THE FIX! Persistent Bottle or Breast Refusal

Your baby keeps refusing the bottle or keeps refusing the breast. No matter what you do. You have been trying over and over again for them to take the bottle. You're trying the bottle every day. You are trying the breast at every feeding, and the baby is arching away, fighting, crying, screaming and it is so stressful for you AND the baby.
Listen as I give you a trick that can help. It can help bring calm back to feeding and help you and baby feel much less stressed around feeding times.
Is there a window of time where you "it will never happen?" Did you pass that time frame and the baby will never take a bottle now? Is your baby too old to ever return to the breast? I answer that common question too.
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[@shanus9878]

Thank you. I felt a vacation of 2 months was too long. I fell sick twice. Bf was a nightmare with flat and cracked sour nipples. Nipple shield usage got him used to shallow latch. He would attack like a shark. Never opened his mouth wide enuf for me to push in the areolas. Saw every possible vidoe on KZbin b4 I called it quits. I have been trying past 2 days but he keeps crying to get the bottle. I feel like I am the worst possible mother to first refused to BF him and now forcing him back to them. I also c the positive side that he won't be crying uncontrollably when I am off to work. I just have to accept that I tried for nearly a month till I gave up.

[@desi_feminist84]

Same here. Only that he isn't taking the bottle either and I am dependent on feeding him from bowl at times to suffice his hunger. I feel so stuck with nursing now but I really want this to work out

[@shanus9878]

Getting there. Refusing the bottle. Trying cup feeding sometimes or bottle when baby is sleepy. Waiting till four months. May have to introduce semi solid diet early. Makes me want to sue WHO for its breastfeeding campaigns. It's costing mental health for mothers like me.

[@wafafaisal6660]

@@desi_feminist84 what did u do to sort this? My 2.5 month old baby completely refuses to drink from both boob and bottle pls help

[@jeannnieleixter4169]

I did this. Bottle trained my baby for 10days because I am days away from going to work. It worked , however, the first 3days was very stressful because he keeps on refusing and crying non stop.

[@iwantmilktea]

I love your videos. Thank you for never making me feel bad. We are going on 3 weeks of a nursing strike/nipple aversion with my 10 month old. I have been feeling so sad and angry by it. I just want to get through this and back to providing him comfort.

[@DoneNaturally]

Oh bless. That’s so tough. Have you seen my re-birthing video? kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y4CvZGediadrrKcsi=1SySvixHpUaHHggA

[@DoneNaturally]

And my nursing strike video? kzbin.info/www/bejne/rpDRf2hrm5uBhassi=wbKXxu3FhSfhr8H6

[@DoneNaturally]

Here’s a story of my best friend’s wife getting though her own strike around the same Age. instagram.com/reel/CtwsqfZgW_U/?igsh=MWpjcXlseTl0ZW5naA==

[@iwantmilktea]

@@DoneNaturally thank you this gives me hope. I referenced your other videos when he went through a strike two months ago. This time it seems different. After he went through a lot of teething and getting roseola he bit me bloody on both nipples. I couldn’t help but react and now he just seems very mad at me. I have not given him a bottle.

[@DoneNaturally]

@@iwantmilktea oh dang. Bites are awful. Keep the thought that he will come back to you in the forefront of your mind. ♥️

[@orbit6229]

YOU ARE AMAZING! Finally some clear information! Especially when we are struggling sometimes to keep the faith 🙏🙌🏼

[@DoneNaturally]

I hope it helps you. ♥️

[@DezRaeVocal]

Summer THIS has truly blessed me on today ! Thank you for sharing this in the timing that you have. I am 4 months PP and have been EPing for 2 months now. Looking back the 1st 2 months PP I was regularly Breastfeeding with Shield bc baby wouldn't latch along with pumping and out of frustration and the headache/stress of the shield AND baby refusing breast all together, I decided to just use the bottle. With having a high supply, I couldn't wrap my mind around why baby would get so angry while at the breast. I miss the Breast Feeding and will never give up the hope of Breastfeeding directly without shield. It's just that sometimes we are made to feel like we have missed the time frame if they don't latch early on. I REALLY needed this encouragement and will continue to pray for and hope for a Breastfeeding experience as I long for that direct contact/connection while Feeding, for me and baby. EPing 24/7 can be overwhelming and draining at times and feel there is so much more freedom and less thinking with Breastfeeding 🙏🏽💕 BLESS YOU for ALL that you do !!

