-ve5xl]

@@Far7anR you nonce, the girl who sang on x factor in Britain's mother was Moroccan and father was Pakistani Pakistanis only by 4% marry out Moroccan girls marry out like crazy. Even Saudis know this.

[@AyanAli-py7ci]

@@Far7anR if you type in Pakistani Arab weddings into KZbin. Way more Pakistani male Arab female results pop up kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z6DShGmjjJypjKs kzbin.info/www/bejne/rKankGNverpkbKc kzbin.info/www/bejne/Z2K9fKGEi96sqqc kzbin.info/www/bejne/jabGpoN6ia1_idk kzbin.info/www/bejne/nmmamoWIfaifrpY kzbin.info/www/bejne/nqDRaHR5ituirJY kzbin.info/www/bejne/mJWWmJZ6braZeMU kzbin.info/www/bejne/bpjNlKuMmNWHm7s

[@zccau2316]

Problem is what is Pakistani culture? Most Pakistanis don't even realise Pakistani is not even an ethnicty but simple a nationality and that Pakistan is basically made up of 6 'mini' countries, each with their own ethnic group. |For example the Pashtuns are completely different to Punjabis while kashmiris are completely different to Balochis but all come together for Islam which is beautiful. Heck only 2 out of the 6 provinces share culture with India. Once more Pakistanis realise this, and once more of the Punjabi, Muhajers and Sindhis realise this, the better their identity crises will fix up. You don't see this with pashtuns, balochis and gilgits

[@AliAhmed-ve5xl]

@@zccau2316 Baloch claim to be Arabs from aleppo Sindhis don't claim Arab lineage

[@marion.saturn]

I feel this so much! I'm not Pakistani (I'm Latino) but I grew up in a vastly white country and the racism was/is unbearable! So, as a kid I thought that the only way to "escape" that would be to try to "act white". I kept my distance from POCs but I knew that I actually wanted to befriend them. I just didn't know how with all of this pressure. I'm just now getting to dismantle all of it and I'm grateful to have found your channel! I'm glad that I'm able to shift my perspective from "I must appease white people" to "I can create my own tribe with these lovely POCs!". All I wanted is to feel welcomed and a part of a community.

[@zoeanaam.6996]

Thank you for talking about this you are using you're platform so wisely, it's great to learn from you.

[@chefcherry]

So, I’m an Indian Muslim that grew up in the Gulf and I have extended relatives who are Pakistani, as well as friends that I have made in school and university. I really despise talking about this because it’s unsettling to hear but I have had some unpleasant experiences so I’d like to share them… Firstly, my Pakistani relatives grew up in Saudi Arabia but they masquerade themselves as Saudis, and completely erase or hide any Desi aspect to them. It’s uncomfortable to deal with because whenever there were any social gatherings, there was a clear divide between the family members and the ones that pretended to be Saudis always held themselves superior to the rest and only spoke Arabic. It was genuinely a tense atmosphere that felt discriminative. When there were moments where they had to speak Urdu, it felt like they couldn’t deal with speaking that language and their gazes were really condescending. Secondly, I used to have this friend in middle school who would put on an American accent even though she was born and raised in Pakistan and would berate me for suddenly including an Urdu word when I spoke English or talked about anything that was remotely Desi. She went as far as even giving herself an English nickname and would prefer to be called that instead. She has US citizenship so she would boast about that occasionally too. It was awful and she genuinely made me feel so bad about myself. And this last experience of mine is genuinely the worst because I befriended a guy whose dad is blatantly colorist and racist and has openly talked about he wants his daughter in law to be a gori. This man actively goes to the northern parts of Pakistan like Chitral and recruits young girls to marry the male members of his family all because they have Eurocentric features. He even encourages his own son to go abroad to Western countries and find a white girl to marry but it can’t be a Brown, Asian or Black girl. I genuinely was so nauseated how someone’s dad could fetishize and talk about women in such a way. It made me so angry. I don’t know where all of this stems from, I used to think it’s because they get grouped with Indians and Bangladeshis and didn’t like being associated with anything that could mean being perceived as Brown. It’s just sad, I wish they would just accept themselves for who they are.

[@AliAhmed-ve5xl]

You're such a liar, obviously an Indian. If you come to the UK. Almost all Arabs are full whitewashed. They even have high interracial marriage rates 25% of Arab women in Britain marry out 4% of Pakistani women in Britain marry out Not to mention, every mosque in the UK was built by Pakistanis Every race riot was fought by Pakistanis from the 1950s, the 1960s, the 1970s, the 1980s, the 1990s and early 2000s such as the Bradford riots.

