The Goal Isn't To "Stop Caring What People Think"

[@michaelgutierrez2591]

That was uniquely well said. "Learn to be more curious about things that are positive."

[@sarahviii]

But be careful as focusing on the positive can be toxic. In this world, we have all the feelings and not one is more important than the other; such as happiness is not more important than anger. It might feel better to be happy., but it’s important to process and feel negative feelings while they’re with you. Otherwise, they’ll build up and mess with you. Rely on your own moral compass, self acceptance, and self-love to find balance.

[@Joel_Computer_Things]

I was apart of your amazing webinar this morning, i took so many notes. Everything was liquid gold. And this, Vinh, this kind of educational honesty is yet another one of your brilliant outlooks that i will adopt. I want to thank you, sincerely, as i truly see that your heart is to improve our lives, its not to just get rich. We all really appreciate you, Vinh.

[@SuccessCoach-qp1fz]

Healthy positivity: Overcoming obstacles. Toxic positivity: Acting like the obstacles arent there.

[@grant8653]

The goal is to Care enough about yourself that you no longer give validity to what others think.

[@therabbidt]

Hm hm, very wise indeed.

[@Jibril_Adaov]

And thus become self centred, confirmation biased and tone deaf. He is talking about moderacy. People sometimes hace great insights. It's about being selective and staying away from toxicity.

[@grant8653]

@@Jibril_Adaov Guess you missed my comment right under my first saying I do not care what people think but I do care how certain people feel. Dude if you are gonna try to tell someone they are wrong just because it makes you feel good could you at least spell check? Hope trying to put other people down makes your feel good. Again I don't care but this is the wrong channel for you buddy.

[@RemotePossibilities1]

@@grant8653 Seems like you overreacted to @Jibril_Adaov disagreeing with your viewpoint (which suggests you do care what people think). I agree with Vinh that people care what others think.

[@grant8653]

@@RemotePossibilities1 Again people need to stop assuming how I am feeling when I type. Not full of caps, not full explanation marks. I can't help how you take and assume what I type. That is on you. Maybe take it as information and stop trying to put emotions behind things. That is your problem not mine. Tho I do appreciate you giving your opinion.

[@takuhiro]

Thank you Vinh. This video was posted just when I needed it. I've been struggling getting back into university after a gap year since all of my old friends are now a year ahead of me. I've had to try and make new friends and was struggling with being judged for who I am or who I was trying to be. I had a mini crisis thinking about how this group of people really not like me and I should just shut myself off before I get hurt, but then I saw your video. I remembered all the times that that group of people reached out to me, and not all of the times, they didn't, or when one of them was hateful to me. There was so much positivity I was missing simply because I am human. Thank you again for sharing with us Vihn.

[@7616lydeth]

Thank you Vinh. How i deal with "not caring about what others think" is asking myself "how will what they think, affect me? Will i do anything to change that?" If the answer is "nothing" or "it doesn't matter", then i ask myself "then why care about it?", then i stop thinking about it.

[@MeBeingHimself]

"Stop caring what people think"... a worthy statement from our own perspective regarding others towards us, what about if we flip this around, then aren't other in exactly the same position, not wanting to care about what we say about them... rightly so and no matter what all depends upon the person. I believe in many scenarios we have to disconnect the heart and mind... we knowingly understand (in the mind) what people can say about us, but as 'caring' individuals (the heart) wonder why people can be as such, why? If we learn to dis-associate from such negativity, then over time we succumb less to it and therefore don’t dwell on such irrelevant minutiae. Saying all this, the good comments - keep them coming, the constructive comments - learn from them, the negative comments - learn to understand/analyse what affect you and filter immediately... its not worth allowing such negativity such free real-estate in ones head... Wishing you ALL a FABULOUS DAY! (P.S. It took me a few months to change my mindset, if someone is being negative etc towards me, I just don't respond, why entertain such rubbish, it's a gift from them I simply don't want to accept, they can keep it, Enjoy

[@CatDuvalNineLivesYoga]

This is literally a breakthrough perspective. LOVE IT! Nailed it 🎉

[@watcher1326]

Sounds like sage advice. Made a note on it and plan to try to start practicing immediately.