[@ariaheldred9365]

Soooo encouraging!!! Best video ever this makes me cry with hope

[@DoneNaturally]

Oh 🥹♥️. Im so glad. Don’t give up.

[@jessicacarolinecosta5305]

This brings me hope!! My baby is 3 months and is refusing the breasts. I never really got to breastfeed due to low milk supply, but the baby was happy to latch even if it was just for comfort, but now he hastes it. I’m just starting to increase my supply and I think it would help if the baby was latching again. I guess I will keep trying.

[@GingeRenee]

I’m 7 weeks postpartum and I’m sharing the same struggle as you. Low supply, baby wasnt able to latch very well but when finally was able to start latching seems to hate the breast now. I can’t seem to win at the moment but I’m fighting to keep my supply up and try everyday to breastfeed. I read the rooting reflex ends between 4-6 months and that has a lot to do with their bottle preference because the hard nipples trigger their reflex and it feels good to them that sensation. A lot of people I have watched on here seem to see success getting baby to breastfeed starting at 4-6 months so I wonder if the reflex dulling helps just hope this gives you some hope as it did for me. Well anyways, Wishing you the best and don’t give up and remember to give yourself grace. As a momma we need to remember to be kind to ourselves too and not expect anymore from ourselves then we would form a loved one in the same boat as us. It helps a lot to not be so hard on ourselves. Parenting and being a momma is hard enough no need to make it harder on ourselves. 😊❤

[@chidieberechukwudi383]

Thank you so much. I literally had a meltdown yesterday and cried multiple times, even in my sleep last night. Thank you again. We'll take the vacation 😅

[@DoneNaturally]

Lemme know how it goes♥️

[@deekshamathur4722]

My baby has got breast aversion since he was 2.5 months old.. Now he's almost 4 months and still the same.. He only takes the feeds while in a drowsy state.. And so his intake is very less which is affecting his growth.. His weight is very low..Doctors have no solutions to this.. he doesn't even take bottle feeds at all..I feel like failing as a mother.. It's very heartbreaking to see my baby cry like hell for hunger and I can't do anything for it.. Please help

[@xyz3491]

I am in the same boat .. did you find any solutions

[@deekshamathur4722]

@@xyz3491 now he is in his 10th month.. Improvement is there but not fully..just try to avoid force feeding..and if the baby is above 5 months then ask paediatrician if you can start some fruit purees and juices..if the baby takes bottle then pump breastmilk into bottle and then feed through it..

[@ankitasachdeva2765]

My daughter is 3 month old just, and experiencing the same, refusing breast in day time . Just able to nurse in night, is there something more I can try, other than mentioned in the video

[@deekshamathur4722]

@@ankitasachdeva2765 try to feed in a room with silence and dim light..and when she is in a drowsy state.. sometimes lie down beside her with your breasts exposed to her and let herself take the step..

[@anusha5995]

@@ankitasachdeva2765 did you find any solution?

[@CoachMai]

Super excited you popped up! Needed to hear this!

[@DoneNaturally]

Oh good!

[@briannahitt5865]

I’m literally going to watch this everyday until I get my breastfeeding relationship back with my baby. If you believe in prayer, please do it with me🤍

[@Barbee-LiveNow]

How are you and baby now 😊

[@bithikabarman1410]

Any success ?

[@tanikoksi24]

@briannahitt5865 any success

[@dmetriusdew]

So, 1 year later. How’s it going?!