[@adriennebarbosa1585]

I’ve had experiences like that with Pakistanis too. I’ve met some who fiercely claimed they were Afghan, Iranian, Saudi but then spoke Urdu/Punjabi at home or would claim they had ancestry from these countries. It’s all so weird and I do think it stems from them not wanting to be associated with other South Asians, probably because of skin colour as south Asians are usually on the brown/dark brown side.

[@Tippy257]

Brilliant video, love how you speak, you flow so naturally. These topics are important as there are real negative consequences to these inferiority complexes. People with this complex start making stupid decisions like siding with people, respecting people who don’t deserve your respect, building alliances with people who are no good for you just because of this complex. You will get taken advantage of and you will end up with nothing. You have to love yourself, be proud ( not arrogant) of your race and do the best for you and your people.

[@aksaarshad9271]

As always a very thought provoking video, thank you for sharing this!

[@canttouchthis2345]

I love your content! I am here for the beautifully articulated desi/immigrant/canadian-millenial diaspora! Please continue sharing your thoughts/internal rants/ideas!

[@AliAhmed-ve5xl]

They don't exist Pakistanis live in the UK and they're generally resistant people

[@mountainman6172]

I love the work by sister Kavitha Emmanuel. She is the founder of Dark Is Beautiful, an advocacy campaign started in India in 2009 to fight colourism.

[@amena92]

Thank you for sharing such an important topic and video! I’m such a fan🥰❤️

[@alieusannoh4185]

Thank you for posting these videos. They have opened our eyes.

[@samiuelsami1238]

My girls are applauding about this fact particularly “ not out of modesty “ comment of yours . Bravo for stating so much true facts that came straight from your heart and are so relatable 😘Jzk

[@bensonbeebarry2055]

Thank you so much for this video! I’m from England and I cannot stress enough how many Desi’s try to distance themselves from their culture and project their inferior complex in such awful ways. It’s really sad, especially in girls/women too who have darker skin than what is considered the “ideal” skin tone in the desi community, we feel we have to prove ourselves so much harder than those who are fairer because of our inferiority complexes. It doesn’t help at all when desi men actively and blatantly choose women based on skin tone despite growing up in a very diversified society 😬😬😬

[@beast9125]

The pagan caste system is ingrained in their minds

[@dinul117]

Honestly I find it really depends on what kind of area they grow up in.. where there is lots of other desi / south asian people in the community, I don't see that as often

[@silverstarlight9395]

I'm so thankful that my boyfriend is white, so he doesn't care about my skin colour and loves me for my personality. He also cooks his own food so I don't have to do that for him.

[@zccau2316]

The problem is what is Pakistani culture? Most Pakistanis don't even realise Pakistani is not even an ethnicty but simple a nationality and that Pakistan is basically made up of 6 'mini' countries, each with their own ethnic group. |For example the Pashtuns are completely different to Punjabis while kashmiris are completely different to Balochis but all come together for Islam which is beautiful. Heck only 2 out of the 6 provinces share culture with India. Once more Pakistanis realise this, and once more of the Punjabi, Muhajers and Sindhis realise this, the better their identity crises will fix up. You don't see this with pashtuns, balochis and gilgits

[@usmanbinaffan8405]

@Balochi boy who said to you?

[@jamal9638]

Girl I love you and love the important topics you tackle in your videos

[@thejudeodeh]

Thank you for this, always informative and giving great food for thought.

[@jijihope2558]

Honestly it's not just Desi's who experience this. As an Arab, I can definitely attest that this "inferiority complex" is very prevalent in our communities as well, particularly when we compare ourselves to western societies. I think just the fact that all the world "super powers" or countries that are deemed to be "civilised, peaceful, democratic, and free" are mostly western societies (aka North America excluding Mexico, majority of Europe and Australia). Even their language is the most commonly used language across the world (English), whenever I visit my home country everyone thinks it is so cool that I can speak English fluently and everyone wants you to teach them. Many countries teach English as a second language in schools as well. Also, majority of the media we are exposed to reflects a western lifestyle. Whether it be movies or TV shows or just plain old social media, so much of it revolves around characters from western countries who are usually white and usually speak English. And it doesn't help that our societies are constantly plagued by war, famine and poverty because those western "super powers" continuously invade us, steal our resources and intervene in our governments. For them to remain in power, we must remain in ignorance, otherwise they would lose all their wealth and influence. Countries like ours are not supposed to evolve according to them. That's why we can never have peace and stability and follow islamic law precisely. When we compare ourselves to them we feel so inferior due to the contrast in our societies, which creates a desire to want to mimic them so that we may reach their level of "civilisation". Also, since they control the media, they only show the bad parts of our societies and the good parts of their societies. For example, whenever my country is shown on the news all you see is trash in the streets, ugly homes, fighting, sand everywhere, etc when in reality if you actually visit there is so much more incredible breathtaking sights and things to see and joy and laughter. And contrary to this, whenever western countries are presented on TV they pick the best parts to showcase. All you see are clean streets, water fountains, modern cutting edge architecture, etc. It makes you feel like that's what it looks like there all the time. But it's not. For ex, I live in Canada (which is a beautiful country) but when you see it on the news and what my family sees back home makes it look perfect, which is NOT true at all. There are dirty streets here, there are homeless people, people living in poverty, there is trash, factories, pollution, fighting, etc. But since these parts are rarely showcased to our own communities back home, it pushes the narrative in favour of the west, Making them appear "civilised, polished, happy and perfect". Our desire to be like them gives them greater influence and power over us. Ps: The Gulf is not just discriminatory to Desi or Pakistani people. They are racist to anyone who is not from there. My parents and many of their Arab friends have experienced racism there just because they're not locals. (not everyone of course, there are obviously many kind hearted & welcoming people in those areas as well ❤️)