[@kozubart]

It is not about not caring at all. It is about not allowing the opinions of others to define who you are. People will talk about you and think of you anything they want. You literally have zero control over that. So I have learned to accept that fact and focus more on what I think of me.

[@dameanvil]

01:15 🤔 It's natural to care about what others think; trying to completely not care may be unrealistic as it's inherently human. 02:00 🍛 Not everyone likes the most universally delicious dish, so expecting everyone to like you is impractical; find comfort in diversity of opinions. 03:04 🧐 When facing negativity, redirect curiosity towards positive comments; avoid dwelling on negative feedback to maintain mental well-being. 03:38 🤝 Train yourself to focus more on positive feedback; become less curious about negativity to navigate online criticism effectively. 04:42 🌟 Shift the goal from not caring to being less curious about negativity; encourage curiosity towards positive aspects to foster a healthier mindset.

[@shiksha89]

Positivity motivates and uplifts us, while negativity brings down our energy levels and demotivates us. The choice is ours in deciding what to care about and what not!!!

[@aparna7512]

Hey Vinh, you won't believe what just happened! I was discussing with my cousin how can I avoid others' negative perceptions of me, and your update notification came! I was shocked. How everything in this universe got aligned! Man, you are a piece of very good human being 🤗 Stay blessed always 🫡👍

[@jamiemonique8]

That was a very interesting perspective! I loved it. Thanks Vinh!

[@migi5374]

Compartmentalize as to weight negativity out BUT, still being able to NOT block out true criticism.

[@RemotePossibilities1]

Love the green curry analogy! I also like what another pro speaker (Josh Shipp) said on this. (To find his video, Google “How much do you take notice of audience feedback?” - with the quote marks.) His advice is along the lines of “Be open to receive *genuine* compliments and *constructive* criticism…”. Haters aren’t constructive, so can (and should) be ignored - as best you can. (Back to the green curry method!)

[@hawkward957]

Weirdly I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. Perfect timing.

[@pyrotex8]

the casual fallen over basketball goal in the background doesn't care what people think

[@rayso]

This is a good question; sometimes, an individual cares about other feelings or perspectives more than oneself.

[@chasethompson7638]

I appreciate your approach to negativity. I think you said it well when you said, this person had a bad day, I think it's good to remember that everyone is trying their best and everyone's life is difficult. We simply have different struggles and strengths. Sometimes hate is a broken someone dragging down in their best attempt to climb up.

[@gxvvf]

Oh vinh you piece of beautiful soul i love you and your content❤

[@kavithasingaravelan6776]

Don't use“ you piece of " he will skip your comment😂

[@MansWUT]

You piece of greatness, perfectly said vinh

[@TheManOfReason.]

I do a thing where I just enhance their speech, against my self. Make it more thoughtful and more creative. It's unexpected, throws them off and could end up as a laugh, can't really end up as a fight because you never hurt their feelings. I can't be offended, certainty can't offend myself by myself, that's ludicrous. (The more you try to be "offensive" the better material I can use for future usage against myself lol) Order in the chaos, chaos in the order, It's fun to be able to dance in the magic of both.

[@abdulfathah1812]

It was 3.30 Am Indian time I watched your master class. No words t say! I have got a lot of incredible ideas and I noted it down. Thank you Vinh. You are helping millions, motivating us giving splendid knowledge. What else some one expect from you.

[@LollipopTechno]

I was just discussing this the other day with someone. I needed this!

[@-gohzy6134]

The idea is to "Not be curious in the negativity. But place that curiosity in the positivity you're receiving." While its good to be open-minded to criticism, sometimes you need to know the difference between pure hatred and honest feedback. Focus more on positive energy

[@alirezamokhberi3541]

Thanks for sharing Vinh

[@shravankashyap9437]

Love how the basketball hoop is just lying on its side on the back 😁

[@HappyKaci]

Sometimes I can’t help but care. I have been told from friends and family that they told me not care about it. Almost to the extend to shut it off. But I come to think about it sometimes is that we love the matter, that’s why we care, we are human like you said. What I took from this video is that we have to learn to be selective caring, choose to care only the positive things.