[@cindaladahling1706]

Thank you for this video!!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤

[@Amber-en2cs]

Thank you for this 🙏

[@avatroy1027]

Thank you so much for sharing this, Summer! I have been pumping out to feed my little one, recently started with breastfeeding cause I'm so tired of washing bottles all the time. She's been having both breasts and bottle aversion, only drinks when I switch paci to bottle/breasts while she's sleepy. I know I shouldn't have switch paci and trick her to drink, but that's the only way to get her eat, she would not drink for 3 to 4 hours if she's awake. Please suggest how I should do this. I feel sooo stressful and frustrated.

[@anusha5995]

Please tell me how you overcome from this situation? Please reply me

[@wafafaisal6660]

How did u sort this situation? My 3 month baby completely refuses to drink

[@nickeshajones6159]

Please help me. My 8 month old won’t eat anything. After I switch from breastfeeding to formula around 5 months I notice a change. I use to pump and feed him breastmilk with a bottle so from birth he was bottle fed. He got covid around five months and I was instructed by his pediatrician to feed him with a syringe so he wouldn’t get dehydrated. I did that even when he was crying and 3 months later he does not like to eat and fusses when he is out in the feeding position or when he sees the bottle. He only weighs 15lbs at 8 months and eats no baby food. Feedings with him takes up to 1.5 hrs or more for a 4oz bottle. I can’t afford the 987 for the consultation because of his feedings I can’t work. I can pay about 300 if you could find it in your heart to give me a consultation. My son was born healthy and had no feeding issue until he was 5 months. Also medically there is nothing preventing him from eating they had tested him for everything even a swallow test. Please help me! I’m desperate and I’m depressed this is affecting my marriage and relationship with my son. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!

[@carynpdavies]

My heart goes out to you, @nickeshajones6159. I hope you were able to find a solution. For future reference, your health insurance is required by law to cover lactation consultations. www.healthcare.gov/coverage/breast-feeding-benefits/#:~:text=Health%20insurance%20plans%20must%20provide,plans%2C%20except%20for%20grandfathered%20plans.

[@valperie]

What happens when you're exclusively formula feeding and baby is refusing the bottle? Where do I take that from trying??

[@DoneNaturally]

Have you tried cold and warmed formula? How old is baby? Were they bottle feeding well before?

[@kimmcooking8147]

And is metronidazole 1000 mg per day for 7 days safe ? Because i read so many negative about the medicine ..is it safe during breastfeeding and if no how long should a mother wait

[@DoneNaturally]

@@kimmcooking8147 This medication is considered safe by LactMed and Hale. With a rating of L2. “While these levels seem significant, it is still pertinent to remember that metronidazole is a commonly used drug in pregnancy, premature neonates, infants, and children” Ratings explained here in my other KZbin video. kzbin.info/www/bejne/mpeQc4iNrdmalbssi=-Ds_yXsPj2M9Pyg3 It’s an L2. 😀 L1 is safest. L2 next safest. L3 next safest. We prefer these. L4 is possibly hazardous. L5 is contraindicated

[@DoneNaturally]

@@kimmcooking8147 There is no waiting period needed. A mother can safely breastfeed while using this medication as directed by her doctor.

[@kimmcooking8147]

@@DoneNaturally thanks❤️ Is clarithomycin 1000 mg twice a day for 7 days . Is that safe ? Because the baby was having severe rash and diarrhea.are their any long terms effects of these antibiotics mentioned above and also metronidazole because I read some of the articles did mention about mutation cancerous cells .

[@MommyBee1589]

Thank you Summer what would I do with out you! Baby #4 and nursed the other three but been EPing with this baby because she had tongue and lip ties and low transfer- then refusal after it was corrected. 😫 I’m going to take a little vacation and get back to it, I’m desperate to get baby to breast -milk supply is high and so sick of washing bottles. Even if I’m 10 months in I’m going to keep trying until one year lol I just want it to work but don’t want her to stress she screams and cries but she’s only 2 months I have hope we will get back to it!

[@DoneNaturally]

You will!!!!!! Especially with a high supply!!! I’m guessing you’ve tried a nipple shield?