[@AyanAli-py7ci]

The Gulf architecture is built by western engineers. However it depends on the situation for many people They're Pakistanis who will get racism in the Gulf but they're also many rich Pakistanis in the Gulf with billion dollar houses and a lot of gangsters who transport opium from Afghanistan to Pakistan live in Dubai also.

[@uwu-fm2kj]

But from an objective standpoint modern western societies are more free and progressive (I’d never use the world civilized bc that just seems racist). Just like how the Arab world was leagues ahead during the European dark ages.

[@AyanAli-py7ci]

@@uwu-fm2kj the Arab world was always backwards. They were walking around eating lizards You're thinking of Persians

[@amljm9779]

I’m from the Gulf, and I must say that while the majority of us are very welcoming to anyone from any culture, unfortunatly there are still people among us who are not only racist to other cultures like you said but also racist toward other Arabian tribes in the SAME REGION. It’s really sad because as muslims it doesn’t matter what your ethnicity is, Allah will judge you on your faith not which Arab country are you from. And I agree with you on the inferiority complex it sickens me how some Arabs are ashamed of speaking Arabic and it’s seen as “old and outdated” and are ashamed of their heritage and will adapt any westren ideas without thinking “is this right? Does this fit my culture?”, they want to be accepted by the “white” man, but western societies will never accept them no matter what. I also believe that our “leaders” have contributed to this inferiority complex among Arabs but that’s a loooong long story. Anyway, stay safe and peace be upon you ♥️

[@riyadougla539]

Well said. They don't want other countries to become rich. We have to be kept in ignorance and poverty.

[@mandalorian3246]

no one can ever imagine how big of an issue this is. and how much it impacts our lives

[@jabrayjay6679]

This video just popped up and I'm so impressed! Well worth watching, thank you

[@sanaahmed8464]

Thaankkss for discussing this. Its need of the moment. Subscribed.

[@TheBlushingGiraffe]

Those two girls have sooo much self hatred it’s very upsetting, I think you’ve articulated it so well in saying that many many Pakistanis have or still do feel inferior, but they are just a whole different level. The amount of surgery they’ve had to alter their natural features is even deeper rooted than self hatred imo

[@yaells6758]

I thought it was the kardashians at first lol

[@carwofat1901]

I think it's most likely persistent trauma during their formative years. Stuff like that can happen and can really affect a person's view of themselves, even in ways where people who may not have experienced situations like that find it strange.

[@IsmailKhan-fg9tj]

Its cause Pakistanis are darker than arabs ( northern arabs like syrians palestinian lebanese , Moroccan algerian iraqi

[@AyanAli-py7ci]

@@IsmailKhan-fg9tj Most Pakistanis sure attack white people who are the cream of crop for whiteness in the UK

[@IsmailKhan-fg9tj]

@Balochi boy and zack knight looks like your typical north african/levtine arab so u proved my point

[@gainigaini1366]

As a person from Kazakhstan ugh… I understand your struggles guys. I am also a little bit ashamed of where I come from but I am working on it!🇰🇿 ❤️ 🇵🇰

[@bib12344]

Central Asian culture and people are beautiful! 🇰🇿🇺🇿🇰🇬🇹🇲🇦🇫🇹🇯❤️

[@NewCanadianTurtle]

Kazakhstan girls are literally some of the most beautiful women on the planet. Theres a lot of half Asian half Russian genes mixing there

[@gainigaini1366]

@@NewCanadianTurtle thank you!