[@Toobasic1010]

I was literally crying when I missed the masterclass because it was my brother's wedding . I can still watch the replay and will be waiting for the next . Vihn I can't thank you enough for the change you have brought in my life . Thank you❤❤

[@cozy1717]

The only thing that can hurt me is when those I care about try to hurt me. If something isn’t true, why give it any thought? But when those I care about want to see me in any degree of pain, that hurts.

[@brittneydavis5343]

Thanks Vinh!

[@accentology]

Thank you Vinh! Such good advice - it’s funny how often we seem conditioned to just focus on the one horrible comment, and sink into a depression, despite 100 positive ones … it’s masochism! I must keep remembering this message! ❤

[@YuriSincock]

Thank you Vinh. This video come up in the right time for me. ❤

[@paulchavez3831]

Honest statement appreciate it !

[@mtahiralauddin]

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO ❤

[@13RafaEl777]

Thank you. It is a gift from God for me. In my case, I realised when I am doing what God called me to do-instead of running away, it gives me strength to confront. I am able to stand in the place of responsibility and maturity. Despite the negative comments or being mocked, you will hear so many good responses, that it is a great loss if you dont stand your ground boldly, avoiding the situations you are afraid of. In consequence, you will be stronger, more mature, more responsible, you will learn e.g.how to handle tough situations and people. You will be given great support from good people what will keep you in sober minded state, because the enemy is saying lies about us in our heads, so it is good to hear some outside perspective also. You will be satisfied what will push you to continue doing what you should do. Even if only one person was given "love" (whatever it is in a particular situation, e.g.was lifted up by your words) and all of the rest dont care or say negative comments, this one person was totally worthy and enough for us to be vulnerable. It shows we are on the right path and we did a proper thing. I bless you. ✨️

[@thewholehealthlab]

Think of it this way: learn to care more about being yourself than being approved of. Doing so lets those who love you come closer and those who don’t stay away. Also to add, being yourself doesn’t mean being a d*ck. I really liked your point - we will ALWAYS care about others, and that’s not inherently bad! Become skillful at sharing your true self in a room of people who are different from you, and quickly you’ll find yourself surrounded by people who adore your unique weirdness.

[@yourAyaan7]

Vinh am following your videos from so long now and I can say that I have improved so much in my skills of talking and dealing with a large audience in a smart way...Thank you!❤

[@supertonicschoolofmusic]

This a beautiful approach I’m going to practice. Thanks so much!

[@mickyr171]

A good trick for me was realizing they aren't really judging me, they're judging their perception of me therefore themselves, it really helped alleviate the stress of feeling constantly judged which in reality is just you judging yourself, you have to be mindful though and self evaluate why their perception of you is the way it is and take that into account and you can change for the better for yourself and everyone around you

[@elhammurad2734]

YOU PIECE OF Talent, this is just pure GOLD love it.

[@Nobody12141]

Thank you Vinh for today's webinar.

[@faphayakkoub5456]

You care simply because you are others and you are made by others (genetically, personally, behaviorally)

[@lewkrs4859]

This is a great take. I recently found you and love all your content btw. Especially the journal entries. I have been wanting to get into the creator space for a bit now, but have always been extremely sensitive to other people. Obviously this gives me pause because I know how much hate is out there and I'm scared I can't take it. This is a good reminder we can choose to not focus on the negativity. Thank you for pushing me to be better ❤

[@lailanitukuafu]

I really love this one. I've always been a very sensitive person and I take a lot of stuff personally. I try not to, I try to just "toughen up" but it never works. I never understood when people say to just stop caring what others think. Like how?? So I appreciate this perspective, thank you

[@RumstedRanger]

Thanks Vinward

[@Boombox-vw5mt]

You should care, in a healthy way, which inspires you to give, not in a toxic way that comes off insecure like your overcompensating and coping.