[@nickeshajones6159]

@@DoneNaturally Please help me. My 8 month old won’t eat anything. After I switch from breastfeeding to formula around 5 months I notice a change. I use to pump and feed him breastmilk with a bottle so from birth he was bottle fed. He got covid around five months and I was instructed by his pediatrician to feed him with a syringe so he wouldn’t get dehydrated. I did that even when he was crying and 3 months later he does not like to eat and fusses when he is out in the feeding position or when he sees the bottle. He only weighs 15lbs at 8 months and eats no baby food. Feedings with him takes up to 1.5 hrs or more for a 4oz bottle. I can’t afford the 987 for the consultation because of his feedings I can’t work. I can pay about 300 if you could find it in your heart to give me a consultation. My son was born healthy and had no feeding issue until he was 5 months. Also medically there is nothing preventing him from eating they had tested him for everything even a swallow test. Please help me! I’m desperate and I’m depressed this is affecting my marriage and relationship with my son. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!

[@123niceride]

Hi did you end up breast feeding? I am asking because I'm in the same boat as you. With my 4th just refusing to breast feeding

[@afiyanoel3608]

So i got my baby to take a bottle by makeing a makshift pillow with 2 sheets a rubber ban and a pillow case . Now feeding him a bottle is so mucg easier he takes both breast and bottles .

[@SameShirtDifferentDay]

My baby is 4 months and has always refused a bottle. We are trying cup feeding now because I'm probably going to miss my high school reunion because she won't take a bottle 😅💔

[@DoneNaturally]

Don't miss the reunion!!!!!! Go!!! She will be ok. She will probably take the bottle when someone else is doing it and there's no other option. Or she'll fight it, but still be ok. She won't starve. ♥️. And depending on how long you're gone, she'll probably everyday give in. Have you tasted the milk yourself? Rule out high lipase?

[@SameShirtDifferentDay]

@@DoneNaturally the aftertaste is spicy lol idk if that's an indication of high lipase?

[@DoneNaturally]

@@SameShirtDifferentDay spicy??? Bitter? Chalky? Soapy? I’m not used to the description of spicy.

[@SameShirtDifferentDay]

@@DoneNaturally It tastes hot 🔥 like there's some heat behind the aftertaste. Like ginger

[@DoneNaturally]

@@SameShirtDifferentDay have you tasted your most freshly pumped milk?

[@cosplaybyastrid1958]

I've exclusively pumped for 10 months but my baby hasn't latched since she was 5 months old. I'm an undersupplyer but still want her to comfort nurse, I'm also hoping her nursing, plus pumping will up my supply. How do I get my baby to relactch?

[@DoneNaturally]

I would just try. Sometimes ppl have luck using a Medela nipple shield. Or a bait and switch - while bottle feeding near the breast and slip the bottle out and place the breast in (shield can help with that too)

[@mariaobando4890]

Hi Summer, I remember that in one of your videos you mention that if pump a lot you can become a oversupplier. This maybe my case, I was wondering that if I get another baby and don’t pump at all I’m still going to be a oversupplier? I’m wondering because I got the wrong information and I pump, and I’m afraid that this will be the case if I have another baby.

[@baskin283]

Very informative! My baby is exactly 1mo she was born prematurely at 35weeks + 5 days and small so breastfeeding is very difficult for her since birth due to her mouth being small due to preemie size. She will latch on but for only a minute and continue to whine and fuss. The bottle nipples work way easier so she likes the bottle better. I recently switched to Avent natural with a more breast shape and she really doesn’t like those because she has to work to get the milk out. She is working with it though yet she will get frustrated! She’s bigger yet she still struggles with my breast. She’s 4 weeks now?? Ugh shouldn’t she be latching on without so much of a struggle?

[@DoneNaturally]

Have you looked into latching with a nipple shield? Many Late PreTerm babies nurse well with those.