[@user-lt6ve9ns4d]

Are you serious? I'm the biggest weeb for Qazaq and generally Turkic art and culture! It's my dream to visit Astana, Bukhara, Bishkek etc. I am even learning some turkic words 🫠 You should be proud!

[@gainigaini1366]

@@user-lt6ve9ns4d thanks I appreciate it ❤️ but in America most people don’t even knows we exist 🥲

[@PsychologistKhan]

I can see a lot of research and hard work behind this video !! You are doing great Tasneem . It’s both informative and entertaining! Waiting for more videos !

[@thehauntedstream7206]

This video is so good, you have a really wise take on this. Thank you!

[@Yasmine1962]

Love this! Thank you for sharing your passion and perspective on this topic. As we have more discussions about the colonized /enslaved psychology, the more we will find points of intersectionality. We are creating the tools for the next generation to carry the work further

[@jabrayjay6679]

Agree!

[@qoobsmcdoobs1]

I did not even know how badly I was under an inferiority complex until the last few years. But I'm trying to be more conscious and in the process I'm loving my history, my heritage. The traditional forms of music and songs I used to make fun of and feel embarrassed by in my younger years are the main form of music I enjoy most now.

[@anushikasinghsengar5894]

Wow! The sensibilities in your video are on point. You are so sagacious with discerning the mental make up and circumstances behind such an incident. It gave me hope for world’s mental faculties. I imagine how fun it would be to talk to you about Whoopi Goldberg’s remark.

[@amermaidwhocantswim1430]

Omg this is such an important topic. Thank you for letting me learn!

[@Balgees24]

I agree with you 💯, people who grow up outside their own country, had this complex identity, they hate it and try to say they are from different place, and those poor parents trying make sure their children know their calture, they are alot self hate there, and also racism inside our own community.

[@m0nz13]

I have witnessed this where I live in! It’s frustrating because people of your own race constantly distance themselves from making connections with people of the same race & projecting stereotypes (also acting like they’re better than the rest) to people of other races to be in the likes of them (and be accepted) because they don’t appreciate and understand that their race is perfectly fine, flaws and all. Sometimes it’s the system that you live and grow up in, that makes you feel like you must erase your racial identity in order to be accepted by others, especially a majority race of a country.

[@carwofat1901]

@@m0nz13 In my own mind, I like to call it 'The ideal Nationality' or 'Ideal Ethnicity' to be apart of.

[@hani1586]

I feel like the racism against Pakistanis or South Asians is worse in Dubai and the gulf countries compared to the west which is sad because we are all Muslims.

[@linguafranca5115]

They feel more arab than muslim ig

[@AyanAli-py7ci]

Not really Pakistanis went through generations in the UK fighting skinheads

[@kumarvikramaditya9636]

No. Not all south asians are muslim.

[@linguafranca5115]

@@kumarvikramaditya9636 Of course not, he's talking about those arabs(muslims) discriminating against south asians in the gulf region who happened mostly(in gulf) to be muslims.

[@AliAhmed-ve5xl]

@@linguafranca5115 Aren't there rich Pakistanis in Dubai also I've seen Pakistanis move from Britain to other lands

[@jasminefremdehake2354]

Your topics are really refreshing to the mind.

[@ewelinawitkowska7120]

Amazing video, would love more like this casual discussions with history base !!! about colonization, muslim heritage and muslim issues.. love how you talk about things from different angles and the way you write your scripts is just what makes this channel so wholesome keep up this great work, it really shows !

[@Onajourney519]

As a none Pakistani myself I did notice the inferior complex many of my Pakistani friends had, that was one of the reasons why I struggled to maintain friendships with them. It was toxic, I only have 2 Pakistani friends they're happy and confident in who they're, confidence is so sexy.

[@Ezra63829]

I agree! Such friendships are so toxic :(

[@alecgurney9305]

@Balochi boy back in the 60s lol

[@AyanAli-py7ci]

@@alecgurney9305 the Bradford riots in 2001.

[@sabagilani1600]

I love how you took such an academic take on an incident (and talked about the deeper issue here) which people sideline as a silly hilarious story.

[@laibarashid399]

Honeslty really like your channel, just recently came over it, you go over important topics that not a lot channels go over so definitely subscribing!!

[@peaceseeker9927]

Excellent coverage of the topic. You made some points that helped my understanding of Desi people. There are other sources I've gone to that acknowledge the problems but they are very limited in explaining the origin and dynamics of the mindset behind them. But you take it to another level.

[@aseelmh4530]

As expected, great video Tazzy ❤️ so relatable and this topic specifically always catches my attention, as we - Palestinians who live in the occupied Palestine - have always seen all types of attempts to mimic our colonizers, whether it's through dressing like them, inserting some of their language into ours, traveling annually to european countries to look more "civilized", and getting embarassed by our own traditions and culture, etc. I really hope YT people some day understand how they f*cked us all up.