[@mangostring]

What a good way to turn the focus , thank you ✨💛

[@AnshuKumar-fi2jy]

I like your perspective Greetings from India

[@UnlockingYou]

Thanks so much @vihn, it hit the spot. You hear so many people talk about just not caring but I like the way you phrased it. Keep it up!

[@oddy3079]

Oh, you pieces of......... MOON!! Son of a....... beautiful human!!

[@oddy3079]

BTW, I really needed this video. It made me move forward from negative things I heard and saw people type recently. Loved it ❤

[@tomkrings2607]

I feel like it is about being self-conscious and focusing on yourself/the task.

[@reb6418]

Vinh, you're doing great and thanks for sharing all these that could transform millions of lives!

[@utube_snakeu553]

This is such a great advice and a wonderful way of thinking. Thanks!

[@JanieBlaize]

I’m thrilled to hear you tell my journey in voice …you are exellent ! Flawless ! so ahead of the bumps , I want to hold your hand on this journey ….we are all on this path together ❤️

[@pointandshootvideo]

Thank you! I needed this.

[@alananaya3991]

A good artist creates art worth criticizing rather than creating nothing and criticizing other people’s works. Failure is the ingredient that makes success rewarding.

[@rajwijesinghe5900]

I love these spontaneous talks more than the planned ones. (These are full of Wisdom) Thank you Vinh 💖💖

[@ONahornyi]

So true! Thanks for this contact. It's definitely helps!

[@gracetonsanthmayor6687]

Thank you...

[@zupergurkan]

So I have autism and growing up I was always bullied for being 'weird'. It came to a point where I, as a defense mechanism probably, adopted it as a kind of badge of honor. I didn't want to be weird, but I'd pretend I did cus I was hoping it'd make me feel better (it didn't though). So obviously I cared what others thought of me, just not enough to change who I was. I'd say that's still true. I don't want to be weird. But even after all that bullying, there's an ounce left of me who loves who I am and doesn't want that person to disappear.

[@avitony35]

I love that! Be more curious about the positive aspects of things ….dont be curious about the negative shit in life. I’ll work on it starting today. Love you Vinh.

[@llamashat2490]

Love these thanks Vin

[@samsaleh6389]

Very thought provoking and insightful as always, Vinh. Thanks 😊!

[@noahkasak]

Vinh! I have known about you for a while...you are on of the inspirations I draw on for strength in communication and emotional intelligence. :)

[@pizzawords]

It seems like when someone says they don’t care it’s because they’ve been hurt, negativity can depend on where it’s coming from and that’s why I sometimes won’t ignore it but rather work on it, you know constructive instead of toxic.

[@MrAndyaunnyc]

Impressive! You've nailed it! Currently, I'm feeling like the old version of yourself. Seems like I need to work on being more curious about positivity.

[@braverenier175]

"You Piece of wonderful human being" Lve ur vids!

[@JforJonas]

I've found the curiosity of positivity has backfired due to overthinking their kindness. It's is definitely better than dwelling on the negatives though

[@CTu-wq8el]

Thank you for the vid vinh❤

[@MylindaElliott]

Great discussion

[@blondiemom25]

This is good advice. I also see it in this way. You’ve decided to only give your energy to the positive comments, and you receive energy from the positive comments as well.

[@Ladorisbell]

Just a lovely reminder.

[@marcinwolski9316]

Thank you for clothing that thought in such beautiful words

[@bmwkY24]

Technology changes but humans don't. We evolved from tribes where we stuck together to survive--hunting, mating, etc. People's opinions have always mattered. So does mine. I find it absurd if people leave nasty comments on him like he says he reads. Vinh has brought tremendous value to my life. He's one of my favorite people, ever.