[@DoneNaturally]

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[@DoneNaturally]

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[@DoneNaturally]

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[@mariaobando4890]

Hi Summer, I have a question. I remember that in one of your videos you said that some ppl have a lot of supply and they created themselves by pumping. Unfortunately, I got bad information and I am one of them. Do you know if you have a second child and if I don’t pump at all would I be a oversupplier still? Im scare that is can be the case. Thank you.

[@DoneNaturally]

Ah. If you created the oversupply, you should be fine. But naturally second timers (and above) make more milk than the first time. But that would be making more than you naturally would - not make more than you made from creating the issue.

[@DoneNaturally]

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[@pearlmuthoni7163]

Thank you for sharing Summer. My 3.5 months baby girl has been both breastfeeding and bottle feeding but now for the past 2 weeks she seems to refuse the bottle. I don't know what to do cause I have to go to work .

[@DoneNaturally]

Take a deep breath. I’d definitely take a pause on trying. Most babies figure it out once in the daycare setting. Might take some time, but they do.

[@gmapes4g]

My son had a lip and tongue tie release at 6 months and I've been having to triple feed. I think he's been refusing to breastfeed because of the stress around breastfeeding and because it's a lot of work for him. Would you still suggest a vacation? I'm worried that he'd refuse to nurse at all if I give it a break 😫

[@DoneNaturally]

How old is he now? Does he fight the breast or spend some quality calm time there?

[@gmapes4g]

@@DoneNaturally He's 7 months old. He tends to fight it. It's hit or miss though. He typically will eat between 7-15 minutes total from both sides and then I pump and still get quite a bit out. We're working with a SLP, chiropractor, IBCLC, pediatrician, and soon a PT to help with his suck and other conditions. With the IBCLC he would get way too distracted for her to even see anything to check latch or what not. I'm of course super worried and stressed about it. Also I'm so tired of triple feeding (we're going on two months) 😫

[@DoneNaturally]

Man I wish I could observe. Where do you live? Triple feeding that long is awful. Maybe there's a new plan that's more sustainable.

[@gmapes4g]

@@DoneNaturally I live in the Kansas City area. I would like a more sustainable option too!

[@DoneNaturally]

@@gmapes4g WOW you do. That’s where I am located.

[@iansworshiphall7325]

How will we feed them if we stopped temporarily bottlefeeding our baby?

[@DoneNaturally]

If you’re breastfeeding, with the breast.

[@iansworshiphall7325]

But my baby is bottle fed

[@DoneNaturally]

@@iansworshiphall7325 and how old is your baby? Cups, sippy cups, syringes, medicine droppers and straws have been used. Many ways to get food into a baby.

[@iansworshiphall7325]

7 mos. He doesnt like sippy cups. Will pressuring the baby leads to more aversion?

[@DoneNaturally]

@@iansworshiphall7325 often the pressure results in more aversion, yes. What about a real cup without a lid for him like the ezpz tiny cup

[@ianharvey7747]

My 6 month old son will not take the bottle. I have tried on and off for awhile. Even have had other people try while I'm away and nothing. We have tried different bottles and now trying a sippy cup. Feel like I have tried everything and getting nowhere. Any suggestions? Thanks!

[@DoneNaturally]

Hmmmm. Have you tasted the milk you have offered? Ruled out high lipase? Do you separate regularly from baby for work or are with baby? At this point it might be ok to just move to cup or when away from baby for short periods, not offer milk. Especially once foods are introduced.

[@gisellemaresprado5436]

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[@neethushaji813]

Hi Summer.. by vacation do you mean not offering breast or bottle? My baby is 4.5 months old. What other ways could I nourish him?

[@mariselagarza235]

I have the same question! I don’t understand when she says take a vacation. What other ways can i feed my 4 month old besides bottle? My baby is on formula.

[@dhavaldoshi3851]

Thank you for this video. My daughter has developed bottle aversion. Can I just feed her in her dream for a week, and that will let her forget the fear of feeding from bottle whilst awake?

[@DoneNaturally]

It could help! How old is she? Have you tasted the milk yourself?

[@kimmcooking8147]

Hi there just founf your video .. Can a breastfed baby for 6 months who was formula fed for a week come back to breast ?