[@Hi5Ripon]

Palestinians abroad acts like Europeans and in GCC states they do it the most

[@aseelmh4530]

@@Hi5Ripon Now you can explain their behavior and understand that it comes from a lot of fear, dehumanization and colonization my friend

[@Hi5Ripon]

@@aseelmh4530 They are vanquished people as said by an old Arab figure

[@Starlight-vs2ot]

Ditto! I totally agree with you. You have touched upon a deep rooted psychological issue which exists in the desi society. These are exactly the kinds of conversations our community leaders need to be having if we are ever to wash off the residue left by colonialism and move forward to become an educated and proud people.

[@AliAhmed-ve5xl]

What does colonialism have to do with Arabs? Colonialism is westerners, even Palestine was in British people's hands

[@Starlight-vs2ot]

@@AliAhmed-ve5xl This is about the desi inferiority complex which stems back from British colonial rule in India. Western colonists whether in India, Palestine, or South America, treated the natives as inferiors. Also,there is an internal hierarchy in the Muslim world where Muslims, specially the more darker and poorer ones, rank lower; hence, the desire to distance oneself from one's identity.

[@lebo3793]

As a black person, I know everyone hates us. So we are not confused 😂

[@canadianborndesi8110]

Love your content Tazzy Phe. Keep it up!!!!! Good content, real life issues and fun on top of it all.

[@AliAhmed-ve5xl]

Its mostly fake Those two girls use to talk garbage about Arab and Kurdish girls all day in Birmingham

[@shoanaqvi1695]

Tazz this is so damnnn true. We as Pakistanis are so ashamed of our identity & it’s beyond tragic. Theres so much I can say about this. One being I don’t feel safe in Pakistan - I both love and hate Pakistan. Yes we’ve definitely lived the legacy of colonialism.

[@AyanAli-py7ci]

What does colonialism have to do with it? Pakistan is not a race People identify with their ethnic groups

[@felidaesaremoresuperiortha5855]

OMG-- WE R NOT. its u disporas which r. stop putting this title of "embarrassing, being a pakistani." my ancestors fought for this land for independent from invaders.

[@vidanosalpess]

When I was living in Pakistan they were calling me "white woman " treating me very well (because of my color). I was feeling so embarrassed, bcs I am from Brazil and here, we have all the skin colors as possible .. it's so normal for me. Girls bleaching they're skin while I just want stay at beach trying to get tan skin 😂 They have a beautiful color btw

[@sarahismail9461]

Loved the video, definitely gets us thinking. Looking forward to more content!

[@masterphotog4131]

Great video, keep up the good work!

[@carwofat1901]

After watching this video, sometimes in social situations, I start to reflect on incidents that use to happen during my schooling years as well as afterward that had to do with ethnic identity. I started to observe how some ethnic identities were "socially acceptable" by the way a person introduced themselves and how others responded to it. Some of the people received complements as well as attention and friendships based on how they identified. For example, and I laugh and cringe even typing this, but when I was in high school, there was a new student from a specific European country who used to get loads of attention and complements for their looks, preferences in books etc. Mind you this student was very shy and didn't like to talk much. Meanwhile there were a few students who weren't from "socially acceptable" countries who were similar in terms of shyness, who didn't receive this kind of attention at all, but were rather ignored etc.

[@mountainman6172]

Reminds me of that sketch where one is speaking with french accent and the bystanders (Gora couple) are bewildered and enchanted. Subsequently, there is a brown guy speaking with Desi accent and they look at him with impassive and indifference.

[@Aieshoo]

My family pretends that we have Arab ancestry. I took a DNA test and it's all South and Central Asian.

[@felidaesaremoresuperiortha5855]

ur parents r embarrassing.

[@u.n258]

My parents said the same! Even showing me family trees etc. Turns out I’m south, central asian, iranian, finnish and irish🤣

[@AliAhmed-ve5xl]

The only Arab ancestry is the prophet's family in south asia and some leftover soldiers from Bin Qasim's army in Sindh. Some Arab traders on the ports of Gujarat also were there too.

[@u.n258]

@@AliAhmed-ve5xl 99.9% of sayeds r fake in South Asia

[@AliAhmed-ve5xl]

@@u.n258 the shias have some ancestry. Its common facts that Imam Hussain(PBUH) has 72 people in his army and 9 of them were Hussaini Brahmins of today. Also on gedmatch results. If a south asian has elevated Arab ancestry, they tend to have elevated sub saharan african ancestry too

[@bang8534]

Amazed how you are able to detach yourself from the phenomenon to be able to analyze it impartially. Well done...

