The Emotional Divorce Happens First

Divorces are usually painful and volatile, and they often begin with an emotional divorce. In an emotional divorce, you cut off emotions from your spouse. They stop being the first person you talk to. You stop telling them when you're feeling sad or overwhelmed. This video talks about what to expect from the emotional divorce.
Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships.
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[@BelartecoMusic]

The things is , this “emotional divorce” happens when said partner’s needs are CONSISTENTLY ignored and minimized. The only thing that can truly soften up the state of this dynamic is CHANGE. A repentant heart and ACTUAL RESULTS. With that being said, there is a lot of effort required in making the changes to produce those results that can change this dynamic in a relationship. Sometimes , The problem is you. The lack of setting boundaries, the lack of standing up for yourself, and the lack of standing behind your own boundaries when you do set them. Sometimes all it takes is you standing up for yourself. If you notice , you’re the only person doing all of the emotional and spiritual work in the relationship and you aren’t getting the same effort in return… just STOP. LET IT FALL APART. STOP TRYING TO BE THE GLUE THAT HOLDS THE FRAGILE GLASS OF A RELATIONSHIP TOGETHER. Free yourself and get the therapy you need to understand yourself and how you got into this relationship to begin with.

[@johnx140]

You're a woman blaming his ex man for not paying attention and affection, right? We literally live in a world where women and half men with professions, education and jobs, yet y'all act like needy, weak maiden in distress that can't go a day without reassurement. You can't have it both ways.

[@lamareneahjordan8660]

Amen thank you

[@LuisRodriguez-pz4zw]

I couldn't tell you that a 100 percent of what you explain in this short video is what I'm going through right now and it helps a ton . Thank so much.

[@DarkerSideOfDawn]

We had several therapists . It wasn’t until I was in domestic violence counseling that I gained access to help. He was an covert abusive serial cheat. He gaslit every therapist we shared.

[@warrens1757]

She found someone else to share with before she told me that she wants to separate. Now it's too late to fix anything. There's nothing I can do. She has moved on long ago.

[@awomansstory.2019]

That’s a classic Exit Affair. She was ready to bolt from your marriage and needed an affair partner to have the courage to leave. May 1, 2019 is when I discovered my husband’s affair. May 2018 is when the emotional started ( approximately.) By October of 2018 my marriage had become sexless ( for me.) My husband became distant and “so busy “ at work with her. Also, he had the excuse of taking care of his father with Alzheimer’s. In fact he was driving an hour out of his way to her hometown for rendezvous. I’m sorry you are in pain from this. I know your grief and pain too.

[@yumildarodriguez1175]

This is my relationship

[@DarkerSideOfDawn]

My ex was never in it to begin with. He was planning the divorce before we even got married . He’s a serial cheat.

[@akosfellner5061]

My problem is that this view handles this phenomenon as a static state. The emotions are changing entities.

[@nphan3940]

I am sorry can you explained, because video speak loudly to me I realized I am at this stage

[@brianmbaker57]

It's frustrating because I am there for my wife and she still wants a divorce

[@ShaunyP26]

Or they’re a cheater and spend years trying to hide it. Let ‘em walk then.

[@sarahkinsella5733]

This u is it e lol