[@Mixedvib3s]

You piece of positivity!! :) thank you 🙏

[@HappyKaci]

Thank you, that’s helpful ❤

[@NativeNewMexican]

Green Curry is one of my favorite dishes of all time as well. For my communication, I'm debating bad ideas and I run into them being used in retort to my argumentation. It's neigh impossible to avoid "bad comments" when looking for people who disagree. Very few people disagree without being belligerent. For me, I've had to label their barbs as bad argumentation and when appropriate, I call it out. More importantly, however, I ridicule it. It's far easier to dismiss that which you ridicule. So, when you do run across that hateful comment that you didn't dodge, I recommend that you ridicule it rather than try to "put it out of your mind" as some would recommend.

[@kastel6658]

Dude I love you man you are one of my heroes

[@saranroy]

Oh, you piece of... gold!

[@violetblye3006]

Thank you. Very helpful x

[@Funnymike1026]

Bro you’re the F’in Best!

[@someones.]

You reminded me we have something similar in Islam.

[@StarBoy-lb6tz]

Exactly, I completely agree with your point . You won't believe there are some people who hate anime , i mean i get it if you don't like it but why hate? it just doesn't make any sense to me . Some people just try hard to hate something just 'cuz u like it.

[@krisbak3r]

Awesome message! Keep going Vinh! Loved every minute of it and can totally agree. Thank you!

[@hemanshummahajan]

Thank You this helped 🙏

[@kvgalleguillos]

🎉Bravo! Thank you for showing us your vulnerability! You’re a young man who’s been blessed with lots of wisdom for your age. Keep that pure heart. Btw, I’ll have to try green curry now.

[@JohnSmith-kw6be]

Part of the real problem is that we approach this, as well as many situations in life as dilemmas. And once we frame problems as dilemmas, we end up lumping solutions into two false categories: in this case "caring" or "not caring". In other words, we falsely confine these into the categories of: -care and get hurt -don't care and don't get hurt When in reality, it is an infinite combinations of things like: -okay to care and get complimented -okay not to care and miss out on constructive criticism -okay care and get constructive feedback -okay to care and get hurt -okay to care and not get hurt -okay to not care and get hurt -okay to not care and not get hurt -okay to not to be okay to care an get hurt -okay to..... The moment we confine the problem into a false dilemma, then we have a dilemma and a headache. Even worse yet, is when we confine ourselves to a default coping mechanism. The coping mechanism will work for the scenarios where it fits as a solution. And at the same time, we are unconsciously suppressing the times it doesn't work and become unhappy and not realize why. Ironically, not being okay with it was supposed to free us but it ends up binding us. And being okay with all of it, weirdly sometimes set us free.

[@SarcasticLampr4y]

I use others negativity as a position to educate them.

[@AyushSharma80001]

So cool!! very helpful and relatable...

[@survivalanimations]

If you can sit down and be honest with yourself and know your a good or a bad person everything else is just noise. Huge fan by the way.

[@lisam5297]

Bravo! So well said! I LOVE your videos! I have learned SO much from each and every one of them and I'm thankful that you take the time to share your knowledge. That is very generous of you to do so. I have never had green curry but I'm going to add it to my weekly goal list to give it a try! Keep smiling because you wear it well!

[@socman002]

Classic Aussie backyard, and a good clip.

[@seyproductions]

That's an interesting approach.

[@greatone2284]

well said !!!

[@sallybosch224]

❤ Good on you Vinh! ❤ I think you're great/cool/you rock ❤

[@NTPDubeX1]

Thank you so much for sharing that knowledge. What you said in this video is so meaningful. And I'm really grateful that I could learn from video. Thanks

[@bladerpeterportugal]

Vinh, thanks. Thanks to you explain to us that we really Need to really Care about positive things. This is really good because, when we all think in positive thoughts, we all have a better health and a better relationship with others, and other people will see and say they really Wish to be as positive as you. Thanks Vinh, to explain all of this little things that together, make all the knowledge that exists to be acceptable and even more, make us really Happy Human Beings. Thanks Vinh, you're a great teacher.

[@coffeediction]

Im so glad Im alone. Don't have to "deal" with the people who dont like me. I hate confrontation and especially because people do it to harm others.