[@FromTheHeart2]

Excellent video!!! Thanks for the great books and authors mentions! The late Frantz Fanon has not to this date been credited enough for his work on the subject. Well done!

[@kumarules118]

From another side of Asia here 😀 Southeast Asia. We are often the forgotten asian, used to be embarrassed of it but now I am grown up enough to at least content of who I am and my background ❤️

[@ashleywolford948]

you should do a review on the second season of love is blind; there's a desi couple that have only dated blondes before meeting each other.

[@SunSHINEdiva]

Shake and Deep! And how funny that their cultural roots are what they love the most about one another.

[@Iovenila327]

Please do a video on like summarizing the effects that colonization had that resulted to this!!! I want a part 2 omll I see this all the time too

[@subahakbar2795]

This was such a well-made video. Good job 👍🏽

[@juneous3151]

I found your video super insightful and it really spoke to me. I'm Nepali-Australian, so I never really understood this aspect of the South Asian Muslim experience but that part was incredibly interesting. (Just a heads up, Nepal wasn't included on the South Asia map. Not offended, just letting you know)

[@dm_1236]

What parts of the Arab supremacy video were critiqued?

[@salamsd1]

I loved that Franz Fanon citation. This video is an excellent critique Tasneem.

[@AishaAli-dt2it]

I am so glad and proud that you made this video. Living in Canada as a Canadian Pakistani, I occasionally felt Desi superiority complex and didn’t understand the reason behind it until my mom told me about it. It was because of colonization.I saw Arab people proudly talking’s in Arabic and I felt guilt proudly talking in Urdu. Thanks for making this video. It helps knowing the cause of feeling the way u feel. You are amazing!

[@carolinpurayidom4570]

Im sorry but why do the influencers look like kim and kylie kardashian.

[@bakedpotatouwu]

I was thinking the same lmao

[@riribash8854]

Which adds another layer to the conversation because the Kardashian family is infamously known to culturally appropriate black culture and aesthetics for profit

[@tas8883]

They’ve both had multiple surgeries to look like Kim and Kylie. It’s honestly quite weird and sad that they’d want to look like anything but their actual ethnicity

[@tas8883]

@Balochi boy yes but they both had surgeries to look like the kardashians post op

[@zainabk2866]

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO!! I always thought that being Pakistani felt inferior towards everybody. Everyone’s culture was being talked about but anytime time south Asian culture was brought it it always felt like the joke… the amount of racism or arrogance I felt through OTHER MUSLIM girls that feel superior over me is just so sad

[@AyanAli-py7ci]

How are Pakistanis inferior when they are the only Muslim country with nuclear weapons and their expats have produced guys like Zayn Malik who have 1 billion followers in the west.

[@AyanAli-py7ci]

The irony is that all those Muslim countries watch Bollywood non Muslim movies yet you will not find south asians following any of their dress, music or movies.

[@Sahil-ie3ie]

@@AyanAli-py7ci Bruh even north Korea have nuclear weapons and literally even bhutan can have nuclear weapons if they try, it's just they are stopped by other countries. Having a celebrity from your ethnicity doesn't mean he represents your culture. Culture is represented through your soft power and sense of a unique identity. Problem with Pakistani is that they always try to link themselves to Mughals, Turks, Arabs or even Persians but it is not reciprocated by the others while they love to distance themselves from the Indian subcontinent but they are seen as part of the subcontinent anyway by others. But for Indians it is about a civilisational history and identity. I am not saying Indians in other countries don't have inferiority complex specially if they are bullied Bcz of their ethnicity, but Indians in general have a very strong sense of civilizational history and identity and we are a powerhouse when it comes to exporting culture, I would say that if any other culture truly penetrate the world other than european culture is Indian culture. Some examples are Yoga, Maths, Buddhism, Hinduism, concept of Karma and much more. Pakistanis could be proud of themselves but culturally have nothing to offer to the world. Bcz everything related to culture there is Indian or given by islamic invaders. And honestly neither I can see a future where Pakistan truly offers something to the world atleast untill this islamic radicalization don't go away..

[@AyanAli-py7ci]

@@Sahil-ie3ie arabs and persians don't have soft power North Korea got its nuclear weapons from us Pakistan also has a very armed population as well Also 43 million Pakistanis are Pashtuns and 29 million are Baloch. You can't link all of west pakistan and north Pakistan to India Only Punjabi and Urdu speakers have any relations to India. Even then Punjabis are 2% of India.