[@DoneNaturally]

@@kimmcooking8147 Are you asking if a baby who for 6 months was exclusively breastfed (where mom made all the milk for baby) … and then for 1 week was all formula fed? Can they return to the breast? If the mom weaned and didn’t pump to maintain supply during this week, then that’s called relactation. She’d have to begin pumping again and work supply back up to do so. If she kept pumping the whole time, yes, baby can return to the breast. Is that what you are saying?

[@kimmcooking8147]

@@DoneNaturally yes exactly and also the baby was formula feeding for that 1 week ..so the only concern is will the baby latch and will the baby return to breastfeeding.

[@rosepop4016]

I need help please my baby takes both and I want him to breastfeed only … every time he drinks then his stomach would make noises and he starts to get gassy and then that’s when he cries and refuses to continue… where is the problem here ? Is he getting enough nutrients or did I eat something that made him gassy ? … I give him my milk in a bottle and he drinks it with no problem can u please help me

[@DoneNaturally]

If you watch this you’ll see that what you eat can’t impact a babes or give them gas. Do you happen to have a forceful let down or an abundance of milk..like oversupply?

[@rosepop4016]

@@DoneNaturally I’m not an oversupply at all it seem that when the letdown happens he chokes and I then need to pull off my breast for him to breath … I’m confused why he cries and I hear noises coming from his stomach and then he poops after that !

[@DoneNaturally]

@@rosepop4016 It’s likely Bc of your let down. It’s coming faster than he can handle so he gags, chokes, sputters, comes on and off and that can create gassiness. Not sure how far postpartum you are, but that usually regulates around 6-12 weeks and babies usually get better at handling it. How old is your babe?

[@rosepop4016]

@@DoneNaturally baby is a month and nine days as of today , should I breastfeed through bottle ? I just want to breast feed it’s a beautiful and special feeling .

[@ashtonsquires3102]

I’ve been following this for months and still haven’t made any progress 😖 my little is 4 months and refuses to nurse.

[@DoneNaturally]

I know how frustrating this must be. Don’t give up hope. ♥️. Just keep your supply up!

[@ashtonsquires3102]

@@DoneNaturallyI pump 7 times a day and hate every second of it.

[@DoneNaturally]

@@ashtonsquires3102 Oh mama. I hear you. Moms I’ve worked with call it, ‘mothering the pump’ and rather be spending more time mothering their baby. You’ve tried a nipple shield as a transition tool?

[@ashtonsquires3102]

@@DoneNaturally oh yes, I’ve tried absolutely everything 😔 she has quite a severe aversion now and refuses to even try.

[@DoneNaturally]

@@ashtonsquires3102 how long have you *vacationed* from trying?

[@shellyfm560]

My baby has never and won’t take a bottle and will only breast feed at night. Literally no one can give me an answer. All these babies that refuse the boob also take bottles why can’t anyone freakin help me!!!

[@DoneNaturally]

And you’ve ruled out high lipase? Tried cold, warm and freshly pumped milk? Some babies are very very particular. 🫢😅

[@bithikabarman1410]

Wat helped u finally

[@toobamasood7979]

What a load of crap! So I'm supposed to starve the baby for a week?!

[@DoneNaturally]

Obviously that’s not what I said. There are many ways to give a baby milk other than a bottle or a breast. If they are bottle refusing you take a break and only breastfeed. If they are refusing the breast, you can give them milk in a cup, syringe, eye dropper, medicine dropper, straw…. I can keep going.

[@mariatayyab2604]

i m 7 month baby girl mom . suffer with same condition . my girl having NG tube , when she refuse bottle i give the milk by nose tube . this is so stressfull matter . everyone blame mom . no body knows mom do everything for child but . pediatrition do nothing GI nothing , speach tharapist do nothing , we do tough tie release do nothing , we do all test all medical do nothing . nobody do nothing 😫 NOTHING . no body have no solution (🫵 mother )

[@bithikabarman1410]

How is ur baby now