[@AyanAli-py7ci]

@@Sahil-ie3ie nobody in west knows anything about arabs except Osama Bin Laden and Mia Khalifa. All they know is that the Arab world is filled with third world people Zayn Malik being a Pakistani and singing songs with a Qawwali background is pushing Pakistani culture into the mainstream

[@ryumitsurugi2088]

I always feel like I learned something new watching your videos 😎🙏

[@kashifS8]

Superb content and great research about the topic Thank you for amazing work sister.

[@Pacora2023]

Please make more videos on this subject. Also I absolutely loved the Arab supremacy video. Why do you think it wasn't good?

[@healthandfinancialliteracy2565]

I have always felt proud of being Pakistani and our culture and our Indian civilization, I grew up in modest society in Pakistan, I enjoyed socializing with friends in the streets and schooling there. I sometimes don't agree with the fact how politicians and elites have taken advantage of Pakistan. Pakistan gave me the opportunity to live, play in streets, and talk freely, and opportunity to educate.

[@kzlifediaries]

Brilliant brilliant video!!!!

[@canwenot7095]

First off - LUV how you dealt with the topic. When I was younger, I would often see on the news stories of bombers, terrorists, smugglers, knife crimes ext from Pakistani descent, this would be something that HUGELY would impact what I would say talking about my country or culture when brought up. When talking with peers who were desi but not specifically Pakistani, I often would try to talk about things universally desi, 'big wedding' and such. I also think as a wider issue, those you've included in your video, has led to many Pakistanis's themselves creating castes, like Jutt , Butt ext. This was the first video of yours that I've watched, don't mind me about to binge!

[@AliAhmed-ve5xl]

Pakistanis have Zayn Malik and other people also

[@WELSHDESI]

As a oversea Pakistani … Pakistan Economics & 75 years of adventures is the main reason … In 2018 I seen people boarding 3 Dubai flights from Lahore to Dubai & totally understood why Arabs (Especially Emrities & saudi) Feel the Supremacy!

[@rahulm4490]

A very interesting video. I think you are mixing up a few different issues here: a) Firstly, the Pakistani inferiority complex is unique and stems from a history and a mentality that tries to distance itself from its South Asian roots. It is perhaps a consequence of the nation building process where it is repeated officially and through history books how different you are from Indians...to the point that your heroes are the conquering muslims from Persia or Arabia...those are the guys you identify with and whose conquest you justify (they did not invade Sindh 17 times for sheer greed, lust for power and conquest etc etc but to free pious Muslim women held captive by a cruel local ruler.) Someone from your own area, race and culture (someone who might be your ancestor or who your ancestors fought for like Raja Dahir or Maharaja Ranjeet Singh) is demonized continuosly as you grow up and you are encouraged to identify with the Arabs, Persians or Uzbeks etc. So over time every one develops this schizophrenia....if you believed every Pakistani muslim about their family history you would assume Pakistan was an empty piece of land which was settled by Arabs....you can see this play out particularly in Dubai where many of the Pakistani kids growing up show much more desire to assimilate and assume Arabic behaviours as compared to the Indians (even the Muslim Indians) who clearly identify with India as their country of origin...you can also see this in 3rd generation british Pakistanis who will start wearing Arabic dress as being ethnic with even the style of hijaab changing over time to emulate Arabic fashions....and this in UK when they are surrounded by whites...they dont want to be white they want to be Arabic b) The bit about 2nd generation desis in the US and Europe sticking to whites as opposed to being caught in Indian/Pakistani circles is not so much about having a desi inferiority complex as it is about simple identity formation and self-perception...2nd generation kids see themselves as Americans, they feel American and dont want to be treated differently.....that makes them behave unnaturally when a new desi immigrants etc start claiming a familiarity or trying to get friendly....it's like 'Oh so you're from Punjab? Good for you...me, i'm from Texas'. So I would argue this is not exactly about desi inferiority complex as much as it is anxiety about fitting in....and BTW, I have seen a small minority of desis react negatively to this being seen as exotic and falling back on an extreme pride of their native culture...where a desi guy born and brought up in the US self-identifies as an Indian and is culturally even more Indian than current day Indians in Mumbai....anyway, point is both these extremes are not natural and you sense that the person is not stable and completely comfortable with who they are...but this case I would say is not an inferiority complex but struggles of identity and belonging c) The common desi inferiority complex is about not being fair skinned and it's all over South Asia...I think British Empire and caste system...all of it perhaps has led to this mentality... d) Amongst Indians there is a complex that India has not got its due and there is an embarrassing desire for validation and praise from whites and it is really embarrassing Anyway, very interesting topic and very interesting video...though embarrassing, these things need to be talked about openly

[@AliAhmed-ve5xl]

They're no second generation Pakistanis in America. They're 500,000 Pakistanis in America. They're 5th generation Pakistanis in Britain are 1.5 million and white people don't like them The Muslim Defense League is 70% Pakistani in Britain All race riots in Britain are Pakistanis vs whites too like the Bradford riots.

[@FearedByKittens]

Regarding A) I don't think this is as problematic as you point it out to be, nearly all Pakistanis being Muslim, they obviously relate to their Muslim heritage - in the conquering of the sub-continent. But I would agree that it gets quite overdone, in an effort to prop India as 'the other'. Hence Islam becomes 'nationalised' in a sense. It is strange to have someone hate on another nation where there are just as many Muslims living there as your own... By all means, hate the government when it oppresses its Muslim minorities no doubt, but not the entire populace. I'm a Pakistani second generation born and raised in the West, I don't find myself as enthusiastic about the modern national identity as I am with the complex history of the subcontinent as a whole, ranging from the Mughals, the Persian language, Islam and such. Learning about the immense intellectual contributions such as the subcontinent Islamic scholarly tradition was probably the main thing that caused an uptick in my interest with this heritage of mine. And it is a diverse tradition, where you have Indian scholars of the sub-continent influencing Arabs with their writings, and vice versa.

[@sureshpanikker5083]

@@FearedByKittens , You are a very confused person. Pakistanis try to identify with everything that is foreign and not really connected to them in any authentic manner. You mentioned about Mughals, Persian language, Islam, etc but none of this is Pakistani by origin. Its all foreign. It is not really of the subcontinent or even the identity of the subcontinent. Its the stuff belonging to aliens. Indian civilization is 5000 years old based on Hinduism and Sanskritic heritage. Pakistanis should recognize their real identity and heritage and not some mythical Middle eastern centric delusions.

[@AliAhmed-ve5xl]

@@sureshpanikker5083 Indian civilization? Why are all Indians whitewashed in the west? They sure hate India outside of India. Pakistanis do not want to associate with indians. Its perfectly understandable.

[@FearedByKittens]

​@@sureshpanikker5083 It's good that you bring this up, I think this is one of the fundamental differences between certain Indians in how they view Pakistanis (or even Muslims/Christians broadly) in general. Is what is considered 'foreign' is merely a matter of the timeline? Is Islam an 'Arab religion'? Is religion connected to one's land? Is one's land connected to a religion? These are questions we should be answering in order to better understand each other. I would also like to add that I did make a mistake, that I forgot to add the crucial subcontinent Indian culture too, such as Sanskrit and even Hinduism as you put it. I would like to understand them better too. Early Muslim scholars saw the brilliant intellectual feats of Indian/Hindu scholars in the field of Mathematics, so much so that they ended up borrowing the entire set of 'Hindu numbers' (called Hindu Arabic numerals here in the West). Eventually the West, borrowed it from the Muslims and so on. If early Muslim scholars respected and even learnt from the earlier Hindu scholars in this way, then we should certainly learn the history of such a tradition. Just like how we learn the history of the Western tradition. I hope to learn about it all more eventually, Inshallah.

[@Tuathadana]

I agree with you on the desi aspect. Its the shared cultural vibe from my experience.

[@TheRiturajgupta]

This is such a nuansed take, thanks for making this video.

[@aymankhan2266]

Omg I relate to this so much as a Bangladeshi--literally today I wrote on my journal "why do I hate my identity?". I'm quite fair skinned so Idk if I can relate to most Bengalis feeling secluded from mainstream media--but I always feel nervous telling people I'm Bangladeshi

[@va1entinex]

omg samee heree. I 100% relate to you, im also quite fair skinned and also bengali, but feel nervous telling ppl i’m bengali and muslim, because i’m afraid of their judgement

[@carwofat1901]

I tried to look up this exact feeling online and I couldn't find anything that will help, but the thing is I feel that due to colonization as well as it being subconsciously embedded to the point where when the topic comes up, some people with those feelings may not even know what you are talking about or maybe even disagree with you.

[@Hi5Ripon]

I'm a Bangladeshi and couldn't agree much. Our people have always the disease of inferiority complex and becoming lapdogs of others

[@proger1960]

@@Hi5Ripon It’s time to stop this nonsense once in for all , maybe we can do counter brainwashing and making them feel better but not give them a superiority complex but a balanced complex where they aren’t inferior and also not superior. But yeah Bangladeshis suffer most of inferiority complex

[@Hi5Ripon]

@@proger1960 Couldn't agree much with you. It's unfortunate our Bangladeshis are so short-minded and are stuck with the slave mentality. We gotta change for the better